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Stefan Molyneux in the other part of the his house.
And I hope you're doing well.
None does.
How many narcissists does it take to change a light bulb?
None!
They use gas lighting.
Nice.
Nice.
That's delightful in its own way.
Well, thank you for joining on this Friday night, the 3rd of July, 2024.
Well, uh, you set that up.
So, I'm not sure what to do about that.
I certainly didn't turn anything off.
So, I'm not sure what to do about that.
I think not.
I think not.
Alright, questions?
Haircut, yeah.
It's always embarrassing.
I hate having to give money to barbers.
Let's just not kid anyone, right?
So... No worries.
I did see you.
Sorry for the diversion.
I don't know what that means.
I don't know what that means.
Sorry for the... No worries.
I did see you.
Sorry for the diversion.
I'm not sure you've ended the problems with diversion, to be frank, but what the heck.
We'll go with that.
All right.
So I hope you guys are doing well, and I'm happy to chat with you this evening.
And let me just go back here and see what questions and comments and issues we had.
A four.
Y'all begin.
Y'all begin.
Yes, we have had a minor pet challenge.
I know that you come here for the pet updates.
We had a minor pet challenge.
It would be fun to play volleyball with you.
I think that's true.
I think that's true.
So, yeah, studio's fine.
Just had some technical issues.
They'll be resolved on Friday.
So we should be fine for Friday night.
But yeah, pet issues.
We have had an animal take
All is well.
The most important thing is it wasn't my fault.
So that's what we're for.
That's what we're for.
That we're relieved and pleased about, for me.
Because it's not so much what happens, it's can I be held accountable for what happens?
That's the interesting question.
And of course we are sad about the pet, but we are not sad, for me,
That it wasn't me.
So.
I just wanted to mention that.
You know, it's very important.
Self-ownership is something I talk about.
Steph, is it messed up to say that if you sounded like Scott Adams it would be hard for me to listen?
You know, it's funny.
No problems with Scott, of course.
But...
It's funny because as a writer, he's hilarious.
As a comic writer, the Dilbert comic, he's hilarious.
But when he tells jokes, it's flat.
And it's just an odd thing.
I mean, you can't be good at everything, obviously, right?
But it's just a man who was just so naturally funny.
But when he tells a joke, when he tells jokes, it's kind of flat.
Hey, actually, hang on a sec here.
I wonder if I can.
As they say, throw a little more light on the subject.
Oh, yes, that's better.
Can we get info on the new apps coming?
So, yeah, the new apps.
So what we have done, and this is going to be sort of a Windows thing.
I think it works on Mac as well.
So what we've done is we have converted the AI, the search engine and so on into apps that you can install.
And I will sort of get round to showing you how that works.
I should do a gym stream.
Do you really care where these come from?
I don't think so.
Do you ever think about staging a million books behind you to look smart?
I think I'm either smart or I'm not smart.
And if I'm smart, I don't need the books.
And if I have the books and I'm not smart, I'm insulting the books.
So, and can you imagine, can you imagine what society would do if I had a wall of books behind me?
Oh, the titles would be examined and spread apart and so on.
Your voice is lovely to listen to.
I have been blessed with a good speaking voice.
When I was younger, I wanted to sing more, but a lot of singers don't have great speaking voices unless their basses are baritone, so... Did you see society reward the Hawktua girl with thousands of dollars?
Well, hit me with a why if you know the Hawktua girl.
Do you know the story between the Hawktua girl?
Hawktua girl.
Hit me with a why.
I don't know if it needs explaining.
I don't know if it needs explaining.
Maybe it does.
Maybe it doesn't.
But do you know about the hawk to a girl?
It's really fascinating.
It's really fascinating.
A little rude, a little rude, a little rude, but quite fascinating.
So as James says, are AI chatbots in the podcast search are available as installable apps?
Most browsers support this feature, better support on Windows and Mac OS, with some support on iPhones and Android, where it depends on your browser.
Yes, but please explain.
Well, I will, in fact, explain.
So, this fellow, I think he was a black streamer, he was asking these white girls about, I don't know, their sex life or something like that.
And the one girl, she's a southern girl, she's cute, a solid 6 or 7, nice figure, and she's with a friend who's a 7 or an 8, and so the one girl was talking about how she only has eyes for this one guy, she's totally loyal to this one guy, whose name is
Whose nickname is Pookie, I suppose.
Nickname is Pookie.
So then, the black guy asks the white girls, what's the one trick in bed that you have that drives men crazy?
Or drives men, like, gets men excited?
And the Hawktua girl, I don't even know her name, she mimes, I guess, holding the base of a penis and saying, Hawktua, spit on that thing.
So spit on the penis, I assume, in preparation for oral sex or something like that, right?
So, she became famous as the hawk to a girl.
Now, the question is, why is she famous?
I mean, obviously, she's coarse.
Honestly, I could care less.
I could care less.
So,
Coarseness, you know, we all come from sex and bodies slapping together and fluids and being thrown halfway across the bed.
What's that whole joke about?
Female orgasm is kind of like a car crash.
There's a lot of screeching and squealing at one point you're facing
We're good to go.
I don't have any particular problem with earthiness or sexual talk and so on.
I think it's a little precious to sort of deny that aspect of life because, I mean, that's where all life comes from, right?
Yes, I do not find it offensive, I don't find it upsetting, I don't find it eww, you know, I think that that fuzziness regarding sexuality is pretty precious and I think it comes from a place more akin to trauma than anything else.
So, why do you think this became such a meme?
Why do you think that this became such a meme?
What are your thoughts?
She talked about it like a gangster, though.
Yeah.
I don't like it, Steph, if done in public.
Yeah, I get that.
I mean, of course I get that.
But everything's public these days, so.
Makes me very pleased to be a lifelong singleton.
I don't have to deal with that nonsense.
Because men are happy about the promotion of receiving oral sex and they're horny.
Because society has become degenerate.
Okay, I get it.
It's a long way from a Jane Austen novel.
I've been rereading a novel I long ago adapted into a play and produced in Toronto called the play Seduction, but the play is an adaptation of Turgenev's novel Fathers and Sons.
So, you know, I get the arguments of the earthiness.
I get all of the it's degenerate.
I understand all of that.
But the question is, the woman is, I mean, obviously kind of a wild girl.
You know, again, I have no particular issue with that.
She is pretty frank about sexuality.
And I don't have any particular issue with that.
And I think men are fascinated because she's loyal to her man.
She loves her man.
She's monogamous to her man.
And she is willing to do that which makes her man happy in bed.
And I think that is a bit surprising to men.
I think that's a bit surprising to men that this, you know, earthy country... And look, she's a country girl!
She's a country girl, she's earthy, and she wants to please her man sexually.
She obviously is quite uninhibited, to put it mildly.
And men are quite fascinated by frank talk about women.
Now, let me ask you something.
Let me ask you something.
I think it's because it was funny and sexual.
A little ballsy to say it so bluntly simple as that.
She's talking about it like a man.
Oh no.
No, you're wrong about that guys.
Sorry.
You're wrong about that.
Um, I don't know if you spent a lot of time around women or have, have you ever, have you ever been in the position?
Ooh, this is gonna, this is gonna smart.
Have you ever been in the position where you've been able to listen to women talk about sexuality in an unfiltered manner?
Right?
If you've ever heard locker room talk, if you've ever been in a bathroom, if you've ever been in a situation where you've heard women talk about sexuality in an uncensored manner.
I mean there's earthy and then there's like magma core of the planet earthy.
And women in general, not all obviously, but women have a frankness and a bluntness about sexuality that makes a man's nipples rotate and his armor turn into the garment of a monk.
I mean, it's wild how earthy and frank women can be about sexuality.
And I understand why, because if a man is frank about sexuality, he's a weirdo and a creep and is courting a lawsuit.
But if a woman is frank about sexuality, men just kinda... Just look at their novels, right?
My girlfriend's description of the talk in the women's locker room at the gym versus what I hear the guys talk about.
Um, I mean, I've obviously, you know, I've been, I've done a lot of athletics in my life.
I've spent tens of thousands of hours at gyms, uh, gyms place.
No, I mean, I've been to gyms.
I've, I've had locker rooms.
Uh, I, I've been now, I mean, I'm a smidge more refined than your average bear.
So sometimes I think that,
Maybe people are a little bit less coarse around me, but I have never heard the kind of talk from men about sexual matters that I've heard from women.
I never.
Now, again, this is a sample size of one, but again, I've been around a lot of guys in these kinds of situations.
We don't talk about it.
It was pretty surprising the first time I heard girls speaking like that.
Yep.
Yep.
Yep.
Yeah.
No, I mean, women are, women are pretty frank about sexuality.
So women talk about sexuality the way that men talk about work, because for women, sexuality is a kind of coin, right?
This isn't, this isn't going to shock anyone, is it?
I mean, this isn't, right?
Sexuality for women is kind of a coin of the realm, right?
And your talk among guys is typically super wholesome.
Seriously.
Yeah, yeah, for sure.
So why do women talk about sexual matters so frankly, as a whole?
Why do you think?
