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Aug. 29, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
05:35
Judge the People Who Judge You!
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Okay.
So you're still judging yourself by your abusers or neglectors standards.
Yep.
Yep.
That's fair.
I agree.
Okay.
Why would you do that?
I mean, why would your parents have credibility in your thirties, 17 years after you moved out?
Why would your parents still have credibility in your mind given that they were spectacularly unsuccessful parents and unsuccessful people?
They could not keep their marriage going.
They did not make their only child happy.
They kind of messed him up, and your dad cheated on...
So why would people who made such terrible and sometimes deeply immoral decisions have any credibility with you at all?
That would be like me waking up every day saying, well, I guess Wikipedia's right.
Why would corrupt people have credibility with you?
Why would they have?
Logically, there's no reason.
Um...
Thank you.
Why would they?
Why would I still hold them?
I'm not.
I want to say.
I feel like I'm, I still, I don't know.
I still feel like I'm worthless, but that's just me holding them in my head, right?
So you're doing what they want you to do, which is to have a need for them.
Yep.
To have a need for their approval.
So.
That's right.
Yep.
I mean, there are evil people in the world who call me evil and they're way behind the the first evil person to call me evil was my own mother, right?
So that's true.
So, no, she didn't call me evil, but, you know, she hated me me and that kind of stuff, right?
So I know that corrupt people dislike good people.
Being called evil by evildoers is a mark of honor to anybody with half a eye to see, right?
Yep.
So were your parents good people?
No.
So the fact that they didn't like you, the fact that they didn't care about you is indicative of their cold hearts, not your intrinsic value.
I mean, if you paint a picture and a blind man comes up and says oh i hate those colors do you take him seriously no no if somebody says to me steph i hate your haircut i mean it's still nice when i go to barberers and they say how do you want it i'm like there right so so somebody without the capacity to judge should have no credibility in your mind regarding their judgment a
A deaf person cannot judge your symphony.
A blind person cannot judge your paintings, right?
Yep.
A person with no sense of smell can't judge your perfume.
So how can people with no sense of honor or virtue or love or decency or morality judge you and have you believe it?
Judge your judges.
Yeah.
Is the essence to any shred of self-respect in this life.
Judge the people, judge the fucking.
out of the people who judge you yep judge those who find you wanting Are they good?
Are they moral?
Are they truthful?
Are they honorable?
Are they decent?
Have they remonstrated with you or tried to improve you?
Or do they just throw acid bombs like they pour boiling pitch over the side of a medieval castle during combat.
Judge the people who judge you.
How fucking dare you judge yourself by your parents' view?
How dare you?
What an insult that is to your potential.
Everybody in this world who does good is slammed and attacked by evildoers.
And you survive and flourish on the fact that people go ahead with their plans to provide you electricity, to build roads, to do good in the world, to solve problems, to become moral.
You survive because people push through the skepticism and contempt of the losers around them.
Just about everybody who's ever achieved anything has had to burrow through.
The icy shedstorm of skepticism and cynicism from losers.
I mean, what do you think my friends thought about when I said, I'm going to build the world's biggest philosophy show?
Yeah, right.
Yeah, pull another one, right?
Who are you to blah, blah, blah, right?
So how dare you judge your potential by the indifference and scorn of pathetic losers?
That is an insult to you and it is an insult to what you're capable of.
And you gotta stop doing it.
And I don't care if you get late or get a family or anything out of that.
I care that you stop judging yourself by the standards of losers and failures.
Yeah, no, that's a good point.
Because if you judge yourself by those standards, how can you ask a woman to love you?
The reason that you avoid women is because if someone loves you, genuinely loves you, it will burn your entire social circle down to the fucking ground.
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