Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux - 15 seconds of ULTIMATE DYSFUNCTION!
Aired: 2023-02-07
Duration: 06:51


=== Looking Back at Love (03:04) ===

[00:00:00]  Okay, so this is the shortest video analysis I'm ever going to do.
[00:00:06]  Okay, so this is a man and a woman in a hallway.
[00:00:08]  It looks like a university hallway, and they're doing some goofy university stuff, right?
[00:00:11]  15 second video, we'll watch it, and then I'll tell you all of the life lessons embedded within.
[00:00:17]  Okay, here we go. Are you guys ready?
[00:00:20]  One, two, three.
[00:00:23]  Right.
[00:00:34]  Okay.
[00:00:34]  So this is life in a nutshell for a lot of men and women.
[00:00:39]  All right. So this guy is very athletic and fit and all of that.
[00:00:44]  So he obviously can outrun her like crazy, right?
[00:00:46]  Are you guys ready? So they're having a race.
[00:00:48]  One, two, three.
[00:00:50]  And he is immediately way ahead of her, right?
[00:00:54]  Now he crosses over and you see he's looking back at her.
[00:00:57]  Right? He's saying, look, I'm not going to run my full distance.
[00:01:00]  I'm going to pace myself to you.
[00:01:01]  I'm going to let you win. I'm going to defer to you and all that, right?
[00:01:06]  So he runs, I mean, a very fit guy, long legs, lean legs, like he could absolutely sprint through this like a laser, right?
[00:01:12]  And she's just trotting along in this kind of goofy way.
[00:01:16]  And he's just looking at her, looking at her, making sure she's enjoying herself, making sure he's deferring to her, and so on, right?
[00:01:22]  Just being kind of chivalrous, kind of like a gentleman and all of that, right?
[00:01:25]  And then, because he's looking back at her rather than looking ahead, right?
[00:01:30]  People have this belief that in relationships you're just supposed to stare into each other's eyes and souls.
[00:01:35]  It's like, that's not a relationship.
[00:01:36]  That's, I don't know, mutual stalking or obsession or Something like that.
[00:01:40]  A relationship is when you join hands facing the future, facing challenges in life together.
[00:01:45]  You don't get anywhere just sitting staring at each other.
[00:01:48]  You enjoy each other's company, but you're there as partners to achieve things in life, to make money, to raise kids, to do good in the world.
[00:01:57]  And so the two of you...
[00:01:58]  But he's looking at her, looking back at her.
[00:02:00]  Now because he's looking back at her...
[00:02:03]  He's not looking ahead, right?
[00:02:05]  He's not looking ahead.
[00:02:06]  He's just looking back at her.
[00:02:09]  And that's not a good plan, right?
[00:02:11]  A woman wants you to look at the world, right?
[00:02:14]  If you're a man, right? They don't want you looking just at them because it's like, well, that might be flattering to their ego.
[00:02:19]  But if you're a man just staring at a woman, you're not out there hunting, getting resources, competing with other men and other women and bringing home the cheddar and the government cheese and the resources.
[00:02:28]  You're not hoeing the back 40.
[00:02:30]  You're not building a scarecrow.
[00:02:31]  You're not putting new Italian marble on the kitchen.
[00:02:35]  You're not changing a light bulb.
[00:02:36]  You're staring at her, right? So it might be flattering to her ego, but that would only appeal to a narcissist.
[00:02:40]  A woman doesn't want you staring at her.
[00:02:42]  Can you imagine? You hire an employee and the employee just sits there and praises you all day.
[00:02:48]  It's like, no, no, no. Go do some work.
[00:02:50]  Go make me some money, right? I remember when I was...
[00:02:53]  One of my first lessons when I worked in a store was I didn't really know what to do, so I was cleaning up the store, tidying up the store, and my boss said, you know, don't tidy up the store.
[00:03:02]  It doesn't make me any money. Go do something that makes me money, right?

