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July 15, 2024 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
01:25:19
WHY WOMEN WON'T SETTLE!
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Yeah, good morning.
It is the 14th of July 2024 and yes, there was, of course, an incident last night.
A shooting last night.
And we'll talk about it later.
I'll just do a, you know, 45 minutes to an hour of a general stream and then we'll go donor only.
I think my thoughts are probably donor only.
Southwest Florida, excellent.
Bitcoin reclaimed 60k, well sure.
Political instability is a plus for Bitcoin.
So, assassination, yeah, nation of assassins, assassination, yeah.
So, yeah, we'll get to that.
We'll get to that.
There's a lot to talk about.
There's a lot to talk about in general.
Of course, there is this scene in Atlas Shrugged where Daphne Taggart, there's some disaster on the railway and she reaches for the phone and she has to will herself to... I have seen The Remains of the Day.
It's a cute film.
It's a good film.
So, I had to last night will myself away from I mean, because a lot of stuff went on, right?
Alec Baldwin, Alec Baldwin, his entire trial got thrown out, and with prejudice, which means it's impossible to refile the charges.
And apparently it's because of Brady violations.
I'm no expert, but I understand that the state withheld exculpatory or relevant evidence, right?
The state doesn't get to decide what your defense is, so they have to turn over everything.
Apparently there was a bunch of stuff that wasn't turned over and so the judge tossed out the whole case with prejudice so in other words three years and I can't even tell you how millions of dollars how many millions of dollars of police resources were wasted because apparently the prosecution did not turn over evidence now
That's interesting.
Now, I guess my question is, if you are a prosecutor and you don't turn over evidence, shouldn't you be prosecuted?
I mean, isn't that sort of how it works?
Because that's railroading otherwise, right?
Something like that.
So, I don't know.
I mean, if none of the prosecution people who made these decisions, if they don't lose
their license at least or get charged, then eh.
Alright.
You watched the Tim Allen Curse the Alley movie?
It was pretty good actually.
I thought so.
Alright, so if you have questions unrelated to the shooting from yesterday... Negligence is a civil matter, not criminal.
No, that's... Obviously I'm not going to argue law with Alan Dershowitz.
But no, you can be charged with negligence.
I mean, you can be charged with carelessness.
If your negligence results in someone's death, I think that that is possible to charge.
Again, I'm not going to argue law with Alan Dershowitz, so that's just my understanding.
I'm sure I'm wrong, but I think that criminal negligence is a thing.
Thank you for the tips.
In my country, people say they want to run off their horns when referring to wanting a certain amount of casual sex before settling down.
Where does this mindset come from?
Is casual sex always a bad idea?
Is someone always being exploited?
Well, so why is the male sex drive so high?
Why is the male sex drive so high?
And where you're 15 times the testosterone of women and so on.
And certainly when you're a teenage young man, late teens or whatever, your sex drive is insane, right?
It's a force of nature, right?
It's a force of nature.
So why is, why has evolution allowed our sex drive to get so high?
Well the reason why evolution has allowed our sex drive to get so high is
because it is contained within a monogamous relationship.
And because it's contained within a monogamous relationship it
then becomes a very strong pair bonding mechanism.
Under the state can sue someone in criminal court the victim of a crime cannot legally inflict direct punishment on the perpetrator can only sue for civil damages.
Yeah and I'm sure that will that will go forward sort of OJ style.
So, no, we have such a strong sex drive because the monogamous pair bonding is what allows the sex drive to be so strong because then you pair bond.
Sex drive being high and if you're in a monogamous marriage, then the place where you get sex is your wife.
So for men, the stronger the sex drive, the stronger the pair bond in a monogamous relationship.
Yeah, there are some legal systems where, I think in Chile, you can bring your own criminal complaint through the court
system.
But obviously, I don't think that's the case in America.
I'm, again, not going to argue with Alan Dershowitz.
But yeah, it certainly is true that you cannot bring criminal charges.
Only the state can do that.
I think that's the case.
So the male sex drive has been allowed to become so high through nature because it forms
a pair bond that is very powerful within the confines or, I don't find it confining, a
monogamous relationship.
So the high sex drive of the male, if society focuses men on monogamous pair bonding, the
high sex drive of men is the foundation of the pair bonding, it is the foundation of
the stability of marriage and so on.
Now when == Notes
Monogamous pair bonding falls by the wayside, excuse me, when monogamous pair bonding falls by the wayside, the sex drive remains crazy high for men and it's just high relative to some women and certainly relative to some other species.
The sex drive remains very high and then it's kind of unleashed on the general female population.
It's not used to pair bond, it in fact is used to destroy pair bonding.
So high male sexual drive desire within a pair bonded relationship is a plus and stabilizes society and keeps the pair bond intact and so on.
When pair bonding is decayed, when the monogamous relationship is decayed or delayed or whatever it is, then instead of the male sex drive being a glue that holds families together, it becomes an acid that dissolves people's capacity to pair bond.
Right?
Because men lose their ability to pair bond if they sleep with a lot of women.
Women lose their ability to pair bond if they sleep with a lot of men.
I look great with the hat.
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I look great either with or without the hat.
Bye.
Thank you.
I appreciate that.
Thank you.
But then why does evolution allow men to have a strong sex drive towards women who are not their partner?
I don't quite understand.
A strong sex drive is just the hormone saying have sex.
And if the only place you can get sex is within the confines of a monogamous marriage, then that will cause you to bond with your partner.
If you can get sex anywhere, then you'll get it there, right?
Nice to see everybody.
Hi Steph says someone.
I'm terrified of asking questions at work.
I'm a newly minted CTO.
That's Chief Technical Officer.
I've sat in that chair myself for many years at a very small startup and I'm currently leading the design of a very challenging product.
I feel an immense amount of pressure to know every little detail of every subsystem, line of code, etc.
Where is this fear coming from and how do I overcome it?
Well, how do you have high standards without self-attack?
I mean, that's a foundational question.
How do you have high standards without self-attack?
Well, you have to realize you cannot have high standards if you self-attack.
Like, if you're like, I made a mistake, I'm such an idiot!
Oh God, how could I be so stupid?
You can't have high standards because everything gets too stressful for you to have that sort of relaxed flow and positive creativity that comes along.
I mean, I've made mistakes in this show.
I've said things that are not true.
I've had to correct myself.
I've got a whole series of videos called, I was wrong about, you know, X, Y, and Z. So, how do I not self-attack?
Well, I aim for quality with the recognition that quality, 100% quality is impossible.
You can't get everything right.
You can't be perfect.
And you're going to make mistakes.
So, recognizing that, As a fact, it allows you to have a relaxed approach to creativity.
So, if you are self-attacking, quality and excellence are impossible because you're in a reactive situation relative to your own self-attack.
I mean, if you can imagine, you couldn't do Very well at a challenging math exam if somebody kept randomly punching you in the side of the head and from behind or the behind of your head so you didn't even know when the blow was coming.
You'd be too stressed.
You'd be, when's the next blow coming?
And so you can't get into a relaxed and creative flow if you self-attack.
So people use mistakes, of course, to punish you.
They don't use mistakes because they care about quality, right?
They use mistakes to punish you.
This happens all over the place.
Thank you, Daniel.
This happens all over the place, and particularly in school, it happens at home, it can happen at work, and so on.
You know, the old, there's nothing more terrifying than trying to hold a flashlight for your father while he's trying to fix something under the car.
Left, right, that's the wrong place!
So, people will attack you for errors or mistakes, not because they want you to get better, but because they want to exercise power over you.
