Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux - My Daughter vs Bad Housewife!
Aired: 2023-08-30
Duration: 17:16


=== Complaining About Dinner Prep (15:11) ===

[00:00:00]  We're back! Alright, so I don't know why women post this stuff, to be honest with you.
[00:00:05]  They do it for attention.
[00:00:06]  And sympathy, right? And sympathy.
[00:00:07]  You're so hard done by.
[00:00:09]  Alright, so the first thing I notice is...
[00:00:12]  Messy is messy. Look how messy the counter is.
[00:00:15]  Gordon Ramsay would be mad.
[00:00:16]  The counter is messy, and she seems to have an Apple Watch.
[00:00:20]  She also, I will say...
[00:00:22]  She's got a huge kitchen and a very nice house, meaning her husband...
[00:00:27]  Big TV? Look how big the TV is, and you know, there's like, you know, modern looking stuff, which usually means it's expensive.
[00:00:33]  Well, actually, technically, sorry, the TV's only slightly larger than her watch.
[00:00:36]  Oh my... So, I mean, if you get a little measurement...
[00:00:39]  Okay. So, this woman, her husband, is making good money.
[00:00:42]  Her husband's making good money, meaning he's probably working all day.
[00:00:45]  Working hard, right? Yeah.
[00:00:46]  Working hard. So, she's got an hour.
[00:00:48]  Now, do you think this is a stay-at-home mom?
[00:00:52]  I don't know. I think so.
[00:00:53]  I think there's probably a good chance because she's wearing very baggy clothing and most women probably wouldn't change.
[00:00:59]  Say they got back from work at like 4.30ish or 4ish.
[00:01:02]  Nobody gets back from work at 4.
[00:01:03]  No, way, way, way. Unless you start really early.
[00:01:05]  So she's dressed... She's probably, yeah, she probably...
[00:01:07]  She hasn't done her hair, she hasn't done makeup, she hasn't left the house, and it's 5 o'clock.
[00:01:12]  She hasn't left the house all day and the kitchen's still that much of a mess.
[00:01:14]  Now, did she say how many kids she has?
[00:01:17]  No. I think just one, right? Probably one or two.
[00:01:20]  Probably just one, yeah. So she has, so 5 o'clock...
[00:01:23]  She has one kid and she's home all day and she's still struggling.
[00:01:26]  In a big beautiful house.
[00:01:27]  Yeah. So her husband is a hard worker.
[00:01:29]  He's at work all day, right? Now, why he's home at 5 o'clock, maybe he works from home today or something like that.
[00:01:34]  Alright. Or it could be a weekend or something.
[00:01:37]  So... All the piano.
[00:01:40]  Pause. That's good, everybody.
[00:01:43]  We did five seconds. No, I think our husband's learning how to play two notes on the piano.
[00:01:47]  I hate when people put music over their videos.
[00:01:51]  I hate this in movies, too, and I think I've mentioned this in some movie reviews, but stop telling me what emotions I should feel.
[00:01:57]  If it's a movie, and I'm not sad, but they'll put in sad music so that I get sad.
[00:02:02]  It's like, stop doing that.
[00:02:05]  Either write your movie better...
[00:02:07]  So that you don't need music.
[00:02:09]  Like, I mean, that's just what you should do because I don't like...
[00:02:12]  Again, this is part for movies and just part for these videos.
[00:02:14]  Just, when they put in music, it just makes me...
[00:02:16]  it's just... it's manipulative.
[00:02:18]  Yeah, it does feel controlling, right?
[00:02:19]  Yeah. Now, I noticed this first.
[00:02:22]  I noticed this first.
[00:02:24]  Okay, so... He's making pancakes for dinner.
[00:02:27]  Now, what's that word?
[00:02:28]  Is he... Cook. Cook. He's mix...
[00:02:30]  Okay, he's saying make pancakes.
[00:02:32]  You mix some ingredients with a mixer.
[00:02:35]  An electric mixer.
[00:02:37]  You get your ingredients in the fridge.
[00:02:38]  You clearly don't clean it, looking at the way this house is.
[00:02:41]  You can even see some of the ingredients in the back.
