Pearl Reed dissects the "modern women’s find myself phase," tracing it from debt-ridden, luxury-obsessed careers to desperate life pivots—extreme diets (carnivore, vegan) to clear STDs or attract gym-goers, or sudden religious conversions like Nala’s, cherry-picking Christian teachings while dodging accountability. She critiques "trad wives" rebranding after toxic breakups, weaponizing misandry ("men are trash") and shame to delay marriage while raising impossible standards, mirroring historical gender imbalances (eight women per man). Reed’s own "healing journey" began with an ex’s manipulation, yet the cycle reveals a deeper societal failure: women’s relentless pursuit of external validation masks unresolved internal emptiness, even as they reject personal responsibility. [Automatically generated summary]
Today, we are going to talk about when women find themselves.
But first, I want to thank you to all the amazing people in the chat for keeping me employed.
But more importantly, I want to thank all of the hoes out there for giving me a job.
Without you guys acting like idiots, I would have nothing to talk about.
So thank you guys for keeping me employed for a lifetime.
I want to thank the prostitutes, the OnlyFans models.
I want to thank all the women that have cheated on their husbands.
I want to thank all the terrible behavior.
Thank you guys very, very much.
Now, first I want to do a throwback.
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So here we have, this was one of my early videos, and I just wanted to show it to you guys.
So I want to show you guys what I started with a couple years ago.
So three years ago, really the pregame, it all started with just mics in my living room.
I had a little roadcaster.
I had this one-bedroom apartment in London.
And this was me inviting a fellow YouTuber.
He decided to call me racist later, but that's a different story.
And a friend that I had on the volleyball team.
So let me show you guys.
Just like you think you're a 10 out of 10.
I never said that.
I never said that.
You think you're 11 out of 10, which is in your head.
So what I'm trying to say is, if you're talking about something that isn't, if we can look on your body and we can see you have two testicles and the penis, we know what you are, right?
If you think you are other than what you actually are, that's something going on in your head, right?
Because couldn't I identify as a teenager if I wanted to?
Transage, they call it.
No, I'm seriously.
No, I've gone into this.
I've gone into this.
What if I said I feel early days where I really liked this type of content?
Because no one had channels.
It was so much less influencer.
Like, it was just like a bunch of people talking through ideas on, you know, in my living room.
17.
Well, that would genuinely be something that you'd have to work with.
And being someone who studies psych, that would more than likely be a trauma response.
So is transgender is a much better experience.
I was not done speaking.
People who still feel like they're stuck in their teen years or even childhood years usually experience some sort of terrible trauma at that age in their life.
And that's where they feel emotionally and physically stunted.
Yeah.
So that's why, like, maybe later on, they still act a certain way for years.
But it's interesting because you're kind of saying, like, that's a, that's like a mental disorder a little bit.
Yeah, no, I can't, I can say that with peace.
Yeah.
But trans wouldn't be.
So trans wouldn't be.
I can't see it that way because I'm someone who's part of the LGBT community.
Yeah.
And I see how these people struggle.
And like, you know, like people tend to make the argument that that's an emotional response.
It's not a logical one.
Do you want to answer or not?
Yeah, but it's not a problem.
Okay, yes.
It's a yes or no.
Notice how she was so mad at him, but me, we would both interrupt her or interrupt her.
No question.
It's a yes or no question.
Can you imagine he called me a colonizer late?
Like, look at this.
Look at this.
Do you know what it's like to deal with people all the time and then randomly one day they make hit pieces on you?
This happened to me twice, at least, at least twice.
Two different no, three times.
You tubers, you'll be like pals.
And then the next day, you're not pet.
It's crazy.
It's crazy.
Oh, it came unplugged?
Which part?
It's a yes or no.
I can hear it.
Oh, you don't have a visual?
All right, guys.
Well, wait a second.
Is it back?
Okay.
No question.
Let's talk about the facts, not the feelings, please.
Guys, get along.
Let's talk about the facts, not the feelings.
It's like, regardless, these things were removed from the DSM-5.
Yeah.
Being transgender.
Gender dysphoria is still in there, I believe.
And they're working on the DSM-6, I believe.
If not, it's already out.
But no, no, she was on my volleyball team.
It's difficult to pinpoint that as a mental illness only because this is a whole this is something that someone's willing to change their entire life for I can change my entire life to be 17.
I mean shit, you can try.
Rachel Dozel changed her entire life to be black.
Oh my gosh, do you know who that is?
Yeah right, she was head of the NA CP and she was a white woman.
Yeah, so just because she identifies or thought of herself as how dare they say shit like Colin, I know yo, you've found your.
I want to tell you it's been long enough.
I'm gonna talk about this now.
I don't care.
So what happened was?
He had a video and it was like the truth about Pearl, and when I saw it was scheduled, I thought it was going to be a video.
I swear, I thought it was gonna be a video defending me.
And I was on the phone with my dad and I'm like oh, that's weird.
He has that scheduled.
I bet it's, I bet he's just defending me.
And my dad is like, are you sure about that?
I'm like no, he wouldn't do that.
He did do that.
He did in fact, do that it was.
It was so crazy, crazy guy.
That doesn't mean that she is, but that doesn't make these people any less human.
I think that's what I'm trying to say.
We're not no, but we're not talking.
That's what I'm saying.
You're talking from an emotional standpoint.
I never said trans people, or whoever you are, are less human.
They are human beings.
They deserve their rights as a human being, but it doesn't mean that's what they're saying.
Respect their identity is the issue.
So if a trans person respects their identity, if somebody were to come to you right now they were trans, they once were she and became he, and you knew this would you refer to them as what they are comfortable with or what they were originally born, as I would refer to them as who they are, which is a man or a woman biologically, because what you're asking me to do essentially so, then that's just disrespectful.
I'll tell you what's disrespectful.
What's disrespectful for me is to ask me to buy into your delusion.
That's what I think is disrespectful.
If I come up to you and say, listen, I know I'm a black man, but please call me Mei Ling because I'm now a Chinese woman.
You're going to be like, all right, you're a Chinese.
I'm a Chinese woman, really?
And you've met me and you know me prior to me identifying as a Chinese woman.
You're now going to call me Mei Ling.
I'm now asking you to.
I to buy into my delusion.
If I feel like this, that's 100% cool.
But I shouldn't ask you to buy into what I think of myself.
Because like I said, you think of yourself as an 11 out of 10.
Right?
If you went around asking people to call you an 11 out of 10, then that's just plain arrogant and egotistical.