Sex is super important for women.
Of course it is!
Of course it is, right?
Why do women talk about sexuality
So bluntly.
Why do they focus a lot on sexuality?
You hang around the wrong women if they talk like that.
I mean, look, I get all of this.
We can get up on our high horse and we can be appalled and shocked and it's degenerate and it's wrong.
Okay, I get all of that.
And we can do that, right?
But I think that you need to be curious about these things
Rather than just, in a sense, blindly judgmental.
And I know that's a pejorative, and I know it's not an argument, but... Why... Why do women talk more frankly about sex than men do?
They compete, they control the sex.
Could it be to stun men like casting a witch's spell?
No, no, no, because this isn't privately.
This is privately.
This is privately.
Now, we've just started this evening, and I'm sorry I was a little late on a tech issue or two, but if I... Let's say I satisfy you.
Let's say I satisfy you.
I have you leaning back with a decaf latte, smoking a Marlboro slowly in the corner, half-rolling your eyes and dozing off.
If I satisfy you, I hope that you will give me a tip or two.
So, women evolved to talk more frankly with each other about sexual matters.
And, sorry, just hit me with a why if you'd like me to answer this.
If you'd like me to answer this, I'm happy to do it.
If it does help you, I think that's great.
But, you know, we need to stop being a little hysterical to express how experienced or unsure or confident they are.
No.
No.
No.
They get sexual experience without having to demean themselves.
No, no, no, no, no.
You guys are all wrong.
Sorry, sorry, sorry.
You're wrong.
All right, so here's the answer as to why this occurs among women.
Here's the answer.
Now, the answer is women want high-value men
And the higher value the man, the more other women want him.
So women have to become really good at sex so that their high-value men don't sleep with other women, aren't tempted to go and sleep with other women.
So what women do is they share sexual tips in order to promote monogamy.
Because if there's a high-value man and his wife or girlfriend is bad at sex,
Then the high-value man is going to let his, you know, eyestalk chameleon-like wandering all over the landscape and he is going to end up having affairs with other women, right?
Which destabilizes the tribe and it destabilizes the monogamy of the relationships as a whole.
And so women want to share sexual tips with other women in order to please their men so that monogamy is reinforced, right?
You already got me excited with all your dirty philosophical talk.
Don't.
Stop.
Yeah, women's magazines, what are they all talking about?
How to please your man, how to do this, how to do that, right?
So, a man who is high value is high value because he is often high testosterone.
If he's high testosterone, then he has a high sex drive.
Now, men in general, it's the old thing about Paul Newman, like he never had any affairs, a famous, beautiful, handsome actor, and he was married to an actress named Joanne Woodward.
And you can see her in the version of A Glass Menagerie with John Malkovich and Karen Allen and some guy I can't remember playing Biff and Joanne Woodward.
And people said, well, why don't you ever have affairs?
And he says, well, why would I go out for hamburger when I've got steak at home?
So what that means, of course, is that obviously I don't want to speak for Paul Newman like I know the guy, but what it means is that a high value, high success
High testosterone man, a man that lots of women want to have sexual and romantic and resource access to, a woman has to be good in bed in order to satisfy him so that his eyes don't wander and all the women who want to keep their men have to be good
In bed.
And so a society where women don't talk about sexuality and share uninhibited sexual conversations is a society where men have affairs, men wander, men are nervous to commit because they don't want a lifetime of bad or mediocre or non...
Sex.
So yeah, I mean, this is why if you look at men's magazines, they're talking about a bunch of stuff.
What was the old joke about men's magazines, you know?
Couple of stereo magazines, couple of gay guys in hats, and a couple of articles about how women love pudgy men, right?
No harm, no foul, right?
And there is a little bit of how to please your woman in men's magazines, but it's far less than what goes on in women's magazines, which are basically half pornography explanations of how to have your man's toes curl so much that he ends up looking like a foot-bound woman from the 19th century Chinese villages.
So yeah, men network regarding money and jobs and resources because that's their coin.
Women network regarding sexual techniques and pleasing their men because that's their coin, so to speak.
So tell me, does this... I don't want to over... I don't want to overdo it, but I also don't want to
That would be a premature elaborator, so you let me know.
I'm picturing a whore teaching a class to married women back in the day.
Well, you know, you've got to be a princess at the business meeting, you've got to be a cook in the kitchen, you've got to be a whore in bed, right?
This is sort of the cliche about women and how they operate and what they have to deal with.
This is why you can say oh it's degenerate and it's this and it's that it's like but but the more sexually satisfied men are in their relationships the more stable society is as a whole right so
I would, uh... So, and this is why I think it's important not to just jump straight into, oh, it's degenerate and it's wrong, you're hanging out with the wrong women and so on.
It's like... I mean, we can say all of that, but... So women have to talk about sex openly and privately in order to keep men from wondering.
What?
So women have to talk about sex openly and privately in order to keep men from... Oh, wondering!
You mean W-A-N-D-E-R.
Okay, just please check your typos, right?
Steph, do you think the sex bar has been raised really high with porn and crazy OnlyFans girls?
Well, there does seem to be a certain category or class of men who partake of pornography and it just gets worse and worse and worse and worse to the point where they end up mutant, deranged, sexually deviant, like Horatio.
So, I don't know why that happens, but, you know, I've of course heard some men, you know, like, oh, I started with some vanilla porn and then it kind of went blah blah blah, right?
That's what some men have said, and I don't know why they go down this rabbit hole to hell itself, but it certainly does.
Thank you, Sir Panther, I appreciate the tip.
I appreciate the tip.
I have been to Tupperware parties, regrettably.
Well, as I mentioned, a friend of mine when I was many years ago, many decades ago, a friend of mine, his mother had a lingerie, his single mother had a lingerie party with all the other single mothers, right?
And, of course, you see, this is kind of a cliché, right?
It's kind of a cliché that single mothers are overtly sexual in their presentation, right?
They have highly sexualized dating profiles and, you know, they're in their bikinis and they're arching their backs.
Single moms have this highly sexualized presentation.
Not always.
A lot of time.
We understand the reason for that, right?
We understand the reason for that.
Is that they are asking for a lot from a man, right?
So they're asking for the man to take them on, to take their crazy ex-husband or boyfriend or crazy ex-husbands and or ex-boyfriends on that.
And
They also were asking the new man to take on their kids, so they have to say, well, what's the payment for that?
It's going to be, you know, crazy mind-blowing sex or whatever it is, right?
I started to go down that path before I stopped watching.
Chasing the dragon phenomenon, yeah.
Do you think single moms just double down on being, you know, kind of tardy or whatever, like past the point of no return in their minds?
So, single moms have a negative because they want quality men like all women do.
They want men with lots of resources, but men with lots of resources have lots of options, right?
And so, why would a man with a lot of resources want to spend his resources spending on and raising the child of a lesser man, right?
And, you know, greater or lesser, we're just talking about economic value and so on, right?
So, why would
Why would a man, let's say, the father of the single mom's kid makes $30,000 a year and there's some guy who makes $200,000 a year, so economically, right, he's like almost seven times more valuable, so why would a man making $200,000 a year want to take his money and give it to the child of a man who is only one-seventh as economically valuable, right?
That's a bad deal.
That's a bad deal.
And so the single moms, of course, have to figure out how to backfill that problem of coming with a significant negative, right?
Porn requires constant escalation for the same level of dopamine release, leading to engagement in weird content.
I don't know that that's true for everyone.
I honestly don't know.
I've heard some of it, but I don't know that that's true for everyone.
There's maybe some other factor, like trauma or something, or molestation that is occurring.
I don't know the answer to that, but it's not everyone, I think.
Why do you think some Christians are very prudish about sex?
Well I don't think, in terms of the joylessness of sex, and maybe you talk about this in terms of prudishness, well of course it's supposed to be a union of souls and the physical part is sort of a commandment and so on, but I don't know, what was this movie with Christy Alley and Tim Allen?
What was it called?
Somebody help me.
Where this New York couple end up living in an Amish, like I think they have to go hide or something, and they end up living in this Amish community.
And it was actually a very funny movie with an absolutely appalling joke about milking a cow.
But the movie
Tim Allen is very funny, and Kirstie Alley in her prime was very funny.
But Tim Allen was very funny because the Amish people get up at like four in the morning.
Tim, I don't know how he delivers this line that is just hilarious.
It's not funny written down, and I can't do it justice.
But so, you know, they're sort of bonk, bonk, bonk.
It's four o'clock in the morning, and Tim Allen's like, four in the morning?
Oh, I must have overslept.
It's just so tragic.
For Ritual Pura, is that it?
It's a very funny movie.
But one of the things that I always, because Tim Allen is very Christian, and one of the things that I thought was really interesting was that the Amish or Mennonite farm couple that this couple is staying with have a very robust and energetic sex life.
And so, you know, super fundamentalist religious people
Have this a super, super robust and energetic sex life.
And I thought that was interesting.
Uh, yeah, for ritual or poorer it is, I would definitely, I would definitely recommend it.
And I think Woody Harrelson shows up in it as well, if I remember.
So.
Some very, very funny.
