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June 27, 2024 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux

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	Hey there.
	Hey there, everybody.
	Hope you're doing well.
	26 June 2024.
	Where the hell did June go?
	That was June.
	June squirrel!
	June!
	June is... was a flyby.
	I don't know what the hell happened.
	It's like I fell asleep and woke up a month later.
	Wake me up when September ends.
	All right.
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	All right.
	Enough bittiness.
	Enough bittiness.
	I'm going to start with a story.
	So this morning, This AM, this AM this morning.
	What I did was... I woke up and...
	I took care of the ducks.
	Story for another time.
	And then I tootled off to a cafe because I hadn't left the house for three days.
	Because I've been working quite hard.
	But I left the house and I went to a coffee shop.
	And I cranked up the old computer.
	It's actually kind of an old computer now.
	And I have been working on the short version of the Peaceful Parenting book.
	We're getting it down to 27, 28% of the original.
	So it's me, but concise.
	Which is to say, me, but the polar opposite of me.
	Opposite Steph.
	Evil twin Steph, concise Steph.
	Anyway, so I'm walking away, and it's a nice cafe, nice view, their coffee is fantastic.
	I had a chicken Caesar salad!
	And then a little scone, just right.
	And a half-calf cappuccino.
	I try to keep myself to two coffees a day.
	So, I'm working away, working away on the Peaceful Parenting book.
	And it's good.
	Oh man, it's so good.
	It's so good.
	I mean, this is like squished, concentrated philosophy that is high-octane nose candy.
	It's soul candy.
	Anyway, so.
	In comes you can tell like, you know, this kind of stuff in comes a middle to upper middle class woman with her two little daughters.
	Two little daughters.
	One of them looks to be about Let's say 14 months, one of them looks to be about 26 months.
	I actually have this kind of weird thing, you know, how some people can guess the weight and some people can guess that I have little to no hair.
	I'm really good at figuring out the ages of kids.
	Now, I'm still working on the millisecond, but anything other than that, I'm bang on.
	Bang on!
	So, 14, maybe 16, and 26, 26 months.
	Two little girls.
	and 26 months, two little girls.
	So she sits down with them and...
	And of course, immediately one of them drops a straw.
	And of course, because she's not me, she's like, well, we can't use that straw anymore.
	I'm like, toughen up the immune system, kid.
	You have to pick up the straw with your lips from the floor.
	But anyway, so I...
	said, Oh, you know, I'll, I'll get you another straw, because you know what it's like, you get the kids settled in there very little, you can't leave them up there, because this is kind of upstairs.
	So you can't leave them up there.
	So I, you know, jumped up and I went down and got her a straw.
	And because I could see she was a slightly fussy middle to upper middle class mom, I picked the straw up, picked the straws up in a napkin, went back upstairs and gave them, gave them the straws.
	And she was appreciative.
	And it was nice, whatever.
	So I get back to work.
	Now, what I notice, and I'm not, like, trying to stare at people, but, you know, they're, like, right across from me, and it's pretty hard to notice, because her kids are escalating.
	They seem like nice kids, but they're escalating, which means that they're kind of getting wound up, they're kind of getting aggressive, they're kind of getting punchy, and I'm just watching this, because I'm curious.
	So I go back to work on the book for a bit, but then I can, you know, you get this, you know, when you, when you develop this hypervigilance as a kid, right?
	You can't, you can turn it down, you can't turn it off, right?
	And what do I see the mother doing?
	And this is something I've kind of vaguely seen or thought about before, but holy crap!
	It is I don't know.
	Honestly, I don't know the right term.
	But what sort of pops into my head is fuss budget management.
	Yeah, fuss budget management.
	You know, oh, your plate is too close to the edge.
	Oh, don't pick up the crumbs.
	Oh, here's your straw.
	Oh, that chair is too close to the table.
	And it's just managing and moving and managing.
	And this fuss budget mini-management.
	And no, no, no connection.
	And the kids are being managed.
	Look, it's a bit of a mom thing.
	Let's be frank, right?
	It's a little bit of a mom thing.
	This is not anything negative.
	I mean, I have a great admiration from others because they, A, kept us all alive and B, shepherded us to the very top of the food chain.
	So no hate, no complaints.
	But I will say this.
	It is not Geez, no wonder the spike goes off after five minutes.
	It is not connected.