=== Goofy Little Run (03:46) ===

[00:03:05]  So I was like, yeah, it's important, right?
[00:03:06]  So he's just looking at her.
[00:03:08]  He's not looking ahead, and he's involved himself in this goofy race and so on, right?
[00:03:12]  So... Boom.
[00:03:15]  Now, she doesn't even make it to the door, right?
[00:03:18]  So, she does this goofy little run, right?
[00:03:20]  So, watch this. She does this goofy little run.
[00:03:23]  So, she's just trotting along, not really trying, and she's being really cautious and she's being really careful.
[00:03:29]  So, she's looking ahead.
[00:03:30]  Now, she slows down before We're good to go.
[00:03:55]  Then, boom, right? He just mashes into himself, right?
[00:03:58]  That can be a real blow. And he's down, right?
[00:04:01]  Now, let's go back here, right?
[00:04:02]  This is what's really important.
[00:04:04]  Well, it's all super important, right?
[00:04:05]  So, it's really important, right? So, he smacks and he's down, right?
[00:04:08]  Now, what does she do? What does she do?
[00:04:13]  Does she lean down over him and say, oh my god, are you okay?
[00:04:16]  Does she see if he broke a tooth, if he's cut, if he's concussed?
[00:04:19]  Does she see if he cut himself, maybe the glasses cracked or something like that?
[00:04:24]  Does she see how he's doing?
[00:04:29]  Right? So he whams, right?
[00:04:32]  And she turns, no, she turns immediately to the camera, right?
[00:04:37]  She turns immediately to the camera.
[00:04:38]  And then, what does she do?
[00:04:41]  Does she check on him? Does she see if he's okay?
[00:04:44]  Because he was being chivalrous and checking if she was having a good run and he wasn't going too fast, right?
[00:04:49]  So he didn't pay attention to the world, was paying attention to her.
[00:04:51]  He wrecked himself. He's down.
[00:04:53]  I mean, he could be seriously injured here, right?
[00:04:56]  Nope. She just runs away from him.
[00:05:00]  He's on the ground, rising on the ground, and she's like, tee-hee-hee, and just running away from him, right?
[00:05:05]  Just covering her mouth, right? She's not checking on him.
[00:05:08]  She's not seeing if he's okay.
[00:05:09]  She's not saying, oh my gosh, this is a bad idea.
[00:05:11]  Are you okay? Blah, blah, blah.
[00:05:13]  I can't imagine. She is running away from this guy who got wounded because he was being, obviously, over-considerate and so on, but she's just, like, running.
[00:05:24]  And she doesn't even look back.
[00:05:26]  I mean, he's like, he's on the ground, man.
[00:05:28]  At least he's moving, I guess, right?
[00:05:29]  So he's out, right?
[00:05:31]  So when he goes down, like, he's really stunned, right?
[00:05:34]  Let's go back a little bit. So he just goes, bam, right?
[00:05:38]  I don't know. I don't think it breaks.
[00:05:39]  But he's down. Like, he's not moving, right?
[00:05:41]  And then he just, like, he's up and he's barely able to get up.
[00:05:44]  And she just runs away to the camera, hand over her mouth.
[00:05:48]  She's only concerned about her own shock.
[00:05:50]  She has no care, no concern for him whatsoever.
[00:05:54]  And dudes, this is really rough, right?
[00:05:58]  This is really, really rough.
[00:06:00]  So this is the portrait of a dysfunctional relationship.
[00:06:03]  This could be the portrait of a dysfunctional marriage.
[00:06:06]  This is like 15 seconds of modern gender relations right there.
[00:06:12]  Because he's not showing his strength.
[00:06:13]  He's deferring his strength.
[00:06:15]  He's pretending that she's sort of equal to him, so he's treating her like a child.
[00:06:19]  He's not showing... Because men used to be, like, showing off their strength, right?
[00:06:21]  Look how fast I can run. But because they're competing against...
[00:06:23]  Because he's competing against the woman, he just, you know, he crosses over.
[00:06:27]  He just goes kind of slow.
[00:06:28]  He's kind of goofy and all of that, right?
[00:06:31]  It's not a real run. He's way ahead of her.
[00:06:33]  And he goes, oh, I'm going to turn and check, and you see if you're okay.
[00:06:35]  I'm going to make sure you... And she's like...
[00:06:37]  And then this just crashes.
[00:06:38]  Boom! And then she just runs away.
[00:06:40]  There's no respect for the guy. There's no respect for the guy at all.
[00:06:44]  And she just runs away, doesn't check on him at all.
[00:06:46]  And he could be seriously injured.
[00:06:48]  So, yeah, there's a lot of lessons in this.
[00:06:50]  A lot of lessons in this.