Pearl Daily Live Stream explores how women in helping professions—like social work or medicine—prioritize external validation over relationships, often expecting partners to manage their lives while sabotaging others’ with gossip or emotional manipulation. Callers Frankie and John share stories of ex-wives whose friends undermined marriages, with Frankie’s 20-year union collapsing after five years of no intimacy due to custody battles and false accusations. The host warns men to avoid "low-value" advice from women’s networks, where partners are blamed instead of issues addressed, and debates whether honesty or self-preservation should guide men in dating. Ultimately, the episode frames modern relationships as a battleground of shifting priorities, where women’s reliance on external validation risks destabilizing partnerships. [Automatically generated summary]
And today we're going to start by playing my mixtape.
I know I do have a producer back in the building.
Thank you, God.
I've been tortured for two weeks.
It's for the worst time of my life ever to learn how to do the equipment.
But so now we don't have to listen to my mixtapes to start the show.
Because normally I'd go fix it over there, then I'd come.
But I want to.
So welcome to the show, everybody.
This is society.
This is called We Don't Party Like We Used To.
And I wrote this song because my entire life I've been on my phone.
Like when I got my first smartphone when I was 12.
So as an adult, I've never been to a party without cell phones.
And I've always wondered what it would be like.
You guys, to us, this is like the dinosaur age.
I'm like, what did these dinosaurs do without cell phones?
So I wrote this song and I'm going to play it to start.
Don't party like we used to.
Take me back to 1992.
Everybody's acting brand new.
We're not looking across the room.
Everybody is looking down on their phones.
No one's around.
Yeah, we used to tear up the town.
Now I don't hear a sound.
People don't dance because somebody's watching.
Drink too much, everybody's talking.
We used to arrange like there was no stopping.
So put your hands up, everybody's rocking.
Put your phone down and get on the dance floor.
Shake that booty like you never did before.
Look real silly, yeah, raise your hands.
Let's get together and maybe just dance.
Now I have a vision for this music video, and I want you guys to go through this journey with me.
So imagine, I can't dance, but I've always wished I could.
It's like white people, we don't really have beat.
You know, it is what it is.
But I thought it would be cool for me to imagine.
There's a room.
This is how the music video I do it.
There's a room and everyone's on their phone.
They're being so lame.
It's like women are doing their photo shoots.
You know, when you go to a place and you're trying to enjoy it, it's like the women.
And then I come in and I bring in a bunch of dancers and they steal all the women's phones and then they make them do choreographed dances.
That's my vision for this music video.
And I do this in different parts of the world.
So like we start and I go to like, it'd be weird if I was in like high schoolish, but like a college, right?
So I go to a college and it's just all the women thirst trapping at the party.
And then it's like, oh, we don't want to do that.
So we, we book, you know, and then I go to like an old folks home where everyone that's on the old folks home is like watching TV.
And then it's like me with my dance.
And then we're like shimmying.
Do you see the vision?
It's the snap of Polaroid.
Now the whole night's on record.
I used to know who my neighbor was.
Now we really don't do that stuff.
We used to go out and ding dong ditch.
Now that ring cam is the biggest snitch.
If that wasn't a good lyric, we used to go and ding dong ditch.
Now that ring cam is the biggest snitch.
I don't get the credit I deserve.
I really don't.
I don't know why these music companies are knocking on my door.
Now all these young kids do a stream on Twitch.
So close.
2020s are the biggest glitch.
No one can convince me this isn't good.
I don't care what any of you say.
Anyways, all right, let's get into today's show topic.
I first want to say thank you guys for tuning in today.
I really appreciate all of you.
I could not do what I do without you.
And we just got enough signups on my app that I officially can afford a producer.
How amazing is this?
So, you know, maybe someday we can get a full staff again.
How amazing would that be?
Maybe one day, I have a vision.
I have a vision.
Also, the documentary is going good.
They're going to get us a commercial for it probably in the next two weeks.
Sorry for the gaslighting.
I know I've said this.
You guys just have to take my word.
We had to switch teams.
It caused a hiccup.
But it's going well.
And I'm really excited.
We have a very sit, we have some of the guys that worked on Matt Walsh's What is a Woman are also helping us with this.
So I'm really excited.
I think it's going to be really good.
So it's been great.
Really, we've been starting to get traction again.
And really, it's because of you guys.
I couldn't do it without you.
So if you guys want, you go to the website.
It's the second, sorry, the first link in the description.
And we also are on the app store.
The link is also in the description.
Or you go to www.theaudacitynetwork.com or you put it in the app store.
And what happens is you sign up, you download the app, you put in your information, and you sign up.
And it's either 10 bucks a month or 100 bucks a year.
But in April, we're going to do something that's pretty cool.
Pretty cool.
And this is going to be expensive.
But right now it's cheap.
On Sunday, I am doing a cap on whoever has signed up to my website by Sunday, I will include in this offering for the either 10 bucks a month or 100 a year.
And the reason I'm doing that is because I really appreciate the people that signed up early on.
The people that sign up now, you're going to get first invite to events that we do.
You're going to, as a thank you, because, you know, when the whole world came at me and I was down on my luck, you guys are the ones that helped me pick myself back up.
You and my father.
Thank you, Dad.
You know, and I really am appreciative.
So forever, I will remember that.
I really will.
And what I'm going to do is, when I got into media, I couldn't believe how many.
Sorry, let me start, say this in a different way.
When I got into media, I realized that I took for granted how many smart, intelligent men I know in real life that are not famous.
And I realize this because in media, you meet really famous people and you realize that, you know, I would meet someone and I would think, my dad's like not as famous as him, but he knows way more.
And I would meet like the director of a company.
In the last five years, I've really spent building a very, very good network, right?
And so what I'm going to do is I'm going to bring on smart, intelligent, non-famous men onto the platform to give presentations on different topics.
And by the way, you guys can be involved in this and you guys can give me suggestions on people you want me to bring on.
So this can be maybe there's an industry you're going into.
I am very good at getting in touch with people.
And so I want to offer that to you.
On top of that, you know, the first month, I'm going to do it internally.
And so one of the guys that's going to give a presentation is my former consultant that I used to use when I first got into YouTube.
He helped me get 2 million subscribers in a year.
He is one of the most intelligent people I've ever met.
He just is very, like, he is younger.
He's like two years younger than me.
And he's so good at YouTube that his strategies just like blow people up.
Like he is very, very good.
He works with all the big people, but he's just not a public facing guy.
But, you know, behind a paywall, he's willing to give you guys a presentation.
Next, we have one of my editors.
So if you guys want to go into graphic design or editing, he can tell you the steps on how to do that.
And by the way, the guys that you guys like, maybe they'll come on monthly or weekly or quarterly and we'll keep coming back.
And the great thing is you guys can directly ask them questions.
So I'm going to block off a whole hour for you guys to ask them questions.
If you guys want, you guys can tell me.
I can do a course on how to get in touch with people.
I do think it's unfair because I'm a woman and it's just a lot easier when you're a woman.
But I do have a very good network and I've spent years building it.
And I'll actually give one piece of advice for free.
You have to not care about being annoying.
Look, I have flipped people that were annoyed with me or I'm like interviewing.
Like I would have a copy and paste message, which I can give to you guys that I would copy and paste to different people.
And some people thought I was so annoying, but after a certain time, they realized you're just relentless.
And that's how I got a lot of big collabs.
And so anyways, I know so many smart, intelligent men that just do not get the credit that they deserve that I really want to, I want you guys to experience that.
And some I'm sure in the future will be famous, but you guys have till Sunday to get the monthly or yearly membership.
And I'm going to keep a spreadsheet for life and I'll remember you guys.
I don't know exactly all the ways I'm going to thank you, but I promise, I promise there's going to be more ways.
So, yeah, I first wanted to say thank you so much.
There's four people in the chat right now on YouTube, which if you guys do have something you want me to read in the chat today, please put Pearl Reed.
We have a very active chat on the website and it's very fun and I love you guys, but sometimes I gotta, I gotta do the, I gotta know what we can read and not.
So Doug MPA says women can't stand each other and they can't stand when one of their friends finds a good relationship and gets married.
And that is, thank you, Doug MPA.
That is the topic that we are going to go into today.
So, you know, as you guys know, it is said that women keep women single.
Single women can share with her single friends.
The single friends will get her, will find a way to get her to view it in a negative way.
Anything the man does will be criticized and scrutinized.
It is the goal of single women to get her friend in a relationship or a marriage to leave so that the women can be single again.
That is why I always say all the time that women sabotage each other's relationships.
The women that sabotage relationships can be friends or family members, like that single auntie and that single mother.
You guys already know.
They're always telling the daughter you can do better.
She can't do better.
That's why she's with you.
We're hypergamous.
If we could do better, we would.
Do you know what I mean?
Biology.
You're not going to undo years of biology.
Your only choice as a guy is to be awesome.
That's it.
That's all you got, you know.
Many men tell the stories of how their wives, mothers, and sisters do the most to try to get their wife to leave them.
The wife or the sister will intentionally put themselves in opposition of their husband to make the woman have to choose who she's loyal to.
When the wife chooses her husband, the mother or sister will make sure that there are severe consequences for doing so.
Some of the common ways that women sabotage their friends' relationships or marriages is: one, make her think that the boyfriend or husband is cheating.
That is the lowest hanging fruit and the easiest to perpetrate because of the all men are bad culture in the West.
You guys fall asleep for a nap and you wake up to 10 missed calls saying, Where are you?
Where are you?
You're like, I was napping.
I was playing my video games.
But women, we do this thing, right?
We think, we have no idea how hard it is to get laid.
And so we think that if it's diff, like if you guys, if we want to sleep with you, we just assume every other woman does.
That's our default.
I'm not saying, and you guys have lived life where most women are repulsed by you, right?
I mean, I'm just being honest, even Hotman, like most women don't want to, right?
And so when you've lived that, when you've lived that, you're like, what are you talking about?
You think all these women want to sleep with me?
And then it's a weird thing that happens.
That's another way that women's friends sabotage relationships.
They try to sleep with the boyfriend.
It's like, it's like, it's like, this is what happens.
There'll be a friend group, right?
And this guy's friend zoned by everybody.
And then one woman says, you know what?
He's cool.
Let me date him.
And do you know what happens?