So the typical example would be the mother who gets really angry at the kid who doesn't clean properly, who doesn't stack the dishwasher in the way that she likes, who drops a plate.
She's really angry.
How could you be so careless?
Right?
Because she's all about excellence and quality.
But of course, if people are into excellence and quality, if a mother's into excellence and quality, then she should have studied the living heck out of how to be a good parent, right?
Because she's so into excellence that you've got to stack that dishwasher just so in some sort of Rubik's Cube, Tetris, Minecraft combo of infinite efficiency because she's just about efficiency.
You've got to stack things properly.
You've got to put things here, not there.
You've got to put the knives down so I don't stab myself.
It's got to be perfect.
It's got to be right.
So you're really into getting things right, so I'm sure that you read a whole bunch of books on parenting, because it's slightly more important to be a good parent than it is to stack the dishwasher well.
I mean, I remember when I lived with a woman once, she was very fussy about how things were done, and you've got to put the plates here and not there, and don't mix the big and the small, forks in the cutlery tray, and she was just really, really into just getting things right.
And I remember asking him once, I said, OK, so you're really into getting things right.
I respect that.
I appreciate that.
I understand that.
So, what is your definition of a good girlfriend?
Heheheheheheh Echo, echo, echo, echo, echo
Boy, talk about a thousand yard stare.
Cause you know, when you're in a relationship with someone and she wanted to get married.
It's really, really important that you don't fuck up where the forks are.
But apparently it's completely unimportant to talk about what makes a good girlfriend or not.
Oh my gosh.
That was the beginning of the end.
Oh, so it's really, really, really important that I file everything correctly in the folder.
But it's not important for you to ever think about what makes A good girlfriend.
Cutlery, quality is job one.
Girlfriend? Never thought about it.
So, with regard to sort of my own inner voices, because we all have the sort of harsh, you know, that Tom
Cruise in Magnolia screaming, Just do your goddamn job!
You know, do your job right!
You know, all this sort of screaming stuff, right?
We all have that, right?
With my own particular instincts, if I get that, I don't get it that bad, but if I get some sort of snippy voice in my head if I've made a mistake, be like, where were you when I was making the mistake?
Like, if you didn't speak up before I made the mistake, I don't really care what you have to say afterwards, right?
So if my instincts didn't say, ooh, this could be, you should double check this or whatever, then they don't get to castigate me afterwards and be like, hey, I'm happy to get your input, but if you didn't warn me about this ahead of time, you don't get to nag me about it after the fact, right?
So, you know, just approach me more reasonably, I'd be happy to hear.
That kind of stuff.
So the fear is coming from your avoidance of hypocrisy, because anyone who bullied you was a shit person and a trash person of incredibly low quality.
Now the irony is, and it's always this way, it's always this way, that shit people, trash people, always bully you about quality while ignoring the fact that bullying is low quality, right?
So it's the rank hypocrisy.
It's just the rank hypocrisy.
And you're avoiding that hypocrisy, because when that hypocrisy has power over you, you can't talk about it, you can't notice it, you can't do it.
Right?
So you just have to look at the people who snarled and snapped and, oh, you just, you did, you're just so incompetent, you drop everything, you don't take any care of your things, you don't... There was a great, um, not a great movie at all called Sleep With Me, right?
Those three lovely words, Sleep With Me.
And there's a guy who just snaps at his friend, like, you just don't, you don't take care of your things!
Like this is some, okay, then why be a friend, right?
And also, snarling at your friend that he doesn't take care of his material objects.
I think it was a motorcycle or something, right?
So snarling at your friend that he just doesn't take care of things is like, how is that taking care of the friendship, right?
So when people criticize you harshly, then you have to take their criticisms and apply it to their criticism.
Right, so if your mom was like, you didn't stack the dishwasher right, you don't do, you don't wash the dishes right, you don't do this right, you don't do that right, okay, do you do parenting right?
Right, so if, so when somebody says to you there's a standard that you're failing to meet and it's wrong and bad and careless and stupid and disrespectful but okay, so then they're saying there's a high standard that you should reach and failure to reach that high standard is evidence of really bad things in the personality, all right?
How good a parent are you?
If I'm going to get nagged about where I put the cutlery in the cutlery drawer, then you have a standard of excellence.
So what is the standard of excellence to be a good girlfriend?
And if she doesn't have a clue, then it's just bullying.
And they can frankly fuck right off.
I mean, that's how you counteract internal bullying, right?
Is you say, is bullying good?
So, if bullying isn't good, then whatever you're being bullied about is immaterial.
That's how you cock-block and put the garlic and sunlight on the vampire of bullying, right?
That's a counter-move, right?
Oh, I'm not meeting a high standard?
Is you bullying me meeting a high standard?
No, then it's all just nonsense and power play and humiliation and sadism, whatever it is, right?
So, just deal with that.
No, just deal with that.
Yes, I caught a live stream live, sent you a message today, plus a donation.
Thank you.
But I'll just mention it here.
I don't understand why so few followed you after the Great Banning.
But remember, Jesus ended up alone on a cross, betrayed and abandoned, and a few years later his message changed the world.
Oh, and soon he'll return in glory.
Your message about peaceful parenting, separating from bad people, is definitely gaining traction.
As a shrink, your arguments have helped me help so many people.
Well, I appreciate that.
I personally wouldn't refer to myself as a shrink if I was a psychiatrist, but I appreciate the very kind words.
Thank you.
Thank you.
You know, like, your father...
Who says, uh, go and get me the seven eighth inch Allen key, right?
And you're like six years old and you don't know what the hell he's talking about.
And you say, I don't know what that is.
Well, just go and get an Allen key.
Just bring it here.
I don't care.
Just get me the right, just get me an Allen key.
And you come back, this is the wrong Allen key, right?
So you don't know what you're getting.
And he's got this standard, which is, well, you should bring me the right Allen key.
And you can have a standard called, Hey, maybe you shouldn't be a shitty dad.
Because you know that's slightly more important than the right allen key is maybe don't be a shitty dad who puts your kids in impossible situations and snarls at them and that way you know that the dad who's snarling at the kid for getting the wrong allen key or holding the flashlight in the wrong direction has standards of excellence just not about being an actual father in which case there's no standard of excellence and it's all bullshit lies manipulation and nonsense.
What do you think of men who go after women who have a boyfriend?
She's not married, nor has any children with him.
Well, it kinda depends, I think.
Sorry, that's annoying.
Will you post the For Donors Only segment for later viewing?
I have to go.
Yeah, but For Donors Only.
So here's the thing.
If I would view, when I was younger, I viewed a new relationship as a no-go zone, right?
So if the woman had just started dating the guy and they were just starting to get to know each other and they'd be going out for a couple of weeks, couple of months, maybe six months, eight months, whatever, right?
That's a no-go zone and I would never dream of anything like that.
If the woman had been going out with the guy for a couple of years and she had no firm commitment from him, I don't care.
It's open season.
If you don't lock down the deal, someone else is going to take it.
Right?
I mean, if you're not willing to commit to the woman, why should you continue to hold some kind of monopoly on her?
So I don't view, and I never did this, I never did poach another guy's girl, but I'll just tell you from my sort of moral standpoint that if, you know, if you see one of these three or four or five year relationships where there's no particular plan for anything, you're actually saving her from that, right?
I mean, I would just work to break up people like that.
I wouldn't date a woman who was just coming out of a multi-year relationship.
But I had no problems saying, oh, you guys have been going out for four years?
Are you getting married?
That's a perfectly fair question to ask.
And you could see the woman wakes up from the haze, right?
