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Dec. 23, 2017 - Roosh V - Daryush Valizadeh
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4 Things I Learned In 2017
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2017 is done or almost done.
I'm filming this on December 23rd, 2017.
This year wasn't as hard for me as last year.
I actually was able to increase my power level.
It is now at like 90, 95% strength, which means I'm going to do something real stupid next year to get that knocked down a bit.
But 2016 was really, really bad on multiple fronts.
2017 was only bad in kind of one way.
And that leads to the first thing I learned.
Out of four things I've learned in 2017, the first thing I learned, which burned me, is don't turn a hoe into a housewife.
Yes, I tried to turn a hoe into a housewife.
This was in 2016, but I got burned in 2017.
The man who wrote the books, many books on game and women, the man who advises tens of thousands of men how to increase their satisfaction with women happiness, try to turn a hoe, a hoe, into a housewife.
And I spent over a year with this girl.
I think it was a year and three months until I got fucked over.
But I'll say this.
No woman can fuck you over unless you allow her.
I allowed her.
I allowed a woman.
I should not have gotten, I should not have allowed, get that close to me, fucked me over.
So what did I do?
Well, I was, I met her in 2015.
I was in, if I'm, to be honest with you, I was in an emotionally vulnerable state.
I had some bad news going on.
And I met this woman.
So what I did was I had in my mind an ideal type.
I put my entire ideal type, all the qualities of that onto her when she was not that.
I created an illusion of who she is and I fell in love with that.
I fell in love with my ideal girl that I put onto this girl.
Why did I put on to this girl?
I don't know.
Maybe she looked good.
Maybe she had some kind of energy that I liked.
And then I did this.
And to give you an idea, we kissed like the first, within the first hour that we met, I banged her on the first date.
And I tried to make this girl into a wife.
How stupid am I, huh?
But when the relationship was good, it was good, guys.
It was nice.
It was very nice, comfortable, a lot of passion, fun, humor, love, too.
But then her hoe tendencies, I kept trying to check them, establish rules, but a hoe is a hoe, man.
A hoe can't stop hoeing.
So while I didn't catch her outright cheating on me, maybe she did.
Enough was enough.
What happened during the course of the relationship, instead of decreasing her access to other men, she was increasing it.
She wanted, she loved the attention from strange guys.
The attention I gave her wasn't enough.
It just wasn't.
You would think.
So I saw this.
I tried to stop it.
I couldn't stop it.
And I had to cut it off.
I was like, that's it.
It's done.
But now I did it at the peak of my love for her.
Can you imagine this?
You're at the peak of your love for a woman, but the logical part in you somehow is able to see this is not right.
She's not the one.
You got to cut this out at the peak of your love.
This happened January of this year.
So about one year ago, I cut it out.
It was, I cut it like a band.
You're ripping a bandaid off.
It was really, I was like, fuck this.
I'm out.
I'm tired of this hoe shit.
I said, get the fuck out.
It's done.
What's weird is that the first week after I broke up with her, I wasn't upset.
I was really amped up.
I was on some adrenaline thing.
And then after the first week, the weight of the breakup really, really hit me.
It was, I have to admit, emotionally tough.
You know, I don't, I don't think I purposely try to come across as like a macho man.
I'm macho at times.
But in this period of time during the winter, the first month after was really tough.
And but it took me, if I were to be honest with you, six months.
Six months after this was done until emotionally that that salt went away, got washed away.
I wasn't as angry.
Now it's been one year since.
And I thank God that I did that.
Because logically, now that my emotion is done, you know, I don't have, I've seen her out.
I don't give a shit about her.
She can do whatever she wants to do.
I have no urge to interfere or talk to her.
But it's been a year.
And now I can think in a logical way.
And I think, how did, how was I strong enough to break up at that point?
Because it was the best thing that I ever did.
I mean, in the sense that with a woman who you knew wasn't going to give you what you needed.
It was really the best thing I did.
And I broke it off before it got deeper and worse.
But when you rip that bandaid off, it really stings, right?
But so the lesson here is this.
Warning signs exist for a reason.
If she is giving you warning signs that she is promiscuous, that she's been around, she's promiscuous.
She's been around, you idiot.
And I'm talking to me, not you.
I was a fool.
God, I don't believe it.
It's like you ignore the warning signs when the emotion, when you have some kind of emotion.
