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Aug. 11, 2023 - The Culture War - Tim Pool
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The Culture War #25 - Indoctrination or Education, Critical Race And Gender Theory In Schools

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tim pool
Today on The Culture War, we're going to be discussing education or indoctrination in schools.
Is what's happening right now the appropriate degree of information being given to children, or is it inappropriate subject matter that parents should have more control of?
This has been a big topic that's been happening for quite a bit.
And actually, as of right now, as we're producing this show, gender studies is trending because there's news out of Florida where a university has removed the gender studies program Now, a lot of people on the left would say it's not indoctrination, it's appropriate education.
People on the right would call it indoctrination, but I think it's fair to point out that even on our shows, we've mentioned that whatever ideology you're bringing to your children is some form of indoctrination.
You either want them to have your values, or you don't want them to have someone else's values.
So, this is what we're going to be talking about today, and probably a whole lot more.
And we've got a couple of really great guests.
Would you like to start, Desmond?
desmond fambrini
Hi, I'm Desmond Fambrini.
So nice to meet everyone.
I'm a learning specialist based in the Bay Area.
tim pool
Well, thanks for joining us.
desmond fambrini
Of course.
kelly schenkoske
Hi, I'm Kelly Shinkeski.
I'm a mom.
I'm an education researcher at this point, and I'm so glad to be here.
Thank you for having me.
tim pool
Yeah, thank you both for joining.
This should be very interesting.
We were having a fairly decent conversation before, but we wanted to hold off.
desmond fambrini
Hold off on it.
tim pool
On a lot of the questions, but I think we could, we'll start light.
And you actually had a question for me about homeschooling.
desmond fambrini
Yeah.
tim pool
And you had mentioned, Kelly, homeschooling.
So let's, we'll start light right there.
And I don't know, did you want to ask?
desmond fambrini
So I gotta say, so I kind of, I like to do my background research and I'm like, oh, Tim Poole, there's a little bit of homeschooling here.
I heard that word.
And it may surprise people that I actually was homeschooled from Sixth grade to eighth grade and definitely attribute there was six other kids that were kind of in that homeschool program And I think I attribute I'd say most of my academic success because I was able to get that small intensive kind of environment Um, but it doesn't seem to work for absolutely everyone and then on the other hand it works for a lot of people so I want to know your experience and your experience and what the benefits are and then also what the drawbacks are and if you ever worry about things like Socialization and things like that.
tim pool
I would love to get your perspective Well, so let me let me start by asking both of you just one simple question.
Where are you from?
desmond fambrini
Bay Area, California.
So I always say like, oh, you know, like the Golden Gate Bridge and how it goes into San Francisco.
Ever wonder what's on the other side?
Me.
And that's where I'm from.
tim pool
And Kelly, where are you from?
kelly schenkoske
I'm not far.
The central coast of California.
tim pool
Oh, OK.
unidentified
Interesting.
tim pool
Interesting.
Because I was the first thing I was thinking, I was like, I wonder if region has something to do with perspectives on education.
But you guys are actually fairly close.
desmond fambrini
Fairly close to one another.
tim pool
So, uh, I have a rather strange and unique educational background.
My mom started homeschooling me and my siblings the moment, like, I don't even know if it's fair to say from one, I think zero is probably... To a certain degree, every parent is teaching their kids something, but my mom actually started having us do math and reading, and I was playing chess when I was like three.
That doesn't mean a whole lot for a three-year-old, but it means they were showing me the chessboard, explaining the moves, and having me try and tell me what was right and what was wrong.
By the time I started kindergarten, I already knew multiplication and division and a bunch of basic math stuff, negatives.
Always understood the concept of negatives and, you know, very simple, you know, grade school stuff, but for, you know, a five-year-old entering kindergarten, leaps and bounds above the kids around me.
And we used to play this game in first grade called Around the World.
You get it from your desk, you stand behind the person next to you, and then the teacher pulls up a flashcard.
And whoever says the answer first advances.
If the person standing loses, they take that seat and that person stands up, and if you make it all the way around the world, you get a ticket.
You get ten tickets, you win a prize or whatever.
Me and my brother never lost.
desmond fambrini
Crushed, love that.
tim pool
Just never lost, and eventually got to the point where they asked us to stop playing.
So, I went to Catholic school from kindergarten until fifth grade, went to public school from sixth grade to eighth grade, spent, I think, three months in public high school, and that's where my grades went from very good to complete and total failure, straight Fs, except for music class, which didn't really have a grading curve anyway.
And then that's when I stopped and did a correspondence school, and that was the end of it.
So, it's a mix of homeschooling and public schooling, and there's a big, one of the big issues that everyone's talking about right now, and one thing we advocate for is more homeschooling and podschooling, because I think the public schools are failing in a million different ways.
desmond fambrini
Very interesting.
So just a little bit about me is that actually, so one thing that I do is actually somewhat of a pod program.
So I, you know, went to Dartmouth, was a double major in gender studies and government, but went on to get my master's of science from Johns Hopkins, and then moved on to start kind of my own education clinic.
And one of our services is that we have like a pod.
So as in, we take students that have learning differences, learning disabilities, whatever you would want to call it, but it's a small pod, you know, two other learning specialists, and we kind of rotate those kids.
There's like three or four of them.
And you'd be amazed at what these kids that were three or four years behind could be caught up fairly quickly if they're given the right environment and the right kind of focus on academic achievement.
It's really insane what can be accomplished.
tim pool
Was your educational experience traditional, or how would you describe it?
kelly schenkoske
I grew up in public school.
I have a Bachelor of Arts degree in English.
And for me, I was happy and content with the public school system.
And it was personal experience that led us to homeschool, really.
And it was something, you know, my perspective of homeschooling was very narrow growing up.
And from this experience, I've learned that homeschooling can actually be quite incredible.
unidentified
Yeah.
kelly schenkoske
It's brought a lot of joy to our family and particularly an incredible love of learning, which has been great to see.
tim pool
I think pod learning is probably the way to go, and I'll just give you my opinion right away.
I despise the education system in this country.
I'm not sure if that means anything, like it's probably the same in most countries, but it's industrialized, it's mechanized, the bell ringing, it doesn't help the average kid.
I grew up witnessing kids of tremendous talent be left behind, kids who needed that extra push not getting it.
And I just said this one-size-fits-all mechanization in schools is a failure.
desmond fambrini
Doesn't work.
I only could stay there for two years because literally on the first day, right, they're talking about doing reading intervention.
And I go, okay, so you got different levels.
You got some kids that come in knowing addition, subtraction, multiplication.
You got some kids that have never seen letters before.
unidentified
Yeah.
desmond fambrini
And they go, okay, well, you assess the kids, and I'm like, okay, that makes sense.
You see who's the low group, got it.
You see who the high group is, and you see the medium group.
And I'm like, okay, that makes sense.
And they go, okay, so the low group gets seen five times a week, medium group gets seen three times, high group gets seen twice.
And I'm like, wait, That doesn't, but then the high group isn't going to get better.
And they're like, but that, but they're like, but it's about making everyone the same.
And I'm like, but that is extremely counterintuitive.
This was the first day, the first day of being a kindergarten teacher.
And I have nothing to say poorly against my first school that I taught at.
Love you very much, even though I don't even exist anymore.
But there was something inherently wrong, which is why I couldn't stay in the public system.
Because I'm like, you're telling me to do something that is designed to make everyone average.
And I guarantee you, even the low kids, there's something not average about them.
But you're literally giving me a reading instruction schedule that says by the end of the year, you want everyone at a level D. Some kids are a level D already, and some kids aren't even a level double A, and you want everyone to be the same.
That seems counterintuitive to me.
tim pool
When I was in grade school, I think it was 8th grade, they did this new program where half the class was 8th grade, half the class was 7th grade, the teacher taught the 7th graders and the 8th graders were left to their own devices.
desmond fambrini
Interesting.
tim pool
And they said it was a good thing for us.
Oh, wow.
You know, I gotta admit, to a certain degree, fine, get the teachers off our back.
They'd say, here's your assignment, have a nice day.
desmond fambrini
Interesting.
tim pool
But, I mean, we're 12 years old.
We may be smarter on average or whatever.
We're like, you know, the 20 kids who are higher, you know, achieving.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
But that doesn't mean you don't give guidance to these kids as adults.
So, yeah, I find that really interesting.
My experience with public schools was nasty teachers who didn't care.
Tenured or whatever you call it.
They couldn't be fired.
They'd been there for decades.
They were nasty.
They were mean.
The kids hated school.
And it's a damn shame that there is such a phrase, school sucks.
Thank you.
desmond fambrini
That kids are saying.
There's an inherent issue with that.
Right?
There is an inherent issue with that idea of school being inherently thought of as bad, as opposed to something that could be thought of as good, right?
Now the question, of course, remains is that, does homeschooling really fix the problem?
Or is that simply like a band-aid on the situation, right?
Because it's simply, or it's not even, band-aid would be the wrong word, right?
It's simply not partaking in the system that we know to be broken, right?
Because, you know, I was talking to different people, whether it be even on your team, right?
And it's an idea of, oh, well, you know, my kid is, like, having trouble in, like, math and da-da-da-da.
Kids are not cupcakes.
They're not 24 done at the same time.
They're not, right?
Like, I always say that, right?
Also, I like to make cupcakes.
But it's like, but it's just simply pulling them out of the oven and kind of doing it, you know, easy-bake oven status, doing it single, one-on-one.
Is that really, like, do you worry about socialization at all?
I'm curious, because we've got to find something to disagree with, because otherwise, you can't just disagree.
unidentified
Well, we're just getting started.
tim pool
I got these books in in front of me.
unidentified
Oh, God, here we go.
kelly schenkoske
Be when I when I first started this journey, I was starting to see serious concerns with the public school system our children were in that I had grown up in.
And after that, I was also seeing more homeschooling families flourishing and doing really, really well.
Our kids were noticing that, and I was noticing these homeschool groups were getting to go on more field trips, be exposed to more experiences, and our kids were actually asking me to homeschool, and I was the resistant one in the family.
unidentified
Interesting.
kelly schenkoske
Because my perspective before was a very narrow perspective of what homeschooling was, and I've learned, you know, it's, there's, I think, There's a great way to do homeschooling.
And I think the perspective out there in society is one, and it's narrow.
And so for our experience, you know, we started homeschooling the fall of 2019, then COVID came.
And so that impacted a lot of You know not just public school but homeschoolers we were socializing so much before that and I think afterwards we watched some people move out of state a lot of people actually and then we eventually what I did is I started a community group with a friend and we worked to build this group of kind of a non co-op co-op and So that we would have all those additional social experiences added in.
So we've planned all kinds of field trips and activities and working on lectures with various leaders talking to the kids.
And so anyways, I think like anything, it's an investment.
It's what you make of it.
And that goes for whether, you know, any type of education with our kids.
tim pool
Well, let's get into the meat and potatoes here.
With COVID, you ended up seeing this Zoom schooling.
Which resulted in many circumstances where parents started hearing what teachers were telling their kids, which sparked a lot of controversy.
Absolutely.
In some circumstances, you actually had teachers saying, we can't let parents find out what we're telling their kids.
unidentified
Please don't tell them we said that.
Well, you don't have to say we, I mean... Well, as a teacher, I'd like to say that, but oh, I'd like to think we're better than that, but oh, gosh.
tim pool
There were a few circumstances, and this had a lot to do with critical race theory and gender theory, gender ideology and gender theory.
This was a component in what we saw happen in Loudoun County, which I think you guys are familiar.
That's actually just across the street.
We heard, yeah.
You get in the car, you drive for 30 seconds, you're in Loudoun County.
You drive to the school, that's like 20 minutes.
But this resulted in parents getting really, really angry.
Now, the Loudoun County situation was actually an assault, which sparked a huge bit of controversy.
The parents saying, what's going on in our schools?
What are our kids being taught?
And then you end up with these teachers showing up to these school board meetings saying, what is this book that is Teaching kids to separate based on race, or to adopt these racial ideologies, or gender-based ideologies, and they got labeled terrorists by the FBI.
So this is what was a large catalyst for what we saw in Florida with the Parental Rights and Education Bill, as it was formerly named, and what we see now with the major push for pod learning and homeschooling.
That there is something going on in these schools that is presenting children with inappropriate material or outright indoctrination into non-traditional ideologies.
I'll be very light with it.
Now, the position I typically take, you know, a lot of people say, no indoctrination in schools.
And I say, no, no, no, we want indoctrination in schools.
We just want American indoctrination.
We want the Constitution.
We want traditional values.
Not overtly, I'm saying, more like innocent until proven guilty, free speech, these things.
And now we have this clash of two different moral frameworks, two different worldviews, where you end up with books like, we have a couple books in front of us, This Book is Gay, as well as Genderqueer, and these find their ways into middle schools.
Recently, there was a teacher who was giving This Book is Gay to 10 and 12 year olds, which resulted in the police being called.
So, I'll kick it off there, and I don't know if one of you wants to start with your views on what's happening with these books being brought in these schools, and the ideologies being presented to children.
desmond fambrini
I'll start out.
So first of all, I have one question for you to maybe like address after, right?
Which is the idea of do you ever get worried about a lack of diversity for your students and like in a kind of pod, right?
The idea of you have a pod, you're doing the field trips.
That's amazing.
You have a parent group.
But if you get into Monterey or if you get into, for example, Moran County, I was the only black kid in my friggin entire middle school, right?
Do you get Is there a kind of drawback to not having people that look, sound, and act different, right?
And how do you weigh that, right?
And then we got this book.
I don't even know if I can grab it past the microphone.
unidentified
Let's see.
desmond fambrini
Oh, there we go.
Right?
This one.
Okay.
I have read this book.
I like this book.
It was actually sent to me.
I didn't buy it, which is actually very interesting because here's this whole indoctrination, that idea of like, oh, you know, like LGBT, we're going to come for the kids and we're going to make them gay.
I never bought this.
A company, which I can't say which company, saw my TikToks and are like, we love what you're doing.
We want to send you some books that your students would love.
And they sent me this one.
And I read this.
My students, most of them, cannot read this yet.
They cannot.
Absolutely not.
I think the book is great.
I think it's absolutely spectacular that we get a queer perspective that we usually don't get, especially in kind of the mandated sex education, what do we call it, life skills now.
But there is some graphic content in here that I could not, as a teacher, give to a student.
tim pool
How old are your students?
desmond fambrini
Real talk, actually, my students go from kindergarten all the way to twelfth because I have my master's in education, special education focused, so I can actually teach kind of anywhere on that spectrum.
Most of them kind of fall into late middle school or middle school.
And I can't give this.
Side note, I'm not saying not any middle schooler could ever see this, but I'm saying it would be out of the scope of my educational job.
To hand this to a student without consulting parents and kind of taking into consideration individuality and where the student is.
Now, do I think that a police officer needs to be called?
Is the teacher committing malpractice?
Not for me to decide.
I'm not the judicial branch of government, right?
I'm saying I wouldn't partake in it.
But I would love to hear your thoughts and how maybe one of your students may never actually run into a book like this ever and if you're okay with that.
kelly schenkoske
I would say, so just background, 2015 is when the California Healthy Youth Act was proposed in California.
That was to basically bring in comprehensive sexuality education to the state.
It would be required once in middle school, once in high school, with each district being able to add on grades K through 12 to their decision.
And so for me, I started learning about this actually December 2018.
This had already been implemented.
tim pool
Books like this?
kelly schenkoske
Well, Comprehensive Sexuality Education itself has a framework to this, but then in addition to that, there's supplemental curricula that they were using first.
To abide by in 2018 the California Healthy Youth Act law, which it became law in 2016.
And the content does in a way relate to the literature.
Just because of the fact that it brought in an update to the health framework in California.
And so through the health framework, there was a variety of books being introduced to align with CSE.
And some of those books are what I started looking into.
And I'm going through and parents are sharing things on social media.
And I had never seen some of these books.
So looking through them, Then I had to go for myself to the library to see these books for myself, read through the health framework.
