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Sept. 30, 2024 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
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How to Talk to Women!
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Hey Steph, I have trouble approaching women.
When I want to, I feel a mental block and my mind goes blank.
Then, I lose my train of thought.
My first thought is someone in my past benefits from me staying single.
Does this sound correct?
Interesting.
Hit me with a why if you have trouble talking to women you're attracted to.
It's also known as being a man.
I certainly did when I was single.
I've mostly gotten over it with my wife.
So, hit me with a why, if you have trouble,
talking to women, you are attracted to.
I must know.
You must tell me.
Right.
So, the first thing to recognize and remember, of course, is that this is a perfectly natural,
healthy and common phenomenon.
It means that you care.
If you didn't care about rejection, you'd be a sociopath, and that's not good.
Really not good.
You don't want that.
You don't want to be free of fear.
That means you're free of conscience and humanity.
So it just means that you care.
And in general, when I look back at the women I was most nervous to talk to, it's because I was approaching them for entirely the wrong reasons.
And the reason that I was tense about talking to the women was I was lying through my teeth.
Lies were exuding from me like snot from the nose hole of a narwhal.
I was lying through my... Oh no, honey, I just... Although you have a curvaceous and lovely body, I... I am just... I'm fascinated by your mind and your thoughts and your dreams and desires.
I often have attacks of conscience.
When I want to lie to get into a woman's pants.
So, yeah, it's the lying.
It's the lying.
Why are you approaching the women?
Why?
Do they have a spark?
Do they have a great smile?
Do they seem to have a good sense of humor?
Do they appear friendly, nice, positive, enthusiastic, affectionate, whatever?
Or are they just pretty?
So pretty.
So pretty.
They deserve to be in the back of a windowless van.
On the way to the cult combat.
So, yeah, why are you approaching the women?
Why are you attracted to the women?
Why are you talking to the women?
Is it for their virtues or their prettiness?
And again, these two can be combined and I get all of that, right?
But maybe you have a mental block because you're lying through your teeth.
And I say this with all humility, having done it myself.
There was a girl I dated in high school.
Man, she just had a look that was staggering to me.
I dated her and I was constantly looking for intelligent comments.
I remember once she made an intelligent comment and I was like, yes!
Turns out it was kind of like an eclipse.
Nice girl.
Nice girl.
Just not a lot going on.
The lobes were not lobing.
Did not lub the lobes.
And maybe you have a block because going after a woman for her looks alone is a disaster that your brain is trying to save you from.
You got your balls rolling at the bowling pins of the pretty girls and maybe you're getting blocked for that.
Just possibility.
just a possibility.
The answer is yes.
I mean I've been incredibly blessed.
I won't say necessarily lucky but very happy to have such a great person in my life.
She's never been tough to talk to.
We've never had any challenges talking.
I remember a friend of mine when I was younger.
was talking about how when she and her husband would go out for dinner, they'd see all of these couples just kind of staring at each other and she said, you know, when I was younger, I thought, my God, we're never going to be that.
We're never going to be that couple.
And she's like, yeah, but life happens.
And yeah, I've had a bunch of dinners with my husband.
We're just staring at each other with nothing to say.
That has never happened.
Thank you very much for the tip.
That has never happened with my wife.
She is great fun to talk to, very insightful, very creative, very funny, but still not funny.
My daughter is the funniest person in the family.
I mean, don't get me wrong, she's a teenager, so you have to have a little bit of a thick skin, but she's absolutely the funniest person in the family.
Okay, it's not even close.
But yeah, I mean, I remember when my wife and I first just accidentally went out.
We weren't even supposed to go out.
We were supposed to go out with the whole volleyball team, but everyone had to cancel for some reason.
So it's just my wife and I. We just had this electric conversation and went on for like two and a half hours.
And when I left, I actually carried the little fold, the little restaurant fold, I still have it, that they put the bill in.
I've never done that before or since.
So clearly I wanted to take something home.
I wanted to take something home.
And then in 11 months, we were married and I did.
So Just maybe, just maybe, your nervousness is trying to keep you from getting into a disastrous situation where you're dating based upon a lie.
So, I mean, it could be any number of possibilities, but that would be interesting.
That would be interesting.
Sexual shame?
Yeah, so there is a kind of thing.
Ah, my lovely brother.
So, I remember there was this girl that I really liked.
Ah, the Don Mills Mall.
It no longer exists anymore.
That bothers me.
You know, we're made for a lot more continuity than we have.
We're made to hoe the back forty around castles that have been around for a thousand years.
And the only thing that changes are the seasons and the leaves.
But everything changes.
Everything gets scooped up and rearranged and undone and redone.
That mall, I spent a lot of time in that mall, in the Don Mills Mall.
I wasn't like the mall rats, you know, like, they're not there to shop, they're not there to work, they're just... there.
It wasn't because of that, it was because I had a variety of jobs.
I worked in a hardware store, I cleaned offices in that mall, and I worked in a convenience store in that mall, and so I spent a lot of time in the Don Mills Mall.
It was actually, it was a great mall.
It was a great mall, by the way.
My mother and I used to go for dinner at this little restaurant at the top of the mall.
It was actually not a very good restaurant at all.
And I remember my mother had a piece of fried fish and she was like, ah, I must bring out the chef!
I mean, she was in one of her grandiose moods.
Lord knows I've never had that, but I hear it happens to the occasional Molyneux.
But she was in one of her grandiose moods and she's like, you must bring out the chef!
I must compliment him!
And this guy came out, just kind of greasy and stained, and he's just like, why does a customer want to talk to me?
