Dec. 14, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
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Asking Women Out!
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Hey everybody, Stefan Mollin here from Freedom Ain.
Hope you're doing well.
So this is a deep, shallow topic.
It's deep, it's shallow, anything but in between.
So there is kind of a debate, well, more than a debate, a ferocious battle, in a sense, at the moment between men and women over approaching women in public.
And it's a very interesting question, a very interesting challenge, a very interesting debate.
And I wanted to chime in because, oh, it's so annoying when I say it.
And I apologize when I say goofy things like, well, everyone's missing the point because it's, you know, I'm so smart and it was just missing things.
But I think I have a pretty good perspective on this kind of stuff.
I spent a long time as a single man.
I didn't get married into my 30s.
And I've approached women.
I don't think I ever approached women online because it was kind of before my time.
But yeah, I approached women in bars, not really much in bars, once or twice, in the gym, at coffee shops, and chatted with women and gosh, on vacation, in airplanes, on a bus once.
Now, of course, it didn't always work out.
And sometimes we didn't really click or anything like that.
But, you know, as far as just chatting with women and seeing if there's any kind of compatibility, I would say it's been quite a few.
Now, I know times have changed.
I get all of that.
It's been 20 plus years, not more than 20 years since I was in the dating market.
So I say this with all of the anticipation of the okay proto-boomer responses and comments.
So this is not how to do it because I wouldn't deign to tell young men how to do it.
But I will tell you the challenges that are occurring.
Now, for a man, you understand, of course, that it's frightening to approach women.
And it should be.
It should be.
Because if you're not frightened, it means you don't care.
If you really want a job, then you're frightened you won't get it or nervous, you won't get it.
And if you really do find yourself very attracted to a woman, then you are going to be nervous or upset or unhappy if you don't ask her out.
And men in general, well, what do we have to do?
Well, we have to go through this process, of course, where we start at the top and work our way down, right?
So you get the most attractive girl in your environment and then you ask her out.
And if you don't get the most attractive girl, then you go.
And it's tough for men, right?
Boys, they say boys, right?
So I asked the queen of the high school out.
It did not work.
And then I asked the second-tier girls out and they generally worked.
And this is in part because my brother came back from England, took a quick, horrified look at my grooming and got me a haircut and got me into better clothes.
It actually happened one weekend.
It was wild.
He's like, we got to get you a better haircut.
We got to get you some proper clothes.
I don't know why it is that single moms don't help their children groom.
But anyway, I actually went in and I couldn't figure out.
Like on Monday, I went in and couldn't figure out why nobody was talking to me.
And it's because it had been such a radical transformation that everyone thought I was the new kid.
Just so I was actually in the shower.
People were like, Steph?
Because, you know, I was bathing after work and after working out, after sports, after gym class.
And everyone was like, because, you know, my hair was, you know, down.
And it's like, whoa, right, because I had gel and all of that.
I went through a bit of a foppish period, somewhat, I suppose, or just caring about grooming and haircuts and skin moisturizer and all that kind of stuff, which is, I actually think, is actually a good thing.
It's a good thing to do.
I'm not going to tell men how to do it other than to say, I understand the difficulty.
Because for a man, you're going to have to go through a lot of rejection.
So, if you think of the most, like, there's a group of girls that you want to talk to a girl, the girl who's the most attractive, it's you got to do that calculation, right?
You've got to do that.
You go over to the girls and you say, Well, I want to ask the, if I ask the most attractive girl out and she says no, then I don't get any second chance, right?
Because if I go to the most attractive girl and say, Can I get your number?
And she says no, thank you.
Well, hopefully, she does it politely, then I go to the I can't, I can't then go to the second most attractive girl and say, Well, how about your number?
Because she's going to say no, because she knows that she's not your first choice and second, right?
So, so then you say, Okay, well, if I go for the ugliest girl, I'll probably get her number, but I may not want to date the ugliest girl.
And I'm not just talking about physical looks, you know, the general air.
Does she have a nice laugh?
Does she seem positive and warm and approachable?
You know, that kind of stuff, right?
So, and you have to go through a lot of rejection because you have to find your place in the pecking order of sexual market value.