And they have vicious arguments about secular.
I'm going to lie in here like, Carolyn, refresh my memory, will you please?
What exactly have you done in the past five years?
Oh, wait a minute.
I know.
You've done Bloomingdale's.
You've done lunch.
You've done chemical peels.
You've done collagen.
You've done liposuction.
Oh, very funny.
There's a
One of the Amish says, today was a good day.
And the other Amish says, God only makes good days.
And it's kind of true if you believe that stuff, right?
The woman says, after tonight, I don't know how I'll ever be able to face my friends again.
And her husband says, just pretend they're a mirror.
And she says, you're so funny, honey.
Actually, I'll just confess to them that I'm married to a moron and that way they'll feel sorry for me and forgive me.
Some very, very funny stuff in that movie and that the materialism is very well parodied and it's a very funny movie.
But yeah, so I just, and I thought I liked the fact that it went against the blend, right?
So I think you're blending the movie Kingpin with the Tim Allen movie.
Oh, Kingpin.
Oh, is that, that the one about bowling?
I found that movie repulsive, Kingpin.
I watched it and there's a torture scene that I was just like, I thought it was going to be a comedy and it was just appalling.
No, I don't think I'm blending the movie.
Okay.
Let me, let me see here.
Let me, if I'm wrong about this, obviously I will be, but somebody makes that joke about this, right?
Who's in it?
Yeah.
Oh, yeah, you might be right.
Yeah, Woody Harrelson is not in it.
Woody Harrelson is not in it.
My God, now I'm obsessed.
I must know.
All right.
Let me look this up.
A cow joke.
Oh well, I won't.
Yeah, it's a horrendous cow joke, get it?
It is really horrendous.
Oh yes, they have to hide from the IRS.
Anyway, so I won't go into the spoilers, but it's a funny movie and you should watch it.
Oh, does he milk the bull in Kingpin?
Oh, is that right?
No, I don't think so.
I think it is in For richer, for poorer, because I just saw that.
But maybe you're right.
Maybe it's in Kingpin.
But I thought that was a movie about bowling, not farming.
All right.
So let's get back to your questions.
And single moms carry a lot of resentment.
Well, not the most detailed.
I'm not going to disagree with you, but it's tough.
You know, it is having a child out of wedlock with a guy who doesn't stick around is a complete disaster that destabilizes society enormously.
Like, I don't know if you know this, but like in the early 1960s, late 1950s, early 1960s, the rate of children outside of wedlock was like 5%.
It was like 3% in 1900 and it crept up to like 5%.
And then of course the welfare state just changed all of the incentives in an absolutely brutal fashion and just destroyed the family, particularly for the poor, right?
So, you know, smart people tend to not need
We tend not to respond to immediate incentives as much because we are looking for longer and larger patterns and we're willing to defer gratification more and so on, right?
And so people who aren't quite as smart, they need more immediate feedback.
And because they need more immediate feedback when they have something like the welfare state,
Then they tend to make poorer decisions because the disasters occur much later, right?
I mean, let me ask you this.
Let me ask you this.
Have you talked to men and women as a whole about retirement?
How much do you need to retire?
What's your plan to retire?
And all of that, right?
How much money do you need to retire?
What's your plan?
What's your savings?
What's your goal?
What's your this?
What's your that?
Right?
So that's important.
How much do you need to retire?
So Kevin Samuels and I, I could be wrong about this.
It seemed a little unfair to me, but what do I know?
Right?
So, Kevin Samuels would talk to women and say, how much do you need to retire?
From the age of 65, you're going to retire.
How much do you need to retire to live to the age of 85, right?
65 to 85.
How much do you need to retire?
What's this one woman guess, like $50,000?
Okay.
Okay.
So, how much do you need to retire?
And, you know, what's that meme?
It's like, well, if I keep working now, I should enjoy a cozy 11 minutes of retirement before I die, right?
Most people believe the government will take care of them.
Well, okay.
I mean, but you know, it obviously is not going to keep pace with inflation and everybody knows that it's not going to work out particularly well as a whole.
So have you talked to people about retirement?
Because it's appalling how many people, hang on, percentage of people
Saving for retirement.
It's retarded.
It's just, it's incredible to me.
It's just incredible to me.
Yeah.
So a third of Canadians are nearing retirement without any savings.
Right.
So this is, um, this is Canada, right?
Uh, when is this from?
What's our date here?
Okay, so 2018, so it's worse now.
32% of Canadians between the ages of 45 and 64 have nothing saved for retirement.
53% of Canadians say they don't actually know if they're saving enough.
For many people, the amount of money required to fund maybe 30 years of retirement is a secondary consideration.
The average amount of personal savings Canadians estimate they'll need to retire comfortably on is $756,000.
To which I say... Oof.
Oof.
So people say I can... I can retire for up to 30 years on a quarter of a mil.
That's wild.
Right.
Oh my gosh.
Women generally suck at retirement.
So, a third more men have a retirement plan.
So, as far as a formal retirement plan, 22% of women compared to 32% of men.
Right, so men are a third more likely to have a formal retirement plan.
43% of women nearing retirement age, age 55 and older, said they don't have a formal plan at all.
And they're going to live longer than men!
It's mad!
It's absolutely mad.
Can Canadians save an average of $184,000 for retirement?
Oh my gosh.
Oh my gosh.
All right.
Let's, let's look at something more.
How much do you need?
So a lot of people say 70% rule, right?
You need 70% of your pre-retirement income.
You need 70% of your pre-retirement income to live.
So if you save 10% of your income, that's the general idea, right?
Alright, let's see here.
This is the US.
The median retirement savings for American households, households, not individuals, households, is $87,000.
Median retirement savings for Americans younger than 35 is $18,000.
67% of Americans have a retirement account, but only 34% feel on track for retirement.
That is wild.
And of course, there are a lot of people who do save very well.
And that's pulling up the numbers.
For everyone, right?
The Motley Fool recommends putting aside 15% of your annual income for retirement over the course of your career.
61% of non-retirees have a 401k or 403b.
20% have no retirement saving.
Social Security designed to replace only 40% of the average salary after retirement.
Why?
Why?
I'm trying to look at...
Um, yeah, of course, white Americans have a median average retirement account value of $100,000 in 2022, $61,000 more than black Americans, and $46,600 more than Hispanic Americans in the usual 1, 2, 3 that we've talked about in the show for years.
All right.
So how much do I need to retire?
Now they say 80%, right?
So if you have, if you earn a hundred grand a year, you'll need aim for 80,000 of income in today's dollars in retirement.
Now, of course the big problem too is inflation, right?
Then that's just going to eat away at your retirement over, over 20 years.
It's going to be brutal, right?
So 80% is because you no longer have to save for retirement.
You've got less work expenses, commuting expenses, and so on.
You probably have paid off your mortgage and you may not need life insurance if you no longer have dependents.
So, typical retiree, between you and your spouse, you currently have an annual income of $120,000.
80% principal, you need about $96,000 in annual income after you retire, that's about $8,000 a month.
So, you'll get some of that through Social Security.
If you earn $50,000, Social Security will replace 35% of your income, and if you're earning $300,000, Social Security will only replace 11% of your income.
So, couple needs $8,000 in monthly income to retire.
Each spouse is getting $1,500 a month from Social Security.
One spouse has a $1,000 monthly pension from some work or something like that.
So, of the $8,000 in monthly income needs, $4,000 comes from guaranteed income.
The remaining $4,000 has got to come from investment and savings.
So, if you've got a million dollars saved and
You can withdraw 4% of your retirement savings.
In your first year of retirement, you can withdraw 4% of your retirement savings.
That's $40,000.
So the 4% rule is designed to make sure that your money has a high probability of lasting for 30 years, right?
So, you'll need $4,000 a month or $48,000 a year from your savings.
So, in that case, you should aim for $1.2 million in retirement savings accounts.
Oh, I know where.
I know exactly where Kevin Samuel gets his numbers now.
Right.
Okay, got it, got it.
So, Kevin Samuel says you need 2.4 million, and that's because he's assuming, he keeps saying the government is not going to be able to pay, so you need the full 8,000 from your savings rather than 4,000.
So, 4,000 you need 1.2 million, but 8,000 you need double that 2.4 million.
But that's for a couple rather than an individual and all of that, right?
And so, that is wild.
That is wild.
So how many people do you know are not saving for their retirement?
You figure three mil?
Yeah.
Is net worth of 20 times your annual expenses?
Yeah.
This is all due to the delusion of infinite resources.
Yeah.
I mean, the money printing and borrowing creates a kind of psychosis, right?
I recently learned that a friend of mine who was the father of two young children might be diagnosed with lymphoma.
Do you have any advice on how I can best support him during this challenging time?
Yes.
If he has to go, just go over and spend time with him.
Like, help him out with his kids, give him some time to process, and have him out of the hurly-burly of his family life.
On a brighter note, I'm getting married this weekend!
My fiancée and I are deeply grateful for how philosophy has enriched our relationship.
Also wanted to let you know I'm a long-term listener, subscriber, and plan to donate an appreciation of all your work when we return from our year-end honeymoon.