But one of the most, I would say, explicit books that I saw was called SEX, The All-You-Need-To-Know Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by Heather Carina.
And so I remember a parent posting about this and thinking, this can't be real.
Because it was recommended originally in the Health Framework draft as a school-wide read for grades 9 through 12.
Now the Health Framework, it's important, that is not required, but teachers can, you know, use that material to their discretion, usually with accordance to their curriculum director at school.
So in any rate, that book started discussing topics like blood play or fisting or deeper manual sex and these various topics.
And then it said, what is it?
And then how do I do it?
And there was a long description.
Sometimes it referenced the slang terms of the sex act.
And then at the very bottom, there was a small section that said the risks, but it was so small.
tim pool
And This is in grade school?
kelly schenkoske
This was originally recommended as a school-wide read for grades 9 through 12.
desmond fambrini
So high school.
kelly schenkoske
And they did take it out of the health framework.
And as I was learning, I initially thought, okay, this is not going to be allowed in schools because they took it out of the health framework.
But it has been used in some schools.
And the thing for me was that book, I mean, there was stuff in there I hadn't heard of.
I'm not kidding.
I just feel like there's such a window of time of childhood where
tim pool
I mean I just didn't some of these these books and the graphic visuals I just well I personally don't think it's my view on all this I pulled it up SEX second education it says on Amazon reading age 12 years and up grade level 7 and up and the first component to this is whether or not parents have the right to decide what their children are being exposed to and when and there's been an interesting amount of pushback from traditional liberals and more left ideological individuals saying
No, they're our children, and we're the experts, so we decide.
And one of the principal components of the Parental Rights and Education Bill in Florida was specifically that parents must be informed about what's going on with their kid, what their children are learning, and then the political debate turned into, don't say gay, despite the fact the bill bars people from talking about straight and heterosexual couples as well.
desmond fambrini
Fascinating.
So sorry to interrupt by the way, but it's fascinating though.
So let's like, we might as well really dive into it though.
Then why, why is like LGBTQIA simply the target of like the accusations of indoctrination?
That's what I want to know, right?
Because real talk, if you're like an OG queer, right?
No one wants, we're not trying to make kids gay.
We don't need more kids to be trans.
One thing that I always try to do is I try to reframe.
Right, like reframe weans that idea of looking at somebody else's perspective, right?
So I look at the other side's perspective.
Parent, worried, explicit sexual content.
You may be wanting to alter my child's sexuality.
You may be trying to make them kind of go through, you know, a kind of hormone replacement therapy that may not be safe or not entirely proven.
I'm worried about it.
Therefore, I'm going to pull my kid.
I see.
I see that perspective.
I don't necessarily agree with it, but I see it.
I want to know what the opposing perspective is.
Like, what would LGBTQIA, the trans community, gay individuals, what do we get out of getting kids To be gay, or this material.
I don't know, like, I get the accusation.
I get LGBTQIA, we're indoctrinating, you know, Desmond, you wear makeup in front of kids and you're gonna try to, like, make them all wear makeup.
Why?
Like, why would that benefit me in any way, shape or form?
Like, that's why I don't understand that accusation.
So I think, and I would love to hear your perspective and your perspective on like, what, like, I get it.
I get it.
I don't, again, not saying it's a bad book, right?
But I'm just as protective.
That was an overreach.
I am extremely protective of kids almost as much as the parents, right?
kelly schenkoske
Well, and I think to that, for my part, it never was about LGBTQ.
It was just about the explicit content because And I actually think that a lot of people, whatever their belief is, I think they do agree that there's pornographic content.
Kids shouldn't be exposed to that.
desmond fambrini
But why is it?
tim pool
For me, not about LGBT at all.
However, it's these books, typically, that are wading into overt graphic content.
They're being given to grade schoolers, and these teachers are saying, don't tell the parents.
They're saying, we should resist these bills that give parents access to knowledge about the curriculum.
And then when Ron DeSantis does a press conference where he shows sexually graphic content, They say he's banning books.
And then what they do is they put on these shows where they'll have catcher in the rye and act like that's what's being banned.
And, no.
The issue I see with, for instance, This Book is Gay, that is not sex education.
Genderqueer is not sex education.
This is kink education.
Children, I think it's fair to say to a parent, hey, your kids are entering this age and we'd like to discuss the birds and the bees.
General reproduction and, you know, how this stuff happens.
When I was in fifth grade at a Catholic school, they gave us permission forms.
We went to our parents.
Our parents said yes or no.
Some kids were pulled out.
Most of us, there was male sex ed.
Then the boys would go to the computer room.
The girls would come in and do female sex ed.
The funny thing with that was the boys got like two hours of game time and the girls got like 20 minutes.
But what we're seeing with these books is this book is gay describes SCAT.
It teaches how to use Grindr.
And this is being provided to middle schoolers.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
And then what happens is when this teacher comes out and she gives it to her middle schoolers, the parents call the police.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
Because you cannot... It's illegal to give children... You can't distribute pornographic... Yeah, absolutely.
desmond fambrini
That's not gender-free speech.
tim pool
We have the Supreme Court case that... What happens then is NBC News shows a picture of her holding a different book, which is about more ideological issues, and then says that she was trying to support gay rights, when the reality was parents were concerned that she was teaching 10-year-olds how to use a grinder.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
There's no reason for that.
kelly schenkoske
I think personally that, I mean, with this, we've seen a shift from sex ed to comprehensive sexuality education.
So for me, it took me time to understand, well, what is CSE?
Comprehensive Sexuality Education.
Where did it come from?
What's the belief system behind it?
What's driving these ideas?
And for me, being able to see where it was implemented in other countries prior to the US, being able to look into the original framework was helpful.
To understand where it's coming from, because, for example, in the document it references sexual citizenship, which was new to me, and pleasure was a focus.
And the goal is to teach this to grades K through 12.
Even some of the groups aligned for the National Sexuality Education Standards did a presentation where they were talking about This this concept of you know sexuality education, and they really want to reach kids in the early elementary grades Um, and so I think it's, it's an important analysis that we pause.
And for me, it was, how do I learn everything I can about this, which I'm still continuing to research and figure it out.
But those frameworks, particularly whether it's from, you know, Planned Parenthood or the World Health Organization with their definitions of terms, The idea that it has gone from more of a biological safety prevention, it's different from what I had in California, and then into a completely separate thing.
For me, schools don't exist to teach sexual technique.
tim pool
I agree.
And glory hole in this book, in its glossary of terms, it refers to Grindr as a social network app for gay and bi men.
And so, you know, the interesting thing is, There seems to be, uh, dildo, a tribal left or right division where you end up with people seeing this book and saying, yo, that should not be given to 10 year olds and 12 year olds.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
The parents called the police on this woman.
desmond fambrini
Absolutely.
tim pool
Then we have a guest come on this show, a prominent left personality who says the book is good and should not be banned.
I believe the only reason they're saying it is because they want to appear to be on the left publicly.
desmond fambrini
Which is tricky, right?
Because then you also have the other side of the situation, right?
Where that idea of if I ask, like, pronouns, or it's like, oh, like, what are your pronouns?
You're then automatically associated with supporting, like, giving this to a seven-year-old, which is not necessarily the case, right?
So it's that idea of, like you said, there's tribalism.
But that, to me, is an issue.
And I feel like there's also this kind of false comparison that's happening, because we see an uptick of LGBTQIA awareness.
And we also see an uptick of literature like this, right?
So it's like, oh gosh, are we equating the two?
When really, it's just we need to kind of redraw the boundaries on what is kind of permitted for teachers to teach, what is not permitted, what our job is, where it falls outside of the bounds.
Because I see it and I understand the concern, right?
I mean, don't get it twisted.
Like, I watched the show.
I saw, like, there was, like, the graph.
Oh, like, left-handedness.
It was a really interesting point, right?
Now, with that said, is it entirely Would I make entirely the same argument?
Probably not, right?
Because it's trending a little bit.
Yeah, I said it, right?
tim pool
People pointed out that the left-handedness argument omits the previous centuries, where left-handedness is very high.
There's a dip and then a recovery.
So if you just take one metric that shows it going up, you can change the context.
desmond fambrini
Well, I'll give you a completely different argument, which you may have not heard, which actually gets everyone to hate me.
And being someone who's somewhat... People call me centralist, and I don't know if that's actually a thing.
If I am, I just try to think of each thing individually.
But Here's kind of how I see it, is that there is kind of an inherent LGBTQIA population.
That population will never go away, no matter what, in my opinion.
And yeah, I do think that kind of you look at the research, the gender studies research, that scientifically we could delineate things like, yeah, there may be a little bit more of a bisexual population than people care to admit.
Possibly.
Possibly.
Right?
Kinsey scale.
People may be a little bit more bi than we think.
Now people are coming out, and then more people are coming out because they're more comfortable, and then it trended a little bit.
And yeah, it trended a little bit.
Now, for hundreds, if not thousands of years, straight was trending, and people were lying about being straight for a very long time.
Is it that bad that in the past two decades, a couple people may not be lying, but experimenting with different titles, different sexualities, even before they understand it?
kind of like playing the how big is your problem game with my kids.
I don't know if it's a huge issue that some kid is like, oh, I'm, you know, genderqueer at the age of like 11.
It's like, do you even know what that means?
And if you do, great.
And if not, okay.
But you're not hurting anyone.
You're not hurting yourself.
Like what would you, what do you think? - I would, go ahead.
tim pool
- No, go ahead. - I was gonna say they are hurting themselves. - Yeah, tell them out. - So one of the bigger issues with pronouns and stuff and all those things is for one, there's no logical consistency to teach.
You end up with these viral videos of this young woman on TikTok with, you know, hundreds of thousands of views saying frog and frog self.
And it seems to just be... And the people on the left will argue that, well, it's people exploring their self-expression, and it's just like, well, there's no logic.
There's a flag for everything.
All you're basically telling kids is nothing.
You're telling them chaos, static noise.
No definitive understanding of what's going on.
Perhaps an adult could understand enough about reality to explore various ideas around how do you categorize.
But to go to a child and say an infinite number of categories, every day they're learning something that was just made up yesterday, they're gonna have no framework for what's going on.
Well, sorry, just to address the harming themselves, with the laws being passed in California, Washington, and a bunch of these other states that protect third parties who would bring a child for gender reassignment or medical intervention, we're now entering the territory where a 10-year-old kid who has no understanding of what's going on is told by an adult, and this has happened to personal friends of mine twice, and that seems like a heck of a lot for me,
Two people that I know had their daughters come home with the teachers telling them that they were trans or lesbian, and they were not.
They were ten.
And when the parents explained to them, okay, let me ask you, you think you're this, Do you know what this means?
And the kids go, what?
No, no, no!
Now what happens if you're in California and the parents are more susceptible to whatever you say, honey?
Next thing you know, these kids who have no idea what Lupron is or what it means to get puberty blockers is on a fast track for this, which has resulted in 50,000 people on Reddit joining the D-trans community and an endless slew of posts of people threatening suicide.
What I see in the data, and so if you look at the desistance rates, What is it?
The number, I believe, is like 68 to 95% of children who identify as transgender will desist.
That doesn't mean detransition.
It means that if left to go through their natural puberty, they end up identifying with their biological sex.
Typically, they end up being either autistic or gay.
What happens now is they will just affirm whatever it is the kid is saying, despite the fact the majority of these kids would self-identify if they're allowed to go through puberty.
My concern here is, you bring in young kids who don't understand what they're hearing, you layer on books and ideas and things that are more confusing to a child than anything, you layer on the social factor of Instagram likes, views, etc., and you end up with all of these stories of these prominent, now famous, detransitioners saying, I didn't understand.
More horrifyingly, you end up with these stories on D-Trans Reddit, where we read one last night where a 17-year-old was threatening suicide because she felt manipulated into getting a double mastectomy, testosterone, and it ruined her life, and now she feels like she can't lead a normal life.
You have these laws being passed that would protect a third party.
A third party can take someone's child to the state, Dramatically alter their life, cause irreversible changes and or harm, and be legally protected, because these kids are not equipped to understand what they're signing up for.
My last point on this is, if desistance rates truly are between 60 and 95%, and suicide rates are around 40 to 50%, The smartest and most logical thing we can do, considering the majority of these kids will identify with their biological sex, not be trans, and thus experience lower rates of suicide, is not to intervene at all in any medical way for a child who is experiencing gender dysphoria until after puberty.
If we're looking at it from a simple probabilistic standpoint, let's just say it's the lowest number, 60%.
You have a greater than chance probability your child will just self-identify with their biological sex and thus not experience a 50-50 suicide rate.
It seems like the math is fairly obvious.
You transition your kid, you are boosting their suicide rate to 47%.
kelly schenkoske
Well, and I was going to say, I mean, for my part, I mean, I have two friends who they had CPS called on them.
If you didn't seem like you were immediately celebrating, affirming, yeah, CPS was called on them.
And then this is what I'm noticing just overall, is that the California legislature and other places, in my opinion, are chipping away at parental responsibilities.
Traditional parental responsibilities, and this area is one.
But I mean, in the midst of this, we do have a growing number, little by little here, of young people who are detransitioning.
But the thing I'm concerned about is that there is this messaging of celebrate, celebrate, celebrate towards those who are making these decisions.
But the detransitioners are often Humiliated, silenced, and shamed.
And to me, that is indicative of part, and I don't think everybody believes that.
I think there's a lot of people that don't, but I think the way in which I have seen detransitioners treated, it's It's so sad.
desmond fambrini
I don't actually agree with this.
However, I do 100% understand where you're coming from, and I see that logic, and I understand your mathematical model, and statistically, I understand your point of view, and I get that.
However, I'm going to make a comparison, and again, because I just love getting people to hate me.
That's just my job, right?
Do you remember kind of like pre 2020 where like the classic news was black individuals are targeted by the police and it never makes it on the news?
And that was the news story.
Like, the news story itself was black people are never on the news.
That, to me, is the same situation, where it's like, the current news story is detransitioners are never on the news, which inherently puts them on the news, right?
unidentified
Like, you know what I mean?
desmond fambrini
Like, I understand your perspective, but I've heard it so many times by the same groups of people.
Like, well, we never pay attention to detransitioners because that amount is, like, infinitesimally small.
And actually, we do hear about it.
unidentified
All the freaking time.
desmond fambrini
It's always in the context of, oh, we never hear about detransitioners.
unidentified
Yes, we do.
It's literally on every YouTube channel and podcast.
desmond fambrini
I hear it consistently.
And then that other side note, though, of that idea of like, well, it's always like celebrate, celebrate, celebrate.
Just an idea.
Just an idea.
That idea of, yes, parents, you guys, you know, you know your kids and you know them extremely well, right?
However, however, if you don't celebrate a kid's exploration into different topics, they sometimes start pushing back without even knowing what they're pushing back against.
And that's actually what I'm more worried about.
That idea of, and of course I can't speak on specific clients, right?
But I can say I've had multiple instances where a parent has come to me and being like, oh, well, she wants to be called he now, right?
What do I do?
And I gotta say, I say the exact opposite thing of kind of what you're going for as I say, like, go with it.
Because when you start pushing against it, they start pushing back on the parent without even knowing what they're pushing back on.
And I've had plenty of students, plenty of students, and this is nothing Nothing against the trans community, because I'm such, like, obviously, right?
But I've had plenty of students who, yeah, they are genderqueer and whatever, and their pronouns say whatever, and I've also had plenty of students where they said, oh yeah, I'm definitely trans, and we were like, oh cool, okay, they, them, he, him, she, her, whatever, and you went with it for a couple months, and then they realized after just leaving it, just going with it, they're like, actually, that wasn't, that's not a thing.
tim pool
This is why parents don't want it in schools.
desmond fambrini
But, but, like, OK, OK.
But again, like, how big is the problem?
It's just I don't see it as a fundamental issue.
Right.
I see, of course, any teacher going outside of their realm of expertise as an issue.
Right.
I am a learning specialist with a master's of science in education with a focus in language processing disorders.
