Louder with Crowder - Why She's Wrong and other Life Advice from Steven Crowder
Aired: 2025-09-26
Duration: 08:35


=== Love Letter to Listeners (03:54) ===

[00:01:13]  Welcome this Friday Mug Club Rumble Premium.
[00:01:16]  They're basically one and the same now.
[00:01:18]  Users only, this is a love letter to you.
[00:01:20]  And you can see that I am not wearing my headphones, which is a rarity.
[00:01:26]  It's like you're naked.
[00:01:29]  Yeah.
[00:01:30]  I'd be close.
[00:01:32]  Is that a Garden of Eden reference?
[00:01:34]  And they realized that they were naked?
[00:01:36]  I mean, you're an apple to hand me?
[00:01:38]  You tell us.
[00:01:39]  This is a great start.
[00:01:40]  So if you have not yet done so, and I know we usually just do this when the show is wide to everybody, download the Rumble app.
[00:01:48]  Still the best way to stay in touch.
[00:01:50]  And if you're a Rumble Premium member, it recognizes that automatically and you can get access to all of it.
[00:01:54]  Listen to it as audio while you're driving.
[00:01:56]  Because I know some of you think you can only do video on Rumble and then you download it on Apple or Spotify.
[00:02:01]  You can still keep playing it on your phone, just like audio.
[00:02:03]  We do appreciate it.
[00:02:04]  I am not wearing my headphones.
[00:02:05]  I was foreshadowing because it can only mean it's one type of show.
[00:02:10]  It is time for Tough Love.
[00:02:15]  Tough love with Guru Crowder.
[00:02:20]  And this is the show where we take your letters, emails.
[00:02:24]  Anyone sends letters anymore?
[00:02:26]  Plus it's a bomb.
[00:02:29]  And you can send them into toughlove at louderwithcrowder.com.
[00:02:33]  This is relationship, friendship, life advice, business, whatever it is, anything you want.
[00:02:40]  And by the way, we could be giving you horrible advice.
[00:02:42]  I just want you to know that too.
[00:02:43]  Yeah.
[00:02:44]  Yeah.
[00:02:44]  There's a little bit of roasting that goes on in this dude.
[00:02:46]  You saw the ride.
[00:02:47]  You bought a ticket.
[00:02:48]  There's a very strong chance that whatever we do out here today is absolutely incorrect as far as what you should do.
[00:02:56]  So I'm just letting you know.
[00:02:57]  That being said, it doesn't matter because I am a certified guru.
[00:02:59]  You are.
[00:03:00]  I am a certified guru.
[00:03:01]  You lift the stamp.
[00:03:02]  I do.
[00:03:02]  I paid for the stamps.
[00:03:04]  Actually overpaid.
[00:03:05]  I put in one more stamp than I even needed to just because that's how much the guruship meant to me.
[00:03:10]  And it's how much you care.
[00:03:11]  Yeah.
[00:03:11]  Also, we were just talking about this before going on air.
[00:03:14]  Stranger things.
[00:03:15]  Yeah.
[00:03:15]  Boy, did that turn into a pile of crap.
[00:03:17]  It did.
[00:03:18]  I was actually curious because I liked the nostalgia of the show.
[00:03:21]  And I was like, wait a minute, the last one got really demonic, but they kind of stole that one, right?
[00:03:25]  Yeah, that's what I was sitting here.
[00:03:25]  I was watching it.
[00:03:26]  I remember that last.
[00:03:27]  And wait a second.
[00:03:28]  Okay, so it's a guy who looks like all burned.
[00:03:31]  And he, oh, if he kills you in the other, the dream world, you die in the real world.
[00:03:35]  Yeah.
[00:03:36]  And he does so by preying on your worst fears.
[00:03:38]  I'm like, are you shitting me?
[00:03:39]  This is Freddy Krueger.
[00:03:40]  It's not even like you're not even without the uniform.
[00:03:43]  It couldn't be a more direct copy of Jason Voorhees if they included an early hockey mask and kill, kill, kill, kill, kill.
[00:03:50]  But this is, this couldn't be more blatant.
[00:03:52]  So anyway, my advice is don't watch it.
[00:03:57]  Hold on.
[00:03:57]  Is that you and your are you speaking as a guru?
[00:04:00]  Okay, because as a guru.
[00:04:01]  Because then it's official.
[00:04:03]  As a guru, Stranger Things is a pile of dog shit.
[00:04:07]  All right.
[00:04:08]  An old guru fallacy here.
[00:04:09]  You can send yours into toughlove at louderwithcrowder.com.
[00:04:13]  Here is our first letter.
[00:04:15]  It says, Dear Guru Crowder and chief apologizer, Gerald.
[00:04:18]  I like that.
[00:04:19]  You got, you know what?
[00:04:20]  You got the lower third correct.
[00:04:22]  Yeah.
[00:04:24]  My sister and I never really got along growing up.
[00:04:28]  Surprise.
[00:04:32]  It has to be in control of everything.
[00:04:33]  I can only tolerate that for so long.
[00:04:36]  We are in our 30s now, and my sister and her husband are both college professors in California.
[00:04:41]  Gross, which I think explains a lot of the problem.
[00:04:44]  So she sees it at least.
[00:04:45]  That's good.
[00:04:46]  Well, I don't know if this is a woman or a man.
[00:04:47]  Let me see.
[00:04:47]  Let me skip it.
[00:04:48]  Did you skip ahead?
[00:04:49]  Her sister.
[00:04:50]  Well.
[00:04:51]  What do you mean?
[00:04:51]  What?

