Where There's Woke - Thomas Smith - WTW87: The New York Times Pride Hate Crime, Part 2

Aug. 1, 2025 - Where There's Woke - Thomas Smith

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WTW87: The New York Times Pride Hate Crime, Part 2

Part 2 of 2. Andrew Sullivan continues his screed and we continue to tear it apart. But Lydia won't let us leave on an angry note, so she shares her experience attending San Francisco Pride this year - her first Pride EVER! **If you enjoy our work, please consider leaving a 5-star review! You can always email questions, comments, and leads to lydia@seriouspod.com.** Please pretty please consider becoming a patron at patreon.com/wherethereswoke!

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	What's so scary about the woke mob, how often you just don't see them coming?
	Anywhere you see diversity, equity, and inclusion, you see Marxism and you see woke principles being pushed.
	Wokeness is a virus more dangerous than any pandemic hands down.
	The woke monster is here and it's coming for everything, everything, everything, everything, everything.
	Instead of go-go boots, the seductious green M ⁇ M will now wear sneakers.
	Hello and welcome to Where There's Woke.
	This is episode 87.
	I'm Thomas Smith.
	That over there is Lydia Smith.
	How you doing?
	Hi, wokies.
	I missed my wokies.
	Yeah.
	So happy to be here.
	So happy to talk to all of you and so happy that we're getting these out.
	Couple of my favorite ones for sure.
	I know we talked about that last episode, but I got to agree.
	I got to agree.
	Yeah, I'm really excited for people to hear part two.
	This is, again, this is something that we were and are still very fired up about.
	And I can't get over.
	I'll never get out.
	Die mad, as they say.
	I will die mad.
	I'll die mad about how easy it is to get a New York Times column.
	Just super easy.
	That's the thing they think DEI is.
	I say it all the time.
	The thing they think diversity, the thing they think affirmative action is, is actually just if you're conservative, then you get to just-And whiny enough.
	Yeah.
	If you whine enough, you're conservative enough, and you maybe sometimes you have a marginalized identity, that helps too, because then they get to take advantage of that.
	Yep.
	And then they get fast tracked in the New York Times, even though they've, it would be one thing if they're like talented, you know, but it's just garbage.
	just absolute garbage that we had to do two parts on it and here's part two so when we last left our hero uh he was yelling he's talking about some other reason why the gay rights movement has gone too far for him personally, you know, these damn kids and their music.
	Get off my lawn.
	Yeah, it's more getting off my lawn, yelling at clouds.
	And this one centers around use of language.
	So we're going to pick right up after the break with his qualms about the use of language in the new iteration of gay rights, which should have folded after it won.
	So should have dissolved the movement.
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	Like I said last time, we're going to get our butts and gear more on this show.
	I miss it.
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	We've made changes.
	We're making changes and we've made changes to workloads so that we can actually get back to this content because I think it really is the forefront of where we are.
	This anti-woke crap is not going away.
	And I feel like single handedly, we need to take it on and point out that the anti-woke is actually the woke.
	It's this reversed full circle.
	They're the whining little babies whining about everything.
	Not that there ever was a woke mob in the sense that they mean it, but the thing, just like the affirmative action thing, the thing they're actually thinking of is them.
	Anynyway, all that is to say, we're getting back into the swing of things and we're going to try and include some video content as well because so much of this stuff would be very good in video because we're talking about videos oftentimes, not in this one, but in like in the Sydney Sweeney one, for example.
	And so we're excited to get more stuff out to you.
	Thanks to those who stuck with us and looking forward to more in the month of August.
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	All right, quote, queer was a way of summing up the new regime, a clear sign that this really was a different movement than the gay, lesbian, and transgender civil rights movement of the past.
	It's a word that can easily trigger gay men over 40 who remember it as the last slur they once heard before being bashed in the head.
	But one of the striking aspects of the younger queer generation is their disdain for those who came before them.
	What?
	I don't know.
	Give me proof of that, because that's a big claim..
	Hey, the people who are fighting for queer rights right now, they hate me and are mad at me or something.
	They disdain.
	Give me proof of that.
	Give me an example.
	What is that?
	What's the example?
	Give me the fucking example.
	Do they actually have disdain for people who, quote, came before them?
	Or do they have disdain for you who's trying to shut the fucking door on them because you got your rights and you don't want anyone else to have theirs?
	Is that what they actually hate?
	And I'm not going to take any part in this conversation.
	by way of expressing an opinion on groups reappropriating things that were once slurs against them.
	I have no opinion on that because I'm not part of that group.
	My opinion is pointless, doesn't matter.
	But just to say what's happening here, there are groups and black people have done this too, other groups, where they have reappropriated for themselves words that were once offensive that are still often still slurs.
	I've seen it too with like the F word for gay people too, like trying to take it back.
	I don't take any part in that because those aren't my groups.
	I'm not, those words don't belong to me.
	I don't use them in that way.
	Yeah.
	And I could go ahead, like if someone in those groups said, hey, I'm kind of uncomfortable with that because like I've heard that as a slur a lot.
	I'm like, hey, I have empathy for that.
	I'm not the decider of that in any way, of course, but I have empathy for that.
	I could see that being weird.
	Like I actually have long thought like, yeah, I might be a little uncomfortable with that just because these words can really hurt and i know that's a debate within communities often and fun you know andrew sullivan is a gay man he's welcome obviously to this opinion his opinion on this is valid if he doesn't want to hear that i understand that but there's other people who are in in the queer movement who are like Andrew Sullivan, who are gay, who are trans, who are bi, who are whatever, and they have a different view on that.
	And that's kind of how that goes.
	And I'm sure if you were in conversation with them and they ever referred to you, Andrew, in a way that you didn't like, if they called you queer and you said, hey, I don't, I just, I've been called that.
	I am one million percent positive they would respect that.
	Yep.
	That's an interpersonal thing that you could express.
	And that would be valid.
	I would be like, yeah, okay.
	That's, you know, if it were me, I'd be like, do my best to remember that, obviously.
	And I won't, won't, I will respect that.
	Yeah.
	This is not a, some way to take down a whole movement.
	This is you have a different opinion than.
	what seems like kind of a majority.
	I think queer has been embraced.
	This is, again, not my value judgment.
	This is just my observation.
	I think it's kind of been widely embraced by the community.
	And I think it's great for what that's worth.
	It's just a nice, like, all-encompassing word that I think really does get at the important thing that this is a movement against.
	against rigid, fascistic, hegemonic, Christian, what's the ultimate word I'm looking for?
	Enforcement of gender rules, enforcement of sexuality, enforcement of marriage in the way they want to see.
	For that reason, again, I want to emphasize my opinion's not important, but just because I'm here, I like the word queer in that way because I think it really does effectively capture all of it together.
	It's very inclusive.
	Well, it embraces.
	difference for the sake of difference, right?