[00:02:43]  It's all a mess, right? It's all a mess, so she hasn't even cleaned up.
[00:02:46]  So you take out your flour, your milk.
[00:02:48]  I can't remember if you put eggs in pancakes, but I think you do.
[00:02:51]  And some baking soda. No, but you can get a full pre-powder.
[00:02:55]  If you want the pre-powder, you can, but we've never done that.
[00:02:57]  Right, right. But she probably did.
[00:02:59]  It's probably five or six ingredients to make a pancake, from what I remember.
[00:03:05]  So, it maybe takes 10 minutes to mix the ingredients together, and that's a stretch.
[00:03:10]  Right. Because you have an electric mixer and everything to eat, so basically you hold it and swirl it around.
[00:03:14]  Right. And then you get your spatula or your scoop, and you put it...
[00:03:19]  Or not a spatula, but your scoop, and you put it on the tray.
[00:03:22]  A ladle. A ladle, yeah. You put it on the tray.
[00:03:24]  The heating... The heating...
[00:03:25]  The griddle? Whatever it's called.
[00:03:26]  The heating thing. I couldn't care what it's called, but...
[00:03:31]  You're not cooking. No, this is not cooking.
[00:03:33]  This is like baking more so than anything, but it's not even baking because baking takes a bit more effort than that usually.
[00:03:39]  So I'm going to do a tiny mantilla.
[00:03:42]  So, we assume that she hasn't just given birth because the kid's a couple of years old, right?
[00:03:46]  Yeah, years old. So, she's doing no exercise.
[00:03:48]  She's taking zero care over her appearance.
[00:03:51]  Yeah. And...
[00:03:52]  Except dyeing her hair. Maybe.
[00:03:54]  Her hair's dyed... No, she's young. No, her hair's dyed blonde at the end.
[00:03:57]  Okay. It's dyed. Now, if we look at the TV in the background, what do we see?
[00:04:00]  Kids shows. It's a kids show.
[00:04:02]  Yeah. So, her job...
[00:04:03]  It's to take care of the child and she's dropped the child in front of the TV so that she can make some PANCAKES which isn't even food!
[00:04:10]  I can see that if it's like half an hour and it should not take that long to make pancakes, but if it's half an hour, I think it's fine if your kid watches a couple cartoons.
[00:04:18]  I think that's fine. Because I watch cartoons, but I'm sure that TV's probably been on all day knowing.
[00:04:22]  But bring the kid in with you because she's complaining that he's not doing enough work and she's just, she's making pancakes with the kid watching TV. For dinner.
[00:04:29]  For dinner. This is what she calls dinner.
[00:04:32]  So she's doing no exercise, no care for her appearance.
[00:04:35]  She's home all day. She's putting the kids in front of cartoons and she's making pancakes.
[00:04:39]  You know how easy it is to make a salad?
[00:04:40]  And a salad would probably do her some good.
[00:04:42]  But it's really easy.
[00:04:44]  You get some vegetables when you're at the grocery store.
[00:04:46]  You cut them up. You put some seasoning on and some dressing if you want.
[00:04:50]  So good. It is good. It's pretty healthy.
[00:04:52]  The dressing adds calories, but other than that, it's pretty healthy.
[00:04:55]  It's really easy to make a salad, and if you wanted something a bit more complex, boil some pasta, sauté some vegetables, put the vegetables on, and then have an alfredo sauce or tomato sauce or something.
[00:05:06]  That's good for, it's not, maybe it's not great for you, but it's not bad for you.
[00:05:10]  It's not bad for you, veggies and, I mean, veggies and pastas, alright.
[00:05:12]  It's not bad for you, and it's very easy to make.
[00:05:14]  It may take a bit, you know, there's going to be some cleanup that she clearly doesn't know how to do.
[00:05:18]  Right. But it will take a bit of time, a bit longer than making pancakes, but at least it's not a breakfast food.
[00:05:24]  But look at the size of this kitchen. And it's healthy.
[00:05:26]  Yeah, it's a giant kitchen and there's stuff everywhere.
[00:05:28]  Yeah. It's not hard to clean with.