The devil wants you to copy-paste your days like you have an infinite supply, and philosophy, reason, and God, and Jesus himself want you to remember that you're running out of time, and you have to make some freaking decisions.
So, no, I was perfectly happy.
In fact, I felt I was doing God's work himself by pointing out to women who had not received a commitment after many years with a guy that they had not received a commitment after many years with a guy.
That's pretty bad!
So, alright.
Hi Steph, I've been journaling, which has really helped me uncover some emotions.
By the way, freedomain.com slash donate to help out the show.
Please, please, please!
Please!
I've been journaling, which has really helped me uncover some emotions.
I've realized that I have a strong desire towards female attention, and when I don't get it, I notice that I feel a sad-slash-depressed pit-in-the-stomach feeling.
I'm curious to know if this is a natural feeling of simply desiring a woman's companionship in general, loneliness, or if this is possibly related to trauma I experienced in childhood when my mother neglected me.
I'm leaning towards the latter.
I'm sure I'm missing something, so please feel free to set me straight.
You're a male.
You have a strong desire for female attention.
Huh.
I wonder if that serves any evolutionary purpose.
Gosh.
Oh, so complicated.
Oh, my brain throbs.
Like a throbber.
Oh, gosh.
Could a male desire for female attention serve any evolutionary purpose?
Could it help secure the reproduction of your dream, your genes, and your dreams, I suppose, to have a strong desire for female attention?
No, I can't get it.
Sorry.
I mean, I know when I'm just, it's just too wide a leap.
I can't figure it out.
I'm asking for a sanity check.
What do men who had healthy mother-son relationships experience when it comes to what they would describe as a natural loneliness slash desire for female companionship?
We are men in order to want women.
That's why we're men.
We are men to want women!
Remember that great line from the movie Dead Poets Society?
Why do men write poetry?
Oh, to express the human condition, to get in touch with... No!
To woo women!
Why do men build houses?
To woo women.
Why do men build churches?
So that women gather.
In one place.
You don't have to hunt all over Hell's half-acre to find them.
Why?
Why do... Why do women build... Why do men build heaters?
Because women get cold.
Why do men build air conditioning?
Because women get hot.
We are here to woo women.
We are here to pursue women.
We are...
Here to love and make love to and reproduce with and raise families with.
We are men because we want women.
your genes will provoke a negative experience in you until you actually work to reproduce.
If the pressure to be perfect 100% of the time, about 100% of everything, comes from a boss and there is no hope of
them changing or leaving, you have two choices.
Learn to live with it or look for a new job.
No, you don't.
What the living Sam hell are you talking about?
If you're standing in the middle of a field with a jet pack and a shovel,
you can either go north or you can go south.
No, you can dig down, you can take a jet pack up, and you can go
in any of 360 degrees of direction.
How dare you try to put everything down in a complex situation of free will to only two choices, learn to live with or look for a new job.
That is absolutely not true.
That is absolutely, my gosh man, don't do that.
Now, I know I've said there are only two ways of looking.
That's all mental stuff, right?
And there's no such thing in life as you only have two choices.
No such thing.
No such thing.
That is a terrible thing to say and it's a terrible thing to believe and you need to go to apologize anyone you've ever said anything like that to.
You need to go and apologize to them for giving them a false dichotomy.
There is so much that if you have a perfectionist boss there's a lot of things you can do.
You can document any abuse and you can go to his boss or her boss.
You can sit down and work it out with the boss and talk it out with the boss.
You can try to get the boss fired.
You can go to the shareholders.
You can go to co-workers.
You can go to your employees and you can sort of foment a strike or some kind of rebellion.
You can do just... you can document everything and make sure... you've got... there's so many choices other than learn to live with it or look for a new job.
Sorry bro.
Love you to death.
That's completely retarded.
And absolutely wrong to polarize all of your free will choices down to this or this.
That's really tragic, man.
I can't tell you how much pain I get coming from underneath that dichotomy.
There's no possibility of action.
There's no possibility that good can triumph against corruption.
There's no possibility that there's any decent people in the organization who may be unaware of this or the degree of the problem.
There's no possibility that you can do anything within the situation.
You're helpless and hopeless and you've either got to conform to it or run.
The only thing that is there is fight or flight or freeze.
There's nothing you can... Oh my god, man, that's just horrendous.
I mean, deal with your family shit, but don't spray that goop on my audience.
You get far better performance out of people if they're chilled out and comfortable.
If you attack people whenever they make a mistake, they'll either leave or be paralyzed against action.
Right.
Right.
Yeah.
Don't do that.
Just donated five dollars.
Thank you.
On to the question of a lifetime.
Here, five bucks.
All right.
All right, uh, let's see here.
If someone talks and acts, thank you for the tip, Eric.
If someone talks and acts in an abusive-slash-aggressive way towards their pets, how much of an indicator is it that they treat children that way?
I'll automatically think less of someone who does this.
All right.
Let me get to the questions over here on Rumble.
Hello from Sweden!
Lovely!
I think I remember you from the Muppets.
Let's see here.
Is feminist culture causing stranger sexual urges in women or hormonal swings through diet and birth control?
Kink seems to be accelerating.
What was it?
I saw Billie Eilish in some interview where she's chatting about a woman's breasts and it's like maybe I'm just a little old-school British but anyway.
Do you consider Jack Nicholson a really good actor, or does he just play the same character slash himself in every role?
Uh, he is a very good actor.
I mean, if you look at something like, um... As Good As It Gets, with the one he did with, um... Oh, what's her name?
The girl from... God, I can't remember now.
Uh, it's not, uh... Helen... Helen...
from that couple show on TV.
Oh, what a bunch of threads I'm fraying with my brain.
So if you look at it as good as it gets, he plays a sort of neurotic and introverted kind of guy.
If you look at the Colonel Jessup that he plays in A Few Good Men, that's really sort of an alpha and psycho and powerful guy.
Randall Patrick McMurphy in One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest.
RPM is a great name, great set of acronyms.
He plays just a wild guy with... So if you look at all of those different varieties, he does play a good number of different characters.
Of course, there is an essence of roguish Irish stuff going on as a whole.
But yeah, he absolutely does play a wide variety of different characters.
And there is, of course, an essence, right?
He didn't blend himself into the characters in the same way that Marlon Brando did.
They did do a movie together, The Missouri Breaks, which I've never seen.
But yeah, he is a fantastic actor.
All right.
Will there be a truth about Richard Simmons anytime soon?
That's funny.
All right.
How is it possible that the Secret Service didn't have someone positioned on a roof within a couple of hundred yards?
Well, didn't they shoot the shooter?
So they must have been able to see him, right?
Okay, so thank you for the questions.
People say, well, why don't you spend more time on the Rumble livestream?
And it's because y'all don't tip.
Follow the money, show me the money, right?
Because y'all don't tip.
And I appreciate that and I'm glad to have you guys here, but you get better service if you tip.
All right.
Pets.
Is it too early in the show for a rant?
He asked cockatishly.
Is it too early in the show for a rant?
Just out of Helen Hunt, thank you.
Just out of curiosity.
Hit me with a why.
Is it too early for a rant?
I think it is.
I think it is okay to rant.
And so, it begins.
Because I got a question from a guy today, and he's like, Steph, I had to sell my horses of fifteen years.
I love them to death, but I can't ride them anymore because of back problems, and I'm just torn up, and I'm tortured, and I'm sad, and I'm wretched, and I'm like, holy crap!
Pet fetishes are weird, man.
Pet fetishes are weird.
It's okay to love your animals, just don't love your animals, right?
We all know the trope about the women and the cats and so on.
Guys and dogs do similar things.
