Pearl Daily Live Stream reveals research showing only six of 29 friendships last ~17 years, citing shared growth and mutual effort as key factors. Guests like Terry Joe Jr. blame loneliness on past betrayals—friends who vanished, partners who withdrew, or one-sided relationships—where trust was replaced by "backstabbing bums" or "bloodsuckers." Twitter polls confirm the trend: people quit investing when reciprocity stops. The solution? Become a "hyper-focused individual," prioritize self-improvement, and reject shallow connections, ensuring lasting fulfillment—or risk perpetual dissatisfaction in relationships. [Automatically generated summary]
Six of 29 friends people make it last, you know, 17 years.
I would say that's about true.
That's kind of what I've seen.
Okay, so factors that can affect the length of a friendship are shared experiences, mutual respect, and effort from both individuals.
Now, an interesting thing that I've been seeing on social media is both men and women talking about how they have no close friends.
Now, I'm going to show you guys a couple of videos that really piqued my curiosity into this topic.
So, this is one: I am 25 and I have no friends.
Let me put this.
Oh, wait, hold on.
That's what I am.
So, this is like a compilation of all of them.
Let's see.
I am 25 and I have no friends.
That's when I realized nobody, nobody cares about you in this world.
What the fuck do you do when you're depressed and you don't know what the fuck is going on with your life?
I'm 23, I'm about to graduate.
All these kind of good things are happening around me, but man, I ain't been more depressed in my life because I don't have any friends and honestly, I don't think I've ever had friends.
I don't know, man.
I'm just tired of being alone, bro.
Shit's actually mad, sad, and depressive.
Hand on heart, man.
Yeah, it's sad.
And the only thing I want was being alone.
And I tried to fill the void, like with streaming and that, or like playing games, but it don't work.
Let me play it one more time.
Just to, I think you guys missed it.
I am 25 and I have no friends.
That's when I realized.
Okay.
Then I have one more I'm going to show you.
And for a lot of men, this seems to almost be pragmatic.
So there's this guy on YouTube.
His name is Terry Joe Jr.
And he had a video titled Why You Don't Want Friends, Family, or a Partner Anymore.
So this is an issue globally today, bro.
Globally.
This is an issue.
And most likely for those of you that clicked on this video, a lot of you have this mindset.
Like, you don't want friends, family, or partner anymore.
I'm going to tell you why you think this way.
And you shouldn't put the stamp down that things are going to be this way forever.
It's just you're probably making a transition.
You should never be closed-minded.
And yeah, I'm going to be single for life.
I don't want any more to do with nobody else.
Just this and that.
Like, that's not a good mindset to have.
You have to be optimistic.
You have to be open-minded.
But I'm going to tell you guys today the reason why you think this way.
And we've all been there, bro.
I used to have a shitload of friends, was involved with family, had a girl.
And you never know how life is going to pan out.
You never know what you're going to get hit with, man.
And like, I'm a people person.
People still enjoy talking to me wherever I go.
But it's like It's more so to do with me than anything else.
And it's because of what life has thrown our way.
We have a standard.
There's not many people in the world, if you look at like the majority of the world, that has these high of standards.
And the reason we have this high of standards is because we accepted a lot of stuff around ourselves.
And we got let down.
We expected a lot of the friends we had to be friends for life.
And we expected the girl we were with that that was going to be our girl.
We expected family not to screw us over, but here we are.
Things happen.
Life can take a curveball so fast it's not even funny.
And we don't want to accept a lot of people into our lives.
I'm very selective.
If I'm going to have these friends groups and everything else, it's got to be solid as hell, like some gang shit type shit, bro.
Like they're not friends with a million other people.
Like we're close.
And whoever they're friends with, we're friends with.
And it's just like, it's a solid group.
Because this is what's needed today in the world because the world's nuts.
And same thing with your girl.
If she's talking to a bunch of different guys, then is that really your girl?
No.
We have high standards, bro.
We have high standards.
And that's why a lot of us are in the position we're currently in.
Because we have high standards.
We don't accept just anything like a lot of other people do.
And then that's when you get the 40, 50 year old people calling people like me because things went wrong for so long.
And that's what a lot of other people is going to go through eventually.
Like I'm still young.
There's going to be a lot of people that's even younger than me, around the same age, that's going to go through a lot of stuff.
Somewhere down the line, they're going to get nailed.
People's going to get lost.
The most important thing is that you don't lose yourself.
The most important thing is that you do not lose yourself.
You don't.
You have to be who you are.
You have to have standards.
And this is what makes a man anyways, is a man with standards.
You can't just accept anything in your life.
That's some kid shit.
A lot of people today is involved in the kid shit.
We ain't doing it.
We did it before when we actually were kids.
We're not kids no more.
We're grown adults.
And to have these backstabbing bums around us, to have females we're unsure about around us and family members who don't cut our backs, who think they can just use us for money or some dumb shit.
It's not happening.
It's not happening.
And this is probably why you don't want friends, family, or a partner around you anymore because a lot of people is bullshit and they don't really got you like that.
That is why.
So the best thing you can do under these circumstances is become a hyper-focused individual.
Do not cut corners.
Don't beat around the bush.
Become the best you can be.
Create as much value as you possibly can and carry on in life.