Because you're asking.
I wouldn't do that though.
Right.
But yeah, but trans people do.
All I ask is basic respect.
And basic respect.
People do.
They ask people to call them the thing.
Do you know what's crazy?
I'll tell you guys part two of this story.
What's crazy was after this guy called me a racist, right?
I went through mutual friends and I'm look, can we just talk this out?
Like, what's the we were cool like two weeks ago?
You were, we could we just not make this an internet thing he wouldn't do it.
Couldn't look me in my eye and tell me the same thing.
Insane.
I can't.
This was crazy.
They know that they actually aren't.
It's genuinely not that hard to just refer to them as she, her, or he, him as they ask, and by the name that they choose to go by.
It's genuinely not that hard.
My name is Francesca, right?
But I go by Chesska.
That is my preferred name.
All I have to do is tell you, hey, this is what I prefer to be called.
Feel free to call me this.
And it would be up to you to call me Chessca.
I would, like I said, I would prefer it.
If you call me Francesca, I'm not going to respond because realistically, I don't like that name as much as Chesska.
Shooting in your name.
It's a respect thing.
No, it's not.
Shooting in your name is not the same as asking me to call you by a totally different gender.
Okay, so there's no part of you that is that gender.
If they preferred a different name, even you wouldn't go with that.
If they preferred it, like I said, you're asked, I'm not about someone's delusional.
Yes or no?
Say again.
It's really not that hard of a question.
If they asked me to call them a name.
If I came to you and I said, I prefer the name Richard, even though I clearly am not biologically male.
I'll be like, what do your parents call you?
Okay, what are your parents calling you?
You're not my parents, so you wouldn't have a right to call me by whatever you wouldn't have the right to ask me to call you Richard.
You wouldn't have the right to call me by whatever my parents call me because my parents are different from you.
You're just a 40-year-old man.
Okay.
You're just a stranger that I see on the podcast.
You cannot touch me now.
You're just a stranger that I see on a podcast.
So, Chessca, like, okay.
So, I, I honestly, if I, if I knew someone.
You know what we call that?
We call that sign language over here.
If I knew someone that was trans, I would probably like, I probably would call them by their name, like, just because they asked me to.
But the issue I get is when we start letting people live in delusion, there's consequences.
And I really do, on some level, think that it's delusional because you're saying you're something you're not.
And the problem is now we have Leah Thomas coming in.
Who's that?
Leah Thomas the swimmer.
The swimmer.
The swimmer.
Okay.
And swimming in the woman's division and taking away opportunities from women, like real biological women.
Because in my opinion, we started by letting them live in delusion.
Okay.
And it slowly got to the point that now actual real women.
I like it how me and Sara are saying the exact same thing, but she's yelling at Sarah.
Like we're saying the same thing.
I just said it in a slightly softer voice.
Athletics.
Right.
Okay.
Right.
That's what happens when you live in.
That's what happens when you say, oh, but they feel a certain way.
So we have to respect it.
Genuinely.
It has real works.
As much as I would love to, you know, give a viewpoint on that, I can't.
Okay.
Because one, I'm not trans.
I feel like I can't speak on it until I speak to other trans people who are athletes as well as cisgender people.
No, guys, this was before all the laws.
I don't know if there was an update on that, but this was like three years ago.
Who are athletes and see how they feel about it.
And two, I'm still curating my research on that because I'll be.
How many subscribers did I have?
This, my channel was small.
It was getting bigger, though.
If I had to guess, maybe 50 to 100,000.
Yeah, but this was one of the first videos that went really viral because this was before we even had like real mic stands.
So this was like first like two or three months of the show.
This wasn't a pregame show though.
This was kind of like a chill day where I would, I lived right next to an athletic center and right next to campus.
And so I would just walk over and see if they would come.
And Sara lived nearby at the time.
So he would come before he decided I was a big old racist.
Honest, throughout high school, I felt that way.
I was like, why the hell are trans people ending up in divisions that I feel like they're not supposed to be?
I realized that was.
Does that happen at your school?
No.
I realized that it was me denying their identity in a sense.
Right.
I know that realistically, no matter what, this person was born opposite of what they are, but I do not want to deny how they feel and what they've experienced since more than likely such a young age about what they identify as.
But at the same time, like I have to look at the science behind this, right?
Like, because I've seen a lot of trans people come as changed completely, specifically with women, at least trans women.
They're like, I don't understand why people get so upset about trans women entering women's divisions, because estrogen really does break down our like muscle mass and like our strength that we had as men previously.
Bone density though no, i'm sure.
But that's what i'm saying.
That's why i'm saying like I have to do more research on it first before I can really curate an idea on it.
Um, but i'm sort of like teetering with it because I could understand, like I used to feel that way genuinely, like I was like yo, i'm a girl and I I feel like i'm fighting for my feet.
We have to deal with bullshit from both racism and sexism.
Now I want to talk about how women are not one-dimensional.
Obviously, this woman believes a lot of crazy stuff but genuinely, knowing her on my team, she was one of the nicer women on the team.
There's this idea that conservative women are somehow better to date.
Now, what i'm not saying is that she's the one you should date.
I'm not saying either or right.
What I am saying is, I don't think necessarily, because there was, you know, a conserv, a conservative woman on my team who was an absolute bitch, very Christian, very rude all the time.
She believed crazy stuff, but she was a lot more pleasant to be around them.
Well, I just think it's like disrespectful to like to honestly to went real women, like women that were born that way because we go through shit they'll never go through.
They'll never go for a smear test.
Yeah, they'll hear Like, what do we deem a real woman, though?
Like, I'm just curious.
What's a real woman?
A woman that was born up with a what is it?
X.
A womb?
XY?
XX, sorry.
XX chromosome in a womb.
And I know they're going to bring out exceptions to the rule.
Intersex people, that's what they do.
Or the few girls that have fertility issues, but that's very different than surgically changing a dick into a vagina.
No, I hear you.
I hear you.
I think, again, like, because I'm part of the community, I have more insight on how they feel about it.
And I can go off of that better as opposed to the.
Like I said, this isn't actually.
I know you're not, but I'm just letting you know.
No, I don't want to hear you right now.
When I'm done speaking, when I'm done speaking, when I'm done speaking, listen.
Why are you talking about feelings?
We're talking about facts.
Or you're going to have to stop him before I do.
I hate being in this position as an interviewer.
Where you want the guests to debate, but where one starts getting offended, you're like trying to calm them down.
Hey, chill out.