I'm not an endocrinologist.
unidentified
I can't say you should take this hormone.
desmond fambrini
That's out of my that's out of my scope.
I can't say that.
That's not allowed, or it shouldn't be, right?
But also that idea of like, is it really that bad if like, oh, okay, you go by she, they, and then I call my student they and everyone on TikTok.
unidentified
I can't believe you called students they-them, you're indoctrinating.
No, like, they literally asked me to call them they-them.
desmond fambrini
Like, it's just, I don't know if this indoctrination thing is real.
I do understand the statistical analysis that you gave, though.
I'd love to hear more about that.
tim pool
Well, I'd say it is.
desmond fambrini
Okay.
tim pool
With books like Genderqueer and This Book is Gay being in schools, and there's a substantially, it's more than just these two books we have in front of us.
And then of course critical race theory was the big debate a couple years ago, because it seems like critical theory in general was being brought into schools in a variety of ways.
So, it is indoctrination.
My response to most people is like, we want indoctrination.
We just don't want that indoctrination.
We want to teach the positive values of our moral frameworks, innocent until proven guilty, etc.
Those are big components of the rights of the individual, meritocracy, and now we have children being taught an inversion of this, and we have in many circumstances the severing of the The family unit, in terms of, don't tell your parents.
The response from liberals is, they're trying to force schools to out the children to their parents.
Well, it's not your, you have no right.
If a child is experiencing anything, be it bulimia or some kind of gender confusion, it is not the state's obligation nor right to intervene in that regard.
But that is what's happening.
kelly schenkoske
Well, and I want to say something to that because for a couple things with regards to schools, I mean, we had a situation where a volunteer at a school had threatened our oldest when he was young.
And I noticed some change in him after school.
And I was never told about this.
So I actually approached the school staff and then that's when I learned of the situation.
There was another situation with our youngest in school where there were threats from other students.
And so I actually, one of the times I went to the school board meeting is our youngest had had multiple threats from a student, really descriptive graphic threats.
And what happened was I had been getting those notices about, you know, your child's been exposed to lice, your child's been exposed to strep throat.
But I was never notified when our littlest had these very scary experiences at school.
tim pool
Liability issues.
kelly schenkoske
Yeah, it's very concerning.
desmond fambrini
But nonetheless, a false, but a false, they're not, they're not the same thing, right?
Like that idea of like, this is what I'm constantly trying to get on, which is that idea of like, they're not the same thing.
Like your child being threatened, you need to tell the parent.
Your child is injured.
You need to fill out an accident report.
That actually is usually mandated.
But it's like different if it's like, oh, so-and-so said they want to go by they them.
Would I tell the parent?
A thousand percent, right?
But is it like, like, is it mandated?
Like, is it?
Hear me out.
OK, and this is like very tricky.
If a student ever comes to me and they're like, I go by they them, but my mom doesn't know or my dad doesn't know.
My first thought is there's something that needs to be repaired within family communication.
It's not I got to hide this kid's gender identity from the parent.
It's the idea of we need to create some type of environment where this conversation needs to happen.
Because if I immediately, and I'm not saying this is even the case, right?
But if a teacher immediately, like you said, like outs a kid, right?
That could create a problematic situation.
In fact, it could be creating a situation where it's indoctrination to be Straight and cisgendered, right?
Which is actually much more indoctrinating.
It's usually that way, right?
Like, on average, most Disney movies, despite like new recent developments, most Disney movies kind of perpetuate that kind of what we consider the fancy word is like heteronormative, right?
Heteronormative cisgendered ideologies.
And we need to kind of perpetuate that as the norm.
I love that idea of like, you know, we want to indoctrinate innocent until proven guilty.
But does that translate to straight until proven gay?
Like those are two very different things, in my opinion.
tim pool
Well, don't do any of it.
kelly schenkoske
Yeah.
And I know.
Yeah.
Sorry.
I was going to say, I think for my part, it is a fair comparison only in the sense of parents are being notified less and less of all kinds of things.
And and I think, too, I just want to the point earlier with regards to, you know, the stories in the news, it's not so much the news stories.
It's the organizations that Promote certain things.
I don't see any of those organizations supporting detransitioners.
And I think that to me starts to make me question what's going on?
What?
Why?
Why is it they they only celebrate but those who experience regret?
I feel like they're oftentimes alone.
And I feel like everyone should be able to get behind those people, because I think they need love and support.
I have no issue.
I think we agree on that.
Well, yeah, go ahead.
tim pool
So I can give us, we have an example here from the Daily Mail.
This is from February.
New York teacher manipulated fifth grade student into changing gender without parents' consent, which drove her to consider suicide lawsuit claims.
The response you typically get from people on the left is, it's an anecdote, it's one story, to which my response is, then why not just when Ben Shapiro comes out and says this is bad, you go, you are so right, Ben Shapiro, I'm so sorry this happened.
Instead, the response you get is dismissal, saying, no, you're wrong, no, this doesn't matter, which then, you basically have overt support from the political left in this country of things like this when they dismiss or defend it.
desmond fambrini
Okay, okay.
Two questions, and I'm not even saying that I'm right on this.
unidentified
I want to know if the teacher was gay.
No.
They weren't!
The New York teacher that supported them wasn't gay, right?
tim pool
The teacher was, according to the lawsuit and photographs... Yes, they're not gay, I bet.
...reading LGBT books to children and encouraging them to try being gay even if they were not.
unidentified
Okay, is the teacher gay?
tim pool
I don't believe the teacher is gay.
unidentified
I don't think so either, because no one actually gay would ever say that!
tim pool
Well, to be fair, we don't know.
unidentified
We don't, actually, and that was a complete kind of... She does have blue hair!
I know, right?
And I'm so sick of, like, oh my god, if you have colored hair, you're gay.
desmond fambrini
I'm so sick of that, right?
But, like, that idea of, like, I don't think actually LGBTQ is trying to indoctrinate anyone.
I know that word gets tossed around, but, like, we're not coming for your kids.
Like, drag queens aren't coming for your kids.
Drag queens aren't trying to make your kids trans.
unidentified
Drag queens and trans people aren't even in the same freaking category.
desmond fambrini
One's a performance and the other is a gender identity.
tim pool
You are correct, but now you're seeing the blur and the blend where we actually had a debate between two drag queens and one of the drag queens says that they are trans.
desmond fambrini
Which is so interesting to me.
tim pool
There's no rules.
desmond fambrini
There's no rules, right?
unidentified
But hear me out.
desmond fambrini
There is some logic that we can stick to, right?
There's some logic that we could stick to, logic that I have been cancelled for before and I will be cancelled again, right?
Uh, blue?
Blue self.
unidentified
Alligator.
desmond fambrini
Alligator self.
I will call you whatever the hell you want.
I don't care.
Right?
tim pool
Pronouns replace- What if a white kid says they want to be called black?
desmond fambrini
Okay, great question.
Fantastic question.
I'll address the first point and then we'll get to that point.
And I love that question.
That idea of, I will call you whatever the heck you want.
But a pronoun replaces a noun.
Right?
Cat cat self is not a pronoun.
It doesn't replace a noun.
It is a noun.
Right?
So that's not a pronoun.
Your pronouns are not cat, cat self.
You may want to be called cat, cat self.
unidentified
And that's fine with me.
desmond fambrini
I'll call you whatever the heck you want, but that's not a pronoun.
So that's where I draw the line as an educator, right?
Pronouns are he, him, they, them, it, it.
It's like all of that stuff, right?
And those should be valued, but I don't think we should also be like, well, I'm not going to call you cat.
It's like, oh, what if they want to be called cat?
Now to the idea of like race, right?
Such a good question.
I would love to hear your thoughts on this, right?
Now, here is where I differentiate the two.
Being a gender studies major, right, which people have different ideas of, one of my biggest fascinations, both having my master's of science and bachelor's in gender studies is where is the line between a biological difference and a social difference between men and women?
on a biological level, right?
Where is the line, right?
unidentified
Where do we go, boys will be boys?
desmond fambrini
And where do we go, oh, that actually is just societally okay and it has nothing to do with biology.
So here's the thing.
There are biological differences between men and women, right?
I was featured in like, what is a woman?
unidentified
And I was like called out in that movie and I never even got cut to point.
desmond fambrini
But, like, someone could ask me, like, what is a woman?
It depends on the context you're asking me.
Are you asking me in a scientific context?
XX chromosome.
Are you asking me in a social context?
Self-identifying.
Like saying, um, what is an athlete?
Self-identifying.
But, here's where it gets tricky.
We know that there are biological differences between men and women.
For example, Women, oxytocin, better at communicating, better kind of at empathy.
We have the chemicals to prove it.
I have always identified with that ability, right?
With that ability.
I think it comes naturally to me.
Hence the title non-binary, right?
I identify with a biological trait that is usually kind of seen in women.
Therefore, I call myself non-binary to help some people make that connection.
Now, if you say, well, a white kid wants to be called black, what exactly are you identifying with that is black?
Because by definition, If you think that black people act a certain way or do things in a certain way, that's racism.
There's nothing different between white and black other than skin tone.
There are biological differences between men and women.
There are not biological differences between white and black other than melanin, right?
That's why if a white kid said, I want to be black, I'd be like, what's your black experience that you're experiencing?
unidentified
Yes, tell.
tim pool
Well, I'll push back a little bit.
desmond fambrini
Okay, I want to hear this.
tim pool
There are obvious biological differences between white and black beyond just melanin.
desmond fambrini
Okay, we've got some muscle differences, height differences.
I got you.
That's fair.
tim pool
Well, yeah, and I don't think the color of the skin or the race matters that much, but obviously sickle cell affects the black population more so.
desmond fambrini
Absolutely.
tim pool
But then the issue, we've talked about this quite a bit, one of the arguments being made by gender ideologues is that we used to have racial segregation in this country.
And what was the argument for having black bathrooms and white bathrooms?
There was a bit of a just moralistic I went a non-scientific view of what was supposed to be.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
But then there were also arguments presented by people who are trying to justify why we had racial segregation saying things like the danger, you know, black people are different in this way and that there's risks.
But the reality is you get a black man from Somalia and a black man from Haiti and they're very, very, very different.
And then the only discernible characteristic is the color of their skin, which doesn't seem to actually help identify anything.
desmond fambrini
Thank you.
Exactly, right?
Like my black experience being kind of 51% Italian, but still identifying as black is very different than somebody else's black experience.
So a thousand percent.
I have nothing to push back against when it comes to that because... Gender segregation.
Yeah.
tim pool
Everywhere you go in the world, you find almost the exact same biological differences between men and women.
desmond fambrini
Okay, right.
Which is why, inherently, if you find biological differences between men and women, but on the circumstances where you have somebody that is assigned male at birth that identifies more with female traits, or a female assigned at birth individual that kind of identifies more with male traits, we have a biological category, not utter chaos, that we can kind of make a distinction from.
Oh, you are biologically this, but tend to have these characteristics, therefore trans, therefore non-binary.
We don't have that with the black population.
tim pool
But when it comes to gender stuff, why then surgery?
If gender is social, why do you need to medically or surgically affirm it?
desmond fambrini
Do you want to take that one?
Because that is such a good question.
kelly schenkoske
Well, yeah, and I was gonna ask, actually, with regards to, like, sports and stuff.
If there's this known biological difference, which I believe there is, you know, having sports competitions be changed or, you know, the prison system and all of these different things.
desmond fambrini
Well that's like but again oh gosh where do I even want to go with that but like that idea of like the trans athlete in sport I gotta say like I'm so like sick of that one right because it's like such a niche issue that like no one should really care about and yet everyone cares about it so much.
tim pool
People's careers are being damaged.
desmond fambrini
That's valid that's valid but it's such like a specific It's so specific to the point where it's like, oh, it's so constantly being blown out of proportion when I feel like there are larger issues.
But that idea of like, why surgery?
Right.
And it's very interesting to kind of look at the different kind of LGBTQIA perspectives, that idea of to be trans, you don't need affirming surgery.
But that same idea of it should be accessible and it should be.
But what are the processes that we need to go through to make sure gender affirming care is beneficial?
What guardrails do we need to put in play?
I don't think banning it outright is a good situation.
I don't think declaring, oh, and again, this kind of goes into kind of reverse of your opinion, that idea of like, wait for them to go through puberty entirely.
That could be really, really kind of mentally draining for somebody who's trans, right?
That needs to go through puberty.
Yeah, tell me.
tim pool
There's no argument against, I do not believe that there is any logical argument against what I said.
If desistance rates are studied found to be between 60 and 95%, then all you are doing by transitioning a minor is risking their suicide.
desmond fambrini
Okay, so hear me out.
Have you seen those studies?
They're a mess.
Those are the smallest sample sizes with the most isolated geographic locations that I have ever seen and studied.
Those are ridiculously biased.
I'm not saying you're wrong.
Because I can't prove otherwise, right?
tim pool
My only response is, the left and the right both point to each other's studies and say they're wrong.
desmond fambrini
Saying they're wrong, absolutely!
And a thousand percent I could say the left and the right, and I know it sounds crazy because of the way I look and the way I talk, but I don't even say if I'm on the left or right technically, because I'm a teacher and I don't think I should bring my political opinion into the classroom, and since I'm a media figure, I don't think I should disseminate that information.
But with that said, right, like that idea of like, okay, well, it's tricky.
Okay, personal example.
tim pool
But if the only data we have shows desistance rates to be this high, there is no medical or scientific argument for transitioning minors.
desmond fambrini
Okay, hear me out, hear me out.
Okay, here's a question, and I'll ask both of you this, right?
Because as you know, right outside of San Francisco, very progressive family, despite, of course, having the social pressures of society.
I did not start dance until the fourth grade, because I thought dancing was for girls, and I didn't want to do something that was for girls.
I did every single sport.
I tried to be a boy so hard, right?
And I had two moms, and I got my nails pained, and I went to preschool.
You're not allowed to wear pink nails and I got them taken off, right?
I can't wear nail polish anymore, mom.
But here's the deal.
I did have progressive parents.
I did start growing facial hair when I was like 12, right?
And that did not work for me.
It did not work.
I don't identify as trans.
I identify as non-binary.
Facial hair, you look great by the way.
Facial hair did not work for me.
It did not work to the point where I could not shave.
Like, and I know that sounds weird, but that idea of not only was facial hair wrong, but needing to deal with facial hair was inherently problematic.
My mom had to shave for me.
Yes, I just said that on the live podcast.
tim pool
You said you had two moms?
desmond fambrini
I did.
They were separated, right?
And that's actually, and yeah, really good question that we can go into there, because then a lot of people are like, well, they indoctrinated you.
No, they didn't.
But like here's the deal that idea of Hear me out one actually had to shave for me because I was so against I was so against shaving and did I get laser hair removal on my face at the age of like 15 16 a thousand percent and did that make high school and college a lot easier for me a thousand percent and And that's a medical intervention that I did at a very young age, but it worked for me.
And actually, in a way, it supports both of our arguments.
tim pool
Well, I don't think removing hair is comparable to sterilization.
desmond fambrini
Well, absolutely, right?
But in a way, it's...
Part of it is, but at the same time, not to the extremity.
And I will respect that actual analysis that you just gave, right?
But that idea of like, but it's crazy, right?
It's crazy to me, like to kind of go back off that, like, oh, you had two moms, right?
That idea of like, oh, people think that I was somehow indoctrinated by LGBTQ, that I was indoctrinated by, you know, my moms, but I was indoctrinated by the Bay Area.
It's not the case.
If anything, if you talk to any queer or trans person other than the people that desist, you got to remember those people.
But A majority of us, we fought against feeling this way and acting this way for a very long time.
We didn't just go like, oh, you know what would be kind of fun?
unidentified
To wear pink eyeshadow every day.
That seems like a good idea.
tim pool
But that's a social choice.
desmond fambrini
That is a social choice, yeah.
tim pool
I mean, you don't have to wear makeup.
desmond fambrini
Right, but it's a social choice that I had the right to make, right?
And do we take that right away from kids?
If your son comes to you one day after, you know, getting one of these books, being like, Oh, mom, I want to try out eyeshadow.