I think he looked stoned, and I just remember him like, oh, yeah, thanks.
Just kind of standing there like a slightly swinging sack of potatoes.
But yeah, I spent a lot of time in that mall, and there was a girl.
Tie-fling type.
There was a girl in the record store.
And I would go in and browse for records.
You know when you're pretending to be doing something but you're shooting, like you can't look at the girl, it's like an eclipse, or you can't stare at it because your nipples will inflame and not in the way that you pay for.
But, you know, with the hot wax.
Anyway, I don't have to get into details, we all understand what I'm talking about.
I was looking at a corner of my eye, just stealing glasses, stealing glasses, stealing hearts and stealing glasses.
And I remember I finally did get up to talk to her, and I was talking to her, and my brother came up and said, Wipe the drool off, stiff!
And he just pretended to, you know, and it's just like, Because, you know, you're talking to a girl because you're attracted to her, but you don't want to bruise the delicacies by saying, Oh, oh, likes her, likes her!
That's tense, right?
That's tense.
So there could be some shaming around that if you've had that in the past.
Mostly gotten over it with your wife.
I was just kidding.
But yeah, when you just find somebody who's so easy to talk to and you just absolutely love and enjoy talking to them, you know, put a ring on it if they're fertile.
All right.
Hey Steph, long time listener, thanks for all you do.
What would your advice be to someone who wants to meet a quality woman and get married, but is too afraid to go out and interact with women in public?
Are you... Give me your age range.
You don't have to tell me the exact age.
Give me your age range.
By the way, thank you, Graham.
I really appreciate that.
Somebody says, long time listener.
Somebody, I say, Graham.
Oh, he's crackers.
Making good money now and so pleased to be able to support you more than sharing philosophy.
39 years old.
38 years old.
Never kissed a girl.
39 years old and just had my first baby.
Peaceful parenting is my bedrock thanks to you.
Love you brother.
You're like the dad I ever had.
That might be a conversation for another time.
Thank you Graham and massive, massive, massive congratulations.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Alright, sorry, let me get to your questions.
Somebody says, yeah, my son is the funniest person in our family.
He's only one?
Even when he grows rubber bones because he hates getting dressed.
That's pretty funny.
All right.
If you asked a question previously and you want to re-ask, you can find it here.
OK, thanks.
I'll check that.
All right.
Desiree, you don't need to give me an essay.
I'm just asking for your age range.
Not for me, but for a couple of friends.
One is in his 30s, one is in his 40s.
All right.
If I help you, everybody who's listening to this now or later, if I help you, genuinely help you, lose your anxiety about talking to members of the opposite sex, I can assume, I'm just gonna, I'm not even gonna ask, I'm just gonna assume that's worth a donation or two.
Because I can tell you, I can, I can absolutely tell you how to avoid your anxiety about talking to the opposite sex.
Hit me with a why if that's an issue.
You want to be more comfortable talking to a girl if you're a boy, a boy if you're a girl, or whatever.
Whatever.
Hit me with a why if that's a value to you and I will tell you something that is going to blow your mind and change your life.
I am not kidding.
Blow your mind!
Change your life.
Might even get you blown as a whole.
Change your pants.
I'm definitely going to join a gym class to meet women, yeah?
Do you want to share your AI fine-tuning approach?
I don't think so.
I don't think I want to do that.
Yes, alright.
So everyone thinks that finding it hard to talk... I'm just going to talk boy to girl, alright?
So everyone thinks that finding it hard to talk to girls is because of insecurity.
It's not.
It's because of selfishness.
It's because of selfishness.
The reason why you have a tough time talking to girls is because you're selfish, because you're making it about you.
My insecurities, my fear, my desire.
Oh, I don't want to get rejected.
Oh, I, me, me, I, I. Shut up!
Not everything in life is about you and your whole mirrors of self-regard.
It's not about you.
I learned this in software sales in my twenties, right?
I built this amazing, beautiful, wonderful piece of software and I had to go and sell it.
Did I go and sell it from the perspective of, well, I really need money to make payroll, so you've got to buy my software, because it's about me and my needs, and don't reject me, and I've got to get paid, and I've got this great software.
No.
No, no, no, no.
I had a great piece of software, and I wanted to share it with the world.
You grok, right?
You follow, right?
It was not about me.
It was about my software and the amazing benefits my software could provide to the world.
It's not about me.
It's about the software and the benefit to someone else.
It's the same thing with philosophy.
It's not about me.
It's about the benefit that philosophy can provide to the world.
Right?
That's what it's about.
It's about the benefit that philosophy can provide to the world.
If you make it about you, people will reject you.
Can you imagine going to a used car lot?
You need a used car.
And the guy's like, hey man, you know, I've got this hookers and blow habit.
You've got to buy the most expensive car on the lot because I really need the commission, man.
Vixen with three axes is waiting for me down at the Gentleman's Club by the airport.
And, uh, you know, I need a little pouch of bacon soda, if you know what I mean.
So, here's the- this is the most expensive car.
It's like 23 grand.
It's the most expensive car we've got.
My commission on that is a sweet 23 hundred.
I really need that.
I'm gonna blow it all tonight.
Blow it!
You get it?
Blow.
Anyway, I really, really need you to buy this fucking car!
Because Desiree and Vixen with three X's are waiting for me, scissor kicking, At the gentleman's club out by the airport.
And, and we got special on 14,000 watts of specialized P. Diddy baby oil with pheranomes.
So, you gotta buy this car for me!
Do it for me, man!
Do it for me!
Would you want to buy a car from someone who made it all about themselves and their needs?
No.