	Like that's something that makes our world more beautiful, right?
	Is everyone being.
	It's so inclusive because guess what?
	If there's a group who's protesting for queer rights, let's say, and let's say you've got a gay man, you've got a lesbian, you've got a bisexual person, and you've got a trans person.
	And if you say, no, what we actually need to say is gay.
	Well, guess what?
	The trans person is going to be like, I'm not gay.
	They might be completely straight.
	The trans person might not be at all gay and not really identify with that word.
	And same goes for non-binary people.
	I don't know.
	They might define themselves differently.
	And so queer is a way of capturing all of that.
	that it strikes me as way more inclusive yeah so that that's how it comes across to me but i i would grant that his opinion on this is valid and and he should express that opinion and i'm sure on an interpersonal level, anyone in this movement would recognize that.
	Like if he's in any situation where he expresses like, hey, I'm not comfortable with that word, I'm positive they'd be fine with it.
	But you don't get to police the words for everybody else, regardless of if you're in this group.
	You know, like that's just not how anything works.
	Like you can have your opinion.
	That's your opinion, man.
	As I watched all this radical change, I wondered if I was just another old fart shaking my fist at the sky like every older generation known to man.
	Why not just accept that?
	And just end, yeah, just end of article.
	Why not just end your article right there?
	Yeah, I wanted to.
	Sorry, finish that sentence.
	I am back to reading, everybody.
	This is not me opining on Andrew Sullivan.
	Why not just accept that the next gay and lesbian generation has new ideas, has moved on, and old timers like me should just move on.
	That one paragraph could have been your article.
	And in fact, it's not an article.
	That could have been what you wrote in your diary.
	And then no one else needed to see it.
	Yeah.
	Do that in therapy.
	Obviously, I have disdain for Andrew Sullivan, but I have even more disdain for the New York Times because Andrew Sullivan's going to Andrew Sullivan.
	I get it.
	If someone's going to give him a fucking platform to write his bullshit, I, you know, he's going to take it.
	I disagree with it and he sucks.
	But like, what is the New York Times doing?
	Just fucking what are you doing?
	And some of the changes are indeed welcome.
	The greater acceptance of trans people is a huge step forward for all of us.
	Oh yeah?
	Oh is it?
	Yeah.
	But then, as I told my friends, gay, trans, and everyone else, I'd always believed this and always supported trans civil rights.
	I was glad when five years ago the Supreme Court gave transgender people civil rights protection and employment.
	I don't have time to go into it now, but Bostock has been quietly limited and it hasn't been reversed or anything yet.
	But it's been limited and kind of like carved away at, chipped away at in the same way that, you know, Roberts likes to deal with all of our fundamental rights over time.
	Although this is much quicker.
	I mean, it's weird to do that to something that's four years old.
	But yeah, Bostock is very simple minded and naive to look at Bostock as some like ironclad protection that like that, that saved trans people.
	All great now.
	Not true.
	It was a very nice, surprising, positive decision that everyone...
	I'm attracted to the former and not to the latter.
	Smell their alleles.
	And now I'm supposed to believe the difference doesn't exist.
	No, you're not supposed to believe that.
	There's definitely differences.
	There are differences, broadly speaking, between men and women biologically.
	Trans men have more in common with cis men, though.
	And that's just, you can look at the science.
	You can have a curious mind and look at the science of it.
	It's really interesting.
	But no, no one thinks that biology is irrelevant to all this.
	No one thinks that it's a straw man argument.
	Because sex is different than gender, is different than sexual orientation, is different than, like, these are just.
	separate ideas and entities.
	In the same way that eliminating rigid enforcement of the gender binary does not mean getting rid of men and getting rid of women.
	In that same way, saying, hey, biology is not determinative.
	Biology is not the only thing.
	Biology is not fate.
	That's what I understand the movement to be.
	And you can find people who take a, you know, kind of a more further out view that like, oh, no, there's no such thing.
	as gender or sex or whatever.
	And you might be able to find those people.
	I don't really agree with that.
	I think it's pretty common in human parlance and dealings to say, well, vast majority of people fall within this range here.
	Like it tends to be, people tend to be cis.
	Like that's just how it tends to be.
	But importantly, that's a tendency.
	It's not 100%.
	And it doesn't fucking take anything away from me if other people aren't cis.
	It just doesn't at all.
	It adds to our world.
	And this has been the same bullshit for decades, the same bullshit.
	You just take the most extreme version you can think of.
	assign that as like that's the the monotheistic view or whatever of everybody in this movement i would be curious to ask my trans friends or anyone in the movement like do you think that being a man or a woman has nothing to do with biology like there's i mean i guess you could could be pedantic and be like, because it isn't determinative, then therefore it has nothing to do with it.
	But I don't really, that's not how I would think of it.
	I would think like, yeah, no, there's definitely a big overlap.
	It definitely overlaps, but it's not determinative.
	I just think like all of it is so vapid.
	or it is disingenuous.
	Like those are the only two options because to think that the brain is not complex, to think that biology is not complex, to think that genetics is not complex, to think that culture is not complex, to think that society is not complex, like you'd have to be an absolute idiot to genuinely believe that.
	And I don't think he is.
	I think he's disingenuous and weaponizing this language to stoke fear among the readers, like, and a story.
	Yeah.
	I'm more than happy to accept that there are some people, not all that many, who don't fit in that binary and want to be protected from discrimination and allowed full access to medical intervention.
	Yeah, then a thing you could have just written in your diary and not Yeah, then why are we here?
	Yeah.
	In order to live lives that are true to who they are.
	Really?
	And I'm with them all the way.
	Really?
	Okay.
	Does someone else write this part?
	Hey, just butting in here.
	I'm going to write a paragraph for him.
	After all, I too am a part of a minority.
	Most people live their lives governed by heterosexual desire.
	Privileged assholes who get to write in the New York Times.
	Oh, no, thanks to the gay and lesbian movement, I'm not being asked to.
	But abolishing the sex binary first.
	I get that they often do the hand-wavy, whatever you call it, where they're like, look, I'm the last person who's a racist or whatever the fuck it might be.
	But like, it's actually kind of funny how far he goes.
	Like, he goes so far as to completely contradict the entire point.
	of his article.
	Yeah.
	Because I would have just assumed he's like, look, I'm cool with, you know, if people kind of want to quietly be trans, but I don't want to hear about it.
	Like, I kind of assume that's what he's getting at with all this.
	But he's saying he accepts that their people don't fit in that binary and they want to be protected from discrimination and allowed full access to medical interventions.
	Are you kidding me?
	Then when I'm with them all the way, then I'm like, you're going to fight alongside the fucking article you're writing.
	How about you write about how the New York Times and like so many people along with the New York fucking Times itself have fundamentally undermined trans people's right to the medical care they deserve.
	Yeah.