All the other women start flirting with him.
It's like, you weren't trying to before.
Guys, female friends.
It's like there's so many Reddit stories of like men having sex with the girl's husband, sister, best friend, women.
We don't care.
We're ruthless.
Okay.
Another reason ways that women sabotage relationships is looking for signs of weakness or problems in the relationship and then blowing it out out of proportion.
Telling her to leave when the smallest conflict happens.
Number three, using any past transgression as a reason to show why the boyfriend or husband is a bad person in the present.
Four, say that the boyfriend or husband is too controlling when he tries to set boundaries, especially if they are boundaries that affect time with the female friends, female friends or family members.
A good example of this is Samantha Lee, Tyrese Gibson's ex-wife.
They had a pretty messy divorce and Tyrese was crying on the internet because he couldn't see his baby.
It was bad.
And about a year ago, she admitted that if she had different people around her, she would have stayed done, done, done.
Okay, so we're going to watch this interview where she admits this.
Michael was running catches.
Yo, Termy.
Through that.
Loved ones, people that support you.
You want to make sure that you are involving in that decision making.
And you have to really decide and make a very calculated decision based upon your belief systems, based upon who you're speaking to, your wise counsel, like giving them the information and then making the best decision.
I think that we do take divorce very casually.
And I'll admit, I probably looked at it a little, little less intensely as I should have.
That's me looking back on it.
Because I would never tell, I work with women.
I would never tell a woman to walk through that in the same frame of mind I was in when I did it.
And when you say that, but what frame of mind was that?
What do you mean by that in particular?
I was very, very hurt.
I was very angry.
And I remember like when I made like the decision, I was like hysterically crying on the phone with my attorney.
That was not the person I should have been on the phone with when like that's a whole nother conversation.
But anyway, I was hysterically crying.
And I was not in any position to make that decision.
I was extremely emotionally intoxicated.
We can be intoxicated with our emotions.
And I'm one that I'm very much emotionally led.
I feel very strongly.
I'm just that kind of person, very passionate.
But I would never tell somebody to make that decision when they're that emotional.
But of course, I was.
All right.
Even through it all, who still would in the chat?
Be honest, guys.
Be honest.
She's taking her ex-husband to the cleaners in divorce court right now.
How many of you still would date her?
How many?
One in the chat.
One.
And I wasn't talking to someone that genuinely would be for marriage, you know, or for reconciliation.
And that's not no slight to my, You know, no, it's a current occurrence.
Yeah, it has nothing, there's no slight to that.
It not the friends, but I was on the phone with my attorney.
Yeah, so it was something that was being said to me that hurt me at that time.
And that, um, so at that time, when I was on the phone and I made that decision, I was, I was, I was, I was livid.
I was emotional, I was hysterical.
And so, if anything, if I could take anything from that and advise somebody else, because I don't want families to be torn apart, yeah, it would be that if you're that hurt and you're like that emotional about someone, that's not a lack of love.
Like, the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference, it's void of love, void of feelings.
And so, if I'm that emotional and I'm that hurt, and I'm like on that level where I'm just like, I can't stop thinking, and I'm just obsessing over why I am hurt.
I have, I'm, I, if it's misguided and misdirected, it can go in a bad direction.
And so, I think that with that being said, I didn't know that at the time, yeah.
And I made a decision, like, well, I'm so angry, I'm so hurt, and you know, this is.
And I'm just like, you know, you know, she's so remorseful sounding here.
Do you know what she's doing currently?
It's so crazy.
We can just live double lives.
You would think she was remorseful from this, but she's taking her ex-husband to the cleaners.
She has not stopped.
She's going for like 20K a month.
You guys thought your divorce was bad.
Forget it.
You know, like, never mind.
Like, I need to be done with this.
This is horrible.
You know, just all you just ruminating on all the negative things and not focused on any of the positive things.
I posted a reel, and I mean this.
I really mean this.
There was a there was a guy who was talking about the that when he before he decided to marry his wife, he had said or had told his wife that he needed to choose the people that would speak to her in her most emotional moments.
And he would, it was people that would be for the relationship.
Right.
And I know a lot of people had different kinds of like comments about the person and everything like that, but the message of what he was saying for me resounds true because the people I have, yeah, that's a get out of jail free card.
You could have picked people that were for the relationship.
You could have gone and found some.
Who did you pick?
You know, you picked a divorce attorney.
Do you know what I mean?
Like, women, you could have picked a therapist.
I don't know.
I mean, they're not much better, but you guys get the idea.
You could have picked someone, you picked a divorce attorney.
So if you picked a divorce attorney, you think your husband could have talked you out of that?
Have you guys ever seen a woman that wants to divorce your ass?
Have you seen you've seen people try to talk her out of it?
They keep going in my ear at the time were not for that.
Let me ask you this because I think that's such a good point.
Like when you're even in that spot, when you're emotional, you're in the pit of your relationship.
Yes.
Is so important to make sure you have people who are pro-marriage, pro-relationship, pro-your current relationship to be able to help, you know, as much as possible make the best decision to keep the marriage going when everybody may not have access to that counsel.
So, let me ask if you, if we can go back and if I were able somehow to insulate you with a pro-marriage, pro-relationship community, do you think you still would have actually gone through a divorce?
Not that time.
There you go.
From the horse's mouth.
Now, I have two takes on this.
One take is she's admitting it.
Women sabotage other women's relationships.
However, the other part of me thinks this is kind of just a way to blame other people.
But two things can be true at the same time.
I don't know what would have happened.
Oh, I've never said this publicly.
No, this is what we do.
That reminded me of Brittany Brenner.
Make sure you zoom in on this one.
Don't actually know.
I want to deny myself.
I want a deniability.
Yeah, no, I the truth about the matter is that if I had different people in my ear at that time, it would not have made that decision.
No.
Wow.
And that's the truth.
I try my very best at this point in my life to be what I didn't have in that moment.
Because I think that I was women were like, I'm an extremely emotional person.
People that know me know that about me.
I'm the kind of person that, like, okay, I feel so drunk.
And I can ruminate.
I can get so lost in my thoughts.
I know a lot of women are like that.
Like, we're a lot, not all of us, right?
But some of us are, just like a lot of men can be like that.
But I know women specifically, there will be moments where they'll be like, I'm ready to, I'm ready to be done.
I'm ready to be done.
I'm ready to be done.
I can't stand this.
He don't do this.
He don't do that.
Blah, And we're just focusing on these things.
And because you don't have, you don't have a certain person in your life to say, to check you and say, sis, what about this?
What about this?
What about these strings?
What about what he's not doing?
What like those types of things?
That's that can that can get you thinking about the positive aspects of this person that you may not be thinking about.
Okay, I think we've heard enough.
So there you have it, guys.
And this is the thing: we're so anxious.
That's just, you know, as women, this is something we struggle with.
And, you know, I don't care.
Every woman has this problem to some degree.
We always think the worst is going to happen.
Why do you think women will always say their number one answer to like why you have to be married or whatever is, or there has to be alimony or child support?
It's because the men are going to leave us high and dry.
We're afraid of spending our youth on the wrong guy and then getting old and crusty and left.
But then we leave.
So it's like counter.
You would think we would stay, you know, I don't know.
So now there's a dating channel that's talking about how single friends sabotage a girl's relationship.
And this is going to be a call-in at the end.
So I'm going to want to hear you guys' experience.
Here we go.
Hey guys, how you doing?
Welcome to another dating channel story.
So learning lessons from previous relationships is something that you really have to be mindful of to not repeat the same thing over and over.
I've seen a lot of situations where men tend to repeat their dating habits and it's the definition of insanity, trying the same thing over and over, hoping that you would have a different result.
So learning from your dating past is insanely important.
Can it get in the way sometimes of just experiencing somebody and meeting people?
Yeah.
I think at the end of the day, if you ignore a lot of your past experiences, then yeah, you can meet more people and generally just be around more people, but are they quality people?
So what I've done in the last, I don't know, seven or eight months, I've really concentrated on the quality of people that I want around in my life.
And I'm going to tell you why.
Because in my previous relationships, there has been lessons to be taught.
And I'll give you the most recent example.
If a woman generally starts to distance themselves from you and hang out more with their friends, they want to be single.
And you have to be like, okay, well, am I doing something wrong?
No.
Am I giving off the wrong signs?
Am I not being supportive?
Am I not being the provider, protector situation?
No.
I think a lot of the times women just like socializing and men don't.
Men generally, when they hang out with their boys, they just work on a car, they work on something, and that's where they hang out.
Whether they're building a garage with their friends, building a car, or go to the bar to watch a game, they don't necessarily like to just socialize for the sake of socializing.
Usually highly productive men are somewhere working on something and making either money or concentrating on their craft or whatever.
But women generally like to just socialize for the sake of socializing.
So I remember a pivoting point in my last relationship that made me realize that this is probably not for the long haul.
The person I was with was working in a law firm and they met somebody who was in the middle of a breakup.
You know how it is misery loves company.
So yeah, because after the breakup, obviously women have to be hoes.
Yeah, they're ready to get.
I mean, if you think when you, if you dump your girlfriend, especially if you dump her, you might, you might, the worst might come to your mind.
Like someone else is like digging her out.
And it should come to your mind because that's probably happening.
We got Tinder.
It's 2025.
Do you know what I mean?
Okay, let me get this.
Let me get this straight.
The woman has the choice to be sad or go after hot guy.
Better looking than you.
Now he's going to smash and pass, which is worse for you.
You know, you loved her.
Sucks.
It is what it is.
It is what it is.
They're going through a breakup.
My girlfriend at the time was trying to help them go to the breakup, but the woman was just, you know, banging the ex and hanging out and just kind of like going through that process of splitting up.
Once the breakup was finalized, now this person needed someone to hang out with.
Yeah.
Women need like a partner in crime.
Not too big of a partner in crime, one partner in crime.
I'm going to read the chat on the website really fast.
Doug MPA says there's nothing.
This is Tyrese's ex-wife.
She regrets leaving him.
Her mom and all her friends were talking trash in the ear about him.
How sad.
Women just make up words emotionally intoxicated.
What the hell does that mean?
I think I know what it means.
So, okay, I'll tell you what it means.
It's like I'm a woman, so I can understand woman speak.
That's when, so this is kind of how our hamster wheel runs.