Just a debate.
I don't think he's talking about it.
There's no, listen, what are you?
What are you trying to do?
Nothing.
I'm just asking the question.
So, like, so, like, it's a, it's a, we're all talking, right?
Yeah, but that's what I'm saying.
We've been able to interact fine.
And, you know, if we cut each other off, we're like, all right, like, Gucci.
Like, oh, wait, my bad.
Like, whatever.
I just don't.
Just keep pumping in.
Like, like a fucking weasel.
Like, you just don't like weasels.
I'm just like a man.
That's what it is.
Like, it is so irritating.
I'll tell you one thing that gets me in trouble.
I laugh a lot.
It's a bit of a nervous tick sometimes.
And especially when I'm uncomfortable, I'm like, ha ha ha ha.
It's not a good habit.
But oftentimes, when there would be times in interviews where people would be arguing and I would start laughing, people would think I'm agreeing with one side or the other or I like this person.
Oh my gosh, this is a thing.
I'm being caught by a man.
No, because you keep on saying, like, oh, facts over feelings, facts over feelings.
Like, no, like, at least when Pearl is interrupting me, she's saying, like, oh, wait, but like, this is, this is what I see.
This is what I know.
You're just saying, what about if he could get facts over feelings?
Yeah, what about if I do that?
He could get fucking slapped.
I just, like, like, do you know what I'm saying?
Like, really me?
Like, and I think what he's.
I did not get the security deposit back from that apartment.
I just want you guys to know that I didn't.
Yeah, I did.
And the next apartment was worse.
Did not.
Trying to say is like, their feelings about it don't really matter.
It's all about like, but if we functioned, if we functioned off of only logic and reality, we would be a heartless system.
I have no skills either, so there's no way I could fix those walls.
There's just no way I could do it.
I have no house building, nothing.
Genuinely, I believe that.
I don't know.
I think second place Leah Thomas.
The girl that got second to Leah Thomas would be cool right now.
Okay, so how many times have we got a balance is needed?
How many times have we looked at like politicians, for example, just going based off of their emotions?
Sheer emotions.
Like, and not even in a, not even close to logical sense.
You can find a balance between emotion and logic.
Yeah.
You can find a common ground.
I fully understand.
Ah!
Nobody.
Ah!
Ah!
Nobody.
Ah!
Anyway.
She got kind of mad at me when that went viral.
I don't know.
We can find a balance between emotion and logic.
I do believe that there are times where we have too much logic and too much emotion.
Right.
What do you think?
You think that was too much, guys.
I saw this on my website.
I don't like giving Sarah a clout, to be honest, because you have to understand.
This was very devastating to me at the time.
Like these people that I knew just randomly call me a racist.
I was like this is crazy and you have to understand, but this clip was so good.
I'm like you know what.
I'm gonna swallow my pride for the good of my audience today, Because this is hilarious.
10 bucks a year.
This is the level of content.
It was amazing.
I was in downtown London.
I was recruiting people where I put, I brought way too many people in.
That's where it got out of control.
I won't lie to you guys.
But this was my favorite shows, honestly, was when I was back in this like dingy, not dingy, but it became pretty gross over time.
I won't lie.
There was no air conditioning, a lot of sweating.
And the panels made it so much worse.
Oh, they made, oh, it was so hot in that apartment.
London's crazy.
None of them, none of the apartments have air conditioning.
But we would do these shows and they were so fun.
The problem was once you got over like half a million subscribers, people come with an agenda.
Like they have their ideology.
They're pushing or I don't know.
There's just, there's, it's so much better content when people don't think as many people are watching.
So this was, someone in the chat said this was like 30,000 subscribers at the time.
It was some, it was crazy.
Like I would do a show at night and then I would do another like change my mind episode during the day.
I would do like three.
I just loved streaming.
It was so fun.
Emotional or too much logic.
I think it was me telling you to shut the fuck up because you don't know how to sometimes.
But anyway, I said what I said.
All right.
No, I heard you.
I heard you.
When there's too much emotion involved.
I know.
I was trying to diffuse.
I'm like, here's the alcohol.
Calm down, guys.
Calm down.
You can genuinely get hurt.
And when it comes to logic, I feel like logic most of the time, you can't go wrong, but sometimes when we're too logical, you know.
Yeah, but that's one of the problems I'm talking about.
We're not talking about disregarding people.
But that's not what I'm talking about.
Hang on, but the fact that people actually think that speaking things that make sense is disregarding people is where we have a problem in this society.
Because if somebody is speaking to make sense and you take it as, oh, you're disregarding me.
No, like I said, I think these people, trans people, deserve their human rights.
I don't think of them as less as a human being.
I'm saying when it comes to things like you coming into, ah, and when it comes, don't speak.
When it comes to you going into a sports arena that is not actually meant for you and it's meant for biological women, then we see real world consequences to your feelings and people catering to people's feelings.
That's what I'm saying.
But again, I said that I cannot curate an opinion on that until I do more research.
I will not open my mouth on something that I don't know shit about at the end of the day.
You know, like that, that would just be dumb.
So, but okay, so for you, the main thing that you agree with feminism on, like the main rights that women need to see today is abortion, bodily autonomy.
Because it's not always just, you know, it's not just abortion.
Like in some states or at least some counties, it's legal for a police officer to assault an inmate.
That's while they're in custody.
Do you guys think that's true?
I mean right, like so, let's say I were to be um arrested and a cop could take me to whatever little jail cell at whatever little uh, you know place for custody.
He could sexually assault me legally.
Are you sure?
Yes okay, I promise you can do some research on.
Hang on, you can legally sexually assault somebody.
Yes, a cop.
A cop, specifically like, what are you talking?
What are we classing a sexual assault?
Now, that's what I'm trying to understand.
So what?
What is the sexual assault that this man could do legally?
What is it that he can do grape legally?
Yes, this is such good content.
Why did you have to do me like that?
Sarah, these were so funny.
He can.
Yeah, in some states it's like an outdated law, but it's still in place and it does happen to people.
I mean i'd love to see Mtr did the same thing.
Uh, do you know how weird it is?
You know how weird it is?
I just want you guys to understand.
As a youtuber, I just I think I went into this content game like I think one people took it as more of a business than I did when I got into this.
I just really wanted to have fun.
It wasn't really about, you know, making money or I mean it happened right, but I just had always loved youtube, like from a young age, I loved watching youtube.
If you don't have a lot of friends, sometimes youtube is like sorry kidding, but seriously I loved it.