	That's what you should be writing about then, I guess, because if this is the thing you're hand waving at, like, oh, look, I support that.
	Oh, really?
	Because that's completely under threat now.
	We're at risk of losing that fucking everywhere.
	And you're going to include that as part of your, of course, you know, of course, like I'm in favor of like this stuff that's about we're about to lose but that's not important right now what's important is the people whose rights are about to be taken away have at times been a little annoying like that's the article you're writing stupid all right he continues but abolishing the sex binary for the entire society nobody's doing that no one's doing that that's a whole other thing entirely and madness i believe i agree i don't think we're going to be
	able to do that i will never yeah i agree like there's no we're not going to do it's just stupid to even think about that it's like fighting this is the dumbest paragraph i've ever seen here we go ready everybody what if i redefined what it is to be heterosexual and imposed it on straight people or changed what it means to be a man or a woman for that matter, then it ceases to be accommodation of a minority and becomes a society-wide revolution, an overreach that would soon lead to a potent and sane backlash against not just trans people.
	Sane backlash.
	Yeah, against not just trans people, but gay men and lesbians as well.
	Hey, I'm going to educate you, Andrew Sullivan, because apparently you weren't there for the gay rights movement or something, but they did this exact fucking thing with your movement.
	With your identity.
	Yes.
	The entire thing was, you can't call it marriage.
	You can't.
	Look, I guess I'm okay.
	The Andrew Sullivanlivan of 2004, which was me, you know, sadly, before I grew some sense and learned, was, hey, it's just, you can't call it marriage.
	Like, I'm cool with them having a thing.
	You know, they can have a thing.
	civil union that was actually the majority position back then yeah and it's funny how parallel that is to now you would be the andrew sullivan who probably you know was andrew sullivan back then i don't know i don't know how he thought about it then but like that was the andrew sullivan of 2001 2 3 4 around that time that i remember was hey the majority position the hilary rhode um clinton position like kind of at times in running for stuff, like the mainstream centrist dem position was civil unions.
	Give them civil unions.
	It's a compromise, but you can't change what it means to be married.
	You can't change for everyone what it means to be married.
	It's the exact same fucking argument, Andrew.
	It's the same fucking argument.
	You can't change what it means to be married for me.
	If you gay marry, then I am gay or something.
	That's what they said.
	It's line for line identical, except you've now changed gender.
	Yeah.
	Hey, you can't change gender for me.
	No one is.
	They're not.
	No one's doing that.
	The gay rights movement, especially in the marriage years, had long asked for simple, liberal equality and mutual.
	respect.
	Live and let live.
	Reform, not revolution.
	What do we want?
	Sensible a little bit of kind of rights.
	Whenever you guys are cool with it.
	Whenever you get around to it.
	Now I remember all the marches and the stupid.
	No one's straight marriage would change if gay marriage arrived, we pledged.
	You can bring up your children however you like.
	We will leave you alone.
	It's just like when they handed some bricks to people at Stonewall.
	We will leave your children alone.
	Oh, my God.
	This is such a, like, I think he's absorbed this idea that the LGBTQ community should be feared as pedophiles or something like like that language there you know the grooming and like trying to turn people into gay people yeah yeah they did all this exact stuff you're just saying the same arguments they did against you literally you but you're not seeing that it's the same i just love this they were they were so sensible those gay people all they wanted was a
	little bit of politely some rights that's why they gift wrapped those bricks and handed them to people at stonewall that's why they said here here's a brick that's what they did yeah would anyone like a brick if you want.
	It's just so fucking stupid.
	But in the wake of victory, LGBTQ plus groups reneged on that pledge.
	They demanded that the whole society change in a fundamental way so that the sex binary no longer counted.
	Counted.
	Sorry.
	What does that mean?
	Yeah, I don't know.
	What does that mean, Andrew?
	Andrew Sullivan, when does your sex binary not get when does it count or not count?
	Actually, is what I want to know.
	Yeah.
	Or do you get like credit at like Target for it or something?
	Like what, what, what is that?
	Discount.
	Stupid.
	Elementary school children were taught that being a boy or a girl might not have anything to do with their bodies.
	And then wait, wait, wait., wait.
	Yeah.
	Wait.
	Yeah.
	I remember reading a New York Times article.
	God, when was it?
	Oh, 30 seconds ago, where somebody said, who was it?
	Let me quote this New York Times opinion piece I just read.
	Man, having a hard time.
	Oh, yeah.
	Okay.
	I think the quote was, I'm more than happy to accept that there are some people who don't fit in that binary and want to be protected from discrimination.
	Who was that author?
	Hmm.
	Sounds familiar.
	Oh, yeah.
	It was three paragraphs ago.
	It was you.
	A second ago, you were saying, I accept that X. And now you're saying, but now elementary school children are being taught that X. Well, but you said you agree with that.
	So you think this is a fact of our universe, but you're not allowed to teach kids facts of the universe.
	Is that?
	It's also not part of curriculum.
	No, it's not.
	That's just, it's stupid.
	Here and there, like it might get incidentally mentioned in a kid's book, but I don't really think they do that much because it's such a, they're so scared of the fucking Christian fascists that I wouldn't.
	Especially not in the wake of Mahmood v.
	Oh, God.
	Well, yeah.
	Now it's gone.
	Now it's, yeah, exactly.
	It's gone now.
	Another well-timed point, Andrew Sullivan.
	Elementary school children were taught that being a boy or a girl might not have anything to do with their their bodies and that their parents had merely guessed whether they were a boy or a girl when they were born.
	Okay.
	In fact, sex was no longer to be recognized at birth it was now merely assigned penciled in we got new terms like chest feeding for breastfeeding and birthing parent for mother fuck you it's not just fuck you so he's so deep in like the x nonsense this is stuff that's not normal but he can't even muster a hyperlink in that paragraph no no nary forget a reference or what i know they don't do that in opinion pieces because they're just trash at this point but
	forget a reference or a citation to something real he can't even give me a a link to a tweet it's just elementary school children were taught which ones where when did that happen?
	Who won?
	How did it end?
	To quote Princess Bright.
	What are you talking where when how big of a deal was that also that's correct also they were taught a thing you just said in your article was correct five minutes ago they're taught a fact cool i like when kids are taught facts that's good isn't that what school is for yeah and nobody says they merely guessed where you whether you were a boy and like again we're as trans rights friendly as they come we're fully in support but you know Our kids, we just referred to them by the gender that it seems they are until they tell us otherwise.
	Unconsistent pronouns with them.
	Unconsistent pronouns with us until they tell us otherwise, in which case we're not.
	That's the key point.
	Until they tell us otherwise, and then we listen to them.