And that means aiming high because nobody can aim exactly, right?
Nobody can aim exactly.
You don't want to aim too low, you don't want to aim too high.
Like in the gym class, I've said this in the show before, but I just remember grade six was my first dance, really.
And who knows how to dance to stay away to heaven?
It's basically like slow motion epilepsy underwater.
But I would go across the darkened gym floor to where the girls were all lined up on the other side, and you go and you say, Okay, well, I want to ask the right girl out to dance.
I want to ask the right girl to dance.
And what that means is not a girl who's so attractive, she's waiting for a better guy, but not a girl who's so unattractive that my friends will make fun of me for dancing with her.
It's, you know, it's cold, it's cruel or whatever.
It doesn't really matter.
It just, it is, I hate to use this phrase because I hate it in general, but in this case, like it is what it is.
You're not going to change these mechanics through ideology, at least not in the short run.
So, for boys, the goal is to air a little on the high side, not super on the high side.
Like, if you're a five and you go for a 10, you're toast, right?
If you're a five, maybe with charm and good humor, you can pull a seven.
Uh, but and if you can get a six, that's good, but most likely you're going to end up with a five, right?
I mean, if you want to know how attractive you are, look at your partner.
That's how it is.
That's how it is.
If you want to know how attractive you are, just look at your partner.
And this is more in the sort of modern context, but that's kind of the way that it is.
So, for the boys, just so girls understand it, we have to do this calculation where we want to get with the most attractive girl we can.
But if we ask too many attractive girls out, then the less attractive girls won't go out with us either because we look deluded, right?
Because knowing where you stand in the pecking order of life is pretty important.
Because if you don't, you know, we've all known, you know, the big fish in the little pond, the person who's super arrogant because they happen to be, you know, the smartest kid in a small town high school of 50 people or something like that.
And, you know, it's nothing wrong with that, but you got to know where you stand in the larger pecking order.
And, you know, when I was first acting in high school and university, I got all the leads without even having to audition.
And then I went to the National Theater School and I was kind of in the middle.
I mean, I wasn't kicked out, but I also didn't shine in the way that some of the other, you know, more talented or more dedicated or more able students went.
So, you know, trying to find where you can do your best is important, but we all know these, you know, that sort of half angry Melania Trump look, sort of scathing laser eye from Eastern Europe.
That works because she's very attractive.
But if an unattractive woman tries the same thing, she just looks kind of constipated.
And so knowing where you stand is really important.
If you have the intern in a company saying, I should be the CEO, he'll never probably advance at all because he looks deluded, right?
I mean, in terms of where he's at.
So finding out where you stand at the packing order is a humbling experience because, I mean, obviously, statistically, most people are at the bottom.
I kind of had an idea that I was an interesting guy to listen to and had some important and valuable things to say.
So I kind of gave that a shot.
I mean, I did some DJing in university, but that was mostly just spinning the tracks that matter.
But I was like, I think I could add some value to the world, talking philosophy and all of that.
And so on.
I remember being in Thunder Bay when I was working at Morph, coming into town for the Shite Shower and Shave.
And I went to a bar where there was a live band.
I remember the guy did Welcome to Your Life, really great singer, the Tear Sofia song.
And I was chatting with this girl and I was really curious about her family and so on.
And I think she was attracted to me, but I drove her away with my penetrating questions about her family when I was 18 or 19.
So let's just say I've been practicing for my college shows for a long time before it didn't just hit the ground out of nowhere.
It didn't just fall off the turnip truck.
I've been having deep conversations with people about their families and histories and choices for decades before I did any of it publicly.
So it was not out of nowhere.
So, yeah, you're going to have to face a lot of rejection as a man in order to find, and you've got to find that sweet spot, right?
If the first girl you ask out is like, oh, yes, absolutely, right?
Then you're like, oh, did I aim too low?
And if you get, you know, 10 eye-rolling, who do you think you are, scorn responses in a row, then you probably are aiming too high and then you look delusional to others.
I mean, look, women want a man who's ambitious, but not a man who's delusional, right?
So having high ambitions is a very good thing.
I think it's a positive thing.
But they do have to be backed up by hard work and some proven expertise, right?