[00:05:30]  So if we look down here, it says, why do women post stuff like this?
[00:05:32]  The amount of time you spend filming could have been used instead to communicate and ask for help.
[00:05:37]  Ask for help with the pancakes.
[00:05:38]  Why do you need help? Why do you need help with pancakes?
[00:05:41]  I don't know. Drives her a mess. Yawn a lot?
[00:05:45]  Okay, so... What have you been doing all day to make you yawn?
[00:05:48]  So maybe her kid is up at night and whatever, right?
[00:05:52]  Maybe. Although you should have sleep trained the kid by now and the kid should have a regular sleep schedule.
[00:05:56]  Maybe she's up late watching videos or TikTok or maybe she's...
[00:05:59]  Probably or editing. Yeah, or she's editing or she's filming.
[00:06:02]  So why is she so tired?
[00:06:04]  Probably because she doesn't move.
[00:06:06]  My guess is, I think when people just sit around all day, they get more tired.
[00:06:10]  Yeah, that's true. So if you go out places and do stuff like that, you'll get less tired.
[00:06:13]  For me, even when I'm home, I never wear baggy clothes like that anymore.
[00:06:18]  I used to, but not anymore.
[00:06:19]  It's just because I feel like when I'm in stuff like that, I don't want to move as much because I'm just like, oh, I'm comfy, I'm cozy and stuff.
[00:06:25]  Right now, I'm wearing a dress, and it's not a very fancy dress, but we're literally just sitting at home, and we have been all day.
[00:06:30]  So it's just... It's silly.
[00:06:33]  So she's also complaining that she's tired.
[00:06:35]  Now, the husband, if he's yawning and he's tired, he didn't have a great night's sleep, does he just get to complain about it or does he just have to go to work and suck it up?
[00:06:43]  He has to go to work and suck it up. Yeah, he has to go to work and suck it up.
[00:06:45]  All right. Take 27 calming breaths.
[00:06:49]  I've never taken a calming breath in my 14 and a half years of life.
[00:06:55]  Have you ever been calm in your 14?
[00:06:56]  No, I've never been calm and I've never had to take a calming breath.
[00:07:00]  You've got to be kidding.
[00:07:01]  Who needs calming breaths?
[00:07:03]  Grow up. She feels hard done by because she has to huck her child and make pancakes.
[00:07:09]  In a big, beautiful house paid for by her husband.
[00:07:11]  That seems like a pretty great life, honestly.
[00:07:13]  Who doesn't want pancakes for dinner?
[00:07:16]  Like, seriously. Well, and so, I mean, when you were little, I used to love putting you on my hip when I was in the kitchen doing stuff, and we'd chat, and you'd help, and, like, it was great fun.
[00:07:24]  So, I don't know. Oh, my gosh, I have to take 27 calming breaths.
[00:07:27]  Why? Because I have to cook pancakes and hug my kid while living in this beautiful house almost certainly paid for by my husband.
[00:07:34]  All right. Negotiate with a toddler.
[00:07:39]  Oh, there's a dog back there too.
[00:07:41]  Alright. She's not negotiating, she's just hugging.
[00:07:50]  Okay, pause with it.
[00:07:51]  Do you think that the... I think she might have added in the crying.
[00:07:56]  Why do you think? Oh, actually, actually...
[00:07:59]  Wait, wait, wait, wait. Yes, she did.
[00:08:00]  And you know why she did? Because when she talked, no audio pops up.
[00:08:04]  You can't hear her talk, but you hear the crying.
[00:08:06]  Right, so she says she's negotiating with a toddler, right?
[00:08:12]  The crying happened, and she talked, and we can barely hear the talking.
[00:08:16]  Right, so let's go back here for a sec, because I think this is really interesting, right?
[00:08:22]  Now, if you look at the kid's hand, he's just stroking his mom's chest.
[00:08:26]  That's a gesture of affection.
[00:08:27]  Yeah. Right? So he wouldn't be crying at the same time.
[00:08:32]  Yeah, and you saw the face, it didn't look upset at all.
[00:08:35]  You can see the face of it in one corner.
