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March 21, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
06:19
Why Are Women So Unhappy?
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You may have this in a restaurant.
You run a restaurant.
I would have this as a waiter sometimes, right?
Some customer would complain about this, complain about that.
You try and solve this, that, and the other.
And then they would just keep complaining, keep complaining, and then eventually you're just like, I can't, yeah, I can't solve it.
I can't solve it.
I can't solve it.
So I, you know, and I actually had managers who would ban people from the restaurant because they just were never happy, always complaining, always sending food back.
It was never right.
It was never this.
It's like, look, if we don't make the food you like, you've got to go to a different restaurant.
But they didn't want to go to a different restaurant because they just wanted to complain.
You know, like people who complain about their health but then overeat and don't exercise.
They complain about their health and overeat and don't exercise.
So, yeah, so it's just that female dissatisfaction is a huge amount of power, right?
So, and I can't, like, as a man, I can't imagine what it's like to express discontent and have everyone rush to solve my problem.
Can you imagine?
Can you imagine?
Have you ever had this as a man?
As a man, you express discontent, you're unhappy about something, and everyone leaps into action to make sure you're happy and to solve your problems and to make sure you're content.
As a man, that shit does not happen.
It doesn't happen at all.
It doesn't happen.
But women complain.
So I can't conceive.
Of having that kind of power.
I can't imagine what it's like to have that kind of power in society.
That you, as a man, are unhappy, and everyone runs around like chickens with their heads cut off, trying to find a way to make you happy.
We men do not experience that.
I mean, maybe, you know, one in a zillion super handsome men, I don't know, whatever, right?
Super wealthy men or whatever.
But, you know, but that's the common thing among women.
I experience it at an individual level.
But for most of the women that I've known, you say you're unhappy, you just get this blank-eyed stare.
Like, their unhappiness is your problem.
Coincidentally, your unhappiness is also your problem.
So, their unhappiness is because you did something wrong.
Your unhappiness is because you did something wrong.
So, their unhappiness is because...
Society is not delivering something just necessary to their tender sensibilities, but your unhappiness is because, well, you just can't be satisfied and you've got to learn to make do with less and you've got to learn to be happy in your own skin, right?
So if you're unhappy, it's because you're immature and unwise.
if they're unhappy it's because you're doing something wrong so
So when men as a whole, when we figure out that When we figure out that there are certain women whose discontent is a power play to make us dance monkey dance,
and they express discontent in order to have power over us to make us do stuff, to do the dance monkey dance stuff, right?
Then we realize that their discontent is not an invitation for solving a problem, because men are problem solvers.
That's why we have a civilization.
Men are problem solvers.
So if a woman complains about something, we assume that she wants a solution.
But when we realize that she's complaining about stuff in order to control us, to make us do stuff, to keep us off balance, to keep us as a power play, as a superiority play.
Because the master, it matters to the slave if the master is unhappy.
It does not matter to the master if the slave is unhappy.
So focusing on the other person's unhappiness is...
A hierarchical power play, right?
If the cop is mad at you, that matters.
If you're mad at the cop, it doesn't really matter, right?
Because all criminals would be mad at cops, right?
So, when men begin to suspect that women's discontentedness is simply a power play to establish dominance, power, and control, then men bail out of the game.
I mean, sane men, right?
Men, if they have the option, right?
they bail out of the game.
Okay.
You know, like if you have a mother and she's just discontented with everything you do, you try to please her, she's still discontented, you try to appease her, she's still discontented, and then eventually you're just like, okay, so she just is discontented because it's a powerful thing for her.
Because she likes to watch people jump around and dance around and try and make her happy.
Right? The waiter cares if you're happy, in sort of power analysis, right?
The waiter cares if you're happy, you don't particularly care if the waiter's happy.
Because the tip goes one way.
You care more if your boss is happy than your boss cares if you're happy.
The director of the movie cares more if the star is happy than if an extra is happy.
If the star says, I can't work like this, I'll be in my trailer, get my agent on the phone, and storms off the set, then the producer or the director or both are in trouble.
However, if an extra says, I can't work like this, and storms off, who cares?
So hit me with a why you're a man, or a woman, if this resonates with you.
I should be able to type the right letter there.
But yeah, does this sort of resonate with you, that there are some women who use their discontentedness as a form of power or dominance play, to express that they have power over you, They're more important than you and higher up in the hierarchy.
Look at all my macho statements with my daughter's little kitty cup.
It's the same thing with teachers, right?
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