I think it'd be kind of interesting to experiment with that.
unidentified
My guess is you'd get, would there be a little bit of pushback from you there?
desmond fambrini
And if so, why?
kelly schenkoske
I think, I mean, I think, I mean, for me, Could he wear the eyeshadow?
No, no.
I really think with regards to these topics, with regards to all of this, we have a situation where I do think there's a variety of conflicting worldviews, but I don't think that comparing, I mean, for my part, I don't think there's any comparison of facial hair removal to, I mean, I had only learned really probably maybe not even a year ago
That the medications that are referred to as puberty blockers are oftentimes prostate cancer drugs.
I didn't know that.
tim pool
Or used to chemically castrate sex offenders.
unidentified
Right.
kelly schenkoske
I didn't know that.
And not only that, but the surgeries.
So the surgeries like a double mastectomy or some of these various surgeries have serious, serious consequences.
And I think that, you know, obviously the drugs do as well.
These are things that are highly, highly Concerning in regards to all of the side effects and you know, I think medicine It really makes me wonder why why would they be doing it?
But also, you know just the overall health factor, you know, there was a whole movement that probably still exists where where people were saying that people shouldn't have the right to have their child their male child circumcised and And that was because, again, it was a medical intervention.
And now today, we're in this other place where, you know, a double mastectomy could be given to a 15-year-old or a young child.
desmond fambrini
How often does that happen, though, right?
And then to conflate, right?
And again, nothing against, because I actually am adoring this conversation, but to conflate the idea Let's do it.
there being this like assault on parental rights with that like couple mastectomies that have happened, right?
Like it just doesn't, let's take a look.
Like I would love to see 'cause I just, I think we're thinking there's like an assault on children that just isn't real, right?
Like, let's see, top surgeries, we got- - 250 quid. - These are pretty, that's it, I mean, come on.
unidentified
That's like, we're not even at 1,000, that's not a lot of people.
tim pool
But you understand the issue is when someone sees one photo of a teenage girl getting a double mastectomy, and we say, hey, maybe we shouldn't do that, the immediate response on the left is, oh, it doesn't matter at all.
desmond fambrini
Okay, so do you want me to go?
kelly schenkoske
I want to say something to that, because I think there's often this, and this was mentioned with the sports, it's just so small, it's just so small.
But often it is those things that are small that are just simply a beginning.
And I also think that for those, however many people, I can't just look at that and go, that's just small.
I value each and every one of them.
And I think it's worth I want another percentage of those 282 people that regret it.
you know, when somebody detransitions.
unidentified
I think those people need to be supported. - I want another percentage of those 282 people that regret it.
desmond fambrini
I will come, we will be back in 10 years to look at that same 282 people from 2022 or 2021 and see what percent kind of, right?
Now, hormone therapy, that's a whole other story, because there's a lot of medical interventions there.
But with the, like, double mastectomy idea.
unidentified
Thousands.
desmond fambrini
Like, thousands, right?
I'll go out and say it, which, of course, gets a whole bunch of people, like, totally pissed at me.
Should you wait for a double mastectomy until you're an adult, in my opinion?
Yeah, you should.
Yeah, I said it, and I'm gay.
Oh my god.
Right?
But, right, there are circumstances where it seemed to have a positive outlook.
I don't think hormone blockers are as terrible as people make it out to be.
I think that we need to leave it to the endocrinologist.
I just, I don't think we should be kind of swerving our lane.
The doctors have come out and said that it is a positive intervention.
I wouldn't be supporting it if doctors have not been like consistently we have seen positive results.
tim pool
I just want to get a little communist here and say I don't trust the massive multinational corporate medicine industry in the United States at all.
desmond fambrini
That's fair.
tim pool
So doctors who come out and say, yes, the insurance companies are paying us insert treatment.
I'm like, I don't trust these people.
kelly schenkoske
Well, and I want to say too, I mean, there's been real issues in the US of medical malpractice.
Every job field has corruption.
Every job field has compromise.
And I think too, it can be easy for people.
unidentified
We're not not getting into different politics, but it can be easy for people to follow either what they're told to do or what their money coming in is telling them they have to do. - But medical malpractice against minority populations that are at risk for being discriminated against, not in favor of, but it can be easy for people to follow either what Right?
desmond fambrini
That idea of if you look at the medical malpractices that have been perpetuated by big pharma and multiple situations, they're always against minority populations.
It's always against the black communities or the queer communities.
tim pool
Which is what we're arguing.
desmond fambrini
No!
unidentified
For this one, we're arguing- Targeting these people.
desmond fambrini
Okay, so, and that is, I think, the thing that we're missing that, like, I think is, like, the most nuanced thing about this conversation, is in the end, even though there's, like, opposing views, we actually- everyone in this room cares about those 4,231 people.
Right?
We just care about them in different ways and we think that, um, we think that we know what's best for them.
And that's tricky, right?
Because who really knows best for those 282 double mastectomy kind of individuals?
Who really knows best for those 4,200 can't-see-that-last-number?
tim pool
Well, look, they're a child suffering from anorexia.
We don't affirm.
desmond fambrini
- Right, right, okay.
unidentified
Why?
desmond fambrini
Because it's actually damaging in the long run. - Mastectomies are damaging in the long run. - And like you said, and then I could see how you kind of trace that, right?
'Cause you go, we intervene because of anorexia, and then we trace that.
You intervene because being trans leads to a higher suicide rate, so we need to intervene to stop it from happening.
But in my opinion, you don't stop a trans individual from being trans.
They're just trans.
Like, you can't just stop someone from being trans.
They're gonna be trans no matter what.
tim pool
All I can say is, when you look up the studies that we have, dissidence rates are greater than the majority.
desmond fambrini
Okay.
tim pool
And so there's, I just, you can make the argument that you don't trust the studies, and absolutely, that's fine.
There's a lot of studies people don't trust.
desmond fambrini
Well, no, because that's somewhat of a shallow argument, being like, well, your studies aren't right.
tim pool
No, but how is there any response to if we went with the higher number of 95% you are effectively condemning children to high rates of suicide by affirming something they don't understand if they have a 90 plus percent chance of just identifying with their biological sex by age 14 or 15?
Well, again, I'm chatty so I want to know your opinion, but then I know I'll add to it too if the response is Oh, it's only a few thousand people who are going home with therapy.
It's only a couple hundred girls per year who are getting double mastectomies.
You also have these D-Trans stories.
50,000 members on the D-Trans Reddit.
And the posts are saddening and horrifying.
The post we read last night was from a 17-year-old who said that her mother didn't protect her.
desmond fambrini
Okay, question, 17-year-old trans guy or?
tim pool
Female, who got a double mastectomy.
desmond fambrini
Sorry, so trans, was a trans guy.
tim pool
Identifies as female.
desmond fambrini
Identifies as female now.
unidentified
Right.
desmond fambrini
So hear me out, and this is a question that I actually want to post to you guys, right?
And, like, really consider it.
I feel like your concerns are valid and I think that they come from good places and I think that basically what I've read about this and also what I've kind of heard about you, I feel like there's like a misconception.
We care.
We care in this room.
Do you think we're making a certain person or group of people in this situation the bad guy?
Right?
Because it's always framed, in my opinion, it's always framed in the same way.
Just like how it was always, it's the black people that are going to come after the white people, so we need to separate the bathrooms.
And I hear the same, they're coming after the girls.
Right?
That's always, right?
And always these trans conversations.
It's always that idea of they're going to try to take the girls and make them guys, and they're going to regret it.
The guys are going to try to go into the women's bathroom.
And it always turns like the girls into this like, No, I don't think it's true for you at all, but I think the general population is.
I don't see that in any of the arguments.
You don't see that?
Okay.
No, it's male and female.
the women and the girls from the gays because they're trying to go after them.
And it's so ludicrous in my opinion.
tim pool
I don't think that's true.
desmond fambrini
No, I don't think it's true for you at all, but I think the general population.
tim pool
I don't see that in any of the arguments.
desmond fambrini
You don't see that, okay.
tim pool
No, it's male and female.
desmond fambrini
I mean, you've got- I see it really one-sided, but I respect your opinion, of course.
tim pool
I mean, Jazz Jennings was male.
Right.
Is male.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
And so a lot of these stories are male-to-female, female-to-male.
desmond fambrini
I understand that.
tim pool
I think the data shows that the majority of trans youth are female-to-male.
And so that was the rapid onset gender dysphoria argument.
kelly schenkoske
Well, and I also want to add that as far as erosion of parental rights and responsibilities, You know, in Washington State, we've seen where 12-year-olds can make these decisions to start these therapies without the barrier of parental permission.
And California is moving really in that direction.
And then with the application of these school-based health centers through the WISC model, the whole school, whole community, whole child, to implement school health clinics on school campuses where that can, I mean, there's already at least one school.
There was a story, I think, in Fox News, perhaps, but that was recent where they were talking about, I think it was Nova High School, where this was already being administered.
And so the idea of automatic assumption, almost, that parents are not to be trusted.
I mean a lot of CSC material you can review it and there's a small segment that does say talk to your parents sometimes there's even a You know, a section that has them go home and discuss things with their parents.
But by and large, the message is talk to a trusted adult, talk to a librarian.
And it really does.
The majority of the conversation is this message of don't trust the parents.
And so if we, yeah, if we get to a place in California and if that spreads nationwide, as California goes, so goes the nation, then we will have an erosion of parental involvement in the decisions of health care needs of children.
tim pool
So I'll bring this to a modern contextual story.
There's a man in Texas who has a son.
His son, he says, is not trans.
The mother says the son is trans.
She has taken the child to California where she is now given gender-affirming sanctuary.
What if he's wrong?
What if this woman is suffering Munchausen's by proxy?
What if the father is right?
The obvious answer is non-intervention for the safety of the child.
However, what's happening is the courts are going the other direction.
If desistance rates are 60-95% and the mother has taken the child to California and the child does undergo transition, there is a greater than chance percentage that child will suffer because of it.
unidentified
And the law protects her.
desmond fambrini
Okay, but here's where I feel like, in my opinion, and this is like a bold claim because you are well-read and well-studied, but I do...
Question if you're misinterpreting these studies, because the child is trans.
So they're already at- We don't know that.
unidentified
No, but we do.
We do, because the child is saying it.
tim pool
No, no, no, no, no.
The child is not- In this circumstance.
desmond fambrini
Okay, so the mom says yes, the dad says no.
tim pool
There's a video of the kid saying, I don't want to do this.
desmond fambrini
Oh, well then, no, that's a bad idea.
unidentified
So it's okay.
tim pool
The kid's five, seven, between five and, I think this started when the kid was three.
desmond fambrini
No, okay, so boom.
tim pool
When Mario Lopez came out and said three-year-olds cannot determine their gender, He had to come out and apologize for saying that.
unidentified
- Because in a way, gender isn't fully understood.
desmond fambrini
But in that case, we need to allow kids to like an experiment with different things, in my opinion.
But that idea of, I know so many circumstances where the mom is supportive of a trans kid, and the dad isn't.
And if the kid is saying they're trans, and then they're trans, and then they're already at risk.
tim pool
- But what if they're just confused? - Well, what do you mean confused? - Let me ask you a question.
Going back to the makeup point.
You choose to wear makeup.
desmond fambrini
This is true.
tim pool
Why don't you choose to wear a jester cap?
desmond fambrini
Okay.
I like this line of questioning.
I choose to wear makeup because this is how I'm comfortable and I don't choose any other type of visual kind of stimuli because this is the look that kind of represents who I am.
tim pool
So if children want to wear makeup, do we ask the question, why aren't the children choosing to dress up like bananas instead?
unidentified
That's a great question, and...
tim pool
Well, the answer is fairly obvious.
desmond fambrini
Well, I don't know, actually, because for me, if my student wants to go to school dressed up as a banana... But they don't.
unidentified
But if they want to, they can.
tim pool
Right.
So the issue is social imitation, mimicry, and indoctrination.
unidentified
Oh, OK.
Now I see where you're going with this.
desmond fambrini
OK.
tim pool
OK.
Children adopt behaviors they only can typically acquire from other people.
desmond fambrini
A thousand percent.
OK.
tim pool
There is creativity.
I would say typically you find deviations around 20 percent in most things.
It's funny.
It works with electrons.
It works with people.
And so a child may take all of these different ideas that he's seen, she's seen, and then create an amalgam of a perception of the world, and then from that create something unique and creative, saying, I want to dress up in a jester's cap because it's a unique and strange thing.
You get, you know, punk rock, people with mohawks trying to be shocking.
But typically children are just seeking to imitate.
Right.
So when you go to a group of children as an adult man wearing makeup, you are going to be giving these kids the concept of adults wear makeup, men wear makeup, and they'll adopt those social behaviors more likely than create a new one.
desmond fambrini
Fascinating that you should bring this up because, one, I've actually never had a student try makeup after seeing me.
It's never happened, right?
tim pool
Well, but you don't know where they'll be in five years.
unidentified
I don't.
desmond fambrini
A thousand percent don't.
But with that said, My perception that I give, the imitation, that's going to occur, is not men should wear makeup.
Not, and again, I'm using the word man because biologically male, but I do identify as non-binary, right?
But that idea of not, you need to wear makeup.
It's an option, right?
And I think that's fair, right?
And I think that's what a lot of people have issue with.
It's like, you can't wear makeup around kids because you're going to indoctrinate them.
That idea of like, no, kids know it is an option.
tim pool
I'm very anti-makeup.
desmond fambrini
Yeah, and that's completely, and that's fine, right?
tim pool
Not for social reasons, though.
desmond fambrini
Yeah, okay, tell me.
tim pool
Yeah, I think it's typically petrochemicals that result in negative health effects for people.
desmond fambrini
I got you, I got you.
tim pool
And, you know, there's a woman that I met recently who got mercury poisoning being a model doing makeup.
And so I see this as a social practice that has only a net detriment, doesn't really provide any positive.
I'm not a fan of adult women caked up in makeup.
desmond fambrini
And we could say the same thing about alcohol, right?
But in the end, people's choices are people's choices, right?
You want to wear makeup, you wear makeup.
tim pool
But you don't tell kids to drink.
To do it!
desmond fambrini
And you don't tell kids to wear makeup, either.
And I think that's where the distinction is.
tim pool
So my position is not that... If you want to wear makeup, I really, really don't care.
I'm not saying people shouldn't be allowed to wear makeup around children.
Women do it too.
A male child may identify with a female child.
My position is simply, there are things that have no positive benefit and only a net detriment that children will adopt, be it drinking or doing anything else.
I don't believe wearing makeup is nearly as bad as drinking.
unidentified
I'm not trying to say that.
kelly schenkoske
Well, and I was gonna say with regards to social mimicry, I agree with that.
Input often equates in a way to output.
Kids do observe, they're very observant and curious.
And I think, What you feed tends to grow even as we are adults.
I think this is why marketing is so successful and that's why people have huge marketing budgets because you can convince somebody to eat that burger and get that vaccine.
You can convince somebody.
unidentified
That was an unintentional eye roll.
I apologize.
That was very judgmental of me and it probably was on camera.
And I do apologize.
kelly schenkoske
But it's true.
And I think even education, marketing is tremendously involved in education.
And I believe we're often getting a bait and switch.
I was recently at a conference in Philadelphia.
I got there a few days early.
There was a big education conference going on.
Most of what was being discussed, I got to visit with some of these wonderful people who were there, but they did say one of the primary things that they're working on is marketing to the schools, then marketing to the staff and the parents, and then that's the whole focus.
So I think we need to be analytical of the marketing coming in.
But when you're a child, with your developmental ages and stages that you're going through, The input received, I think that's, and I actually think we agree with regards to this because, you know, there are teachers that do want to promote, they do want to encourage exploration.
I, you know, this happened to a friend of mine.
We heard of Abigail Shrier's leaked audio story from a training that occurred.
And that audio was shared on the Megyn Kelly Show.
And I think there are some that do indeed want to promote this.
