The Tucker Carlson Show - Tucker Carlson - You can ask us anything, although you won’t always like the answer. Welcome to the first episode of Ask Tucker.
Aired: 2023-12-14
Duration: 03:32


=== Apologize to Him (02:07) ===

[00:00:01]  You can ask any question at all without fear of shame or public disclosure and we will give you the most honest possible answer.
[00:00:09]  I got drunk at a wedding recently and argued with the father of the bride about Trump.
[00:00:14]  He's a raging liberal and was being loud and obnoxious.
[00:00:18]  My wife says I have to apologize to the whole family.
[00:00:21]  Should I? Well, no and yes.
[00:00:24]  No, you should not apologize to the whole family.
[00:00:26]  You didn't argue with the whole family.
[00:00:28]  You argued with the drunk, obnoxious liberal.
[00:00:30]  Who is the father of the bride?
[00:00:32]  And yes, you should apologize to him.
[00:00:35]  There are three things to know about apologies.
[00:00:38]  The first is that if you're going to do it, you have to go all the way.
[00:00:42]  This was the advice my father gave me when I was a kid.
[00:00:43]  He's like, it's like pregnancy.
[00:00:45]  Maybe you want to enter into it, maybe you don't.
[00:00:47]  But once you do, you're all in.
[00:00:49]  There's nothing more pointless or counterproductive than a half-hearted apology.
[00:00:52]  If you're going to apologize, go all the way.
[00:00:56]  The second thing to know about an apology is that It frees you.
[00:01:02]  If there's any question about whether you did something wrong, just admit it.
[00:01:08]  Why do you care?
[00:01:09]  You don't care.
[00:01:10]  Because you know exactly who you are.
[00:01:12]  You're not insecure.
[00:01:14]  Why do you care what this guy thinks of you?
[00:01:16]  You shouldn't.
[00:01:17]  His opinion is not worth anything.
[00:01:18]  So to apologize to him frees you from any obligation to him.
[00:01:25]  Or any thought about him, or any worry about him, and it does the third thing, which is why it's a good idea, it establishes you as the boss.
[00:01:32]  It is the ultimate power move to look him straight in the face and say, you know, I'm sorry I got drunk, and I didn't mean to argue with you, and it was a wedding, and I'm sorry that I did.
[00:01:43]  And he's thinking to himself, there's obviously some sort of backhanded attack here.
[00:01:47]  He doesn't really mean that.
[00:01:49]  You stare straight into his face and say, I'm really sorry about that.
[00:01:51]  I hope you'll forgive me for doing that.
[00:01:53]  Who's dad in that scenario?
[00:01:54]  Who's the boss?
[00:01:56]  Is it him?
[00:01:57]  No.
[00:01:58]  It's you.
[00:01:59]  Because you're the one who rose above it.
[00:02:01]  You care so little about his opinion that it doesn't bother you even for a second to say you're sorry.
[00:02:07]  Because it's not that meaningful.

=== Rising Above Arguments (01:23) ===

[00:02:08]  I'm sorry.
[00:02:09]  And mean it.
[00:02:10]  Don't smirk.
[00:02:11]  Don't be sarcastic.
[00:02:13]  You win when you do that.
[00:02:15]  Because, by the way, why were you arguing with this guy in the first place?
[00:02:18]  Do you have nothing else to do?
[00:02:19]  At a wedding?
[00:02:20]  You could be dancing.
[00:02:21]  You could be wooing your wife.
[00:02:23]  Talking to people, normal people, not angry MSNBC viewers, and yet you, because you have no self-control or anything better to do, your schedule is not packed enough, you wound up arguing with some douchebag about Trump?
[00:02:38]  You're not plowing new ground there, arguing about Trump?
[00:02:41]  What is it, 2017?
[00:02:43]  Please.
[00:02:44]  You're not going to win that argument, win the argument, convince him of anything?
[00:02:48]  Of course, he watches MSNBC! He hates you because you exist.
[00:02:53]  Don't engage with him.
[00:02:55]  You're right.
[00:02:57]  Trump's a genocidal maniac fascist Nazi.
[00:03:01]  All right.
[00:03:01]  You're great.
[00:03:03]  And go on and have fun.
[00:03:05]  If you want to win, in other words, if when all of this is over, you want to be in the top spot, maybe not financially, but spiritually, enjoy yourself.
[00:03:17]  Don't get caught up in the traps before you like.
[00:03:20]  Assholes like that.
[00:03:22]  So of course you apologize.
[00:03:23]  Plus, your wife will take the same message.
[00:03:26]  You're a bigger man.
[00:03:27]  That's true.
[00:03:28]  You should do that.
[00:03:29]  You lose nothing.
[00:03:30]  All right.
[00:03:31]  Second question.