March 22, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
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| Alright. Somebody from Local says, You've had some very helpful advice slash insights on sibling relationships. | |
| A lot of my cousins and I have children, and I can clearly see how the issues that our parents had from grandparents that negatively affected my siblings and my cousins. | |
| The sticking point is that my cousins are open to improving their parenting of their kids, but just accept how their parents are because they're too old to change. | |
| All of my aunts'uncles are 75 plus. | |
| So this still makes family gatherings uncomfortable. | |
| you. | |
| I'm not sure what your question is. | |
| I mean, that's a comment. | |
| So, the issues that our parents had from our grandparents. | |
| That's some bullshit language, my friend. | |
| I say this with all love, affection, and respect, but that's some serious bullshit language. | |
| Are you saying it's just dominoes? | |
| Like, come on, man, you've been around this conversation long enough to know that's not going to get past this particular putt-grabbing goalie. | |
| Are you saying, well, parents had these dysfunctions from their parents. | |
| Now, we don't have any choice about our genetics, but we certainly have choices about our morals. | |
| you. | |
| Is it a domino theory? | |
| Well, my parents don't really have any free will. | |
| They just inherited all of their traumas from their parents and I can try my best. | |
| What is the magic line? | |
| Somebody explain this to me. | |
| I mean, in all seriousness, in all humility, explain this magic line. | |
| Where some people are responsible for what they say and do and other people are not responsible for what they say and do. | |
| Just help me understand this. | |
| Why do some people get responsibilities and some people get excuses? | |
| I would like to know. | |
| If you don't change, if you refuse to change, if you avoid changing and if you reenact your traumas on your children without empathy or improvement, you get: Forgiven. | |
| But if you strive to improve, you get this massive crushing weight of responsibility, higher standards and expectations, and now you're morally responsible. | |
| So the people who don't try to change are not responsible. | |
| The people who try to change are held to a higher standard. | |
| Talk about rewarding people for doing wrong and punishing people for doing good. | |
| What the ever-living hell are you talking about? | |
| Help me understand. | |
| If I refuse to change... | |
| And I just get forgiveness, and I'm too old to change, and it's a domino theory, and I had no free will. | |
| But if I develop some self-awareness, some higher standards, observing ego, third eye, whatever you want to call it, read books, go to therapy, spend all this money, deal with all this stuff, go through all this destabilization of working to change and improve, well, clearly you're morally responsible. | |
| You're held to a higher standard. | |
| You better not do bad, because you're trying to do good, whereas the people who don't even try to do good get all this forgiveness. | |
| Good Lord! | |
| It's like the only people you throw in jail are the people who quit being criminals, and all the criminals get out of jail free cards from here to eternity. | |
| Oh, but they don't have any choice, you see. | |
| How do you know? | |
| How the hell do you know? | |
| Whether people had it, you can't read people's minds, you can't read people's secret hearts, and child abusers won't tell you the truth about anything. | |
| How do you know? | |
| They couldn't have done better. | |
| You don't know that. | |
| I default to the free will position unless there's medical evidence of significant brain damage or dysfunction. | |
| Thank you. | |
| You default to the free will position. | |
| And this is validated and proven with abusive parents. | |
| You've heard me ask this about a zillion times of call-in partners. | |
| My father had such a temper. | |
| He would just beat us. | |
| He had a real volatile temper. | |
| He just lost his shit, right? | |
| Really? Okay. | |
| Did he ever do that at a mall? | |
| Ever do that in front of a cop? | |
| Ever do that when there was a security guard around? | |
| Did he ever do it at church? | |
| Did he ever do it? | |
| When he was dropping you off at school, did he ever do it at a parent-teacher car? | |
| Oh, no, no, no, no, no. | |
| He never did that. | |
| Well, then don't tell me there was some demonic, epileptic possession of his temper. | |
| He couldn't control his temper. | |
| He could perfectly control his temper. | |
| Why do people keep trying this stuff with me? | |
| It's a little wearying. | |
| Oh, a tiny bit tiresome. | |
| Honestly, why? | |
| Why do you try this stuff with me? | |
| The issues that our parents had from our grandparents that negatively affected the choices they made. | |
| The choices they made. | |
| No, no, but you see, they didn't have that kind of choice. | |
| They were too traumatized. | |
| They this, that. | |
| You don't know that. | |
| What you do know is that all of the supposedly uncontrollable temper was always perfectly controlled when you were in public. | |
| Yes, indeedy. | |
| They were always perfectly in control of their temper. | |
| You know, if someone's got Tourette's, they'll do Tourette's. | |
| In front of a police officer, they'll do Tourette's at an airport. |
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