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Feb. 26, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
06:56
The Alpha Widow Phenomenon
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So, somebody had mentioned the alpha widow phenomenon.
Hit me with an N if you don't know what the alpha widow phenomenon refers to.
That's just an N. Somebody says, being one of the few men in a female-dominated space is bad if, when, one, you don't seek them sexually, two, you don't flirt in ways that can backfire with HR complaints.
It can be quite dreadful clocking in.
Yeah, it's a bitter...
Tweet today, 45% of men 25 and under have never asked a woman out in person.
And people are like, well, we solved the whole sexual harassment thing.
But at what cost?
But at what cost?
Women are brutally cynical sometimes.
Women are, I mean, brutally cynical.
Tools of the trade, right?
The makeup store is called Tools of the Trade.
And I remember many years ago at a restaurant and the female waiters, oh no, sorry, it was a, yeah, no, it wasn't working.
I was at a coffee shop.
And there were all these women behind.
And I remember hearing it because I was working on a book and I had headphones on, but I could still hear the women chatting.
And the women were all like, tips suck today.
Call up so-and-so and get her to come over here with her low-cut tops.
Because, you know, apparently she was rather top-heavy.
And, you know, that way we can, at least we can get some tips.
Like just, it's women, but it was very cynical and that can be kind of brutal and cold.
Right?
You know the old saying, I don't know how true it is, but the old saying that men are in love, women are in business.
Being one of the few women in a male-dominated space, however, is lovely.
So the alpha widow phenomenon is something like this.
So the alpha widow phenomenon is a woman, let's say she's a six, and she can date, for short-term relationships, guys who are eight, nines, and tens.
Let's just say the six can date the nine.
And so she throws out a lot of hypersexual signals.
She talks a lot about Sex and low-cut tops.
And so she, in a sense, bypasses male judgment with sexual stimulation of a visual kind, right?
Low-cut tops and lots of lipstick, the orgasm, kabuki, hello kitty face.
And so she is hijacking a man's thinking by activating the penis, right?
And so because of that...
His judgment goes down.
He's in a state of semi-perpetual arousal, and therefore his cognitive faculties, his judgment, his standards kind of collapse because he has access to, and so, right?
So it's a form of love bombing, right?
And so the six can have short-term relationships with the nine, and this is the general female paranoia about what do you do in the morning, right?
What do you do in the morning?
There's a whole Anna Faris, I don't remember the movie, but she gets up and she's got to put on all her makeup and then she goes back to bed and she pretends she wakes up that way.
We talked about it, the wolf sex.
I talked about that before.
You chew your own arm off rather than wake the woman up.
So, it's a situation where the woman can sleep at the man because he's, you know, it's late.
She's been putting out sexual signals all night.
Maybe he's a little drunk and put the beer goggles on, right?
And so she can have sex with the man, and she might even get a short-term relationship out of it, but at some point, the man looks over and says, now, or, or, of course, live by the sword, die by the sword.
And so what happens is he's sexually sated with her, but then some other woman comes along with a low-cut top, maybe a nice figure, sexual signals, he's all over him, laughs at her and flips her hair, whatever they do these days.
And so he then will leave.
The six and go, maybe it's another six, maybe it's a seven or whatever, but he will then drift because the women are all just disabling his neofrontal cortex by appealing to his libido, his base of the brain, medulla stuff.
And so he just drifts from one night stand to short-term commitment to, you know, and he just kind of drifts off, he ghosts and so on.
So the alpha widow is the woman.
And it's very common and often is the breeding ground for feminism, right?
So the alpha widow is the woman who can, she's a six, she can get the nine to sleep with her.
Maybe she can get a couple of weeks or maybe even a couple of months out of it, but he drifts on because she's, you know, sexuality, you know, it, you know, that old saying, no matter how beautiful the woman is, no matter how sexy is, there's someone somewhere who's tired of having sex with her.
Right?
Because if it's just about sex, it gets depressing.
Because it's animalistic.
It's not anything elevated.
It's not about virtue.
It's not about love.
It's not about respect.
It's just about, you know, fluid discharge.
You know, it turns into dentistry.
You know, they put that thing in your mouth that seems to suck, but basically just drip things in the back of your throat until you cough and feel like you're going to lose a tooth because they're scraping something that goes back to three generations of ancestry.
Don't swallow, don't swallow, right?
So, a lot of sexual jokes here.
So, it's just fluid discharge, right?
Just orgasms, and, you know, the sex and the orgasm, you know, 20 minutes or whatever, right?
And then you've got, you know, a lot of time together, and you're just not, like, once the sexual frisson wears off, then he's going to drift on to somebody else, right?
And then, after a certain number of this, could be, you know, 3, 5, 7, 9, 12, whatever, after a certain number of this, She then has a problem that men won't commit to her.
And the reason men won't commit to her is because she's subsidizing with sex and that subsidy, the effect wears off and then some other new woman wants to subsidize with sex so he'll drift off in that direction or he just finds that he doesn't really particularly enjoy her company because she doesn't have much to talk about.
She doesn't have any thoughts or virtues or ideas or anything like that.
She's not much of a conversationalist and he just gets tired of the sex.
And it gets depressing.
I don't know if you've ever been in that situation but it just gets...
It's just depressing.
Like, what am I doing here?
You sort of wake up as a man, post not clarity, and you sort of look around at this messy apartment and trashy novels on the wall and Taylor Swift posters, and it's like, what am I doing here?
This is really depressing.
And then you just drift off, right?
And so the woman is like, well, I can get this.
Men will sleep with me, but they won't commit to me.
And so rather than say, I am not providing enough value to keep the men, She then drifts towards the theories that men are commitment-phobic.
Men just, they won't commit.
They just, they won't grow up.
They are terrified of a real woman.
They're intimidated by my intelligence and my money and my success, whatever it is, right?
It's all just cope and nonsense, right?
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