All Episodes
Previous Next
Aug. 30, 2023 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
17:16
My Daughter vs Bad Housewife!
| Copy link to current segment

Time Text
We're back! Alright, so I don't know why women post this stuff, to be honest with you.
They do it for attention.
And sympathy, right? And sympathy.
You're so hard done by.
Alright, so the first thing I notice is...
Messy is messy. Look how messy the counter is.
Gordon Ramsay would be mad.
The counter is messy, and she seems to have an Apple Watch.
She also, I will say...
She's got a huge kitchen and a very nice house, meaning her husband...
Big TV? Look how big the TV is, and you know, there's like, you know, modern looking stuff, which usually means it's expensive.
Well, actually, technically, sorry, the TV's only slightly larger than her watch.
Oh my... So, I mean, if you get a little measurement...
Okay. So, this woman, her husband, is making good money.
Her husband's making good money, meaning he's probably working all day.
Working hard, right? Yeah.
Working hard. So, she's got an hour.
Now, do you think this is a stay-at-home mom?
I don't know. I think so.
I think there's probably a good chance because she's wearing very baggy clothing and most women probably wouldn't change.
Say they got back from work at like 4.30ish or 4ish.
Nobody gets back from work at 4.
No, way, way, way. Unless you start really early.
So she's dressed... She's probably, yeah, she probably...
She hasn't done her hair, she hasn't done makeup, she hasn't left the house, and it's 5 o'clock.
She hasn't left the house all day and the kitchen's still that much of a mess.
Now, did she say how many kids she has?
No. I think just one, right? Probably one or two.
Probably just one, yeah. So she has, so 5 o'clock...
She has one kid and she's home all day and she's still struggling.
In a big beautiful house.
Yeah. So her husband is a hard worker.
He's at work all day, right? Now, why he's home at 5 o'clock, maybe he works from home today or something like that.
Alright. Or it could be a weekend or something.
So... All the piano.
Pause. That's good, everybody.
We did five seconds. No, I think our husband's learning how to play two notes on the piano.
I hate when people put music over their videos.
I hate this in movies, too, and I think I've mentioned this in some movie reviews, but stop telling me what emotions I should feel.
If it's a movie, and I'm not sad, but they'll put in sad music so that I get sad.
It's like, stop doing that.
Either write your movie better...
So that you don't need music.
Like, I mean, that's just what you should do because I don't like...
Again, this is part for movies and just part for these videos.
Just, when they put in music, it just makes me...
it's just... it's manipulative.
Yeah, it does feel controlling, right?
Yeah. Now, I noticed this first.
I noticed this first.
Okay, so... He's making pancakes for dinner.
Now, what's that word?
Is he... Cook. Cook. He's mix...
Okay, he's saying make pancakes.
You mix some ingredients with a mixer.
An electric mixer.
You get your ingredients in the fridge.
You clearly don't clean it, looking at the way this house is.
You can even see some of the ingredients in the back.
It's all a mess, right? It's all a mess, so she hasn't even cleaned up.
So you take out your flour, your milk.
I can't remember if you put eggs in pancakes, but I think you do.
And some baking soda. No, but you can get a full pre-powder.
If you want the pre-powder, you can, but we've never done that.
Right, right. But she probably did.
It's probably five or six ingredients to make a pancake, from what I remember.
So, it maybe takes 10 minutes to mix the ingredients together, and that's a stretch.
Right. Because you have an electric mixer and everything to eat, so basically you hold it and swirl it around.
Right. And then you get your spatula or your scoop, and you put it...
Or not a spatula, but your scoop, and you put it on the tray.
A ladle. A ladle, yeah. You put it on the tray.
The heating... The heating...
The griddle? Whatever it's called.
The heating thing. I couldn't care what it's called, but...
You're not cooking. No, this is not cooking.
This is like baking more so than anything, but it's not even baking because baking takes a bit more effort than that usually.
So I'm going to do a tiny mantilla.
So, we assume that she hasn't just given birth because the kid's a couple of years old, right?
Yeah, years old. So, she's doing no exercise.
She's taking zero care over her appearance.
Yeah. And...
Except dyeing her hair. Maybe.
Her hair's dyed... No, she's young. No, her hair's dyed blonde at the end.
Okay. It's dyed. Now, if we look at the TV in the background, what do we see?
Kids shows. It's a kids show.
Yeah. So, her job...