[00:08:37]  Okay, she didn't look upset, and if you hear the crying, it's like way, way, way louder than her talking.
[00:08:43]  Can you hear her talking at all? A tiny bit, yeah.
[00:08:45]  You can go back in here. So she says, negotiate with the toddler, right?
[00:08:49]  It's a bit far, yeah it's far back.
[00:08:51]  No, I don't think he's crying.
[00:08:59]  Because I can't hear her say anything.
[00:09:01]  I can hear her a bit. I can hear her. My ear's young.
[00:09:04]  Alright. Now, proceed to cook with one hand.
[00:09:06]  She's not cooking. It's pancakes.
[00:09:08]  Okay, here's one thing. It's not hard to cook with one hand.
[00:09:11]  I was stupid once and I accidentally burned my hand cooking.
[00:09:14]  It wasn't a bad burn. Like, there's no scar or anything.
[00:09:16]  So I didn't use that hand to cook and I finished making lunch or whatever it was with one hand.
[00:09:20]  It's really not difficult to cook with one hand.
[00:09:22]  Do you know how many things I can hold in one hand?
[00:09:25]  I think women evolved this way over the last couple of years because of lack of pockets, frankly.
[00:09:30]  I'm kidding, I'm kidding. I can hold five or six items in one hand.
[00:09:36]  And she can't.
[00:09:38]  So she's got a ladle?
[00:09:39]  Just hold a few things. Hold your ladle.
[00:09:40]  And hold whatever else you're using in the spatula.
[00:09:43]  You can easily hold that in two hands.
[00:09:44]  Put one between your thumb and your finger.
[00:09:46]  And put the other two between your...
[00:09:47]  What other two? The other item between...
[00:09:50]  What other item? I don't know how many items she has.
[00:09:52]  She's got one ladle and one spatula.
[00:09:53]  What other item? I don't know, but I'm just saying, like, two items.
[00:09:56]  If you need to hold both at once for some reason...
[00:09:58]  But why would she need to... She's got a ladle and pancakes and flip them over.
[00:10:00]  Well, I don't know. I'm just saying that she's complaining about cooking with one hand.
[00:10:03]  So if she needs two hands, put both items in one hand.
[00:10:05]  It's not that hard. Now, you'll also notice here...
[00:10:11]  Ruined dinner.
[00:10:13]  Ruined dinner! How do you ruin pancakes?
[00:10:16]  How do you ruin pancakes?
[00:10:18]  Oh, you put pineapple on them. Oh, my God.
[00:10:20]  How do you ruin pancakes?
[00:10:23]  It's not hard to cook pancakes.
[00:10:25]  Literally, you're leaving them.
[00:10:27]  She has an official pancake maker.
[00:10:29]  She's not even using a pan.
[00:10:31]  Like, put the...
[00:10:33]  I can't! How do you ruin pancakes?
[00:10:35]  No, so they don't look ruined. They look fine.
[00:10:38]  They're maybe a bit undercooked, but that's it.
[00:10:40]  Now, let's go back here just for a sec.
[00:10:42]  So, she's got her toddler on her arm, right?
[00:10:49]  You heard her talk right there.
[00:10:50]  There. There.
[00:10:53]  There. There.
[00:10:55]  She doesn't really seem to be saying anything.
[00:10:58]  Oh, now she's talking to her toddler again, but she's probably complaining about dinner.
[00:11:02]  So she's considering running away.
[00:11:04]  What is she running away from? She's running away from holding her toddler and...
[00:11:07]  And she's running away from undercooking the pancakes.
[00:11:09]  Those are undercooked. They're undercooked.
[00:11:11]  How do you mess up pancakes that bad?
[00:11:14]  Literally leave them on longer.
[00:11:15]  You don't even need to use your hands to do that.
[00:11:18]  They're undercooked.
[00:11:20]  Plus you can use your toddler's hand to put it under the pancakes.
[00:11:23]  Oh my god. How did I survive that?
[00:11:27]  What's she doing here? Laugh instead of cry.
[00:11:29]  What's she doing? Because you have nothing to cry about!
[00:11:31]  I don't know, maybe it's sauce or something.
