Pearl Daily critiques Coach Greg Adams’ "marriage wheel" framework—connection, investment, bait-and-switch, disengagement—arguing U.S. divorce laws (e.g., California’s 70% female filing rate) exploit men’s financial and emotional stakes while women face fewer penalties. She dismisses faith-based guarantees like "God-filled marriages," instead advocating practical due diligence over hope, citing dating apps’ transactional nature and perverse incentives for single mothers. Love, she notes, often fades within 18 months to three years, leaving attachment-driven manipulation, urging men to align advice with earthly realities rather than abstract ideals. [Automatically generated summary]
I am your host, Pearl, and I'm telling you guys about my experience learning about the red pill the last three years where I interviewed a thousand women.
I went from a very conservative, blue-pilled perspective to come to the conclusion that men should never get married.
But before we get into today's topic, I do have a couple announcements before we start the show.
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That is a website that I created in order to fight YouTube demonetization.
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That's the first one.
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I mean, that's something that men do want to see.
Here, like, closer to the face is better.
The older I get and the more insecure about how old I am.
I didn't say that.
I get it.
I will be honest.
I zoom out a little bit, but the closer to the camera, like if you could see the whites of their eyes, they do better.
They got me with him.
Yeah, so this is a really, even the comments say this was a good video.
Lone Wolf on the website said, this is great.
I usually can't make the live streams, but I really appreciate you uploading the training.
I'm glad I signed on to the network.
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So, okay, so today we are talking about my work cited.
So today I am starting a works cited series on my channel where I highlight content creators that were crucial in my development in this red pill space.
Previously, this episode, it was going, is going to be about Coach Greg Adams.
So CGA was a voice I discovered early on.
And I wasn't able to quite grasp what he would understand why a man would want to live that way.
Remember, I came from a traditional Catholic household that stressed traditional masculine duties for men, protecting, providing, getting married, and having children.
The free agent lifestyle tells men to free themselves from the shackles of the plantation of expectation, from the shackles of the plantation and expectation of commitment and pursuing women.
2025 Pearl Radical Acceptance Pearl would recommend the free agent lifestyle to men in the current day, especially with the type of women the average man has to choose from.
Coach Greg Adams was one of the main voices that I heard speak about the family court system.
His channel covers at length, at length, the disadvantage men face when going through divorce or fighting for their children.
If you're an average guy or a little above, you get married at your own peril.
Women reserve the right to destroy your household, take your kids, and use that court as a weapon against you at any time.
They will use the dirty tactics in court to get what they want, false allegation included.
So CGA has this thing called the marriage wheel.
And what I like about CGA is he has a ton of just original concepts.
Now, it's tough in the space because you don't always know where everything came from and like things get repeated.
But I found a lot of stuff actually originated from CGA.
He is, when I did my interview with him a couple of years ago, it was like one of the most eye-opening interviews I would say that I did over the years.
Economist writes, Greg Adams' marriage wheel is legendary.
Well, let's talk about it.
What is the marriage wheel?
The marriage wheel is basically the predictor of most, if not all, marriages.
It's what I call the spoiler alert of marriages.
So what you're basically going to find out is there's a formula to marriage in order to keep it working, which you have to connect.
Connection phase is number one.
Obviously, that's simple.
Most people can do that.
You do it at a 99% failure rate, but most people can do that.
Once they get to that particular phase, you got to go through the investment stage and when in which the man has to start investing to keep the ball rolling, right?
Investing in what sense?
Investing in all senses.
So this, or at least considering that, financial investment, cars, vacations, you got to keep this ball up.
And particularly I'm getting stressed out listening to this.
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
So I'm going to bathroom break right now.
Okay, go ahead.
And so if you don't, if you don't get that, if you don't give that investment, the marriage is over, right?
Oh, wow.
It's pretty much going to be over.
So now, if you do create that investment, which most men do, especially if there's children, you're going to go through the next phase, and which is the bait and switch, which essentially.
Nobody can tell me this man is not pure comedic gold.
They didn't set you up.
So essentially.
He says they don't set you up.
And the court systems were 50% plus divorce rate.
You have 70% of people who have been in marriages have at least talked to a divorce attorney.
At that particular point, now you have, hey, you keep, if she changes the rule of the game and you don't change with her, lose the investment.
This is typically what's happening in our marriage system.
So I tell people that that's going to come.
She's either become a feminist or the real feminist that was in her that she hid in order to get the investment will show up.
If you don't go along with her plan, you go to stage number four, which is the disengagement stage.
Oh.
And thus you pay for play.
You're going to pay a hefty check in the end.
He's so funny, God.
To her.
To her, to the system, to the state.
Everybody benefits.
Except you.
Except you.
Yeah, you're the one paying.
And then you lose your kids and so forth.
Oh, you said, and then your children are gone.
Yeah, your children are gone.
Some men are like, hallelujah.
That was the only good part of the deal.
Yeah, but you're going to pay for them, though, if you lose them.
Oh, no, say it ain't so.
The baker writes, Peace and the Saints.
Coach, Greg, do you believe?
Believe?
Do you believe?
Paying for blocks is a stupid move.
Well, I mean, listen.
What are you spending on that box?
What am I spending on it?
Let me see.
Let me look at my last.
Let me look at that cash app.
Listen, I've spent these 304s taking cash after now.
They're doing cash out.
Oh, they're dangerous out here.
They leaving paper trails.
I got to operate in cash on you.
Yeah, don't you have no cash on delivery delivery?
Yes, exactly.
The most I've ever spent on box was probably $60,000, maybe about $100,000.
Okay.
Tell me more.
It's called marriage.
So the most I've ever spent is $60K on marriage.
And it's definitely a pay-for-play move.
So yes, in that instance, it's a stupid move.
But if you want me to go further, let me know.
Okay.
James writes, Coach is just, uh-oh.
Coach is just bitter because his wife forced him into debt.
Dang.
Yeah.
Even though someone told him before their engagement that she had mental issues.
Hashtag vetting.
I know a lot of men that weren't told their wives had mental issues.
It's no guarantee either.
Peace to the saints.
They speak in their mind.
He deserves him.
Go ahead.
She deserves to speak of his mind.
I often find it ironic that many people who talk like that to me don't have no picture on their damn thumbnail.
All right.
So obviously that fat boy sitting over there.
Oh, you know, he's sitting over there wishing he was me.
Okay.
You clicked on my face today.
But congratulations.
All right.
That's enough said about that.
You wouldn't be here if it wasn't for me showing up on this show.
All right.
What would you be doing with your day?
That's what I have to say about that.
But anyway, let's just handle what he said here.
Okay.
Essentially, what he went into is the common bitter in all of these things.
Well, listen.
I'd be pretty bitter too if I spent $60,000.
I mean, can you, this argument, the men are bitter.
Yeah.
Number one, if we were in their shoes, we would be pretty, women get, do you know what happens?
Women will give a guy their youth, but come out scotch-free.
We don't pay anything.
And we get bitter, right?
But the men, the men give a woman their youth, which I get it.
It's not the same, but and then the next 20 years of child support.
So they give them like half their life.
And somehow they come out with a good attitude.
I don't really know how.
I don't really get it.
But I'll interview guys that are going through a ton and they somehow have a great attitude.
We try to warm in about these situations.
This is why I'm saying we are talking about like the manosphere.
And like me myself.
So what I'm doing is you would hope that there's a person like me speaking out on these issues so you don't walk into issues like that.
All right.