Have to run now, but we'll listen to your answer later.
Well, congratulations.
Fantastic.
Fantastic.
Fantastic.
Even if you stay for a time and it gets eaten away by inflation termites, use Bitcoin.
Absolutely.
And they'll just tax all that stuff too, right?
They'll just tax that stuff too.
So yeah, it is, uh, it's appalling.
Uh, and it's going to hit women insanely hard.
Ah, will you come to Eastern Europe someday again?
I would love to.
I would love to.
I may.
Do you have an explanation for why there's an almost complete death of ideas amongst the relatively normal population, who only ever discuss people at events?
Why are they only ever idiotic?
Right.
Well, it's like saying, why is there a dearth of great songs coming out of the general population?
It's not their skill set, it's not their approach, and they don't do the 10,000 hours that you need to do to start generating your own great ideas.
I was in philosophy for like 20 years before I really started to generate new ideas.
Somebody says, I can't put a number on it, but most, I've got a few family members that are underwater financially as we speak.
They're just trying to make it from paycheck to paycheck.
Right.
Right.
Um, now, uh, you guys are aware of like, shut your mouth, right?
Are you aware of this just as a whole?
You, you guys know this, right?
Like if you've got a lot of money squirreled away or like you shut your mouth, right?
I mean, especially if you're involved in a corrupt or problematic family situation, right?
Just shut up.
Shut up.
Stop talking.
Don't, uh, don't brag, right?
You're just inviting trouble.
So, uh, just, you know.
Hide your light under a bushel.
And, uh, you know, don't talk about success, don't talk about money, don't... What's a lot of money?
Well, enough that people are gonna want it from you!
Enough of that!
Depends how many people you have around you, what they're like, and so on.
But, yeah, just... Shut up.
Learn to, uh, learn to keep quiet.
Learn to keep quiet.
It's a very, very important thing.
Somebody says, yeah, I bragged a little too much about holding crypto and stocks in the past.
Now, at days, I just stay quiet.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think that's important.
Just be quiet.
Just be quiet.
Or if you're not going to be quiet, at least surround yourself with people who aren't going to want your money.
Well, so here's the thing, right?
So if you talk about how well you're doing, then what's going to happen is when people need money, they're going to come to you.
And it's going to get ugly.
And a lot of people, when they're desperate, I mean, desperate people have almost no morals, right?
Aware of all of this, right?
This is not any big shock, I'm sure of you.
But desperate people have almost no morals, right?
So when people are retired, they're desperate, right?
They're retired, they're desperate.
If they can't make ends meet, if they start running out of money, they just become desperate.
And when desperate people want things from you,
And you say no, they escalate in absolutely appalling ways.
Absolutely appalling ways.
And they can trash your reputation, they can launch lawsuits, they can just do most appalling things.
Sometimes I can literally feel the target on my back, he says, like knowing I'm being stalked by a lion who sees me as a juicy fat cow.
Yeah, like, I don't, I don't understand.
Like, I genuinely don't understand.
Like, let's say some guy makes it big in crypto and he goes and buys, I don't know, a Lamborghini or a Bugatti or like, he just, he's got these million dollar watches and he's just flashing yachts and so on.
I'm like, are you an idiot?
What's the matter with you?
Hello, Target.
Hello, Target.
It's like, it's retarded.
I don't understand.
I don't understand why people do these things.
I don't understand.
It's like a death wish, almost.
It seems to me.
But, what do I know, right?
Alright, sorry, somebody had a question.
How do I have a free-flowing conversation with a girl I just talked to?
I recently said hi to her on Instagram.
Really?
Really?
That is your question to me.
I just said hi to a girl on Instagram.
I do not want you to have a free-flowing conversation with a girl on Instagram.
I will not help you have a free-flowing conversation with a girl on Instagram.
I understand, I sympathize, I empathize, I appreciate, and I need you
To get a big bucket of ice, stuff it down your pants and then hit your balls with a massage gun set on the most aggressive session so that you lose the desire to have a free-flowing conversation with a girl on Instagram.
Whatever you do in this life,
Do not have a free-flowing conversation with a girl on Instagram.
Please!
Dear Gariba, do not have a conversation.
Free-flowing?
I mean, I understand that sometimes when men are looking at girls on Instagram,
There is some free flows involved, but just get a Kleenex, clean that shit up, turn off your screen, and slap yourself in the face with a non-thawed steak.
My goal in getting rich in crypto is to move into the country, have a nice small business, wife, kids, etc.
Many men do it to attract women, but come on, what kind of women are you going to attract flashing money?
LOL, these same men will then complain about being ran through in divorce court after.
It's truly amazing.
Yeah.
Yes, yes, yes.
Oh, my friend, everybody knows why you're saying hi to a girl on Instagram.
Because the girl is flashing her body
On Instagram.
And you are turned on by the girl on Instagram.
And you want her to see your great deep and wonderful virtues and thoughtfulness and care.
But the problem is, well, there are so many problems, but one of the main problems is, if you are going to talk to a girl
On Instagram.
You're only doing it because she's sexy, right?
Of course.
So immediately, you have to start by lying through your lemon pocket ass.
Oh, you seem nice.
Oh, you seem interesting.
Oh, you seem delightful.
Oh, I would just love to get your thoughts on Proust.
Please.
I believe that your thoughts on Proust might be between your cleavage, so please, if I can get in there and make some motorboat noises, I'm pretty sure I can find your thoughts on Proust.
That would be fascinating for me.
Maybe, maybe your thoughts on Proust are somewhere hidden in the thread of your butt-floss bikini.
Maybe I can just slither around, well-oiled of course, to see if I can find
Either hemorrhoids or, or, your thoughts aren't pressed.
Because you just seem like a wonderful, special, virtuous, lovely, wonderful, moral girl.
And... I'm just fascinated by your soul, your spirit, your... Elah!
Your joie de vivre!
The way you bestride
The world like a colossus of morality rather than how you aggressively spread your legs over that peeing fountain.
Oh, of course we could do this all night.
We could do this all night, but we all know the facts that you're interested in a free-flowing conversation with a girl on Instagram because you want to have your free-flowing body fluids on the girl from Instagram.
There's nothing wrong with the girl being sexy, but you have to start by pretending that you're interested in her for her personality.
Oh, you have a lovely smile.
Yes, that's right.
And if she was an elderly Asian gentleman with a lovely smile, I'm sure you'd be very interested in a free-flowing conversation with him too.
Instagram, in general, in general, is a soft core
Money-grabbing, tit-flashing, resource-eating, void for male hopes, and testosterone.
Just in general.
I'm sure there's tons of exceptions.
I'm sure if Mother Teresa was alive today, she'd be on Instagram too, but probably not in a thong.
That's why what I want to do, if I had the demon's power,
Of omnipotence.
What I would do is I would say, if you want to pose on Instagram, every pose that a young woman does on Instagram, she has to get her great-grandmother to do exactly the same pose in exactly the same outfit.
That, to me, would be delicious, delightful and truth in advertising.
So if you're gonna do some leg split yoga stuff, I'm gonna need, in the same outfit I might add, your great-grandmother to do the exact same pose, and you need to show that right next to yours.
That's truth in advertising, because that's where all of this stuff goes.
Absolutely.
So...
If you're going to do some hip-gyrating, semi-twerking, butt-rising like the twin moons of Uranus, I'm going to need your grandmother or great-grandmother doing exactly the same thing right next to you.
And that will be the punch to the nads that all the men absolutely need when looking at this stuff.
Because you buy one and you get the other.
You follow one, and you get the other.
You marry one, and you live with the other.
Cause cute evaporates, and...
For every woman who posts a picture of herself with the glow up and cheekbones and a zempig, right?
Then I need to have a picture of her mother, mid-labor, layered over the top, like mid-pushing out a watermelon through her vagina.
I just need to see that because that's a little bit more realistic.
Going to get a certificate to be an electrician?
You the man, Steph!
Well, congratulations, Dylan.
I am thrilled and good for you.
Good for you.
We need electricians.
Because... Because I need power, man.
It's all about me.
Me.
The other day, for the first time, I saw a girl in a parking lot setting up a tripod and dancing in front of a very expensive supercar, Lamborghini.
All alone, I couldn't believe my eyes.
Oh, isn't that how it works in real life?
You see an attractive girl in the mall or on the street which makes you interested in talking to her and then you find out about her personality.
So, are you saying that Instagram is just like real life?
Is that your theory?
Sorry, don't mean to laugh.
Is your theory that Instagram is just like real life?
So, Instagram is not like real life because real life is not curated.
It doesn't have filters.
It's not posed.
An Instagram girl will take 50 pictures and choose one and apply filters.
In real life, that ain't happening unless you're deranged and schizophrenic and seeing visions of women with Vaseline mist all over their face.
So, it's not real life.
It's all posed, it's all rehearsed, it's all staged, the lighting is just so.
In real life, you get to see the person's full body posture, you get to see them before they're posing for you, so you get to see what their body posture is before they straighten up and look good and get the photographer and all of the right video equipment and all the right lighting and filters so you get to see the unedited person who's not posing for you!