A good salesman connects What they're selling to genuine, legitimate, helpful needs of the customers.
Right?
So if you're coming in and you've got 19 children, the guy's not going to sell you a sports car.
If you're coming in as a young single man, he's not going to sell you a minivan because he's going to figure out what you might want and provide it.
That's good sales.
Sales is not about you.
It's not even fundamentally about the product.
it's about the benefit that the product can provide, the buyer, and dating is sales.
He's a good guy.
You are selling yourself.
So, if you have a cure for cancer that costs 50 bucks and you go to someone with cancer, you're not afraid of getting rejected because it's 50 bucks and it cures their cancer.
They're going to buy it.
Then they're going to thank you.
They're going to send up hosannas to you to the very Elysium skies themselves.
No problem.
Now, if you had a cure for cancer for 50 bucks, someone's dying of cancer and you say, you know, I'm just, I'm too nervous to approach them.
I don't want to.
I mean, I'm probably overthinking this bit.
I just, I can't.
I just, I can't.
Don't make me.
I can't do it.
I can't.
My heart, like I can feel it pounding like Mike Tyson trying to get out of the bone cage of my chest.
It's just, I can't.
So I'm going home.
And you take your cancer cure and you go home and the guy dies of cancer.
Aren't you an asshole for killing him with your insecurity?
It's not about you.
Dating, talking to girls, talking to boys, not about you!
Not about you.
It's about the benefit you can provide to the other person.
Now, if you don't believe in that benefit, go work on yourself until you believe in it.
Don't pass along fraudulent gifts.
Don't be a scam artist.
Don't be a con artist.
Don't pass along fraudulent gifts.
Work on yourself until you have something of undeniable value to offer and then don't be a selfish asshole and withhold your benefits from the world.
Philosophy is not about me.
It's about the benefit that philosophy can provide to you and the world as a whole.
Oh, but I don't know if I'm eloquent enough.
I don't know.
I'm bald.
I don't know.
I don't know if I could do it.
Oh, shut up!
Go and provide your benefits to the world.
Shut up and stop making it about yourself all the time and go and provide your benefits to the world
It's about the happiness you can bring to a good woman and good man and your children
Thank you.
It's not about you, you, you, you, all the, all the, all the time.
It's exhausting.
It's debilitating.
Somebody's falling from a high, high, high building and you've got this giant inflatable
It just needs, you and your buddies need to push it over.
Five feet so they don't die, and you're like, oh, I don't know.
I mean, I don't know.
I don't want to impose.
I don't want to move it.
Uh, maybe somebody wants it to stay where it... Dead.
Dead.
Good, good job.
You're making it about you, and somebody splats on the sidewalk.
Well, I do have fusion in a jar.
It could solve all of the energy problems in the world.
I do have fusion in a jar.
I figured that out.
But I don't want to impose, and I don't want people to think I'm being pushy, and I don't want... God.
Just shut up and go sell your fusion in a jar.
Stop making it about you.
It's about the happiness you can bring to someone.
Now, if you meet the girl, And you can bring happiness to the girl, how dare you withhold that from her?
If she can bring happiness to you too.
And usually it works that way, that if you really bring happiness to someone, then they will bring happiness to you.
But the reason why it's tough to talk to girls is you don't believe that you can bring value to someone.
It's like asking for a raise when you've just spent the last year doing a shitty job.
It's a little tough, right?
Why am I so insecure asking for a raise?
Well, because you set fire to the company warehouse three times in the last four months.
and you're this close to getting fired.
If you provide value to a woman, it's very selfish for you to withhold that value from her.
I mean, really, in life.
You just have to make one person very happy in order for your life to be completely worthwhile.
Just one person.
Make one person really... hopefully that person is a young man or woman of childbearing age and all of that kind of good stuff.
Get kids out of it.
Just make one person happy.
That's it.
Just make one person happy.
Hopefully, you know, they make you happy and all of that.
I mean, I love what I do, but my greatest Pride and sense of meaning and happiness and joy comes from the fact that I make my wife very happy.
And I make my daughter very happy.
I mean, I make you guys happy too, I hope.
Although I know sometimes it stings a little.
It's the same with me.
If it's any consolation.
Just make someone happy.
Just go and bring laughter, you know, like there's all these things on... Did I save one?
You know, all of these lists, right?
All of these lifts, lists that women have, right?
I'm looking for a man in fine hair, 6'4", blue eyes, but I don't think I'll be able to find it.
Can I search for it?
List.
Okay, I just tried to do a search, and the screen just went blank.
Wait, did it go down to the bottom?
List.
Oh, there it is.
Uh, okay.
Are you saying I have nothing?
Uh, wait.
Uh, deep.
Deep voice. May 21st.
No, I don't think that's it.
So there's this woman and she was, she's a, I don't know, some fitness girl and she's like, I have this list, you know, over 5'10", deep voice, good cheekbones and you know, just list and list and list, right?
And you know, the lists are fun, you know, like when I was a kid, my brother and I used to be like, if we got a million pounds each, what would we buy?
And we just made this list, you know, it's just kids making up nonsense, right?
But, you know, if you're reasonably well put together, your teeth aren't yellow, you've got some decent skin, decent outfits, decent haircut, and you're an engaging conversationalist and you make her laugh, her list goes out the window.
The list is not life in this instance, right?
The list is nonsense.
It's just nonsense.
It all goes out the window.
You know?
There's a pretty funny... What do they call it?
When... Chatfishing.
Right?
There's chatfishing.
So chatfishing is when you get the picture of a really great guy.
A really great-looking guy and you just wait for the women to swarm you, right?