Look, if you evolved in a colder climate in particular, you need to domesticate animals in order to survive, right?
You need to domesticate animals in order to survive, which means you have to bond with your animals, you have to care about them, you have to keep them healthy, you have to build fences, you have to protect them, you have to kill the predators who might harm them, so you have to have a bond with your animals in order to survive.
That's healthy!
That's good!
Anybody who didn't care about his animals in a colder climate, in particular when you need milk and all of that over the course of the winter, You know, a cow is a great way of keeping meat fresh without a freezer, right?
That's sort of what cows are for.
In the same way that a human being is a great way to turn a pig into a poem.
So, it's important that people care for animals.
That's how we evolved.
However, you've got to remember all human desires fall in a bell curve, right?
All human desires fall into a bell curve where too little is bad and too much is bad.
And being broken up because you had to sell some horses?
Bro, that's because you have fantasy-projected a whole bunch of feeling and goop and human characteristics into big-ass brute dumb animals.
They're animals!
They bond with you biochemically.
It's not any big virtue of yours.
They don't judge you.
They don't evaluate you.
Nothing like that.
They're just big ass dumb animals.
Now, I have pets.
I had pets when I was growing up, and I liked my hamsters, and I liked my mice, and I bred them, and I... You know, my daughter has the ducks, and we care about the ducks, and we take care of the ducks, and we protect the ducks, and I, um... Yeah.
I spent half my life building chicken coops, it seems like.
So, I'm a big, pets are great, yeah, love pets, and I understand, particularly, I think the East Asian, and in particular the European mind, we are sensitive to harm to animals.
Like, you know, when kids are little and they grab frogs too tight, you're like, ooh, careful, careful, right?
You want to teach them how to be...
Nice to the animals because animals are required for your survival.
But they ain't family.
They ain't people.
They ain't lovers.
They ain't great friends.
They aren't people who can call you out on your ethics or make sure you have integrity or make sure you're honest with yourself and those around you.
They're just big, dumb, chemically bonded animals.
And it's really fucking easy, really easy and really dangerous to project some sort of humanoid relationship on big-ass dumb animals.
Oh, the horse is so happy to see me.
Yeah, because you feed the horse.
Oh, Muffy, the chairman meow, the cat, is so happy when I come home.
And it's like, yeah, because you're a giant can opener for the cat.
And you pet the cat, which makes the cat happy.
This is not your virtue.
Oh, the dog is so excited when I get up in the morning.
It's like, yeah, because he needs to get the hell out of the house and run around.
And he can't open the doors himself.
First of all, understand of course that your pets, if you're going to anthropomorphize your pets to the point where you think you have some kind of big old relationship with them, then understand that you are a kidnapper and an imprisoner, right?
Because if you're going to say, oh, when the cat looks at me this way he's thinking this and he really thinks that and you put all of this weird anthropomorphic projection on your cats, Okay, then you just kidnap them from the wild and you're keeping them locked in your house.
I mean you lock horses in stalls, you lock horses in fields.
So if you're going to anthropomorphize your animals, which is weird enough, then you also
have to accept that if they're kind of like people, then you have cut the balls off your
friends and you have trapped and emasculated and kidnapped and hold hostage your friends.
They're not your friends, they're your pets, they're service animals.
And what happens is that animals then become some sort of weird dopamine delivery mechanism
where you get addicted to positive responses from easily programmed animals.
Ugh.
Ugh.
you So if you cut their balls off and you imprison them and you don't let them go, they're pets, which means stop treating them like human beings because if you treated human beings like that and they were actually like human beings, you'd be arrested for kidnapping and forced incarceration.
Confinement.
They're not animals.
They're not substitutes for people.
Go find somebody to love.
Go find somebody who's going to challenge you, who's going to engage with the best in you, who's going to encourage you, who's going to call you out on your bullshit, which we all need.
We stay sane collectively, not individually.
And stop strip mining dopamine from dumb animals programmed to bond with you and think you have any kind of relationship with anything other than dependence and delusion.
Sorry to be strict.
I gotta be strict.
I really, really dislike the degree to which people substitute human relationships with animals.
It's really appalling.
Because it also prevents the formation of families.
Horrible.
Thank you for the tip, my friend!
A quick thank you, Steph, for chasing up my tipped question last week after all the time was consumed by the White
Knight Delegations against your team.
I'm keen to have a private call and look forward to finding out what your rates will be. I'm sure they will be fair,
whatever the price.
Yeah, nobody's had any problem with my rates. You can just email me, freedomain.com slash call. Just fill out the form
and we'll do it.
They are beautiful but so dumb, unfortunately.
Yeah, horses are beautiful, absolutely.
They're just lovely.
I own being a can opener.
I'm okay with it, lol.
Well, that's fine.
Yeah, you can be a can opener for your cats.
You're a food source for the cats because they're imprisoned.
Right?
I mean, if you imprison some person in your basement, they'd be happy to see you when they were hungry because they can't get their own food.
Would you eat dog, cat, or horse meat?
God, no.
I still won't get over people calling dogs slash cats son, daughter, brother.
It's cringe.
Oh yeah, dog moms and all of that cat moms.
It's all just terrible.
When my alarm goes off, my cat comes running and is all affectionate.
It's cute, but I know it's because his food bowl is empty.
Right.
Because if you're in a concentration camp, you have to be nice to the guard so you don't get fed.
My mom treats her dogs almost like kids.
She only had one kid, me, and a pretty rough childhood.
I hate to see it.
There's a reason why, I mean, in the Muslim culture dogs are reviled and so on, and partly it's because people use dogs as substitutes for human relationships.
People use pets as substitutes for human relationships.
Oh, and you see these ads on social media, you know, you can get a picture of you chilling in sunglasses with your dog who's in sunglasses, and it's, oh my god, it's so sad.
I'm pathetic.
It's pitiful, really.
It's pitiful.
I have absolutely no patience with it whatsoever.
A dog will never leave you, said by a divorced man.
Yeah?
For sure.
Yeah, absolutely.
Because the dog can't judge you.
You never have to negotiate.
You never have to figure out what the dog wants.
You can't verbalize.
You can't find win-win solutions.
You can't tell a story.
You can't share your memories.
It's just a dumb animal programmed to bond with you by nature and chemicals.
I love my cats as cute furry company, fun to play with, stress relief and endorphins.
They have emotions and needs and I have some entertainment.
Trust me, I think he ate better than I do.
You don't love your cats.
you Yeah, you don't love your cats.
I mean, you don't love your cats.
Love is our response to virtue if we're virtuous.
Our involuntary... Cats cannot be virtuous.
Cats cannot be virtuous.
Dogs cannot be virtuous.
They can't lie.
They can't be corrupt.
They can't be hypocritical.
They can't fail to reach their high moral standards.
They can't struggle with honesty in a world of corruption.
They just pant and screw and eat and shit and sleep.
You don't love your pets.
You don't love your pets.
I really hate it when people tell me I'm a good dog parent.
I don't fetishize pets like that, but I feel like you shouldn't be cruel to them.
What a spectacularly useless statement.
I mean, good lord.
I mean, that's like me saying, you know, it's possible to train your body so hard What a low bar you have for contributing to a conversation!
If you run a hundred miles a day, I don't know, whatever, right, like you're going to
hurt yourself, you can lift weights and pull muscles, and it's important not to overtrain
and hurt yourself.
And you say, well, I agree with that, but I'm not saying you should—but I also don't
believe you should sit on the couch all the time.
It's like, oh my God!
What a low bar you have for contributing to a conversation!
Yes, I agree that this extreme is bad, but the other extreme is also bad.