There was a Teachers Union YouTube video where they did this video discussing A variety of topics, but one teacher said, teaching is completely political in all aspects and realms.
Everything I do is political, from the books I choose and everything that I center in class.
And so, do we have an epidemic of that growing in education?
I do think that's what parents are noticing, which goes back to curriculum choices and all kinds of things.
But there's... Oh, excuse me.
No, no, go ahead.
unidentified
I'm so sorry.
desmond fambrini
But there's so many more teachers that are... See, like, We are like, oh, there's this group of people that are like, there's a whole bunch of teachers that are trying to make your kids trans.
There's so many more teachers that are against it.
There's so many more parents that are against it.
tim pool
There's like... But the Department of Education and the teachers unions are in favor.
desmond fambrini
But my issue is, and this is not an accusation towards you individually, nor you, but kind of into a general group of people that play the victim.
That it's and you're not the victim, right?
These people that are like, oh, poor us.
You're making our kids trans.
No, we're not.
We're the minority population and we're not.
And these teachers that you keep bringing up, in my opinion, they're not actually LGBTQ.
kelly schenkoske
Right.
desmond fambrini
And like if you know, they're not.
unidentified
That's actually the case.
I didn't buy that book.
tim pool
I didn't call them.
They're called awful.
kelly schenkoske
I do think there's a lot of great school staff and teachers that are not doing this.
And I think that we need those voices, but from the school staff that I know, especially because the teachers unions are so loud with some of this, I think they're intimidated to speak up and we need those voices to say, hey, I'm seeing something saying something.
unidentified
Do you want to address that?
desmond fambrini
The only thing I would say though is that you know who else is super loud is, and I don't even like using this word because I feel like it's so out of context, like the word bigoted really bugs me now because now it's like you say anything and it's like bigoted, right?
But like the actual dictionary definition of the word bigoted, bigoted people are also very, very loud.
No matter what I do, they're loud as hell.
tim pool
Well, which dictionary definition are you referring to?
desmond fambrini
Let's actually pull it up!
I want to see, right?
tim pool
Because the principal definition is someone intolerant of another person's beliefs or opinions.
desmond fambrini
There you go, right?
So, beliefs and opinions, right?
So, bigot.
Someone intolerant of a person's belief and opinion.
Let's go with, and I'm allowed to say this, right?
Like TikTok, for example, right?
If you check out their Instagram page, they say, you know, we want to do a pride collaboration, right?
I do a pride collaboration, teaching pride in the classroom.
What does it look like?
Right?
And I'm like, whoa, teaching pride in the classroom?
I'm a learning specialist.
Well, like, what do you mean by that?
unidentified
Right?
desmond fambrini
And they're like, well, whatever you do for pride lessons.
And I'm like, well, this is the closest thing I do to pride lessons.
And it's literally having a student draw something on the front of their binder.
And it could be who they are, it could be how they feel, it could be what they like to do, and that's pretty much as close to a pride lesson as I give.
Or where I have a student draw their family, and then a student draw another family that looks different.
But people are calling me an- oh, you're indoctrinating kids.
tim pool
Well, have you ever been to a pride- you've been to a pride event, right?
unidentified
I've been- yes, I've been to most of them, actually, yeah.
tim pool
Where- is there- you're from California, do you typically go to, like, California pride?
desmond fambrini
Oh, San Francisco pride all the way, let's go.
tim pool
Is it child appropriate?
unidentified
That's a really great question.
desmond fambrini
Have you been to San Francisco Pride before?
tim pool
Not San Francisco, I've been to LA, Chicago.
desmond fambrini
I adore San Francisco Pride.
Is it appropriate for children?
I'll get there because I have to answer your question honestly.
And I know people that work for San Francisco Pride and I have gone Every single year.
In fact, my moms used to take me when I was a kid.
Oh my God, indoctrinating.
It is different now.
It is very, very different.
And in my opinion, San Francisco Pride needs to have different sections.
And if you actually went to San Francisco Pride, you would be fascinated by one of the organizations that you would actually type in, which is Gays Against Grooming, which is that idea of if Pride events are Pride events for kids, they need to have a certain level of appropriateness to them.
And I agree with that.
I agree with that because there are certain things that occur.
Yep, right there, right there.
Like, there are certain things at Pride events that are not age-appropriate for kids.
tim pool
These are not, that aren't even legal in many circumstances.
unidentified
Yeah.
tim pool
But are not, they're not enforced.
desmond fambrini
A thousand percent.
tim pool
Despite the fact that in West Virginia, for instance, it is overtly illegal to have a child at a drag performance.
There's no law enforcement against it.
They do it in public.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
And the police do literally nothing.
desmond fambrini
- This is what's fascinating to me is like, and I also wanna get your opinion on this too, is like there's this weird false equivalence that is not real.
Like this to me, nope, I would not show my kids that.
There's no way.
My future kids could not see that.
My students would not be allowed to see that.
Absolutely fricking not.
tim pool
Are you kidding me? - How old were you when you went to your first Pride event? - Oh, I was like four.
How old are you now?
desmond fambrini
I'm 29.
tim pool
Okay, I'm 37, so... I don't know, whatever.
You, at a younger age, went to a Pride event.
My mother would not let me, my mom, would not let me go outside of our family.
We had a coffee shop in North Halsted.
She told me to stay inside.
I wasn't allowed to go outside during Pride.
I was 10 years old.
Because there were naked men and women.
They were performing overt sex acts and simulated sex acts.
And my whole life, that has always been the case.
So when that is the case for, in my life, basically three decades, that every pride I have ever been to is sexually explicit, when you then go to children and say, let's talk about pride, you can't have three decades of sexually explicit in public, overtly illegal, and then tell children, let's bring you into this.
desmond fambrini
Because they're inherently correlated in your mind.
They're inherently correlated in your mind.
Maybe they should be, but they're not correlated in mine, right?
And I know that's crazy to think about now having this conversation.
tim pool
It's not about whether it's in my mind inherently correlated, it's that if you say, let's have you talk about pride, and let me teach you about pride, and pride is...
This is why it's called grooming.
desmond fambrini
But this is not pride.
That is not pride.
That is a pride parade, right?
And that's different than what pride is, right?
Pride is being who you are, in my opinion.
That's being who you are, respecting everyone, understanding people look different.
That's pride.
tim pool
What is effectively happening is, whatever your intention may be, you are going to a child and saying, I would like to open this door to a world of inappropriate behaviors to you by introducing you to this concept.
And that's why people call it grooming.
desmond fambrini
Right.
So, the misconception I would say with the left- I'm starting to finally understand what people are, like, worried about.
I don't agree with it, but I'm fully understanding the perspective.
Because I never- I didn't understand it to this extent.
But, sorry, just to clarify before you continue.
Pride, to me, I'm thinking, oh, it's pronouns, it's accepting who you are, it's being kind to everyone regardless.
But to you, teaching pride is inherently teaching pride parades, which is intentionally teaching this, which is sexual.
tim pool
Not necessarily.
desmond fambrini
Right, but that's what I'm hearing.
tim pool
It's all under the same umbrella, with no pushback from the LGBT community, in fact, celebration of.
desmond fambrini
Gays Against Grooming!
tim pool
Gays Against Groomers, we're very familiar with, we're fans of, we're friends with.
desmond fambrini
There we go!
tim pool
So this is why it's grooming, I'll break it down.
I'll give you an example of traditional grooming.
desmond fambrini
Okay.
tim pool
A man shows up, sees a teenage girl at the mall with their parents.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
He walks up and says, I work for a modeling agency.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
Your daughter is tall, is slim, could be one of these Victoria's Secret models.
How would you like to be world famous, travel the world?
Take my card, look at my website.
If this is right for you and you think it's good for your kid, the father goes, wow, really?
My daughter could be famous and be a star and be a model like on the TV.
There's two potentialities in this scenario.
A legitimate modeling agent sees a teenage girl who could be a wonderful model and genuinely wants her to just do regular old modeling.
Maybe it's even lifestyle.
Lifestyle is when they wear overalls and they're like merchandising.
Or he says, we're gonna bring your daughter, come on down.
And the father is there with the daughter as she does a normal photo shoot, and it seems all above board.
They do this for a few weeks.
Eventually, the father's like, ah, you can go.
You know, we know what you're doing.
I got to be at work.
Then the guy says, we're doing swimsuit today.
A month later, he says, now we're doing lingerie.
desmond fambrini
A month later, we're doing nude.
tim pool
That's grooming, when something seemingly may be normal, but the person is being pulled in for the intent of putting them in a particular situation.
This is the traditional grooming that most people know about, casting couch and things like this.
Now, the issue with pride is that there is no upper.
With the modeling world, there is an upper level of legitimate, above-board modeling.
You can be a superstar, you can be on TV, they're not trying to get you to do porn.
With Pride, the upper level is men are performing sex acts on each other in public and defended by the LGBT community.
desmond fambrini
I would never say that that... First of all, in my opinion, there's no levels of gayness, right?
I completely understand what you're saying.
tim pool
What I'm saying is...
The two paths in terms of quote-unquote modeling is the deviant of trying to trick a child or groom them into prostitution or just being on the cover of a magazine.
desmond fambrini
Which is crazy, but yes.
tim pool
The most pronounced experience of pride is For 37 years I've been alive.
From the 27 years since I have witnessed these, they are overtly sexual.
North Halsted, Chicago.
I'm told my whole life, love is love.
I'm a little kid.
My family's liberal, Democrat.
And they said, we agree with gay marriage, we agree with all of this.
Because people are allowed to love whoever they want.
And then I said, how come the mannequins are giving each other blowjobs?
In full view of the public.
What does that have to do with love?
I'm like 10 years old, and I'm like... They have penis and vagina, macaroni and cheese.
It's not about love.
So when you go to a child and say, I want you to entertain pride, and the public-facing, prominent community is overtly sexual, that's why people are calling it grooming.
desmond fambrini
Got it.
Now, here's the deal, right?
And let's make sure the microphone gets it.
LGBTQIA, we're not pedophiles.
unidentified
That's a pedophile.
desmond fambrini
There's a difference between a pedophile and someone gay.
tim pool
Do you think these two men performing BDSM in public are pedophiles?
unidentified
No, because they're clearly gay.
They are gay.
They're doing something.
desmond fambrini
And here's where And this I was so looking forward to like talking to you about because I've heard some of like, and I wouldn't call them accusations, but like some statements made by you, right?
Where that idea of like, if you do this, then therefore like you're a pedophile or you're against, you know, da da da da.
But it's like, they're not.
They're gay.
They're gay.
There is unfortunately a misunderstanding, though, of what's appropriate to do around kids and what is not.
And hear me out, like love to both of my moms, right?
There was parts of Pride that I was not allowed to go to, right, as a kid, right?
Because they were not appropriate.
And I think there are parts of Pride that are appropriate for kids and parts of Pride that are not appropriate for kids, right?
There was a Pride event and you're going to literally, like, destroy me on this one because you're going to be mad.
You're going to be mad too.
There was a school district Pride event that we had, and I was like the person for it.
I was like the spokesperson for it.
And like, hear me out, it was a great event.
It was a really great event.
We had different booths, and the entire Pride event was be who you are.
There was nothing sexual about it.
We had an individual.
I don't even know if I could say her name, if that's a good idea to say her name.
We had an individual.
She came.
She told her story about what it was like to transition, and I had to coach her a little bit, even though she was older than me and much more successful, about You know what?
You actually can't say that you were considering suicide in front of kids.
You know what?
You can't actually go through the medical procedure in front of kids.
There is totally a way to make pride child-appropriate, and I respect your understanding that there are certain things that children should not see, and I understand your concern.
Both of your concerns.
It's possible.
We can make pride appropriate.
We can.
tim pool
If the only thing that existed in modeling was prostitution, that the supermodels we all know about were all prostitutes, then you don't let your child model, right?
desmond fambrini
And the same thing, I love your point, ah, right?
Yes, right?
And if it was only prostitution, there's no way your child should model, ever.
And if being gay and being LGBTQIA was only about sex, then there's no way you would expose that to kids.
And yet, it's not always about sex.
LGBTQIA actually isn't about sex, and I know that's ridiculous to consider, but I had this conversation with a friend the other day.
LGBTQIA, gender identity, lesbian, gays, bisexuals, gender fluids, non-binary, sex is actually a very small part of the equation.
tim pool
But my point is, pride events, I have never seen a public pride event that wasn't, that was appropriate for children.
desmond fambrini
I'll invite you to mine next time.
I'm totally messing with you.
tim pool
And look, I'm not saying they don't exist, I'm just saying I've never seen one because I'm sure there are some where they just march down the street and they have flags and things like that.
desmond fambrini
I want to know something, and oh gosh, I was actually told by the district to not actually make it a big deal because they don't want too much media attention, especially in hiring me, but I want to know something.
This was a really big topic of conversation at the Pride event, but because we were sponsored by a library, right?
tim pool
And they have that in accessible children can access genderqueer.
desmond fambrini
Yeah.
So here's where it got very interesting, right?
Is that we...
got this book recommended to us by the students that were, right?
I looked at this book and I'm like, of course, as always, I read through it and I'm like, you know what?
Amazing read, amazing, amazing read.
tim pool
I agree.
desmond fambrini
Right?
Great read.
tim pool
Conservatives don't read it and they should.
desmond fambrini
It's a great book, right?
But with that said... Have you read it?
kelly schenkoske
No.
desmond fambrini
It's very interesting, but we have some... I don't think I can show this on camera.
kelly schenkoske
I've seen a lot of others, though.
desmond fambrini
Right?
We have some seriously graphic images, right?
I don't know if I can even show this.
tim pool
No, no.
desmond fambrini
We have some graphic images, right?
We can't show this on a freaking podcast.
tim pool
On YouTube.
desmond fambrini
On YouTube, right?
Now with that said, hear me and I will tell you the story.
I supported my students getting this from parents if the parents thought that it was appropriate for them.
But we, as a group, we had a whole group meeting about this.
We were actually like, we actually can't have this book at the Pride event.
There are kids that are under the age of 10.
Guess what happened?
We did not have the book at the Pride event.
We invited a library.
Guess what book the library brought?
tim pool
They brought this?
desmond fambrini
They brought the freaking book!
tim pool
And that's why people are calling them groomers.
desmond fambrini
And that's why they're calling us groomers!
unidentified
We were a group of gay people and we were like, we can't bring this!
desmond fambrini
And the library sent it!
And I'm like, are you kidding me?
unidentified
You're making us look so bad!
And it's not us!
desmond fambrini
We're not doing it!
tim pool
But that's why there's gays against groomers.
desmond fambrini
That's literally can I join that group like literally killing me like it's our man does But they are not thinking they are not your enemy.
tim pool
We are not your enemy We're friends with gays against groomers like love we have their their literature and stuff downstairs, right?
desmond fambrini
Because not perpetuating this we I I would give this to a student if the student won.
If I thought a student could ever benefit from a book like this, and it's a great book, I would talk to the parent about it.
I would get the child perspective.
I would talk to the psychiatrist about it.
I would talk to the coach about it.
I'm a learning specialist.
I don't just give books that have very explicit material like this.
It's a good book, and I would promote this book.
I think it's great.
But would I have it at a public event for kids under 10?
Not necessarily.
Was it accidentally there?
Yes.
Did it cause any problems?
unidentified
Actually, no.
desmond fambrini
It didn't cause any problems.
unidentified
It did not cause anyone to be gay.
desmond fambrini
It wasn't a problem in the end, right?
But in the end, I just want to be super clear, we had a meeting about this book, and we banned it!
unidentified
As a group of gay people, putting on pride in frickin' the Bay Area!
tim pool
So this is the issue, the argument that...
All gay people, all LGBT people are groomers.
It's not correct.
desmond fambrini
It's so wrong.
I have people that pretend to be me online.
And I'm like, hi, I'm Desmond Fambrini.
unidentified
I'm a groomer.
Wanna hang out?
And I'm like, this is why I had to go off Discord.
Because there were so many freaking Desmond Fambrinis.
tim pool
They got that audio clip now.
But, but, like I said.