	Yeah, because, you know, I don't remember the percentages but it might be like i don't know how many people are cis isn't it like 99 of people you know it's a 90 98 maybe yeah sure playing the odds but if that doesn't end up being right guess what we'll adjust it's fine no one cares yeah this isn't a problem for anyone all right time to call out somebody in here oh we're going to get a hyperlink so i can actually we can look at a thing that's nice all right a key leader of this movement Chase Strangio
	informed us that quote, a penis is not a male body part.
	It's just an unusual body part for a woman.
	I think we should stop there so we can look at that.
	It's a New York Times article.
	And then I just searched penis.
	I'm going to search penis.
	Yeah, I just have that saved as a search.
	Yeah.
	So what's funny is, I don't know if this is just a New York Times thing, but if you search penis and you get to it, it's actually just referencing a different thing from Slate.
	So it was quoted in this New York Times article, which was probably transphobic shit.
	I don't know, because it usually is if it's about trans rights or trans people.
	Well, it was talking about the Skermetti ruling.
	Yeah, okay.
	Well, but no, but it's linking elaborate.
	So yeah, was it oral arguments or something?
	What was it?
	No, this is when it.
	Let's just read the paragraph.
	More than 20 LGBTQ rights groups signed on to the messaging plan.
	The ACLU did not.
	Strangio, working on an ACLU team suing North Carolina, objected to the framing.
	According to two people present for the discussion, Strangio disputed that a trans woman could be, quote, born with a male body or born male.
	In his view, a trans woman was born a woman just like any other woman.
	There was no such thing as a, quote, male body.
	Strangio told his colleagues, a penis is not a male body part.
	It's just an unusual body part for a woman.
	Before the advertisement aired, Strangio elaborated on his critique in an article on Slate.
	Many advocates defend the use of the born male or born with a male body narrative as being easier for non-transgender people to understand, Strangio wrote.
	Of course, it is easier to understand since it reinforces deeply entrenched views about what makes a man and what makes a woman.
	But it is precisely these views that we must change.
	Okay, so Chase elaborated on it.
	Yeah, and from in 2016.
	Well, and the position there is that a penis is a body part.
	Yeah.
	And whether or not it is a man's penis or a woman's penis is due to gender identity.
	Is that what he's getting at there?
	Yeah.
	Chase, as a trans man, has this view, and you're free to read it and agree or disagree.
	But I also have to point out that the New York Times article was how the transgender rights movement bet on the Supreme Court and lost.
	Yeah.
	The inside story of a case that could set the movement back a generation.
	Boy, where the fucking victim blame you fucking assholes?
	God damn.
	I mean, maybe there's something to the legal argument.
	I feel like I read this at the time.
	It's a little bit, you know, what is this from?
	Oh, no, this is recent.
	Yeah, this is when we lost Skermetti.
	So just a couple weeks ago.
	Yeah.
	So this is victim blaming bullshit because what happened was people defended trans people's rights in the way that they absolutely should.
	And the Supreme Court decided that because the New York Times, among other people, have created an alternate reality in which medicine isn't medicine and they've, they've successfully.
	poisoned the well on this issue for a nation.
	The Supreme Court went the wrong way on it.
	This was not trans people setting themselves back a generation.
	It's just victim blaming shit.
	And in order to make that point, that part where we were at is talking about what something Chase Strangio said in 2016.
	What?
	And that's actually funny because that's one year after what Sullivan is calling the heyday of the gay rights movement, right?
	Like that's back then.
	That's back in the time when it should have been winding down or whatever.
	Like according to him, it's this march, this inevitable march toward penises being not male body parts or whatever.
	But like that was back then, dude.
	Now I'm looking at the slate article and it's interesting.
	read it.
	That's certainly a compelling view.
	And for whatever it's worth, I'm not sure I agree with that framing.
	I think that I think it's a very worthy and worthwhile argument to consider.
	But I tend to be very practical.
	And I just think that like, this would be a hard change to institute, you know, like, I think it's going to be tough to take on.
	There's also like a philosophy to this too, right?
	Like this feels more like, you know, what is a chair sort of thing, like understanding language and understanding like how we define things.
	think it's like this is policy and legislation exactly let me read the last sentence let me read the last of the slate article of the slate article okay because if andrew sullivan is correct what the last paragraph should say is and therefore as president of earth i have now taken away everyone's penises to be handed back when they prove that they agree with me on gender whatever like that's what the last thing should say here's what it actually says from 2016 before trump by the way before trump was elected this is july 2016 It says,
	I was assigned female at birth, but I have never had a female body.
	If it takes longer to convince, and this is pretty much in reply to the point I was just making, if it takes longer to convince the world of that, then it would to simply say that I was born with a female body, but am now male, I am invested in that longer path because ultimately we will all be better off when we can challenge the idea that our body parts define us.
	Yep.
	Hey, well said, well written, well argued.
	I respect the hell out of that argument and out of Chase Strangio.
	And maybe I'll be convinced of that if I'm going to take some time later to read this full article and see.
	But that's just one trans person in the year 2016 expressing their view of this particular language debate.
	Yeah.
	You know, and I think it's a worthy view and it's worth considering.
	And I love that Chase, it doesn't say, and therefore I am enforcing this on all of you.
	It says, hey, if this takes longer, the point that Thomas.
	weirdly just made before reading this, like nine years in the future, whatever.
	Chase is a time traveler.
	If it takes longer to convince people of this, then so be it.
	I'm going to invest in.
	Yeah.
	Yeah.
	Chase is invested in trying to convince people of a thing.
	Yeah.
	I mean, how fucking sensitive and triggered do you have to be to quote this as like, no, this is the new fascism.
	Well, yeah.
	He goes so far to say, Chase Strangio informed us.
	that a penis is not a male body part.
	Oh, yeah.
	Not an asshole.
	Yeah.
	Yeah.
	Where did we get to here?
	We all were suddenly expected to announce our pronouns as if everyone didn't already know.
	Then.
	know then neo pronouns z zem were added the movement came up with a mantra trans women are women trans men are men it was not an argument nor a proposition to be explored or debated it was a theological command in all caps sorta like how black people are people yeah black people matter i i don't brook argument on that yeah you know like fine guilty Yeah, Andrew Sullivan, you want to debate?
	Yeah, black women matter.
	Tall women are women.
	Short men are men.
	Not debating it.
	I'm pretty sure mantras like on their face are also not propositions to be explored.
	Like they're supposed to be a rallying cry for the community.
	What a great point.
	Yeah.
	Usually when people get together for a protest, the thing they're chanting is like an invitation like, hey, Mitt, should we go to lunch later to debate?
	You know, it's usually like that.
	No.
	Willy, your best argument.
	I don't know.
	We all get together and make our sense.
	What do you guys think?
	What do you guys think?
	That's a way to make change.
	Oh, yeah.
	Yeah.
	So funny.
	Whose mantra is an invitation of debate.
	Like that's not, that's just not how any humans work at all.
	Was there any debate among gays and lesbians about this profound change?