Okay, so you'll have a trait, right?
So, let's say the woman sees you as not working hard enough, right?
So, like, she views you.
You've done things to indicate to the woman that you're lazy.
So, this is how the hamster wheel goes.
So, first, she's like, well, he's kind of being lazy.
Now, I know what you're thinking.
The woman is probably lazier.
She doesn't have a right.
That's not how we think.
We think we're angels, right?
So, we'll start that.
Then, the hamster wheel keeps going.
They're like, oh my God, I can't provide.
What if I have a husband that doesn't provide for me?
Oh, my God.
I'm going to be, okay, what about, but that guy over there, he's providing and I do all this stuff.
I did that and I did that and I did that and I did that.
And then it just goes.
And that's a hamster wheel.
So, yeah, I mean, that's, that's what I would say emotionally intoxicated.
So then the woman does this for like five hours, maybe a week, maybe a month.
And by the end of it, her, her hamster wheel was spinning so much that she's already going to divorce you by the end.
And you're, and you, you just thought you took like a nap.
Like you thought that you were just napping and it was going to be fine.
And she thought, well, I'm contemplating this whole relationship because you napped.
Anyways, all right, Pearl reads, she's trying to get 40K a month in child support from Tyrese and has two lawyers to pay for it.
Daniel says, it's not what she says.
It's her actions state.
Her eyes say that she does not give a shit.
James says, Pearl, how old is your dad?
I have a feeling he's half my age.
My dad is, well, if you're half, if my dad's half your age, it means you're real old.
No offense, James.
My dad's in his 50s.
He's almost 60, I think.
She's never going to get a man of Tyrese's caliber.
Now she's a single mom out here.
Do you know what?
I want to give these women hope.
Now, she probably won't, but I think we should do a show, Doug.
I want you to add this to the list of the women who won against all odds.
And who I'm thinking of is Jeff Bezos' wife.
That woman had two baby daddies and landed a billionaire.
A billionaire.
Or Ashley St. Clair.
That was a mid-woman.
Now, you might think, and now she's the baby mama of another billionaire.
And she was a e-girl.
Do you know what I mean?
Can you talk about how women's cool interests and gestures is something they learned from a boyfriend?
Basically, just a copycat.
Everything cool from us comes from men.
Do you want to know why I'm conservative?
My dad taught it to me.
Duh.
Yeah.
Do you know why I decided to abandon sinking ships?
Do you know why?
my boyfriend he said you got to stop with the he didn't say that he he I don't want to say he made me.
He didn't make me.
He showed me why it's useless to, anyways, I don't.
Useless to fight for some of these sinking ships.
And like the guys just say stuff that makes sense.
And yeah, so James, glad to be a part of the network.
You came on my radar when you spoke up for Steven Crowder.
Yeah, Steven Crowder is the hill I died on in 2024.
I think eventually I'll go on his show.
I feel like I could get it if I really pushed, but I died.
I died on that hill.
Anyways, we'll go back to the video.
Oh, James says, female lawyers are great to date.
Crazy fun, but only date.
And the girl that I was dating liked her.
She thought she was a cute little girl that they got along with and they can do things together.
And I'm like, okay, well, you're in a relationship.
So I've always wondered why all of a sudden women wonder why we question what they're doing when from one day to the next, things change drastically.
But the pivoting point of the relationship, in my opinion, was not all the stuff that happened while she lived here.
I used to call her complex girl.
You know, there were a lot of things, issues with her ex, issues with their parents, issues with her, issues with their dog, issues with everything.
But I overlooked that because, you know, not everything is perfect.
So you're like, okay, well, if you can get through this stage, generally we have a good time together.
But this part made me really question the motivations and am I even in this relationship like for the long haul because of their answer.
So this single co-worker that she had had a lot of, let's just say, questionable advice, things that she would say to do versus what she did or not, you know, like imagine you have a friend and you're like, you shouldn't do this, but then they go and do it.
A lot of that stuff was happening, according to my girlfriend at the time.
I can only go by what she tells me.
So I meet this person one time at a like container store.
And I say, hello, how you doing?
And, you know, we meet and exchange pleasantries and bada bing, bada boom.
Now, remember, guys, nothing keeps single women's, single, nothing keeps single women more single than single friends.
If you have a single friend and they want to hang out with you more, they'll try to, if you're a woman, say you're a woman in a relationship and you have a single friend, that single friend is miserable.
They're just alone and they hate the fact that you're happy in a relationship.
So they're going to try or at least attempt to put seeds of doubt in the relationship in order for them to have the friend 100%.
I've seen this happen many times.
So when I saw this happen, I go, here we go.
So after that happened, whatever, come home.
A couple days pass.
And I asked the question, so what's your friend think?
Because I met your friend and your co-worker, like, what'd she think?
She said, now, now, this is a very telling next couple of sentences.
Because I'll give you an example.
If my girlfriend met one of my friends and my friend later on says, bro, I don't like her.
She's kind of ugly and she's kind of dumpy and she's kind of weird looking and like I'll take that as like I'll internalize it and cool.
And if she was to ask me, hey, what'd your friend think of me?
He said you were a nice girl.
I'm not looking to hurt anyone's feelings.
He said you were a nice girl.
That's it.
Bada bing, bada boom, done.
But when I asked the question of her, her co-workers, I guess, impression, she goes, she said that I could do better.
And I went, interesting.
What did you say?
And I think that caught her by surprise.
She was like, what do you mean?
I'm like, well, what did you say?
If you're dumping.
It's a good show.
Doug MPA, I have another one.
Should modern women lie to men?
Because there he said, should modern women spare men's feelings and be less honest?
Put a one in the chat if you think modern women should be less honest.
Like in that situation.
Two, more honest.
Your little friend is telling you who is in a happy relationship, you can do better than that guy.
What did you say?
Did you defend me?
Did you say, hey, what the fuck?
Like, he's great.
Like, what'd you say?
And she's like, well, I didn't say anything.
Right then and there, I knew that the relationship was kind of duped.
Having someone's back costs nothing.
Like, costs nothing.
I've been in situations where people don't like the people I'm dating with.
Two girlfriends ago, everyone said she was homely looking.
Everyone said she was ugly, but I loved her.
And I was like, yeah, but she treats me good and I generally have a great time with her.
So I don't care that you think she's ugly.
I like her.
So when something like that happened on the other end, like, you know, reverse the roles, and nobody defended me, I said to myself, I know what's happening.
The single friend wants her single so that she could do girl stuff with her because she's recently out of a relationship and wants to keep her for herself and not have me as the main time taker.
Because if she's spending her free time with me, she can't spend her free time with her.
And subsequently, I was right about that because I think the seeds of doubt get planted.
And then the more they hung out at work, eight hours a day, had lunches together, had breakfast together after work together, meaning they're hanging out a little too much.
Like I love my friends, but I see them once a month or maybe once every two weeks.
Hey, what's up?
Catch up for about an hour and that's it.
But every single day when you hang out with someone that literally told you, I think you could do better than that guy that you're with, I would have hoped that they would have defended me and it would have said, hey, fuck you, I like him or whatever, you know, some kind of defense.
And I would have felt at least happy that someone had my back in that relationship.
So understand that, guys.
Single women, nothing keeps single women more single than single friends.
So, and it's because women just like to do things together, go out drinking in the middle of the, you know, in the afternoon on a Sunday, have bottomless mimosas on a kind of Sunday morning, have brunch just to say they had brunch.
It's a very odd behavior that happens.
Men don't do that.
Men go, you know, I like her.
She seems nice.
Are you happy?
And if they're like, yeah, I'm happy, they generally just kind of like let it be.
If I saw an issue, like unless I saw my friend's girlfriend cheating on him, I'm not really going to give them my personal opinion on the situation if they're happy.
If they're happy, they're glowing and they're just smiling all the time.
I'm like, why am I going to be a stick in the mud and tell them, hey, I think she looks ugly.
You could do better.
I've never have said that in my life to a man that I had a friend that had a relationship with a woman.
I'm like, oh, you could do way better.
I would say, are you happy?
Does she fulfill all your needs?
Does she get you?
Does she support what you do?
And they say, yeah, I'm happy.
Wipe your hands at the situation and you're good.
So the moment this person did not defend me, I said to myself, it's just a matter of time.
And of course, with time, they brought up some old stuff that had nothing to do with anything as the excuse as to why it wasn't going to work.
And I said, okay, if you want to hang out with your friends and you want to do the single girl thing, have fun.
I'm not really going to be here to be second fiddle, especially to someone that you didn't defend me against.
It was an interesting situation that I think you guys should really pay attention to.
If your girlfriend has a lot of single friends, get ready, guys.
They're just gonna start planting seeds of doubt in the relationship and eventually make it so that she's single so they can all go double fist cocks at Duffy's and have a good time.
So be on the lookout for more videos on the dating channel as 2024 looks to be a pretty busy year in terms of the dating channel.
Have a good rest of your day.
I'll see you guys later.
There you have it.
Let's see what else we got.
Okay, we got another one.
Women says to be careful of low value friends and taking advice from them.
I've already said it and I'm going to say it again.
If you are in a relationship, be very careful whose advice you take.
If you have a really good friend, but she is low value and you have a problem in your relationship and you tell her about it and she gives you advice, the chance of that advice being low value is like 90%, 95 because of advice that was taken from a low value friend.
If you take advice because you have a relationship problem, make sure it's high value advice.
So for example, if you and him have a fight and it's really not your fault and you talk to your friend about it and she says, why don't you just apologize to him?
Why don't you just reach out to him?
That is low value advice that you should not be taking.
And that's just a simple example.
That's kind of funny how she's saying don't take advice from the friends.
And you would think it would be like advice that is like dump him.
But the advice she's saying not to take is apologize.
Women, am I right?
It's like we just okay.
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Okay, so next we got a Reddit story that I'm going to play.
And then we're going to do a call-in.
we're gonna put the zoom link in the chat now and um you guys the this is tiktok is kind of long so So make sure when you guys go onto the call that you have your camera on.
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So you can be off camera.
I'm going to ask you guys first, but I need to see you.
So.
And then the question is going to be, did you ever have a situation where your girlfriend's friend or female family members tried to sabotage the relationship?
Ladies, if you're calling in, the question is, did you ever have a female friend try to sabotage your relationship or marriage?