I ignored them and I got burned.
And if you include the relationship and the breakup, the six months that took me to really get over it, this is like almost two years, almost.
What a waste, you know?
But I got some pretty good experience out of it.
And I already wrote an article about some things I learned saying things I learned from my long-term relationships, which I'll link below.
That's a pretty good article.
So that's the first thing.
Don't turn a hoe into a housewife.
This is an old rule.
It's easy to know this rule, but it's hard to follow through.
Because once your emotions get involved, you ignore the red flags.
You just ignore them.
You're like, no, no, no, this is an exception.
She's only doing this for me.
She's not hoeing around or she wasn't hoeing around before me.
She only opened her legs so quickly for me.
She's, when she goes to the club with her friends, she's not talking to other dudes.
She doesn't want attention from other dudes.
She just wants to dance.
I wasn't that dumb, but yeah, you have to don't warning signs exist for a reason.
They're very consistent.
There are no exceptions.
Okay.
No exceptions.
If your girl is displaying hoe tendencies, she's a hoe.
I don't care if her face is so innocent.
I don't care if she cares for you.
I don't care if she loves you.
If she's displaying hoe tendencies, she's a fucking hoe.
And if you wipe her up, like I almost did, well, not almost, but I was on the path to wifing her up.
On the path.
If you do that, you're an idiot.
And thank God my idiocy, I cut it out.
And then that's that.
That is the most important thing that I have learned.
And the fact that I had to be reminded of it shows that no man is immune to this.
No man is immune to that glorious, beautiful pussy.
No man.
I don't care who you are.
Okay.
You have to be for you have to fortify yourself daily like you're taking a vitamin.
Like I will not turn a hoe into a housewife today.
Okay.
Maybe not every day, but every month.
I ain't doing that shit again.
Anyway, but it's been a year.
And I'm glad to say that I'm not, the level of salt is done.
In the sense that I don't, I'm not even mad at her.
Even though I feel wronged, I'm mad at me.
Okay.
It's always whenever you get hurt by a woman, you allowed it.
Okay.
That's as simple as that.
Take full responsibility.
Take full responsibility for whenever a woman hurts you because no one can hurt you unless you allow them to.
No one.
Except maybe your family, since you have to associate with them.
But outside of your family, you're giving consent for a woman to, you know, tear your heart up, hurt you.
Okay, let's move on.
Second thing I learned is that politics is futile.
Futile.
There is no point getting involved.
There is no point trying to fight the system, trying to get your political candidate in.
You remember how hard I pushed Trump in.
He's over there.
I like the guy still.
But even though he won, everything that has happened after that has almost been like Hillary Clinton won.
I can't tell the difference.
I don't feel any benefit.
Only benefit is that Donald Trump makes me laugh when he makes my enemies angry, makes people in the media and the Hollywood actors who spaz out.
But has my life changed?
Has the culture improved?
Has anything improved besides, what, a tax break?
What I can buy an extra Starbucks cappuccino every week?
That's why I voted for him.
That's going to save things.
That ain't going to do shit.
But it's not his fault.
I'm not blaming him.
What I learned is that this man, just being the president of the United States, doesn't have that much influence upon the world.
He's only a small chunk.
He's a bigger chunk than me than the effect I have.
But one man in a world of 7 billion can only have a little bit of power.
We're so dependent on millions, if not billions of variables and factors that compose this reality, this culture.
And to think that one guy and his staff can really make a big difference.
No, he can make a big difference for himself for the power that he can gain for himself.
He can make a big difference for his family.
Maybe some people that he that works for him.
Maybe some people on the really low end of the economic spectrum that needs help.
But for people like us who are in the middle class, whether he won the fact that he won, nothing was improved.
Nothing.
And again, I'm not mad at him for it.
I just realized that getting your man in in a holistic society that has billions of moving parts and variables doesn't do shit.
If Hillary Clinton won, I guarantee you, what would actually, how would I be harmed more?
I got banned from PayPal.
You know, I got banned from other sites, Shopify.
And some, I don't even remember.
I'm probably going to get banned from Twitter and Facebook.
But the point is, Trump doesn't control all these cultural forces.
He just doesn't.
He just has the ability to make people I dislike angry, which is nice, I guess.
But that doesn't change things.
My family's life hasn't really changed.
