I'm checking in from a rainy forest of enlightenment and I thought to elaborate on the nature of love.
I'm checking in in the form of a sensitive poet, and as such, it pains me to share such unromantic insights as I will share in this fine video.
So, as you see in the title, A Mother's Love and Unconditional Love.
What does it mean?
Yes, simply put, it means that there is one person in the world who loves you unconditionally.
She loves you no matter what.
Then, of course, you have exceptions.
Maybe you have a grandmother who does the same, but I'm painting with a very broad brush here.
So, we're painting a broad picture of the situation at hand.
So, yeah, take it for what it is.
There are, as always, many exceptions, but usually the case that your mother loves you unconditionally.
Most mothers do, at least.
And this is also something you can see if you have some sort of criminal who's been shot by the police, and then you'll have the mother crying and saying that he was a good boy.
Because for most mothers, it doesn't really matter what happens.
Their beloved boy, their beloved son, will always be, in their eyes, a good boy.
But the world might see it in a different way, of course.
Now, this can be contrasted against a woman's love, a woman's love which is very conditional.
It depends on your performance as a man.
And now, this is the unromantic part here, which I don't really like to talk about because, as I said, I'm a sensitive romantic poet who believes in love and nice epic love poems and the like.
But yeah, we need to be real about the situation because the Pandora's box is opened, and the deeper, darker aspects of female psychology are out in the open.
So, it's better that you hear this insight from me now than that you experience it for yourself.
So, basically, I said a few videos, in a few videos, I've said that you, as a man, you create your value.
So, a woman already has her value because she is biologically more valuable.
And as a man, you have to create your value.
So, for your mother, you're valuable as you are, but for others, you're only so much worth as the value you can bring to others.
Same thing in a love relationship: that you know, a woman will, of course, determine the quality of a man.
Now, a woman's attraction will, of course, depend on a wide variety of factors.
A primary one is drive, ambition, your thumbs.
Now, to properly understand this, we need to view it in an evolutionary sense.
You have a woman, she is her survival and the survival of her children depends on the man's capability.
So, she is by necessity allergic to behaviors in a man that could spell death literally for her and her offspring.
So, if she perceives the man as being weak, being lazy, being stupid, all of these things, being cowardly, all of these things, then she will lose attraction because it's not a good investment for a woman to be with a man who will put her in danger because he's incompetent.
So, that is completely normal, it's fine.
So, it doesn't make women bad or anything.
It's not a bad evolutionary trait.
It's completely normal.
Of course, a woman needs to look out for herself and her children.
And for a woman, she's always, you know, again, unconditional love from the mother to her children.
And therefore, she needs to be on the lookout for bad signs in the man.
So, weakness or cowardice.
And when I say weakness, I don't mean that you need to be deadlifting 300 kilos.
There are plenty of complete cowards who are, you know, pseudo-tough guys.
You have powerlifters, strong men, martial artists.
They are complete cowards when push comes to shove.
When the heat comes on, they crack because they don't have that axis mundi within them.
They don't have that genuine strength and toughness.
But usually, it's the case that if a man is physically strong, he's also mentally strong because the two go hand in hand.
But when I say strength, it's the strength to be a stable rock in her life, in her children's life.
So you need to become the axis mundi that she can rely on in all circumstances.
And now we get into the question: should you ever cry in front of your wife?
Well, the short answer is no, but there are also situations where it's completely fine.
The part that is not fine is when you show hesitation and you show that you feel hopeless.
That type of cry that causes terror and fear in her, and of course, makes her lose attraction to you.
But if you cry for some other reason, whatever it might be, maybe you cry for the beauty of a landscape or whatever it might be.
I don't say that you should do it, but there's different types of emotional states of consciousness.
So the type of emotion you should never show is this hopelessness and lack of drive, laziness, and you know, you feel despair.
So you should never despair.
You can be sad or you can be sensitive, but it should never be because you are insecure or if you feel hopeless or anything like that.
Because that in her evolutionary mind is, you know, it spells that you're afraid to go out of the cave to hunt megafauna to supply for her and her children.
Evolutionary speaking.
Now, again, I'm painting with a very broad brusher.
And if you have gotten a man cold and you bemoan your fate, any good loving wife, she will nurse you back to health and not think twice about it.
But if you have a if she observes a pattern, a habit in you that is, you know, has to do with laziness, for example, yeah, that can be that can make her lose attraction for you.
And then she perceives, not logically, but her evolutionary psychology interprets that as a mortal danger for her and her children, that you don't have the drive, the ambition to go out of the cave to hunt said megafauna.
Now I'm just using this as an example, but hopefully you know what I mean.
