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Regret in Relationships
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| And I was saying this on X Today. | |
| That if you get early, mid-20s without a girlfriend, what do you signal to a woman? | |
| What is it like to be, because what are women looking for? | |
| What is it like to be on the receiving end of a guy who's 24, 25, never had a girlfriend? | |
| Well, first of all, she's going to assume that you're a pornography addict, right? | |
| And she probably is right. | |
| Not always, but probably. | |
| But she's also going to say, okay, so Bro has had like seven, eight, nine years to get a girlfriend. | |
| He's been unable to get a girlfriend. | |
| Either all the women are saying no, and if all the girls and women say no, well, there's probably a reason, or he lacks that elemental courage to just ask girls out, get knocked down, get back up again, ask some other girl out, get knocked down. | |
| I mean, God, go learn from our Arab friends, right? | |
| So it's really tough. | |
| It's really tough to get, because women are looking for courage, right? | |
| They're looking for courage. | |
| I mean, instinctually, they're looking for courage, assertiveness. | |
| They're looking for directness. | |
| They're looking for maybe even a certain level of aggression because you had to historically fight with other men for the resources. | |
| And she's not going to want to mate with a guy who doesn't display any particular signs of courage and directness. | |
| And I see something, I go for it. | |
| If I get it or not, it's not as important as the fact that I saw it and went for it. | |
| So you don't have a long time. | |
| You don't have a long time. | |
| The quality women are getting snapped up left, right, and center, of course, right? | |
| And from, I don't know, when people start dating, 16, 15, 16, 17, you've got eight years, nine years. | |
| And this is not an absolute rule. | |
| There's exceptions and so on. | |
| But you don't have as long as you think you do. | |
| And it's not a straight line and then a drop-off, right? | |
| You have sort of fairly significant sexual market value when you're young, late teens, right? | |
| For men too and women, right? | |
| And then it goes down. | |
| It doesn't just and then pop doesn't drop off a cliff. | |
| It goes down. | |
| Every day you don't ask a girl out and get her to at least get on a date at some possibility. | |
| Every day you don't do that, your sexual market value declines. | |
| Every cigarette you smoke increases your risk of cancer. | |
| And every day you let go by without talking to a girl, asking a girl out, doing the manly business of continuing the line and falling in love and having children and a legacy and people to take care of you when you're old. | |
| Every day you don't do that, your sexual market value diminishes. | |
| I'm just being straight up with you. | |
| I want to help. | |
| I want you to panic a little bit. | |
| I want you to panic. | |
| And again, it's not an absolute hard and fast rule. | |
| There's exceptions, but don't count on being the exceptions. | |
| That's like not saving for your retirement saying, I'll just play the lottery. | |
| There are exceptions, but don't plan on them. | |
| Grandma Moses became a famous artist later on. | |
| *Sigh* *Sigh* *Sigh* *Sigh* *Sigh* | |
| And it doesn't guarantee, of course, that you're going to get the love of your life, but it's guaranteed that you won't if you don't try anything. | |
| That I guarantee you. | |
| If you don't try anything, you get nothing. | |
| And I'll tell you the last thing the devil does, and I'll make sure I get you your questions. | |
| So the last thing the devil does is when it's beyond fixing, he lifts the veil. | |
| It's also called a midlife crisis or perpetual regret. | |
| When it is beyond fixing, the devil will lift the veil and regret will come pouring in. | |
| Ah, shit, I should have. | |
| Come on. | |
| There's literally a meme for this or a trope for this, and it's way older than memes and tropes, but the one that got away. | |
| Don't you have if you're a man, some girl, a woman, if you're a woman, some boy or man. | |
| I should have. | |
| I wonder if I let her get away. | |
| It'll slip through my fingers. | |
| I mean, I've got tons of messages over the years from the guys who are like, man, she was flirting with me. | |
| I didn't even realize it. | |
| She kept hanging around and laughing and touching her hair. | |
| She touched me on the knee. | |
| She asked me to start a fire for her when we were camping. | |
| And I was just like, okay, I'll go get the wood. | |
| And I sympathize because, you know, we're not raised well. | |
| I sympathize. | |
| But don't be, you know, it's a long life to have regret in, man. | |
| It is a long life to have regret in. | |
| And you may even curse the longevity of life if you have too much regret. | |
| I don't regret the things I've done. | |
| In general, people regret the things they don't do. | |
| Regret is not for what you've done. | |
| In general, regret is for what you haven't done. | |
| All right, so let me get to your questions and comments. | |
| All right. | |
| Hi, Steph. | |