So we, you know, I tell people where my flaws were.
I tell people where my mistakes from.
And but what he tried to do was put the mistake back on me when I've already admitted the flaw.
It's already in the book, sir.
So what were you trying to accomplish?
All right.
You were trying to accomplish to try to one up and potentially embarrass me, but I've already spoken on the issues.
I've actually had it published and all of that stuff.
So there's no bitterness other than the male jealousy that you might be trying to do to show me up.
But the mistakes have already been admitted.
And since I made the mistakes, I made them before you to give you this advice.
So that's okay.
Some men need to learn.
And obviously his father went out for milk, did not come back.
All right, but it's okay.
Checks and balances is back.
He writes, why not just have trust, offshore accounts, and preenup for asset protection if you want marriage?
It's not entirely true, but I think that the not entirely true.
But the fact is, if you refrain from getting legally married, that would be your first major step in protection.
And one thing I tell the saints is that I prefer to have a woman who's wealthy and beautiful.
You heard me?
That would be nice.
And if I had to pick one, I'm always going for wealthy.
Let us mess around and divorce.
She needs to be worried about her assets.
You know what I'm saying?
You know what?
I knew a guy in London, and his strategy was to get really jacked and go after the women that worked in law and finance.
And that way he was like, I can get a kid out of them.
And then when she cheats at work, I can put her on alimony and child support.
I was like, I don't know if that'll work, but hey, you might as well go for it.
That would be the smartest way to do it.
Yeah, keep these broke 304s away from you, boy.
You dig.
Mr. Highway writes, I mainly look at Coach as an old school anti-marriage paralegal.
These boys are wild.
These are paralegal.
They get creative.
I like it.
Man, it's good.
Paralegal.
Monetize your creativity.
The rest of his stances are up to your personal tastes/slash preferences as a man.
Paralegal.
All right.
I like that.
Rainman writes: Peace to the Saints.
If a man wants marriage, what is best for asset protection?
I like CGA to answer first, then Marquette.
I don't think CGA.
Oh, wow.
I don't think he has a real solution.
Wow, he's never been in a family court.
He's never understood this.
You never met with a lawyer.
Have you ever met with a lawyer?
Have you ever met with a lawyer, divorce attorney, or what you're proposing here?
You're more likely to hear what I have to say.
I'm sorry, you were more likely to hear my response when they tell you the reality of that situation than anything else.
So, I mean, it just speaks to the non-experience that you have.
I would tell you: if you do go the side of access protect asset protection, it could get kicked out of court, or better yet, which most people don't understand, anything could be challenged in court if someone does sue you for it.
So, I could have an ironclad prenup, but if the woman is foolish enough to contest the prenup, you got to pay the cost for the contested prenup.
So, is the prenup?
Yeah, so you basically pay for your wife to sue you.
Isn't that rich?
Do you know what's crazy?
So, was on Twitter saying she was like looking for work, and it was very obvious what she was doing.
She was trying to elicit sympathy and say, Because people knew they were getting divorced, and she's like, Is anyone hiring?
This bitch was getting $25,000 a month.
$25,000 a month.
The and saying she needs money.
Could you guys live?
What would you guys do with $25K a month?
Valid?
It could be because if they contested it and throw a case out, your prenup will stand.
However, you spent the court costs and the time to fight the battle because she was foolish enough to think that she could defend you or beat you.
So, was it worth it to have ironclad prenup or was it worth the asset protection?
Everything could be contested.
And this is what people don't understand about law.
Yeah.
A person sues you doesn't mean they have a legit reason to sue you.
The court will hit you.
And businessmen understand that better.
See, this is what people see.
They don't understand that.
And most people settle.
Like, say, for instance, I had an asset protection plan and I put it in front of the woman.
We married.
She divorced.
She contests it.
Most men will fight it and say, F that B.
But the most men, I'm sorry, some men will say F that B, but some men will say, all right, all right.
Right.
They'll settle.
For sure.
And they stepped.
So, was the asset protection worth it?
You see what I mean?
So, it's not a clear and cut and dry answer.
You want a solution on a YouTube video.
Why don't you invest some money to meet with a divorce attorney instead of using the opinions of us as the end-all-be-all?
That's what I would tell you.
And I tell everybody that in my books, and I would tell everybody that on my video, I actually have a free book that tells everybody, go meet with a lawyer.
I'm not the end-all-be-all, but I'm telling you the experience here because I'm handsome enough for you to click on my face.
But anyway, in short, there are a number of tactics you can utilize.
And one thing we know for sure is there's asset protection and then there's asset invisibility.
It's one thing to protect a known target.
That's difficult.
It's quite easy to protect a target people don't know about.
And they're have a conversation one-on-one in private.
And as far as attorneys, attorneys have, for the most part, limited knowledge.
If you get to a very high-level attorney, they can make recommendations and introductions to you.
When you have an accountant, an attorney, they're a part of your team.
And the best one is able to say, hey, man, look, I can tell you how to litigate this if it goes to divorce court, but I can also recommend you to this banker in this particular locality who can set you up with X, Y, and Z. Like they're a part of a team and they know how to get things done.
That's really what you want.
One more thing to that.
A lot of times, what men find out is when they go this route, that some attorneys are a part of the bar association and they kind of work in collaboration to keep men in a financial position to pay, right?
Most litigation.
I sat by a guy on a plane, right?
And this guy was telling me about his divorce because I'm a plane talker.
I know I'm like the girl you don't want to sit next to on a plane because I'm going to, we're going to chit chat.
Do you know what I mean?
Like this is 2025.
I think I should have been alive in the 90s.
I think I should have.
It's really unfortunate.
I mean, I was like four, but it's unfortunate because now people just stare at their phones and whatever.
I'm a chit chatter.
Now, so when I was on the plane, he was telling me how he hired an attorney and the attorney was doing such a good job that he started arguing for the attorney or a bad job.
Sorry, a bad job that he started arguing for the attorney, fired him on the spot and then represented himself.
And I think it's, and then won custody of his kid.
And I think it's because, like, I think a lot of men, I've heard that a lot of men can argue their cases better than the attorneys.
I've heard that.
Because like the Bar Association, that would make sense.
Because if you're a rich guy, they want to keep you in court forever.
Why would they not?
You know, and these divorces that you're trying to say are brought forth by women.
Oh, absolutely.
Right.
So overwhelming majority.
Overwhelming majority.
We're talking about 80, 90%.
If women were unable to bring these cases forward, there would be no court.
There will be no attorneys.
These people wouldn't have jobs.
In essence, their solution sometimes, and you'll find this, I've had attorneys tell me, well, just pay the money, don't fight.
I, I, I've had, I've been told that more than to fight.
Correct.
Yeah.
And I've been told that for sure.
And in terms of- I'm not talking about in terms of women, just in general.
In general.
In general.
And sometimes, yeah, it's better to just pay the money.
So in essence, you might think these attorneys are going to give you advice to asset protect, but their real key is to keep these things going.
Their money is in bringing women to the court.
Their money is not into keeping men.
So let's see what we got.
So then we got there is no God in marriage in the United States.
People on the way.
Is this when he kicked Hafiz's butt?
Oh, this was so funny.
Oh, this was one of the funniest things.
So if you guys didn't know, Hafiz debated CGA on this show.
And by the way, this is pretty early when I got into the manosphere.
This is like two or three years ago.
Let me see the date on this.
Two years ago.
Okay.
And I debated Hafiz the next day, and he just like spurged out on me.