It's to take care of the child and she's dropped the child in front of the TV so that she can make some PANCAKES which isn't even food!
I can see that if it's like half an hour and it should not take that long to make pancakes, but if it's half an hour, I think it's fine if your kid watches a couple cartoons.
I think that's fine. Because I watch cartoons, but I'm sure that TV's probably been on all day knowing.
But bring the kid in with you because she's complaining that he's not doing enough work and she's just, she's making pancakes with the kid watching TV. For dinner.
For dinner. This is what she calls dinner.
So she's doing no exercise, no care for her appearance.
She's home all day. She's putting the kids in front of cartoons and she's making pancakes.
You know how easy it is to make a salad?
And a salad would probably do her some good.
But it's really easy.
You get some vegetables when you're at the grocery store.
You cut them up. You put some seasoning on and some dressing if you want.
So good. It is good. It's pretty healthy.
The dressing adds calories, but other than that, it's pretty healthy.
It's really easy to make a salad, and if you wanted something a bit more complex, boil some pasta, sauté some vegetables, put the vegetables on, and then have an alfredo sauce or tomato sauce or something.
That's good for, it's not, maybe it's not great for you, but it's not bad for you.
It's not bad for you, veggies and, I mean, veggies and pastas, alright.
It's not bad for you, and it's very easy to make.
It may take a bit, you know, there's going to be some cleanup that she clearly doesn't know how to do.
Right. But it will take a bit of time, a bit longer than making pancakes, but at least it's not a breakfast food.
But look at the size of this kitchen. And it's healthy.
Yeah, it's a giant kitchen and there's stuff everywhere.
Yeah. It's not hard to clean with.
So if we look down here, it says, why do women post stuff like this?
The amount of time you spend filming could have been used instead to communicate and ask for help.
Ask for help with the pancakes.
Why do you need help? Why do you need help with pancakes?
I don't know. Drives her a mess. Yawn a lot?
Okay, so... What have you been doing all day to make you yawn?
So maybe her kid is up at night and whatever, right?
Maybe. Although you should have sleep trained the kid by now and the kid should have a regular sleep schedule.
Maybe she's up late watching videos or TikTok or maybe she's...
Probably or editing. Yeah, or she's editing or she's filming.
So why is she so tired?
Probably because she doesn't move.
My guess is, I think when people just sit around all day, they get more tired.
Yeah, that's true. So if you go out places and do stuff like that, you'll get less tired.
For me, even when I'm home, I never wear baggy clothes like that anymore.
I used to, but not anymore.
It's just because I feel like when I'm in stuff like that, I don't want to move as much because I'm just like, oh, I'm comfy, I'm cozy and stuff.
Right now, I'm wearing a dress, and it's not a very fancy dress, but we're literally just sitting at home, and we have been all day.
So it's just... It's silly.
So she's also complaining that she's tired.
Now, the husband, if he's yawning and he's tired, he didn't have a great night's sleep, does he just get to complain about it or does he just have to go to work and suck it up?
He has to go to work and suck it up. Yeah, he has to go to work and suck it up.
All right. Take 27 calming breaths.
I've never taken a calming breath in my 14 and a half years of life.
Have you ever been calm in your 14?
No, I've never been calm and I've never had to take a calming breath.
You've got to be kidding.
Who needs calming breaths?
Grow up. She feels hard done by because she has to huck her child and make pancakes.
In a big, beautiful house paid for by her husband.
That seems like a pretty great life, honestly.
Who doesn't want pancakes for dinner?
Like, seriously. Well, and so, I mean, when you were little, I used to love putting you on my hip when I was in the kitchen doing stuff, and we'd chat, and you'd help, and, like, it was great fun.
So, I don't know. Oh, my gosh, I have to take 27 calming breaths.
Why? Because I have to cook pancakes and hug my kid while living in this beautiful house almost certainly paid for by my husband.
All right. Negotiate with a toddler.
Oh, there's a dog back there too.
Alright. She's not negotiating, she's just hugging.
Okay, pause with it.
Do you think that the... I think she might have added in the crying.
Why do you think? Oh, actually, actually...
Wait, wait, wait, wait. Yes, she did.
And you know why she did? Because when she talked, no audio pops up.
You can't hear her talk, but you hear the crying.
Right, so she says she's negotiating with a toddler, right?
The crying happened, and she talked, and we can barely hear the talking.
Right, so let's go back here for a sec, because I think this is really interesting, right?
Now, if you look at the kid's hand, he's just stroking his mom's chest.
