Why She's Wrong and other Life Advice from Steven Crowder
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Welcome this Friday Mug Club Rumble Premium.
They're basically one and the same now.
Users only, this is a love letter to you.
And you can see that I am not wearing my headphones, which is a rarity.
It's like you're naked.
Yeah.
I'd be close.
Is that a Garden of Eden reference?
And they realized that they were naked?
I mean, you're an apple to hand me?
You tell us.
This is a great start.
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We do appreciate it.
I am not wearing my headphones.
I was foreshadowing because it can only mean it's one type of show.
It is time for Tough Love.
Tough love with Guru Crowder.
And this is the show where we take your letters, emails.
Anyone sends letters anymore?
Plus it's a bomb.
And you can send them into toughlove at louderwithcrowder.com.
This is relationship, friendship, life advice, business, whatever it is, anything you want.
And by the way, we could be giving you horrible advice.
I just want you to know that too.
Yeah.
Yeah.
There's a little bit of roasting that goes on in this dude.
You saw the ride.
You bought a ticket.
There's a very strong chance that whatever we do out here today is absolutely incorrect as far as what you should do.
So I'm just letting you know.
That being said, it doesn't matter because I am a certified guru.
You are.
I am a certified guru.
You lift the stamp.
I do.
I paid for the stamps.
Actually overpaid.
I put in one more stamp than I even needed to just because that's how much the guruship meant to me.
And it's how much you care.
Yeah.
Also, we were just talking about this before going on air.
Stranger things.
Yeah.
Boy, did that turn into a pile of crap.
It did.
I was actually curious because I liked the nostalgia of the show.
And I was like, wait a minute, the last one got really demonic, but they kind of stole that one, right?
Yeah, that's what I was sitting here.
I was watching it.
I remember that last.
And wait a second.
Okay, so it's a guy who looks like all burned.
And he, oh, if he kills you in the other, the dream world, you die in the real world.
Yeah.
And he does so by preying on your worst fears.
I'm like, are you shitting me?
This is Freddy Krueger.
It's not even like you're not even without the uniform.
It couldn't be a more direct copy of Jason Voorhees if they included an early hockey mask and kill, kill, kill, kill, kill.
But this is, this couldn't be more blatant.
So anyway, my advice is don't watch it.
Hold on.
Is that you and your are you speaking as a guru?
Okay, because as a guru.
Because then it's official.
As a guru, Stranger Things is a pile of dog shit.
All right.
An old guru fallacy here.
You can send yours into toughlove at louderwithcrowder.com.
Here is our first letter.
It says, Dear Guru Crowder and chief apologizer, Gerald.
I like that.
You got, you know what?
You got the lower third correct.
Yeah.
My sister and I never really got along growing up.
Surprise.
It has to be in control of everything.
I can only tolerate that for so long.
We are in our 30s now, and my sister and her husband are both college professors in California.
Gross, which I think explains a lot of the problem.
So she sees it at least.
That's good.
Well, I don't know if this is a woman or a man.
Let me see.
Let me skip it.
Did you skip ahead?
Her sister.
Well.
What do you mean?
What?
I thought it said her sister.
It just says my sister.
Oh, no, you're right.
It's a woman, but just as my sister.
Yeah.
You just, you, see, that's the thing.
You fill in the blanks in your head, and then you'll remember it, but if you're wrong.
But that's why I'm not a guru yet.
That's true.
Gurus wouldn't do that.
You'll never be a guru.
Gerald, say never.
You'll never be a guru.
There are many different paths.
Even if you pay for the stamps, we will never count you amongst us.
What?
So both college professors in California, which I think explains a lot of the problem.
That's a meme.
They start political fights and then get upset and act as if I'm a horrible human being if I don't either implicitly agree by being silent or use the language they want.
It's as if the person who gets upset is always in the right.
And since I'm not one to openly show such feelings, I'm always wrong.
I know exactly how that goes.
And that is something that, you know, it's not just unique to your to your sister.
It happens a lot in relationships.
And I will say particularly happens between men and women.
I don't know.
Maybe it happens a lot between women, but with men and women, a man often has to control his emotions, right?
Especially if you're a big guy.
They'll say, well, you're scary if you get mad.
So you control it.
And if the opposing party cries or gets upset, you're also the bad guy.
So if you lose, you're cool, you're the bad guy.
And if you keep your cool and they're the only one getting emotional, it must mean that they feel it more deeply.
And it's kind of a dirty trick.
It happens a lot.
You can read books on this, and there are actually courses taught on sort of the weaponization of crying.
So this is not unique to you.
And it sounds to me like your sister is quite willing and able to manipulate right off the bat.
The worst are the fights over my sister's brother-in-law.
He only took a week to decide that he is trans and then destroyed his marriage and the lives of his two young daughters.
And I'm expected to agree with such behavior by calling him by his new name, which is close to the family dog's name or referring to him as a woman.
Well, if it's a female dog, you can just.
Yeah, look, you sell the phone and you go, hey, whatever.
If the guy's new woman's name, I don't know, is like Ethel.
You go, hey, here, Ethel.
Here, Ethel.
Ethel want a treat?
And then you hit him with a rolled-up newspaper.
Repeatedly.
Oh, my gosh.
I'm going to tell you, look, I'm already biased.
I don't like your sister.
What is it?
Brother-in-law?
Well, I don't like your sister whose brother-in-law is trans, who's still a brother.
My dad passed away 18 years ago when I was 13, and my sister was 15, and he was the only one who could mediate.
Now, the reason all this is so frustrating is that I'm disabled and cannot function without help.
And once her mom can no longer take care of me, my sister is the only one I can rely on.
I've stayed with my sister before, and I can only watch your show or any sermons when they aren't home or my sister has a world-ending meltdown.
Our mom is telling me to put up with everything and keep my mouth shut because she most likely rightfully fears trusting my care to any sort of care facility.
I care about my sister, but I fear as things are now, I fear as things are now, it's getting hard not to hate her.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
SSPS, your show has been a great source of comfort that I'm not alone or evil for being conservative.
Thank you, Gerald, for talking about Chuck Missler.
His sermons have been extremely helpful in bringing me back to God's word after I became sick at 14.
Yeah.
Well, that's great.
And thank you.
And I don't want to, I won't use your name, but thank you, N. It's her name, by the way.
It's not.
Yeah, it's not N-word.
I don't know that anybody assumed that's where you were going.
I will say, this is honestly a tough one.
It's tough because I understand, but it's not tough.
Here's the thing.
It's tough and it shouldn't be.
So let me start with this.
It shouldn't be tough because your sister is wrong.