And now a note on female hypergamy.
There are good aspects and bad aspects of it.
So we need to make the distinction between a married woman, a woman with children, and an unmarried woman without children.
Now there is, in my mind, it is completely normal, natural, and even good for a woman to leave a man if she perceives him as being unable to do his duty.
So it's usually quite common to see men lamenting the fact that women don't want to settle down to have children, but in many situations it's because of the man.
He isn't ready, he isn't ready, he doesn't have the courage to settle down and to have children.
Now I'm not talking about this American conservatives who say you need to man up and marry a woman with a very long, very large body count.
I'm not saying that, I'm saying that there are men, young men, if they've been together with their girlfriend for a few years, she wants to have babies, of course, because that's what all women want.
Maybe she doesn't say it, but you should be able to understand that she does want it whether she says it or not.
It's completely normal.
And now she might perceive that the man he's lazy, he doesn't want to, he can't give her what she wants.
Babies, a family.
Yeah, then it's completely normal if she decides to leave him to find a man who can actually do his duty, who can actually fulfill her as a woman by simply put impregnating her.
So huge difference between a married woman with children and an unmarried woman without children.
Now, since we are on the topic, I'm of course completely against no-fault divorce because the primary victim of a divorce is the child or the children.
So that is a completely different thing.
And if I have any young woman listening to this, it's quite easy actually.
It's quite easy.
This is how it's been done for in every culture, in every time, basically.
Perennial wisdom from the golden one right here.
So if he doesn't want children with you, now I'm not saying that it needs to happen now.
Perhaps your living situation is not optimal for it.
But if he doesn't have a plan, if you don't have a plan, then he has no business being intimate with you.
If he doesn't want to have, if he doesn't want to create a family, then you shouldn't give up yourself to him.
Simply put.
So if you want a family, if you want children, then you say that to him that, okay, either we make a plan, it doesn't need to happen right now, but we should have a plan.
And if he says, no, I'm not ready, then you say, okay, then I close my legs and then we can break up because this isn't leading anywhere.
And then you can find a man who's ready to actually create something with you instead of just wasting time.
So a bit of tough love here from me.
A bit of tough love, but it needs to be said.
And of course, if you're a man, perhaps I'll make a separate video saying make your girlfriend pregnant or leave her, something like that.
That is also true that if you have a relationship and if you aren't ready for some reason, then let her go.
Let her go so she can find someone to start a family with because women are more time-sensitive, as it were.
They can't waste as much time as a man.
I don't think you should waste too much time as a man either, by the way.
But yeah, the honorable thing is to do then when you have come to this realization at least.
This is new knowledge for many guys, of course, because you've been taught by contemporary culture that the right thing is to focus on your own pleasure and not take responsibility.
And a child is such a burden.
It is not a burden.
A child is a blessing, by the way.
So to conclude, a mother's love, unconditional.
She will love you no matter what you do.
This is good and bad.
If that's the only type of love, if you don't get any tough love from others in your life, then it might be bad because then you expect to be loved no matter what you do.
But it's also good to have that safe haven in the form of a mother who will always be there for you no matter what.
But when it comes to a woman's love, it is conditional.
It depends on your value, your value and usefulness to her and her children.
And this is something good in a woman.
It's a good, normal, natural, evolutionary trait of a woman.
And it will keep you sharp as well.
So I've seen over all of these years, I've seen a few guys, they are in a good shape, they're driven, and then they end up in a relationship.
They think the quest stops there because they've already gotten the woman.
But the hard part is not to get a woman, it's to keep a woman interested in you, attracted to you, and then you can't just stop because that's, you know, she's attracted to your drive.
And to retain the attraction, you need to retain your drive.
Simple stuff, really.
So you need to be jacked, you need to go to the gym, you need to do deadlifts if you can.
Perhaps you have an issue with your back, then you shouldn't.
Then you can do some bench press, you should train, train some MMA, train some with firearms as well.
Do be a good, dependable man, and also have that Axis Mundi within you, have that inner strength so that she can always rely on you to be a calm presence.
No one expects you to be a Superman, but at least you can be a calm, confident presence in her life that she can always lean on and rely on.
So even if you get, even if you are sick or if you are weak temporarily, as long as you maintain your inner spiritual composure, then all will be well.
So yeah, something to keep in mind that don't stop developing yourself just because you end up in the relationship.
You need to continue because otherwise she might perceive that as a bad trait in you, as a bad habit, and then she will lose attraction and then it's downhill from there.
So do keep the greater goal in mind and push towards excellence and yeah, all will be well.
So anyway, thank you for listening to my ramblings here out in somewhat dreary Hyperborea.
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