So if a woman marries a guy with no ambitions or low ambitions, then she's not going to have a very comfortable existence.
On the other hand, if she marries a guy who's got delusions of grandeur, he wants to do all of these great things, but he doesn't really work at them or achieve them.
Or every time he fails, he blames someone else or blames the world.
Then she ends up with a guy who's kind of useless and bitter and resentful and angry, right?
Because almost nothing angers a man more than the entitlement of thinking he should be receiving great things.
He should be receiving accolades and praise and groupies and blah, blah, blah.
Nothing angers a man more than thwarted vanity, right?
Because which usually means that you haven't been handed off from your high-praised mother to your skeptical father.
So, yeah, so if you've got a guy, if you're a woman and you marry a guy who's who talks a big talk, but never actually does anything, never actually achieves anything.
Yeah, I want to be a, I want to make a lot of money.
I want to, I write about this towards the end of dissolution when you finally hear about Helen.
It's very interesting for me, at least at the end of the book, you find out about Helen's early life in more detail.
But if the man has no ambitions, you've got to have the Aristotelian mean, right?
Reasonable ambitions.
Ambitions are always a little bit delusional because they are indications of wanting a higher state prior to achieving it, right?
So there's always a certain amount of delusion around ambition.
And you need that, right?
You need some imagination in life, but you don't want to live in fantasy because that's enraging to you and exhausting to everyone else.
I mean, I had a, there was a guy I knew when I was younger who was really, really good at math and physics.
Like he would regularly get 100%.
Well, actually, I knew two friends who were good at math and physics.
And one of them went on to try and get a math and physics double major at a very tough university.
And they were bell-curved down all the way, right?
In other words, if you're a professor, you can't give people high marks because then people think the course is too easy and you get in trouble or the administration thinks it's too easy.
But if the marks are too low, then people don't want to take your course.
So generally what they do is they do very hard exams and then they grade them up so everyone has like a 70.
And because he was so used to being really good at stuff, when he had to really, and I think they were too tough from what he was telling me, but when he got these really brutal exams where people would get like 20% and then they'd be graded up to like a 75.
Because if the average is 20, you can't fail everyone in the class.
So you have to grade them up.
You have to increase the average score to something reasonable.
And the professor said, like, people don't complain about their scores going up, but they do complain about them going down.
So I have to make the exams really tough.
And he could not take that on.
And again, I think most of us, I mean, most of the people here, most of the people who listen to this are pretty skilled and pretty good, at least something.
And so, you know, when I went from being the best actor in university, which, you know, doesn't actually mean that much, of course, to, you know, just kind of okay in theater school, you know, that was a pretty significant adjustment, right?
And a healthy adjustment because, you know, you need to find out the facts.
It means tough at the time, of course, right?
You need to find out the facts.
So I remember when I was in a garage band and sang, and I was like, it's okay, but not great.
You know, it's not great.
So, eh, maybe not.
Maybe that's not for me.
So, or not so much, not for me, not for the audience.
And some of it was just wretched.
Some of it was just bad.
I'm just trying to sing too high.
Oh, damn you, Gordon Sumner.
Anyway, so for the boys, it's tough and it's complicated.
You've got to find, you don't want to find a woman.
Oh, I'm so lucky to be with her and so on, because that's a kind of insecurity that is going to be exhausting and she's going to end up, you know, both people want to feel that they married up.
And that's kind of impossible in a way.
So you have to sort of find sort of a sweet spot.
Now, so that's it for the boys.
For the girls, oh, I would say it's almost more complicated at times, right?
Because at least as guys, you could do something, right?
Girls, you can't really ask guys out.
I still don't think that's much of a thing.
I know it happens, but it's not as common.
And generally, girls certainly do prefer to be asked out because it's a courage test and a test of and they like it if the guy's nervous because it means he really cares.
So it's the beginning of pair bonding that he really cares about the girl.
So for girls, it's tough because it's passive.
I prefer being male because if there's a problem, I can do something.
I'm a big one for like leap into action, right?
If I like a girl, I'll ask her out.
And if she says yes, okay.
If she says no, that stings a little, but you know, at least I don't, I don't, I don't get the pining, the pining around for things.