So I'm going to play this last video and then go.
Okay, wait, hold on.
Go.
It always starts off.
Okay.
I met Fiona on the very first day of college.
Imagine a dorm room that looked like the before picture in a home renovation show.
Unimpressed and overwhelmed, I was trying to stuff my art supplies into a drawer when she walked in.
She had the air of someone who would name her plants and then forget to water them, which was oddly endearing.
Roomies?
She'd asked, holding out a bottle of cheap wine like a peace offering.
I don't drink, but the gesture was appreciated.
A no, thank you and a few shared gripes about dorm life later.
And just like that, we were friends.
We navigated the chaotic lanes of college together, acquiring degrees, killing houseplants, and forming a bond stronger than the Wi-Fi in the library.
Through every high and low, Fiona was my constant.
As for her drinking, I noticed it pretty early on.
First, it was just for fun, a way to unwind or celebrate as she called it.
But as the years went by, her drinking escalated from casual to concerning.
There were nights I'd find her slumped over in the bathroom, mascara smeared, muttering something about how Sambuka is the devil.
But for every intervention, every heart to heart, Fiona would strive to get better, and she did, only to relapse when life pulled the rug out from under her.
But enough about Fiona.
Let's talk about Frank.
I met him two years ago, during a rather unconventional double date.
Frank was the polar opposite of Fiona, where she was fire, he was ice, calm, collected, and with a smile that could put a hallmark card to shame, he won me over.
We moved in together, merging our lives while still maintaining a room for Fiona in our home, and in our hearts.
Life was as stable as it could be for a trio with one leg perpetually wobbly.
Fiona had landed a job she loved, Frank and I were deeply in love, and things were generally looking up.
Until earlier this summer, when Fiona's job decided to go in a different direction, which was corporate speak for we're letting you go, but we'll make it sound like it's mutual.
The impact was instantaneous.
Despite years of teetering on the edge, this was the nudge that sent Fiona spiraling down the abyss of her alcoholism.
Frank and I were in uncharted territory.
It's one thing to be roommates and friends, but to be caregivers for a friend who's succumbing to her worst impulses?
Needless to say, things got a little chaotic.
Last Saturday started as a usual weekend day, a haze of Netflix binges and failed attempts at adulting.
But then, my phone rang, and Fiona's name flashed on the screen.
Her voice on the other end was slurred, and the background was filled with the chaotic sounds of laughter and thumping music.
I need a ride, she said, skipping any formalities.
The problem was, I was in the throes of a flu so nasty, it deserved its own theme music.
High on cold medicine, with a brain as foggy as San Francisco in the mornings, driving was out of the question.
But Fiona was my friend, and she needed help.
So, I did what any responsible adult would do, I delegated.
Frank, can you go pick up Fiona?
She's drunk and needs a ride, I told him, handing over the duty like a baton in a relay race.
Frank, ever the reliable one, nodded and left.
Frank returned with Fiona in tow, her face flushed and her steps uncertain.
He helped her into the guest room, gave her a glass of water, and wished her a good night.
Then we returned to our Netflix cocoon, as if it was just another ordinary Saturday.
But things shifted after that night, like pieces on a chessboard you didn't even realize were in play.
Frank, who's usually as transparent as a freshly windexed window, started acting strangely.
His phone, which used to be as public as a park bench, suddenly became Fort Knox.
Face down on the coffee table, tucked away in his pocket, taken to the bathroom.
Seriously, who needs a phone in the bathroom?
Unless you're the president of the United States, no email is that urgent.
My mind did what minds do best, jumped to conclusions.
Was he planning a surprise for me?
Or worse, was he keeping secrets?
And was Fiona involved in this mystery?
She had, after all, been the catalyst for this strange behavior.
And let's not forget, the timing was too coincidental.
It all started after Frank had gone to pick her up.
So, there I was, sitting on the couch, staring at Frank's strategically positioned phone as if it was a ticking time bomb.
Questions buzzed in my head like a swarm of anxious bees.
What was going on?
Our lives.
I decided I needed more answers so I went straight to the source.
Fiona and I were sitting at Brood Awakening, a cafe notorious for its existentialist quotes on the walls and coffee that was complicated enough to have its own Myers-Briggs type.
Fiona, Frank's being really odd lately, I initiated, my eyes locked onto hers.
He's being secretive with his phone, even putting it face down.
You're one of his closest friends.
Do you know if he's planning something?
A proposal, perhaps?
Fiona paused, her hand trembling slightly as she put down her cup.
She looked like she was calculating the trajectory of a spacecraft destined for the outer reaches of the galaxy, only, it wasn't the fate of a spacecraft she was pondering, but the destiny of our lives.
Did you check his phone?
She fumbled with her words, avoiding eye contact.
No, I responded, a tad too quickly, realizing this was no ordinary conversation.
That's when it happened.
Fiona's emotional dam broke.
Her eyes flooded with tears faster than an open faucet.
I've got to tell you something, she stammered, and you're not going to like it.
The atmosphere grew tense, as though someone had just brought a durian into a perfume shop.
With a deep inhale, she let the cat out of the bag.
We hooked up, Frank and I, in his car, when he picked me up last Saturday.
Silence.
It was as though the entire cafe went mute.
I could hear my heartbeat in my ears, each pulse like a drumroll leading up to an ill-fated climax.
And there's more, Fiona continued, her voice quivering.
I've been telling him he has to confess, and we've been messaging about it.
Only, it's on Snapchat, so there's no evidence left.
I sat there, paralyzed, as though Medusa herself had looked me in the eyes.
You have to show me, I finally mustered, text him now.
Fiona picked up her phone and tapped away, her fingers shaking like a leaf in the wind.
We waited.
One minute, two minutes.
The dreaded silence from Frank's hand was like a void, sucking away any shred of certainty.
No read receipt.
No response.
Nothing.
Do you think I'm making this up?
Fiona broke the silence, visibly distraught.
Do you think I was so drunk that I imagined it?
Her words were laced with a bitterness, a cocktail of regret and indignation.
I know I mess up when I'm drunk, but I'm not delusional, and I certainly don't fabricate entire incidents.
With that, she slammed her cup on the table.
Believe me or don't, that's up to you, but I needed you to know the truth.
I felt like I was stuck in quicksand.
The more I struggled with the revelations, the deeper I sank into a pit of despair and disbelief.
I wanted to scream, to cry, to run away from the reality that was crashing down on me like a ton of bricks.
I need to go, I said finally, my voice barely above a whisper.
I need to go home and talk to Frank.
As I left the cafe, I knew I was walking away from more than just Fiona.
I was walking away from the safety net of a friendship and a relationship that had, up until now, defined a significant part of my life.
And I was walking towards a confrontation, a reckoning that would either shatter or reshape the world as I knew it.
I arrived home, my feet marching in step with the rhythm of my conflicted heart.
What should he do?
Let me know in the chat.
Okay, so now we're going to take callers.
Could you let in Doug MPA first?
You can let him up.
And then the question is, did you ever have a situation where, make sure the thing is, make sure we're not showing the screen.
Yeah.
Oh, it's not.
Okay.
Good.
So the question is, did you ever have a situation where your girlfriend's friends or female family members tried to sabotage your relationships?
Women that call in, has it ever happened to you?
Doug MPA, welcome back.
A pleasure, as always.
How are you?
How are you doing, bro?
Can you hear me?
Okay.
Yeah, I can hear you.
I'm good.
How are you?
I'm doing good.
So I actually have a story to start off.
One of my best friends, he got with this girl in her 20s.
And she, they were going to, okay, hold on.
Wait, so they moved away so she can go to college.
And then she, so they were up in this college down so she can go to college for two years.
And then she dropped out and they came back to our hometown.
And he was going to break up with her, but then she got pregnant, right?
So we ended up classic.
You want to get rid of them?
And they're like, nope, not today, baby.
So they have a kid, and then they get married like five years later.
Okay.
And then they have another kid.
And it was just all bad for years.
And my friend's one of those old, he was a kickboxer.
He's one of those guys where if this were 500 years ago, he'd be a samurai.
You know what I'm saying?
He's one of those really honorable kind of guys, the kind of guys where he a Chad.
I mean, he's Asian and he's five foot nine, five foot eight.
Okay.
Yeah.
Can they be Chads?
Oh, that sounds racist.
All right.
Anyway.
Sorry, sorry.
I'm interrupting you.
Keep going, keep going.
Anyway, so fast forward, like 10 years later, and she starts hanging out with her friends after work.
And then they start going out Friday and Saturday nights, right?
And she started making more money than him, right?
So she felt emboldened to do what she wanted.
So she had this friend who was a single mom who somehow always found people to take care of her kids when she went out to the club.
And she went out a couple of times.
And my friend told his wife, like, why do you keep going out on Friday, Saturday nights?
You keep going to these bars and clubs.
It's like you're single.
And she's like, well, I'm just going there to have fun and dance with my friends, whatever.
She's banging Tyrone in the bathroom.
So her friend came over when they were arguing, knocked on the door and decided to just open the door to their house and had the nerve to say, well, I've said his name and said, we're going to go out.
And we, and he said, wait a minute, there's only one we.
It's me and my wife, not you and her.
And so after that, her friend was literally saying, like, well, you can't tell us what to do.
And we, we, we.
And he's like, there is no, the only we here is me and my wife.
You need to get the hell up out of here.
Yeah.
And did they get divorced or did they stay together?
They got divorced like a year after that conversation.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I could have seen that coming.
What else are they going to ask?
Has that ever happened to you, Doug MPA?
I've never dated a woman whose friends and family females were hostile, no?
No.
Never had it happen.
Well, let's see if any of you guys in the chat have dealt with it.
Maybe we can let in the first person.
Oh, is anyone there?
Really?
Nobody called it.
Not one of you guys.
All right.
Well, I'm trying to think.
I had, do you know what?
I had one friend that did try to sabotage a relationship a while ago, but we're not friends anymore.
She made up.
I always say that women really can't stand each other.
The only time that women band together is like it's the patriarchy and men.
But other than that, they can't stand each other.
And you said it on previous shows, Pearl.
If you ask your female friends, if you dare to have any, or your mom or your sister, she'll tell you the people that have done the worst to them are other women.
And these are friends, family members, acquaintances.
Yeah, no, that's totally true.