You shouldn't eat too much because it makes you fat and unhealthy.
Well, I agree with that, but you also shouldn't starve yourself to death and it's like, wow, what a wonderfully great contribution you have to this.
Extremes are bad, yes, but this extreme is bad, too.
Oh my gosh.
Oh my gosh, that's great.
What do you think about people who scream at their dogs?
Is it at all comparable to yelling at children?
It's worse in many ways because the dogs are just gonna bow and cow and all of that
and children at least can yell back at you at some point.
A lot of sad lonely women have dogs.
Right.
And everyone says, well, they're sad lonely women and so they have dogs.
And I say, no.
part of why they're sad lonely women is because they have dogs
you know if I ran a cat company in a truly free society I wouldn't sell to
women unless they had kids
I wouldn't give cats to women unless they have kids.
Because I try not to feed addictions that are destructive to society.
It's sickening to see people substitute family formation with animals.
It is, yeah.
It's absolutely appalling.
Thanks, Stefan.
I appreciate the critique on my horses.
Sometimes the truth is hard to hear, but much needed.
Yeah, I'm trying to help you with your grief.
I really am trying to help you with your grief.
By giving you, you know, a cold bucket of ice to the gnats, right?
I felt kind of defensive after that rant in case that was being applied to me.
Haha.
Wait.
Yes.
Oh, oh, sorry.
Was that being applied to you?
No.
Was it being applied to you?
Yeah, I, uh...
It is a huge warning sign.
It's a huge warning sign because a woman, let's say, a woman who has a couple of cats and she's single in her thirties or whatever, right?
Then the problem is that if she's not getting along with you, like if she's being difficult with you, let's just say she's in the wrong or whatever, right?
So she's being difficult with you, then that causes A feeling of isolation and loneliness, and that feeling of isolation and loneliness is exactly why you should make up, right?
Right, so if a woman just snaps and snarls at you and you sort of withdraw, right, let's say you're dating her and she snaps and snarls at you over nothing because she's self-indulgent in her temper, then she's going to feel lonely and isolated and she's going to feel bad and that's going to be one of the things that drives her to apologize to you.
It's really hard to guide yourself without positive and negative signals.
Like it really is very tough to guide yourself without positive and negative signals.
Now if you can't guide yourself without positive and negative signals, this is why addiction goes so haywire.
Because if the woman is like, Oh, I feel kind of lonely and isolated.
My man is displeased with me and he's distancing himself from me because I've been kind of mean.
And then she goes and she cuddles with her fluffy cats and she feels better.
And oh, that's such a relief.
I'm getting my dopamine.
My cats love me.
Okay.
She's just taking a drug rather than deal with the pain.
And that means that she has lost her ability to guide herself according to her instincts.
That's the big danger with animals.
Right?
Well, I'm having problems in my relationship but I go home and my dog's happy to see me and everything's better.
It's like, no, it's not.
You've just taken a drug rather than fix your relationship.
You got a toothache and you just take some painkiller, your toothache, it's just getting worse.
It's getting worse.
Dangerous.
Animals give you the dopamine of relationships without there actually being relationships.
They create a giant moat of dopamine addiction around you that nobody can penetrate.
The woman doesn't have to be nice to you because she can get her, quote, companionship from her cats.
Oh, I haven't, what's with the cap?
I just, my hair is kind of goofy.
I haven't gotten around to getting it cut.
So it's goofy hair right now.
It's interesting how many dogs are put up for adoption after the kids are born.
My friend asked me recently if I would like to get some pets.
I told her I would love to have pets when I have children.
Yeah, I think pets with kids can be great.
Pets can teach kids a lot about responsibility and empathy and so on, right?
For sure.
I still don't really understand how a woman could be involuntarily single in her twenties and thirties.
You don't?
Interesting.
Interesting.
Let me dip over to Rumble and see if anybody's taken my hint about donations.
Uh, no.
Oh, oh, oh!
Yes!
Thank you, Silver Spider.
Steph, at work I always get the most incompetent people placed under me.
Their job performance is always tied to mine on a team, yet no matter how good we do, I never move up.
Any advice?
Well, have you read books on how to improve people's production when you're put in charge of them as a manager?
Have you read books?
Have you taken courses?
Have you figured out all of these wonderful things that you can do to help people improve their productivity?
So, the reason why you get incompetent people assigned to you probably is because you're a bad manager.
Right?
Because the good managers want the competent people.
So do you fight for the competent people?
Do you fight?
Like, it's sort of like if you, you know, when you're a kid, you get, you team up for like baseball and there's two kids and then you choose your team, two kids who are the captains choose your team.
Well, if you end up with all the bad players, it's because you're not assertive enough in getting the good players.
So other people take the good employees and you just sit there, what, like a toadstool and let it happen?
Get the good employees or figure out how to improve the performance of bad employees.
But as a manager, your success is based upon the quality of the people you work with.
So are you making proactive steps to make sure you get the best people or learn how to improve the people who aren't good?
If you're just sitting there being a dumping ground for the incompetent and you're not actively working to get more competent people or know how to improve the performance of less competent people, then you're a bad manager.
Because your job is based upon how well your people perform.
And you have to work to make sure you get the best people.
You're in competition.
And if you fail and flake and fold in the face of that competition, I don't know how you have anyone to blame but yourself.
Come on!
If you could get better workers, you would!
If you and I were competing for workers, I'd make sure I chatted with the workers, I took them to lunch, I showed them what a great guy I was to work for, I would tell them how I'd fought hard to raise the wages and improve the careers of the people who worked for me, so that they'd want to come and work with me!
You're in competition with all the other managers for all of the good workers.
So go fight!
Go get the good workers!
Or if you get bad workers, at least figure out how to improve them.
And if you can't improve them, figure out how to fire them.
Right?
I never accepted responsibility over someone I couldn't fire.
Right?
Somebody would say, oh, you're responsible here.
It's like, you're responsible for this project.
Okay, can I fire people?
No.
Well, then I'm not going to take the responsibility.
Because if you can't tell me how to constitute my team, I'm not going to be responsible for their output.
If you have bad employees and you can't improve their performance, fire them!
I don't know why... what are you doing?
What are you complaining to me for?
Get the good employees, improve the bad ones, and if you can't improve them, fire them!
This isn't brain surgery.
I've made bad employees productive.
It's almost like I'm the guy who trains people to be better, but then those... but then that's my role now and there's no benefit except for when they get better, they move on.
Well, then you need to sit down with your boss, right?
Because you say, oh, my employees are bad.
You're a bad employee.
Because what's happened is you've allowed a situation to accumulate where your motivation is down.
And let's say you've got a magic idiot whisperer that you can make bad employees better, right?
Let's just say you're the DEI whisperer, something you can make bad employees better.
Okay, great.
Then you need to be compensated on improvements on people's productivity.
Right?
So you go to your boss and you say, I keep getting these employees, I keep making the better, then they move on.
I'm fine to help improve employees, but I'm not getting paid to do that.
And I need to have a compensation scheme that is based upon something other than the employee's productivity, right?
It's like, if you're the team doctor for a sports team, you don't get paid based upon how well The players under your care perform because they're under your care because they're injured, right?
So some pitcher hurts his shoulder or his wrist or whatever, right?
Then you can't get paid as the team doctor on how well that pitcher is pitching because he's only with you because he can't pitch!
So you have to get paid on how well he gets better, how quickly he gets better.
But don't complain.
Right?
Don't complain.
Act to secure your interests.
This is a life lesson as a whole.
Stop complaining.
Act to secure your interests.
No one's coming to fix your life.