So for girls, though, it's really tough.
So for girls, you have to be, because they know that men are visual creatures.
So they have to be as attractive as possible.
But because they're passive, and this is not a negative, it's not a criticism.
It just generally is the case.
It's still like 80 to 90% of dates are asked out by the men.
So because they're passive, it's different.
So if you imagine, like, let's say you're a guy and your mating display is, you know, super expensive watch, expensive car, like whatever it is going to signal your, your wealth, right?
Okay.
So that is your mating display, but you're not going to get hounded by women, usually.
I mean, obviously, if you're a rock star, but you're not going to get hounded by women.
The women are going to be super attractive and preening and hoping that you will ask them out or ask them to the VIP room or whatever it is, right?
The champagne room.
No, not the champagne room.
The bottle service room.
Sorry, champagne room, I think.
I think it's dripping.
Anyway, like wallpaper?
Ask your mom.
Anyway, so the women don't, in a sense, corner and ask out the really attractive man.
So a man can be really attractive and he's still in control of the situation.
Now, if a woman is super attractive, because the women want to put on their, they want to put their best foot forward to get as attractive a guy as possible, right?
So a woman will make herself as attractive as possible to get the top-tier guy.
The problem is that attracts a lot of other guys that she doesn't want to ask around.
No, not those mosquitoes, just that mosquito, right?
Doesn't really work.
And because males tend to be more active and women tend to be more passive in the dating scenario, or men propose and women respond, so men propose, women dispose, right?
Men ask, women say yes or no.
So if you're a really attractive woman, you will attract a lot of guys who will show interest in you, which is a problem if that's not the guys you want.
So to take a sort of silly example, a typical example at the high end.
So a woman who's a nine or a ten wants to attract a guy who's a 10, but she'll put up with a nine.
So she dresses to maximum attractiveness, and that attracts all guys from three or four all the way up to nine or ten.
And it's complicated because she wants a quality guy who's at her level.
So the problem is very complicated for women.
So if a guy that's not attractive enough for her starts talking to her, it's tricky.
She has to get rid of him, but not in such a negative or rude way that he might escalate, make a scene, storm off, stomp off.
Or if there is a more attractive man, she has to get rid of him quickly so that the more attractive man doesn't think that the girl who's a nine is dealing with a four.
In other words, she doesn't know her own value.
Or that she's with a four.
Maybe he's super wealthy or something like that.
So, the woman who's the nine has to get rid of the guy who's the four, but she can't do it in a super hostile way.
She can't do it in a cold way, and she can't do it in an aggressive or mean way because if the guy who's a nine or a ten sees her being mean to someone, he'll be less attracted to her.
So, she has to almost will the guy away while being relatively positive and friendly, but not so positive and friendly that he thinks he has a chance, right?
Understand to be passive is, I mean, I mean, I think it's nicer, it must be nicer for women because I couldn't take it.
I couldn't take it, but that's that's the complicated thing with regards to women.
I mean, it's one of the many complicated things: be attractive, attract just the right guy, but if you attract just the right guy, you're attracting 20 other guys.
So, you have to be cold and unfriendly and unapproachable, right?
RBS, right?
Resting bitch face.
You have to be cold and unfriendly and unapproachable.
However, if you are cold and friendly and unapproachable, then the guy you want to approach you might mistake that for you being cold and friendly and unapproachable and therefore not ask you out.
So, you have to show cracks of warmth and friendliness, but only to the guy that you're attracted to, but not to the point where you draw in all these other guys that you're not.
So, you understand, right?
It's crazy complicated for women because they are passive and men are more active in the dating scene.
And look, this is not easy for women, it's not a lot of fun for women.
It is like what's it some show I watched once where you're timed on how quickly you can thread five needles or something like that.
Like, it's really complicated.
The more friendly and peppy and positive you appear to attract the guy you want, the more you're going to attract guys you don't want.
Then you've got to shut them down really quickly, but not so coldly and aggressively that the nice guy you want looks at you and thinks, God, what a horrible person, right?
So, it's it's a mess.
And it's not what we're designed for.
See, part of the modern mess is that we're not designed to pick our own mates out of a giant pool of possibilities.