We're friends with Gays Against Groomers.
They have a subcategory, Trans Against Groomers.
We have fans and friends of the show who are trans.
And the big issue is there are certain things that are not appropriate for children.
So if you come out and you're like, you know, you believe in pride and all this stuff, we're mostly like, okay, just, you know, we want to keep certain things away from kids.
I agree with you.
If parents believe that this is appropriate for their children, parents have the final say.
To a certain extent, I don't know, there's a moral line.
You don't want parents being like, hustler is appropriate for kids.
No, no, no.
We intervene there and be like, you clearly crossed the line.
What I always say about this book, Genderqueer, there are a lot of conservatives.
There are a lot of, you know, people critical of gender ideology.
And whenever I say, have you ever read it?
They go, no.
And I'm like, look, you know, it's not, it takes 20 minutes.
unidentified
It's a graphic novel.
tim pool
I think it's a good book.
I think it's a good book that explains the problems.
And what's fascinating to me is, I'm assuming you think it's a good book because of the perspective of the non-binary individual and everything.
I think it's a good book because it explains the psychological torture and torment of this individual.
desmond fambrini
I think that that is such an important facet of this book.
Such an important facet of this book, right?
And I feel Wow.
See, I knew this was going to be a good conversation.
tim pool
But before you accidentally agree with me.
desmond fambrini
Yeah, well, I'm not fully agreeing with you, right?
tim pool
This is a book about a female who was was mercilessly abused by her parents, neglected, psychologically tormented, and now is suffering from developmental disorders that are being affirmed by modern society to the point where they think it's good children learn and believe these ideas are correct.
But you have a young woman who is pissing in her backyard, who was never taught to read, who wore for three days in a row, dried pads, crusted with menstrual blood to the point where she smelled so bad.
This is in the book that she was made fun of by her classmates and then internalized all of that and said, the real problem is that being a girl sucks.
The real problem was your mother and your father abused you emotionally, and not with direct physical violence, but it was physical abuse.
Having your child urinate in the yard, Having them wear crusted menstrual pads for days?
This is something where Child Protective Service is supposed to intervene and save this child.
In this book, she talks about how when the other girls made fun of her for not shaving her legs, for smelling like feces, she then said, if only I was a boy.
No, no, no, no, no.
It's not if only it was a boy.
It's that your parents abused you.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
And so what she does then is she takes this abuse and equates it with being female and not... She doesn't want to be a man.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
She doesn't want to be a woman.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
One thing that I actually take personal offense to...
I saw a clip from Billboard Chris where he asked a trans man, how do you know you're trans?
And this biological female identifies as a man said, you know how you wake up feeling like a man?
I wake up feeling like a man.
No, I don't.
I don't wake up feeling like a man.
There is no point of reference for anyone to wake up feeling like anything other than themselves.
desmond fambrini
Okay.
tim pool
But they create this idea of it is better to be an other, an assumption of the feelings I have, and they want to appropriate that from me without actually understanding it in any way.
This woman explains later in the book that she's actually a fetishist.
She's what's called an auto-androphile.
She has sexually aroused the thought of being a man.
You then come to, I think, what you see here is, she's a teacher, going to children, asking these children to fulfill her sexual fantasy.
Whether that's the core reason why she does it isn't the issue.
She does.
She explicitly says she has sexually aroused the thought of being a man, and then asks children to entertain that thought.
That is completely inappropriate.
What we have here is someone who has suffered psychological trauma, who is now pushing that onto children.
That is horrifying to me.
desmond fambrini
Now, there's so much that I want to unpack there, but I also want to give you a chance to speak, because I think you have such an amazing perspective.
And that was such an interesting interpretation of the book.
One that I, of course, have different viewpoints of, right?
But, as you know, I'm a huge fan of finding common ground, right?
And do I think that it's hugely problematic?
Do I think that people are trans because of trauma?
No, I don't think people are trans because of trauma.
I sincerely disagree with you on that, however... Well, she's not trans, she's non-binary.
Well, yeah, I know.
tim pool
She rejects femininity.
desmond fambrini
She rejects femininity, right?
But, like, that idea of, like, the classic idea of, like, oh, people are trans, people are gay because of trauma, right?
And, like, now there's this movement, apologies, like, just to clarify, but now we sometimes hear people that are non-binary going under the trans umbrella, so I just say, like, trans for everyone, just wanted to clarify that.
But with that said, even though I very much disagree with a lot of that perspective where it's like, oh, it was because of trauma and you're pushing it on kids and this is that and the other, what I do agree with is there is a conversation that needs to be had that being non-binary and being gay isn't for fun.
It's actually freaking hard, right?
And it can be.
And I don't necessarily do this.
In fact, I don't do this for fun.
I wake up and I do this to myself and I feel like this way and I talk like this and I act like this because this is what feels right for me.
And I do think there's a problem in social media, the mimicry idea that you make gay look fun and trendy and then kids hop on that bandwagon without understanding that there is discrimination that you are going to go through and that there's problems that you're going to go through.
But people are born the way they are, in my opinion.
So I feel like there's this gray area that is never explored, which is, yes, sometimes people accidentally equate being queer to being different and trendy, but on the other side, there are people that are just queer, and we shouldn't just banish, like, we shouldn't just say, oh, all gay people are just, you know, traumatized.
I was not traumatized.
I just don't, yeah.
tim pool
I don't think people are, I think there's a variety of different people who are trans for different reasons.
desmond fambrini
A thousand percent.
tim pool
I think the.
desmond fambrini
Can we just like, can we, what can you do to like wind that back?
Right?
Because like that idea of people are trans for different reasons, people are non-binary for different reasons.
unidentified
That is so never talked about.
tim pool
I think the principal reason, my view is probably plastic endocrine disruptors.
A lot of people talk about why it is where it sinks to a massive explosion of trans youth and transgender, transgenderism.
Well, we're like the second generation of plastic.
We are the second generation born of plastic products.
I went to an antique store.
Soda cans were hard metal.
Knee-high orange soda was a hard metal can when you, like, crack open.
I was like, wow, from the 50s.
And then the advent of plastics and plastic products are to emerge probably around the late the mid in the 60s and mostly in the 70s.
And then you end up with the boomer generation who are now in their late teens and 20s into the 70s consuming products all wrapped and coated in plastic, PCBs, phthalates, endocrine disruptors that we know to be endocrine disruptors as well as other pesticides and chemicals.
You then end up with the boomer generation consuming the majority of these chemicals while they have babies in utero, and then we're surprised to see that millennials and Gen Z have a higher rate of transgenderism.
That's the only reason.
But I think we've known for some time about phthalates in PCBs, for instance, and the effect on babies and the endocrine system.
Yet, for some reason, there are many people who are associated with the right who would say, there are no trans kids.
There's no, and I'm like, well, If you go back to Alex Jones yelling they're turning the freaking frogs gay, it's been 10 years of people on the right saying that there are chemicals that cause endocrine disruption in life and animals and it's going to impact us.
So the question is then, if someone was trans and they're experiencing gender dysphoria, Because of endocrine disruption due to the chemicals in our food and an environment, how do we adequately accommodate these individuals who through no fault of their own are experiencing this?
desmond fambrini
And that's a great question that I think is like so important to have with parents, with medical staffs, with teachers, and for everyone to be included.
But there are trans kids, there are non-binary kids, but that idea of like...
People are turning them trans on purpose.
It just it really it hurts me a little bit, right?
Because like and it probably just because it like it hurt, you know when like, um, like just for an example for you, right?
That idea of like, oh my god, I can't believe you didn't tell me something happened to my kid.
It's your literal job to protect them.
You care about the most and it's like kind of a slap in the face, right?
At least that's the perspective that I would think that you have, right?
Like someone insults your kid or your kid is It says that they're a girl or a boy or whatever and you don't tell me I'm their freaking parent!
What do you mean you're not telling me?
And I get that perspective, but I have the same perspective as a teacher, right?
A teacher that wears makeup that's non-binary.
That idea of like, I make myself a public figure.
I'm live scanned by the state of California.
Every move that I do is watched, right?
And I, what, make a video?
I put on some eyeshadow and you're like, you are indoctrinating my kid.
That's such a slap in the face to me in my community.
Like, I went to school For frickin' 25 years!
I went to grad school to make sure that I could teach your kid to read the best that they could ever read.
I went to school to make sure that your kid has an individualized education program that no one else has, because I do custom products for each kid.
And you're saying I'm grooming them because I'm wearing lipstick?
That's such a slap in the face to me!
tim pool
You know what I do find really funny is the guests we've had on the show who are not LGBT, but are affluent white liberals, tend to adamantly defend books like this, tend to adamantly defend this book is gay being given to children, say it shouldn't be censored.
And then whenever we have actual LGBT people, they say, I agree, this stuff's inappropriate.
And so it's very interesting that when it comes to issues of race and gender, it tends to be affluent white liberals who are not members of this community.
desmond fambrini
And they're trying their best to support.
I want you to finish your thought.
tim pool
I don't know if that's it.
I think they're trying their best to get clicks on the internet.
desmond fambrini
Well, it's, you know, they're trying to support.
So, okay, I'll tell you a story.
This better not go viral.
unidentified
I swear to God.
desmond fambrini
But I, you know, I feel like people try to be accepting and sometimes there's a misstep.
And it ends up causing a media, like, corruption, right?
So I walk into a school, they hire me.
They have a couple students that have a very specific, you know, ADHD diagnosis combined with dyslexia, so very, very tricky to read, right?
They bring me in, they hire me.
I walk into the school and I go, you know, oh, by the way, can you show me where your bathroom is?
And they're like, there's one right there.
I went to the girl's bathroom.
unidentified
Oh, wow.
desmond fambrini
And I'm like, Oh, like the bathroom, like, for adults.
Because I don't want to be like, oh, I'm just, I just, I'm non-binary, I wear makeup, but I use the guy's bathroom, right?
But they're like, it's right there.
tim pool
They pointed to the woman's bathroom.
desmond fambrini
They pointed to the girl's bathroom.
There's like an eight-year-old girl who just goes in there, right?
And I'm like, and I want to be polite.
I'm like, oh, no, the bathroom for adults.
And they're like, oh, that one's on the other side of the...
"Campus, you could just use that one." And I got where they were coming from because they were like, "Oh, she probably identifies as a woman "and she wants to be included." First of all, I think the bathroom topic is just nonsense.
I just think that there should be separate adult and children bathrooms in the first place and that would solve the problem.
But that idea of people are trying their best to accommodate but sometimes you try to accommodate a little bit too much and not everyone has-- - That's what they do.
Yeah, no, I'm not.
Sometimes you try to accommodate too much.
And some people like me are.
I have to be on my guard all the time.
Right.
So I'm like, I'll go to the one across the entire school.
But like they're trying to help.
They are trying to help, but it's accidentally misinterpreted.
And then what if I said yes?
And there was a picture taken.
Oh, my gosh.
unidentified
You know, trans teacher goes into a child's bathroom with an eight year old.
desmond fambrini
Then there's going to be a frickin news story on it that is going to be talked about on this podcast.
And you see how quickly things tumble.
Right.
And that's my issue.
tim pool
Let's, let's, let's, uh, we spent a lot of time talking about gender stuff.
We haven't talked about the critical race theory stuff that's in schools.
desmond fambrini
Very interesting.
tim pool
And I think, yeah, I think that's an important component as well, obviously, because what we find is there's this really hilarious study a few years ago.
Two of them, actually, I'll cite.
One was White liberals are the only demographic with an out-group preference, so black people tend to prefer to be around black people, but it's small margins, surprisingly.
It's like 18%.
So it's like slim minority, but you see that, you know, black people prefer to be around black people, Latinos around Latinos, white conservatives prefer to be around white conservatives, Asians prefer to be around Asians, and white liberals prefer not to be around white people in general.
And I think this is, for whatever reason, I got called racist and transphobic on my TikTok page for like a full year.
that we're actually seeing in that you end up with these circumstances where white people go around calling other people racist.
You end up with white liberals calling Larry Elder, a black man, a white supremacist.
desmond fambrini
I got called racist and transphobic on my TikTok page for a full year.
tim pool
That means you really can't win, can you?
unidentified
For a full year, I was told that I was racist and transphobic.
Like, for a year.
Like, I just want to put that out there.
tim pool
It's like, you can't win.
I mean, gays against groomers are called homophobic, despite the fact that they're actually gay.
unidentified
It doesn't matter.
desmond fambrini
I think, and again, it's not a, you know, there's parts of the organization that I've heard that I still need to, like, some, but it seems like it's a solid organization, that idea of, like, things are appropriate for certain things and things are appropriate for not.
But that idea of, like, I want to hear your perspective because, hear me out, Critical Race Theory, of course, there's, like, maybe some issues, but I was on, you know, different shows, different podcasts, different news channels.
Do you worry about your kids maybe never seeing people that look different or act different?
Or maybe your kid hasn't seen someone who looks like me, right?
And then you're going to have an idea.
They're going to be nervous.
They're going to be worried.
And, or they might not be, or they might not be, right?
kelly schenkoske
No, our kids see a lot of diversity.
desmond fambrini
Great, okay, and so you probably do a very good job at making sure that occurs, right?
But I do get worried in some homeschooling situations, it's not even intentional, right?
We have like just geopolitics that can put, like you said, different people in different areas, but I just get worried when you get to the homeschooling idea where it's like you only have people that look a certain way, act a certain way, and it's limiting.
kelly schenkoske
Well, I don't know.
I've seen a lot of diversity in homeschooling.
I mean, there were a lot of families that just chose to homeschool on their own because they thought they could provide their child a different education.
There's a lot of kids with different special needs.
There's all, I mean, all across the scope of things, I've seen, you know, a lot in homeschool.
And I would say that, I mean, for me, the homeschool experience has brought back, I mean, for example, I know this isn't talking about critical race theory, But I'd been working with our children to read prior to them starting preschool and kindergarten and all of those things.
I was working with them because I've collected books since I was little and I love books.
And so anyways, our daughter was making all of this progress prior to entering kindergarten and then she gets into kindergarten and she's doing this cueing reading where she's Having to kind of guess what the sentence is, which is making news right now.
And I mean, I think after, you know, then we get to first grade and Ivan suggested to the teacher, because she was bringing home some books that were, you know, as far as literacy, they were behind.
And I said, you know, was talking with them and stuff, but she didn't enjoy reading.
It was daunting.
She didn't enjoy school.
Our son wasn't enjoying school.
He wasn't feeling challenged enough.
And so in any rate, I didn't know how homeschooling was going to go.
I had actually told my husband in December, when I fail at this, we need a plan B. We need a plan B. And it was a, it's still a shock to me how well it's gone.
But what ended up happening is a couple months in our kids were on their own reading and they were reading all different kinds of books and chapter books.
And I remember looking to my husband and the kids were in the back of the car and I said, The kids are reading on their own.
And they just loved it.
And so, I mean, I feel like education, I mean, California's education has really gone downhill.
I think nationwide, you know, there's just been a complete shift in educational topics and different things.
But I think the thing that gets me is if kids aren't reading, if they aren't able to do math.
Math was a challenge to me when I was younger.
Even in college a little bit.
But all of these topics, I mean, I want kids to love learning.
And I can tell that from you as well.
And I want kids to be able to just develop.
And I think right now, I don't know, it's been a very, this is a completely unintended journey for me.
I never in a million years thought I'd be doing this.
You know, with regards to California's ethnic studies, for me, it was looking at that material and then trying to think through, like, who is Frantz Fanon, Wretched of the Earth, you know, some of the source documents.
It's new for parents to hear about all these different critical theories.
You know, the source documents that I looked at, You know, it mentioned queer theory, LATCRT theory, critical race theory, and all of these different things.
And then the content, you know, trying to look through some of the materials from the curriculum, they were teaching kids How to be an activist, how to develop a counter narrative to a narrative, all different kinds of things.
And I feel like, you know, for my part, I think in some ways education has lost its way.
And I kind of get the impression that we agree on quite a bit.
desmond fambrini
It's very interesting.