=== Brother vs. Sister Law (03:42) ===

[00:04:52]  I thought it said her sister.
[00:04:53]  It just says my sister.
[00:04:54]  Oh, no, you're right.
[00:04:55]  It's a woman, but just as my sister.
[00:04:56]  Yeah.
[00:04:57]  You just, you, see, that's the thing.
[00:04:58]  You fill in the blanks in your head, and then you'll remember it, but if you're wrong.
[00:05:02]  But that's why I'm not a guru yet.
[00:05:03]  That's true.
[00:05:04]  Gurus wouldn't do that.
[00:05:05]  You'll never be a guru.
[00:05:07]  Gerald, say never.
[00:05:08]  You'll never be a guru.
[00:05:09]  There are many different paths.
[00:05:11]  Even if you pay for the stamps, we will never count you amongst us.
[00:05:14]  What?
[00:05:16]  So both college professors in California, which I think explains a lot of the problem.
[00:05:19]  That's a meme.
[00:05:20]  They start political fights and then get upset and act as if I'm a horrible human being if I don't either implicitly agree by being silent or use the language they want.
[00:05:29]  It's as if the person who gets upset is always in the right.
[00:05:32]  And since I'm not one to openly show such feelings, I'm always wrong.
[00:05:36]  I know exactly how that goes.
[00:05:38]  And that is something that, you know, it's not just unique to your to your sister.
[00:05:43]  It happens a lot in relationships.
[00:05:46]  And I will say particularly happens between men and women.
[00:05:49]  I don't know.
[00:05:49]  Maybe it happens a lot between women, but with men and women, a man often has to control his emotions, right?
[00:05:55]  Especially if you're a big guy.
[00:05:57]  They'll say, well, you're scary if you get mad.
[00:05:58]  So you control it.
[00:05:59]  And if the opposing party cries or gets upset, you're also the bad guy.
[00:06:04]  So if you lose, you're cool, you're the bad guy.
[00:06:06]  And if you keep your cool and they're the only one getting emotional, it must mean that they feel it more deeply.
[00:06:10]  And it's kind of a dirty trick.
[00:06:12]  It happens a lot.
[00:06:14]  You can read books on this, and there are actually courses taught on sort of the weaponization of crying.
[00:06:19]  So this is not unique to you.
[00:06:21]  And it sounds to me like your sister is quite willing and able to manipulate right off the bat.
[00:06:27]  The worst are the fights over my sister's brother-in-law.
[00:06:31]  He only took a week to decide that he is trans and then destroyed his marriage and the lives of his two young daughters.
[00:06:37]  And I'm expected to agree with such behavior by calling him by his new name, which is close to the family dog's name or referring to him as a woman.
[00:06:47]  Well, if it's a female dog, you can just.
[00:06:48]  Yeah, look, you sell the phone and you go, hey, whatever.
[00:06:51]  If the guy's new woman's name, I don't know, is like Ethel.
[00:06:55]  You go, hey, here, Ethel.
[00:06:57]  Here, Ethel.
[00:06:58]  Ethel want a treat?
[00:06:59]  And then you hit him with a rolled-up newspaper.
[00:07:03]  Repeatedly.
[00:07:04]  Oh, my gosh.
[00:07:05]  I'm going to tell you, look, I'm already biased.
[00:07:06]  I don't like your sister.
[00:07:09]  What is it?
[00:07:09]  Brother-in-law?
[00:07:10]  Well, I don't like your sister whose brother-in-law is trans, who's still a brother.
[00:07:14]  My dad passed away 18 years ago when I was 13, and my sister was 15, and he was the only one who could mediate.
[00:07:19]  Now, the reason all this is so frustrating is that I'm disabled and cannot function without help.
[00:07:23]  And once her mom can no longer take care of me, my sister is the only one I can rely on.
[00:07:28]  I've stayed with my sister before, and I can only watch your show or any sermons when they aren't home or my sister has a world-ending meltdown.
[00:07:35]  Our mom is telling me to put up with everything and keep my mouth shut because she most likely rightfully fears trusting my care to any sort of care facility.
[00:07:45]  I care about my sister, but I fear as things are now, I fear as things are now, it's getting hard not to hate her.
[00:07:52]  Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
[00:07:54]  SSPS, your show has been a great source of comfort that I'm not alone or evil for being conservative.
[00:07:58]  Thank you, Gerald, for talking about Chuck Missler.
[00:08:00]  His sermons have been extremely helpful in bringing me back to God's word after I became sick at 14.
[00:08:05]  Yeah.
[00:08:06]  Well, that's great.
[00:08:07]  And thank you.
[00:08:08]  And I don't want to, I won't use your name, but thank you, N. It's her name, by the way.
[00:08:12]  It's not.
[00:08:13]  Yeah, it's not N-word.
[00:08:16]  I don't know that anybody assumed that's where you were going.
[00:08:19]  I will say, this is honestly a tough one.
[00:08:22]  It's tough because I understand, but it's not tough.
[00:08:26]  Here's the thing.
[00:08:26]  It's tough and it shouldn't be.
[00:08:28]  So let me start with this.
[00:08:29]  It shouldn't be tough because your sister is wrong.
[00:08:33]  Your sister is objectively wrong.