And so what I didn't realize is that for me, when I would have really controversial people on, I would think okay, they have different opinions, who cares what they, what other people are seeing is oh, you're associating with that person, you're not on my team anymore.
I need to denounce you so I don't lose money from my audience.
And i'm like, what do we?
I thought we were all having fun here, guys.
You know, i'm not the, not the, you know.
So I this was, I was very naive when I went to London.
I would say I didn't really know you did.
I never really thought about people's incentives, so I never thought about that.
If things were not going the way that you know, in this case, Sara and the other youtubers that did this wanted me to go, that they would just throw me under the bus, and it was super weird because it was.
It was like grown men.
It was men oftentimes that were like a decade.
I think I was like 25 in this or 26, and they were close to 40 and it was like these 40 year old guys denouncing me.
I was like I was thinking like what are you guys women?
That's a woman that, as far as I know, but that's what I mean.
I interviewed Muhammad Hijab.
I was like all right um, and I, you know, and I can't really blame them, you know women, we get things easier.
So I think maybe if I went through the same like toil that they did, you know, like there's men that have been doing red pill content for 20 years don't have the same following I do.
It's not really fair, you know.
You just have an easier mode when you're, as you're a woman, and I could see why the men are a bit more careful than I was, you know I, I could see why, you know.
So I, I do understand their perspective.
I just still think that's a bitch thing to do.
Sorry.
Sorry.
I'm not gonna lie.
I'd love to see the research on that.
Do you have it?
I'm just curious.
I'll see if I can find it.
Because I've just never, that sounds like kind of wild to me.
Can I, can I, before we get, before we continue, just point out Chesska's female privilege when she threatened to slap me.
Do you think that do you think that it would have been received well if I threatened to slap her?
Did she threaten to threaten to slap her?
Yeah, she's like, I would have been laughing.
I know.
I'm just asking if it would have been received the same way.
I'm just asking.
That's all.
Right.
Okay.
Just glad we just establishing that.
It wouldn't.
Okay.
You don't believe in abortion, Sarah?
No, I think abortions are, quote-unquote, okay in instances of grape and molestation.
Because if sex is non-consensual, sorry, if sex is consensual and you had non-consensual sex and a baby is a result of that, that actual act was non-consensual.
So the child would be non-consensual.
If you have consensual sex and the child is a result, then you've consented to having a child.
I'm just big into like taking ownership.
Like, I just feel like deal with the consequences that you chose.
Right.
Like, okay, they want me to show the ah one more time.
Okay, because that's pretty much it.
Let me.
What was the time of the ah?
Terrible trauma.
I was, it was when I got up.
All right, you guys want to see the ah one more time?
Further up?
Okay.
Okay.
Let's see this ah.
See, it's someone on the website requested this.
Look at the influence.
You can influence the show just by getting on the website.
You know, you to call me.
Where is it?
Ah, did I miss it?
I feel like I'm about it.
Yeah.
I feel like logic most of the time.
Their feelings about it don't really matter.
Like, and not even in a, not even close to logical sense.
You can find a balance between emotion and logic.
Yeah.
You can find a common ground.
I fully understand.
Ah!
No, but ah, ah!
Ah!
Anyway.
That was so funny.
I forgot that happened.
Steven, thank you.
He said, figured it was about time I joined.
Thank you.
Thank you, Ken.
Where else are we?
Is there anything else, Pearl?
People like to think that everyone is on the same page as them.
That works well as long as you agree with the moral group philosophy.
If there is a conflict, the claws come out because people depend on group validation as integral as an integral part of their identity.
If you don't validate me, you are the enemy.
You could get fucking slapped.
Guys, you know, and this is my fault.
I don't reply to enough comments, and I want to change that.
So please put your comments in the comments section after we're done being live.
I know it's my fault.
There's a lack of comments, but you know, okay, we're going to keep going.
That's the woman Pearl dunked on so bad she sued Pearl.
No, that wasn't her.
That was a different woman.
That was a woman that clip.
There's a, do you know the bullshit I had to deal with?
I see why you guys stopped dating.
And I'll tell you why.
Because recruiting women for the show, it was the same.
I went through some of the things you guys go through in dating.
The flaky women.
You know, I would recruit eight of her a night for a show myself on Instagram.
And I knew if I wanted eight girls, I'd have to book 16.
Half would flake.
Same flake rates as women.
So if I recruited like basketball, they would be like the same flake rate.
I'd have to double book.
Anyways, though, men would show up on time, but there was a different woman I brought on.
We texted her the show she was going on, and then she claimed.
That she didn't know the show, did never consent, and that she was coerced into coming on the show.
Crazy.
For example, just going based off of their emotions.
Sheer emotions.
Like, and not even in a, not even close to logical sense.
You can find a balance between emotion and logic.
Yeah.
You can find a common ground.
I fully understand.
Ah!
Nobody.
Ah!
Ah!
Nobody.
Ah!
Anyway.
We can find a balance between emotion and logic.
I do believe that there are times where we have too much logic and too much emotion.
So funny.
Right.
Ah!
Ah!
What do you think?
That was too much emotion.
Okay, I'm done with this.
I'm good.
So funny.
Oh, God, that was so funny.
Okay.
Let me read the chat one more time.
Pearl Reed, if abortion is only legal if the sex is non-consumptual, women will smear men to get abortions.
Yeah, no, I don't.
Look, I just don't see a point.
They are not going to let us have this one.
I really think the pro-life people love them.
I want to say you guys do great work, but you're not winning.
There's more abortions after Roe versus Wade.
Sorry, guys.
You know, like, I think it's a great intent, but in terms of effectiveness, and half of the pro-lifers simp.
They simp so hard.
None of them will say throw these women that get abortion in jail.
None.
None.
If you ask them that, no, we're just going to throw the doctors in jail.
Of course.
Oh, no.
The women, they just, they don't know what they're doing.
They're being given the wrong information.
Google.
I've Googled an abortion.
I have.
I've seen one.
I know what it looks like.
Whose fault is it if they're not informed?
Whose fault?
Is it the doctor?
Whose?
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We are going to be, I want to first give my disclaimers.
Number one, I sometimes make generalizations based on what I have seen.
My experience may not be your experience.
This is also based on interviewing a thousand women.
This is also based on following cultural trends and following relationship news and seeing the choices that women make at different periods in their life.
This may not be your experience, and that's totally fine.
When I say women or modern women, I never mean all women.
There are exceptions to every single rule.