A thousand percent.
kelly schenkoske
On some things.
I mean, not on everything.
desmond fambrini
Not on everything, but it's very interesting that you say that.
kelly schenkoske
You know, I just think With with ethnic studies this idea of the politicized part of it You know, it's it's interesting.
I I initially heard ethnic studies and I thought fabulous Yeah, and I think we're really well and I thought we're gonna be learning about all these different Ethnicities and we're gonna learn about people's cultures and all of these things but then I saw Antonio Gramsci and I did see a reference to Karl Marx and I'm going OK, that's not what I anticipated.
desmond fambrini
And I think you bring up a really interesting point and just like, OK, here's where I think we agree and also like where we disagree is I think things like gender theory, critical race theory, you know, gender studies are all like so important because in the end, I feel critical thinking is the skill that we need to teach kids.
To be able to think critically, differentiate points, figure out things on their own, right?
I feel like that is key.
And that's why it really hurts me when people are like, we need to just ban critical race theory.
We need to ban gender studies.
No, these are the studies that are really important because you're thinking critically about societal issues.
However, where I think a little bit of the misstep, like you said, happened is we started prioritizing critical thinking before we taught the fundamentals.
Right.
And if you teach critical thinking before teaching the fundamentals of reading, math, science, you accidentally insert your own opinions into teaching critical thinking as And that's where the misstep is, in my opinion.
tim pool
I think the issue mostly is critical race theory is rooted in Marxism, quite literally.
In the founding document of critical race theory, Kimberly Crenshaw explicitly said Karl Marx got critical theory right, but doesn't understand the racial component in the United States.
So what they're doing is, they're not teaching kids about understanding the history of this country.
For one, 1619 is mostly a fabrication.
Even, I can't remember the woman's name, who wrote it said it wasn't intended to be accurate history.
You end up with these...
Ideological curriculums in math and science that create a false picture of what is really going on with race relations, indoctrinating kids into the idea of oppressed versus oppressor, which creates an antagonistic society.
desmond fambrini
And then people always vote to be the oppressed as opposed to the oppressor.
tim pool
Well, it's because the oppressed are actually the oppressor.
unidentified
Well, it's debatable, but I understand your point.
tim pool
But it is.
Those a victim of today are granted special privileges.
For instance, if you are perceived as being oppressive, you get banned from social media.
So the interesting thing is, the victim exerts this tremendous authority over everyone else to fall in line lest they be removed from society.
So those pretending to be oppressed are actually the oppressors.
You know, you have this story out of the UK of the 16-year-old girl who called a cop a lesbian.
She gets arrested for it.
Those police are the oppressors.
A 16-year-old autistic child making an off-the-cuff comment which you find offensive does not warrant the arrest of that child.
But the person, the police officer, they then claim that these officers are victims of hate crimes.
No.
They're an oppressive force who are targeting a child for saying something stupid.
What we end up seeing in these schools is, first, I think the important thing is, critical race theory, as written by Camilla Crenshaw, is Marxism.
Marxism, I think, is very, very bad in a lot of ways because it pits people against each other and creates disunity.
In the schools, you end up with these really weird circumstances.
We have a bunch of these books actually on our shelf outside that were given to us by Many of our guests.
They do things like this.
This is the issue with critical race theory.
If you're going to go to a bunch of kids in Florida and say, let's teach about the history of slavery in the North Atlantic slave trade and give you a full view of it.
For one, anybody who brings up an element of slavery that doesn't adopt the worst view of it will be attacked for bringing it up.
For instance, if you bring up that many slaves worked in shops and received money, they'll say that you are downplaying what slavery was because slavery was always the most abusive and intolerant thing.
Now, slavery was bad, but it was many different things.
desmond fambrini
It was very bad.
tim pool
Right.
It's considered a moral failing.
desmond fambrini
It was like one of the greatest moral failings of like the human population.
tim pool
And it still exists.
desmond fambrini
Yeah.
But does banning it...
tim pool
But no one's banning telling kids about slavery.
In fact, I would make the argument that those who are banning discussions of slavery are actually on the left.
desmond fambrini
Okay.
tim pool
So I'll give you an example.
desmond fambrini
I see your point.
I see your point, but I disagree, but I see your point.
tim pool
If you have someone tell the story of many slaves in the South, for instance, I've been reading a lot about the Civil War.
When you ask someone, what was a slave?
Imagine a slave.
They're going to imagine a man in a field being beaten by a plantation owner.
If you then come out and say, did you know that many slaves were actually working jobs and received money for what they did?
They'll say, that's insane, you're wrong.
But this is an important conversation about, say, Frederick Douglass.
When you learn the stories of slaves who bought their freedom, they worked hard, they did receive money, but they were fully controlled in every element of their life by a slave master.
That's wrong.
But, many of these individuals were working in shops because it facilitated the business of the white slave owner, and in some instances not even white Native Americans and other black people had slaves too, not the majority, but they would be able to receive compensation, granted the person who owned the slave would receive more or receive fees.
It's a much broader picture.
You hear stories about a teacher who would bring something like this up and then get attacked and cancelled by the left for it.
desmond fambrini
A thousand percent.
But!
tim pool
The bigger issue is, we see these books where, instead of saying, let's teach you about the history of slavery, it's a math book.
And the math book says, Jamal has been stopped by police 17 times this month, where Eric, and it shows a picture of a black man and a white man, Eric was only stopped once.
What percentage of the stops were, you know, of the young black male Jamal?
And so what they're doing is, They're creating these math problems that create a worldview that indoctrinates this oppressed versus oppressor narrative.
desmond fambrini
Which in a very much, all fascinating points as always, but it very much though I do worry about kind of an inherent issue where I remember very specifically, like really quick side note, I remember in first grade being taught about slavery and one of the key things that was always said to me in slavery units was, but you know that, you know, Africans actually were the ones that were selling other Africans, right?
And I felt, and I didn't understand it at that time, right?
And now, with my education, I understand, well, that they had a very different idea of what slavery was, when Africa, you know, the idea of trading people, we had very different, it was a very big miscommunication, right?
But in the end, you were just stealing people.
Slavery is bad.
I've really got to underline that, right?
But I do get worried if we say, oh, you know, well, they were also earning wages, and they were also, they could buy their freedom, and this is that, and the other.
I do get worried that we somewhat downplay the severity of how bad slavery was.
Now, is Critical Race Theory perfect?
No.
Is Marx actually worth studying?
Yeah, Marx is.
In my opinion.
But it's tricky to me because there should be an awareness that there is racial bias.
There should be, right?
And I think it's important, and I think it's tricky to kind of get everyone to understand that without putting it in curriculum consistently, right?
I do want my students to know that I have encountered police officers a bit more frequently, quite more frequently, than my white counterparts.
How do you know that?
That's actually a great question.
So how do I know that holistically, or how do I know that just in my personal experience?
unidentified
Both.
desmond fambrini
Great question.
Uh, personal experience, right?
Like, for example, I will be walking down, I don't know if you know, like, Waterworld USA, and like, right?
We would go there, and I always remember, I, like, hated going because there was always, like, security everywhere.
I would always be asked to show my frickin' receipt, and it's so funny because my mom would always be like, keep your receipts, and I never understood why, and it's because I was always the one.
Whenever I'd be walking around with, like, a bag of candy or, like, a toy or whatever, the, an officer would stop me, do you have a receipt for that?
And not my friend.
tim pool
In the store?
desmond fambrini
In the store.
No, outside the store when you leave the store, right?
tim pool
In public, they say.
desmond fambrini
Leave the store in public, right?
Or in like the water park.
Do you have a receipt for that?
And I, dang right I do.
And I would keep going my way, right?
But it was odd.
It was weird to me how I would consistently be like, oh, well, you know, you need to prove this.
You need to prove that.
You need to prove the other.
And it didn't happen to my white friends.
And I do want my students to understand that there is a difference in kind of treatment right now how we implement that in a curriculum is very very difficult right and i think this is actually where and i'm not speaking like for you at all but like i think in looking at like this content that i've seen from yours is i think that this is where you're accidentally misinterpreted sometimes because i think you say things like i'm against the critical race theory i'm against this or that's against that and you're not against teaching the ideas of it
but you're more for the idea of the individuality and individual perspective i'm pro teaching critical race i actually didn't know that so that idea right i'm against uh um critical race uh uh praxis okay so see that and i think that's where the crap yeah that's the that's where the differentiation right that's where the differentiation takes place where i think you're sometimes taking out a context where you appear and then people are like he's trying they're lying yeah Yeah, I know they are, right?
But that idea of, like, I think people don't give the other side the time of day.
Because I think there is a way to really individually teach slavery what happened, what the implications were.
I even think, get ready, let's start a tussle, right?
Because we're getting a still along a little bit too well, right?
Like, I even think there's a way to kind of implement affirmative action to the point where it is beneficial.
But I don't think that there should be a point system.
We struck that down in a previous Supreme Court case.
I don't think that somebody Black should inherently be looked at thinking, oh, you are always going to have a struggle that is more intense in every circumstance.
There are certain circumstances, but not all, right?
And I think that's important to teach.
I think it's important to take that into consideration for college admissions.
I think having a class that is more diverse is going to be inherently more beneficial, right?
But I think it needs to be done very, very carefully.
And maybe we did a rush job at kind of doing that.
tim pool
You said you're 51% Italian?
desmond fambrini
I am.
tim pool
Do you have one white parent, one black parent?
desmond fambrini
I do, yes.
tim pool
So, I'm curious, your experience, like, which one of your parents is white?
desmond fambrini
So, my mom, my mom actually passed away, that was my biological mom, but she was white.
No, thank you, I appreciate it.
She was purebred Italian, 100%, so I'm 51% Italian, she was blonde-haired, blue-eyed, and then my dad, who...
Kind of out of the picture.
Very out of the picture.
Um, he was black, right?
Which is like, of course, you kind of like, well, see, this is the problem.
And like, this is that and the other.
You kind of get that whole perpetuated, like, well, this is the stereotype, right?
tim pool
But so you, you grew up, uh, when you grew up, you had two moms or one mom passed away young?
desmond fambrini
So one mom passed away and I grew up, two moms were separated.
My biological mom, I actually lived with for a while and then kind of became an adult.
Then she passed away, but I still have my other mom in my life.
But with that said, I assume your question to be like, well, who'd you grow up with?
Like, what was your family look like?
Italians.
unidentified
Right.
desmond fambrini
They're very much Italians.
However, my mom's made sure to also raise me with people that look like me.
And when I started dancing in the fifth grade, I was, you know, taken.
I was on a dance team in Oakland and I got to, you know, learn about that aspect of my culture and what that was like.
And that was very important for me to have both of those kind of experiences to draw from.
Also, my second mom is Japanese.
unidentified
Right?
So I also had that culture.
tim pool
You speak Japanese?
desmond fambrini
Oh my god.
See, so hear me out.
Not only did I suck at learning Japanese, even though, like, I remember my grandmother speaking Japanese.
Not only was I not allowed to, like, not only did I suck at learning Japanese, but then what I was actually good at was Italian, and I wasn't even allowed to speak that, because Italians were not very fond, and people were not very fond of Italians in San Francisco, and we were immigrants.
So, like, we were not allowed to speak Italian in the family.
My grandparents wouldn't teach us.
So I have, I know sign language.
unidentified
I'm fluent, but... Oh, really?
desmond fambrini
But no Italian or Japanese style.
tim pool
The reason I ask is because I come from a mixed-race background.
Everyone knows it's a meme.
My dad's a white German-Irish guy.
My mom's a Hapa.
She's half Korean, 40% Korean, 10% Japanese.
We learned that through DNA testing.
Typically, when I tell people I'm part Korean, they go, I'm a little bit Japanese.
They go, oh.
Cause the implications historically, but the reason I bring it up is I grew up in this, uh, with these experiences of racism.
We had, uh, our house was attacked a couple of times by a white supremacist or whatever you describe it as putting, they put pamphlets on our doorstep saying race mixing was wrong.
We should be ashamed.
And you know, the kids are mongrels and things like that.
Then I have this dad who is clearly not in agreement with these ideas.
He marries a Korean woman.
And then when he goes to work, he's told that because he's white, he's privileged and not allowed to receive certain standard things, right?
He wanted to get a promotion in the fire department.
They passed him up because they wanted someone who got lower on the promotions test, but who happened to be an ethnic minority.
So my dad, who is someone who absolutely resists the racism, is punished by this system.
Then I, as a child, in a mixed-race family who is being threatened and targeted by racists, suffer because of it.
Mostly, I'm not gonna... Suffering is relative for the most part, I would say.
Growing up in a lower-middle class family, or upper-lower class, however you want to describe it, Life was life.
It was what it was.
But I know that my life would have been better had they not discriminated against my father.
And then, because they did, they basically held back.
A mixed-race family, because one family member happened to have been white.
That's affirmative action.
And I grew up with that, and that's why I firmly opposed it in the entirety.
The idea that you would say, this man's white, therefore he's privileged, therefore he can't get these benefits, and he's actually part of a mixed-race family, now that minority family suffers because of it, makes literally no sense.
desmond fambrini
It doesn't make sense.
And I think you also, and I would even go back to like your original point, which is that idea of like, you know, on this, like on this show, right?
You're that idea of like, well, you always have to define a word because it means two different things from like different people, right?
And one thing for me that I always seem to be running issues into on like on social media is like people that are like, well, you can only be racist to like white people can't be racist, right?
And like white people are always the oppressors and this, this, that, and the other.
And I gotta say, like, you know, I would push back on that narrative because I think that racism looks different based on the context, right?
I think there is systematic and systemic racism in America.
I think that does need to be addressed sometimes.
But can racism occur on an individual level or on a more systemed level, like, for example, a workplace environment?
Yeah, thousand percent, right?
And people are always like, well, no, black people can't be racist.
And I go, if I hung a door on my office that said no more white students, That's a black person being racist, right?
So black people can be, right?
Black people can be racist to other people.
But on average, right, we do have one kind of group that tends to oppress the others more frequently.
Now, with that said, there are nuanced situations, like you said, right?
Where somebody that is white that Like allegedly, like you said, I don't want to make any assumptions, but seemed to be more qualified that was passed up.
And I'm sorry that occurred.
Right.
But I do think there are situations where you can take somebody's race into consideration and say, oh, you definitely were more challenged because of this instance without.
Without making it a point system, without saying all white people are doing this or all black people experience this.
tim pool
I don't know, you know, they had that Supreme Court ruling, Harvard now says they're still going to take race into consideration for admissions, but they're going to do it by an essay basis, like write an essay about how you were oppressed or something, so they're going to find ways to get around it.
The issue here is you can't determine whether or not someone is good, bad, smart, stupid, worthy, unworthy by their race.
desmond fambrini
Yes!
Right?
tim pool
Oh my God.
So that means in the positive and negative sense.
unidentified
Right.
tim pool
I don't think that... Look, anybody... I have a grocery store.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
I don't care who you are you walk in.
Right.
I want people on security cameras to be paying attention to what you're doing.
unidentified
Right.
desmond fambrini
A thousand percent.
tim pool
You can make racially profiled arguments and all that stuff all day and night.
I'm like, yeah, well, I'm not going to give someone the benefit of the doubt to steal from me because they happen to be the other race.
That's stupid.
Then a white guy comes in and robs you.
But it goes the other way too with Harvard.
Telling, the way I always describe it is, whenever someone tells me they're for affirmative action, I say, then I want you to be the one to look that lower class Asian child in the face and tell them you will never be allowed in Harvard because you look like they look.
desmond fambrini
Right, and I think you bring up a very interesting point, and I also want to hear your perspective too, right?
But that idea of it being a touchy subject, and it's very interesting because I still remember to this day, you know, I don't want to do a story time to bore anyone, but like I remember in high school we had to actually make the arguments.
We did like the moot court.
Did anybody do that in high school?
Where you did the moot court in high school?
tim pool
I didn't go to high school.
desmond fambrini
Oh, right!
There you go.
We did a moot court, right, where you had to pick a side and you had to argue.
