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Feb. 1, 2025 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
06:23
Why Women Can't Commit to a Man
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So, this was also, again, not wanting to speak for the late, great Kevin Samuels, but Kevin Samuels was also, this was one of his missions too, which is, he would ask women, you know, same couple of questions, right?
What's your height?
What's your weight?
Last time you weighed yourself, what's your dress size?
And then he'd play, right?
I mean, the women were overweight.
And he would say, how would you rate yourself 1 to 10, fresh-faced, your own hair, right out of the shower, just your face, you can't use 7, right?
And women would rate themselves 8 and 9, and he'd be like, no, Beyonce's an 8, and Kelly Rowland is a 9, or something like that, Rihanna's a 10, something like that, right?
And he would say, because he was a professional image consultant, and he would say, he'd have the Zoom picture or the Zoom video, and he'd say, no, you're 6, you're cute, you're cute, there's nothing wrong with cute, right?
An inflated sense of their own attractiveness, society cannot continue.
Society cannot continue.
It's essential.
And this used to be dealt with in the free market, which is women who had an inflated sense of their own potential ended up not reproducing.
So, yeah, aim high.
Absolutely, aim high, but be realistic.
And realize that if you aim high and miss, you get less.
Right?
It's like double or nothing.
Maybe you'll get the double.
Maybe you'll get nothing.
But without the or nothing, women can just...
It's a typical path, right?
They get more attractive men than they deserve in terms of marriage by sleeping with men.
And they go through this and get increasingly frustrated that men won't settle down with them, won't marry them, won't give them children, won't commit to them.
Men have commitment issues.
It's like, no, you have judgment issues.
Men don't have commitment issues.
You're judging a man's desire for sex as if it's his desire for marriage and children.
And it's not.
It's not.
For most men, sex and commitment, for obvious evolutionary reasons, for most men, sex and commitment are overlapping circles at best.
You can have sex with commitment.
You can have sex without commitment.
And if the...
If the major value or the significant value that the woman brings to the relationship is sex, then he will not commit.
A man will not commit to sex.
A man will commit to virtue.
A man will commit to loyalty.
A man will commit to honesty, integrity, you know, fun, happiness, stability, like all the qualities that will make a good wife and mother to his children.
But a man will not commit to sex for the simple reason that men have to have multiple partners in order for tribes to continue because men die.
In hunting accidents, they die because they cut themselves while putting a fence up in a farm.
They die in war.
They die all the time, right?
And so men needed to decouple sex from monogamy, or at least have them be overlapping circles.
So yes, a man will have sex with you, but he's not going to marry you.
And this shows up in another one of Tennessee Williams' plays, The Glass Menagerie, sorry, A Streetcar Named Desire.
Where one of the guys says to the woman when he finds out that she actually had a total hoe face that went on for a long time, he says, I'm not going to marry you now.
I'll have sex with you.
I'm not going to marry you.
You're not clean enough to bring in the house with my mother.
He's quite a little overattached to his mother, but he's quite attached to his mother.
And then she goes completely insane.
And honestly, I hate to say I learned all of this from my mother, but I learned all of this from my mother.
This is not, you know, how if I stared so deep into the estrogen whirlpool of bad resource allocation.
Because my mother could get men to date her.
She could get men to sleep with her.
She could get men to fly her out to another country.
But she could not.
She could not get the men to marry her.
She could not.
And she ended up, as I read in my teens when I first read Tennessee Williams, she ended up with nothing.
She aimed high.
She aimed high.
She aimed, like, I saw the guy, she aimed high.
She could not get the men to marry her.
They'd sleep with her.
She looked great on their arms.
She's a very beautiful woman, very slender, which, you know, for a woman from Germany is in her, you know, 40s, 50s, 60s, not the most common scenario.
The Angela Merkel potato seems to be more of the template, but she could not get them to marry her.
And I'm sure she, I mean, I know she wanted them to.
She aimed for the super good-looking guys, super successful guys, super wealthy guys, and they appreciated, you know, my mother's very intelligent, good conversationalist, very attractive, and so on, but not stable enough to marry.
And she was also a single mother, and she also probably spoke bitterly about her ex, you know, to discharge the emotion, which also discharges any potential of getting a ring on your finger.
So we have a society now, because women outvote men, always be the case, women outvote men, as I mentioned, because of...
Of age, population, and incentive, right?
Of incentive.
Women are desperate to get government money.
Men are not as desperate to deny them government money.
And in the past, women who aimed too high were quite likely to end up with nothing.
And that tempered there, right?
It would be like if in horse racing, you were betting on horse racing, Like squid game style, right?
You're betting in horse racing and you can't ever lose money on the long odds.
You can't ever lose money on the long odds, right?
Like the 20 to 1, like pays 20 to 1 because the horse is like some U-shaped head into the glue factory three-legged wobble butt, right?
So if in horse racing, the 20 to 1, you could never lose money, then people would only bet on the 20 to 1. And, you know, maybe they'd win once in a great while, but, you know, but if you couldn't lose money.
But the reason why, the bets are all calibrated so that the horse most likely to win pays very little, and the horse least likely to win pays a lot.
So women go for the long shot because the government will catch them on the downside if they fail.
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