I mean, how did we evolve?
We evolved in tribes of 100 people, 150 people, maybe 200 people on the outside, right?
That's how we evolved.
So, you grew up with 30 kids, 40 kids, 50 kids, and you kind of paired off based upon shared knowledge and experience of growing up together.
So, you're not, we're not designed to be on mating display in a situation where we don't have personal knowledge or access to personal knowledge of the people around us.
We're not designed at all to pick our mate out of an endless potential of unknown others, or the only thing you know about them is how they look.
Because the only time that a woman would end up with a mate that she didn't know anything about is if her tribe was conquered and the men were murdered, which is another reason why dating strangers is alienating for women, and dating strangers triggers an out-group preference, right?
You know, that sort of famous heat map of the out-group preference.
So, dating strangers triggers women's endocrinological systems, endocrine systems, sorry, not chronological, endocrine systems.
It sort of, it gets their whole system to believe that all of the men they grew up with, all of the boys they grew up with, have died, been murdered, been captured and sold into slavery, and now she has to choose among strangers.
And that means that out-group preference has been activated, right?
So women would generally tend to prefer dating within their own group, their sort of own tribe or whatever.
But of course, the women who were able to flip the switch to go from in-group preference to out-group preference outbred those who, you know, if you try and kill my husband, you'll have to come through me.
It's like, okay, they'll just kill you and your husband and those genes die out.
Whereas the genes that survive are the ones that are like, oh, okay, so, all right, that's really bad.
Bad scene.
My husband just got killed by Falsa Doom's henchmen.
And so I guess I'm going to have to reproduce with the new guys, the new guy.
So then you have to be chosen by a stranger.
You don't choose a stranger.
You get chosen by a stranger.
So the sort of mobility and social media and all of that.
Like when I was growing up, in general, you would try and choose your, as a teenager, you would try and choose your mates from the women you went to, the girls you went to school with, right?
And you knew quite a bit about them because you got to see them for years and you could ask people about them and you might know their brother and, you know, so you can, you know, sort of, you knew quite a bit about them.
Same thing in university, although you know less, you can still, you see them in classes, you know what they're taking, you can interact with them and see them and so on.
But as you start meeting people later and later in life, you know less and less about them, which programs you more and more to believe that your men have been conquered.
Now, from the male perspective, if you don't know anything about the females in your environment, then that's usually because you've been captured and sold as a slave, because that was the norm, right?
If you were not killed as part of a conquering tribe's invasion, if they won.
Sorry, conquering, you get it.
But you might be sold as slaves or kept as a soldier or something like that.
So then you'd be around, you get sold into some slave market, you go to some distant town, and now you're around a bunch of women you don't know.
So why would you not be about the people around the people you grew up with?
For a woman, it's because the men have been conquered and killed or driven away or sold into slavery.
For men, it's because they've been captured and thrown into leg irons and dragged off to some distant land where they don't know the women, which is why men are kind of depressed and lonely and isolated and not very proactive, because by having a bunch of strange women around, women you didn't grow up with, you're programmed into a slave mentality.
And for a bunch of women, you're programmed into slave girls of gore having been conquered and got to be turned on by the strangers, but you can't be active, right?
Because you don't get to choose like the conquering tribe.
You don't get to choose the men.
And so for women, when they've been conquered, they generally take two strategies, right?
One is that they will try to make themselves as unattractive as possible so that they won't be raped by the conquerors.
And the other is they will try to make themselves as attractive as possible so that they can get the highest status conqueror and continue their genes and so on, right?
Which is why you see this bifurcation into the right-wing attractive women who are single and the left-wing wingers who are mutilating their own looks and all men are patriarchs and evil and so on, right?
So this is just a thing that's happening.
You know, we're all programmed deep down to these kinds of responses.
And the right-wing are those who are loyal to the tribe they have, and the left-wingers are the ones who are loyal to the tribe they want to replace the tribe they have because they can't succeed.
A traitor is someone who genetically can't succeed in the society that is and therefore will take his chances with the new society, which is why preventing or discouraging men from reproducing will always trigger a rebellion or a revolution, or, you know, unfortunately, scans of bloody violence.