Like, okay, you're for affirmative action against affirmative action.
And I remember specifically that I wanted to argue against it.
And the reason I wanted to argue against it is, one, I wanted to get that perspective because, you know, on average, I do think it should be taken into consideration.
But two, I thought it was so just ambiguous how affirmative action was being played out, right, to the point where it actually could be accidentally Promoting what you're trying to fight it, right?
Like accidentally doing what you're actually out to be against, right?
Unfortunately.
So I thought that these systems were awful.
And I think that I think that the point system was terrible.
And I think that assuming everyone black has a harder time is a problem.
But I do think race should be taken into consideration.
And I want to go to your point, which is so amazingly valid, which is you cannot tell if somebody is a good or bad person based on their racial background.
However, on average, on average, which I know is dangerous, you can tell how somebody has experienced Life, or you can tell the treatment someone has received throughout life based on their racial background.
tim pool
I disagree.
desmond fambrini
And that's okay.
And I want to hear that perspective, right?
And I want to hear that perspective, but I know that when, and again, um, when I have like my black friends around me, there's a current under, there's an understanding of like how kind of interactions with, let's say police officers work, right?
But it's an assumption and it's, it's an assumption and it's, it, It's an average.
tim pool
I don't even necessarily think so.
You can look at New York, for instance.
Stop and Frisk.
Overwhelmingly targeted black neighborhoods.
Bloomberg was unapologetic in this.
He said, well, that's where the crime is, so we're going to go and work.
I'm like, first of all, they're doing it under the guise of violating these people's Second Amendment rights.
Yeah, no, no, no.
The argument from Stop and Frisk was you're not allowed to have guns.
desmond fambrini
Yeah.
tim pool
Are you kidding?
desmond fambrini
Yeah.
tim pool
I think that's absolutely insane that in this Democrat bastion of New York City, the police are targeting minority neighborhoods over whether or not they have guns.
And they say, oh, there's a lot of shootings there, so we do it.
And I'm like, well, that's a problem, right?
Because the Constitution says these people have a constitutional right to keep and bear arms.
And you passed some law, which I view as completely invalid, telling people they can't.
Then they go and they specifically target minority neighborhoods.
That I completely understand.
But I think the bigger issue is, it's mostly about poverty.
And what happens is, there are reasons why certain neighborhoods are impoverished historically, and this includes a large proportion of African American or Latino.
And so what ends up happening is, People like Bloomberg say it's the black neighborhood.
I'm like, well, it's actually a lower income neighborhood.
desmond fambrini
It is.
Yes.
tim pool
And again, targeting their Second Amendment rights.
But growing up on the South Side of Chicago, what was my experience?
The cops weren't harassing black people.
They're harassing all of us.
And so there was this cultural thing about the talk.
And all of these affluent white liberals and affluent, uh, you know, we call them awfuls, affluent white female liberals, are saying, like, it's so sad that, like, these poor black people have to get the talk from their parents.
And it was a commercial where it's, like, a guy putting his hands on the wheel, putting his keys in the dash, turning the radio down, and I'm like, that was not- we all got the talk.
I- in my neighborhood, white people, Everyone's parents gave them the talk.
Here's what you do when the police come around.
Here's how you act around cops.
Don't talk to cops.
When you get pulled over, you turn the car off, you put your keys, you turn the dome light on, you put your hands on the wheel, you know, uh, don't, you know, what is it like, uh...
What is it, like 10 and 3 or whatever?
And you roll the window down, then when the cop walks up, you look over and you ask the officer, you know, what the issue is.
Then all of a sudden I see in the corporate press and among prominent liberals, this is only a phenomenon of black people, which is fundamentally false.
It's a phenomenon of anybody who lives in cities who came from a poor area who had to deal with police.
Then the narrative becomes, black people have to deal with this more than anyone else, and I'm like, you know, now you're creating racial animosity.
Because if the real factor here is when it comes to affirmative action, when it comes to income, when it comes to education is not race, but it's in fact upward mobility.
And like, look, Oprah Winfrey's family is going to have no problem getting to Harvard.
Will Smith's family is going to have no problem getting to Harvard.
Yet the locals out in Appalachia ain't going anywhere near Harvard.
Now Harvard's outright saying they're going to give a net benefit to the children of these affluent, ultra wealthy celebrities.
And the poor people of Appalachia have no access based on race.
All that does is create racial tension, hatred, and animosity.
desmond fambrini
And it does create racial tension, and it's like you said, right?
Because we can look at test scores, right?
Who has the highest SAT scores?
Who has the highest scores?
It's not... I mean, you could look at how the race kind of is separated, but you... Top scores are from families that are 200,000 plus a year.
Yep.
tim pool
They can buy private tutors.
desmond fambrini
Yeah, private tutors, right?
And 1,000%, that's why I volunteer every Friday, right?
Because 1,000%, not to be like pompous, right?
But only a specific type of person can afford my services, and we need to make sure to disseminate that service to A broader group of people, right?
But with that said, it's very, very tricky because I think you bring up the point that is by far the most valid but overlooked point in affirmative action, which is money matters a lot, right?
People historically, not even just in America, but the poor population has always been mistreated throughout history.
Always.
It's just a fact, right?
And affirmative action should take that into consideration.
But hear me out.
Hear me out, right?
What if I said I was in favor of the Harvard affirmative action way that they're kind of getting around it, by making an essay?
And the reason I'm in favor of it, right?
And this is off the cusp, but I'm not 100% saying I have this opinion yet, right?
But I formulate my opinions over time.
It's not like an immediate thing, right?
But I'm saying, oh, I'm trying this opinion out.
I'm in favor of the Harvard Affirmative Action Essay because it takes into consideration somebody's individual struggle with race.
Will Smith's kids, Will Smith, shout out to you.
You're great.
You signed something for me once.
They won't have that.
Right?
But they won't have that.
They will not have, if it's an individual essay, they're, or they may, or they might, they might, right?
They may, and I'm not sure, I shouldn't make assumptions about people's family.
They may haven't had some racial issue that I was not aware of, right?
But they may not have it to the extent that some of my friends had it growing up in Oakland.
Right.
And I had an issue with that.
unidentified
Right.
desmond fambrini
I had an issue.
And I do have an issue with that.
So to me, Harvard policy, it's like, OK, we're going to do a race based essay and you're going to talk about what kind of racial issues that you've grown up with.
I would love to write that essay.
I would opt to write that essay and have that considered for my Dartmouth application.
Shout out to Dartmouth.
Let's go big green.
But I would want that because I know my racial background did affect my upbringing, but in a way that was very different than my black friends.
tim pool
I can somewhat agree.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
Only a little bit, maybe like 10%.
unidentified
I'll take 10.
tim pool
10's pretty good.
The issue is, Will Smith's kids are still going to be able to write an essay about something they perceive... They will be able to write an essay that somebody else cannot bear.
But so, I don't think Harvard should take into consideration that if you're the child of someone worth half a billion dollars, and you once had a cop pull you over, and they're like, oh wow, you know, we gotta take this into consideration because it's a racial component.
I think the answer is fairly simple, and it actually does play into some of the ideas of Marx.
Class-based oppression.
If the idea is typically that the black community is less likely to have wealth, therefore... And that's the argument made by the left.
They say, it's not an issue of race, it's an issue of poverty.
Crime is not because of the black community, it's because of poverty, and you see that across the board.
And then it gets misattributed to their race.
I agree with that.
So then...
Based on my experience, if you have an area that is typically, it is overwhelmingly minority population, but does have white people who are poor living there as well, you then go to that neighborhood and say, we're going to give either reparations or use affirmative action to lift you out of poverty based on race.
What ends up happening is you get this neighborhood of mixed race group.
Lower income, predominantly say black, but with maybe a small percentage of white people who live there.
And now you've just elevated all of the black population based only on their race and completely ignored the poor people living around them, which results in racism, gang violence.
Now you have people saying, these people, like they're going to say these people.
If you went and said by class, we will give you admission.
There's no real argument for that.
There's no legal argument for it.
Harvard can spend the money as they want to spend, and they can require tuition as they want to require tuition.
Then you'll end up with a neighborhood of a mixed-race background, but predominantly... If the idea among the left is that black people are more likely to be impoverished because of historical racism, If you did it by class, you would be arguing to disproportionately benefit these black communities while not leaving behind any poor people of any other racial background.
desmond fambrini
Totally fair.
tim pool
So we shouldn't be having race be the predicate for- I 100% see your point, yeah.
kelly schenkoske
And I was gonna say, I mean, with regards to all of this, I mean, again, We, I think one of the issues that I see massively in education, not just in California, is that there is this Marxian influence.
And not just, you know, like I mentioned earlier, Antonio Gramsci was mentioned in this one ethnic studies curriculum, and so was, there was a little reference to Karl Marx.
In addition to a variety of others, Paulo Freire, who is a Brazilian Marxist.
And I think the concerns I have is that I am seeing a growing number of some teachers who are indeed working towards political goals, politicizing kids into a political ideology.
I think You know, just from the stories I've heard from parents.
My son, my daughter, my children are experiencing, you know, all these political discussions in class.
And so, you know, even in California right now, we have the state seal of civic engagement program.
It is this whole push to to really get kids active and civically engaged.
But there is a component of activism.
Into this.
And then at the same time, we have parents that don't know how to go to school board meetings or feel like their, their speech is being chilled, um, by, by different things going on.
And so what I see, it just seems like, you know, the kids, kids are being taught almost in some schools, some, um, to be activists, whereas on the back burner, We have the actual academic achievement, merit, a quality education, a well-rounded education has changed.
You know, in California, they just passed the new math framework, equitable math kind of content.
And so what we're seeing is even the core subjects are transforming.
Right now, the next generation science standards are shifting a little bit.
I heard one report from Southern California where I was told that That science was shifting and some of the high school science topics were being diminished.
And in its place, the students were being encouraged to debate in class, in science class, whereas their actual academic rigor was diminished down to almost a middle school level, but activism was heightened in order for students to argue how to solve the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals.
So these are just some things that I think, you know, again, and you talked about money.
There's a lot of money in education.
There's a lot of big organizations funding different things, and their say is really making a big influence, I think, from what I've seen.
So, you know, I think kids are missing out.
They really need, they deserve a quality education.
They deserve to be able to graduate high school learning to read.
They should know how to read.
tim pool
We're out of time.
So if you want to give any final thoughts.
desmond fambrini
Well, I was going to say, I think you bring up a really good point, right?
But in the end, it's like that idea of like, well, even if your kid is the smartest in the world, who cares if they're not active and who cares if they're a bad person, right?
But I would just go to that idea of like, I think that there is a fundamental part of education that needs to be addressed.
And I do think that actual academic ability is very frequently not prioritized.
And just like you said, for us to Take part in activism for us to push our children to activism, right?
We need to make sure they have the fundamental skills first to make sure that they can think critically for themselves because if we push them into activism too soon, we're just going to push them into the activism that we think is important.
And that's not my job as an educator.
I want my students to go into activism they think is important, and I want their skills to kind of benefit that.
And I do think that in the long run, that is going to benefit kind of us in general.
And speaking to that affirmative action idea, I 100% see kind of that idea.
And it's so funny, I think it's like a perfect segue.
It's like it's the same issue in education, right?
That idea of like, oh gosh, you're just bringing up a certain group of people while leaving another behind.
an issue, right?
And it's so funny to have that cross comparison.
The only thing I would say is that inherently there's always gonna be a benefit from having diversity in the classroom and in the workplace.
And that's a personal opinion that I don't currently have the statistics to back up.
And you could disagree with that, right? - No, I don't think you even believe that.
- Okay, so hear me out.
Hear me out.
This is a good question, right?
I will say, fundamentally, I do think that a diverse workspace does create an environment for productivity that may not be the productivity of the greatest output, but hear me out.
tim pool
You don't believe this?
desmond fambrini
You don't think so?
unidentified
No.
desmond fambrini
You don't think so?
unidentified
No.
tim pool
Would you hire an overt Klan member in Klan robes to come into your office?
desmond fambrini
You know what I'm speaking for?
You know what I'm speaking for, actually, 100%?
tim pool
Your diversity.
desmond fambrini
Yeah, no, no, no, not even my diversity, right?
But like, hear me out.
Oh gosh, right?
And I have to say this.
I have to say this.
Oh, and don't be mad at me, because this is me doing affirmative action.
I make sure I have at least two to three students.
I have at least a client list of like 30 to 40, right?
I make sure I have at least three or four students that are Trump families.
Like a thousand percent, I make sure of it.
Because it'd be weird.
But what I'm talking about, I'm not- No, but I'm just saying like diversity to me, having a diverse client list, having diverse friends is important.
tim pool
How many Klan members?
desmond fambrini
No, unfortunately not.
tim pool
But this is my point.
unidentified
I know what you mean.
tim pool
I wouldn't want one of these people.
I wouldn't hire one of these people.
I would certainly have a conversation with them.
desmond fambrini
You mean like holistic diversity?
I 1000% understand your point.
tim pool
So when people say diversity, they don't actually mean it.
desmond fambrini
What they mean is... Okay, like the diversity that you find beneficial.
Like, selective diversity.
tim pool
So, diversity basically just means the people I think are worth having around.
desmond fambrini
Okay, I got you.
tim pool
So, when everyone says, we believe in diversity, like they called Black Panther diverse.
unidentified
Yeah.
tim pool
I'm like, the cast was 90% black, what are you talking about?
unidentified
I got you, I got you.
tim pool
And so, you hear all these people talk about diversity, equity, and inclusion.
desmond fambrini
Right.
tim pool
Yeah, but it's a good point on the Trump thing, they'll fire Trump's reporter in two seconds.
Right.
They talk about diversity and then they say, you know, they end up hiring disproportionate people of different backgrounds and races.
desmond fambrini
So you're right, actually.
tim pool
Nobody wants a truly diverse life.
I certainly don't.
You don't.
We don't want Nazis around.
desmond fambrini
No, that was like a total gotcha moment, right?
Because using diversity in its actual dictionary definition, you are correct, right?
tim pool
It's personal perspective on who you think.
desmond fambrini
Just like you said in your other podcast where that idea of like, well, where do you intervene?
Well, it's a moral idea, right?
Do you intervene on circumcising kids or do you intervene on circumcising females?
You want to intervene where you think you're... It's a moral framework.
Framework.
So I think promoting a moral framework of diversity is important.
However, everyone's moral framework is going to be different, and that's kind of up for individual interpretation.
tim pool
Final thoughts?
desmond fambrini
Final thoughts.
We can keep going.
kelly schenkoske
I mean, with regards to DEI, which in our area is called JEDI, justice, equity, diversity, and inclusion, not only am I noticing the educational aspect, but then there's environmental social governance scores.
And Corporate Equality Index, I feel like there is this pressure.
Not I feel, I see it.
There is a pressure for collective conformity of one mode of thought, which is the acceptable mode of thought.
And those who are not of that, the shift from I to we are going to be on the outskirts.
I mean, we see that on social media, too.
So at any rate, I think it's important that we have That individuality, because that's freedom.
tim pool
Right on.
We're way over, but thank you both for hanging out.
desmond fambrini
I appreciate talking to everyone.
tim pool
Is there anything you wanted to mention?
Any shout out before we wrap up?
Social media or something?
I don't know.
desmond fambrini
Desmond Fambrini on all handles, and see, people with different perspectives can talk to each other without yelling.
tim pool
There was a little bit of yelling, but it was mostly a lot.
desmond fambrini
It was mostly fun yelling.
tim pool
Right, yeah.
kelly schenkoske
I'm mainly on Twitter, KellySKE.
tim pool
Thank you, everybody, for hanging out for this episode of The Culture War Podcast.
Next week's gonna be a lot of fun, everyone already knows.
I believe next week is Laura Loomer and Bill Mitchell.
We're gonna be talking about Trump versus DeSantis, which is, it's getting a bit difficult considering the current state of the polls and all that, but I hope you check it out, and you can support the show by becoming a member at timcast.com.
Thanks for hanging out.
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