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Now, we spoke before about the modern woman life cycle and the phases that we go through as women.
Now, I first want to recap what the phases are of the modern woman life cycle.
So, first, we go to a high-priced institution to get a degree that nobody will care about, to put themselves in a whole bunch of debt that will burden them for the rest of their lives.
All they learn in school is how to be disagreeable and how to use men.
Modern women will get a job that is too stressful and does not care about them.
In reality, the job is not hard or stressful, but these women will convince themselves that it is.
Modern women feel entitled to a certain lifestyle when they begin their careers and will buy Havel while ignoring their student loan debt and sometimes credit card debt.
Modern women will wake up between the ages of 33 to 37 and rush to have kids and find a husband or both.
Modern women will hit their late 30s and early 40s and try to get pregnant by a loser or go through IVF.
Modern women will start on antidepressants and become alcoholics.
Modern women will buy a dog and die alone.
Now, along this journey, there are different phases that modern women go through.
We have covered the hoe phase.
Today, we are going to cover the post-ho phase and the find herself phase.
So, what is it?
The post-ho phase?
The post-ho phase usually comes along when the women try to get our lives together before we smash into the wall.
Some women enter this phase sooner, some women enter it later, but the post-ho phase consists of the following options.
Number one, a health journey.
Many women do an extreme diet in this period.
They do this extreme diet because they don't want to take the work about learning about health or nutrition.
You know, learning about carbs, protein, fat, calories, that's too much work.
Let me just go carnivore vegan or paleo.
I don't want to count sugars.
I don't want to count calories.
So, oftentimes, they do this extreme diet for a couple of reasons.
One, to naturally clear an STD.
There are STDs that can be naturally cleared, allegedly.
And women are, I mean, at least they're convinced of it.
I'm not even saying this is true or false, but on TikTok, they're certainly convinced that changing their diet will clear their STD.
Another thing that they may do this is to lose the weight that they gained from poor decision making.
Now, an office job doesn't necessarily need to mean that you get fat.
There's many men that work office jobs and are in great shape, but that does require discipline and hard work.
That means putting the donut down, not getting a 500-calorie latte from Starbucks.
It means eating meals and not just snacking.
And that is way too hard.
So they need to go carnivore vegan or paleo to get out of that.
The next reason is to have sex with men at the gym.
Now, obviously, you know, women, top of the totem pole is going to be the jacked guy.
I mean, there's a reason women go and see Magic Mike.
We don't really go and see, you know, the smart guys dancing for it, you know.
So, you know, in order to do that, they're obviously going to need to be in shape too.
So here's a TikTok of a woman.
Oh, by the way, also, I forgot a breakup will also trigger this.
So, you know, being reminded that you suck as a girlfriend and that you just can't keep a relationship is hard.
So throwing yourself into the gym seems to be an option for some.
Very first proper day at the gym.
Hey guys, so I just came back for my very first proper day at the gym.
And I wanted to jump on here and kind of start documenting my journey because I want to have accountability buddies on the internet.
I've asked my friends to be my accountability buddies and everyone seems to be better at doing their own thing by themselves.
So due to the lack of friends who want to be my accountability buddy, I've decided to come on here and share my journey with you guys.
So I wanted to share a little bit about my health journey that I am kind of focusing on for this season of my life.
And that is basically I have really bad cardiac health.
So like even a little bit of exercise pushes my heart rate up to like 200.
Something in my blood pressure on average is quite low.
My orthostatic blood pressure is quite low.
So I really wanted to kind of see if I can improve that through like resistance training and just overall improving my cardiac health.
Okay, we get the idea.
The next option for a post-hoe phase is finding religion or a spiritual journey.
So I dog on Nala a lot because she's a perfect example.
But you know, it's not just Nala.
The best place to find some ex-hoes is in church.
There's no better place.
And the reason is because there's a lot of marketing towards people that are broken and have made really poor life decisions.
Now, that's all fine and dandy.
But the best thing for a hoe to do is join a non-denominational church with no standards where you can live stream your baptism, do no work, and tweet about how holy you are.
That's option A.
So let's pull this up.
Here we go.
A year ago, I didn't believe in God.
Didn't believe in Jesus.
Didn't believe in God.
I thought it was super weird.
I thought it was super old-fashioned and traditional.
I thought it was super religious, super culty.
And like some people just lived their life that way and it was really extreme and strange.
And it just was not a part of my world.
It would never be me.
It is now.
And your worst part is she's hot enough.
You guys are going to fall for it.
There's no way you won't.
I don't believe you.
You're like, Pearl, not me.
I'm too alpha.
I wouldn't fall for that.
Yeah, okay.
Okay, guys.
Yeah, I don't.
You guys are falling for those blue eyes.
You're part of the church now.
Let me, I didn't notice the only fans.
Associated God and Jesus very heavily with what I knew of religion.
And that was one of the biggest things for me at the time that was a block in even considering getting to know God.
I had some wild experiences, crazy experiences that led me to believe in a God that I did not believe in.
Now, oftentimes, so women that convert have a tendency to think that God wants them to have a platform.
And they often hear voices and they attribute that to God, you know, and it's the same story, right?
It's, I was alone.
I just, I've been partying and being a hoe.
And then I got, then I heard God speak to me.
Lady, he did not speak to you.
You are just crazy.
You are insane.
You hear voices because you're hungover from getting tag teamed the night before.
I mean, do you guys really believe that Nala heard God's voice?
Yo, okay.
Let me tell you, if you're watching this right now and you're like, oh, like another Christian video or oh, another like person talking about God, I was totally the same.
Every time I saw these videos pop up on my bit earlier in my journey, like every time I saw these videos pop up on my TikTok, I would be like, oh, but she's from a Christian family or oh, she grew up that way or she goes to church or she has a best friend that's a Christian.
You know, like I just always thought it was ingrained in their life somehow.
I am telling you, I went from zero belief, zero faith, zero care to believe to full, undoubtable, full heart, brain, body, full belief, full knowledge that the fact that this is so real.
Because the wildest things happened to me, the craziest things happened to me.
I went through a really hard time.
Hoeing.
The hard time is a hard time, if you know what I mean.
It's he, I, it, it always has to do with a boy.
You know, it's interesting.
Because when men go through hard times, it's like, well, my mom was sick.
My, I was deployed.
My best friend tried to commit suicide.
When women go through a hard time, it's, I got dumped.
I took an L.
He didn't call me back.
And these insane things started happening.
The only Christian I knew was my boss.