Like a really good-looking guy and you just wait for the women to swarm you.
And so, some guy who was an incel wanted to put out this theory.
He said, oh, well, you're an incel because you have right-wing beliefs, right?
You're a conservative, right?
So this really good-looking guy was like, yeah, I'm a MAGA guy.
And the women are all like, tee-hee, that's fine, right?
Because he's good-looking, right?
Or you're an incel because You don't have good personal hygiene.
And then this really good looking guy was like, yeah, I don't bathe.
And the women are like, teehee, I bet you smell good anyway.
You know, maybe because you don't, you don't have any charisma.
And so this guy said absolutely nothing of any intelligence.
Nice weather.
I like sports, like just complete nonsense.
And the women are like, oh, you're so much fun to chat with.
So it's all kind of funny, right?
It's all just it's sad, sad but but funny.
Sad but funny.
So you have something of value to offer or you don't.
You have something of value to offer.
Now, if you don't think you have something of value to offer, any woman with any perception will know you're lying your ass off when you talk to her.
You're the coke addict car dealer.
Car sales dealer.
You're a car salesman.
Coke addict car salesman, don't be that guy.
It's gross.
It's gross.
And you'll only get self-loathing men or women.
So, stop.
you you
Stop making it all about you and your thoughts and your feelings.
If you can make the woman happy, stop being a jerk and withholding that from her.
Again, I understand there's got to be... Oh yeah, the Chad guy, there was another Chad fishing, right?
The guy posted that he was convicted of assault against his girlfriend and the woman didn't care.
They didn't care.
They didn't care.
So a woman's list, it's just a filter for rage cells and the resentful.
It's just a filter.
That's all it is.
Just a filter.
I have a list of preferences.
Well, I'm upset with that.
Okay, so you're a hot-tempered guy who has no self-confidence and you're kind of angry at women, so... right?
The list is... it's a wish list.
It's comedy.
It's not a real thing.
It's not a real thing.
And of course, we know that the list is not a real thing because the list never, never seems to include Moral qualities.
I've never seen any of these lists.
It's always finance, Chad jaw, six foot two, old money, deep voice, masculine intent, funny, cute, charming, witty.
It's never about honest, courageous, virtuous, hard.
Like it's never, never about that.
So it's just, it's a wishlist.
It's like, it is much relationship to women's actual dating strategies is like, I don't know, fantasy football pornography does.
I don't know.
So the way that you talk to women is you have something to offer.
You have something of value to offer and you like the girl.
If you don't have something to offer, don't talk to her.
Don't talk to her.
Otherwise you're just defrauding her.
Don't do it.
And if you don't think you have anything of value to offer women, then you have to wait until you accept and believe that.
Right?
Fix my loneliness is a hyena-like mating cry of the terminally depressed.
Make me feel better about myself.
I don't want to be lonely.
Help me, help me, oh my god.
And that literally is like, hey man, I need, I need, I need, I need to get some drugs, because, so buy my car, like, it's about your needs, your needs, your needs, right?
No thank you.
No thank you.
Work on having and adding value.
I mean, I always had a very strong belief that I'd be a great husband and a great dad.
I mean, maybe not when I was a lot younger, but certainly from my mid to late twenties onwards and certainly after therapy, which I started in my late twenties.
So I was like, yeah, I'd be a good dad.
I mean, I knew I was good with kids because I worked in a daycare and they all adored me as I really had great affection for them as well.
But...
So...
I knew I was gonna be good with kids, so...
I knew I'd have a lot of fun as a dad.
I knew I'd be a pretty good husband and a very good husband and all of that.
Somebody says, we know women are lying when they say they want nice guys.
Why believe them when they say they want six foot six figures?
No, no, no.
So women want nice guys.
Well, you know, that's that's very bitter meme.
It's like, How do I repel women?
It's like, oh, just be nice.
They hate that stuff.
That's not true.
No.
Healthy women want nice guys.
The women who say they want bad guys are not healthy.
They are very unhealthy, very toxic.
So, don't worry about those people.
Don't worry about those people.
Don't worry about those people.
they are advertising their dysfunction and they're helping you stay away.
All right, let me get to your other questions und commenties.
== Notes you
Yeah, of course there are the women.
Women always want more pay and then they Always want men who make more than they do, and it's like, nope, sorry.
Every time you get more pay, a man generally gets less pay.
So women want more pay, and then a man who makes more than they do, and it's like... I'm sorry, I don't know.
I'll donate, but it will need to wait until October.
Okay.
I can wait.
Just kidding, alright.
Like, yeah, you're just going to have to pick a lane, right?
If you want to make more money, that's fine, that's fine.
But you really are going to have to accept that men aren't going to make as much money as you.
Especially when you want the government to force employers to pay you more, right?
Somebody says since from the last stream I was listening recently to one of your shows and you mentioned you love how Izzy interacts with authority figures.
Can you name a particularly memorable example of Izzy interacting with an authority figure?
I won't give any particular details but in a situation of injustice where an acquaintance of hers was not able to stand up for herself Izzy went... she went very strong in making sure that the rather shy acquaintance Scott A fair settling of accounts.
So, she's very fierce that way and I appreciate that.
Steph, what do you think of debating parental responsibility and peaceful parenting with Andrew Wilson?
Well, the problem is that Andrew Wilson and I would be dealing with a very different methodology.
So, I would be dealing with reason and evidence and empiricism and he would be dealing with theological absolutes.
So, I'm not sure if we couldn't agree on that and therefore the debate probably wouldn't go very far.
Alright.
I would rather see Steph talk to Chris Williamson about more in-depth life stuff.