And, you know, I've had guys say that like hearing women's stories of like what their friends has done, have done to them has like traumatized them.
Because like men tend to, I guess the worst thing men do to each other is sleep with each other's girl.
That's usually women will destroy your entire reputation across the whole town, though.
Yep.
They'll tell everybody and make it a big thing.
It'll be a slow burn over years, too.
Yeah, they never move on.
Yep.
A man will cheat and do that at one event, but a woman will say horrible things behind your back to everybody all the time and smile in your face.
Yeah, they do that to their husbands all the time.
Yeah, I agree.
Let me read the chat on the website.
Women are group thinkers, high of minds.
Hi, Pearl.
Happy to be a new member.
Welcome, Jason.
Oh, yeah.
We also had someone else sign up.
Welcome.
Oh, it was you.
Welcome, Jason.
Let me see if anyone in the YouTube chat.
Guys, call in.
Have any of you had your woman's friend sabotage your relationships?
It's on Zoom, Zoom.
I knew someone would call in.
I was like, you guys, you guys have, like, some of you had to have had this happen.
Okay, Nick, he's joining.
Give it a second.
Yeah, Doug can stay.
Doug on PA.
Nick on mute.
Okay.
Good to see you again, buddy.
How are you doing?
Good.
How are you?
Good.
Are you okay to be on camera?
Yeah, I can be on camera.
I'm just in my car right now, so it's not very good.
Nice.
How are you, Nick?
Thanks for calling in.
Thanks.
How are you?
I'm good.
So what do you have on the topic?
Has a woman's friends ever sabotaged your relationship?
My when in my early 20s, I was dating a girl for a while, and yeah, her cousin was just a nightmare.
It's funny because, like, the girl I was dating was like super against cheating, quote unquote, and like, you know, hated that, blah, blah, blah.
Has been with guys who cheated, whatever.
And then her cousin was like, had also cheated.
And then she was like, Yeah, I don't trust cheaters.
And then I'm like, oh, what about your cousin?
And she's like, yeah, I know it's not great, but blah, blah, blah.
And then later on, her cousin's saying all this shit about our relationship.
And I'm like, dude.
And you trust it?
Like, what?
Like, how, how, how has this happened?
You know?
And then, but yeah, that happened for a while.
And eventually we broke up.
And I think it's largely, I mean, it's good we broke up.
We shouldn't have been together.
But like, it, you know, what was the cousin saying?
Like, why'd she hate you?
Did she just want to be outside and the girlfriend was inside?
That's probably part of it.
But like, I mean, we would fight a lot.
Like, we did not have like a great relationship necessarily, but like, you know, I mean, it really was, I think, that kind of happier than usual.
And the cousin was like, absolutely not.
Cannot happen.
Happier than me.
Do you think?
Cause do you think that?
Because sometimes it's because the girlfriend vents to the friend.
So do you think, do you think it was?
Because sometimes what happens is the girlfriends will vent to the friend and they'll give a very one-sided side of the story because that's all we see is our side.
So obviously obviously.
Bro, women are heroes and victims at the same time in their own stories.
Yeah.
So did you that's why you got to learn how to pick up the female-friendly version of the story?
Like, this is the female.
You got to tell me what really happened, man, because that doesn't sound right.
And then, sad part about it is women will tell the female-friendly version of the story so many times that it turns to them, it becomes the real version.
And when you start questioning it, they get offended.
Like, why don't you believe me?
It's because you're telling the female-friendly version of the story.
That's why.
So I know.
And like, and they'll say things too where you're like, like, they'll say things that are like borderline physically impossible.
And you'll be like, I don't know if I believe that.
And they're like, why don't you believe me?
And you're like, how could that?
Like, you know what I mean?
They're like, I was dating this guy and I was perfect.
And this guy, all he would do is come home and scream every single day.
And it's like, yeah, all right.
I'm sure.
Well, yeah, I'm like, what did you do to make him scream?
That's my question.
Well, yeah, they don't usually scream over nothing.
I mean, or who are you dating?
How could you say that?
That is so misogynistic of you.
Do you know what?
I had someone recently tell me a story that I know about her getting like beaten.
And I'm like thinking, I just don't believe her at all.
And she could just tell by my face.
And I'm like, uh-huh.
Okay, that's great.
Because she was like moving back.
And I'm like, well, okay, good luck with that.
You know, I guess I'll see you soon.
There's never, I'm like, well, sorry to hear that.
Anyway, so let me just.
I know.
It's weird too.
Cause like if you follow their story for real, then they end up like sounding like the biggest idiot in the whole world.
Like, why would you be with somebody that is consistently doing these horrific things and you're a perfect angel, you know?
So you knew how soon did you know that you shouldn't be with this woman?
And how, how much longer did you stay after you knew you shouldn't have stayed with her?
And then what made you stay?
Was she like a beast in the sack or something?
Mean, that's usually what it is man, that's usually what it is.
I plead the fifth, but uh, you know um, I mean honestly, I was at a time in my life like I had I, I lost my virginity late and I had just lost my.
Then like, I racked up a couple bodies pretty quickly and then, and then I found a girlfriend, you know.
So I was like I don't know, maybe I can make it work blah blah blah, you know, but was it just ultimately?
Was it just the sex was consistent.
So you're like yeah, I mean, it's like more like her, a lot like I.
I was like I did, you know, I liked being around her.
You can be, you can be honest, I mean it.
I was just in.
You can, you can, you can, you can be honest, you get so good, I swear to god, dude.
Like I really think that sex is the least important part of a relationship in my opinion, like a healthy relationship.
Then what are we friends like?
That's what i'm saying like what you guys, you guys, you guys want, you guys want to, you guys want to be pals.
Like otherwise, this is a friendship, you know, like that's the only, it's the, that's the only thing different for the guys.
Girls can't be in a relationship.
Well, they can, I think they can, but like, it seems like like, do you want a girl in a relationship that doesn't enjoy the sex with you and just sticks it out?
That's a great question and I think that's not even that's a that's not a relationship.
Like when he talked about the beta, you just, you just said the sex doesn't matter.
That's what i'm saying, you see, you just said it doesn't matter.
And women, you have to understand.
It's like you're either good or you're not, like it's like if we don't we've, then that's when she's thinking about her ex.
You know so.
Or that's your choice.
If the sex doesn't matter, then you're marrying a girl thinking about her ex.
No no no or or or, or if a woman is there are plenty of sexless men in marriages and relationships and their girl is, they're taking care of their responsibilities and their girl is getting dug out by Nug, Nug and freaking and gabbing the starving musician on the side.
So yes, women can be in relationships without getting sex from the guy that she's in a relationship with.
Yeah definitely, but like, what i'm saying is that like oh wait wait, wait.
Two choices and I need you guys to pick this.
You get two choices of women.
Oh god one, all right, one woman.
One woman, she's gonna cheat on you, but she's a great mother.
She's a great, great mom.
The other one does not cheat, but terrible mother.
You gotta pick one.
Define good mother.
You know she, she's responsible, she want like the kids love her.
You don't have to worry about another guy on the side.
Yeah, she does.
Yeah, but you know you weren't really her cup of tea.
You know she just married you because she thought you'd be a good dad.
And so now she's.
When they're no no no, she does it secretly.
What kind of question is that?
She does it secretly, you only.
You only found out because of the ICloud linked up to your phone.
You know, you know how that happens and you found out you're like, otherwise you would have had no idea that.
Option two is a woman who's obsessed with you, but a terrible mother.
She wants to, you know.
I mean, she like is she, is she, she's not abused.
Where if, if she were to be a single mom with your kids, does she lose custody?
No, let's not go that far.
Let's just say pretty bad.
Let's say like verbally abusive, but verbally abusive, but not physically Well, no, okay.
Here's the thing: if a girl, if a girl really likes you, she'll listen to you pretty much no matter what, I think.
So, if she's actually in love with me, I can get her to be a good mom pretty easily.
I think.
No, I think some women don't have it in them.
No, I can crack a whiff, dude.
Not like literally, but like, you know what I mean?
Phil did a show the other day about women that don't that are literally on social media saying, I regret having children, bro.
But that's literally where we're at.
Their husbands, they don't love their husbands.
You got to pick one.
You're trying to circumvent my question.
All right, I'll let Doug MPA go first before Nick.
Doug MPA, what's your choice?
So I'm not having children.
So, so how can that mother things be a thing if I'm not having children?
Is this literally good solution?
So, you take the girl that loves the girl that likes you, but then you just say, I know kids.
Yeah, just them kids.
Yeah, Nick, what about you?
I think I'd have to go with the first one.
Do I have to stay married to her?
You can cheat.
You can cheat in the relationship.
She's cheating.
You can cheat back, but it's just like a sham marriage.
You know how they do.
So, yeah, so like she's watching the kids.
She's a good mom, but she's she's screwing Tyrone and you're screwing the hot.
You said you're in Utah, the hot girls in Salt Lake City.
You know, you're banging.
You're at Mormons.
You're at the Mormon school.
So, like, pretending to care about it to get, you know, you're like, Yeah, I care a lot about God.
The Mormons, they'll not all of them, but there's a lot of girls who will just screw around for no reason.
So, what's your choice?
What's your choice, Nick?
Oh, dude, I have to stay in the marriage.
Yeah, you got to stick it out.
You got to till the kids are 18 at least.
Until the kids are 18, yeah.
Yeah, till the kids are 18.
You're stuck with both of like you pick one for 18 years.
Who are you picking?
Bad moments.
She's a really good girl.
Yeah.
Option two is really bad mom, but great sex, great mother.
Option one, really great mom, but she, I mean, she'll sleep with you.
She'll like do it, but it's like, meh, but she's also screwing Tyrone.
Do you know what I mean?
I don't want that.
No, no, no.
If she cheats on me, I don't want to sleep with her ever again.
For 18 years, before you kiss it, okay, so you can.
Before you kiss it when she comes home, she has to wash her mouth out with scope because you don't know if it's a dick at her mouth.
Well, fine, but you know, you guys are roommates now, but now you can and it would be great.
You could be a married man on dating apps, and women love that.
If you put, you know, I know, do you know what?
When I was on the apps before, I'm in a relationship now, but before, there is a lot of guys that's in their bio.
They like crop out their face and they're like, Yeah, I'm a married guy.