	No, hold on.
	We got to stop here.
	Yes, yes.
	Here's where I want to grant that I think that, and I think there's a lot of trans people who thought that making everyone announce their pronouns was that also not a great thing because sometimes it really put a focus on trans like there'd be a thing and i'm just expressing views i've seen i don't know about this but i've seen one trans person talk about how that kind of made it feel like all the cis people were announcing their pronouns for that trans person to announce their pronouns, which then felt like this sort of weird.
	They expressed that it felt weird.
	That might have been contrapoints, I think.
	Contrapoints was saying that that felt really, really weird in that mindset.
	Like exposing.
	Yeah, and almost like kind of a faux allyship that kind of didn't really.
	So people disagree on that.
	I think a lot of people are in favor of pronouns everywhere.
	I personally haven't really been in favor of it.
	And this is not a strongly held view.
	Like I could be talked either way into this.
	But I sort of feel like it's almost more normal if it's just like we just use.
	pronouns.
	It's not like a trans person's choice of pronouns.
	It's just what their pronouns are their pronouns and you learn them and use them.
	I don't know.
	Maybe that's wrong.
	I'm not sure.
	I think there's reasons and formats where it's better where it's better, where it's helpful.
	And I know that whenever, by the way, whenever I'm in a forum or a place or whatever, they ask me for my pronouns.
	I'm like, cool, here's my pronouns.
	It's fine.
	I don't, it's not a big deal.
	I think, largely speaking, there may be an argument that the good that this might do may have been outweighed by the backlash that this caused because it kind of did make it, it made it more salient for a bunch of people and it didn't really accomplish much.
	But I also don't look at this as some, to the point of the next paragraph, that's the most idiotic point in the world.
	I don't really think movements and groups of people work in some way where we could have gone to the fucking Knights of the Round Table when they decided this and been like, hey, why don't you all vote the other way on the whole pronouns thing?
	And then that was like a realistic action we could have taken.
	It's just not like, it kind of evolved and people wanted to be supportive of trans people.
	And by the way, a lot of trans people wanted it and that's what it was.
	I don't really see it as like, this was a turn that the movement consciously took in order to fuck over Andrew Sullivan.
	Like it just, you know what I mean?
	Like I might be of the opinion that largely speaking, i i'm not sure that was the right move strategically i don't know but also what could have been done is that more important or is what's more important fighting for people's rights in the courts and the whatever and continuing to change minds on this i we don't movements don't make these central they're not centralized.
	They don't make these decisions in a democratic vote that then is something like, it's just not how anything works.
	I do have a quick question though before we move on.
	The opportunity to ask what someone's pronouns are, I would imagine is really important for folks that identify as non-binary because like otherwise you're just going to assume based on how they look like or potentially their name that it's, you know, she or he.
	And that I feel like could be really, really invalidating for a person who's non-binary that prefers to go by they.
	And like, I don't know, it's one of those things where I struggle to say that that was the wrong choice and wrong path to take.
	It unfortunately is, it's an easy thing for stupid people on the right to blow out of proportion and come up with silly things and say that that's what people want to be called.
	Yeah.
	Good points.
	I think that another thing that I try to do and make a habit of is you also can just use our names.
	Not refer to pronouns as much.
	You know, yeah, especially in an unknown situation.
	Yep.
	And there's not really anything wrong with that.
	But these things that create these reactionary backlashes are anytime it's any sort of the slightest, slightest possible.
	ask of America to maybe think about something for one tenth more of one second than it's just a fucking reactionary backlash.
	It's just so pathetic.
	And I hope, and maybe if I, I don't know if I said, if I said it, I didn't mean like this was a wrong or bad decision, but I just think if you were to take an analysis of like the trade-offs of.
	Yeah.
	What happened with that?
	I feel like it probably created more backlash than it really helped.
	Maybe.
	But also, again, that's not a way.
	I agree with you.
	It's not a way that you can make a decision.
	It's not like a wrong decision someone made because it's just not how things work.
	Like it's just naturally kind of evolved.
	And I think that analysis would be completely fair because it also helps us inform decisions later on, too.
	And like things that maybe could help protect against some of that reactionary backlash.
	Yeah.
	If you are.
	in a place making policy, and maybe that would be Andrew Sullivan's argument that some, you know, HR and companies made you do this.
	I hadn't seen a lot of that.
	I mean, it might have been like that.
	It's your email signature.
	Yeah.
	Like that would have been, you know, the biggest thing.
	Exactly.
	I don't remember it being like enforced on anyone.
	Maybe if it was like, yeah, maybe that's not.
	a great decision.
	Maybe shouldn't enforce people putting their pronouns if they don't want to.
	Like even, again, even trans people might feel that way.
	Yeah.
	Because it might out them in a way that they're not wanting to sort of, or if not, that like draw attention to them in a way they don't want.
	So yeah, who knows?
	But again, it all has to be put in this grander conspiracy against Andrew Sullivan in particular that's just so pathetic but here's how andrew sullivan thinks it works you ready Yeah.
	Was there any debate among gays and lesbians about this profound change?
	A vote taken?
	Oh, yeah.
	Or even a poll of gay men and lesbians?
	None that I can find or recall.
	Why would there be that?
	Or even.
	I like the or even.
	Like, you're right.
	There should have at least been a poll of gay men and lesbians about how they feel about it.
	Let me pull up the list serve.
	What are you talking about?
	Like, I don't, I actually can't tell if that's entirely snark.
	I don't.
	It probably is, but like.
	he says or even a poll like that the language there suggests that like there should have been i don't know maybe it's a joke but no that's not how anything fucking works you idiot yeah and as in other, quote, social justice spaces, dissent was equated with bigotry.
	Okay.
	Dissenters from gender ideology are routinely unfriended, shunned, and shamed.
	Almost all of the gay men, trans people, almost all of the gay men, trans people, and lesbians who have confided in me that they don't agree with this or think that J.K. Rowling or Martina Navratilova have some good points have said so, so de voce, lest anyone overhear.
	No, they only get to write New York Times opinion columns about it.
	That's the only place it's safe.
	The only place it's safe to express this fucking opinion is in the very goddamn article I'm reading right now.
	That clause also is like one of the gayest things like in this whole thing., very operatic.
	That's the extremely intolerant and illiberal atmosphere that now exists in the gay, lesbian and transgender space.
	This little community used to champion all manner of expression or argument or speech, eccentrics and visionaries.
	Doubt it.
	Now it's fearful, self-censored and extremely uptight.
	Debate has been all but snuffed out.
	Total uniformity of thought is demanded.
	No, it's not, no, it's not.
	Yeah.
	It's not wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong.
	What are you talking about?
	Give me a single example.
	Yeah, exactly, exactly.
	They don't like transphobes.
	Cool.
	I agree.
	That's just what it is to be a human.