My god man, you think you might be spending a little too much fucking time online if you think Instagram is just like seeing a girl in the real world.
Please don't tell that to women.
Please don't tell that to women.
Oh my gosh.
Wild.
You know, because I understand, like a lot of men, want women to be hot, but not know it.
Which is not, not right.
I never knew a woman who didn't know exactly how attractive she was, says my hero Stanley Kowalski, or at least somebody who had some whiz-wise things to say about women.
No, he's not my hero, of course.
He was a monstrous guy.
Women, of course, want men to be young, attractive, and wealthy.
Quick question.
When is a man's peak earning years?
When do they show up in life?
When is a man's peak earning years?
Just out of curiosity.
Do you know?
Girls with a lot of pictures are addicted to attention.
Yes.
I view women with... I mean, I'm not talking about talking women or women talking politics and so on.
I'm talking about the bikini broads on Instagram.
They're drug addicts, in my view.
They're addicted to the dopamine of male attention.
And I would never date a drug addict, and I would never date a woman who was addicted to male attention.
So that's not going to end.
30s.
35 to 55.
Oh, come on, Jared.
You can't do 20 years.
That's way too wide a spread.
Man, peak earning tend to be 45 to 55.
Peak earning tends to be 45 to 55.
35?
No.
No.
Have you seen the latest Pokimane?
Who the heck is Pokimane?
What is a Pokimane?
She bent over showing her ass to pick up her cat and says that baiting her viewers is not her intention.
Yes.
Yeah, so it's about 45 to 55 is a man's peak earning years.
And so women want wealthy guys, but not older guys.
Which is like men wanting younger women who are also wise.
We are so out of the natural flow of life.
It's crazy.
It's just crazy how far we are out of the natural flow of life.
I asked that question because what you said made me feel bad approaching women in real life because I find them physically attractive.
I interpreted you as saying that pretty girls cannot be virtuous and I wanted to push back on that.
Sorry, I... I don't quite understand.
I've almost all of my dates have come from approaching women in the real world.
I don't understand.
I mean, my, I met my wife by approaching her in the real world.
So I don't know what you're talking about saying that my wife's very pretty.
So I don't know why you would think that that's anyway.
So a trust fund guy.
Okay.
Should we talk about the trust fund guy and women's delusions about the trust fund guy?
Just out of curiosity, should, should we, should we, should we pull apart these delusions about
Women and the trust fund guys.
Cause women are wild about the trust fund guys, looking for a man in finance, six, four blue eyes, finance, trust fund, six, four blue eyes, blah, blah, blah.
Do you know what the truth is about the trust fund guys?
Right.
Okay.
So, as you know, I started right at the bottom.
Well, maybe one or two.
I wasn't living in subway tunnels, right?
But I started right at the bottom of society.
Right down in the squalid shitfest of Trash Planet.
I was birthed among the trashiest people known to man, where there's guys pulling guns, guys shooting holes in walls, guys beating up girlfriends, women beating up children, women beating up boyfriends, tattoos and pudginess and trash.
It was just appalling.
I was born in the absolute dregs of the human zoo.
And I have burrowed my way to, at least for a while, I was really high-flying, pretty close to the top of society.
One day, when I'm old and even more grey, I will talk about all of this.
But anyway, I got to close to the top.
That journey is quite something, let me tell you.
There's a lot of uncertainty in that journey.
One of the reasons why it's hard to change classes is you feel like an incompetent, clod-footed retard.
I mean, I remember when I first went to exclusive clubs in Toronto in the business world, I didn't exactly know how to act.
I just didn't know.
And of course, my friends in general didn't know how to act in that world.
I couldn't go to them for advice.
So, you just have to grit your teeth and be willing to be a retarded outsider for a certain amount of time until you learn the rules of the game.
So, I have really seen
The top and the bottom of society, and just about everything in the middle.
I have not been down to the total dregs of society, like the homeless.
I have not lived like that.
But, you know, one step above that, all the way to just about the very top of society, I sort of spanned that whole journey, right?
Now, so where do the trust fund
Men come from?
Well they come from money and they come from established money.
Because to have a trust fund you need to have parents who have the kind of money and resources and acumen to hire the armies of lawyers and accountants and god knows what experts you need to set up a trust fund.
So what that means of course is that
You better know your way around the world of the wealthy.
If you want a trust fund guy, you're going to need to know how to behave, how to act, what to talk about, when to listen, when to speak.
You're going to have to have a very sensitive nose for hierarchy and you're going to have to know how to present yourself and talk and deal with people
To enhance the reputation of the guy with the trust fund.
You're going to have to be super classy, super experienced, super sophisticated, and it's very good if you have a family history and you're going to need to know that world and how to live within it, what cultural points to talk about, and how to be not boring but also not controversial.
I mean, it's crazy complicated.
In that world of the wealthy because wealthy parents in particular are very aware that their sons are a magnet for gold diggers and therefore they have very strong and very strict filters on who their sons will be encouraged to date and who their sons will be discouraged from dating.
Now,
How do families prevent the sons, their sons, from dating and marrying these gold diggers, right?
Do you know how?
How?
I want to make sure we're still plugging here.
How did they, how did they prevent it?
Have you checked out Hunter Biden's book?
God, no.
Are you insane?
Why would I want to read Hunter Biden's book?
Oh, God.
It's not enough asbestos oven mitts for me to even touch the shelf that that book's on.
Okay, so how do wealthy... Yeah, look at Biden.
He won't even recognize Hunter's strip of gold digger check.
Yeah.
Yeah, he won't get any money if he marries a wrong woman.
Uh, but it's strong.
How do they even prevent that from situation from arising in the first place?
Right.
How did they prevent that situation from arising in the first place?
Stipulations in the will that cut off, cut them off from the merit.
No, no, no.
But you want to prevent this.
You want to prevent this.
You don't want to punish.
You want to prevent.
How do they prevent them?
How do they deal with the fact that their, their sons are magnets for
Gold diggers.
And it's particularly true if the sons are tall and handsome and this and that and the other, right?
How do they do it?
How would you do it?
Come on, we're all voluntarists here, or at least most of us, so how do you deal with social enforcement without force?
I have no idea, aside from drilling in what quality women are like.
If both parties come from money, then there is no issue.
You prevent it by keeping the son around trusted people.
That's very important.
You know, trust fund sons are not going to house parties.
Like, you don't even know how to meet these people.
You don't even know where they move, where they live, where they work.
They're sealed off.
They're sealed off.
And that has a good effect on maintaining the family fortune, but it has a very bad effect in that you have an entire different section of society that has almost nothing to do
With the society it rules and manages.
All right.
Yes!
Kairos!
As always, you come up with the right stuff.
Ostracism and shame.
Ostracism and shame.
So, what you do in this world is you relentlessly shame any man who goes for a lower quality woman who doesn't fit in.
You don't hang out with that person, you don't invite them places, you relentlessly mock him, you humiliate him, you make fun of him, you punish him, you kick him and his family all the way out of the social circle.
You punish through ostracism.
Now, do you understand?
Oh gosh, that's such an annoying way to put it.
Yet put it that way, I will.
Do you understand how incredibly punitive ostracism is for high caste people, for high class people, for the top tier of society?
Why is ostracism so powerful in that realm?
Because ostracism, I mean just about everybody from my youth ostracized me when I became more successful.
So I'm like, okay, oh no, the people from Trash Planet don't want to hang with me.
How will I survive?
Why is it that ostracism among the wealthy is so powerful?
What is the answer as to why that is the case?
Cause the women who want the trust fund kids, like if you're a lower class woman or even a middle class woman, you're not gonna, they're not going to be anywhere around at all.
Like you're not even going to know where they are.
You will never meet them.
You will never meet them.
Because it lowers your standard of living?
Nope.
No.
Ostracism by the wealthy undermines your business as well, not just your social and private life.
Very true.
Thank you, Ricardo.
Because that's your entire world, your business context, your entire social circle.
You aren't going anywhere but down.
Right at the end there, James.
Boom!
You aren't going anywhere but down.
You get kicked out from the top, or you just fall.
You just fall.
They're also sealed off, says Joe.
I went to a restaurant with my boss and he recognized one of the Hunt brother billionaires at a restaurant.
The billionaire wasn't flashy at all.
I wouldn't have guessed he was rich.
Right.
Right.
So, if you get ostracized by the incredibly wealthy and successful, where do you go?
Where do you go?
So imagine you're an absolute top point one, you're the top one in a thousand athletes, like you could get a gold medal and so on and you get kicked off all of the elite teams and you've got to go and play in some local pickup league.
I mean, don't you feel like shit?
You've just been kicked out of the top and now you've got to hang around the average.
Oof!
That's brutal.
Yeah, you are down and out, right?
You're down and out.
So you have everything to lose.
If you're top tier and you get kicked out of the top tier, there's no way to go but down.
Now, some people will do it, right?
I mean, the King Edward with his divorcee, he was willing to give up the crown and so on.
But I mean, few people are willing to do it.