That's a gesture of affection.
Yeah. Right? So he wouldn't be crying at the same time.
Yeah, and you saw the face, it didn't look upset at all.
You can see the face of it in one corner.
Okay, she didn't look upset, and if you hear the crying, it's like way, way, way louder than her talking.
Can you hear her talking at all? A tiny bit, yeah.
You can go back in here. So she says, negotiate with the toddler, right?
It's a bit far, yeah it's far back.
No, I don't think he's crying.
Because I can't hear her say anything.
I can hear her a bit. I can hear her. My ear's young.
Alright. Now, proceed to cook with one hand.
She's not cooking. It's pancakes.
Okay, here's one thing. It's not hard to cook with one hand.
I was stupid once and I accidentally burned my hand cooking.
It wasn't a bad burn. Like, there's no scar or anything.
So I didn't use that hand to cook and I finished making lunch or whatever it was with one hand.
It's really not difficult to cook with one hand.
Do you know how many things I can hold in one hand?
I think women evolved this way over the last couple of years because of lack of pockets, frankly.
I'm kidding, I'm kidding. I can hold five or six items in one hand.
And she can't.
So she's got a ladle?
Just hold a few things. Hold your ladle.
And hold whatever else you're using in the spatula.
You can easily hold that in two hands.
Put one between your thumb and your finger.
And put the other two between your...
What other two? The other item between...
What other item? I don't know how many items she has.
She's got one ladle and one spatula.
What other item? I don't know, but I'm just saying, like, two items.
If you need to hold both at once for some reason...
But why would she need to... She's got a ladle and pancakes and flip them over.
Well, I don't know. I'm just saying that she's complaining about cooking with one hand.
So if she needs two hands, put both items in one hand.
It's not that hard. Now, you'll also notice here...
Ruined dinner.
Ruined dinner! How do you ruin pancakes?
How do you ruin pancakes?
Oh, you put pineapple on them. Oh, my God.
How do you ruin pancakes?
It's not hard to cook pancakes.
Literally, you're leaving them.
She has an official pancake maker.
She's not even using a pan.
Like, put the...
I can't! How do you ruin pancakes?
No, so they don't look ruined. They look fine.
They're maybe a bit undercooked, but that's it.
Now, let's go back here just for a sec.
So, she's got her toddler on her arm, right?
You heard her talk right there.
There. There.
There. There.
She doesn't really seem to be saying anything.
Oh, now she's talking to her toddler again, but she's probably complaining about dinner.
So she's considering running away.
What is she running away from? She's running away from holding her toddler and...
And she's running away from undercooking the pancakes.
Those are undercooked. They're undercooked.
How do you mess up pancakes that bad?
Literally leave them on longer.
You don't even need to use your hands to do that.
They're undercooked.
Plus you can use your toddler's hand to put it under the pancakes.
Oh my god. How did I survive that?
What's she doing here? Laugh instead of cry.
What's she doing? Because you have nothing to cry about!
I don't know, maybe it's sauce or something.
You have nothing to cry about, so that's why you're laughing.
What's she doing here? I don't know, it doesn't matter.
No, I'm curious. It doesn't matter.
She's scraping something in the bucket.
Oh, hang on. Is that her...
I won't do the... Oh, that's this thing.
Oh, it's the rest of the pancake mix.
Life instead of crying.
She considers running away.
Because you have nothing to cry about.
She doesn't...
She doesn't know.
She doesn't know what I don't know.
So, what's her husband doing?
He's on his phone. He's on his phone.
Probably doing work stuff. It could be work stuff, for sure.
It could also be that he's just had a day, and he's just doing some relaxing, right?
She's been home all day with her toddler.
A toddler's nap, you get a chance to relax.
Maybe she chose to film videos instead of relax, so she's tired.
Maybe she hasn't sleep trained to her child, which is kind of her job, but she's a stay-at-home mom.
But this resentment. Now, why is he not in the kitchen with her?
This is the funny thing. She's like, well, why isn't he in the kitchen with me?
Because he spent the whole day working.
You wouldn't have the kitchen if he wasn't working.
Well, also, if your wife is angry and upset and bitter and having to take calming breaths and considering, do you want to spend time with someone like that?
No. No! If I was just sitting there, oh, I hate being a parent, oh, I want to run away, would you want to spend time with me?
No. Oh, my gosh.
So, let's just figure out what he's doing.