	It is not connected to the children.
	not connecting with the children.
	And the kids were bored, disconnected and floating off in space and
	And to me, the way, and of course I worked in a daycare and lots of experience with kids and in the family and friends.
	So the way that you calm kids down is how?
	Because you could tell the management led to the escalation, which led to more management, which led to more escalation.
	How do you calm kids down?
	Come on, y'all know how, right?
	How do you calm kids down?
	How do you soothe their adrenaline?
	How do you dial down the cortisol?
	How do you calm children down?
	What is the antithesis of escalation?
	Oh, I can wait.
	I know, it's always a little bit of a delay, right?
	That's right.
	Let me, let me read off.
	Serpente!
	Bribe?
	Distraction?
	No!
	Connection!
	How do you calm kids down?
	You connect with them.
	You lean forward and you say something like, I'm gonna tell you a little story about every single person in this cafe.
	That sinister bald guy over there who keeps staring at us is working on a book on parenting.
	Radiating both disapproval and a question within his own mind of whether or not he should say something.
	Right?
	You tell, oh, you have a little piece of lemon cake here, let me tell you, and just, doesn't matter if you make it up, just make up something, engage with them, talk with them, ask them questions, connect!
	Connect.
	God, this management stuff drives me nuts.
	Oh, your hair is falling in your soup.
	Oh, you need to shuffle back a little bit.
	Oh, your shoe's coming undone.
	Let me two it up for you.
	Oh, you dropped the straw.
	Oh, my God!
	Puppets, puppets, puppets, puppets, dance, dance, dance.
	Oh, man.
	And you could see that there's a kind of panic in the kids with this management stuff.
	And I'm not, you know, I'm not trying to pick on this woman, but I will say that it really crystallized a bunch of stuff that I've seen before.
	I really, you know.
	And the management stuff.
	Why?
	And it's a mom thing for the most part.
	It's a mom thing.
	Why do women do this?
	And I don't mean this in a critical way.
	I don't mean this in a critical way.
	I'm genuinely curious.
	Help me understand.
	I'm like right at the foggy cliff edge of my grocking.
	Why do women constantly micromanage children rather than just talk to them?
	Is it like she feels like she's posing for an imaginary photograph?
	Is it because it's some sort of status thing?
	The kids have to look fine and be polite?
	Why do they micromanage children?
	I don't know.
	I I've never had a problem with my daughter in public.
	Never.
	Okay, to manage their own anxiety.
	Okay, but that doesn't answer.
	I mean, I'm not sure that answers much.
	There's a lot of anxiety about kids misbehaving for moms.
	Right.
	And can I tell you how bad it got?
	Can I tell you how bad it got?
	I started to get anxious.
	I'm not a particularly anxiety-prone person.
	Can't be a moralist in public and be that.
	I'm not a particularly anxiety-prone person, but I was just like, ooh, I'm not sure I want to see the next part of this series.
	The next installment looks a little stressful.
	Like the kids were standing on chairs and they were wobbly.
	They were near a balcony and I was like... Anyway... So one kid was trying to pull the other kid off the chair.
	one kid was like they literally started standing and screaming at the top of their lungs
	and I didn't like I was it was painful, right?
	And you know, I'm older, I got to protect my hearing, right?
	So I literally had to do this.
	Like the woman was sitting away from me.
	So I had to put my fingers in my ears.
	And then the kids kept screaming.
	And like, again, it's painful.
	Like, you know, that that real soul shredding, spine shattering, kids scream.
	And so then I dug in my computer bag, I had a pair of headphones, and I just put them over my ears to try and protect my hearing.
	So, anyway, I mean, obviously she was... nobody up there was happy and, you know, there were a bunch of people trying to work and, you know, yeah, just like hammering an ice pick into your inner ear.
	And anyway, she... I actually was going to pack up and leave because, like, it was... I can't sit there like this and I can't work, right?
	And it was painful, like physically painful, the volume, right?
	I'm surprised my watch didn't say, bro, you're about to lose your hearing.
	Are you at a rock concert?
	It's kind of Metallica, right?
	Okay.
	So we all suck at answering this question.
	I know I do.
	I'm just glad it's not just me.
	Sorry to be rude, but you know, I want to be honest.
	Don't make me scream.
	So.
	You say they're managing their own anxiety by managing their children.