And I'm like, Yeah, I'm like, women must be doing it.
I'm seeing too many.
I bet the single guys figured this out.
I bet you single guys figured that out and started doing it.
But, bro, Nick, you know, I'm old enough where I remember back when people used to actually hit on women in clubs and stuff.
And I had friends where if they were striking out, talking to girls, they had a wedding ring in their pocket and they put a wedding ring on.
Yeah.
Maybe you'll find your future wife like that, Nick.
Give it a try.
She's like, break up with your wife for me.
i'm like okay yeah you're like you're like either from sleeping with a lot of girls or they know they have a friend right Yeah.
And I've hooked up with, I really don't, I really try to keep my number not too high, but I've got friends that when we go downtown, it's like it's crazy to see, you know, and like, oh, dude, it's just gross, bro.
Like, girls with boyfriends will just hook up with guys with zero concern.
None.
What's I have a question for you, actually?
Um, if it's cool if I ask.
Uh, why are you the only girl that's saying this stuff?
I think Isabella Moody's close, but she's still got a little bit.
I don't know.
You're like the single woman that I interviewed a thousand women and I just seen too much.
I'm done.
But like, I'm cut.
I'm black.
I'm black billed, you know.
Why is there one woman?
Because I don't know.
I think they haven't seen what I don't know.
I don't know.
I can't tell you.
Like, they have their friends.
They, you know what I mean?
Like, I don't, you know.
I don't know.
Yeah.
I don't have an answer.
Well, I guess you're in the black pill.
The wall.
I don't know if the wall fully exists, though, dude, because there aren't.
Well, there's a wall for when you'll stop being able to sleep with guys who are out of your league, basically.
No, you'd be surprised how low they go.
You'd be surprised.
You know what?
You'd be, you know, you'd be, you know, it just take.
I had a friend on my team a couple years ago.
She was butt ugly.
God, she was so ugly.
And she would show me the guys she'd hook up with.
And I'm like, I'm like, yeah, they'll go.
She was, she was.
Why are they not aware, though?
Sorry.
What?
I mean, she took owls really well.
I think she was aware, but she was kind of old.
She was like in her third, like she was like mid-30s.
I think by mid-30s, that's when they start getting desperate.
Like, like late 20s, early 30s is like denial.
Remember, the wall isn't measured by hooking up with somebody.
It's measured by commitment from a man of value.
So true.
And having children without birth effects.
But women, women don't.
The only thing is that women don't want commitment.
Everyone, like this idea that women want commitment, it's like not.
If they wanted commitment, they would be in relationships.
Think about if you guys had the power of women on dating apps.
Like if you had a thousand matches.
Like, if any girl downloads a dating app, gets 5,000 matches.
If you wanted a wife, you'd be on a date every single day.
And you find you, you would go until you know, you might toss some, but eventually you'd find one you liked and you'd get married.
Women, we're not doing that.
Why not?
It's like, why are guys, like, someone said the guys are the real romantics or whatever.
And it's like, why?
Why?
You know what?
I'll tell you why.
I'll tell you what.
It's just like other things get in the way.
It's like women, it's the brunch.
That's what it is.
No, it's like, you got to think about this.
When women's, it's not like women are maliciously like saying, oh, like, I plan to like never get married, you know, whatever.
But it's like, you know, they'll say, set up a hinge date at 11 a.m. on Sunday or go to brunch with the girls.
And the women are picking brunch.
It's like, go on.
It wasn't until everything.
I heard that the men did pretty well during COVID on the dating apps.
I've heard it was like a frenzy.
And it's because everything else was canceled.
Everything else.
So it's like you can't go to brunch.
I guess it's time to start banging these guys on Tinder, you know?
But they're not settling down still.
Like, I feel like a lot of guys, like, given the opportunity, would settle down.
And it's so funny because I have like female friends that will be like, oh no, like, guy, all they want is sexual vlog.
And I'm like, I have a slew of friends that would just kill for a single date.
But remember, if social media is any indication, all these broads when they hit like 40 to 50, they all want a relationship and they can't get it.
So that's why they're on Psych Meds.
Pearl did a show about Psych Meds yesterday.
If you haven't checked it out, go back and watch it.
So true.
Yeah, but and the other thing, too, is that it's they'll they'll get like I'll give you an example.
There's a girl I went to school with.
I bet sometimes they watch these shows and they're like, damn it, Pearl, why are you telling these stories?
But, you know, she, it's like a lot of women, they get a certain level of guy and they just can't, you know, men, it's like they'll hook up with a really hot girl and they know that she's out of their league and that she's going to leave.
Like, it's not if.
It's like, this, every woman I've hooked up with has been a six.
This is an eight.
I'm going to enjoy this as long as she stays.
Yeah.
Odds are that it might not ever happen again.
I don't know.
It may have just been a rebound.
I was, they're like, the women, it's like we just never get over it.
And then if we date someone after, if we date someone after that's not as good, then we're like, oh, we want.
And the things that we rank as really good just don't even make sense.
Like they just don't.
Because to one woman, it's like one woman wants a criminal.
And you're like, what?
And the other woman wants a musician.
You know, it's always who's popular.
Well, they want a musician who's also a criminal, ideally.
A lot of women want a criminal in some way.
Yeah.
Yeah.
We're going to let you fall back because we have Frankie on the line.
Are you there?
Yes.
Frankie.
Frankie, what's going on?
Hey, how you doing, Pearl?
Hey, guys.
I'm good.
How are you?
Doing great.
So, what's your experience with women's friends in dating?
Have you?
Actually, it wasn't really the issue with the friends, but actually family.
My biggest hurdle was actually my ex-mother-in-law.
And every time I turn around, she would try to do something in her ear.
She even got to the point where she started making advances on me, trying to make it seem like I was going after my mother-in-law.
Wait, wait, wait.
Wait, so she tried to come out of the story.
Do you know what?
This is not the first time I've heard this story.
I had like three different guys tell me the same thing on my show.
Some of them did it, though.
Did you do it or what?
No.
You're sure you didn't.
You're sure you didn't.
I'm positive I didn't.
Now, I have a question about that.
Now, did you not do it because you felt like it was morally wrong, or was it a consequence-based decision where you really thought about it, but the consequences weren't worth you actually doing it?
No, it was a moral decision.
It wasn't the right thing to do.
I mean, I did truly love my wife, and I didn't want anything to come between us.
And but in her defense, too, it wasn't the greatest family.
I was young, dumb.
It was in my early 20s.
I didn't know crap.
So I didn't know the signs.
And so once I got in there, it was kind of a rural land of what the hell am I in?
And but yeah, it was a moral decision.
I just I knew it was wrong and I just kind of had to step on eggshells.
But what really got me is when I approached my ex-wife now, I was just about to ask about that.
Yeah.
We were together 20 years and we divorced now for almost five years now.
And that's a whole nother story.
But yeah, that's where the friends come in later.
But this was initially.
And so once I took it to her, it was like immediately she took the defense of her mother.
So it was kind of like I was a rock in a hard place.
This is your fault.
You should have lied.
Sorry.
I'm just kidding.
I'm just kidding.
Keep going.
So, and I mean, I got to a point.
I even went to my father-in-law and I was like, hey, you know, what's up?
And he goes, oh, this ain't the first time it's happened.
I'm like, you know about it?
He's like, yeah.
What?
Boyfriend before I started dating her.
Yeah.
And before I started dating her, did the same thing.
And it was like a nonchalant kind of thing.
I just, so I was like, no, I don't think I want to go on this ride.
Wow.
You'd be surprised how many young men lose their virginities to older women, like mothers and older babysitters and stuff.
A lot of older women.
Yeah.
I was in the same boat.
I heard that story so many times.
I had, I know three different guys that lost their virginities to either a babysitter or their aunt.
I'm like, what are these?
This is crazy.
Yeah, I lost.
It's probably TMI, but mom was a 42-year-old woman.
And I was, I had just, I guess the real losing of it was with her.
I was 15 and just said, got my permit and license and was out around the town.
One thing led to another.
A month later, I couldn't believe what was going on.
So yeah, it happens a lot more than I was saying, what people realize.
What was it like your friend's mom or something?
Or how did that?
Yeah, it was.
I've heard that story before, too.
Yeah.
Yeah, because I'm like, it was like, it's either a teacher or the friend's mom.
Maybe I went to college with a guy who was dating this girl.
And they both graduated.
They dated junior year and senior year.
And then she went off to college.
But her parents got divorced right before he started dating the daughter.
Right.
And her mom was this businesswoman that would go on these business trips or whatever.
And so when the daughter was off at school, he would still go over to the house because he was kind of like the man of the house after the dad left.
So he'd have like, you know, mow the lawn and like help fix stuff or whatever.
And he said that one day the mom had to go to a work function and needed a plus one and was like, hey, will you go with me to this like work function at this nice hotel and stuff?
And he's like, yeah, sure.
So he's like 18 in a suit with this woman, you know, at this party or whatever.
And they're drinking and stuff.
And one thing led to another.
And he's, he smashed his girlfriend's mom after a work party.
Oh, no.
I was like, bro, come on.
He's like, it was one of the first times he had ever drank.
And yeah, and she knew exactly what she was doing.
It didn't last much longer after that.
But yeah, he said, yeah, she, he was a plus one to her work party and ended up smashing her mom after that.
And she was in her 40s and he was 18.
Steve M says, my ex-girlfriend's aunt hit on me.
I was fixing my girlfriend's car and she told my girlfriend, I hit on her.
She was a large, she was a large-breasted woman.
And I was like, I've got standards.
We broke up the next week.
Sorry to hear that, Steve M in the chat on the website.
Fazelle says he's criticizing your decision.
I won't lie, Frankie.
He says, opportunity, he says, opportunities are rare.
When one arises, you got to seize it without hesitation.
Well, now, you know, now that I look back at it in retrospect, where I'm at now, probably.
And the kicker was like after the divorce, you're like, dang it, yeah.
It's like, damn it.
But and not only top of that, was she hot?
My sister-in-law.
Was she hot?
For her age, she was pretty good.
I'm not gonna lie.
You do it, huh?
Yeah, yeah.
And my sister-in-law at the time, she was actually a stripper on top of it.
Okay.
So it's like I'm surrounded by whoredom.
Yeah.