So the only thing that's moving is his right thumb.
I don't think he's typing.
No, I think he's just touching someone scrolling.
Yeah, he could be reading. He could be watching a video.
But his thumb is still moving.
Yeah, but I think barely. I think he's watching a video.
Right. He also could be just scrolling through email.
Could be any number of things, right?
So he's got his feet up.
And there's an old thing which people say, nothing annoys an immature woman more than the sight of a man.
Reluctantly on a couch. Yeah.
Now, I mean, I work fairly hard.
What does mum always tell me to do? Relax.
Relax, yeah. Put your feet up, you know?
And so she's just enraged.
And I don't know.
It's just terrible. Why would you post this?
So you're giving...
You're insulting your husband.
Yeah. You're saying, I'm miserable in my marriage.
I hate being a wife. I hate being a mother.
My husband is so lazy.
Why would you post this so everyone can see it?
I don't know. It's incomprehensible to me.
Yeah. I mean, I don't...
Mom's great. I don't have any problems with mom.
But if I did, the last thing I would do is secretly film her.
Secretly film her. Not because I bet you she didn't tell.
So this guy is going to...
It's going to be spread around at work.
People are going to laugh about this.
And they're going to lose respect for the guy.
Yeah. It's going to be very tough in his business career when people realize that his kind of obese wife is miserable, has no respect for him, somewhat.
She's overweight. She's not obese.
Well, it's a really baggy top, and I'm sort of looking at the double chin.
But okay, yeah, fair, fair. She's not obese, but she's overweight for sure.
And she is destroying his reputation.
She's destroying any respect people might have for him.
The reputation that got her that kitchen in the first place.
Yeah, oh my gosh.
And look, this is a guy, no disrespect, but he's a hard-working guy, it seems like.
This is not a guy making money off his looks.
No. So he's got to be doing something, I'm guessing in the trades, because he looks like a trades guy.
He does, yeah. He doesn't look like a lawyer guy or something like that.
So imagine how hard you have to work in the trades to afford a house like this.
Yeah. That's crazy, right? And I think that's it.
Yeah, so I just, I don't know why.
Don't do this. What else?
Yeah, it makes him look bad and makes you look bad.
And all the women in the comments scream divorce.
Scream divorce! Oh my gosh.
Well, because she can get the house and then she only has to make pancakes for one person.
Two people. Child. And a dog.
Oh my gosh. I don't know.
It's just nuts. I don't know why women do this.
I don't know what the purpose is.
And, you know, what I would love to do, I'd love to take a woman like this.
Sounds mean. I'd love to throw her back in a time machine.
Oh, yeah. 150 years.
And have her live the day of a life of a pioneer woman.
Yep. Because this level, every single day, I'm telling you, I don't want to sound ridiculous with my gratitude, but because I grew up without air conditioning in a very small place, like every day, it's like, well, we have a nice place, we've got air conditioning.
A friend of mine had a car who used to drive me around because I didn't have a car, and his cooling system was so broken that he actually had to pump hot air into the car.
to keep his engine cool because he couldn't afford to fix it.
So we had to drive around in the summer with maximum hot air blasting in our faces, dying from the heat.
And so for me, it's like, yeah, air-conditioned car.
I don't have to, you know, even when I started my show back before you were born,
I had to drive for like sometimes three hours a day back and forth to work.
I don't have to do that anymore.
So I'm just incredibly grateful for all of this stuff.
And I don't know, like how can you sit there and say I'm so hard done by because I have a baby, my husband's sitting down for a moment, and I've got to cook pancakes with one hand.
Good lord. She doesn't have to cure her own meat, make her own jams, make her own pickles.
She doesn't have to slaughter her own pigs.
She doesn't have to do any of that stuff.
She doesn't have to chop up her own wood.
She doesn't have to go to the well a quarter mile away to get water and bring it back.
She doesn't have to boil her own water because it comes out of the tap already decontaminated.
Like, we're so lucky and people are so ungrateful.
It drives me crazy. All right.
Anyways. Anything else you want to add?
No. Don't do this, ladies.
Only one thing I want to add is, I mean, like, no hate, but he's got, like, a southern head.
Cool thing. That's perfectly normal to me.
You don't have a southern head.
No, here's what happened.
He looked up too quickly and the hair just placed down to his chin.
Because upside down is pretty much the same.
Exactly. All right. Thanks, everyone.
Bye. Readdomain.com slash debate.
▲
Export Selection