Chris Williamson reminds me of a young Steph.
Hey, that's younger!
No, actually, it's young.
Alright.
Did we talk already, Chris Williamson?
So I'm just going to see if, uh...
the one.
Once in a lifetime, there is water underground, same as it ever was.
Same as it ever was.
Okay, so there's no questions there that I didn't get to?
Oh, sneezy time.
Is it sneezy time?
Oh my!
Alright.
Thank you for the tip.
I'm not sure what it is about this conversation, but by God do I feel the need to distract myself, even leave and go do chores, or anything else, even though I love the advice you're giving and I've been thinking of ways I can increase my value and what I bring to the table.
You don't have the right!
To withhold your gold from the world.
You just don't have that right.
It's wrong.
It's absolutely wrong.
You don't have the right.
Do you know why?
Because you only exist because other people did not withhold their value from the world.
So your existence is predicated on the fact that your ancestors were able to woo women.
And men.
Well, wooing men isn't that hard.
You only exist because your ancestors were not afraid to put their best foot forward and woo women.
So you don't have the right to withhold your value from women.
Otherwise you're just a exploiter.
You're kind of parasitical, right?
You're like vampiric on everybody else's courage and then you make it all about yourself and fumble and choke and that's the end of your bloodline.
You owe it to your children to make a case for you as a father and a husband.
You owe it to the next generation.
You owe it to the continuance of your Bloodline.
Civilization.
The West.
Whatever.
You owe it.
It is a requirement.
It's not an option.
Well, when I get over my indecision... You're only here because other people got over their bullshit.
So get over yours!
Go fuck it up.
Go fuck it up.
I've crashed and burned numerous times in talking to girls.
I mean, I told you the story about the first girl I asked out.
Queen of the school.
Still remember her name.
Queen of the school.
I must have been 14 years old and I said, hey, would you like to go swimming?
And she's like, with who?
Crashed and burned.
First time round.
Crashed and burned.
So?
So what?
What's wrong with that?
What's wrong with that?
You want to wait to a guaranteed success before you try anything?
Well, that's a great way to live in the grave long before you have to.
You never want to live in the grave.
You wanna wanna be dead meat when you go in the grave.
Somebody says I have a lot of anxiety about my career and having children.
Just had my first I'm away from home for 12 to 16 days a month and I'm worried it's going to be a problem for secure attachment of my sweet baby girl.
My career treats me well and I'm happy here but I don't know how to navigate this challenge.
well just ask for more time at home just ask for more time at home
yeah I talked to Chris Williamson in 2020.
Did I?
Did I?
How exciting.
Good to know.
You know you've done a lot of interviews.
When?
Guy creates fake hot criminal Tinder profile to make a point and it goes horribly right.
Oh, this is from 2019.
It's when I was, uh, I read more.
Or Chad29.
You don't like me?
Too bad.
things you should know about me cuz you'll see the ankle monitor. Nice.
Nice.
Oh my gosh.
And the girls just...
Chad takes a super aggressive approach with this next Tinder match basically telling her to hurry up and read his profile so they could get the unpleasantness out of the way and get straight to smashing!
Which is sex, right?
That's pretty funny.
Oh my gosh.
The best is safe for last, however, when one of his matches completely blows past the criminal aspect.
Oh my gosh.
So she says, Reddit, that for real?
A joke or what?
It's real.
It was only one kid.
He was eight and my mind felt, oh God.
Oh God.
Oh, that's horrible.
And she says, wow, not really sure what to say.
I guess it's cool how you being honest about it though.
Yep.
So what are you doing right about now?
Anything cool?
Just bored.
Bored and on Tinder looking for fun and stuff yourself.
Are you from?
And then she just goes on.
Oh God.
Oh God.
Oh.
You know I'm telling you I said this like a show or two ago, chivalry is gone because female nature at least in its
current incarnation is being revealed, it's just being revealed to bare to
people.
I'm a pilot so that's impossible without a career change.
Yeah.
Well, just, you know, I'm sure you get time off and spend as much time as you can.
All right.
Hi, Steph.
I just had a job interview with an absolutely amazing manager.
A total contrast from mine.
The job pays considerably more as well.
I'm really hoping to get the job.
looking back what would the science be that this manager was interested?
Well I...
I don't know but there's a very passive approach.
I hope you enjoyed this video.
If you did, please give it a thumbs up and subscribe to my channel.
I don't Sorry, maybe I'm misunderstanding something.
So I assume that you called up the manager and said, that was an absolutely fantastic interview.
I'm dying to work for you.
I know I can provide a huge amount of value.
I'm on tender hooks.
If there's anything else you need to know, I'd be happy to answer any and all questions.
Hire me.
I will work like a Turk or whatever, like whatever you're going to say.
So why would you be passive about this?
Oh, Modern Wisdom.
Okay, so Modern Wisdom is the podcast.
And why YouTube deleted my 1 million subscriber channel?
It was probably well over 2 million, except they kept suppressing it also.
Thanks, Steph.
Just donated at freedomain.com slash donate.
Thank you.
I appreciate that.
Very, very kind.
Good looking guy.
Should probably do that again.
Rating explicit.
That's right!
explicit nipple-tastic philosophy is in the house.
Alright, any other last questions, comments, challenges, issues, problems,
praise, condemnation, salvation, desperation? Alright.
I discuss my value. I listened to a podcast from years ago about landing a
dream job and how making the case for the value one can bring is very powerful.
And important in this process.
and important in this process.
He did ask one situational question where I told him I needed to think a bit more.
We got back to it later and I gave a good answer though.
I'm just worried that messed me up.