And what's going to happen is going to happen.
I don't recommend being that close-minded where you're completely giving up on people and everything else.
You shouldn't because you never know when great things can happen with other people.
You don't know.
And with all this being said, I got friends, but it's like where I come from, I don't have that group of friends where it's like all the time solid type stuff.
I get along with a lot of people, but at the end of the day, it's like it's more so acquaintances.
Like there's a few people like, bro, I'm probably closest with people that don't even come from where I come from.
Like foreigners, literally.
So it's like the people I'm closest with is scattered all over the world in different places, even some like three hours away from myself right now, two hours away.
But it's like to have a solid group where you come from, to have family on point, to have that girl, to have all these things intact, it's not an easy task today.
You can have this stuff.
You could have a girl.
You could have friends groups.
You could have family around you, but is it solid?
Is it worthy?
Or are you the one carrying everyone on your freaking back like a backpack?
That shit's too heavy.
And this seems to be a common complaint from people.
It seems like many people feel like they are the ones putting effort into relationships and friendships and not getting anything in return.
You know, because I, and I'm going to go through these in a bit, but I started polling people on Twitter and say for and saying, for those of you that don't have close friendships or for those of you that had friendships end, why?
And this was one of the most common things I heard people say was, it's because I stopped putting in effort and the friendship just dissolved.
They ain't got you.
It's like you got them.
You're there for the benefit, for their benefit, but they ain't got you.
You don't feel it.
You feel used the whole time.
And you don't feel like anyone's around you.
Heaven high standards, bro, is going to protect you from a lot of BS is what it's going to do.
You demand a lot from yourself.
You can do so much for others, but can others do the same for you?
You have to have people who's on kind of your level.
And to me, this is a guy just in the background.
He seems to be doing well for himself.
It looks like he's got a good apartment.
It doesn't look cheap.
It's not really the same vibe I get from some of the videos where, you know, the guy looks a little bit socially awkward, unattractive, not in shape, not in a, you know, in a shitty apartment.
Like, it's interesting because two men with very different options in life are seemingly coming to the same conclusion, which is it's just not worth it anymore.
And what's interesting is I'm seeing this pattern not only in relationships with women, but with friendships in general.
I'm going to keep going back.
Wavelength, at least in mindset, and they're building themselves up.
They understand.
They understand the world and how things have to be because anything else is peanuts, man.
It's peanuts.
It's stupid.
It shouldn't even exist.
But you have lots of people just roaming around today, bro.
They're in these friends groups, and it's not going to last.
A lot of people have these girls, but it's not going to last.
We've been there.
Bro, I've been there in a decade ago.
A decade.
It's time to get focused.
It's time to transition.
It's time to take your surroundings very seriously.
Very seriously.
And only the strong is going to survive.
Only the real ones are going to do it right.
Everyone else, they're going to live 20 plus years of their lives coming up.
And everything's going to go to shit.
And it's because they are shit.
They didn't do the right things.
They just lived their life kind of using other people and not using themselves as much as they should have to become a valuable human being to others around them.
That is what everybody must do.
So you having that kind of a standard, bro, it's going to push most people away.
I, bro, there's lots of people that even want to come.
And guys, you're right.
Friendships should be mutual.
So if you're in the chat right now, like the video because I'm demonetized.
I do this for free.
I'm not even the least you guys could do is hit the like button.
Hit it.
All right.
Around me, but I don't really let it happen.
Like I just kind of, I know what this is.
I know what this is.
I know what this is.
Just pushing shit away.
And even like the amount of talking stages I've been in with females, it's like, I know what this is.
And no, I'm not going to take it easy on you.
No, I'm not.
I know what this is.
Why would I take it easy on you?
That's unintelligent.
I'd be naive.
I'm sorry that I'm not stupid, guys.
I'm sorry that I'm not stupid.
I'm sorry.
You can't take advantage of me.
Oh my God.
I'm so sorry.
No, I'm not sorry.
Not even a little bit.
Guys, I've been through it.
A lot of you have been through it.
And a lot of us have this mindset.
Like, we don't really want many people around us.
I don't.
I like selective.
That's what I like.
And the people I select, they're solid.
And it's nothing even crazy.
It's not like the next Albert Einsteins and it's like that, bro.
They're just solid.
They're not perfect.
They're just solid people.
You can feel it when you speak with them.
You can feel it when you engage with them.
They're actually a person that has done work, that has self-reflected, that has humbled themselves to know they must be of value to the people they're involved with.
Not these other bloodsuckers out here, bro, that's trying to use you 24-7.
Not happening.
It is not happening.
You're literally better off by yourself, bro.
Like literally, like I've worked myself to a level where most places I go, most people I run into it.
it's just like there's nothing special anywhere.
Y'all's the most averages, averages things ever.
It's just like, nothing excites me.
People don't excite me, but there's the odd people that come around that excite me, and that's good.
That's good.
Not many people do.
It's predictable, predictable.
Someone's coming up.
You already know what they're going to say.
Predictable, It almost drives you nuts.
It almost drives you nuts.
How predictable shit is.
And it's because they ain't got a solid head attached to their skeleton.
They just don't.
And um that's why a lot of things go the way they go, man, 'cause we understand what the world is like and we push people away because they're no good for us and we already know it and Yeah,