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Interview Insights
00:02:26
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| In the opening of the book, you're talking about you and John and the story about an interview. | |
| And you were told essentially that you had limited ability. | |
| I hate to say this. | |
| I didn't want to ask this question. | |
| But you started your book with it. | |
| That was good. | |
| And that is so crazy. | |
| I would say I was a strong personality, but I was really, really shy and insecure, even when we got married. | |
| And it was about six months into our marriage that we had the interview. | |
| We were asked by a pastor to consider going on staff, or John was. | |
| And he said, but I'd like to interview you first. | |
| And will you meet me at a particular restaurant for the interview? | |
| And we're like, sure. | |
| And so I was so petrified. | |
| And I remember, I think I changed like 10 times. | |
| Exactly where. | |
| You know, Laura. | |
| I know. | |
| I know. | |
| Because I wanted to do well for him. | |
| Exactly. | |
| So we sat for an hour. | |
| And this is a man of God. | |
| So when I tell the story, I want to honor him. | |
| Yes. | |
| But he had misconceptions. | |
| And actually, he just viewed women in a way that wasn't as honoring as it should be. | |
| But the interview, he never looked at me one time. | |
| He directed all his questions toward John, which I was like, well, that's appropriate. | |
| He's hiring him. | |
| So he got done with the interview or came to a close. | |
| And he said, well, John, he said, you have answered all these questions so masterfully. | |
| He said, I am so impressed with you. | |
| And I was like, yes, he's an amazing man. | |
| You should hire him. | |
| That's what I was thinking. | |
| That's what you're thinking about. | |
| And he said, on a scale of one to ten, he said, I would say you're a 10. | |
| And he said, but I just need to be honest with you. | |
| He said, I've got to tell you, he said, on a scale of one to 10, I'd rate your wife at a four. | |
| And he never looked at me. | |
| Oh, that's so crushing for a woman. | |
| Here's what I thought. | |
| Immediately, I was like, a hand on her leg. | |
| Yeah. | |
| On her knee. | |
| I ran up on her leg. | |
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The Lie That Lasts
00:00:46
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| I was like, oh, I was like, how does he know in just an hour? | |
| How could he assess me so accurately? | |
| That's what I was thinking. | |
| Yeah. | |
| Because I really viewed myself in a limited, honestly, unbiblical way. | |
| I can't believe you put that in the book, especially as your husband. | |
| Oh, I love it. | |
| I love it. | |
| I'm telling you, it could stay with you the rest of your life. | |
| Well, it stayed with me a lot of years, you know, 15. | |
| It's a lie, though. | |
| But you know what? | |
| The enemy uses all sorts of tools. | |
| That's right. | |
| And the lie is the same to every woman. | |
| Actually, every man. | |
| Every human being. | |
| But here you are. | |
| Here she is. | |
| The woman was a four. | |
| That's a put-down. | |
| That is not good. | |
| But she is rated a four. | |