I mean, in my view, Harry, Diana's youngest son, Princess Diana's youngest son, I mean, he kind of
Hooked up and got married to, um... Well, let's just say his bride did not seem to come from the most elevated of circles in the known universe, right?
So the punishment of being excluded from the Elysium fields of the super wealthy is so brutal that that's how they police things.
And it's the old thing of like, look, you can sleep with a commoner, but you don't marry her.
Because if you marry the commoner, you're showing such poor judgment in the eyes of the wealthy that your trust fund will evaporate, your opportunities will evaporate, your wealth will evaporate, the long continuity and chain of wealth in your generations will all come to an end with you.
Right?
So the idea that some average girl is gonna snag a trust fund guy who's 6'5", blue-eyed, trust fund, working in finance and so on.
Holy crap!
Like, that's not gonna happen.
I mean, even Diana came from minor royalty and couldn't hack it at the top level.
So, but do you know why, do you know why for women the aim high porn is so pervasive?
Right?
The hypergamy porn is so pervasive for women.
Why is it?
Why is that?
Why?
And of course, you can say, well, there's a market for it, and I get all of that.
But that's not how it used to be.
How it used to be was women were told to settle in a realistic manner for a man who fit their station.
And by station, I don't necessarily mean economic class, whatever it is.
But so why is this hypergamy porn, the Marriott porn, so relentless?
I mean, even Jane Austen, sort of queen of hypergamy, did not say that the commoner was going to marry Henry Darcy or Darcy.
Everyone is constantly telling them not to settle.
I get all that, but why?
Why?
Fear of missing out?
Oh, Jared says, I dealt poker to a regular high roller poker table.
One of the guys owned airports.
You'd never know it looking at him.
Looking across the table, you'd not peg them as rich guys, except for the young, flashy guys that sat down to donate to the patient older guys.
Yeah, yeah.
Gives government more power.
Well, it's satanic.
It's fundamentally satanic.
To say aim higher than you can achieve is the sin of pride.
I mean, I personally, obviously what do I know, but I personally think that the sin of pride should be renamed the sin of vanity.
Pride can be legitimate, vanity never is.
Vanity is taking personal pride in that which you did not earn, right?
Pride can include, like, I'm proud of what I've done in the public sphere, I'm proud of every show that I do, I'm proud of my life, I'm proud of my parenting, and all of that.
So pride can be legitimate, but vanity never is.
I'm saying I'm proud of having blue eyes, or I'm proud of being smart.
I didn't earn that.
I didn't earn the blue eyes.
I didn't earn my intelligence.
So it's really the sin of vanity, right?
A vanity is fundamentally sterile.
It really is satanic, like telling a kid with broken legs to play basketball.
Just torture.
No, it's not.
It's much worse than that, because the kid with broken legs can't play basketball, and that's obvious.
Artificially high hypergamy equals disgruntled incel army equals the destruction of civilization.
Yeah.
Whatever you can do to have people not have children is the unraveling of the future of your civilization.
Because people fight for freedoms, they fight for liberties, they fight for opportunities on behalf of their children.
It wasn't an accident that after I became a father, I took on the most controversial topics known to man.
We understand that, right?
Why fight if it's just you?
You fight for your kids.
You restrain corrupt power for the sake of your children.
So whatever you can do to have people not get married, well, it gives you a reliable voting army of single women, right?
Single women vote like Democrat plus 20, plus 25%.
Single women are still pro-Biden.
Doesn't matter if he's drooling on his walker.
So, whatever you can do to prevent people from getting married and having children, you will too.
Now, if they have children without getting married, that's fine, because then you get the welfare state, they're dependent on the government, and so on.
But nothing turns a woman from liberal to conservative more than being married to a good man and having children.
Because then the single women get money from the government, for married women with husbands who are working, the government is taking money from their family, so they want smaller government.
Whereas the single women, the government is giving money to them from the husbands of the married women, and so they want bigger government.
So whatever you can do to undermine people having children, it could be promoting pornography, it could be all the Instagram girls that's so programmed
A man's mind that he finds a normal-looking woman ugly, right?
And I've talked about this with friends, right?
Beauty irradiates your balls, right?
Beauty is sterility.
Beauty is culling.
Beauty is gelding.
Beauty cuts your balls off.
Because what happens is then, if you constantly expose yourself to these, you know, one in a million perfectly formed females or males, then normal-looking people look ugly to you.
I mean, there was a Seinfeld about this.
Like, you've ever been to the DMV?
These people look like mutants, right?
Everybody looks like orcs if all you do is stare at Margot Robbie, right?
So that's one way of doing it, that you're just like, oh, she's not good enough.
She's not sexy enough.
She's not tall enough.
She's not, you know, whatever, right?
Slender enough or athletic enough.
So a normal looking woman, which is where the majority of the populations that they come from, normal looking people, center of the bell curve, right?
So what you do is you program men to be dissatisfied with normal, average, healthy looking females.
And you program women to be dissatisfied by normal, earning, average men.
And you say to women, you deserve the best, and you say to men, you deserve beauty, and BOOM!
Your entire civilization is fucking done.
It's done.
It's done.
Because people either have fewer kids or no kids.
They don't look at the quality of the soul.
They don't look at the quality of the character.
They simply learn.
They simply have a fetish for flesh.
Right?
A fetish for flesh, which is why I was pushing back hard on the Instagram thing.
The Instagram models are probably 1 in 10,000 women.
You're not going to date them.
They're probably not good to date.
So you're going to have to find a way to live with someone about as attractive as you.
Her elbows are too pointy.
Yeah.
I mean, there's a mockery of this, right, on Seinfeld, where he finds something wrong with every woman, right?
She's a close talker, she's got man hands, whatever, right?
So, this fuzz-budget stuff.
You just say to women, you deserve the best.
And then, the other thing that you do, of course, is you say to women that you should become what you find attractive.
Right, you follow that.
You say, well, what you want is an aggressive, dominant, high-earning male.
Therefore, you should become an aggressive, dominant, high-earning female.
It promotes narcissism and it makes women unattractive for men who want mothers for their children.
Which is the whole point, right?
So you give women endless streams of, like, you know, the woman who played Starbuck in the 2003 Battlestar Galactica.
You just said, tough, drunken.
She's like a horrible character.
I mean, she's severely damaged as a character.
Like, all of her fingers were broken by her sadistic mother when she was a child.
Like, she's completely screwed up.
Human being and you know she's an alcoholic and she's got a death wish and she's completely unfit as a mother so you just promote all of this boss bitch babe ass-kicking Jennifer Garner and alias and you know all of the Mad Max movies and and all of that right so you just promote women to be like men and
You promote men to be like women, right?
So men say, well, I want someone who's soft, sensitive, in touch with their emotions and available emotionally, right?
So then men say, well, I've got to be soft, sensitive, in touch with my emotions and, you know, cry on women's shoulders and hold and hug and be emotionally available and all of that sort of stuff.
So, they say to men, you should become the women you want, and they say to women, you should become the men you want.
And that completely short-circuits everybody's natural attractions and kills the birth rate.
And, of course, you relentlessly show
Negative portrayals of marriage, right?
So, the man cheats, the woman's a nag, although women are wonderful, so that doesn't usually happen, but there's no happy marriage, there's no functionality, there's certainly no submission on either side to that which is good.
You make sure, of course, that all the parents are unhappy and stressed and detached and their kids are mean and selfish and don't listen and you make youth cool and you make age
Yeah, the man is an idiot, the woman is always right, and therefore she's never going to submit to any of his expertise, and therefore
He has no authority and blah blah blah blah blah.
Yeah, you put out nonsense statistics like 50% of marriages end in divorce and all of that, right?
And you don't tell people, like I was writing about this in my novel, the future, right?
You don't tell people the obvious stuff.
Like, what do you do if a friend of yours is getting divorced, right?
You're a happily married couple and a couple you know is getting divorced.
What do you do?
What do you do in that situation?
What do you do?
They're getting divorced, right?
Can't be backing out.
They're getting divorced.
So, uh, what do you do?
What do you do in that situation?
You give women in-group preference and loyalty to each other, uh, that they shouldn't listen to men because men are temporary and disposable.
They should really listen to each other and hang out together and do things together and all of that.
Yeah, you get the hell away.
Oh, yeah, yeah.
A couple's getting divorced.
You amputate.
Yep, absolutely, because divorce is spread.
Misery loves company, and they'll take you down with them.
I don't care if you've known them for 30 years.
They're getting divorced.
Maybe you can catch up with them in 5 or 10 years.
But goddamn, you simply don't get into that.
You don't get involved in that stuff.
I mean, they are, they are a, it's a life-destroying contagion.
Because of course, you know, the divorced woman wants to get support from her female friends and the sisterhood and pull them in and she's just, nah, you might as well put your hand in a blender.
Okay, balls in a blender.
Yeah, you don't.
You just cut them off.
And because your kids don't want to be around their kids because their kids are going to be going through hell.
They're going to blame each other.
There's going to be a misery.
There's going to be expense and you're going to be asked to take sides.
And there's going to be like, no, absolutely not.
No, life's too short.
You do not hang around with people getting divorced.
I've never done it.