Oh my gosh.
Cap, cap, cap.
You guys in the chat.
You would fall for it.
I don't believe he wouldn't.
I just, you know, I don't believe if a woman this attractive was super into you, you would want to believe it.
I've seen, you know what?
I've seen this too many times.
I've just seen it.
You guys would fall for it hook, line, and sinker.
They're all saying they wouldn't.
Yeah.
Yeah, okay.
Nah, nah, I wouldn't.
Oh, I'm okay.
So literally, thank God for her because she helped me.
And I hadn't told her all these strange things that were happening to me until eventually one day I just blurted it out because she was the only Christian I knew.
And she was like, you need to start reading a Bible.
And then even then, I was like, no, like, girl, be for real.
Me read a Bible?
Me read a Bible?
Like a Bible.
Like, in what world?
But I did.
She bought me a really cute Bible.
Kenneth said he'd hit and then see what happened.
That's an honest answer.
Thank you for being honest.
Thank you, Kenneth.
Thank you.
Because that right there is honesty.
What I don't need is the virtue signal in the chat.
Do you know?
I just want you to know.
I, the shows that I did earlier, I would see the men say that they don't date those types of women or they wouldn't fall for that, blah, blah, blah.
And do you know who I would see them dating later?
Oh, you know, there's this one guy who came on their show a lot.
And even from before he met her, she was exactly like that.
So I'm not blaming you guys.
Can we just like call it?
Can we just be, I just, I want some level of honesty between me and you.
I want some like you, you, not only would you believe it, you might, you would want to believe it.
You would say, lie to me more.
That's exactly, you know, it's like when women start talking about stuff they've done before and the guys are like, shut up, shut up, shut up.
It's because you're saying, lie to me, please.
And I don't blame you guys.
You know what I'm like?
We like it when the men lie to us.
You're the most beautiful woman in the world.
Okay.
Then why don't I have, why aren't I on the cover of Vogue?
Like, why haven't I had these outcomes?
Chill, Pearl.
They're starved.
I'm just, yeah, okay.
You're telling me the Australian accent, blonde hair, blue eyes.
You would not, you would, you would not fall for it.
Soft-spoken.
You know, that gives that you guys think if a girl saw, you know, some girls have two voices.
They have two voices.
They have the, and this totally happened on a team I was on in college.
There was this woman.
And to us, she was a total B.
She was a total bitch.
Like, she was not nice to anybody.
Always came in with a scowl on her face, always screaming at practice.
And then we would see her go up to her boyfriend.
She would have a different voice.
And we're all like, what?
You were just, how did you?
But you guys have it too.
You guys will be in the locker room showing each other, I don't know, nudes or whatever the hell you guys do.
I don't want to know.
I don't want to know the side of men in the locker room.
I just don't want to say, I don't, I think you guys would hurt my feelings.
I just think you would.
And I'm good on it.
But women have that too, you know?
So we know when you're falling hook line and sinker, she would pull it off.
She completely would pull it off.
First, pointy chin, looks fade.
She would get you.
And I took it politely, opened a page, never stopped.
So this is weird.
It is just a part of life.
It's not crazy to just get curious about it.
Like it.
She's talking about religion and God.
Like she's like getting curious about your sexuality.
Like it's the same, it's the same words or the same kind of phrases, just different, different things.
Changed my life.
Don't let the stigma that I had of religion deter you from what is actually God.
Because God is healing, God is love, God is blessings.
There are so many things that religions do that I do not agree with at all.
And there we go.
Remember, it's pick and choose Christianity.
The thing is, being a real Christian is real hard.
Again, that's why I try to say, you know, don't look up to me.
There's people be like, Pearl, don't you want people to like, don't you want young women to look up to you?
No.
No, go find an Amish girl or something, not me.
Now, but there's like a hierarchy, right?
Of the best women and the worst women.
And the thing is, women don't want to do anything hard.
So they'll always say there's stuff I don't agree with about Christianity when it means saying something that might get them ostracized, not being a hoe.
All the hard parts we just tend to opt out of.
The men will do the hard parts because, you know, they have not all, not all, not all, but they have standards and, you know, honor.
And when they say things, they mean them.
We do not.
We just say things.
I'm going to read the chat for a second.
If you have a comment, put it in the chat on the website.
Someone wants to know what happened to Auntie.
Me and Auntie are still friends.
I might have her call in one show.
That might be kind of fun for us to do.
I texted her the other day, actually.
Where are we going?
Remember, put Pearl Reed if you want me to read something.
Pearl, why don't you film the advertising so you play it?
Aren't you tired of repeating it?
I think it's better interaction when I read it, but maybe I'll look into that.
Curveball says it was very traumatizing when a girlfriend started telling me that God speaks to her.
Yeah, you know she's crazy.
But again, you know, if she says it with those blue eyes, you I don't, you know, everyone just assumes because people talk about Christianity that they're moral immediately.
I don't know what these people do in their free time.
You know, so being the morality police.
I'm just going to continue.
You're right.
Elizabeth Holmes, the Theranos con artist, used two different voices depending on the situation.
That's more common than you guys think.
You got to go up like two octaves.
Yeah, it's I have a deep voice.
You know what?
My voice has gotten deeper the last three years because of this job.
I think it's gotten an octave lower.
Girls like to do 180s because they figure out it's a way to get polite society to stop calling them hoes.
And I thank them for that because I wouldn't be employed.
Thank you guys.
Like at all.
And it was a huge block.
Also, life here on earth is just way too short and way too amazing to be wasting out.
People think of what you're doing.
As long as you're not doing terrible things, then it doesn't matter.
So let me get this straight.
Now she's saying it doesn't matter what people think.
Okay.
Like, here you're Zodang about what people think of what you're doing.
Okay, we're going to go.
Craig says, Pearl Reed, what about turning the I don't need a woman man on its head?
I think society would be better off.
The sexes are going to go further and further apart.
Don't expect your siblings to have children.
At least half of them aren't going to do it.
So, okay.
Let me go to the next.
So The next option for them is to become a trad wife.
Now, becoming a trad wife is going to be tough because the men that have been around the players, the charming men, the men that have the choice are going to know your BS, rebrand when they see it, right?
So when a woman's going to become a trad wife and she's a former hoe, she's got to pick an easy target.
That's why you'll notice their targets.
They're always dorky guys without a lot of experience.
If you ask them how many relationships have they been in, it's usually one, maybe two.
That's called an easy target because again, the woman, even let's pretend a lot of men she's interacted with, dealt with, talked to.