No, if it's right, you can't mess it up.
if it's a good fit and he's a good manager you can't mess it up
yeah I mean I read some biographies of Hitler when I was working on my novel almost
because I really wanted to try and capture the the hellscape of
uh... the weimar republic in that novel and the rise of nazism so uh... yeah i think uh... thank you very much i appreciate that so it is uh... people are people curious and and this again the skepticism uh... you know once once you break that dam and people realize that there's been a lot of big lies in society they're gonna go looking for more and whether they'll find them or not that's uh... that's a journey man that's a journey I mean, I remember Churchill and the Unnecessary War.
I did a show on this, like, I don't know, 17 years ago, about a lot of the lies about World War II, and that's pretty wild stuff.
Yeah, because if the lies are right here, right, the lies are right up against your face.
Who's to say that they aren't further away, right?
The idea that you're being lied... Let me ask you this.
We can make it a little bit more personal so that we can sort of understand it at this level.
Have you Hey, Steph, just wanted to let you know the quality of the show hasn't wavered a bit.
I haven't donated in a while due to financial worries.
I appreciate that and I know, man.
Everybody, please, please know that I understand that and I sympathize and please don't donate what you can't afford.
Absolutely not.
Keep that for yourself and all of that.
But anything that's been on your mind lately, Steph?
Oh, yeah, everything and always, all the time.
It's quite a carnival in here.
So if you've ever had someone Lie.
To you.
A big lie.
A big lie.
I was thinking, because there was one in a call-in show recently, but it was a private call-in show, so I won't talk about it, but if you've ever had someone just a giant lie, then what happens is you look back, don't you, skeptically over the entire relationship?
Like if you've been married for 20 years and you realize your wife cheated on you twice over the last year, don't you look back and say, oh my god, what was going on before, right?
if you've been in a relationship for 20 years and you find out
that someone has some big terrible secret right then
don't you look back and say oh my god if they can keep this secret what other
How much have they been lying to me?
Right.
So this is what's going on in society at the moment.
This is the consequence.
Everything is now in question.
Because so many lies have been told.
So many lies have been told.
So many lies have been told.
That everything is now open to question.
Bye.
Why you two deleted my 1 million subscriber channel?
So yeah, alright.
Somebody says, yeah, even aliens, UFOs, flat earth, reptilian overlords, the chemtrails, like, people are just like, oh my god, like, we've been lied to about so much, what have we not been lied to about?
And that's, you know, that's really kicking things open that formally were accepted, right?
Somebody says, when you were in the private sector, how did you receive corrections or improvement feedback from peers or reports?
People below you.
As a solopreneur now, what is your opinion about feedback?
I recall you asking for feedback from us listeners and even your daughter, so I guess you welcome it from people who work for you.
Am I right?
Yeah, I mean, I think James, you can say that I'm pretty often saying How's it going working with me?
Is there anything that I can do better or different or anything you need support on or anything that you'd like to work on to make your day working with me more enjoyable or anything like that, right?
So, yeah, I mean, I'm always looking for feedback.
That's, you know, I always say with the show, you know, feedback, thoughts, comments, questions, issues, you know, whatever I can improve.
And, you know, every couple of months I'll certainly do a big question about... James says, absolutely requesting feedback.
Yeah, I just want to know how I can do things better.
I'm proud of what I do.
And optimistic about how I can improve.
It's a tough balance, right?
Because you want to say that I can improve without saying I'm not doing a quality job now, right?
So I'm doing the maximum quality.
At all times I try to do the maximum quality in a sustainable fashion, right?
The maximum quality and always try to improve.
And that tension is to me what keeps things keeping it spicy, keeping it spicy.
Oh, with regards to this, yeah, I look back and try and trace potentially when the person started to lie.
Yeah, for sure.
I'm pretty sure Keith Knight believes in chemtrails.
I found a website where you can build book collections and Keith's collection had a few books about geoengineering.
I think chemtrails are real.
China and Dubai openly admit weather modifications.
I do think... I know that China and Dubai have admitted weather modification for sure.
sure.
So...
I did a whole show on chemtrails recently which you can look up.
It is kind of creepy watching these mosquitoes drop from planes.
I just find that feels very dystopian to me.
So, yeah.
But what I do know is that There are vapor trails.
Like, I mean, that for sure I know.
And planes crisscrossing and the vapor trails, that I understand.
And they do come and they do start and stop depending on the thermoclines of the temperature or differently layered air temperatures and so on, right?
So, thermoclines, I think that's water.
Anyway, you know, so they do start and stop depending on various factors.
So I'm, you know, some of that I think is people thinking, oh, they're flipping a switch and so on.
I think some of that's more natural, so.
All right.
Yeah, contrails, that's right.
The government admitted to chemtrails in Vietnam.
It's just a matter of scale.
Well, again, it wouldn't surprise me.
You know, I made a video, as you know, called the case against China during COVID.
I got a lot of expertise in that.
And, but even I was a bit surprised when, I mean, a bunch of stuff went missing in Calgary and people, that really went down the memory hole.
And that it seems that America was funding the French-built Wuhan, the Wuhan lab, which has about the same level of security as your average dentist's office.
Not kidding about that.
But even I was surprised that the U.S.
was funding, or appears to have been funding, bioweapons in China.
That's wild.
And that totally destroys any sort of left-right and free market and communist distinction.
All right.
Let's see here.
What am I missing here?
Alright.
Shhhhhh.
Chemtrails has put out a preview of quite the queue on Q&A's to General Yen.
Yeah, for sure.
Wuhan is weird as hell.
That's where the scrap metal from 9-1-9-11 went.