[00:11:33]  You have nothing to cry about, so that's why you're laughing.
[00:11:39]  What's she doing here? I don't know, it doesn't matter.
[00:11:42]  No, I'm curious. It doesn't matter.
[00:11:44]  She's scraping something in the bucket.
[00:11:47]  Oh, hang on. Is that her...
[00:11:48]  I won't do the... Oh, that's this thing.
[00:11:50]  Oh, it's the rest of the pancake mix.
[00:11:53]  Life instead of crying.
[00:11:55]  She considers running away.
[00:11:56]  Because you have nothing to cry about.
[00:11:59]  She doesn't...
[00:12:00]  She doesn't know.
[00:12:05]  She doesn't know what I don't know.
[00:12:07]  So, what's her husband doing?
[00:12:09]  He's on his phone. He's on his phone.
[00:12:10]  Probably doing work stuff. It could be work stuff, for sure.
[00:12:12]  It could also be that he's just had a day, and he's just doing some relaxing, right?
[00:12:17]  She's been home all day with her toddler.
[00:12:19]  A toddler's nap, you get a chance to relax.
[00:12:22]  Maybe she chose to film videos instead of relax, so she's tired.
[00:12:25]  Maybe she hasn't sleep trained to her child, which is kind of her job, but she's a stay-at-home mom.
[00:12:29]  But this resentment. Now, why is he not in the kitchen with her?
[00:12:32]  This is the funny thing. She's like, well, why isn't he in the kitchen with me?
[00:12:34]  Because he spent the whole day working.
[00:12:36]  You wouldn't have the kitchen if he wasn't working.
[00:12:38]  Well, also, if your wife is angry and upset and bitter and having to take calming breaths and considering, do you want to spend time with someone like that?
[00:12:45]  No. No! If I was just sitting there, oh, I hate being a parent, oh, I want to run away, would you want to spend time with me?
[00:12:51]  No. Oh, my gosh.
[00:12:53]  So, let's just figure out what he's doing.
[00:12:55]  So the only thing that's moving is his right thumb.
[00:12:59]  I don't think he's typing.
[00:13:00]  No, I think he's just touching someone scrolling.
[00:13:03]  Yeah, he could be reading. He could be watching a video.
[00:13:05]  But his thumb is still moving.
[00:13:07]  Yeah, but I think barely. I think he's watching a video.
[00:13:09]  Right. He also could be just scrolling through email.
[00:13:12]  Could be any number of things, right?
[00:13:14]  So he's got his feet up.
[00:13:15]  And there's an old thing which people say, nothing annoys an immature woman more than the sight of a man.
[00:13:20]  Reluctantly on a couch. Yeah.
[00:13:22]  Now, I mean, I work fairly hard.
[00:13:23]  What does mum always tell me to do? Relax.
[00:13:25]  Relax, yeah. Put your feet up, you know?
[00:13:27]  And so she's just enraged.
[00:13:30]  And I don't know.
[00:13:31]  It's just terrible. Why would you post this?
[00:13:33]  So you're giving...
[00:13:35]  You're insulting your husband.
[00:13:36]  Yeah. You're saying, I'm miserable in my marriage.
[00:13:39]  I hate being a wife. I hate being a mother.
[00:13:41]  My husband is so lazy.
[00:13:43]  Why would you post this so everyone can see it?
[00:13:46]  I don't know. It's incomprehensible to me.
[00:13:49]  Yeah. I mean, I don't...
[00:13:51]  Mom's great. I don't have any problems with mom.
[00:13:53]  But if I did, the last thing I would do is secretly film her.
[00:13:56]  Secretly film her. Not because I bet you she didn't tell.
[00:13:59]  So this guy is going to...
[00:14:01]  It's going to be spread around at work.
[00:14:03]  People are going to laugh about this.
[00:14:04]  And they're going to lose respect for the guy.
[00:14:06]  Yeah. It's going to be very tough in his business career when people realize that his kind of obese wife is miserable, has no respect for him, somewhat.
[00:14:17]  She's overweight. She's not obese.
[00:14:19]  Well, it's a really baggy top, and I'm sort of looking at the double chin.