It was like the weirdest.
It was just strange.
But I didn't know he got like dunked on by CGA.
Yeah, so no question.
What's your issue with this?
So it's always an interesting conversation because to me, like one of the things I'm obsessed with, and Dr. Peterson talks about this so well, is that the more your words are in line with the truth, the more powerful those words are.
And I don't know where you are, if you believe in God or not.
I don't know who kind of kind of person you are, but like when you line your words up with God, like that's when to me your words have the most weight.
Dr. Peterson, that's why I feel like he's so powerful.
His words transcend humanity and it speaks on this divine level.
And so to me, when you're giving advice, your advice has to be as in line with what God believes the world should run as possible.
That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
The equivalent of that would me saying, just assume your wife, your girlfriend, before she met you, she was a virgin because that's how God wanted the world to run.
Don't assume she hooked up with guys before you don't know.
God wanted her to be a virgin.
So she's a virgin.
And so to me, the best advice benefits men and benefits women.
That's the best advice.
To your opinion, we had 70 years of advice only benefiting women and men suffering as because of it.
That is a lie.
That is wrong.
And the opposite extreme is wrong as well.
A world where it all benefits men and the women don't benefit is wrong.
That's why it's about the balance.
And so to me, I'm very curious about, I love her questions because it was like, it's not a gotcha question.
It was a genuine, serious question.
Shout out my guy, AMS.
I love AMS.
He did a video about, you know, advice I would give to my daughter where he actually answers the questions directly.
And so to me, I'm very interested in those questions because like when I would watch Kevin Samuels and God Rest the Dead, and it was so powerful because he would always push women to being married because he knew.
Do you think these hoes want to get married?
Like this is, this is the problem.
YouTubers start to think, they start to think they're literally God, right?
And they think that if you like, this is what I get a lot.
They're like, Pearl, why don't you tell women to be better?
Why don't like, why don't you have a solution?
Do you think?
Let me, okay, let me, let me, let me get this straight.
Pearl saying, don't divorce rape your husband.
Like, imagine you guys who've been married before your ex-wives.
Imagine if they saw my video and I was saying, guys, do not put your husbands through hell in divorce court.
Don't get divorced.
Do you know what they would have said?
Next video.
Do you think I am going to stop a scorned woman?
You guys have got to be out of your freaking mind if you think I have that kind of poll.
Nope.
I just try to say, hey, this is where the world's going.
Adapt.
Dude, the beauty and the value and the protection and the safety, like in being a woman and being married, nobody wants their daughter to be 41 years old, single, baby mama of three.
Nobody wants that for their daughter, especially if they want kids.
To me, I think the part of the conversation needs to be, is this information benefiting both human beings?
That's, is it benefiting both human beings?
My question is, is it true, right?
Gen Z is the most, the biggest group of women ever to be on OnlyFans.
That's not a fun thing to admit, but is it true?
When you're on Team Men, it only needs to benefit team men.
If you're on Team Republican, it only needs to benefit Team Republican.
If you're on Team America, it has to benefit all Americans.
If you're on Team Human, it has to benefit both males and females.
So that's why I loved her questions because I think the best, like I can give my hardcore advice to benefit men.
And I know without a shadow of a dight, the most hardcore advice that benefits men simultaneously benefits women.
One more thing I'll add to that.
And I hope you, I don't mean to offend you.
There's no God in marriage in the United States.
He just dunked on his ass.
CGA is so good.
They need to, I wish I could see CGA on like Pierce Morgan or something.
Like, I would love, it's so unfortunate because I get invited on these shows.
And, you know, I'm happy to be invited.
I'm going to do, you know, the best I, like, I'm going to do the best I can.
I'm going to, I, I do my best, right?
But some of these guys are just, they are such good debaters and they would kill on some of these big shows, but they'll never have them on because, I mean, it's just how these big shows operate.
I think they would be too detrimental.
Like they would just kill and they would make the hosts look so bad.
They just wouldn't do it.
That's kind of misleading.
And people will find that out if your marriage is destroyed.
You go back to your pastor and you say, hey, my marriage is being destroyed.
He has no power over that because it is a state agreement.
So I will bring you back to make sure you understand.
And I counsel men.
There's no God in marriage.
That's been gone.
Listen, it was an old idea.
It's absolutely gone unless you live in the American South.
So most people on the West Coast, many people in the East, Midwest, there's no God in marriage.
So break that down.
What do you mean by God?
There's no God in marriage.
There's no God in marriage.
So people get married.
One of the things that they will do is they will seek counsel of the church.
And then as such, the guys will give them guidance and it will be biblical principle.
However, they will say we can't do anything until you sign this state-sponsored agreement with family law context.
All right.
They're not going to have a Bible in there.
They're not going to have a Bible in that divorce court.
The judge is not going to ask you, do you like God?
And what about God in your marriage?
There will be no context to that.
How many of you guys got divorced by a Christian woman?
Happens to the best of us.
It really does.
They're very good at deception.
They learn it from a young age because think about, all right, if our nature as women is just whores, like let's just be honest here.
When women are given freedom, we just pick whore.
And so the Christian women from a young age have had to hide the whore, right?
They've had to, you know, from as young as we want to be whores, we have to hide the whore.
So the Christian women are almost the most deceptive.
It's like the biggest red flag.
And such, as such, what is the overriding principle here?
Because your marriage is state-funded.
No, not God.
God, that was such a good line.
Sorry, I'm getting, I don't mean to scream.
Sorry, guys.
But God, do you hear that?
Your marriage is state funded, not God-funded.
Imagine if he said that on like Pierce Morgan or something.
I wish one day they do.
Made a random point that I didn't make it random.
I told you that this will offend you.
And this now offended you.
What did I say?
No, it didn't offend me.
You're just wrong.
Let me say, but I'm wrong.
Wait, wait, wait, wait.
Finish.
Let me finish.
There's no God.
Let me finish.
Let me finish.
You can talk.
Let me finish.
No, no, no, hold on.
Let me finish.
Are you going to have a marriage in the United States?
Coach, finish your point.
You're saying there's no God in marriage in the United States.
Correct.
Got it.
That was his point.
So now I'm going to talk.
So I made a point and I said, if your truth aligns with God, that truth is most powerful.
That's what I said.
If your truth aligns with God, meaning the word that you speak aligns with God, those words are the most powerful.
He made a point saying there is no God in marriage.
So, first, as a semantic, oh, this was so good thing because God is everywhere.
Whether God chooses to supervene in things or not, I will never be the person that says God is not here.
I will never be the person that says God is not present here.
Could we argue that is God blessing every American Western marriage?
Of course not.
Of course, God is not blessing every American, but God is.
So, this right here, this is when men cope, right?
This is the problem.
At this point, he's met a hot young thing that he's trying to that's convincing him that she's different, and he's got to cope now because he's got to cope because he doesn't want to get screwed, so he has to rationalize that this girl is different and marriage is not dead, right?
That's what he's trying to rationalize.
And you guys have all done it.
Some girl gives you the gluck gluck, and you're like, Ah, she's so different, I love her.
She had to give a lot of glut glucks to get that good, right?
You guys, you guys forget about that at times.
So, yeah, this is a cope right here.
Cope, definitely in my parents' marriage.
So, when you say there is absolute statements, there is no God in marriage, false.
They're correct.
There is no God in some marriages.
There is no God in most.
See, that's he's rationalizing.
He's saying, My girl is different.
She is not different at all.
