Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux - How to Get Married When the Opportunity Arises
Aired: 2025-07-08
Duration: 04:44


=== When Opportunity Knocks (03:33) ===

[00:00:00]  By the numbers, says somebody on X. I shouldn't.
[00:00:05]  I've never gotten married.
[00:00:06]  I had kids, but it happened five kids and 20 years ago.
[00:00:08]  Yeah, so there's this other funny thing in life, which is I'll do it, not just when I'm not scared, I'll do it when the time is right.
[00:00:16]  I'll do it when the time is right, I'll do it when I'm ready.
[00:00:20]  Yeah.
[00:00:22]  That's a long, a long way to spell procrastination.
[00:00:27]  When the opportunity arises, just freaking do it.
[00:00:31]  You know, when I was, an opportunity arose for me in the business world in my 20s.
[00:00:38]  I was working as a programmer at a very major financial and stock trading institution.
[00:00:44]  And the opportunity arose to be entrepreneurial.
[00:00:52]  Was it the right time?
[00:00:53]  I don't know.
[00:00:53]  I got my first real professional gig after leaving university.
[00:00:59]  Was it the right time?
[00:01:00]  I don't know.
[00:01:01]  But those opportunities don't come along very often.
[00:01:04]  Like the girl you really like, she may never come back.
[00:01:08]  The girl you really like, she may never come back.
[00:01:12]  I mean, I remember my wife and I met playing volleyball.
[00:01:17]  And the volleyball team, we didn't really know each other.
[00:01:20]  We were just all thrown together.
[00:01:21]  I was there with one or two friends of mine.
[00:01:23]  And so we thought, well, let's get together.
[00:01:25]  And so we said, well, next week, we're all going to go across the street to a restaurant.
[00:01:29]  We can sit down and get to know each other and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
[00:01:31]  And I was like, yeah, sounds good.
[00:01:33]  And anyway, the next week came and only my wife and I went.
[00:01:37]  Everyone else, oh, I forgot I'm busy.
[00:01:39]  And we were like, oh, it's kind of a drag.
[00:01:41]  But she always seemed like a lot of fun and sort of very positive.
[00:01:45]  And we went and just, we were there for like hours, just talking.
[00:01:51]  The whole conversation was electric.
[00:01:52]  I've never done this before, but I realized later, you know, the little bill fold that comes in with the restaurant name on it.
[00:01:58]  I kept it.
[00:01:59]  I kept it.
[00:02:00]  I just went home with it, which made no sense other than I wanted to take something home that night.
[00:02:05]  And we basically spent every day together since.
[00:02:09]  And 24 years ago, something like that, we got engaged within a couple of months, got married within 11 months of meeting.
[00:02:19]  I'm not, and I knew, I mean, I remember being on a hike with her, watching her climb a hill.
[00:02:24]  We'd had a great conversation.
[00:02:27]  And I was like, yeah, I can't do better than this.
[00:02:29]  There's no, I can't do better.
[00:02:30]  There's no upgrade from here.
[00:02:31]  And I've never felt that there has been an upgrade from here.
[00:02:37]  What I'm going to say, well, you know, she's a little short.
[00:02:41]  And if I have a son, I don't want him to be short or whatever, whatever, whatever, right?
[00:02:49]  I'll wait for the perfect person, whatever that is, right?
[00:02:51]  Whatever that is.
[00:02:52]  And the idea that I would have the arrogance to know what's perfect for me for the rest of my life, I just go on principles, right?
[00:02:58]  And I remember that.
[00:03:03]  I'm not going to do better than her.
[00:03:09]  She's the top.
[00:03:10]  She's the crowning glory.
[00:03:12]  And if you get that feeling with someone, and just because she's perfect for me doesn't mean that she's perfect.
[00:03:19]  I think she is in general, but, you know, it's like that old Grace Jones song, I'm not perfect, but I'm perfect for you.
[00:03:26]  And when you hit that person, you got that click with.

=== Perfect For You (01:10) ===

[00:03:34]  Strike now.
[00:03:37]  Close the deal because the hour is getting late.
[00:03:42]  And you don't get a whole bunch of turns at back, my friends.
[00:03:51]  It wasn't like, well, I've got 12 offers to become an entrepreneur.
[00:03:56]  I guess I'll just pick and choose and later and this and that and the other.
[00:03:59]  Nope.
[00:04:04]  It's now or never.
[00:04:07]  Come hold me tight.
[00:04:08]  It's now or never.
[00:04:11]  If it's the right thing in the right time, if you've got that opportunity, you've got that, the planet's relying, things are possible, just do it.
[00:04:21]  Just do it.
[00:04:22]  And it doesn't matter if you fail.
[00:04:23]  So when I was in, I originally went to the Glendon campus of York University, and I went, because I love to write and read, and I went to do an English degree.
[00:04:33]  And through the English degree, I started acting.
[00:04:36]  And I was always cast as the lead, and there was never any auditions for anyone else, because I was pretty good at it.
[00:04:42]  Anyway, so then I decided to go to the NAT.