No one's coming to make everything better for you.
No one's coming to advocate on your behalf because you're not 12 anymore.
You advocate on your own behalf.
You don't like something, you find a way to make it better.
But don't just whine and complain.
My God, what are you, a girl guide?
It's embarrassing.
We have to be men.
We get a lot of advantages to being men.
And one of the disadvantages is nobody advocates on our behalf.
We have to fight and win for everything that we want, which gives us a certain kind of pride and all of that.
It's wonderful, right?
Don't complain.
Complaining is embarrassing.
Complaining is effeminate.
Complaining is ridiculous.
Complaining is.
Cheesy.
Complaining.
Complaining is cringe and lame.
Men, we don't get to complain.
We don't have to bear children.
We don't have to poop a watermelon out of our nipples.
We don't have to breastfeed.
We don't age out as quickly.
We stay attractive longer.
We make more money later.
We don't have to have periods or endometriosis or cramps or bizarre things growing in our innards that way.
So we get lots of benefits.
Lots of benefits.
As being men.
But there's benefits and costs in everything.
So, you get lots of benefits for being a man.
Oh, you don't have to go through menopause.
That's not fun.
Menopause is not fun at all.
Talk about jamming your head in a freezer because your body's on fire.
So, we don't have the same hormones.
Our bodies are kind of like bricks and tanks and they just sail from, you know, 16 to 80 pretty much the same as long as you take reasonably decent care of them.
So, as men, we get huge amounts of benefits.
And nobody advocates for us and complaining is being a little bitch.
And please don't be a little bitch.
Nobody can respect that.
Say, oh, it's so unfair.
When a woman cries, everyone wants to comfort her and care for her.
And when a man cries, we get nothing.
Yeah.
It's true.
And what are you going to do?
Reprogram human DNA?
Good luck with that.
What are you, Pfizer?
So, no, just, for heaven's sake, stop complaining.
Oh my gosh.
Oh my gosh.
It's like complaining is like the ultimate act of emasculation.
Just go down and saw your nads off and feed them to wild ducks.
Do that instead of complaining.
I keep getting all the bad employees and then they keep moving on whenever I make them better.
I'm sorry, I made her laugh.
Holy crap.
Holy crap.
That's sad, man.
You want to be a man with all the benefits of a woman.
You see, when women complain, people jump to solve the problems.
When men complain, we just get ignored.
Right?
That's why there's Breast Cancer Awareness Month and not Prostate Cancer Awareness Month in the same way.
That's why there are pink ribbons but not like... and prostate cancer I think is more common over the lifespan than breast cancer because just about every old guy gets it.
Oh my gosh!
Yeah, breast exam is a walk in the park and that's to a prostate exam.
The moment that I as a voluntarist realized that I have a prostate or a pro-state it was horrifying and I wanted to go in there with a spork and take it out but apparently that's not supported because I'm a man.
So...
Yeah, I'm sorry.
Like, as a man, every time you have the urge to complain... DON'T!
Shut up!
And solve it!
Oh gosh, can you imagine?
Like, imagine a whole bunch of men out there in the neolithic era, right?
And it's like, it's raining and they're all just sitting there going, oh man, it's raining.
I hate it when it rains.
It tickles down my back and I get all clammy and then I get fungus between my balls.
And it's like, I hate raining, man.
Rain is so terrible.
Raining is so unfair.
It seems like it's raining all the time.
I think it's raining more than it used to.
And it's probably because we displeased the rain gods and rain, rain, rain, rain, rain, rain, rain.
We never would... Hey, there's a cave over there!
Maybe we should go into the cave!
No... No...
Because the rain is really annoying and it's really bad.
I was just sitting and complained about the rain.
You know we have a civilization because people shut the fuck up about complaining.
You know we have roofs over our head because people stopped complaining and started doing something to solve problems.
So yeah, complaining is... and listen, I say this with sympathy, right?
You probably grew up without a father or if you grew up with a father, you grew up with a weak father.
But complaining is sad.
It's really, really sad.
Complaining is emasculating, and complaining is relying on everyone else to solve your problem.
It's kind of like being a parasite on society, right?
It's really, really tragic.
It's really, really tragic.
So, yes, please don't.
Please, please don't complain!
Please don't complain.
I mean, did Elon Musk sit there and say, oh man, it's such a drag that you can't get internet out in the middle of nowhere.
And it's such a drag that we can't easily get satellites into orbit.
I really think we should.
It'd be so much nicer.
All that is, is just whining and expecting everyone else to solve your own fucking problems.
If you care about something, do it.
Can you imagine me like 20 years ago?
Oh man, the quality of philosophical discourse in society really sucks, man.
Somebody needs to do something to make the quality of philosophical discourse in society better, man.
I can't believe nobody's making quality of philosophical... My god, I'd rather the... the... the ground open up and swallow me down to Hades.
Oh my gosh.
It's just so appalling.
It's just so... appalling.
And the other thing too, if you have a bunch of sucky, terrible, incompetent people under you, nobody's going to want to work for you who's got any shred of competence because you're going to be known as the guy with crap employees.
Would you want to work with a company?
Would you want to work in a division where everyone was crap?
Would you want to work under a manager who had trashy employees?
Well you don't want to work with them, why the hell but anyone else?
So stop complaining and start taking some action to solve the problem!
And you know what to do to solve the problem.
You just rather complain because you were raised by women and I sympathize with that and I understand that but oh my
god You gotta let that shit go
If you can't if you can't make it to the dentist and you're in tremendous pain
Painkiller is probably anything that can alleviate the pain Yes, that's exactly what I'm talking about.
Yes, you are such a nitpicker at times, man.
That's really sad.
I'm using an analogy that if you don't get your rotten tooth dealt with, it's going to get worse.
And you're like, well, what if you can't get to the dentist?
Then you should take painkillers, right?
Oh my gosh!
That is also a sadly fucking low level of expectation contribution to the conversation.
What if you can't get to a dentist?
Then take the painkillers.
I mean, my analogy was, if you take the painkillers instead of going to the dentist, that's bad.
Well, what if you can't go to the dentist?
Then that's not part of my analogy.
It's totally different.
You're not adding anything.
You're just throwing sand in the Vaseline.
You're just farting in my face and calling it a fresh breeze.
Stop wasting people's time with things that don't apply.
Stop thinking you're contributing when you're nitpicking about irrelevant things.
Bleeding heart types who feed feral cats in the neighborhood and then they reproduce like crazy decimate the local fauna too.
This reminds me of a woman I know whose dog died and only afterwards she got pregnant.
It's sort of like having the pet who's holding back the parents to have a child.
Yeah, for sure.
For sure.
Is it a red flag when a young attractive woman is living with a cat?
I would think so.
I would think so.
It's not a deal breaker.
Bye.
I would view it as a red flag.
You know, I remember a friend of mine's girlfriend...
Had a cat that was, like, dying, you know?
And they had to wake up every morning and try and force-feed the cat some medicine, and it was just like, oh my god.
Ugh.
Grug hate rain.
Right.
Right.
Rain make Grug face hair itch.
Yeah, that's right.
People in the UK still complain about the rain constantly, but then it's raining here in July.
But they didn't complain about the rain.
Only, they also built houses.
Mostly for immigrants.
Apparently.
All right.
How red is the flag of a female neighbor with eight cats, divorced, mother to a kid and is 20, she's over 50, only a neighbor and friend to me, not interested but as an example.
Okay, I don't care.
there, sorry.
So why would a woman be single?
Let me get back to this question, because it was a good question.
Oh, no.
Did I not keep the question?
Get ready for the pause.