Because if men can't reproduce and women can't reproduce, but in particular for men, because tend to be more active, if men can't reproduce in the society that there is, then they'll simply take their chances with a society that is not, right?
You might as well side with the invading army.
If none of the women will reproduce with you in the society that you're in, you might as well side with the invading army because then maybe you'll be tasked a woman as gratitude for your help in lowering the drawbridge or giving them the location of the troops.
And so then you reproduce in that sneaky cuttlefish way.
Again, this is not a moral judgment.
I'm just telling you the way that society works.
So to destroy a society in its current state, you simply make and this is part of why, sorry, you simply make men and women not reproducible.
They don't reproduce with each other.
So this is why a lot of times you will see a promotion, and I think it comes from pretty sinister groups of people.
This promotion of, you know, women are trash, the ho-flation, and the men are patriarchs and lazy and game-addicted and porn-addicted and so on.
And I mean, that's true for some, of course, right?
But the promotion of this kind of stuff is to reduce the birth rate because when you reduce the birth rate, the genes panic and say, well, look, if we're going to die out, then anything's better than that, which is why you see an increased interest in both free market capitalism and in communism and fascism, because people are like, well, I can't reproduce.
I can't.
I can't have a family.
I can't get a home.
I can't get a stable job.
I can't reproduce.
So the system has to go.
I mean, or, you know, as I usually do, right, to put it another way, those genes that overthrow a system that prevents their reproduction survive.
And those genes that just passively slide into irrelevance don't survive.
And that's why the, I mean, I was posted this on X a day or two ago that this blowback is coming.
The pendulum is going to swing.
And it's going to be wild.
It's going to be wild how far this pendulum is going to swing.
So, yeah, if you keep people from reproducing, they'll rebel inevitably.
And then everyone is kind of shocked.
It's like, well, no, that's natural, right?
The genes that don't rebel don't survive.
So if you want to replace or destroy the current system that is, then you simply turn men against women and you turn women against men, which creates bitter women dependent upon the state.
It creates isolated, embittered men who are ripe for rebellion.
And the seeds are sown.
And you sow a demon seed, you raise a flower of fire.
And that's kind of inevitable.
So a woman sitting in a bar, it's tough.
She wants the right guy to approach her.
And one of the ways, of course, that you kill the birth rate and sow the seeds for revolution.
Like whatever kills the birth rate, sows the seeds for revolution, because life has to find a way.
So, what you do to both men and to women is you constantly give them vanity prompts.
You're special, you're great, don't settle, aim for the best, aim for the highest.
And you constantly have these people that are in movies and TV and media and so on, like the Javi Spectre, what is the guy from Suits?
The Javi Spectre guy who's like, never be second best, always aim for the top, always be great.
Now, you know, he's a brilliant guy with beautiful suits and a great haircut.
And so, yeah, I mean, he can aim as high as he wants, I guess, right?
But it's sort of like John Bon Jovi or Freddie Mercury saying, well, don't settle for anything less than being the lead singer of a rock band.
It's like, well, if you're extremely musically talented and good looking and have a great singing voice and yeah, then and you're a great performer.
Yeah, absolutely.
Don't settle for being less.
Don't settle for being the front man of a bar band when you could be the front band of, you know, queen or, you know, whatever, right?
So, but, but when the people who succeed say don't settle, what they're saying is, well, I have such a prodigious degree of talent that not settling is great for me.
And lots of writers get rejected.
I think the fountainhead was rejected by 16 publishers and Dune was rejected by every publisher under the sun and moon until the car, the car dealership, the company that printed the car manuals took it on.
But most writers who are consistently rejected by publishers are rejected because they're bad.
So all the people who say, well, I kept pushing and it worked out well for me.
Well, that's obviously a very selective sample of people for whom pushing worked out.
But there's a lot of people who pushed and pushed and were rejected and rejected and wasted their lives because they really weren't that good.
I mean, that's a very real thing, a very real thing in the world.
So what you do, of course, is you say to women, you deserve the best, and you constantly parade the best looking specimens like the Ryan Goslings and all of that in front of them.
And hey, girl, I got you, girl.
I got you.
Right.
