March 12, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
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| Somebody asks, how can I regain trust in my ability to make decisions after admittedly making catastrophically bad decisions in the past? | |
| Well, you have to make better decisions. | |
| You can't just magically trust your ability to make good decisions. | |
| You have to start making better decisions. | |
| If you start making better decisions, you can start trusting yourself to make better decisions. | |
| The real question is, how do you start making better decisions? | |
| And the answer, of course, is philosophy. | |
| You apply your decision matrices through a philosophical filter. | |
| So, if you give me an example of a bad decision that you've made in the past, then I can give you some help with that. | |
| But in general, in general, so bad decisions are good decisions for people who hate you. | |
| If you make a bad decision, it's a good decision for people who hate you. | |
| So, for instance, The people who are around me when I almost married the wrong woman, which would have been a catastrophe and a disaster in my life as a whole, the people who were encouraging me did not like me because they were encouraging me to do bad things, things that were bad for me. | |
| But it's good for them, right? | |
| It's good for them. | |
| If you're up against a boxing match, then if you could get the advice to your boxing match opponent to get super drunk the night before and eat, you know, three cheesecakes, Then he's going to show up hungover and bloated, and you're going to have a much better chance of beating him in the fight. | |
| So a bad decision for him is good for you. | |
| So if you're making bad decisions in life, they're good decisions for people who are praying for your failure. | |
| It's the old Gore Vidal quote. | |
| It's not enough that I succeed. | |
| My friends must also fail. | |
| And particularly moral competition, intersexual competition, if you have You know, your friends, your male friends, there's some ice queen uber hottie somewhere around and you're like, she's pretty, oh, you should go talk to her, man. | |
| Well, they're probably encouraging you to get into a situation which costs you self-confidence so that they'll have more access to females when you're around. | |
| Women who are less attractive, it's been shown, hairdressers who are less attractive than their clients, the women, more often will tell their clients to cut their hair short, right? | |
| So the sabotage of attractive women's appearance Is really essential for female intersexual competition, right? | |
| Intersexual is with the same sex, right? | |
| So, women will encourage, especially pretty women who are overweight, to be comfortable and happy in their own body so they don't lose weight and get the more attractive men, right? | |
| Sort of the rebel. | |
| Phillips, that actress, an Australian actress who always played the horny weird girl, she lost a bunch of weight, and I think so did the singer Adele. | |
| So, yeah, so... | |
| Be comfortable, fit in any size, be comfortable with your own weight, don't let a man dictate your beauty standards, don't wear makeup, cut your hair short, fat is fine. | |
| I mean, this is all just women competing with each other. | |
| So, if a woman who's less attractive than you convinces you to cut your hair short, and then she gets the guy because he likes long hair, then a bad decision for you is a good decision for her. | |
| That which harms you benefits her, and there's lots of times in life which is a Zero-sum or negative-sum game. | |
| So, a negative-sum game is two countries who are at war. | |
| One may win a particular battle or fight, and maybe they lost 10,000 men, but the other side lost 20,000. | |
| So, both sides lost, but one side lost less. | |
| So, when it comes particularly to intersexual competition, you can either become more attractive, or you can Make the other person appear less attractive, right? | |
| You can be a big fish in a little pond or a big fish in a big pond, right? | |
| So, girls do this all the time and guys do this too. | |
| So, guys, the nerds will call the jocks dumb. | |
| Oh, he's such a jock, right? | |
| And you see this revenge of the nerds, right? | |
| That the jocks are all just mean and sociopathic and bad, right? | |
| Entire groups that tend to be less good at athletics will always mock and scorn. | |
| The athletic men. | |
| Why? | |
| Because the women are drawn to athletically competent men and not to pencil neck nerds with bad skin and neck beards. | |
| So, is it easier for the nerd to attack and downgrade the jock or is it easier for the nerd to start exercising and getting good at sports? | |
| I think we all know the answer to that. | |
| So, do you attack Do you work to achieve the good, right? | |
| So, you'll see lots of these things, which is, oh, yeah, guys who work out too much are just kind of stupid and lunkheads and so on. | |
| It's like, well, no, you can work out and listen to Dostoevsky. | |
| Lord knows I've done that. | |
| And athletes tend to be more intelligent than non-athletes, and they also tend to have far better social skills, right? | |
| Because athletics is about teaching war and social skills, which is to compete hard. | |
| And not hold grudges. | |
| I compete hard and don't hold grudges. | |
| It's really, really important in life. | |
| So, if you're making bad decisions, the first place you need to look is, okay, who benefits from those bad decisions? | |
| So, when I was big on social media and big in the sort of alternate media circles, people were constantly telling me to take on topics. | |
| That was self-destructive for me. | |
| And why were they doing that? | |
| Because they wanted me out of the way so they could get my audience. | |
| And I did that, but on my terms. | |
| I did all of that, but on my terms. | |
| And people are finally catching up now. | |
| As we can see, and it only took almost half a decade, and they still got a ways to go. | |
| So yeah, don't look at bad decisions as, oh my god, I'm just mysteriously making all these terrible decisions. | |
| No, no, no. | |
| Look at who hates you and wants you to fail. | |
| And if you're honest with yourself, for the most part, unless you've had a real moral revolution in your relationships, well, let me ask you this. | |
| Let me ask you this. | |
| How many people in your life do you think would be secretly happy if a bad thing happened to you? | |
| All right, let's get to your questions. | |
| What about the deadbeat moms? | |
| Need to mainstream the consciousness around toxic, gynocentric benefits of women using inexcusable legalism to prevent men from accessing their children. | |
| I'm generally on edge around NPCs, so it is raining. |
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