I really don't understand how a woman could be involuntarily single in her twenties and thirties.
Well, that's easy.
That's easy.
So, thank you for the tip.
I appreciate that.
So why, let's take it out of women, right?
Let's take, sorry, let me just, I forgot to close my door.
Hang on one sec.
So let's take it to men.
Let's take it to men.
All right.
Have you ever had a friend who wasn't a cat?
Have you ever had a friend who won't take a job he's suited for,
but instead has dreams of being an entrepreneur or catching some big break.
Have you ever had a friend like that?
I I certainly have.
Friends who have dreams.
A guy I knew many years ago who was like, well I'm working for this guy but I've got like, I'm going to go in real hard for a pay raise because I want to be an entrepreneur and I've got like five business ideas that will make me a fortune, right?
So he went in, tried to get a big raise, got fired and then didn't ever start any of these businesses.
It was really sad.
It was really, really sad.
Really sad.
I don't need to work for anyone.
I'm a natural born entrepreneur.
So I need a big raise.
He goes into his boss and says, you know, you're competing with my five other business ideas and you better give me a 50% raise or I'm out of here.
And he's like, well, you know, if you want to be an entrepreneur, like I, I don't want to hold you back.
So off you go.
And then I won't even tell you what he ended up doing, but it was not ideal.
Right?
So why is a woman single in her twenties?
How do you keep women single?
How do you keep women single?
It's an interesting question.
Right?
Because none of this is accidental, right?
Now If the guy who won't get a job because he thinks he just
deserves more than the market will offer offer.
That's paralyzing.
The best way to paralyze people is to raise their expectations to unrealistic levels.
You Listen to this, listen to this, listen to this.
The best way to paralyze people is to raise their expectations to unrealistic levels.
For the most part, when you're young, work sucks.
It does.
I was probably 26 or 27 before I even got a job remotely that didn't suck.
I mean, I worked cleaning dog hair off carpets.
I worked as a cleaner in offices.
I had a paper route.
I worked in restaurants.
I worked in a hardware store.
And all those jobs sucked!
They did!
They sucked!
So what?
The beginning of everything sucks.
When you're starting to learn piano, it sucks.
When I was starting to learn philosophy, it sucked.
Everything sucks at the beginning.
So the best way you paralyze people is you say, things shouldn't suck.
But they do.
They do.
Oh, well, you should be not part of suckiedom.
You should be immune from the suckness.
Embrace the suck, right?
It's an old army thing.
Embrace the suck.
Yeah, stuff sucks.
I hated going to work.
I mean, I didn't hate it but, I mean, as soon as I didn't have to or as soon as I got to do something that was more fun, like I finally got a decent job in my mid to late twenties as a computer programmer and I enjoyed that one.
Yeah, everything sucks at the beginning.
And most people are average.
I really, really don't like that they don't talk bell curves and statistics and averages to people more.
Most of you are average.
Right?
I'm average or below average at most things.
I was not a very... I mean, I did... I studied and played violin for a decade.
I was okay.
Right?
I like to sing.
I'm not a very good singer.
I like to do it.
But I ain't no good singer.
I tried to learn guitar.
Learned a couple of songs.
Wasn't for me.
I got these stubby fingers and it hurt at the end of my fingers.
I played all kinds of different sports.
I have played.
Let's go.
I have played.
I was on the swim team.
I was on the water polo team.
I was on the cross-country team.
I played soccer for many years.
I played rugby.
I played tennis, played squash, and still play tennis, still play pickleball.
I was a diver.
And at these things, I ski.
At these things, I beach volleyball.
Love to play volleyball as a whole.
Badminton.
Played a lot of badminton.
And at these sports, I was good.
Not great.
I was good.
I exercise six to eight hours a week.
Am I a super muscle guy?
I am not.
My body does not drape those muscles on me like icing on a wedding cake.
So, I am average, good, or below average at most things, and some things I'm just terrible at.
Just terrible at.
So, you try and focus on the things you're good at, and most things you're good, average, or bad at.
Some things you're great at, and some things you're terrible at.
So, focus on the things you're great at, but most things you will not be good at, you will not be great at.
And some people can't be great at anything.
Right, you hear these women and, you know, hey, would you date a guy making $40,000 a year?
Well, as long as he was ambitious, and it's like, no!
Most people can't make much beyond the average.
They can't.
Most people cannot make much beyond the average.
So you say to women, self-esteem is believing you deserve the best.
If you don't believe you deserve the best, then you lack self-esteem and confidence and you're not a boss bitch babe who's going to change the world.
You tell women that confidence is statistical insanity.
Most women are average and most women can get an average man.
Most men are average and most men can get an average woman.
And some women are above average and can get an above average man.
But most people, the bell curve, right?
Most people are average and will end up with someone who's average.
What does that mean?
Average height, average attractiveness, average intelligence, average income, average ambition.
That's it!
You ain't getting Jamie Dornan with the brain of Richard Feynman.
Not going to happen.
You are not going to get that woman I still remember many years later from that old Robin Williams movie The Fisher King.
There was this absolutely gorgeous woman at the desk reading Nietzsche.
Not going to get that.
Not going to get that.
You're average for most people.
I don't believe this crowd, this audience is average at all but we're talking in general.
So what you do is you say to women If you're not aiming for the best, you don't have any self-esteem.
You deserve the best.
You deserve the best.
Hey, I have no problem with that.
You deserve the best on one condition.
You deserve the best if you provide the best.
There you go.
If you said to every man, you deserve to make a million dollars a year and settling for anything less is a mark of crushingly low self-esteem and you're a loser.
You deserve a million dollars a year.
Men would say, what do you mean I deserve a million dollars a year?
I don't deserve a million dollars a year.
I could earn a million dollars a year.
And how do you earn a million dollars a year?
Well, you provide substantially more than a million dollars a year in value.
You provide 1.5 million dollars a year in value and they'll give you two-thirds of that.
Right?
They'll give you a million bucks.
They're going to take half a million for risk and overhead and marketing and Office spaces and tax and rents and rents.
You deserve a million dollars a year.
Okay, you deserve a million dollars a year if you provide a lot more than a million dollars a year in value and you're willing to negotiate for that.
So men, men don't get to deserve anything.
You're currently reading Schopenhauer and Nietzsche.
Yes, but I'm married.
I appreciate that.
Look, I'm not saying it doesn't exist.
I'm not saying it doesn't exist.
But... I have a six-pack in the fridge.
So, how do you keep women single?
You tell them they deserve the best without also telling them they have to provide the best.
You know, Fala, you don't get the best unless you provide the best, right?
If a man were to say, I deserve to be the quarterback on the football team, people would say, OK, let's see you call a play and throw a football.
Let's see you run and dodge and leap over people and let's see your size and strength and agility and constitution and, right?
Show me how you provide what you claim to deserve.
Somebody says, I had a conversation with a below average woman,
three to four out of ten, who believed she was owed a nine to ten male, or as she put it, a hunk.
Broke down in tears when I pointed out that wasn't realistic.
Right.
And it's hard.
To know where you stand in the pecking order is an essential, essential task of life.
Where do you stand in the hierarchy?
Right?
It's a big-ass question.
And your success as a human being depends, depends on your ability to figure out where you stand in the hierarchy.
I mean I mentioned this before and I remember talking about this with friends when I was in grade 6.
Grade 6 I think I had my first dance.
I was new to the country.
Grade 6 and there's a DJ playing songs.
It's kind of dark on either side of the gym.
It's a big giant gym.
The lights are in the middle and it's dark on either side.
So the boys are all on one side.
Let's see the south side.