You could do like the SpongeBob.
Whenever he gets divorced, I'm sure it'll happen.
I just can't imagine a girl.
You can just tell when men have developed frame.
Sometimes it takes like half their lives to get it.
He's not there yet.
He's too emotional.
Most marriages, in regards to being there, no God means that God's not blessing it, right?
So if you're saying that God is not blessing what's happening in most marriages, that is a true statement.
But to say there is no God in marriages, period, that is a false statement.
See, they're always arguing like a woman, right?
Because that's what women do.
We have a tendency, they say you can't make generalizations.
So if CGA is making a generalization about marriage in the United States, which is you know, it's unilaterally true, right?
We have exported our bad marriages overseas.
Yeah, that's why they say, get, oh no, my girl got westernized.
Because in the West, we have the worst reputation of marriage.
Okay, the worst.
Anyways, so he is obviously going to cope.
He's going to cope.
Because God is in my marriage, and God is also in my parents' marriage.
And I will continue to say when it comes to even understanding the ideas of God, God gives human beings free will.
It's a very simple concept.
You can freely sin or you can freely obey.
And God, like a good father, if you want to touch the stove, you can touch the stove.
And so to me, I just think when you're making, when people make statements like this, how this statement makes me feel icky.
That's what he's saying.
Like, how do you expect people to feel?
There is no.
What are you a woman?
Anybody.
I'm still talking.
Yeah, but okay.
Do you know what?
He did this to me when I had him on.
He just monologues.
And then if you interrupt him, he's like, I'm still talking.
I'm like, bet you've been talking for like 20 minutes.
I'm talking.
And then you get the opportunity to talk.
So to me, it's how do you expect people to react?
And so my biggest thing is that what I'm only communicating in regards to the marriages is that if you are a man, do your due diligence.
Be able to see if she fits your life.
Be able to see what is her family background.
You can't protect yourself 100% from business failure, from friendship failure, from anything in life.
But there is wisdom.
There is godly principles that you can adhere to that can benefit you.
But there's no absolute guarantees that everything in life will be successful.
No one's teaching anybody.
And I'm not the most religious person here.
So let me just give that disclaimer out there either.
Like, I feel like God is all faith.
So I believe in this.
And no matter what you tell me, you're not going to convince me otherwise.
Because this is what I believe.
I'm sure that there's tons of marriages out there that they believe.
They go to church every Sunday.
And then next thing you know, they get divorced.
And God was in their marriage.
So I'm just trying to establish what a godless marriage is or God-filled marriages.
Like how that genuinely curiosity, like how that works.
Because he's saying, no.
Is Nala in a God-filled marriage?
I think what coach is basically saying is like, look, I don't care if you go to church every Sunday or not.
At the end of the day, your marriage is between you, your significant other, and the right here on earth.
Forget about it.
Not in the clouds.
That's what he's saying.
I'm just bringing this out.
What we tell people is that hope is not a strategy.
All right.
Hope is not a strategy in anything.
I hope my business goes well.
I hope I don't get injured today.
I hope I succeed today.
We tell people real life principles, all right?
We don't live in the clouds.
We live here on earth, whether you believe this is heaven or hell.
So I want you guys to understand you're dealing with earth here.
This is a reality.
Are you a believer?
Absolutely not.
You're not a believer of God.
No, no.
Okay, but obviously, Hatiz, you are.
Would you ever believe it?
Now, now he's going to morality signal.
You're a non-believer.
I'm better than you.
My marriage will be different because I'm more moral.
Yeah.
I mean, the Christian guys get screwed the worst.
Here's the deal.
What tends to happen is what tends to happen is people are introduced to things based on someone else's biases.
Okay.
And those biases are introduced to children and so forth and so on.
So yes, at some point, that was the only story I knew until I investigated on my own, decided as a man what principles to stand on and realize I don't live by hope.
I don't live by cope.
I live with what's real here.
Let's talk about what's real instead of the mystique of this damn thing here.
What's real is hope is not a strategy.
So if you don't love it, can I address that?
Yeah, yeah, go ahead.
Yeah.
So first and foremost, like I said, it's very interesting.
I've always told you, you got to hear someone's background and then you know where they lean.
That's where you know where their advice gears towards.
So it's such an even when I talk about God, like the idea of God in his brain is not the idea I'm talking about.
It's this interesting verse in the Bible.
I won't get too lost in the sauce in the book of Isaiah where God is, where somebody's like farming and he's talking about the intricacies of farming.
And he says even that wisdom comes from God.
God is not the God of get married happily ever after.
That's foolishness.
God gives you wisdom.
What is the wisdom?
Actually do premarital counseling.
Yeah, so then your pastor can tell you how to run your household instead of you.
That's a great idea, Hafiz.
What is the wisdom?
Actually, be able to decide: okay, if things don't work out, what are we going to do?
Where are the kids going to go?
What's the money going to go?
Yeah, because women never change their mind.
Things are going to work out.
If she says it, it totally will happen.
Who's going to be the primary brainwinner?
Who's not?
God gives you the wisdom to be intelligent, to be able to navigate.
Hope is not a strategy.
100% right.
Hope is not a strategy.
But God's message is not just simply blind hope.
It's wisdom.
Literally, Jesus said, be as wise as a serpent, but as innocent as a dove.
You have to understand how to, what does a serpent do?
He's able to navigate on this earth.
So 100% right.
No one's teaching hope as a strategy.
That's a strong man argument.
True godly wisdom is relevant.
True godly wisdom is what made Adam a millionaire.
True godly wisdom is what made Patrick Bett David build this amazing company.
It's actual practical step-by-step guidance that benefits people's lives.
So no one's talking about what he just like, he doesn't say anything.
Hope being a strategy.
Simply pray to God in your marriage.
Look at his face.
That's a guy that's going to divorce court.
We'll see you back in seven years, Hafiz.
Whenever, whenever you guys have your two kids, and yeah, we'll be back.
Marriage is going to work out.
That's foolishness.
What did I say?
Naivete, nihilism, realism is in the middle.
No one's saying being naive.
So when I'm talking about godliness and marriage, those are certain principles and wisdoms.
Is it going to make your is it going to be that if you follow God, you will never get a divorce?
No, there's nothing in life where nothing bad is going to happen.
You can do everything.
Okay, but this is, I hate this argument because they'll make the argument.
Well, like businesses fail.
Yeah, I mean, businesses do fail.
But if I knew that if I started a business for 20 years, I would have to be paying that business back and also having that business trying to ruin my reputation and also having that business try to steal my children.
I might think about just going and working for a company.
Right?
Or, you know, if I think I calculated it once.
I'd have to go through the numbers, but let's say there's a 5% death rate if I start a business, which is probably similar out of 100 divorces.
You know, men are nine times more likely to commit suicide.
If I knew suicide was on the table when I started a business, I don't know.
I might, I might think twice before doing it, right?
I might, right?
So I don't know if this is the same.
Everything the right way and the wrong thing can still happen.
But does that mean she do things the wrong way?
Absolutely.
Yep.
Yeah.
I mean, yes.
If, okay, option A, don't live or have sex with a woman and then get married.
Option B, live with her first.
Make her date you for a long time.
Don't court her at all.
Option B is way smarter than just, oh, after a year, I haven't even hit.
Let me give you the rest of my life to F me and give you the greatest honor I could ever give a woman for free.
Not.
And so my biggest thing is that we need to give men as much practical wisdom and women as well.