	Like people in a group are not going to like you if you're like, hey, what if we should take away the rights of a portion of this group?
	Yeah.
	They're going to be like, no, fuck you.
	Done.
	End of thing.
	And then if you don't agree that that person who's obviously a transphobe is a transphobe, then yeah, there's going to be some issue there with the person you're interacting with.
	And we're like, what are you talking about?
	Yeah.
	And I love the thing that JK Rowling or whoever that other person is have some good points.
	I love that.
	Yeah.
	Because look at the points they actually have and they're disgusting.
	Saying X hateful bigot has, quote, some good points is something that I think people perhaps in these movements are sick of.
	It's not novel anymore.
	We get it.
	If you say, oh, you know, Trump had some good points.
	That was always what it was in 2016.
	Well, he has some good points.
	Joe Rogan's got some good points.
	You know, this guy's got some good points.
	We're sick of it.
	We're fucking sick of that shit.
	They're harmful people and it's nonsense.
	And it's a way to express your bigotry with still trying to maintain some plausible deniability for like the further bigotry that you also probably still feel but you don't want to be associated with.
	And also like planting these seeds of legitimizing their positions on the things that aren't the quote good points.
	Exactly.
	Yeah.
	That's the game and we're sick of it.
	What you might be describing, Andrew Solvan, in your fucking New York Times opinion piece about how you've been silenced is people are sick of this dumbass bullshit trick.
	It might have taken some people a long time, but after Trump in 2016, I certainly had no fucking patience for it.
	I have no fucking patience for it.
	Well, Richard Spencer, I mean, he's got some good points.
	You can't say he doesn't have some good points.
	No, don't care.
	There's no reason to say that.
	Don't give a shit.
	Milo Yiannopoulos.
	Yeah, but that was the big one.
	Milo, but he's got some good points.
	Fucking assholes.
	But this illiberalism made a fateful strategic mistake.
	In the gay rights movement, there had always been an unspoken golden rule.
	Leave children out of it.
	This is gross.
	This is just so gross.
	Fuck you.
	We knew very well that any overreach there could provoke the most...
	I don't know.
	Andrew.
	Any overreach there could provoke the most ancient blood libel against us, that we groom and abuse kids.
	You can bring up your children however you like, we promised.
	We will leave you alone.
	We will leave your children alone.
	So what did the gender revolutionaries go and do?
	They focused almost entirely on children and minors, partly because the adult issues had been resolved or close to it, and partly because true cultural revolutions start with the young.
	It meant overhauling the education, not only of children with gender dysphoria, but of every other kid as well.
	Because I'm so mad and I know this is going to take forever, I'll let you keep going so we can just like do a little bit more.
	talk about this point.
	Yeah.
	I know I'm really mad too.
	Kids all over the country were affected.
	Your children were taught in elementary school that being a boy or a girl.
	You're, you, do you have kids, Andrew Sullivan?
	I don't know.
	Yeah, I don't know.
	We have kids.
	Yeah.
	Our kids in liberal, fucking woke California were not taught.
	Yes.
	Yep.
	Your children were taught in elementary school that being a boy or a girl was something they could choose and change at will.
	Your daughter found herself running against a trans girl.
	She sure didn't.
	I.e.
	a biological male in athletics.
	No, she didn't.
	Sure didn't.
	She ran against one of the like three fucking girls in sports.
	I know.
	Fuck you.
	Children in elementary school got to pick pronouns.
	No.
	Sure didn't.
	That's not happening.
	And some children socially transitioned at school without their parents' knowledge or permission.
	That might have happened.
	I see you, January, little John.
	Yeah, that might have happened somewhere.
	And if it did, great.
	He's been interacting with her.
	I know it.
	I suppose there are other ways you can resurrect the ghost of Anita Bryant and all the homophobic paranoia that followed her.
	But this will probably do the trick.
	He's literally saying that we in the gay rights movement didn't make this mistake.
	And then he references someone in 1977 who said save our children because the gays are coming for them.
	Why did why did she say that?
	Yeah.
	Why did she say that?
	Probably because it never actually happens and bigots are going to bigot.
	Yeah.
	Probably because she found a few cherry-picked examples exactly how you're doing, Andrew Sullivan, and said this is a threat to our children.
	It's the exact same fucking thing.
	Yeah.
	You idiot.
	You're being Anita Bryant right now.
	Yeah, exactly.
	Yeah.
	Literally the Anita Bryant.
	Yep.
	Unbelievable.
	And then most radical of all, gender affirming care for minors, which can lead to irreversible sex changes for children.
	The quote, care included off-label, quote, blockers to arrest puberty.
	Almost always followed with cross-sex hormones.
	Off-label?
	Are those actually?
	Yeah, I don't think so.
	I don't think so.
	Yeah, I think so.
	Using them to arrest puberty.
	Right.
	Cis children or trans children, depending on what their needs are.
	They're not off-label if they're...
	I think that's incorrect.
	Almost always followed with cross-sex hormones.
	Yeah, no, that's the point of them.
	Yeah.
	What would be the...
	Just arrest puberty and...
	What trans people want is just delayed puberty.
	They want delayed puberty by a couple years and then they're fine.
	They just have it then.
	What would be the point?
	Why would, okay.
	To begin with, gays and lesbians, including me, empathized with kids with gender dysphoria and trusted the medical profession with the rest.
	Yes.
	Yes, you should do that.
	No, you didn't do that.
	Yeah.
	If this helped kids or even saved their lives, as was often emphasized, what business was it of mine?
	Hey, another one for the diary that could have been not writing this article.
	You're right.
	If transitioning this young in life helps some pass better as adults, good for them.
	That's not what the transition is for.
	Pass better as adults.
	A lot of that is not is not what's happening.
	It's to resolve the the gender dysphoria in that point in time for them yeah i'm trying to think like it is that is also a benefit Yeah, the point is, well, there's a lot of points.
	One is puberty is an incredibly dangerous time for trans kids because it's when they have the most suicidal thoughts.
	When their gender presentation starts to go from something that's like pre-puberty, it's kind of a little more androgynous, maybe.
	Yeah, exactly.
	And then puberty, it starts becoming like a reality for trans kids where they're like, oh my God, I'm in the wrong body and it's more salient.
	It's, you know, that's a dangerous time.
	So, I mean, it is true that, like, yes, you want them to be able to transition the earlier, the better, because then that's just better for them.
	Yeah, there's something about that sentence that I don't like.
	It's a little dismissive, though.
	It is, it is.
	But the the idea that trans kids are pursuing puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones in order to pass better as adults.
	Yeah, you're right.
	That is so gross and simplistic.
	And yeah, and it really bothers me.
	Yeah, I think you're right.
	I think you're right.
	There's something about it that bothers me.
	I think it's for the rest of society, like that they will put it into words.