	There's a lot of anxiety around kids misbehaving from moms.
	How could you embarrass me like that in public?
	Heard that from my mother.
	The gal gave me the excuse of it's because she has five children.
	Right.
	So y'all have this delightful theory and, you know, I think it blows chunks, but I could be wrong.
	So your theory is the women are anxious about their children misbehaving and that's why they micromanage?
	Is that your theory?
	Hit me with a why if that's the general theory, if I understand this correctly, that the women are micromanaging because their children shouldn't misbehave and if the children misbehave then the mothers will be judged in horrible harsh cauldron like coven feminist blah blah blah right?
	is that right?
	Come on. H M U. H M U.
	Hit me up. Let me know. Yes. All right.
	You know that doesn't answer the question, right?
	Yeah.
	What do you mean you have no kids and no theories?
	Are you saying that you were never micromanaged as a child?
	What are you, from Aldebaran?
	Ah, yes, fresh from the salt mines of Kessel, we have BoarMega22, who has no encounters with humanoid females of any way, shape, or bipedal description.
	You ever go on a field trip with female teachers?
	What is this answer?
	Help me to know!
	But why is there no answer?
	Why does this?
	Well, they've got anxiety, they want the kids to behave badly.
	Well, rather, they want the kids to behave well.
	Why?
	Why does this not answer the question?
	Why?
	Doth it?
	And, you know, just because it's tough for me to answer the question doesn't mean it couldn't be easy for someone else.
	I'm actually kind of relieved.
	I also disagree with that theory.
	Yes, I'm actually kind of relieved because I'm like racking my brain like, why, why, why?
	And then you're like, well, it's this.
	It's micromanaging the opposite of parenting.
	I don't know what the opposite of parenting is.
	I don't know.
	Were the moms punished for similar behavior or is it the why women wear makeup answer?
	Okay, so this woman has a kid who's almost three.
	She takes these kids out into public.
	She micromanages.
	The kids end up screaming.
	She's probably had this going on for two to two and a half years.
	If she's so concerned about the children misbehaving, why doesn't she change what she does?
	That's what I don't understand.
	The last thing in the world I'd ever want is for my children to misbehave in public, so I'm going to repeatedly do the same empty-headed, complete, absent, closed-heart micromanaging that had them blow up in public the last 4,000 times!
	Why do people do things that repeatedly do not work?
	If you were very concerned about... I understand, right?
	If you're very concerned about your kids misbehaving in public,
	then why would you do the things that cause them to end up standing
	and wobbling on chairs by a balcony, screaming at the top of their lungs?
	Why?
	Right?
	That's like me saying, well, the most important thing is for me to go north, and I head south, and the GPS says, you're going south, not north, recalculating, take a U-turn, make a U-turn if possible, and you do it, and I just keep going down!
	Keep going south!
	And you're saying, well, I mean, and I say, why, why, why do women go south?
	And you say, because they want to go north, and that doesn't answer the question!
	If the mothers want the children to behave well, why do they keep doing the micromanagement
	stuff that has the children inevitably end up acting badly?
	I do not understand, my friends, and I would like to understand.
	Thank you.
	.
	Women make no sense to me.
	Stillp?
	Oh, still?
	Still?
	In the still of the night.
	Alright.
	I don't know.
	I don't know the answer.
	Because you want them to misbehave?
	I don't know.
	I don't know.
	They never considered another solution.
	I don't think that's true.
	Are you saying that women have no capacity to change their behaviors when they're getting the opposite of their desired outcome?
	I don't think that's true.
	I don't think that's true.
	.
	I mean, some women, sure, but some men, too.
	So why?
	Why would you keep doing the same thing you've always done?
	Like, the family was made up really nicely, that's how you could tell they're sort of middle-upper-middle class, right?
	The kids had little bows in their hair, and the mother was dressed to the nines, so she clearly puts a lot of effort into appearance.
	So why not say, my children keep escalating in public, I wonder what I can do.
	Let's try that, shall we?
	How do I stop my children misbehaving in public?
	Hmm.
	Thank you.
	All right.
	Now, it's always like after they've escalated.
	The articles are all about after they've escalated.
	Okay, that's not helpful because that's about a woman getting her hair done.
	Alright, managing your child's behavior in public.
	Thank you.
	All right.
	Children who are four or five usually cannot remain compliant and well-behaved for over two hours.