Give them as much practical wisdom that can build a healthy, successful marriage.
When he talks about don't get married without leverage, I guarantee if he expounds upon leverage, those are all godly principles.
Those are all biblical principles that what he's going to describe and what he defines as leverage, being masculine, you know what I mean?
Protecting your assets, all the things he would describe as leverage.
That is godly wisdom.
What does that even mean?
Okay, the only men have zero leverage in marriage.
The only leverage that you have as a man is cheating.
That's it.
Act up, bitch.
I'm going to cheat.
That's it.
I mean, or divorcing her, but I mean, she doesn't like you anyway.
So, like, obviously she doesn't, you know.
He may not view it as godly because his view of God is just some old white men in the clouds telling you to simply just do whatever you want, right?
But to me, true godly wisdom is relevant.
It's practical.
Okay, shut up.
Do you know what I mean?
I don't care.
Now, so I did an interview with CGA, and the audio is a little off, so you'll have to bear with me.
But it's me like two years ago, and I don't want to hear anything about me looking younger.
I look the exact same.
I don't want to hear a single thing.
I don't want to hear it.
All right.
So this is me two years ago.
Okay, here we go.
Most marriages are going to end in a divorce.
And the laws are going to be dictated based on your country or your city or your state.
So they're all different.
And if you just happen to so get divorced in a place where the laws suck, then it's going to be a worse experience.
Some people get divorced in a place where they don't suck or they just halfway suck.
So it just depends on your state.
Like California, for instance, is considered one of the worst places to get divorced.
I was getting divorced in California.
So my whole perspective of divorce is like, whoa.
All right.
These people, as a matter of fact, some of the most wealthiest divorce attorneys are in California.
So they have an incentive to people get divorced.
They want people to get divorced, obviously, to stay in business.
And when you find that out, the divorce laws are then introduced to most men at that point.
Now, my content, we introduce the divorce laws to men before they get married.
So that gives them an idea of what they're getting into.
Most men aren't introduced to divorce laws until Doug MPA says marriage is like a man having a chain around his waist and he's pulling a sled up the hill.
On the sled is a woman stabbing him in the back with a small knife a thousand times.
The woman says, I'm divorcing you, and then it's done.
Because the women, we're basically paid to leave, aren't we?
You have great incentives.
Yeah.
What incentives are those?
Great incentives.
I mean, incentives to be supported by what they would call maintenance, spousal support, or alimony.
Those are all maintenance, spousal support, and alimony.
They're considered the same thing.
It just depending on where you are, what state you are, those three words are used interchangeably.
But oddly enough, feminists are opposed to that as well.
Oh, they're opposed to that.
Most staunch feminists don't like maintenance or spousal support either.
This is what people don't understand.
They think feminists are just going to agree to have an advantage in the family court.
They look at that as a negative as well because they want to be able to be self-supportive and all of that stuff.
So, yeah.
Really?
The feminists I've talked to, and I'll tell them to get a job instead of like trying to cash out.
Some feminists are not really feminists.
We attribute the word, we use that as a blanket term to describe people who, like the red-haired, crazy feminists, those are, those people typically more agree with many red pill guys.
There's just a kind of different call to action.
I think some people ride the wave of feminism.
They're not really feminist.
So, and then what about child support?
So, there's you got those.
Yeah.
Child support.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Tell me about child support.
Child support is the evil imps or spousal support.
And then you have child support, which is a second payment.
It's calculated completely different from spousal support.
Spousal support.
So this was kind of before, this was before I started doing the interviews with the divorced men.
So this interview was actually really impactful for me to my understanding of the family court system.
Because again, I came from my parents have been married 30 years, and most people around me were married.
And if they did get divorced, you know, it's weird.
I've probably seen more divorces when I was 16 and up than like people didn't really get divorced in my like small community in middle school.
There was like one or two.
So I didn't really know.
I don't know.
It's kind of the way I say it is once you see it, you can't unsee it.
So at this point, I'm sort of waking up to just how bad it is for men.
And CGA, you know, I'm forever grateful to him because, you know, he took the, he took like, I think this interview was like two or three hours.
He took the time out of his day to sit down and explain all this stuff for me.
And this video did really well before YouTube made me pull it.
Yeah.
Port dictated on how long you were married.
And that's like alimony.
Spousal says, okay, yeah.
So depending on how long you were married or who was the primary breadwinner, which typically is mostly men because that's how women select.
But child support is based on how many kids you have.
If I have kids in a prior relationship, if my income is significantly greater than hers, it depends on what state.
So then you can get a double penalty.
You leave out paying spousal support and child support.
And they're both, sometimes they're both collected by different agencies.
So I, yeah, because that, that was the big like shock to me is like women are basically because isn't child support dictated by how much like who has the kids?
So it almost gives women incentive to take the kids.
To fight for the custody.
Yes.
Yeah, because then they get more money.
Most typically, you're going to hear a woman say, I want primary custody.
Right.
Right.
Which is going to mean she wants an advantage on that time-wise.
But the excuse they'll use is that I raised the kids.
I was a primary parent.
He worked.
He traveled.
He was never there.
He cheated, whatever it is to get out of that.
He can't take care of them because he works a certain schedule.
He travels.
He's an alcoholic.
He's an abuser.
That's why he shouldn't have the kids.
That's how it's framed.
But we have to understand that there's a calculation going to give her more money the more time she has.
But here's the trip.
You want to hear something funny?
When we say that, most people say, nah, that's not the case.
She just wants more time to give the kids more stability.
Right.
But men will say, I deserve my parental rights to have the kid equal time.
You know, he just wants more time so he can pay less child support.
Oh, it's like a lose-lose.
Yeah, because I just said she wants more time to get more child support.
So they then twist it back and say, he just wants more time so he can pay less child support.
Yeah.
And that's, that's what I, I really did not understand.
When I first started watching red pill content, I was like, I was like, why are these guys so against marriage?
Like, this seems like a great, a great thing.
I mean, and if it was controlled by church, controlled by communities, it's, it's, this is how communities are built.
So people think that I'm anti-marriage, but I'm pretty traditional in that in the aspect of the best way to raise children in a two-parent household.
I know that.
I understand that.
But we can't even do that.
We can't do that as a community.
So, what happens is the state has to get involved.
And the state has to do its best to find a way to support women who are now being volunteering themselves out of marriage, but the resources that they reach to eventually.
And then there's also a penalty to the guy saying, Well, you married her.
So, thus, you have to support her to a certain extent.
And for a long time, it was like you got to forward her until she can get on her feet.
Get a job.
That's what I thought.
I'm like, Yeah.
But you're also saying the women who volunteer who said, I quit my job, my career to be a mother and a wife.
You got lucky.
Right.
That's what I said.
I'm like, why are you entitled to money?
Half the time, they're the ones leaving.
Half the time.
It's almost damn near all the time.
Well, and even that statistic is skewed, right?
So we say 70% of the divorces are filed by women and then 80 or 90% when it's college educated.
But that's, but that's skewed because a lot of times women won't file the divorce to punish the man.
Oh, shut up.
I've never thought about that.
So what happens is that the guy says, I'm leaving you for another woman.
Well, legally, she's not going to file the divorce because he's going to marry another woman or he's going to be out there dating.
So in order to prevent him from finding another partner, she'll stop the divorce proceedings or at least halt it.
Yeah.
So there's a lot more.
So then, but by that point, the guy says, I'll file.
So then he files and gets the process started.
