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You can ask any question at all without fear of shame or public disclosure and we will give you the most honest possible answer. | ||
I got drunk at a wedding recently and argued with the father of the bride about Trump. | ||
He's a raging liberal and was being loud and obnoxious. | ||
My wife says I have to apologize to the whole family. | ||
Should I? Well, no and yes. | ||
No, you should not apologize to the whole family. | ||
You didn't argue with the whole family. | ||
You argued with the drunk, obnoxious liberal. | ||
Who is the father of the bride? | ||
And yes, you should apologize to him. | ||
There are three things to know about apologies. | ||
The first is that if you're going to do it, you have to go all the way. | ||
This was the advice my father gave me when I was a kid. | ||
He's like, it's like pregnancy. | ||
Maybe you want to enter into it, maybe you don't. | ||
But once you do, you're all in. | ||
There's nothing more pointless or counterproductive than a half-hearted apology. | ||
If you're going to apologize, go all the way. | ||
The second thing to know about an apology is that It frees you. | ||
If there's any question about whether you did something wrong, just admit it. | ||
Why do you care? | ||
You don't care. | ||
Because you know exactly who you are. | ||
You're not insecure. | ||
Why do you care what this guy thinks of you? | ||
You shouldn't. | ||
His opinion is not worth anything. | ||
So to apologize to him frees you from any obligation to him. | ||
Or any thought about him, or any worry about him, and it does the third thing, which is why it's a good idea, it establishes you as the boss. | ||
It is the ultimate power move to look him straight in the face and say, you know, I'm sorry I got drunk, and I didn't mean to argue with you, and it was a wedding, and I'm sorry that I did. | ||
And he's thinking to himself, there's obviously some sort of backhanded attack here. | ||
He doesn't really mean that. | ||
You stare straight into his face and say, I'm really sorry about that. | ||
I hope you'll forgive me for doing that. | ||
Who's dad in that scenario? | ||
Who's the boss? | ||
Is it him? | ||
No. | ||
It's you. | ||
Because you're the one who rose above it. | ||
You care so little about his opinion that it doesn't bother you even for a second to say you're sorry. | ||
Because it's not that meaningful. | ||
I'm sorry. | ||
And mean it. | ||
Don't smirk. | ||
Don't be sarcastic. | ||
You win when you do that. | ||
Because, by the way, why were you arguing with this guy in the first place? | ||
Do you have nothing else to do? | ||
At a wedding? | ||
You could be dancing. | ||
You could be wooing your wife. | ||
Talking to people, normal people, not angry MSNBC viewers, and yet you, because you have no self-control or anything better to do, your schedule is not packed enough, you wound up arguing with some douchebag about Trump? | ||
You're not plowing new ground there, arguing about Trump? | ||
What is it, 2017? | ||
Please. | ||
You're not going to win that argument, win the argument, convince him of anything? | ||
Of course, he watches MSNBC! He hates you because you exist. | ||
Don't engage with him. | ||
You're right. | ||
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Trump's a genocidal maniac fascist Nazi. | |
All right. | ||
You're great. | ||
And go on and have fun. | ||
If you want to win, in other words, if when all of this is over, you want to be in the top spot, maybe not financially, but spiritually, enjoy yourself. | ||
Don't get caught up in the traps before you like. | ||
Assholes like that. | ||
So of course you apologize. | ||
Plus, your wife will take the same message. | ||
You're a bigger man. | ||
That's true. | ||
You should do that. | ||
You lose nothing. | ||
All right. | ||
Second question. |