Her manipulation power, and let's not like the sexes manipulate each other.
You guys say you're the most beautiful woman in the world.
You pretend you don't like us as much as we as you do to keep us interested.
You do the hot and cold.
I've seen the dating advice stuff.
We do the same thing.
We have, we manipulate each other.
Women are just better at it.
Women are just, we're A1 manipulators.
We've been attractive when he saw her without makeup.
He just didn't know what to do.
Now, so the trad wives, usually they'll do one of three things.
They go for a man about their age because again, a woman late 20s, mid-20s, early 30s, way more experienced than the man.
And she's going to run that relationship.
She's going to give up nothing to be a trad wife.
She might be an influencer, build a trad wife persona on the internet.
And anything that she wants to do, God is going to be calling her to do it.
So she's going to say, God wants her to have a platform.
She's going to say, God wants me to go put the kids in this school.
That's like a form of manipulation.
They have a tendency to use God.
They also have a tendency, right?
You know, they're getting married late.
There's something there, right?
So they have a tendency to use the Bible to shame any behavior they don't like from the man.
So a common thing I hear from the trad wives is that all the men just aren't holy enough.
He's not leading me to God.
And it's like a worse form of manipulation because you're using God to get what you want and manipulate.
It's just, it's like you respect the player.
I respect the player more, the Tinder swindler who got all that money out of the women.
I really respect him more than the trad wives using God to manipulate their husband.
The Tinder swindler, at least you can be impressed.
That's hard to do.
Now, the thing is, these trad wives, they don't know the alpha and beta traits, right?
So oftentimes they marry a beta guy, unfortunately.
Now, or a guy they see as beta based on the men that they've dated before.
They don't know that they don't like him.
You know, it's not like these women go in wanting to divorce their husbands, but they need a kid.
They need a kid.
They got to get married.
So they have to do our hamster reel, convince ourselves we like him.
The problem is that kid gets born.
Postpartum depression is post-nut clarity for women.
Haven't you guys ever really thought you liked a woman?
Then had sex with her and realized you just wanted a blowjob.
That was it.
Women have that same thing with children.
They think they like the man.
That's why a lot of times the sexless marriages happen after the kid.
Now, These women also have a tendency to shame male sexuality.
So they have no problem not sleeping with their husbands, and they will shame men for trying and also shame them for watching corn.
Now, we all know how strong the male need for variety is.
There's a reason that, you know, in a way, this is just nature correcting itself because historically, eight women reproduced for one man.
Eight.
So the sexless men, the women sleeping with the same men, this is just nature kind of taking its course, right?
But what they'll do is they don't really want to have sex with him, but they also don't want to lose their resources and their husband going elsewhere.
So they shame the porn.
They act like porn is the root of all evil in society.
I mean, 70% of men watch porn, admittedly, in the last month.
I don't know.
Society's running okay.
I wanted to have sex with them.
I know what they say.
To me, I think women just don't like losing the power because they can't manipulate the guys as much if they have another outlet, another form.
They will also shame men that are players who are exploring their options.
So you guys know when a man's a player, there's nothing you are going to do to get him to not have sex.
Imagine, imagine thinking that a man that's dating multiple women, having a harem of five women trying to have sex with him all the time, and you're going to say you're a bad person.
Do you think that man is going to say, ah, you know what?
I am a bad person.
Maybe.
Yeah, okay.
So what they'll do is they, the reason they love the players, right?
They really do, because at some point, most women have dated a guy that's more of a player than their husband, let's just say.
Most women do not marry the baddest boy that they've ever dated or the biggest player, whatever.
They hate that they're attracted to the players.
They're not attracted to their husbands.
Because why are the women yelling at the men for sleeping around, right?
I mean, isn't you kind of wonder, what are you doing there?
It's kind of a weird behavior.
So they all go on a lot of shows and shame men for exploring their options, even though they did the same thing when they were at their peak.
We should wait till marriage.
Making men wait for used goods, the 90-day rule, et cetera.
So the women, they're not as hot or innocent as they used to be.
You know, good women will make up for this, right?
You know, good, reasonable women will know, okay, I'm not as attractive as I used to be.
And there's different strategies that women take.
We could argue about what strategies are the most effective, right?
But, you know, some women decide they want to give really good blowjobs.
That's how they try to make up for it.
One in the chat if that would help.
Other women, they decide, I'm just going to be a nicer person.
I'm going to learn to be more pleasant, nicer.
You know, like fat women.
Fat women used to, they knew they weren't the best, so they made up for it with a really good personality.
So maybe the women go that route.
Other women, you know, I have a friend, she was older and she ended up getting married to a guy that really doesn't take any shit.
I wouldn't say he's beta at all.
And she did this by, how did she do this?
She learned how to code and build him a website for his business.
I mean, she learned skills that would make his life easier.
She quit her job, worked for him.
That's one way to do it.
Some women will get in better shape.
You see women in their 30s hitting the gym really, really hard.
But these women think, no, I don't want to do that.
That's too hard.
I would rather just charge a higher price for used goods.
You know, I am going to sell.
I'm going to sell, you know, because at the end of the day, dating, it is selling, right?
Everyone's selling themselves.
This is what I have.
What they're going to do is they're going to say, look, I know my ex-boyfriend hit all the time for free.
He had to pay nothing.
But you, you get to wait until marriage, put all your money on the line.
Give me the power to destroy your legacy and steal your children.
And in exchange, you get nothing.
You get the promise that I won't leave.
They will get a guy to sign up.
Probably one of you in the chat that fell for those blue eyes.
I know one, I know it's one of you.
I don't know who.
But deep down, the woman knows he's an idiot.
It's not a smart move.
So, you know, the next option for the, you know, ex-hoes is running back to school.
This is an excessive focus on their career.
Generally, it's a graduate degree and a PhD.
So they sign up for more debt.
They become even more selfish, even though they're already selfish.
So they say, I'm focusing on me.
Sis, you didn't need to do that.
You focused on yourself enough.
Here we go.
How my heart broke, how my broken heart led me to going back to school for social work.
Heartbreak led me to go back to school for social work.
I've actually been wanting to engineering.
Talk about this for a long time.
It's never like a long time, but gosh, I need to move this.
It's never medicine.
It's always something that doesn't make any money.
Time about how a heartbreak led me to go back to school for social work.
I've actually been wanting to talk about this for a long time, but for some reason, I just never knew where to start.
In 2019, I was living in LA with my ex-boyfriend who I was also working for at the time.
