Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux - How to Tell Valid Criticism
Aired: 2025-06-24
Duration: 06:24


=== Tell The Truth (06:23) ===

[00:00:00]  If there's no such thing as immoral behavior, why would he criticize me?
[00:00:05]  No such thing as immoral behavior.
[00:00:08]  Oh, it feels bad.
[00:00:09]  No, that's just hedonism on the other side of the coin.
[00:00:14]  No, when you talk to atheists, they got nothing, nothing behind their moral pronouncements.
[00:00:23]  It's all manipulation and feels and conformity and cross-your-fingers witchful thinking bullshit.
[00:00:31]  Bullshit.
[00:00:34]  So, there's no such thing as good and bad, right and wrong, but apparently ripping apart people's families is bad, whatever that means.
[00:00:49]  And there's no morals.
[00:00:56]  So he says, not sure why you would invoke fairy tale concepts.
[00:00:59]  Now, the word sin to me is something that your conscience will get you on, that you claim is universal, but use for your own advantage, right?
[00:01:12]  So he said, your entire shtick for a while.
[00:01:18]  So there's certain NPC words, right, that you just know.
[00:01:21]  Grifter, of course, is one of them.
[00:01:24]  And shtick.
[00:01:26]  Also, when people use inappropriate, quote-friendly nicknames like Steffi, Molly meme, I'm sort of torn on because, you know, it's become a meme of its own, so I don't consider it particularly malicious.
[00:01:42]  So your entire shtick, that shtick is not an argument, for a while was about convincing people to cut ties and relationships with those around them that you would perceive to be, quote, toxic.
[00:01:53]  This isn't a rumor.
[00:01:54]  And Andrew Wilson, thank you, chimed in so good advice.
[00:01:58]  So convincing people to cut ties in relationships with those around them that you would perceive to be toxic.
[00:02:10]  So the analogy I used many years ago was if you think that a bridge, like I said, so you've got a little footbridge over a stream, right?
[00:02:22]  It's a little footbridge over a stream.
[00:02:23]  And you say, this footbridge is solid and firm and strong.
[00:02:29]  And I say, well, then you should walk over it because you don't want to get wet or muddy or whatever.
[00:02:34]  And then you walk over it and the footbridge collapses.
[00:02:42]  Are you mad at me?
[00:02:43]  Hey, man, you made me go on this footbridge.
[00:02:45]  No, it didn't.
[00:02:45]  You said the footbridge was strong.
[00:02:48]  I don't want you to get muddy and wet, so go walk on the footbridge.
[00:02:52]  So what did I say to people back in the day for many years, which I absolutely would still say today?
[00:03:07]  It's a triple T. Standard English afternoon, a triple T. Tell the truth.
[00:03:18]  Oh, you thought I was going to go up there, didn't you?
[00:03:20]  So did I. But no.
[00:03:21]  Tell the truth.
[00:03:22]  That's all I say.
[00:03:23]  People say, well, my father did this wrong.
[00:03:26]  My mother did this wrong.
[00:03:27]  I was really angry about this.
[00:03:28]  I'm really upset.
[00:03:29]  Tell them the truth.
[00:03:30]  Sit down with them and tell them what your problems are.
[00:03:32]  Tell them what your criticisms are.
[00:03:34]  Tell them what your issues are.
[00:03:35]  Don't be in a relationship and lie your ass off.
[00:03:38]  And I say that with great sympathy.
[00:03:40]  Don't be in a relationship and lie your ass off.
[00:03:43]  That is dishonorable to you.
[00:03:44]  It's dishonorable to the other person.
[00:03:46]  And lying in your primary relationships has massive negative effects on your heart, mind, conscience, your soul, for want of a better word.
[00:03:58]  Don't lie in your primary relationships.
[00:04:01]  Don't put on a fake smile.
[00:04:03]  Don't pretend things are fine when you're angry.
[00:04:05]  Communicate.
[00:04:07]  Be honest, open, direct with people in your life.
[00:04:14]  So people would go and talk to their parents.
[00:04:16]  And if it was parents, right?
[00:04:18]  It could be husband, wife, and parents.
[00:04:20]  This is a typical thing, right?
[00:04:22]  Now, if telling people, go and talk to your parents about what's bothering you, how would that be to rip apart families?
[00:04:30]  Families are already apart.
[00:04:31]  Like they're already apart.
[00:04:35]  If people aren't talking about what they think and feel.
[00:04:43]  There is no connection.
[00:04:45]  If you're in a family situation and you're biting your tongue, you're dissociating, you're not being honest, you're just being run over by the other person's indifference and avoidance and gaslighting.
[00:04:56]  You don't exist.
[00:04:56]  You're like a ghost.
[00:04:58]  Go and be honest and tell the truth.
[00:05:01]  I mean, that's like the Robin Williams genie in Aladdin, just tell the truth, triple T. Forgive me, Father, for I was raised, raised, raised, raised, almost whipped up with the commandment, thou shalt not bear false witness.
[00:05:23]  Thou shalt not bear false witness.
[00:05:25]  What was I always told as a child?
[00:05:27]  What were you always told as a child?
[00:05:33]  Tell the truth.
[00:05:34]  Tell the truth.
[00:05:35]  Be honest.
[00:05:36]  Don't lie.
[00:05:39]  I mean, do me this.
[00:05:40]  Do me this.
[00:05:41]  Hit me with a why if you were punished as a child for lying either directly or indirectly.
[00:05:52]  Hit me with a why.
[00:05:55]  If you were punished either in school or in church, extended family, in your family, wherever, were you punished for lying?
[00:06:05]  I mean, I was.
[00:06:06]  I was punished for lying.
[00:06:08]  And I was told to tell the truth.
[00:06:12]  Wasn't complicated.
[00:06:14]  Be honest.
[00:06:16]  Be honest.
[00:06:21]  And I was told that I had to be responsible for my own decisions.