But yeah, you go back now and look and look at over like, man, maybe I should have done that.
But nah, I still probably.
So it's one of those words if she's going to make you do the time of a divorce, you might as well do the crime worth it.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah.
And then that's one of the reasons we did get divorced.
She kept accusing me of cheating and I never did.
And now I look at it.
I said, well, maybe I should have done it and gave her a reason.
You know, I mean, it's just yap, yap, bet, and that's all I heard.
It's like the more you try to do the right thing, it's like the more flacky you got of it.
And after a while, you just kind of get tired of hearing it.
So, but, but yeah, that was that.
And then, you know, her friends come in later as we things started getting rocky.
And she only had one married friend out of all of her friends.
The rest of them were single.
A couple of them were, I'm just going to say three or four.
And I mean, skanky as hell.
So every time I would leave for work out of town, they're in her ear.
They're going out.
She's doing this.
And it's like when things were going well, like 99% great, they would find the 1% bad thing and blow it up to 100%.
Just to me, it seemed like they were trying to cause the issue an order for the breakup, if that makes sense.
Where is she now?
How did she by herself?
Did she, did she, she didn't cheat with your dad or something, did she?
No, she actually cheated on me with a guy that she grew up with down the street.
But he, matter of fact, he just dumped her about four weeks ago.
So I guess he had enough of it as well.
And she's by herself in a one-room apartment and lonely.
Yeah.
Does it make you happy?
Does it bring you joy?
No, but Karma can be a bitch.
Yeah.
No, I don't know if I can say that, but yeah.
You can say that.
Okay.
But yeah, it doesn't make me happy.
I don't wish anything bad on anyone.
And I think there is a huge issue out there right now, especially in the dating world, especially marriage for guys.
There's a lot of lopsidedness there.
And I'm not saying all women.
I'm not saying all men.
But looking at the statistics, you know, women causing 80% of the initiating 80% of divorces.
And they're getting 90% or better of the custody of the children, separating the families.
I'm not defending men in any way, but it's like you get to a point to it's like they want to do it.
And it's like, why?
I mean, what's when things are going great, they want to make it bad.
Wow.
Yeah.
I don't, maybe that was just my scenario or my issue that I went through.
I mean, we love the ups and downs.
So it's like, that's fun for us.
Like, we're like, if it's, if it's just up, it's just, it's not, it's kind of your fault.
You should have picked more arguments and like told her she wasn't good enough to like, yeah, so yeah, it's on you.
So keep her mad.
Keep her mad.
Yeah, yeah.
You just get her, get her mad for like two days, but then she'll feel more bonded after.
And then you get the makeup, you know.
Uh-huh.
Yeah, yeah.
You should have been less reasonable.
Someone, someone in the chat is asking if you had kids with your ex-wife, Frankie.
I did.
I had two boys.
Okay.
Yeah, they're grown now.
So one's 21, the other's 19.
So, and I, the worst part of it is they saw it.
And I did try to defend her in a certain way because I don't want them to have a bad view of their mother.
And, but then again, they're also out there in the dating world now.
You know, they're having to deal with it and everything.
So it was, how do I say a double-edged sword?
They got to see the negative part, but also taught them something, if that makes sense.
Yeah.
Makes sense.
Yeah.
So, and they come, they come to me later and just say, Dad, we're sorry.
You know, we couldn't say a whole lot.
So they're living with mom.
Mom had custody at the time, and I only got them, you know, very little.
But they got to really see it because once she started dating the other gentleman or seeing him, she was treating him exactly the same way she treated me.
And they were like, hey, wait a minute, there's a pattern here.
And as they got older, she turned around and started treating them the same way.
And eventually they're like, it's not us.
It's not dad.
It wasn't him.
It's there's an issue with you.
But you don't want to take accountability to go and fix it.
And she never would.
I mean, we even talked about therapy, counseling, everything.
It was like, no, no, I'm not the problem.
I'm not the problem.
See, you know, and I'm not saying, and I'm sorry, I'm not saying I did everything right either by far.
I mean, you know, nobody does one, everything right in a relationship on one side or the other.
We all got to step up and say, hey, I did wrong.
I need to fix it.
And, you know, and I think, I don't know, this is my perspective.
I think men do that a little bit easier because they've got to build their value, you know, as they go through life.
So if they screw up, they got to say, hey, wait a minute, I screwed up.
How do I make it better?
How do I become better?
Where I think not all women, but a lot of women just, in a sense, have a victim mentality and say, it wasn't my fault.
Help me kind of deal and just try to get away from it.
Yeah.
Okay.
Well, go on, Doug.
No, go ahead.
Oh, no, no.
Society just downplays how much men endure in a marriage relationship.
You cannot, you can't tell me any different that men give more than women do.
Men give, women just take.
So, you know, even if you weren't the best, I guarantee you that you endured more from her than she ever endured from you.
Because men, it's kind of what we do in marriage, especially when you have kids, man.
I have friends who freaking endured hell just to have their kids alive.
So make sure to give yourself that credit, man.
I guarantee you, you endured it.
Oh, I appreciate it.
She did.
Yep.
Yeah, I appreciate it.
And my father, I got to say, I had a great family and a great upbringing.
And I had a two-parent household that loved each other.
And my father was a huge influence on me in the way to run a family and how to treat your wife and all that.
But it seems like it got to a point you just had to throw your hands up.
And, you know, for five years, I slept on the couch and no sex, no nothing.
And I just, I only endured it for the boys because I wanted them to at least have their father in the household.
We were basically roommates.
And I explained it to the kids.
I explained it to the boys.
Hey, here's what's going on.
And the reason that was going on, just because you're young adults don't mean you can't understand.
And this happens to adults, it happens to marriages, and you know, it is what it is.
But once, no, now once they hit close to 18, I just went ahead and booked.
I was the one who ended up leaving.
I just couldn't endure it anymore.
And so, but if this gives you any kind of consensus or whatever.
So, one thing I've learned is there's two terms: there's giving up and there's letting go, right?
Giving up is when is if you left, okay, giving up is when you left.
You didn't try everything you possibly could, and if you left, you'd regret it.
But letting go is when you tried everything you possibly can.
That's just true, yeah.
But you have to let it go for the for the sake of yourself and the people you care about.
If you did everything you possibly can, it's like you won't, you didn't give up, you let it go.
And also, um, I've told Pearl about this because I was married at one time and I left my ex-wife.
Only 20% of men divorced their ex-wives, but you get all sorts of judgment when you leave your ex-wife.
Like, I say, Oh, yeah, I'm divorced, and they say, Oh, oh, you got divorced.
What'd you do?
I didn't get your fault.
I left her.
Oh, but did you try everything though?
There's all this judgment.
Like, if you've, if, if it's, if it, if the marriage ends and it's your fault, it's your fault.
If the marriage ends, it's her fault, it's your fault.
Oh, yeah.
It is.
Fazelle says, Fazelle says you slept on the couch for five years without sex and didn't fuck the mother-in-law.
Come on, buddy.
No, we, we, uh, we pretty much got a strange friend and mother-in-law with a situation that happened with my father along when he passed away.
So, um, there was that last five years of us being together, I never even saw my mother.
Yeah.
Okay.
I think we got to move to the next caller.
I am going to be honest, though.
It wasn't like I was on the prowl.
It was hard.
Yeah.
But, you know, a vow is a vow.
In your mind, you slept with the mother-in-law a hundred times.
Yeah.
Her and plenty others.
All right, buddy.
We're going to move on.
All right, brothers.
Y'all have a good one.
Thanks, Pearl.
Thanks for calling.
Call back anytime.
Doug, MPA, just wait a second.
I want to read the chats on the website before we go to the next person.
James says, shout out to Terrence Pop.
We both entered the family court the same year.
And I knew him from the beginning.
Jason, I want a blonde version of Peg from Married with Children.
Steve says, Pearl walked through the valley of 304s and made it out alive on the other side, scarred but alive.
Pearl, young men shouldn't get married.
Much easier to just find someone you hate and give them a house.
That's a good one.
Jason, women don't know what they want until they don't have it.
Fazelle, Pearl, it's bad for business.
I would have satisfied that bitch.
Fazelle's funny.
Okay, my ex-girlfriend aunt hit on me.
I was fixing my girlfriend's car and then she told my girlfriend I hit on, oh, I read that already.
Oh, he wanted to, she was a beast, not large-breasted.
I read it wrong earlier.
I would have effed the mother-in-law in every hole God has given her.
Thank you so much, Fazelle, for letting me know.
AJ, women try to make their friends single so they can get with their boyfriends.
Jason, so if we don't marry them and just use them for sex, it's a win-win.
She needs to believe you're the best she'll ever get.
You worthless woman, get in the kitchen and get me a beer.
Jason, Trump changed it from International Women's Day to get your man a cold beer and a burger day.
You should make a woman's contribution stream and make it five minutes long.
We are going to do a stream tomorrow.
We are for International Women's Day.
This is very important.
Fazal, oh, wait, I read that already.
Okay, so next we got John.
John, is that what you're doing?
John, I'm mute.
Is Doug MPA?
Is Divinity the one that called in last time?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Are you resting?
No, we can remove her.
She's just hearing a bitch.
Okay.
All right, John, go ahead.
Yeah, can I come ahead and clear?
Yeah.
Good evening.
And the topic of discussion is, remind me again.
It's have you ever been in a relationship where the women's friends sabotaged it?
Sabotage, gotcha.
I think sabotage is a strong word.
But I think that my position has a lot to do with writing the balance between allowing a woman to have like a quote-unquote support system from her friends and coming off as someone trying to cut her off from people that are important in her life.
So there's a lot of rhetoric, a lot of feminist rhetoric, a lot of self-victimization.
So a lot of women don't know the difference.
Does that make sense?
Yeah.
So how do you try, like, have you had an experience where you weren't able to balance it?
Yeah, I think, I mean, that's usually the case.
I think for me, it's, I ended up breaking up with a girl basically because she chose her quote-unquote support system over me.
It was more important for her to basically they were her family and I wasn't.
And I couldn't get her to understand that those are two different things and she's, she is just choosing them over me.
She just didn't get it because of like modern rhetoric.
She just didn't understand, if that makes sense.
Was she black?
No, she was white.
Okay.
Yeah, I've noticed that a lot.