Is that right?
As a pilot, contrails are normal.
Chemtrails, as they're called, are real.
But there's lots of misinformation on how it works.
Yeah, I mean, I'm aware that contrails are normal.
But, yeah.
Is the idea that they put it on commercial planes?
That they just have these chemicals or sprays on commercial planes and they attach it to the wings and then the pilots flip a switch?
I think that would be pretty tough.
I think that'd be pretty tough to, um, to keep quiet.
I mean, I think that would be pretty tough.
I mean, lots of retired pilots would just, the last couple of days of work, they'd just take, here's where we flip on the chemtrails, and here's where we flip off, and so on and so on.
Because, you see, commercial flights, they talk about commercial flights, right?
So, again, I'm, right?
I am not an expert on this.
Oh, it's private aircraft?
And nth dimensional reptiles I struggle with, but chemtrails my brain can understand.
Yeah, it's like the lizard necks and so on.
I think those are just video artifacts from compression and so on, right?
Yo, Steph, big donation coming a few hundred from me getting my first YouTube paycheck of about 4k late October.
Well, I'm very happy for you.
I'm very happy for you that you're getting paid from YouTube.
Can you believe it?
Like back in the day, you used to have six or seven thousand people watching a live stream and I'd get super chats from that.
Isn't that wild?
Isn't that wild?
But I still like the jazz club, what can I tell you?
But thank you, I really, really appreciate that.
Where is the Art Bell was right, Jar?
Yeah, yeah, for sure.
Can the Government of Canada was funding, somebody says, was funding gain of research or similar research in Saskatchewan with Chinese links?
I think it was Winnipeg.
I think it was Winnipeg.
Yeah, I don't think there's any limit to the amount of creepy stuff that goes on in the bowels of statism.
I really don't think that there's any particular limit to it.
It's pretty wild.
It's pretty wild.
And by the way, by the way, sorry, I mean, all openness and appreciation, your success on YouTube is wonderful.
And I'm actually, I'm thrilled for you.
I'm absolutely thrilled for you and well done.
Well done.
If you want to share your channel here, I'm sure people would appreciate it.
Doberman says, Steph, much appreciated for the call-in show with the woman whose sister was addicted to drugs and her evil parents.
I'll be leaving a comment under the show soon, just gathering my thoughts on why it was so powerful.
Yeah, I'm doing some crackerjack call-in shows lately.
I did one with a woman yesterday where I was trying to get her to open her heart to her children.
Ooh, that was something.
Yeah, that was something.
I'm sure that'll go out at some point over the next week or two.
But yeah, I've been doing some pretty wild call-in shows lately.
Very good.
Good call-in shows lately.
You'll be ordering a private call soon as well.
Yeah, the private calls are pretty spicy, because I can be pretty frank without having to worry about being sliced and diced and misinterpreted.
So, yeah, the private calls are very good, in my humble opinion.
I think they're very important.
So you can get those, of course, at freedomain.com slash call.
Freedomain.com slash call.
All right.
Any other last questions, comments, issues, challenges?
Sorry, I'm not going to do a super long show tonight, but I did like six hours of call-ins today, so I'm a little fraught.
How much are they?
Just talk to me on, I'm still half and half.
It's sort of an introductory price at the moment.
It's probably going to go up because everyone was like, oh, that's so little.
I was expecting more.
So just contact me on, using the website and we'll talk about it from there.
Yeah I don't want to talk about a price here because when it changes people will get mad.
It's the kind of thing you know I was just realizing the other day that I haven't raised in I don't even know how long like half a decade or more I haven't like it's still three bucks a month five bucks a month I haven't raised it so I may at some point have to up that just a smidge as well because otherwise you know the The income decays.
Let's see here.
I'm very happy that the world seems to be gradually taking an ancap slow turn.
Do you see that as well?
Yes, absolutely.
Hafje is doing a lot and even Mark Zuckerberg has come out as a quasi-libertarian.
Well, that was kind of predictable though.
So how is it somewhat predictable that Mark Zuckerberg was going to come out as more of a libertarian.
A friend of mine did a private call and said it was the best money he had ever spent.
Well, thank you, I appreciate that and do thank your friend for that.
So, yes, how is it predictable?
Bye.
you Yeah, he started working out, that's right.
Yeah, he started working out, I assume maybe he's taken some DHEA or TRT or I don't know, I don't know, whatever, right?
But yeah, I mean the fact that he's just started to work out heavily, you don't know what your beliefs are when you've got noodle arms.
Like, you don't know.
You don't know if you're just frightened of any assertiveness because you can get your ass kicked up and down the school hallway.
You don't know what you actually believe if your body is weak.
Out of curiosity, how long is the average wait time for a private call?
Not too bad, actually.
You'd be surprised.
All right.
I showed my wife the 2012 movie Les Mis yesterday.
Thoughts on it?
Oh, I thought it was terrible.
I thought it was absolutely, completely, and totally terrible.
It was appalling.
I have an amazing soft spot for the Well, I love the... I mean, Victor Hugo was called the Master of Human Tears.
He was so good at evoking emotion in his writing.
And I love the novel it is.
And I have an absolutely deep and special place in my heart.
You, he thinks that man is me, knew him at a glance.
It's really a great musical.
And it was really the first musical that I loved.
It really is The first musical that I fell in love with, and this is because I dated a woman who was really into musicals, and she got me into even chess, the musical, which is a pretty wild idea for a musical, just chess tournaments.
What's it?
Gonna be the witness to the ultimate test of cerebral fitness.
Murrayhead.
