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Dec. 19, 2017 - Roosh V - Daryush Valizadeh
09:54
She's too busy for you
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So recently I read the Gospel of Thomas and this is a gospel that didn't make it into the New Testament, but I think it has a lot of wisdom and a lot of really interesting sayings.
One saying, the 19th saying in this gospel was very interesting.
I read it and it struck me in a powerful way because I saw how it applies to modern dating in a certain way.
So I know a lot of things that Jesus has said.
You can interpret it in a lot of different ways.
So I'm going to interpret this my own way.
You can agree or not, and how it applies to a lot of situations that men face today.
So I'm going to read it.
It's not very long.
A man had, okay, let me start by saying, Jesus said, a man had guest friends, and when he had prepared the dinner, he sent his servant to invite the guests.
So a man of some kind of status decided to hold a feast.
So he sent a servant out to invite people.
He went to the first.
He said to him, my master invites thee.
He said, I have some claims against some merchants.
They will come to me in the evening.
I will go and give them my orders.
I pray to be excused from the dinner.
So the first man that he invited said, he can't make it.
He's busy.
He went to another.
He said to him, My master has invited thee.
He said to him, I have bought a house and they request me for a day.
I will have no time.
Second man he invited, also busy.
He came to another.
He said to him, my master invites thee.
He said to him, my friend is to be married and I am to arrange a dinner.
I shall not be able to come.
I pray to be excused from the dinner.
He went to another.
He said to him, my master invites thee.
He said to him, I have bought a farm.
I go to collect the rent.
I shall not be able to come.
I pray to be excused.
So everyone that he invited, all these tradesmen, businessmen, the merchants, the well-to-do men of the city, all are busy.
The servant came, he said to his master, those whom thou hast invited to the dinner have excused themselves.
The master said to his servant, go out to the roads.
Bring those whom thou shalt find so that they may dine.
Tradesmen and merchants shall not enter the places of my father.
So once the master found out that all these important men of town said they're busy, he said, go out in the road and get basically anyone.
Get the beggars, the homeless men.
Get anyone who will appreciate the feast that I have.
Because tradesmen and merchants, businessmen may not dine, may not enter in the places of my father.
Now, how many times have you invited a woman to a date and she gave you an excuse, I'm busy?
Or she agreed to it.
She said, yes, I'm going to show up.
But then last minute, something came up.
Her mom's friend's daughter got sick.
Some excuse, if she even gives you an excuse, some girls don't even give it.
I can't show up.
Or you meet a girl, you're out, and you meet one, and things seem to be going well.
The conversation is going well.
And then at the end of the conversation, you say, you seem cool.
I want to take you out.
Let's meet again.
And there's this pause as if she didn't even consider it.
And she kind of contorts her face as if, maybe, maybe I can.
I'm busy, girl.
Didn't you see, you didn't see how I have an Instagram that has 2,000 men that are sliding into my DMs every hour?
Why do you think I couldn't pay attention to you?
Because I'm thinking of all these new, fresh messages, this attention I'm getting.
And didn't you hear I have a career?
I'm a businesswoman.
I'm busy.
I have this to do, this to do.
So now I feel like as men, the best we can do is show a woman a piece of who we are.
And then at the end of showing her who we are, we can invite her to continue that interaction.
Invite her for a drink, for a meal, a coffee, ice cream, a walk even.
You don't have to spend money.
You invite her.
And once you lay that invitation out there, the way she treats you after that will tell you everything you need to know.
If you invite her, and up to that point, you've been a good guy.
I mean, good as not in the sense of a needy man who is complimenting her, but just a man, a man who is confident, a man who can identify something that he likes, a man who has at least accumulated enough success in life where if he has a feast in his home, he is comfortable inviting the people that he wants to come and join him.
Now, if she is not going to accept that invitation, you have to, in your mind, just tell her to fuck off.
Do not keep going back to her.
Okay.
You must always focus on the women that appreciate what you have to offer.
Now, of course, of course, we all want the hottest girls.
All of us do.
But these hot girls, they're business women now.
They're famous.
Their status is high because of all the men that want to fuck them.
Don't you know?
They are busy.
Just like in the story here.
These are important people and the girl, she's so important.
In the modern age, just the fact that she's a woman, just the fact that she can choose who to be with and that she has all these internet apps and internet platforms that elevate the status of her pussy to the most astronomical heights.
Because of that, your invitation for her is meaningless.
She doesn't respect it.
So you must find a woman who respects the invitation that you gave her, who values it.
You are going to go onto the roads and bring those whom shall find so that they may dine.
You will go find a woman who you're still attracted to.
Of course, I'm not saying go find a morbidly obese land whale who's going to eat you instead of the food that you have.
Find a woman that you are attracted to.
She may be humble.
She may be modest.
She's not going to have the accoutrements of a beautiful girl in the modern age.
Her eyebrows are not going to be perfect.
Okay, she's not going to have maybe the money to go to the hairstylist to spend $150 to make herself look really beautiful.
You may have to, when you bring her in, give her a wet napkin to clean herself up a bit.
I don't know.
Hopefully you don't have to bathe her, sponge bathe her, but maybe that's not bad, actually.
Hey, you're so dirty, I got to sponge bathe you first.
But the point is that if you're encountering these women that are busy, you have to understand that they don't respect what you have to offer.
And you have to find a woman who doesn't consider herself a businesswoman a celebrity.
Because someone who doesn't respect your invitation shouldn't earn your respect.
That's how compatibility is formed, right?
I'm not talking about a girl you meet in a club, you get her drunk and you bring her back, but a girl that you really want to get to know.
If she doesn't respect the difficulty in a man trying to initiate an interaction, trying to put himself out there, put his ego on the line because he may get rejected.
If she doesn't respect that invitation, then pass on her.
She should treat your invitation as godly.
She shouldn't flake.
She shouldn't, you know, last minute cancel with some excuse only for you to chase after her.
Once a woman flakes on you, once a woman disrespects you, I think that's a sign that you have to move on.
So this is what I took from the gospel of Thomas.
And in my opinion, Jesus is right.
If the businesswoman, the businessman, they don't care about you, they don't appreciate you.
They don't want to dine the food that you put your love, you put your money and your time into, then fuck them.
You know, go invite anyone.
Of course, a girl that you're still attracted to.
And if she's dirty, sponge bathe her.
So that's all I wanted to say today.
I hope you enjoyed that.
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