I've never, I've never hung around anybody going through a divorce.
I would never do it in a million years.
Like you couldn't pay me enough.
Like, I'm sorry you fucked up that badly.
I mean, that's a real shame.
But, nope.
Nope, nope, nope.
Even breakups.
Like, even breakups.
You know, when I had girlfriends and all my friends get into a breakup, I'm like, yeah, you know, give her five minutes of sympathy and then wait to see till the smoke clears.
Because people just pull you into their psychosis, their drama, their hostility, their negativity, their storytelling, their self-justifications, their self-righteousness.
Oh my God.
Forget it.
No thank you.
And the kids are going to be pawns and, you know, God knows, maybe, maybe you get pulled into some legal drama and you have to testify in court and, oh my God, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
No.
Divorce is, uh, is an instant ostracism in my world.
Like instant.
Oh, that's a shame.
Bye.
Well, and, and the people, oh, I need your support.
It's like, hey, if you had come to me and you'd have said,
I'm pretty, you know, if you'd have said I'm unhappy in my marriage, right, you know, as a friend, I would have given you some advice.
You know, I'm not the worst person in the world to get the odd bit of advice from.
So if someone
If someone in my circle is having a bad time in their marriage, you know, I'm happy to chat.
I've never ever withheld that from friends.
I'm always happy to give my two cents worth.
If I can help, I'm happy to help, right?
Of course, right?
I mean, they're friends, right?
Now, if I give them advice, either they take my advice, or they don't take my advice.
If they take my advice, in general, they don't get divorced.
Like, I can't think of somebody I've ever had who's having trouble in a relationship, I give good advice, they take that good advice, and then they get divorced.
Or they break up.
Right?
Or, of course, if it was a relationship where I said, this relationship isn't going to work out, you shouldn't get married, then I don't stick around that stuff either, right?
Because if people don't take my good advice, then why would I want to hold their hand when disaster comes?
Like, we've become this weird kind of hand-holding, therapy, codependent, merge culture of crap, right?
I've heard stories of the couple turning on the friend for telling the truth and disparaging them.
Disparaging the friend?
Yeah, just don't do it, man.
Life's too short.
And you'll understand this when you get older.
Like, life is actually kind of short.
It doesn't feel like that long ago that I was 27.
27 to 57 is 30 years.
57 to 87 is another 30 years.
So I've got from now, from 27 to now, if I'm lucky, to live.
I don't have months to burn on people who didn't take good advice.
The great thing about giving people good advice is that if they don't listen, your conscience is clear.
Your conscience is clear.
Move on.
People who don't take your good advice, man, good luck.
I wish you well.
I'm sorry you didn't take my good advice, but you know, if
You know, if you tell someone to quit smoking and they keep smoking and then they get sick, are you going to donate a lung to them?
Are you crazy?
Are you crazy?
No, listen, care about people, absolutely, you know, and give them good advice.
But if they don't take good advice, your conscience is clear.
I think so.
With people who make good decisions, or at least reasonably good decisions.
I've spent your time with people who have pair bonding, who connect, who listen to advice and take you seriously.
And the idiots who just bounce around not taking any good advice and smashing up everyone around them.
It's like, my god almighty!
Right?
There's a chilling
A quote from the Great Gatsby.
I mean, Great Gatsby is just about, it's a psyop, right?
It became famous for an absolute psyop, right?
But there's a great quote.
I remember reading this and being struck by it.
I think it's interesting.
I think there's a lot of truth in it and it's a warning.
And the quote is,
They were careless people, Tom and Daisy.
They smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money or their vast carelessness or whatever it was that kept them together and let other people clean up the mess they had made.
Isn't that something?
I remember getting very emotional reading at the end of The Great Gatsby.
There's a great quote there as well.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Most people smash up other people.
Most people smash up other people's dreams and hopes and relationships, not necessarily through malevolence, but through a kind of bottomless selfishness.
F. Scott Fitzgerald refers to it as carelessness.
And F. Scott Fitzgerald was not writing about anyone other than himself.
I mean, he was a drunk.
He smashed up his relationship.
He and his wife Zelda were the talk of the town and the very top of the world.
And I based my character in the novel, almost Wendy to some degree on Zelda Fitzgerald.
And he ended up dying of alcohol, alcoholism very young.
And then she ended up in an insane asylum where she burnt to death after like 13 years living in an insane asylum or being trapped in an insane asylum.
She ended up being burnt to death in her little corner hovel because the whole thing burnt down.
And that's what happens to these kinds of people.
You have to be incredibly, incredibly careful who you spend your time with.
Personalities are infectious.
Problems are infectious.
Wisdom is infectious.
Good decisions are infectious.
And you have to be willing, if you want to get out of a bad situation, you have to be willing to absolutely abandon everyone addicted to that bad situation.
Your advice has been very helpful in my marriage many times.
I'm glad to hear that.
When my wife and I are going through a tough time, you often coincidentally do a show that speaks to the problem.
In order to have a good life, you have to be surrounded by good people.
There's no other way to do it.
There's no other way to do it.
You can't have a good life alone because we're social animals.
You can't have a good life surrounded by bad people because they'll smash you up through carelessness, jealousy, envy, or malevolence.
I mean, geez, you know that 80 to 90% of people will murder others if someone in authority tells them to, right?
We know this from the Milgram experiments, right?
And, you know, 80% of people at least will harm or kill others.
They have no conscience, no morals, no standards, no virtues.
They're just obedient little NPCs who are useful
Weapons for those in power and a bane of the existence for those of a thirsting for freedom.
So, and this, you know, the 80% of people who will just do whatever those in power tell them to do.
Well, they took the vaccine, right?
This is not a shocking statistic, is it?
I mean, so 80% of people have no thoughts of their own.
80% of people are simply stuffed full of propaganda and easily turned attack robots on those with a shred of original thought or creativity.
You can see this in the art world, right?
Everything's so blindingly predictable.
And it's all about propaganda.
So most people
Not only don't think, most people are anti-thinking.
They are hostile to thought and curiosity and questions.
They are told to hate Trump, they hate Trump.
They're told to hate the unvaccinated, they hate the unvaccinated.
These are the people who would be taught to hate Jews or blacks or, and now they're being taught to hate whites and they just go along with it.
They're just, honestly, just empty-headed attack dogs for the propagandists in charge.
The most common group in human history.
The mindless who attack whoever the powerful point at.
So yeah, people who are getting divorced, particularly if they have kids, have screwed up their lives.
And they'll screw up yours if you let them.
So don't let them.
Do not let them.
Whatever is harmful to your marriage,
is an environmental toxin and in particular what is harmful to your children is an environmental toxin.
What if you can see they have a good heart but have potentially infectious flaws like procrastination?
You can't see if people have a good heart.
That is a delusional fantasy.
Look, someone's fat, you tell them to lose weight.
If they don't lose weight, but you say, well, but they have a good heart, that's a delusional fantasy.
What are you doing?
What can you judge people by?
Your fantasy projection of the angels and fairies that float around their fucking bloodstream?
No!
No!
You can't judge people on that!
What do you judge people on?
Intentions?
Thoughts?
Magical beasts that live in their neurons?
Ghosts?
Devils?
Angels?
Magical ether that flows through their veins?
What do you judge people on?
And by?
Their good heart?
No!
That's a fantasy.
And it's a manipulative fantasy.
What do you judge people on?
That's right, Manuel.
You judge them by their actions.
Somebody's fat, you say lose weight.
They don't lose weight.
They prefer being fat.
Oh, but they have a good heart!
Well, not if they're fat, they don't.
They have a clunked heart.
So what are you talking about?
They have a good heart?
That's... Well, the, uh... The serial killer has a good ghost in his spleen, and I'm gonna judge him by that.
Are you crazy?
Talk about serving up your entire life for evildoers to manipulate the shit out of you.
You can reach into someone's ventricles and unthread the tendrils of their immortal soul and view it in your microscope of moral examination and... BLEGH!
Shut up!
Judge them by their actions and nothing else.
Because the actions are true, the actions are empirical.
Right?
Somebody is in a bad relationship.
They yell, they scream, they kick, they whatever, right?
And you say, hey, this is a bad relationship.
And they say, no, it's not.
I love this person.
And you say, well, but what are the virtues that you love and blah, blah, blah.
Well, you know, but they have a good heart and I care about it.
It's like, okay.
I'm sure they mean well, and they did the best they could, and they had a tough childhood.
Okay.
Okay.
I'm not going to argue.
You're in a destructive relationship.
You choose to say, to say, I'm not going to judge anything else.
Have some humility for God's sakes.
You can't reach into people's atoms and unravel the virtues like gossamer silk spiderweb threads going between every atom of their being.
That's a fantasy.
You're not, you're not omniscient.
You don't know.
All you know is what people do.
I don't even care what they say.
All you know is what people do.
How many times have you heard me in a call-in show saying, that's an interpretation, that's a judgment, I don't know, I don't care, I don't know what you're talking about, these words don't mean much to me, what actually happened?
Intention is a fishhook that draws your balls out through your wallet.
It is something that is used to play you, control you, but why judge me by my intentions?