That's only one of the, because otherwise he knows he's going to lose.
So, so the divorces are that are filed by men are don't even count as the man filed.
It is the woman that wanted the divorce, but she won't, she'll drag the proceedings to prevent him from marrying.
Wow, you just red-pilled me a little more.
You hear lazy slob.
That's what that's what I said.
That's what I got all these whales on my page.
The whales, yeah.
You call them busted Pillsbury whiskey can.
No, no, I did have a clip that was going viral, and all these whales started to show me their blubber.
I'm like, you're just gonna be my shit.
She'll be your blubber, right?
And most of the time, these people.
I was whale attacked a couple of years ago.
That was.
It was a rough time.
Obviously, the guy didn't marry her in that state many times.
So now she's not who he married.
And we call that a bait and switch.
Yeah, that's what they do.
They get the ring and they're like, and then they're like, I'll just let myself go.
And there's no penalty for her.
He gets penalized for letting her go.
And that's the other penalty.
But I'm going to give you a third calculation that nobody remembers that I have to teach people about.
And this is where men lose more than 50%.
So you hear that phrase, men lose half.
Well, men typically lose 75% of their income or resources because the third calculation is how property is divided, how pensions are divided, how retirements are divided, how, you know, if you had a business, how's that divided?
So there's a, there's, those are three separate calculations when you go through a divorce.
And typically, if you had a guy and you were a business owner or you had a military pension or a firefighter's pension, and then you had kids and then you have spousal support, that's three income sources that are divided in the courts.
And it gets ugly.
So, okay.
So if you, so this is your house.
Yes.
Yeah.
So, so if you got married again, I'm sure you will.
That ain't never going to happen.
I'm sure.
It ain't never going to happen again.
I'm sure you will.
But let's say you did, you know, tomorrow.
Right.
Now, then you get divorced.
How, what would happen to the house?
Depending on what state, it would be considered either community property or it could be used to up to the judge's discretion to decide.
So.
Oh, so he can just give her the house.
Good.
Because that's called equitable, equitable, what's equitable.
So there's equitable states like Texas is, I believe, I'm not mistaken.
Don't quote me on the states, but some states are equitable, whatever's equitable.
But in the judge's mind, 70% would be equitable.
And that could fly.
But a community property state.
It's probably a simp, blue film.
Well, that's a problem.
And so if the judges are simps or you have a female judge, what's going to happen, right?
What's typically going to happen?
In California, it's community property 50-50, which creates a problem.
If I split this house 50-50, I can't cut it in half.
I can't put tape down the middle and say you live on that half and I live on that half.
So typically the whales did kill my TikTok because I said something along the lines of you don't deserve love as a fat woman.
And I said after that, I said, nobody deserves love.
But then they clipped it.
So just the fat woman part.
And then do you know what happened?
All the whales, they started calling my mother.
They got her phone number.
They spammed me.
They're like, gosh, fat women will come after you.
Let me tell you.
What happens is the guy feels like he has to move out.
I'll just move out.
You have it.
But he could, he'd be moving out, but he also is paying the mortgage.
But then, and then she can go to court and say he hasn't been in the kids' lives, right?
Because isn't that one thing they'll do?
The girls will do like he'll move out to get out of the house or if they're fighting.
And then she'll go to court and say he's.
Well, that's why you don't move out before the divorce is over.
Right.
But typically a guy is going to move out before the divorce is over so he don't get killed and poisoned on accident.
He's like, uh, it'd be safer for me to be out of the house because, you know, he got to go to sleep.
Where is he going to go to sleep?
They're going to sleep in the same bed.
Well, I was, so I was explaining this to my dad, right?
Okay.
Because my dad, he doesn't know about any of them.
Okay.
He's getting enlightened now.
Ken Kill says men are benevolent.
If most men are in charge, a few, one to three percent will kill.
But when women are charged in charge, they kill society in massive amounts.
Yep.
We're terrible people.
Terrible.
Laws are set up for divorce where the man still has an obligation to the woman while the woman has no obligation to the man.
She better come do the laundry.
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So I'll reduce my father.
And I was telling him, I'm like, if you had, like, if you got divorced tomorrow and you split it with mom, right?
And I was like, you would be fine because he's, I'm like, you're a super productive guy.
Right.
And I'm like, I'm not going to say he's Jeff Bezos, but like, he's like, he's not, not that much.
But do you know what I'm saying?
Like, he's so productive that he would be fine.
But I'm like, there's guys that like work their whole lives to build up something.
And they're not the type of guys that like are going to start a business tomorrow and just remake it.
I mean, it's, it's bad either way.
Yeah.
Cause I mean, you kind of learn, especially when you start hiring people, there's some people that are, they're just going to be employees forever.
They can't like manage other people.
Okay.
I feel like I've been forced to be a boss in my life.
I don't like it.
But, but so, but you kind of start to realize the different like personality types.
And so a lot of times I've found that business owners or men that are just that make a lot of money and can make it again if they get divorced will still recommend marriage, but they're in a completely different spot because they're very high performing and they're going to like A guy with one set of skills that like a police officer,
like I've heard police officers and firemen get it very bad because that's a specific set of skills.
They're not going to be rich quick.
And so they do that for 30 years and she takes the pension.
He's screwed.
Screwed.
Where my father, this is what I was kind of trying to get at.
He's, he's a guy who started businesses or whatever.
And he, like, if he lost everything tomorrow, he just would remake it in like two years.
Like, he's just stupid.
Like, I wish I, you know, I don't even deserve a channel.
My father deserves a channel.
I wish I wish he would come on.
I, he's just a private guy, but he, he would do so well.
He's more entertaining than me.
Way.
But like, I like empathy, I guess, because they don't, they're like, oh, I would be imagine marrying Pearl and you find out she's 1.2 million in credit card debt.
I do not have, why are you guys making stuff up about me in the chat?
I, all right.
Oh, he would be fine.
So he's not worried about that situation.
Well, if he had a guy, typically we call a gray divorce guy.
So he's a little bit older.
He's worked a certain amount of years in his company and he finally got to the top peak of his income.
And then we call it, she pulls a rug from under his foot, right?
So he finally worked hard enough to be able to pay off the mortgage, pay off the house.
And then at 50, she pulls a plug.
So everything he worked for is flushed down the toilet if he moves out of the house.
Yeah.
And he's 50 at that point.
He's 50.
So he got to start over from 25.
Oh, shit.
And because that.
Yeah.
So the guys that get rug pulled that old, I mean, they're starting over in their 50s and 60s.
Those are some of the worst guys I've interviewed.
Oh, gosh.
One guy got put on lifetime alimony.
You got to Google your state.
Yeah.
And he got put on lifetime alimony when he was 60.
Couldn't retire.
He's never going to retire.
He'll work till he's dead.
Whatever he saved is going to get divided in court.
So he can't just be like, okay, keep the house.
I'm going to go right.
He's going to divide the savings too.
They're going to divide the retirement too.
And then he's going to have a monthly obligation.
Okay.
Let me see the other time stamps.
22 to 25.
No fault divorce.
Okay.
Legally, like they're forced to.
It's not even a choice.
Right.
But we're telling men, don't do that because it's a lifelong sentence that you're giving yourself.
Like you become a stepdaddy to bail out a woman or you're penalizing yourself.
Well, even outside of that, I'm talking about like government benefits.
You guys pay more into government benefits and we're the ones that are on them.
I mean, that's always been that way, though.
Yeah.
It's all even that way.
It's worse now.
