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July 8, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
04:44
How to Get Married When the Opportunity Arises
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By the numbers, says somebody on X. I shouldn't.
I've never gotten married.
I had kids, but it happened five kids and 20 years ago.
Yeah, so there's this other funny thing in life, which is I'll do it, not just when I'm not scared, I'll do it when the time is right.
I'll do it when the time is right, I'll do it when I'm ready.
Yeah.
That's a long, a long way to spell procrastination.
When the opportunity arises, just freaking do it.
You know, when I was, an opportunity arose for me in the business world in my 20s.
I was working as a programmer at a very major financial and stock trading institution.
And the opportunity arose to be entrepreneurial.
Was it the right time?
I don't know.
I got my first real professional gig after leaving university.
Was it the right time?
I don't know.
But those opportunities don't come along very often.
Like the girl you really like, she may never come back.
The girl you really like, she may never come back.
I mean, I remember my wife and I met playing volleyball.
And the volleyball team, we didn't really know each other.
We were just all thrown together.
I was there with one or two friends of mine.
And so we thought, well, let's get together.
And so we said, well, next week, we're all going to go across the street to a restaurant.
We can sit down and get to know each other and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
And I was like, yeah, sounds good.
And anyway, the next week came and only my wife and I went.
Everyone else, oh, I forgot I'm busy.
And we were like, oh, it's kind of a drag.
But she always seemed like a lot of fun and sort of very positive.
And we went and just, we were there for like hours, just talking.
The whole conversation was electric.
I've never done this before, but I realized later, you know, the little bill fold that comes in with the restaurant name on it.
I kept it.
I kept it.
I just went home with it, which made no sense other than I wanted to take something home that night.
And we basically spent every day together since.
And 24 years ago, something like that, we got engaged within a couple of months, got married within 11 months of meeting.
I'm not, and I knew, I mean, I remember being on a hike with her, watching her climb a hill.
We'd had a great conversation.
And I was like, yeah, I can't do better than this.
There's no, I can't do better.
There's no upgrade from here.
And I've never felt that there has been an upgrade from here.
What I'm going to say, well, you know, she's a little short.
And if I have a son, I don't want him to be short or whatever, whatever, whatever, right?
I'll wait for the perfect person, whatever that is, right?
Whatever that is.
And the idea that I would have the arrogance to know what's perfect for me for the rest of my life, I just go on principles, right?
And I remember that.
I'm not going to do better than her.
She's the top.
She's the crowning glory.
And if you get that feeling with someone, and just because she's perfect for me doesn't mean that she's perfect.
I think she is in general, but, you know, it's like that old Grace Jones song, I'm not perfect, but I'm perfect for you.
And when you hit that person, you got that click with.
Strike now.
Close the deal because the hour is getting late.
And you don't get a whole bunch of turns at back, my friends.
It wasn't like, well, I've got 12 offers to become an entrepreneur.
I guess I'll just pick and choose and later and this and that and the other.
Nope.
It's now or never.
Come hold me tight.
It's now or never.
If it's the right thing in the right time, if you've got that opportunity, you've got that, the planet's relying, things are possible, just do it.
Just do it.
And it doesn't matter if you fail.
So when I was in, I originally went to the Glendon campus of York University, and I went, because I love to write and read, and I went to do an English degree.
And through the English degree, I started acting.
And I was always cast as the lead, and there was never any auditions for anyone else, because I was pretty good at it.
Anyway, so then I decided to go to the NAT.
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