	Children may also not know what to expect in public situations, making them anxious, blah, blah, blah.
	Okay, so tips on how to manage misbehavior in public.
	One, create learning experiences.
	Hey, that's just what I was talking about with the lemon cake.
	Creating learning experiences can help prepare your child for the outing.
	If you know your child struggles with trips to the grocery store, you may need to set up trial runs where you are not pressed to get dinner on the table.
	Only go inside for a short period of time and praise all your child's positive behaviors, holding your hand, staying close, blah, blah, blah.
	Or if going out to eat at a restaurant is the issue, try going to expensive places first and only getting a drink or a snack.
	Oh, learning experience.
	Okay, I don't know what that is.
	Oh, so that's all right.
	It's like clear rules.
	Yes.
	Involve and engage your child in the event or activity.
	If you're at the grocery store, you can ask your child to help you find the right apples.
	Engage in conversation about colors, shapes, or how much items cost to keep their interest.
	Yes, of course.
	Of course.
	You know, I'd go grocery shopping with my daughter when she was very little.
	We'd show me all the red things, and where's the bread?
	And I'm going to find the eggs before you do.
	And like, you just make it fun.
	Make it fun.
	So she can just look this up, right?
	Involve and engage your child in the event or activity.
	How are children supposed to be engaged in a coffee shop?
	Well, they're just sitting there, doing what?
	Right?
	So honestly, I mean, all this time spent doing your hair and getting the right dress and putting your kids
	hair in bows and bonnets and like what's the point?
	I don't understand Somebody says, I think it has nothing to do with managing their children, they are managing their emotions.
	Okay, I get that, but... Alright.
	I keep doing terrible things like addictive videos because it often makes me feel more alive than when I'm with myself.
	That often bleeds into how I treat others.
	Okay, bit of a non-sequitur, but that's fine.
	I think the children's escalation will justify further micromanaging in the future in the mother's mind.
	She will also have something to complain about to her friends and family.
	So the default is management.
	This is how to manage that.
	This is a how-to-manage list, right?
	No.
	No, management, like if you get your kids involved in the activities, I don't think there's management.
	So if it was the state creating more poverty with the welfare state, when the stated goal of ending poverty with the state, would you not say the real goal is to create more poverty?
	The state is just a bunch of people.
	So when a bunch of people achieve the opposite of the stated goal, then the opposite of the stated goal is the goal.
	So when the mother does this, yes, I get that.
	I get that.
	But why?
	Shopping was where my resistance to my parents started by refusing to push the cart anywhere.
	Yeah, I mean, honestly, when you have eyes to see, you see some fairly ugly stuff on a regular basis.
	So after I did my work this morning on peaceful parenting, I had a three-hour private call in a coaching session with a guy and then I chatted with my wife for a while, and then I went to the grocery store.
	And I'm going to the grocery store.
	I'm a bit of a fruit addict, right?
	So I go to the grocery store.
	As I'm walking into the grocery store, it's one of these grocery stores where there are two types of carts, right?
	There's a big cart where the kid can sit, and then there's a little cart where there's no room for the kid to sit, right?
	And this guy's walking in with his daughter, she's probably three and a half, on his hip.
	Now, when kids are three and a half, they love to sit in Right?
	It's like a little zamboni for them, right?
	They get to sit in the shopping cart.
	So the dad grabs this tiny shopping cart and the girl says, Dad, I want the big shopping cart.
	I want to sit.
	And he's like, no, we're taking the small shopping cart.
	And she just starts to really complain.
	And he just sweeps into the store.
	I'm like, what?
	What are you doing?
	What are you doing?
	If your kid wants a large shopping cart and she wants to sit there, I don't understand, why wouldn't you?
	I don't understand, why wouldn't you?
	What's wrong with that?
	What's wrong with that?
	I mean, oh, I'm in a big hurry.
	It's like, you're not in a big hurry.
	This was at six o'clock, right?
	At six o'clock, I went to the grocery store.
	Why wouldn't you just, oh, yeah, okay, let's do the big cart.
	What's the problem?
	I mean, you can't be in that big a rush.
	It's not like you've got to get to work.
	And if you are in a big rush, that's not your kid's fault.
	But he's just like, nope, he sweeps into the store.
	And the kids, I didn't hear the rest of it, because I try to avoid those kinds of situations.