	I think it's minimizing the very real pain of gender dysphoria.
	Yeah.
	And it makes it seem like it's a cosmetic decision too, like from a you want society to see you as a woman or you want society to see you as a man rather than the internal feeling of being in the right body.
	No, I think you nailed it.
	I think it's yeah, I couldn't quite put my finger on it, but I think that it just minimizes it in a way that's a little bit gross, but in a way that's like also kind of plausible denial.
	Yeah, exactly.
	Technically true.
	Exactly.
	Yeah.
	All right.
	So it was hard to let you keep going and going because there's so much wrong, but we'll broadly take this section as.
	I believe the CAS report.
	That's Andrew Sullivan's statement.
	Pretty much.
	And also this fucking idiotic idea that like, well, the gays never made this mistake.
	Yeah.
	So stupid.
	Literally, it's a point I have to make.
	In this fucking moment, literally this moment, the Supreme Court decided a case whereby because people were afraid of not trans kids or trans medicine or whatever but because parents did not want their kids to even learn about queerness in any way now the supreme court says yes schools you have to do a hundred different school for anyone's religious parents you got to just teach them their individual bigotries yeah you can't teach and it's just it's absolutely a disgrace the supreme court case i forget what it's called is it tennessey i can't remember now this is the
	mahmood versus yep you're right mahmoud taylor yeah that's right it's maryland yeah so absolutely fucking disgrace of a kid just absolutely garbage fucking yeah how do you feel about that andrew sullivan that like there are kids in schools now that if their parents don't want them to know that gay people exist, that's an option they can do.
	They can opt out of gay people's identities in the world.
	Yep.
	It was just LGBTQ themed storybooks is how it's described.
	Yeah.
	It wasn't the, hey, they didn't want their kids learning about the 2L plus QTI.
	No, it's just the one that he liked.
	Yeah.
	Now bigot parents.
	can require their kids, we require teachers to have different classes for their kids.
	You know, like we're going to have to have a different iteration of school for each person's bigotry because of the stupid fucking Supreme Court and because of the movement Andrew Sullivan is a part of.
	of the rights that he is part of rolling back.
	And it wasn't just about trans kids.
	He would probably try to make the victim blaming argument that, well, they never would have cared if it weren't for these trans rights people blowing this whole thing up.
	That's just not true.
	They have long, long not wanted to have their kids have to learn that gay people exist.
	Oh, yeah.
	I mean, at the beginning of the episode, we talked about Project 2025 and what they think is a real family.
	Yep.
	And it's not gay people.
	Yep.
	They do not want.
	their kids to have to know about gay people.
	Gay people, not trans people, Andrew, gay people.
	That's always been how it's been.
	And they are more powerful than, I won't say ever, because obviously, you know, you go back far enough, but they are more.
	powerful now than 20 years ago probably maybe 15 especially when places like the new york times are complicit in it it's not just fox news and the federalist and you know washington examiner spewing this stuff we have like legacy media participating platforming highlighting this and i'll be waiting for your op-ed going the other way andrew when you start reflecting on this we won't see it no we won't a girl can hope What did the gender revolutionaries go and do?
	He says, they focused almost entirely on children and minors.
	What are you fucking talking about?
	What are you talking about?
	What happened was medicine for trans kids existed and bigots got mad about it.
	And so when they got mad about it and tried to actively harm children by not allowing access to it and all that, people who cared were like, please don't do that.
	What do you mean?
	What do you mean they focused on children and minors?
	What are you talking about?
	God, it's so funny how much he quotes the very same people who were making the very same argument against gay rights and then doesn't see that he's doing the same thing.
	I know.
	It's just, it's unbelievable.
	Fucking asshole.
	So literally all of the rest of the article, now he's finally gotten to his point.
	And we're about, I would say we're about halfway through maybe and he's finally gotten to his point the entire rest of the thing is about trans medicine and trans youth and this trans kids and sports yeah yeah this false just fucking misinformation campaign that the New York Times is a part of it and he'll do that same hand-wavy stuff where he's like nah look i have my heart breaks for the trans kids that blah blah blah blah but i'm going to help roll back rights for them too and make it more dangerous for them to live that's just the rest of it i think we got to call it but
	I very much would do another four hours on how stupid this is.
	But yeah, that's what the New York Times saw fit to print.
	Yeah.
	In their opinions, in the front fucking entire page of their opinion section.
	Yeah.
	And one, his big thing too, that trans kids might just be gay and you have to wait until they go through puberty.
	And then that's really what's going on.
	Yeah.
	I don't know.
	Maybe gay kids might be trans though.
	Yeah.
	Like, why, why would one be like, what, what fucking basis does he have to say that?
	going to point to god or something no so so he's saying that their protocol in the netherlands for gender affirming care in the 90s they had 70 it says 70 adolescents referred to an amsterdam clinic from 2000 to 2008 62 were same-sex attracted and it's easy to see that one way to cure yourself of attraction to the same sex is to become the opposite one.
	So he's saying that kids are turning trans as an effort to cure people of homosexuality.
	At Britain's now shuttered Tabasco Clinic, according to the investigative journalist Hannah Barnes, staff members had a dark joke that at the rate they were going, there would be, quote, no gay people left.
	What?
	This is why sex change surgeries are permitted and even subsidized in Iran.
	It's a way to rid the country of gay people.
	He goes off the rails.
	in this yeah i mean that's an amount of misinformation that's hard to contend with but i'm i'm sorry i'm not i don't know what fucking information he's using but just running some numbers in my head if let's say 90 of people are straight-ish will say roughly speaking, it's a high percentage.
	It's probably in reality less than that, but like roughly speaking, historically, it's been looked at as like 85, 90 percent.
	And you take a subgroup of trans people who are seeking medical care.
	Well, then wouldn't it stand to reason that the vast majority of them, if they were assigned, like let's say male at birth, would probably be into men, right?
	Because like they're actually trans women.
	That's who they are.
	They're women and they might be straight.
	So they're into men.
	Right.
	Yeah.
	Wouldn't you just expect that that would be it?
	And that's the thing that he did from the very beginning is conflating all of these things together.
	And they're all distinct topics, issues, conversations, elements of somebody's identity.
	Like, they're all different.
	And saying that one takes over the other is just...
	And that's the point I was trying to make.
	I mean, to be honest, Andrew Sullivan, he's a Catholic, like you say.
	On what grounds?
	just how does your worldview allow for gayness, but not transness?
	Like, couldn't you just as easily, unless you're going to take a Christian, Couldn't you just as easily say like, well, Andrew, you're only pretending to be gay to avoid the fact that you're actually trans.
	Andrew, you're actually a woman.
	And I know that because you're into men.
	And there is no such thing as being gay.
	There's only heterosexuality.
	So there therefore, you're just avoiding being trans.
	I wouldn't never say that, but like that's the same amount of like plausible as the other way.