A lot of my readers, their community, cities, hasn't even improved.
Some Mexicans got kicked out, I guess.
Maybe some future crime will be stopped.
I don't know.
But I don't give a shit about politics anymore.
It doesn't fucking matter.
I'm taking the black pill on that stuff.
It doesn't matter.
What does matter is structure your life to where a change in political candidate, a change in law doesn't affect you that much.
Of course, if a new candidate comes that wants to double taxes, that would suck.
You would feel that.
But is there a loophole?
Is there a loophole you can avoid?
A legal one where you don't have to pay that.
Structure your life where it doesn't matter what happens in the political arena.
I haven't been following politics for a little while.
And people are asking me, Rush, what do you think of this?
And what do you think of that?
And I ask, think of what?
I don't, it doesn't matter, man.
It doesn't matter.
It's entertainment now.
Politics is entertainment.
Because sports now sucks.
NFL sucks.
The Hollywood entertainment sucks.
That SJW crap, the new Star Wars sucks.
You know, there's some good TV series, but that's it.
Music sucks.
The reason people are so involved in politics is because of the degradation of entertainment.
That's why.
That's it.
It's just serving as entertainment.
Well, you know what?
I'd rather entertain myself with something else.
In this case, cryptocurrency.
That's what I've been spending a lot of time in.
Cryptocurrency.
I just bought some Bitcoin Cash and Monero today, actually.
But I'm only putting in money that I don't mind to lose because this shit could end badly.
And that leads to the third thing I've learned is that my internet business has peaked.
I am now on the downswing in how much I'm making.
And the reason is because when the world is attacking your business, it's hard to have a business.
It's hard to grow.
It's hard when the commenting platform discus cancels you and destroys your site community.
It's hard when people are giving fake reviews on your Amazon books when they're trying to shut you down.
I've been banned from every advertising platform out there.
Like I said, PayPal shut me down.
That was tough.
You can't have a business when everyone fucking hates you and everyone hates me except for you.
And so I'm just been kind of, you know, one thing you can do, you can try to plug every hole in your business ship with your fingers, but you're going to run out of fingers and toes, right?
So I'm just embracing what's going on, which is that to have an internet business when you're a thought criminal.
When you go stand against what the narrative is, people are going to try to ruin you.
You know, the one thing that saved me in life is the fact that I am frugal as hell.
I'm very frugal.
Doesn't matter if my income goes up.
I still live exactly the same.
My monthly expense is like $1,500, which is pretty damn cheap.
I mean, what is that every year?
$20,000?
I can maybe do, I can maybe earn that picking like aluminum cans outside.
I don't know.
I have an easy life in the sense that I don't need toys.
I don't need these modern expensive hobbies.
I don't need to go snowboard in the Italian Alps.
All I need is a damn book and a laptop so I can write a camera so I can share these ideas with you.
I sit, meditate.
I go for walks, hit on women, make my own food.
I don't like fine dining.
Give me a cheeseburger and french fries any day.
You know, so what saved me is not so much my business sense, which is at least average, but the fact that I'm a frugal guy.
I understand that stuff, material things, toys, cars, that doesn't bring you fucking happiness.
That doesn't bring you anything, you know?
So that's what I think saved me because I think my business is going to be freaking killed in the next year or two.
That's okay.
I don't care because I'm going to make massive crypto gains and that's going to save me.
And the fourth thing that I learned this year, more towards the second half of the year, is that game is getting harder.
Game is getting harder, gentlemen.
I thought it was just me.
I thought, oh, I'm getting old.
I got all these white hairs now.
But I'm in the loot with a lot of men who are out there.
A lot of them are younger than me, a decade younger, good-looking dudes, good-looking, charming dudes.
And they have to work pretty fucking hard.
And I'm thinking, shit, they're working harder than I was 10 years ago.
Okay.
I think the reason is the smartphone.
It all ties to the fact this.
I will tell you this.
What is the currency of mating for men?
It's sex, right?
We value sex.
That's our end goal, at least for a girl that we're not in love with.
The currency for women is attention.
For as the late Patrice O'Neill said, a girl getting attention from a man is the same as you fucking her.
Like a girl can go on a three-hour date where a man buys her just a couple drinks.
He entertains her a bit, three hours and decide, I don't want to kiss him, have sex with him.
But she goes home and if a girlfriend asks her, how was your date?