A lot of women, you know, they don't have good relationships with their families.
They don't have good relationships with they have a hard time maintaining long-term relationships.
So they end up like really sticking really hard on people who are willing to say that they're going to be there for them, even if they're not.
And you can point out that people in ways that people aren't there for them, but as long as they believe it, it doesn't really matter what you say or do you.
Got it.
Doug MPA, do you have anything you wanted to ask him?
So you said, so what was her friendship dynamic like?
Like, would she go out on trips?
That's a good question.
Yeah.
Would she, what kind of community was it?
Like, would they do activities and you'd have to, would she say, like, was it one of those things where she'd have days where you couldn't talk to her or you should be unavailable to hang out with her girls and stuff like that?
Or how would she prioritize her girlfriends over you?
Like what activities and what kind of rhetoric was it?
Right.
So what she did was, is she's the kind of woman, like the career woman type.
So lots of volunteering and making friends through work, volunteering and building relationships around being needed.
So once a woman feels needed outside of, you know, a romantic relationship, it fulfills all of her motherly instincts.
So, she has no reason to get into a relationship at that point.
And so, how did that translate into the relationship?
Like, I'm just trying to get at what specifically happened.
Like, what, like, she like she would, what specifically happened to you?
She wasn't available.
So, oh, she would just do that.
She would do that instead.
Okay.
Yeah, like what he was saying.
Like, it felt like she might as well have been out partying or she might as well have been like, either way, she wasn't available or she couldn't be reached.
And her excuse was always like, oh, well, I have all these things I need to do.
How would the conversations go between you and her when you talk with her about the relationship with her friends?
Or did you ever confront her about it?
Yeah, that's my whole thing: this confrontation.
And a lot of women just try to try to fake it until they make it.
And then I just end up cutting them loose before they stick around too long when I get sick of it.
Yeah, makes sense.
Doug, did you have anything you wanted to add?
If not, I think we'll go to the next caller.
Yeah.
Yeah, I don't have anything else to add.
Okay, so what?
Okay, since you have the situation happen to you, what signs would you tell a guy to look for?
You have good questions today, Douglas.
I don't know that has an unhealthy relationship with her friends or who so they can stay out of the situation.
Because I've met girls where they literally have, I've had, especially church families, I've had women that come to church and say, you know, I mean, my church family's always been there for me.
And they're pretty much figuring out for me after you're gone.
They have this whole my friends were here before you and they're going to be here after you're gone.
It just automatically put you in condition with their friends.
So what signs would you tell a guy to look out for so he wouldn't end up in a situation where the woman values her friends more than him?
That's a great question.
And you should be able to tell right away.
I might have bias because I deal with this a lot.
For whatever reason, I attract a lot of quote-unquote independent women, quote-unquote, career women.
So I would say that the first thing you're going to look for absolutely is like posturing and them trying to make themselves seem as like intellectually or socially as valuable as you are.
They're going to try to put themselves up on a pedestal or try to say that they're doing better than you or as equal as you.
They're going to do that.
And then they're also going to try to make it sound like they're in high demand and that they're very busy and that a lot of people count on them.
So you can kind of see how these are traditionally masculine things.
So sort of put all of these things in your face, this posturing and this performance to make it seem like they're in high demand, they're very busy.
And it's all to basically create this value system that they assume you would like, even though it's like a male value system.
So they think that you're going to like that they're busy.
They think you're going to like that they're dependable.
You're going to think you like they're consistent.
And then they're going to try to fit you in to the life that they already have.
That's the worst.
Yes.
Yeah.
100% true.
Because, you know, in the current dating market I'm in, I meet these women who are professionals.
You know, their day job, they work 70, 80, 80 hours a week.
Then they have to meet with their soros on Mondays and Wednesdays.
Then they usually have some female mentee that they mentor.
Then they're always traveling and stuff.
And you go on a date with them and they're describing their whole thing to me.
And I'm like, where are you going to fit a man into all this?
Exactly.
But you're not supposed to ask that.
You're not supposed to ask that.
They think it's attractive when they say, well, I'm busy, but I'll make time for the right one.
Exactly.
Yeah.
So you'll know you're the right one when she just does it.
Unfortunately, that's when you'll know.
You won't be having that conversation, or she'll be complaining.
She keeps having to break her own rules.
That's all you'll do.
And also, tell me if you agree with this, John.
A lot of these women who have to feel needed and literally saving the world sick enough for their friends, but their personal lives are a mess and they're only willing to give you what's left.
So if you're dating them and you like them, you're planning for you and her, and she's planning for herself and everybody else.
Exactly.
Sorry, was there a question in there?
Oh, no, no.
I'm saying, was that your similar experience?
For me, I think it's mostly them trying to present value to me, either out of intimidation or they just want to be worth my attention or worth me dating them, if that makes sense.
So they're trying to stack up accomplishments.
And the more they stack up accomplishments, the more I'm going to want to ask that question or try to form our conversation around the question of, you know, where do I fit in?
Where's the relationship fit in?
Et cetera, et cetera.
And then I'll poke and prod.
And the more they resist, the easier it is for me to tell, like, okay, she's not, if she's not going to budge, she's not going to budge.
What's my bad is these women, if they felt like full attention.
That's the thing about women, though.
Like, they're all double standards.
Their entire existence is double standards.
We can't equate ourselves to that.
We have to go by completely different rules.
If anything, we have to assume the opposite is true for ourselves.
Frankie, you wanted to ask John a question?
Yeah, I was going to ask: what was her profession?
I mean, did she make more than you, or did she feel that she was superior to you just because of her status in her career?
Oh, no, she didn't feel superior.
She felt inferior.
She couldn't show up enough for me.
Yeah.
Oh, gotcha.
Okay.
Yeah.
And then I'm so sorry.
No, you're fine.
So, so actually, to further answer your question, in scenarios like this, she'll lost my train of thought.
Sorry.
Well, odds are, odds are her, her alone isn't much, but everything going on in her life makes her seem more important.
Exactly.
That's the idea.
So a lot of women, like they, they don't, they wouldn't know what to do themselves.
They don't know how to measure up to a man that's worth a damn by themselves.
So they have to say, it's like women that lead with their education in the degrees.
Yeah.
They don't care about it, but it makes them feel important.
And then by the time, but then by the time they come to me, they want me to handle all of it.
They just sort of just hand me like, this is my life.
Can you handle this?
Yes or no?
And then, you know, I take a look at it and I go, yes or no.
Yeah.
Yep.
Similar experience here.
But okay, well, Jonathan, thank you.
What?
What?
Wait, actually, I have one more question.
What careers do you find that to be the most common in?
So like what women have you dated?
Like what were their careers?
That's a good question.
I would say in any field where they're helping people, they're getting a lot of that.
Social work.
Yeah, any social work.
Clinical counselors, all that run away.
Yeah, the medical stuff too.
Yeah, the medical stuff, the creative stuff, literally anything where people are going to depend on it, like creative directors of any kind, those people too.
There's a lot of women nowadays that are finding themselves in management position and like human relations positions.
So it's very easy for them to get in positions where they're like herding people together and it immediately makes them feel important.
Is there jobs that you think are better to date where you avoid this a little bit?
Because, you know, it's funny.
I had a guy call in and said he didn't want a woman without a job, so he went to the unemployment office.
Interesting.
But this was like 20 years ago, he said, but I don't know about now.
But have you found any that like they don't get that as much from that career or that job?
This is going to sound silly.
I usually try to, I usually think it has a lot more to do with the woman.
Like for example, like women are inconsistent, right?
So the reason why I say that has to do with the woman is if at her core, she is this type of person.
If she doesn't have that job, she'll find it.
You know what I mean?
It doesn't matter if she's married.
It doesn't matter where she lives.
Doesn't matter what you tell her to do with her time.
She'll find that thing and fill the gap.
You could leave her at home and then you could come home and the whole neighborhood's at your house.
You know what I mean?
Oh, I see.
Go find a way to fill in.
And that's why I said earlier that it's like the mother part of her brain.
So it's usually childless women or career women.
And that's the part of your brain that is activating these people depend on you as if they were your children.
So there's no reason for you to stop.
And also, also industries that used to produce the type of women that would have the nurturing mindset that you would want.
Teachers, nurses.
You know, 20 years ago, dating a nurse wasn't a problem or like a teacher.
You know, who wouldn't want to date a teacher?
But now teachers are awful.
Nurses are awful.
They are all career women.
Have you guys dated a nanny?
Because I grew up with nannies and some of them actually, I think, ended up making pretty decent wives.
But this was a while ago.
So I'm curious if any of you have dated one.
I never have.
No.
I've never gotten that far.
I've just talked to them.
I cut a lot of women off really early.
Smart man.
I've started doing that myself.
Yeah.
I think that's all the questions I got.
You got anything else, Doug MPA?
Nope.
I'm good to go.
Well, thank you guys for calling in.
I appreciate it.
You guys are both great callers.
So call in anytime.
Thanks.
I think that's all the callers we got today, right?
There's no one else in the waiting room.
Yeah, okay.
Final thoughts on women sabotaging other women?
I mean, our own mothers are sabotaging us in this.
Well, from Frankie, we learned smash the mom because it'll make divorce feel better when it comes.
Yeah, you'll feel like it was kind of deserved.
You're like, well.
Yeah.
You know, I may have to pay her $1,500 a month in child support, but, you know, I smashed her mom.
So she's, you know, she may be getting the house, but I'll let her have it because I smashed her mom.
But yeah, my final thoughts are, guys, I read an article.
I might send it to Pearl, but the average woman, when she gets in a six relationship, loses two to three friends at least.
And don't be afraid to have a conversation with a woman about her friends because women can't stand each other and women can't stand to see another woman happy.
Because when a woman is in a good relationship or she's married to a man of substance, she walks through the world completely different than her friend group and it just pisses them off, right?
So you got to be, well, it's her responsibility to make sure that you have a good relationship with her friends and family.
And if you're not getting that, you have to have the conversation with her and literally ask her.
There could be a scenario where you say, it's either me or your friends.
And if she chooses her friends, you got to leave.
So give them that ultimatum.
No.
Yep.
And it doesn't even have to be a big thing.
It's just next time she goes out with her friends.
What does Myron always say?
If you go to the club and you had a one-shot, would you come back?
You're single.
There you go.
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