	Yeah.
	Right?
	Like why in his mind, it just shows how selfish and self-centered he is.
	Yeah.
	Yeah.
	He knows he's gay, so he has that experience.
	And so he's like, well, that's a real thing.
	But this other experience that these people are whining about, that can't be real.
	Yeah.
	That's all you're saying.
	But there's no reason, especially as a fucking Catholic.
	There's no reason that.
	the universe should work that way.
	There's no reason that transness is less plausible than gayness.
	That doesn't make any sense.
	I think we should read the last couple paragraphs of this to close it out.
	Okay.
	This does not mean the LGBTQ plus project should be shut down entirely.
	Oh, good news, everyone.
	We need to defend our wins.
	We need to protect the interests of gays, lesbians, and lesbians.
	You mean the wins that we've now lost?
	We need to defend those?
	Yeah.
	We need to greatly expand help and care for children with gender dysphoria, prevent bullying, and increase mental health resources.
	Protecting them from often irreversible sex changes should not mean abandoning them.
	It should mean renewed concern, support, and above all solid evidence-based research on how best we can help.
	Oh, well, that's what it was happening.
	Yeah.
	But in America on this anniversary of the Aubergefell decision, we also need to remember a critical thing we won we won because we defended free speech no that is nothing the to do reached out to right and left and center left others and children alone no and trusted liberal democracy no literally wrong on every count that trust was rewarded with one of the swiftest successes in civil rights history let's not throw it away you idiot yeah What are you talking about?
	There we go.
	Just shut up, man.
	We'll link this in the show notes.
	But honestly, guys, like we read through a lot of it.
	It's just, it's going to make you mad.
	It's going to make you mad.
	I kind of wish we had time to debunk the rest of the stuff.
	Maybe we can, I mean, we'll leave it to the audience if you want us to return to this and debunk a lot of those medical claims uh we probably can maybe maybe we get some uh Maybe Janessa, maybe get some science involved.
	But this is, I knew it was going to be outrageous, but it was even more so.
	Yeah.
	Just the insult of them printing this full page rainbow that then you uncover to be fucking a hate crime.
	Like this, how disgusting is that?
	Like just fucking gross.
	And I'm sure they thought it was clever.
	I'm sure they like.
	Unreal.
	Yeah.
	Yeah.
	I know you wanted to try to maybe go out on a positive and talk about pride.
	I did.
	I did.
	So I went to my first ever pride, everybody.
	In San Francisco.
	In San Francisco.
	Where pride is.
	And yeah, exactly where pride originated.
	But.
	But I, one of the most, one of the love, the whole thing was lovely.
	The whole experience was lovely.
	I'll talk a little bit about that.
	But I wanted to just start with, as I drove into the city, there is an annual tradition of folks gathering on Twin Peaks, kind of the, you know, this mountain area in San Francisco, and they put a pink triangle on the mountain itself.
	And so I see that as I'm driving in, and it was just like, so beautiful.
	And so the pink triangle, you know, history buffs will know, you know, that's how Nazis designated gay people, right?
	And so talking about taking things back and stuff, this has been an annual tradition.
	And it was just like, you know, just really, really cool, like driving into the city and like the fog parted its ways.
	It was a gorgeous day.
	And then this, this just beautiful symbol of acceptance and inclusivity and pride.
	And it was all going great until they transed our kids.
	Yeah.
	So Lydia had to hand in a few of our kids to be transed in order to get in at the gate.
	Well, and so the way that pride works in San Francisco too, and maybe this is the case in like most big cities, I didn't even go to the parade and it's just like every park everywhere you are is like just huge parties.
	It's just block parties all across the city.
	I went to this pretty, you know, big park that I've been to before in San Francisco and it was packed.
	It was just people on top of people and everyone was happy and lovely and kind and respectful and living their best lives.
	People were using sunscreen.
	And like, I was like, yes for the sunhot.
	Apparently, I did have sunscreen in my backpack.
	You have snacks?
	I think I forgot to put it on me.
	I had it and everything.
	That sounds like a mom.
	Yeah.
	No, and then like there were people walking around, you know, there was someone like selling mushrooms, there was someone selling jello shot.
	Like, everyone was just sharing like different things and stuff.
	Like, people, tons of people had snacks and drinks and everyone was just being so kind and there were different DJs set up all across the park.
	And so there were dance parties happening and people wearing like really fun outfits, but then also people wearing like really normal looking things too.
	And it was just such a beautiful spectrum of everybody.
	And I had the best time.
	And I ran into someone I know from Sacramento, which was very random and crazy.
	And so that was lovely too.
	I got to chat with her and catch up.
	And I haven't seen her in years.
	So that was nice.
	So just such an unambiguously positive thing, you know, and it's just like, there isn't an equivalent on the other side of this.
	Like there's, you know, there's cross burnings.
	Oh, yeah.
	Like they're gathering.
	Yeah, it's like, they're just fucking hate.
	They're just bigger hate fests.
	And it's lovely that there's a positive, and it occurred to me as you were saying that, I was like, more things should have this, you know, not to co-opt pride or anything, but like more positive expressions of identity and of people's passions and lives.
	It's really fun.
	It's really cool to have.
	That's why living in or around cities is so great and so expanding of your horizons, you know, and it's like getting to see, you know, like that one time we went to New York and Yeah, we literally got stuck in a Seinfeld episode that I think they don't show anymore because for some reason, I don't remember, but like it was cool.
	It was like, oh, this is awesome.
	This is a group of people celebrating their identity in a cool way.
	It's like, but we had all of our luggage and needed to.
	No, it was pretty rough.
	We got literally like stuck as the parade like rounded the corner, like no more crossing.
	And I didn't want to look irritated either because I didn't want them to think I was irritated with like their identity.
	Oh, no.
	And we wouldn't have been except that we had to get to like a thing we had tickets to, I think.
	There's something we had to get to right away.
	And we were stranded on the Broadway show.
	Literally on the wrong side of the street.
	One street away from our hotel.
	But it still was like, this is awesome.
	I don't know.
	It's so cool.
	Like I still remember some of the things we saw and it's like, ah, man, just isn't it nice to be a part of the.
	side that's like hey in general love and acceptance of people yeah well and i think it makes our lives more fulfilling too yep i think when i am on my deathbed or whatever i'm gonna look back and be like wowow that's a life full of love full of positivity full of wonderful people.
	You know, it's just like so much better.
	And I'm going to think I should have yelled at Andrew Sullivan more.
	You know, teach their own.
	Thank you.
	What do we want?
	Sensible a little bit of kind of rights.
	Whenever you guys are cool with it.
	Whenever you get around to it.
	I remember all the marches.
	Give me your best argument.
	I don't know.
	We all get together and make ourselves.
	What do you guys think?
	What do you guys think?
	That's a way to make change.

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