Oh, it's pretty good.
We went to these bars and yeah, it was fun.
It was fun because she has nothing else going on.
But if you ask the guy how that date was, he will say, that bitch wasted my time, man.
Three hours.
I got nothing.
Fucking A.
I don't believe her.
I'm so pissed now.
Next time I'm going to text her that she should just come straight to my place.
So, you have to understand that now this attention currency is so free.
It's everywhere.
They're getting it from the freaking air, it seems, because that damn phone now she just has to upload.
Okay, for a girl to upload a selfie on Instagram is equivalent to going on a date.
But now, so if she's uploading photos every day, does she need to go on that on that date?
She doesn't have to.
So, unfortunately, that's not going to change.
Why?
Because men are desperate as fuck.
Men are thirsty as hell.
It is, I mean, I've seen some levels of thirst that I didn't think was possible just a year ago.
And as long as you have men giving this attention for free to women who don't even deserve it, game still is going to get freaking harder and harder, guys.
It's, I'm sorry.
I think the only thing that can really solve this is an EMP bomb that takes out all computer chips.
What else is going to solve it?
You know, because, or some kind of war that kills half the, or a virus that kills half of the world male population.
I hope I live if that actually happens.
But it's, it's, it's, it's a grind.
So, what the result is going to be that men are increasingly going to have to date down while working harder.
That's, it's going to get ugly.
That's why this MGTOW group, which men going their own way, they're going to get bigger and bigger because most men don't have the heart, don't have the work ethic to put all that work in for a bang that we have to be honest, may not be great.
You know, if you told me I have to put in a ton amount of work to fall in love with a girl that I will care about and cherish, I'll do it.
But now you're asking me to put all that work just for a bang with a six, seven, maybe.
I don't know, man.
I don't know.
It's getting, it's getting ugly.
But for me, game is like a form of meditation, man.
It is facing your own demons, clearing your mind, getting away from screens, computers, telephones, you know, getting away from music and videos and just going out there and trying and feeling your balls.
You know, what do you want?
Like, I have a line of communication with my penis and I ask them, what do you want, man?
Do you like her?
Do you want me to talk to her?
And I like that feeling, hunting, man.
I swear the more I do hunt, the more I can feel.
I need to jerk off more because it's like my testosterone's going up.
It's like I'm like really wound up.
I'm like, yeah, let's do this.
But it feels manly, even though the dividends is getting worse.
I like it.
I like it.
I have to accept that as long as I'm not single, I like this kind of hunt.
You have to like it.
Because is it going to pay off?
For the amount of time you're putting in no, man, it's not going to pay off.
All right.
But do I like it more than basic entertainment?
And I already do everything else.
I work.
I go to go to the gym.
I take care of myself.
I cook.
I hang out with friends.
My life is pretty dang balanced.
I got some, I got at least an hour a day to chase these crazy girls out there and just see, you know, and it's fun.
It's like the way I make a video for you, and then you're going to leave a comment saying how I'm the most amazing man ever, right?
It's like you get live interaction, it's live.
You go up to a girl, and instantly you get a response.
That's fun, man.
That's fun.
That's like instant feedback without any lag.
I like that.
You know, I like just hey, I can say something right now that'll make a woman smile, make her laugh, make her cheeks red, make her give me a like a sexy stare or make her say, get away, creep.
So, but yeah, as you can tell, I'm back in the game.
I'm back in the game.
I'm going to have some innovations.
I'm going to have some innovations for you while I'm back in it.
As a 38-year-old man, I'm not going to stop because it's a part of me.
You can blame the Middle Eastern genes in me, the rape Fuji genes, hyper-sexed due to the melanin that I got.
Southern European men too.
I see them.
They can bang anything, man.
Okay, so that's what I learned.
Those four things I learned in 2016.
I hope that through what I learned, you also can take the pain, the lessons, and apply it to your own life.
And I hope that year 2018 is better.
You know, I hope it's a better year.
I hope the goals that you have set out to be come to fruition.
And we, as men, and if you're a woman, we can grow and get by this broken civilization, broken dating market, zombie people, crazy politics.
And I hope we can get through another year and just merely survive and get some joy, you know, some joy out of life.
Because that's all that there is anyway.
Just get the moments of joy, savor them, you know, for whenever they may come.
So, hope you enjoyed this video.
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