They pay you to be a single mom.
If you pay, you get free housing if you're a single mother.
Right.
But I was annoyed because I was like, I didn't have any kids.
So can I get rewarded?
Can I get free housing?
There's no equity.
There's no fairness in this thing here, but you can go out there and get knocked up if you want.
I think the crazy thing is the problem men have today is we've been educated that men and women are equal.
See the time where women were taken care of and bailed out.
There was this sense that men, they're the providers.
This is the role you provide over here.
Right.
And then if you didn't provide anything, you get kicked the hell out.
All right.
I know there's echo guys.
I didn't, I didn't have a producer then.
It was like early in my channel.
So I just did the best I could.
And say, all right, you ain't cooperating.
That's it.
Or if he was alcoholic and abusive, he loses.
That's what divorce used to be.
But when no fault divorce came in, then it changed the game and it swung the pendulum swiftly to the point where now our generation and younger, we're dealing with the realities of these women are equal, but I owe them child support.
I got to fight for my kids.
They get alimony, but we're equal in society.
It doesn't make sense.
How did no fault divorce swing the pendulum?
The no-fault divorce allowed women to get incentivized to bust up marriages with no excuse.
See, before you needed a reason, you needed to hire a private investigator and follow your husband to the hotel with a secretary, right?
Or you need to have been abused.
You needed a reason.
They would have to go to the court and say, well, why are you divorcing this man?
At that point, women didn't file 80% divorces.
They probably filed probably less than half.
Men probably filed the divorces.
But once they said, you don't need a reason, divorce rate skyrocketed.
And then women can go in and say, he's cheap.
He's worth more divorced than married.
Well, and then you see a lot of the government like programs come in too.
The government programs, like the welfare and that type of thing.
Yeah.
And child tax credits and all of these things.
Yeah.
Because I'm like, why are we paying people to be single mothers?
That's what I don't understand.
Well, you incentivize people to have be single mothers.
And of course, they're paid to do it.
And I remember when I lived in the Midwest, when I was younger, women would stay getting knocked up by multiple men.
They would be like, and there would be mothers telling their daughters to get pregnant.
And that's why teenage pregnancy was super high because the mothers would, if they were, if the women were shiftless and lazy as mothers, they would have daughters and the daughters would be 15 and 16.
They'd be like, girl, you can get $300 a kid a month.
And so those girls would have three, four kids.
There's no incentive to be a good person as a woman.
Truly, really and truly.
So let me get this straight.
Like, this is what you got to look at the chessboard as a woman.
Your option is be a good person.
Don't put your husband on child support, alimony.
Don't marry rich.
Don't go on OnlyFans or work.
Which one are you going to pick?
And then it's a vicious cycle because I cringe to think that $300 a kid is free money.
I couldn't do it.
But if you think, some people are like, that's good money.
Yeah.
I mean, it's late to me.
Okay.
So then next we got.
Okay. You can get like, it's.
If you, if you said, I can't afford to have this kid, I need child support.
And you could have, you could have terminated.
You could have sent it up for adoption.
You could have not got pregnant because you were unable to afford the child.
But you keep getting pregnant.
And that's the crazy thing.
Every person I know that's like had an irresponsible pregnancy would be involved.
The boyfriends wanted the kid.
They knew it was her choice, right?
But it would have stuck around.
Audience, the worst thing a woman can ever be in life is a single mother.
You heard it here first.
Yeah, I agree with you.
You make that way.
So I have no sympathy for single mothers out here, although I was raised by a single mother.
But I always tell my daughter, never be that.
I mean, you basically just complicating life and you're penalizing the child and you're going to just basically ruin the child.
That's what you're going to do.
What do you, so, okay, so you got divorced.
And you said you're married for 10 years and you got divorced.
Almost 10 years, got divorced.
And then you entered the dating scene.
Yeah.
Dating.
What was that like?
These hoes crazy out here.
No, what was it like?
I got an education in the generation X and millennials quite different.
So younger millennials tend to, they want to push off marriage as long as they possibly could.
My generation was not quite like that.
It was getting to that point, but millennials typically were like 29, 30, 32, 34.
But before all of that, it was going to be in these streets, right?
They were going to be out here getting rain more times in a Holland Tunnel.
All right.
they were going to be partying.
We call it the Holland Tunnel in New York.
So they got ran through more times in the Holland Tunnel.
And the Holland Tunnel is the busiest tunnel in New York.
It goes from New York to New Jersey.
Okay.
Busiest tunnel almost in America.
And a lot of women started to show that.
That's the lifestyle that they live.
Sex in the city.
Yeah.
I'm going to live over here and go over here, backpack through Europe and blah, blah, blah.
And then they were going to say, oh, I'm marriage material now.
Well, the marriage rates have plummeted since this generation, that generation, millennials.
But they will say millennials are staying married more and all of that stuff.
But they're not being honest because they're still young.
Many of them are barely hitting 40.
So yeah, that's now, but you know, there's a generation, there's this baby boomers getting divorced right now in the 70s, right?
So just wait, give it time.
But dating wise, I thought, you know, let me give your group, your audience, some context.
When I got married and was engaged, there was no dating apps.
There was no smartphones.
There was not even text messages back and forth.
They started making phones.
I'm 40.
I turned 47.
By the time you guys see this, I'm 47.
I'm 46 right now.
So there was no, we had pagers and stuff like that and little link pagers, but we had no smartphone where you could just get an app, swipe, swipe, swipe.
That was 2002.
I think 2002 when I got engaged.
2004 by the time I got married.
So that's what that was.
And even dating, they had dating websites like match.com was around, I believe.
And there was other things, but you were a loser if you were on match.
You were a complete loser, right?
That was loser shit.
So with that being said, I got divorced and separated 2012.
There's smartphones now.
There's Tinder.
There's plenty of fish.
There's Instagram is just starting up.
So that's what I got reintroduced in the dating marketplace.
So it was like a highway.
It was like a fast-moving highway when before it was a crawl.
Did you, when you, did you try to like court some like hoes at all when you entered like the dating season?
I didn't court them.
I ran through them too.
You know what I mean?
I had my fun.
I think what happened was sex was much easier given.
See, this is what the crazy thing is to get sex when I was about getting engaged was tough.
You had to work.
You had to talk to the woman.
Yeah.
So he comes out and all the hoes are hoeing, right?
Hold on.
I just want to see the next one: 28 to 35 and then 37 to 42.
Okay, we'll keep going.
There we go.
You couldn't, you know, unless you just met a fabulous 304 and you were just lucky that night.
Remember, it was getting lucky.
There's no such thing as getting lucky.
It was just almost a guarantee.
So by the time I'm getting back out, Instagram had just started becoming a thing.
This was the baby infancy of the Instagram.
And so I'm getting divorced during Instagram's peak.
People were girls were flying in themselves in.
They were flying themselves in.
Girls were driving hours.
I mean, it was just like what I call the digital sexual revolution.
And it was nothing like that when I was getting married or situation like that.
Yeah, it was nothing like that.
So what did you find out about female nature like through this?
Whenever I find out about female nature, I just think that by that time, what did I find out?
By the way, I'm checking my phone in this to make sure it's still recording the audio.
I'm not like.
I don't want it to seem like I'm being rude.
I was just making sure the audio is still going.
Yeah, that's good.
When was this?
This was like two, three years ago.
Hey, I keep checking it.
we're good we're good female nature at that time I think I was learning that what they say and what they do are two separate things.