And the girls are all on the north side.
And you gotta cross over that no man's land.
You gotta cross over!
And you gotta go and try and find in the dark a girl who will dance with you.
Now, she can't be so ugly that your friends will make fun of you, but she can't be so attractive she'll never say yes.
You gotta find that sweet spot.
Who is going to actually dance with me?
Well, I'm not aiming too low and I'm not aiming too high, right?
Men have to figure this stuff out, right?
And if you aim too high, you lose.
And if you aim too low, then you could have done better and you kind of lose as well.
Aiming too low is better than aiming too high as a whole.
Right?
So I aimed... What did I do?
I did what every guy is supposed to do.
What is a guy supposed to do when you're a teenage boy and you're trying to figure out why you stand in the pecking order?
You start as high as conceivably you can and then you go down until you get a girl to go out with you.
Right?
So I asked out the very top tier absolute queen bee of The junior high school, I asked her out and she did not go out with me.
and then I asked the next tier and they went out with me so you aim for what you can get
Now, why is it possible to sell to women that they can get more than they can get?
Why is it possible to sell Why is it possible to sell to women that they can get more
than they deserve?
How is this achieved?
How is this miracle achieved?
How is this miracle achieved that you can convince women that they deserve more than they can get?
Well, you give them a giant subsidy called sex.
Mmm.
That's right.
That's right.
Sex and sexual access adds three points to a woman's attractiveness.
It's actually pi, but I don't want to get into one of those 3.14159627 stringo numbers.
So you get a massive subsidy as a woman called sexual access.
you you
And with a sexual access, a woman who's 5 can get a guy who's 8 to sleep with her.
A woman who's a 6 can get a guy who's a 9.
A woman who's a 2 can get a guy who's a 5 because they're offering sex.
So you get a subsidy.
And then you say to women, that's what you deserve.
Now, women know exactly what value sexual access adds to their dating market value because they offer it.
So, if a five woman goes to an eight guy and says, we're not going to have sex for at least three to six months, then she probably won't go out with her.
But if she's like, we'll have sex on the second date or the third date, he'll dip down and get his rocks off and then
move on.
So what happens is you convince women to sleep with men.
What is this, the 30 under 30?
Sleep with 30 men under 30.
Or Sheryl Sandberg in Lean In was saying, go date, go have sex, go do this, go do that.
And what that does is it trains women to believe that they can get more than they deserve.
Because they can subsidize with sex.
You can hold out for the perfect job if mommy and daddy are paying your bills.
But all you're doing is decaying and destroying your resume.
Yeah, this is why less attractive women wear more revealing clothing.
Right.
So the single moms on dating apps show a lot of skin.
Of course.
Of course.
Please discuss Trump.
Yeah, we're going to stop this bit and I'll do half hour straight up Trump.
Yeah, don't waste away in your twenties.
Go live it up.
Yeah, ride the carousel.
Go round and round.
Listen to the music.
Right?
So what it does is it raises women's expectations to the point where they can't pair bond with someone suitable for them.
And pornography and other sexual fetishes and perfect bodies and faces does this for men too.
If you spend too much time around obscene beauty, average attractiveness looks revolting to you.
Right?
So...
So women think they can have the same kind of man they can sleep with in a relationship.
That's right.
So women think that they can sleep a man, they can have sex with a man and then he'll commit to them.
And honestly, from the male perspective, if the woman has sex with you too quickly, you will not commit to her.
Because she's desperate.
I hate to say it, like, come on guys, let's be honest with each other.
Let's be honest with each other.
If a woman sleeps with you too quickly, maybe you'll have your fun, but you're not going to marry her.
Because she's kind of desperate.
and kind of deluded.
Yeah, of course they sleep at the chair.
They sleep with the Chad.
But they can't keep them.
That seems a bit of a leap.
That's not an argument.
That's not an argument.
I mean if men are honest...
I mean, if a woman puts... and this is tough for women, right?
Because it used to be that women would have to secure the commitment of marriage before having sex.
But now, all of these women are throwing the V-bombs everywhere.
And how is a woman supposed to compete based on the quality of her character if men are
getting easy sex from other women?
So you can get a man to sleep with you, but how do you measure success?
Marriages.
And women get frustrated because they subsidize relationships with sexual access, which means they get a higher quality man or a more attractive man or whatever it is, and then they say, but men won't commit.
Oh, men are commitment phobic.
It's like, no, you're just aiming too high.
You're just aiming too high.
For a woman to subsidize a relationship with sex and then complain that the man won't commit is like a man buying everything for the woman and flying her everywhere and giving her lots of money and then complaining that she's only in it for the money.
Why do women think they can have a relationship with the same caliber man that they can sleep with?
Especially if it never happens.
Well, because women think that men are like them.
This is what's happened when we blended the sexes together, right?
Women are just like men and women can kick ass and women can be ninja warriors and take down guys twice their size and so we've blended the two sexes together and said men and women are basically the same and what that does is it has women fundamentally not understanding male nature.
Male nature is provider or man-whore?
That's male nature.
And we understand why.
Because a provider male is in a situation of social stability, you want to raise your kids, you want to...
Provide and protect and pair bonding and monogamy and invest in your kids?
Absolutely!
But if, you know, there's been some horrible war or plague that hits men more, then, you know, if you've got 80% of men decimated, then the other men have to stop pair bonding and reproduce to replenish the tribe, right?
So men have to be able to flip between provider and man-whore.
because sometimes men are needed to repopulate the tribe because a man can get
you know five women pregnant in a day but it doesn't work the other way
and so women think well because I pair bond when I sleep with someone
men also pair bond when they sleep with someone and it's like we don't
Like, we don't.
We don't.
That's just not how we've evolved.
It's not how our mechanics work.
It's not how our emotions work.
It's not how our nervous systems work.
It's not how our dopamine works.
So the women feel like, well, I mean, if I sleep with a guy, I'm already starting the pair bonding process.
And they think, because they've been told that men are just like women, they think that men are doing that too.
And they get incredibly angry and frustrated when that doesn't pay off.
Of course.
I understand that.
But it used to be that the exploration of the vive le différance, right, the exploration of the difference between men and women, used to be a very fun and exciting and cool thing.
Women are delightfully incomprehensible.
Love them to death.
Half the time I don't know what the hell's going on.
It's fine.
I'm sure I'm delightfully incomprehensible to women too.
And men are also, you know, with the sort of pornography problem and so on, men are
also pair bonding with bizarre, overlit physical perfection and...
You know, often there are erectile problems when it's actual real women in a real room, right?
All right.
I think we got everywhere.
Let me just go and check over here.
What did we get?
Ah, so nice to livestream to rumble.
Cozy five bucks.
I do appreciate everyone over here on locals though.
Have you discussed what helps men bond to women?
Sorry if I missed it.
Sure, I can talk about this very briefly.
So what helps men bond to women is a woman who Offers more than sex, right?
So she offers support and help and encouragement and so on.
I mean I talked about this way back in the day that I first started to become seriously interested in the woman who became my wife when I had some sandals that were being repaired downtown and she offered to pick them up for me because she was going downtown anyway and I was like, what?
You're gonna like voluntarily help me out and I won't pay for it later?
Let's get married!
Done!
Done and done!
Just be helpful.
Right?
Be supportive.
Be positive.
Right?
Because the man is going to be serving you by providing money and protection.
The man is going to be supporting you by providing money and protection.
The man is looking for something back called support and help.
So...
Yeah, just do that and any decent man will bond with you like that.
Just be helpful.
If the man gets the sense that you want to make his life better and it's not a trap, that's where the pair bonding happens.
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