And the sort of soft voiced, hyper-masculine, totally buff, you know, the Jamie Dornans and all of that.
You can't say parade and say, you deserve the best.
You deserve the best.
Well, no, you don't.
You deserve what you negotiate.
You don't, yeah, I don't deserve an audience.
I don't deserve, I think I do the best show.
I don't deserve an audience.
I get what I get based on, you know, what I'm willing to do to get the audience.
So, but you say you deserve and you create this sense of entitlement.
And then, you know, you now end up in this situation where like 95% of men are considered unattractive by women.
And of course, the other thing that you do, and this is a, it's a tough one to understand.
And obviously, you know, approach women gently.
And if they say no, back off.
But when women are saying, oh, I can't stand it.
I go anywhere out into the world.
And like guys are just so hitting on me all the time.
This won't leave me alone.
Right.
That is a mating display.
I know it sounds counterintuitive, right?
My girls and I, we just want to go out and we just want to have fun with each other.
We don't want to guys floating around.
Oh, my God.
I just want to do one thing.
I just want to go out and dance and have some fun and I just dress up for me.
And it's like, that's a mating display.
I know, I know it seems kind of counterintuitive, but you have to understand how these mating displays work.
So when a woman says, I can't go anywhere without guys hitting on me all the time, what does she say?
She's saying, look how attractive I am.
I am crazy attractive.
I'm so attractive, I can't leave the house without guys hitting on me.
That's a mating display.
That's a mating display.
Oh, my girls and I, we just want to go out and dance and have fun.
We don't want to be hit on by guys.
It's like, no, because you're dressing up in an attractive way.
So what they're saying is, look how attractive I am.
It's a form of mating display.
It's like the women with bird hands in the car spouting crazy opinions with hyperfilters on and yelling for some reason.
It's a mating display.
Just look at me.
Look how pretty I am.
Like the women portrait was invented for cleavage, right?
Because men don't have cleavage.
We don't really use portrait.
I'm a landscape guy myself.
That's because it needs to fit my ego.
But when women say, oh, it's crazy, like I can't go anywhere without guys draping themselves all over me.
Everybody wants my Snapchat.
That's a mating display.
Look how attractive I am.
Look how attractive I am.
And she's hoping to draw in the guy who is attractive for her.
The other thing, of course, is that women no longer care that much about the judgments of men.
They only care about the judgments of other women.
And what that means, what that does to women, is that if she has a guy, he's maybe not super attractive.
He's maybe not super tall.
He's just, he's just a nice guy.
He's an average guy.
He's a nice average guy.
She's a nice average woman, right?
And so they start dating him, and all the other single girls get jealous.
And, you know, single women keep women single, right?
So they'll just say, oh, he's okay.
I think you could do better.
But, you know, he may be a placeholder.
He may be an F buddy.
He may be a doofer.
And they start sowing the seeds of discontent and dissatisfaction in this woman.
And then they keep her single because they don't want to see another woman get happily settled down while they're still single.
So because women are now really only responding to the opinions of other women and not of men, because if they went to their male friend and said, well, what do you think of this guy?
He's like, yeah, he's a nice guy.
He's a nice guy.
Yeah, he's a good provider.
He's a solid guy.
He's got a good job.
You know, he clearly is crazy about you.
Good for you.
Right.
The women are like, oh, you know, but he's got, doesn't even have a cleft chin, you know, and his eyes are kind of weak, a little far apart.
Like, they'll just nitpick until the woman is like, oh, okay, well, I guess he's not that attractive.
So that is one of the consequences of women.
No, I'm not saying women should only listen to men, but the fact that they don't listen to men at all means that they're just getting terrible advice about dating as a whole.
Because if single women knew how to not be single, they wouldn't be single.
Right.
So, and I've heard this so many times over the years about, oh, this guy, I really liked him, but my girlfriend thought he was terrible.
He turned out to be a really good guy.
And he got married to some woman.
She's very happy.
And, you know, it's, yeah, getting advice from other women who are single about relationships is a very, very bad idea as a whole.
So yeah, ladies, gentlemen, I'd love to hear what you think.
Honestly, as always, please tell me how much I got wrong because I'll try and improve and get things better as I go forward.