Feb. 7, 2023 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
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| Okay, so this is the shortest video analysis I'm ever going to do. | |
| Okay, so this is a man and a woman in a hallway. | |
| It looks like a university hallway, and they're doing some goofy university stuff, right? | |
| 15 second video, we'll watch it, and then I'll tell you all of the life lessons embedded within. | |
| Okay, here we go. Are you guys ready? | |
| One, two, three. | |
| Right. | |
| Okay. | |
| So this is life in a nutshell for a lot of men and women. | |
| All right. So this guy is very athletic and fit and all of that. | |
| So he obviously can outrun her like crazy, right? | |
| Are you guys ready? So they're having a race. | |
| One, two, three. | |
| And he is immediately way ahead of her, right? | |
| Now he crosses over and you see he's looking back at her. | |
| Right? He's saying, look, I'm not going to run my full distance. | |
| I'm going to pace myself to you. | |
| I'm going to let you win. I'm going to defer to you and all that, right? | |
| So he runs, I mean, a very fit guy, long legs, lean legs, like he could absolutely sprint through this like a laser, right? | |
| And she's just trotting along in this kind of goofy way. | |
| And he's just looking at her, looking at her, making sure she's enjoying herself, making sure he's deferring to her, and so on, right? | |
| Just being kind of chivalrous, kind of like a gentleman and all of that, right? | |
| And then, because he's looking back at her rather than looking ahead, right? | |
| People have this belief that in relationships you're just supposed to stare into each other's eyes and souls. | |
| It's like, that's not a relationship. | |
| That's, I don't know, mutual stalking or obsession or Something like that. | |
| A relationship is when you join hands facing the future, facing challenges in life together. | |
| You don't get anywhere just sitting staring at each other. | |
| You enjoy each other's company, but you're there as partners to achieve things in life, to make money, to raise kids, to do good in the world. | |
| And so the two of you... | |
| But he's looking at her, looking back at her. | |
| Now because he's looking back at her... | |
| He's not looking ahead, right? | |
| He's not looking ahead. | |
| He's just looking back at her. | |
| And that's not a good plan, right? | |
| A woman wants you to look at the world, right? | |
| If you're a man, right? They don't want you looking just at them because it's like, well, that might be flattering to their ego. | |
| But if you're a man just staring at a woman, you're not out there hunting, getting resources, competing with other men and other women and bringing home the cheddar and the government cheese and the resources. | |
| You're not hoeing the back 40. | |
| You're not building a scarecrow. | |
| You're not putting new Italian marble on the kitchen. | |
| You're not changing a light bulb. | |
| You're staring at her, right? So it might be flattering to her ego, but that would only appeal to a narcissist. | |
| A woman doesn't want you staring at her. | |
| Can you imagine? You hire an employee and the employee just sits there and praises you all day. | |
| It's like, no, no, no. Go do some work. | |
| Go make me some money, right? I remember when I was... | |
| One of my first lessons when I worked in a store was I didn't really know what to do, so I was cleaning up the store, tidying up the store, and my boss said, you know, don't tidy up the store. | |
| It doesn't make me any money. Go do something that makes me money, right? | |
| So I was like, yeah, it's important, right? | |
| So he's just looking at her. | |
| He's not looking ahead, and he's involved himself in this goofy race and so on, right? | |
| So... Boom. | |
| Now, she doesn't even make it to the door, right? | |
| So, she does this goofy little run, right? | |
| So, watch this. She does this goofy little run. | |
| So, she's just trotting along, not really trying, and she's being really cautious and she's being really careful. | |
| So, she's looking ahead. | |
| Now, she slows down before We're good to go. | |
| Then, boom, right? He just mashes into himself, right? | |
| That can be a real blow. And he's down, right? | |
| Now, let's go back here, right? | |
| This is what's really important. | |
| Well, it's all super important, right? | |
| So, it's really important, right? So, he smacks and he's down, right? | |
| Now, what does she do? What does she do? | |
| Does she lean down over him and say, oh my god, are you okay? | |
| Does she see if he broke a tooth, if he's cut, if he's concussed? | |
| Does she see if he cut himself, maybe the glasses cracked or something like that? | |
| Does she see how he's doing? | |
| Right? So he whams, right? | |
| And she turns, no, she turns immediately to the camera, right? | |
| She turns immediately to the camera. | |
| And then, what does she do? | |
| Does she check on him? Does she see if he's okay? | |
| Because he was being chivalrous and checking if she was having a good run and he wasn't going too fast, right? | |
| So he didn't pay attention to the world, was paying attention to her. | |
| He wrecked himself. He's down. | |
| I mean, he could be seriously injured here, right? | |
| Nope. She just runs away from him. | |
| He's on the ground, rising on the ground, and she's like, tee-hee-hee, and just running away from him, right? | |
| Just covering her mouth, right? She's not checking on him. | |
| She's not seeing if he's okay. | |
| She's not saying, oh my gosh, this is a bad idea. | |
| Are you okay? Blah, blah, blah. | |
| I can't imagine. She is running away from this guy who got wounded because he was being, obviously, over-considerate and so on, but she's just, like, running. | |
| And she doesn't even look back. | |
| I mean, he's like, he's on the ground, man. | |
| At least he's moving, I guess, right? | |
| So he's out, right? | |
| So when he goes down, like, he's really stunned, right? | |
| Let's go back a little bit. So he just goes, bam, right? | |
| I don't know. I don't think it breaks. | |
| But he's down. Like, he's not moving, right? | |
| And then he just, like, he's up and he's barely able to get up. | |
| And she just runs away to the camera, hand over her mouth. | |
| She's only concerned about her own shock. | |
| She has no care, no concern for him whatsoever. | |
| And dudes, this is really rough, right? | |
| This is really, really rough. | |
| So this is the portrait of a dysfunctional relationship. | |
| This could be the portrait of a dysfunctional marriage. | |
| This is like 15 seconds of modern gender relations right there. | |
| Because he's not showing his strength. | |
| He's deferring his strength. | |
| He's pretending that she's sort of equal to him, so he's treating her like a child. | |
| He's not showing... Because men used to be, like, showing off their strength, right? | |
| Look how fast I can run. But because they're competing against... | |
| Because he's competing against the woman, he just, you know, he crosses over. | |
| He just goes kind of slow. | |
| He's kind of goofy and all of that, right? | |
| It's not a real run. He's way ahead of her. | |
| And he goes, oh, I'm going to turn and check, and you see if you're okay. | |
| I'm going to make sure you... And she's like... | |
| And then this just crashes. | |
| Boom! And then she just runs away. | |
| There's no respect for the guy. There's no respect for the guy at all. | |
| And she just runs away, doesn't check on him at all. | |
| And he could be seriously injured. | |
| So, yeah, there's a lot of lessons in this. | |
| A lot of lessons in this. |
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