Right.
Okay.
So that was basically the epiphany.
I was like, they're saying this, but they're doing this.
They're doing this under the cover of night, but they're out there.
I'm an angel.
You know what I mean?
Like that type of stuff.
And I'm like, this is crazy.
So that probably was the epiphany.
And to not trust what they do, because I think what people will tell you, and I will tell your young men, whatever your belief system in women, it's going to be validated by social media and dating apps.
So if you think girls are out here being pure, well, based on your experience, is that true?
Most of the time, if you're using social media and dating apps, you're going to find out that there's a lot of fast and loose women.
Then that's going to.
Do you know what?
In college, I had a male roommate.
I didn't really understand.
He was like a fat Italian guy.
But he would just get these women off of Tinder to come like straight to our apartment.
Do you know how many times I've been used to be a wingman for somebody?
You're like, oh, these are my roommates.
And he'd have like the loudest sex.
Oh, my God.
And like four or five days a week, I would meet all these different women.
I'm like, what the hell?
Validate what your belief system is going forward and backwards, right?
You're going to look back on a relationship.
My girl disappeared all the time Friday at eight o'clock.
What was she doing?
You know, she was learning how to use her easy bake oven or she was getting piped down, right?
She getting piped down because it's easy.
So you will know that because you'll be the guy piping women down at Friday.
And, you know, and when she goes radio silent on her guys that she's dating, she got multiple options.
And also when you get that text message, this is the text message.
I don't know if it's popular now, but the, oh, I fell asleep.
You know, you text them at eight o'clock.
Oh, I fell asleep.
She texts you in the morning.
Oh, I fell asleep.
You know, I'm getting back to you.
Well, based on your experience, you know that that's not true.
She was getting ran through.
As we called it over here, she was getting her insides pushed to her esophagus.
That's what she was doing.
She wasn't just falling asleep.
So what about the guys that say not all women are like that?
That could be true.
Yeah.
I mean, people will say there's no unicorn.
There's no any of that type of stuff.
If you believe that not all women are like that, I tell you, roll a dice.
Roll a dice.
Better.
This was a really big turning point.
I think we talking generalities here.
I can't talk specifically about who does what, but I had some women that I would thought never was 304s.
And when they got to the crib, they was full on 304s.
And then vice versa.
Some women, I was like, she is scab pill and skeezer.
And then all of a sudden she gets to the house and she's all nervous about things.
What the hell's going on?
So it's all different.
Yeah.
So.
Okay.
I think what was the next part?
37 to 42.
Okay.
37.
Yeah, I interviewed him the next day.
Okay.
Okay.
Oh, we were talking about Hafee.
So look, people, he should know how content works.
Right.
I'm saying my channel is about Ferraris, and then you want me to tell me drive tomorrow.
You know what I mean?
He did that to me too.
You did that to me.
Yeah, I interviewed him the next day.
Okay, okay.
So look, people, he should know how content works.
Right.
So I think that's where he's authentic.
He's not authentic because he knows how this works.
And now you're telling me to be balanced based on your interpretation of how it works.
But that's not a, that's not the conversation that we have on social media.
I think people tend to subscribe to channels that have a certain message.
Period.
Now, if you go off that, if I invite you into my channel and say, this is what we're talking about, and the next day I flip to try to have a balanced conversation, that's not authentic.
But then his argument is, well, you're only doing it for the money.
Look, this is how social media works.
You know, what are we doing here?
Are we going to have an authentic conversation about how social media works or you want a balanced conversation, but it can't be both?
What do you think?
Do you think men should get married today?
Should men get married today?
It depends on your position.
So I tell men, and a lot of people get this wrong.
They think I'm against marriage as a principle.
That's wrong.
I'm against state-sponsored marriage and I'm against men getting married without information.
Most men get married both, right?
They get married state-sponsored and they think they're getting married under God or they getting married in their church or from their community and they're not anymore.
It's state-sponsored.
Then most men get married when they're in a position where they can't provide whatever they need to provide to the wife of the marriage.
And then that's how they get divorced.
So they get married and they have nothing.
They have nothing but love.
We have love.
Our love is like no other love.
Are you saying that doesn't last?
Love?
Yeah.
Love is, love does not last.
It's not intended to last.
Love is not intended to last.
Actually, most people.
That was such a bad joke.
I don't even know why he laughed.
Guys are so nice, right?
Even people who are pushers of love will tell you love lasts 18 months, maybe three years.
But this is why it's important that you actually have something else to build on other than love.
But if you want to make your decision purely on love, what happens when the love ends?
And then you're going to have to deal with that.
So this is why children are important, right?
So if you have love, love is basically, basically lust confusing you to procreate.
That's nature.
It gets this attachment.
It feels good.
I hope everybody experiences this.
It's great.
As you get older, it's less and less.
For men, you'll experience it less and less.
This is just how it works.
I think that's true for everyone.
That's true for everyone.
But women use love.
They use love to manipulate men into marrying them when they've already been ran through.
So this is the parabonding argument.
So they'll say, but I love you, but she need rent to be paid.
Yeah.
That's what it is.
Or it's like, that was.
Yeah.
That's it.
People, girls get so mad on my show when I say that.
What?
Love doesn't exist.
No, no, no, not that, like the parabonding.
Oh, the parabonding.
Yeah, yeah.
But I'm like, I don't, it's like they tell on themselves, though, because they're so angry.
Yeah.
Like, why are you this?
Why are you this mad?
You shouldn't be this.
Rebecca, you shouldn't be this mad.
Well, the proof is in the pudding.
All I say is just look at the results that we have out here.
If you have, for women, unfortunately, if your sexual partners pass a certain number, what you're doing is manipulating.
It's not love.
There's no way it can be love.
Now you can be attached.
People have to understand love and attachment are two different things.
And you can tell by when the relationship ends if you had an attachment or love.
See, a person that had love, they'll be have their feelings hurt and then they'll be indifferent to the person.
They may be like, well, I just want, but a person that had an attachment is like a parasite.
They'll try to kill the person.
They'll hate the person after they broke the attachment because the ego is involved.
There was never any love.
What they'll do is they'll go attack the person.
Yeah, it's like a parasite, parasitic relationship.
So once the host shakes the parasite off, the parasite hates the host.
Right?
And so that's attachment.
And so if they loved the, because I almost think, like, okay, because when I think of girls, like, I feel like the girl, if she hates her ex, she still loves him.
If she hates her ex, she's still loving him.
Yeah, because you don't, like, I feel like hate is closer to love than activating.
I feel like if a girl doesn't talk about him, like, then she didn't care.
Okay, so, but, but, I, my rebuttal to that is you don't destroy something you love.
Typically, if there's hate involved, she's trying to destroy embarrassing.
That's equal.
I don't know.
My experience, what I have seen is that when women hate the ex, he could still hit.
Do you know what I mean?
Like, that's what I've seen.
When women hate the ex, yeah, he could still get it.
Watch out for your girlfriend's least favorite ex or wife.
Ego.
So, what she'll do is drag him through divorce court, take him to child support, trying to pitilize him and hurt him, take the kids away, don't let him see the kids.
That's okay.
What else do we have?
Oh, that's it.
Um, but yeah, so that's my work-sided show.
I want to do shows where I just you know, zoom in on the people that really inspired me in the space and really gave me like light bulb moments.
I like to give credit where credit is due.
And he has an awesome channel, so you guys should go check it out.
Um, and let me know what you guys think in the comments.
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