Anyway, so I absolutely love the musical, Colm Wilkinson.
moves me beyond words.
He played the priest, although he originally did the role of Jean Valjean.
24601.
Yeah, and his falsetto in Bring Him Home is just fantastic, and Yolrus, and beautiful.
I remember when I was working up north, the woman that I was, this is before we were dating, but we were sort of flirting with each other, and She said, who's better at revolution?
And she gave me that, you know, you say you want a revolution, well, you know, the John Lennon one, which is kind of hippy-dippy.
And then she's like, red's the blood of angry men, like, there's a better revolutionary song out of Les Mis than stinky old noodle-armed John Lennon, right?
So I have a huge soft spot for the play Les Mis.
I've only seen it once.
I saw it in New York many years ago and it was just amazing.
It was just amazing.
And yet the woman I went with, who I was dating at that point, was so moved that she almost couldn't breathe afterwards.
Because it's a beautiful vision of heroism and strength and honor and defense of the weak and promotion of virtue and so on.
But I really hated the movie.
And I hated the movie because the director had people sing the songs over and over and over again and they sounded bad.
Even really good singers like Hugh Jackman and Anne Hathaway, like people who are really good singers.
And even Russell Crowe, who actually was in a band when he was younger, is not a bad singer, but just sounded terrible.
They went more for big names in acting and they should have sung it in a studio and lip synced it so that it sounds beautiful.
You don't want it to be, here's, here's like someone singing in the street.
Nobody sounds good, Freddie Mercury sounds like crap singing in the street.
You gotta get Little Echo Studios some, my god, make it sound beautiful.
Make the recordings as beautiful as the music is.
But instead the director was like, sing it again!
Again!
More!
Again!
And it's like, oh my god.
Horrendous.
Horrendous.
So yeah, I thought it was absolutely appallingly bad.
And I don't think, uh, I don't think Hugh Jackman was the guy.
I really don't.
Hugh Jackman was not the guy for it.
You need somebody barrel-chested like Cole Malkinson.
Can you hear the people sing?
Sing the songs of angry men.
It is the music of a people who will not be slaves again.
Oh, ha!
It's great stuff!
When the beating of your heart echoes the beating of the drum.
Ah, so good.
There is a light about to break when tomorrow comes.
Mm, so good.
Um... Ah, so good.
Will you join in our crusade?
Who will be strong and stand with me?
Beyond the barricade, is there a world you long to see?
Oh, so good!
So good.
So, yeah.
Alright, not many good movies these days that are not just blatant propaganda.
Yeah, yeah, 2016, 2017 was like the crossover year after that, it all went to crap.
Alright, um...
Thank you for what you do and creating a community where three thinkers can gather.
Thank you.
I appreciate that.
Thank you for being here.
The Silicon Valley people are also being recruited, says someone by Peter Thiel, to set up this government structure based on the thoughts of Mencius Moldbug, aka Curtis Marvin.
It's called neoreaction slash neocameralism.
The idea is Omega CEO as Philosopher King.
What's your take on revisionist history?
I saw a podcast with Douglas Murray getting defensive about people being critical about Winston Churchill's actions during World War I. Oh, Winston Churchill with Gallipoli.
I mean, I know something about Churchill.
I can't even tell you how many books on Churchill because he's a character in my novel almost.
So yeah, what he did in Gallipoli and in World War I was absolutely appalling and disastrous.
The French version's Rose Grade.
Phantom of the Opera I thought the first half was good.
I thought the second half was just retarded.
I love it when they layer over the songs and they all work together.
It just gives you goosebumps.
Are you looking forward to the Am I Racist movie?
I mean, I'll probably watch it at some point.
But, you know, it's such an obvious grift and so obviously hypocritical
that it's sort of like, you know, Democrats are the real racist stuff.
It doesn't really mean much to me.
There is a life about to start when tomorrow comes.
Yeah, so good.
So good.
That's like divinely inspired music.
Did the guy from the Rage Call-In ever talk about regret and send you a message?
I really couldn't tell you.
I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry.
Not too many people get back to me about prior call-ins, and it's a little tough to remember.
Because you just listen to it, and so it's fresh in your mind, but I live very much in the moment when it comes to call-ins.
All right.
Last questions, comments, challenges, issues.
It must be, to be able to sing like Colm Wilkinson, he actually did a whole album, Broadway songs, It Ain't Necessarily So, and Summertime, and it's just, ah, beautiful.
Just beautiful.
Just beautiful.
Yeah, I mean, the racism stuff, the Marxists didn't have any luck with class, so they just went with sex, and then when that burned out, they went with race, and they're just always trying to find ways to set people against each other and cause divisions.
It feels very old hat to me, if that makes sense.
Matt is subconsciously principled, but not as rational.
Otherwise, you guys are similar, I think.
Yeah, and it's a good family man, for sure.
Seems to be a good family man.
All right.
Well, thanks everyone so much for dropping by.
Sorry it's not a super long show tonight, but we will of course talk Sunday morning.
And we'll do the first hour open and then the second hour we'll do donor only, because there's a couple of things I'd like to talk about that are not really for the public eye.
So let's get to that.
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Great communities at subscribestar.com slash freedomain and freedomain.locals.com.
Just great, great stuff.
Great people to chat with.
And I hope that you'll avail yourself of that.
community, and I will get out to everyone this weekend.
The people who've donated, you get the History of Philosophers series.
I'm sorry I've been a few days late in getting that out.
I will get that out to everyone.
It's not an automated process, but I shall find ways to make it.
So, thanks for a glorious evening.
I appreciate that.
Love you guys for being here, and we'll talk soon.
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