June 24, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
06:24
How to Tell Valid Criticism
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If there's no such thing as immoral behavior, why would he criticize me?
No such thing as immoral behavior.
Oh, it feels bad.
No, that's just hedonism on the other side of the coin.
No, when you talk to atheists, they got nothing, nothing behind their moral pronouncements.
It's all manipulation and feels and conformity and cross-your-fingers witchful thinking bullshit.
Bullshit.
So, there's no such thing as good and bad, right and wrong, but apparently ripping apart people's families is bad, whatever that means.
And there's no morals.
So he says, not sure why you would invoke fairy tale concepts.
Now, the word sin to me is something that your conscience will get you on, that you claim is universal, but use for your own advantage, right?
So he said, your entire shtick for a while.
So there's certain NPC words, right, that you just know.
Grifter, of course, is one of them.
And shtick.
Also, when people use inappropriate, quote-friendly nicknames like Steffi, Molly meme, I'm sort of torn on because, you know, it's become a meme of its own, so I don't consider it particularly malicious.
So your entire shtick, that shtick is not an argument, for a while was about convincing people to cut ties and relationships with those around them that you would perceive to be, quote, toxic.
This isn't a rumor.
And Andrew Wilson, thank you, chimed in so good advice.
So convincing people to cut ties in relationships with those around them that you would perceive to be toxic.
So the analogy I used many years ago was if you think that a bridge, like I said, so you've got a little footbridge over a stream, right?
It's a little footbridge over a stream.
And you say, this footbridge is solid and firm and strong.
And I say, well, then you should walk over it because you don't want to get wet or muddy or whatever.
And then you walk over it and the footbridge collapses.
Are you mad at me?
Hey, man, you made me go on this footbridge.
No, it didn't.
You said the footbridge was strong.
I don't want you to get muddy and wet, so go walk on the footbridge.
So what did I say to people back in the day for many years, which I absolutely would still say today?
It's a triple T. Standard English afternoon, a triple T. Tell the truth.
Oh, you thought I was going to go up there, didn't you?
So did I. But no.
Tell the truth.
That's all I say.
People say, well, my father did this wrong.
My mother did this wrong.
I was really angry about this.
I'm really upset.
Tell them the truth.
Sit down with them and tell them what your problems are.
Tell them what your criticisms are.
Tell them what your issues are.
Don't be in a relationship and lie your ass off.
And I say that with great sympathy.
Don't be in a relationship and lie your ass off.
That is dishonorable to you.
It's dishonorable to the other person.
And lying in your primary relationships has massive negative effects on your heart, mind, conscience, your soul, for want of a better word.
Don't lie in your primary relationships.
Don't put on a fake smile.
Don't pretend things are fine when you're angry.
Communicate.
Be honest, open, direct with people in your life.
So people would go and talk to their parents.
And if it was parents, right?
It could be husband, wife, and parents.
This is a typical thing, right?
Now, if telling people, go and talk to your parents about what's bothering you, how would that be to rip apart families?
Families are already apart.
Like they're already apart.
If people aren't talking about what they think and feel.
There is no connection.
If you're in a family situation and you're biting your tongue, you're dissociating, you're not being honest, you're just being run over by the other person's indifference and avoidance and gaslighting.
You don't exist.
You're like a ghost.
Go and be honest and tell the truth.
I mean, that's like the Robin Williams genie in Aladdin, just tell the truth, triple T. Forgive me, Father, for I was raised, raised, raised, raised, almost whipped up with the commandment, thou shalt not bear false witness.
Thou shalt not bear false witness.
What was I always told as a child?
What were you always told as a child?
Tell the truth.
Tell the truth.
Be honest.
Don't lie.
I mean, do me this.
Do me this.
Hit me with a why if you were punished as a child for lying either directly or indirectly.
Hit me with a why.
If you were punished either in school or in church, extended family, in your family, wherever, were you punished for lying?
I mean, I was.
I was punished for lying.
And I was told to tell the truth.
Wasn't complicated.
Be honest.
Be honest.
And I was told that I had to be responsible for my own decisions.