And if anyone's watching this who is contemplating working with their significant other, don't.
Honestly, it has nothing to do with why we broke up, but it made the breakup so messy after.
I'll never forget the day that started our breakup.
He woke up really early and he went to go play basketball and we didn't really speak that morning.
He kind of just like woke up and left.
Hours later, I haven't heard from him.
So I'm like, hello.
Like all of a sudden, I see like in our text that he turned off his location services.
I'm like, that's weird.
What?
I just realized that this story time was supposed to be about why I went back to school for social work, not what happened in our breakup.
So long story short, he broke up with me.
I was distraught.
When I tell you, I have never felt heartbreak like that.
Tried for a very long time to just get over it on my own, but I literally could not wake up in the mornings.
Like I was that depressed.
So naturally, I'm like, okay, I need help.
Found a therapist and I started seeing her like two times a week.
And no joke, she single-handedly changed my life.
The point of there's a therapy phase.
I want you guys to think about all the people that make money off of us during these phases.
The doctors convincing us that we're sick when we're not.
Here we go.
The therapists convincing us we need therapy and to try to understand.
If we can't understand our feelings, I mean, that's an impossible task.
I get mad for no reason all the time.
I get happy for no reason.
I mean, we can't, we can't understand that.
Me being like, holy shit, I want to be able to do that for people.
So I took a big risk, applied to a bunch of schools, got in now two years and helped people the way that my therapist helped me.
It's wild how real rejection is redirection.
If I hadn't gotten broken up with, I wouldn't have applied to get my master's in social work.
I wouldn't have found Lox Club, which made me realize that I really want to work in the dating and relationship space.
I wouldn't have moved to Florida during COVID, met my boyfriend, and I probably wouldn't have started a TikTok.
Everything happens for a reason.
Rejection is redirection.
Okay, so there you go.
Next, the false accusation realization.
So this is when she realized she consented to none of her hoe activities.
This happens when looks start to fade because their looks can't get them the resources that they used to.
They used to get all this free stuff, events, attention thrown at them.
They can't get it from that anymore.
Have you ever noticed all the false accusation, the Me Too ladies?
It's always after they're hot.
They're not hot now.
They were hot before.
Then it's the I was dumb, young and dumb justification.
So when men commit a crime when they were young, they say I was wrong.
But women say I was young and dumb.
Everything before, post-ho, I was young and dumb.
Then they got to marry a boyfriend.
Obviously, need a beta with no standards that lets them do whatever they want.
You're the guy she can get fat on.
If your woman's getting fat on you, if she's gaining a ton of weight, she's not afraid of you dumping her.
You've instilled no fear.
Congratulations, fellas.
She wants you to have no standards and zero requirements.
Next is divorce.
Divorce because you want to be an influencer, go to concerts, or join some sort of community that seems better than your husband.
Next, obviously, she's going to raise her standards, make men wait longer for sex while offering nothing in return.
So the older they get, the longer that waiting period.
You know, it goes from a month phase, two months, three months, give up, have a one-night stand, and then she repeats.
So again, you know, ah, that's what they always say.
I fell into temptation.
How do you fall?
I don't, did you choose it or did you, was it an accident?
There's a lot of steps in having sex.
You know, it's start.
I mean, I don't want to get too detailed, but you guys, you know, there's a lot of steps.
There's going back to the place.
It doesn't usually, it's not just something you fall into.
It's a choice, but you know, they won't say that.
So, you know, women back in the day used to stay at their parents' house until they found a husband.
They used to learn how to be wives and mothers from their mothers.
When they met the man they were going to marry, they would tailor themselves to fit that man and they would become the woman that he needed her to be.
But a woman finding herself is a new phenomenon started by modern women as a way to put off marriage, children, and any other major life decisions.
Because again, the goal of feminism is to be able to use our youth on ourselves as much as we can, find a bailout guy later.
If we could, if we had fertility to push off kids till 40, swear we would do it.
I swear.
Instead of prioritizing becoming a man's wife, we learn how to be disagreeable, disagreeable, and difficult.
The quest of a woman finding herself usually leads to the next phase that is the ho phase.
Now, what is a modern woman's motivation for finding her ho phase?
You, now, this is an article from a feminist website that says, you have been so lost and again, and you feel all alone, all you hit is rock bottom.
You've become someone that you don't recognize, someone you thought you were supposed to be, and you don't want to be that girl.
You've become that girl that you promised yourself you would never become.
That girl who doesn't know who she is.
You tell yourself that you're happy, that you love the life that you live, until you're laying in bed at night and it all hits you.
Those fundamental questions, what are you even doing with your life?
Who are you?
Are you satisfied with where you are at?
The answer is never.
We're never satisfied.
Never.
Are you really happy instead of what you needed?
You've conceded to what you should have fought.
You've conceded when you should have fought.
You've tried to be who you thought people expected you to be, to please them instead of pleasing yourself.
You're so caught up in everything else that you've lost yourself along the way.
She's stuck between yourself.
You've done everything the world has told you would make you happy, and it has left you with nothing but unhappiness.
You've been so desperately trying to fill that void, but nothing you do, nothing you get, or anyone you ever meet seems to be able to fill it.
At the end of the day, you feel empty, you feel lost.
What are the common actions of a woman finding herself?
Usually dated and broke up with a toxic, misogynistic ex.
Selfishness, me, me, me in all aspects of life.
Spent a ton of money on living, traveling, and material goods.
Long-term planning stops, live in the now until we smash into the wall.
Becomes an amateur psychologist, will diagnose herself and everyone around her with some sort of mental disorder.
Fully embrace misandrous ideas like men are trash.
Toxic groups of misandrous female friends, etc.
Creative pundits, social media content creation, some sort of creative business, lack of true self-reflection, taking herself off the dating market for far too long and rejecting all the good men that come along because she's dealing with her trauma.
This woman talks about how she started her healing journey.
Of course, she had a toxic ex.
How did I start my healing journey?
Because that was just a lot.
first step to starting my healing journey was getting comfortable with being alone i had this work view that having somebody so that's taking herself off the dating market for far too It was better than being by myself.
And that was far from the case.
If you disrupt my peace of mind, you gotta go.
I learned that the hard way, but it was very valuable.
I had to unlearn everything that I had learned within that relationship.
Had this really warped view of myself.
He was telling me I was too skinny.
I need to get a boob job.
I couldn't see myself for who I was and what I had to offer.
Now remember, these are the men that can demand that.