[00:14:23]  But okay, yeah, fair, fair. She's not obese, but she's overweight for sure.
[00:14:27]  And she is destroying his reputation.
[00:14:30]  She's destroying any respect people might have for him.
[00:14:32]  The reputation that got her that kitchen in the first place.
[00:14:34]  Yeah, oh my gosh.
[00:14:36]  And look, this is a guy, no disrespect, but he's a hard-working guy, it seems like.
[00:14:41]  This is not a guy making money off his looks.
[00:14:43]  No. So he's got to be doing something, I'm guessing in the trades, because he looks like a trades guy.
[00:14:48]  He does, yeah. He doesn't look like a lawyer guy or something like that.
[00:14:51]  So imagine how hard you have to work in the trades to afford a house like this.
[00:14:55]  Yeah. That's crazy, right? And I think that's it.
[00:15:00]  Yeah, so I just, I don't know why.
[00:15:01]  Don't do this. What else?
[00:15:03]  Yeah, it makes him look bad and makes you look bad.
[00:15:06]  And all the women in the comments scream divorce.
[00:15:09]  Scream divorce! Oh my gosh.

=== Cooling System Issues (02:04) ===

[00:15:11]  Well, because she can get the house and then she only has to make pancakes for one person.
[00:15:15]  Two people. Child. And a dog.
[00:15:17]  Oh my gosh. I don't know.
[00:15:19]  It's just nuts. I don't know why women do this.
[00:15:22]  I don't know what the purpose is.
[00:15:25]  And, you know, what I would love to do, I'd love to take a woman like this.
[00:15:28]  Sounds mean. I'd love to throw her back in a time machine.
[00:15:31]  Oh, yeah. 150 years.
[00:15:33]  And have her live the day of a life of a pioneer woman.
[00:15:35]  Yep. Because this level, every single day, I'm telling you, I don't want to sound ridiculous with my gratitude, but because I grew up without air conditioning in a very small place, like every day, it's like, well, we have a nice place, we've got air conditioning.
[00:15:49]  A friend of mine had a car who used to drive me around because I didn't have a car, and his cooling system was so broken that he actually had to pump hot air into the car.
[00:16:00]  to keep his engine cool because he couldn't afford to fix it.
[00:16:03]  So we had to drive around in the summer with maximum hot air blasting in our faces, dying from the heat.
[00:16:08]  And so for me, it's like, yeah, air-conditioned car.
[00:16:13]  I don't have to, you know, even when I started my show back before you were born,
[00:16:18]  I had to drive for like sometimes three hours a day back and forth to work.
[00:16:22]  I don't have to do that anymore.
[00:16:23]  So I'm just incredibly grateful for all of this stuff.
[00:16:26]  And I don't know, like how can you sit there and say I'm so hard done by because I have a baby, my husband's sitting down for a moment, and I've got to cook pancakes with one hand.
[00:16:35]  Good lord. She doesn't have to cure her own meat, make her own jams, make her own pickles.
[00:16:38]  She doesn't have to slaughter her own pigs.
[00:16:39]  She doesn't have to do any of that stuff.
[00:16:41]  She doesn't have to chop up her own wood.
[00:16:42]  She doesn't have to go to the well a quarter mile away to get water and bring it back.
[00:16:46]  She doesn't have to boil her own water because it comes out of the tap already decontaminated.
[00:16:50]  Like, we're so lucky and people are so ungrateful.
[00:16:52]  It drives me crazy. All right.
[00:16:55]  Anyways. Anything else you want to add?
[00:16:57]  No. Don't do this, ladies.
[00:16:58]  Only one thing I want to add is, I mean, like, no hate, but he's got, like, a southern head.
[00:17:03]  Cool thing. That's perfectly normal to me.
[00:17:06]  You don't have a southern head.
[00:17:07]  No, here's what happened.
[00:17:09]  He looked up too quickly and the hair just placed down to his chin.
[00:17:11]  Because upside down is pretty much the same.
[00:17:13]  Exactly. All right. Thanks, everyone.
[00:17:15]  Bye. Readdomain.com slash debate.