Because judge me by made-up shit.
Judge me by made-up shit.
Judge me by stuff that's not real, not empirical, that I can lie about.
Oh, intentions, intentions, intentions are the bane of a rational, moral life.
Well, I never meant to hurt you.
It's not even but you did.
It's like, that's irrelevant.
You did.
That's irrelevant.
You did.
Well, but I'm sure my parents have the best of intentions and they meant well and it's like... Okay, so you're just making up ghosts and you are judging the ghosts of your own feverish, projecting, defensive, manipulated imagination rather than the simple actual facts that are right there before you.
Judging people.
By their intentions.
Okay.
Let's just play this shit out, right?
Does everyone in a running race have the intention to win?
Yes!
Everyone in the running race has the intention of victory.
Okay?
So!
Who wins?
You can't judge the winner of a race.
His or her intention.
Because they all have the same intention.
What do you judge?
What do you judge?
How about a radical thing like who crosses the finish line first?
Just a little possibility.
Who crosses the finish line first?
Yeah.
Because that's empirical.
That's a fact.
Everybody wants to marry their lovely, pretty, wonderful girl.
Everyone has the intention of dating the hot girl or the hot guy.
Who cares?
So, yes, absolutely.
The magical thinking is, you know, love the ladies.
Magical thinking is feminine and an absolute disaster.
An absolute disaster.
So, magical thinking is for the helpless.
We men, we have to be empirical.
If you want to be masculine, you have to be relentlessly empirical because we deal with facts and reality, not feelings and imagination, right?
So, you understand that the focus on judging intentions is the focus on trying to make you hyper-feminine, right?
Don't do it.
Do not fall for the PSYOP.
Men deal with facts.
Now, relationships and intentions are part of life.
Leave it to the ladies.
You as men.
We as men.
Focus on the damn facts.
And leave the feels for the ladies.
And feels, nothing wrong with them.
It's an important part of life.
But, my gosh.
You absolutely are.
Steph is taking these technical difficulties quite well.
No, it's fine because it's about getting the message out.
It's about getting the facts and the truth and the arguments out.
So, you know, tech stuff, I mean, I've been doing this forever.
This just happens to be one of these nights where tech stuff goes a little haywire, but at least we're able to continue.
So yeah, as a man, a woman is going to judge you as valuable the degree to which you stop bullshitting yourself with intentionality.
Leave the intentionality for the women.
We have to deal with facts.
Everyone who goes out hunting has the intention of coming home with food.
We as men have to care a little bit, I think, whether they actually come home with food.
Understand?
Intentions are taken for granted.
Every sports person wants to win the sport.
Everyone in a war wants to win and get a medal and not get killed.
Intentionality is boring.
It's bullshit.
It's unimportant.
It's irrelevant to the life of men.
Right?
My intention is for the show to go smoothly.
It's not happening, so I gotta deal with it.
Stop focusing on intentionality.
It's girly.
It's not even grown-up female.
It's girly.
Get out of here and get me some money too.
Stop talking about feelings.
Stop imagining these ghosts called intentionality.
Stop thinking that intentionality means a goddamn thing after the initial impulse, right?
Yes!
My intention is to go and hunt because my family is hungry.
I have that intentionality.
Well, big whoop!
Do you come home with any fucking food?
Because how many times have I heard this over the decades I've been doing this shit?
Well, but my parents meant well.
They didn't mean to beat us, hurt us, rape us.
They didn't mean to be drunk.
It's like, I don't know.
They did what they did.
You judge facts, not feelings.
You judge results, not intentions.
Because we're men and we have to provide actual fucking things in the world.
We have to provide electricity, shelter, money, resources, houses, security, safety, medicine, water, the toilets have to flush.
We actually have to get shit done!
And you don't get anything done by praying to the mystery bullshit God's called intention.
It's the thought that counts!
Yes, it's not.
The thought counts for nothing.
And don't give people the excuse called intentionality.
You understand, the last thing I'll say, giving people the excuse called intentionality is encouraging them to be terrible human beings.
Well, honey, I know you're hungry.
I meant to bring home some food.
Oh, well, I guess I can eat your intentions then, right?
You understand that intentionality is a lie put forward by shitty people so they're never held accountable for their actual actions.
Never, ever, ever give people the excuse of intentionality.
Never.
Because all it is is an excuse that allows people to do shitty things and then claim that a ghost called intentionality absolves them of all the shitty things they did!
No, if people did shitty things, they did shitty things.
That's a fact.
Waving it away with the magical wand of intentionality is giving forgiveness to evil people without them having to earn it, which makes them worse people.
You are colluding with evil when you excuse people on the bullshit made-up ghost called intentionality.
Don't do it!
Don't do it.
Don't make my job as a moralist much harder by handing out all these fucking blank checks.
It's the fiat currency, money-printed, bullshit, gas-bagged, non-real wealth that you hand over, which is the opportunity of the world to become better.
You just hand out all these blank checks and excuses to bad people.
Well, I didn't mean to get pregnant.
Did you have unprotected sex?
Did you have sex where there was a chance of you getting pregnant that I don't care about your intention?
I didn't mean to get pregnant is a perfect, perfect excuse and reason for women who were assaulted and raped.
Intentionality is a blank check to corrupt people to escape the consequences of their own actions.
What does it mean?
Well, it's true that I smoked two packs a day for 30 years, but I didn't intend to get lung cancer.
It's like, yeah, you did.
You certainly took that risk, right?
Fiat morality.
Fiat morality.
No.
It is the demand of bad people that you not judge them by facts but only judge them by some made-up bullshit called intentionality for which there's zero empirical evidence.
A guy who's 350 pounds and heading to 400 pounds, what does it mean?
Well, I intended to lose weight.
It's like your flesh says otherwise and I can only listen to your flesh.
I can't hear
Okay, stop giving people these blank checks.
And also, by the by, the reason you want to hand out these blank checks is secretly deep down you want them.
You want those blank checks for yourself.
You want to have a magical bullshit ghost called intentionality that turns all your shitty behavior into angel-fucking-powder-cum-dust that floats above mankind like some northern lights from hell.
You want the blank check for yourself.
People who hand out blank checks secretly want them for themselves.
The more you give these blank checks of intentionality to other people, the more you undermine your own capacity for virtue.
It is a shitty deal for everyone and in particular the children.
I do not want my daughter going out there into a world where everyone can do the shittiest stuff known to mankind and then appeal to this magical ghost called intentionality and get a complete get-out-of-jail-free card and never be held accountable for ANYTHING!
No thank you.
Fuckin' no.
Fuckin' no.
You are just making the world a shittier place by forgiving people for made up bullshit like intentionality.
All right.
Don't do it.
Don't do it.
Or if you're going to do it, just understand that you have no right to complain about the shitty world you're creating.
All right.
Come on.
Tell me that speech.
Struggling through the tech.
Tell me that ain't worth.
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Yeah, fiat morality is when you borrow from the virtue of the future to give forgiveness in the present because by making the world shittier in the future, you're borrowing that shittiness and using it to forgive people in the present.
You're borrowing from the virtue of the future to give people false forgiveness in the present through the magical bullshit pixie dust of projected desire for infinite forgiveness called intentionality.
Well, I didn't mean to.
Well, I had the best of intentions.
Fuck that.
Fuck that.
Seriously.
It's horrendous.
And it's just a sign up to make the world a worse place.
And so the bad people, you understand all the bad people want to do is get away from the consequences of their shitty decisions.
That's all they want to do.
That's their entire reason for being is to coin bullshit.
Intentionalities so that they don't have to deal with the empiricism of what they did.
I don't care.
I don't care.
I judge by results.
I don't judge by engagements.
I don't, I judge by marriages and I judge by successful marriages.
I mean, can you imagine a salesman?
You know, I'm constantly having this fight with people in the business world, right?
I don't care about your intentions.
I care about the results.
I care about the facts.
As a business owner, you have actual fucking math called income and expenses.
Intentionality, uh, I mean, would, would, if you worked for me, would you be happy to be paid with some bullshit called intention?
Well, they meant to pay you!
And then you go to your landlord, I meant to pay the rent.
I meant to pay for the car.
I meant to have money for gas.
Yeah, see how fucking far that gets you.
You have actual math called income and expenses.
And then people say, well, my intention was, and my goal was, and it's like, I can't pay.
Like, you wouldn't accept my intentionality to pay your fucking salary.
So why would I accept your intentionality?
Anyway, you understand, right?
You understand.
The appeal to intentionality is the appeal to stay a perpetual toddler.
Like, we understand a toddler has intentionality and we don't judge him by results, we judge him by intentionality.
I get that.
But we're not toddlers.
We're adults, and in particular if we're males.
So, alright, I think people are not agreeing with me on the quality of this speech because I'm not getting more.
Tips, but that's all right.
I will look to the future sometimes to judge the quality of what I'm doing.
If it's a little bit less visible to the present, I absolutely doubt how blazingly bright it's going to be in the future.
The assemblage of these syllables is straight up sky-wielding, Thor hammer flashing, angelic fire from a true mind on fire.
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