	Obviously, if I see something really abusive, I'll step in.
	But that was just kind of rude.
	And it's like, why?
	Your kid wants to sit in a big car.
	Why do you go grocery shopping?
	I don't understand why you would say no to that.
	Why?
	Why would you say no to that?
	It's just like a reflex.
	No!
	I don't follow.
	I don't follow.
	No, it was not a cart where you had to put the loonie in.
	McDonald's used to be fun.
	Had things to keep kids busy in the playland.
	Now it's a depressed middle-aged adult.
	Boring as an adult.
	The first time I went into a coffee shop when I was 17, my first thought was how boring it seemed.
	I don't know.
	Yeah, I mean, bringing kids to a coffee shop, I really don't know.
	I like the cars with the small cars attached to the front, and I always put them back so it's easy for other parents to find.
	Yeah.
	Yeah, those are great fun.
	But here, I mean, what's really sad is that your kids, your kids would love to spend time with you, but you've got to meet them halfway, right?
	Changing her behavior means having to confront her friends and family about that behavior and her childhood.
	Maybe getting too close to the bodies as you've talked about before.
	Yeah.
	Why not make the grocery store more fun by enjoying the time with the children?
	Yeah.
	I, I, again, I don't, I don't understand it and I'm not like playing dumb for once.
	No, I do not understand why if your kid wants the I don't know.
	Why?
	Bye.
	Why not?
	Right?
	it's just rude somebody says my mom laughed about a story how she pulled
	my hair in frustration because I was misbehaving in public
	Insane.
	Yeah.
	One of the first times I really began to question whether...
	It's a funny thing about rules in society, right?
	So, with my mother.
	I mean, as you know, she was violent and aggressive with regards to, like, stupid nonsense, who cares kind of rules, right?
	But, I remember being, the first year I was in boarding school, she would come up to visit every, I don't know, two, three months it felt like.
	She would come up to visit and she took me to, this was a place near, gosh, Sheltonham?
	Do I have that right?
	And I was running around a fountain and I fell into the fountain.
	And I thought I was going to get the crap beaten out of me.
	Like pulled out and, you know, punched and like all that kind of stuff, right?
	And there was nothing.
	She was pretty good-natured about it.
	And it was fine.
	That's bizarre.
	I remember, I remember being really like, I was like terrified because I fell into the, into the fountain.
	And she just helped me out and, you know, we'll walk it off and let's get some napkins and she was just great.
	Of course, I realized later it's like it's in public.
	You've got to put up the appearance and all of that.
	Somebody says, apologies for the typo.
	So a reason to achieve misbehavior in your child could be to justify after the fact your negative feelings towards them, perhaps because you have not processed your mother's treatment of you.
	A reason to achieve misbehavior could be to justify your negative feelings towards them.
	Man, I think there is a courting of self-pity and disappointment.
	I can't take you kids anywhere and you never listen and like there's a certain amount of on-the-cross maternal martyrdom.
	Maybe that's got something.
	Also, why not bring activities that the kids enjoy?
	Yes, coloring books, toys, etc.
	Especially a coffee shop setting they could all pretend they're working like the other adults, yeah.
	Like if you were treated badly and you universalize it, then children have to be bad, right?
	So you need your children to be bad so you act to achieve bad behavior in your children.
	Yeah, bringing your kids to a, bringing like one of three-year-olds basically to a coffee shop with no activities, I mean that's just, that's not even courting doom, that's guaranteeing it, right?
	And then not engaging with them and fussing and, right?
	A little ashamed to admit this, but I can't imagine not giving my kid the big card if maybe they were misbehaving or throwing a tantrum about nothing just before that.
	Oh, so you're gonna, you're gonna max, you're gonna match your kid's tantrum with a little petty tantrum of your own?
	You can't have the big cart, because it's immature to have tantrums.
	Okay, well that's obviously not modeling.
	What you want out of your kids, I don't know if you're half kidding, but I'm sure you understand, right?
	But yeah, it's like one little, one little, that's a funny thing, like Google, I said this in a show not too long ago, right?
	It was a solo show.
	Maybe you missed it.
	But if you did, here's the brief version, which is many philosophers from even the pre-Socratics, but certainly Socrates onwards, say that, you see, immorality is just ignorance.
	It's just a form of ignorance.
	I mean, surely if everybody knew the costs and benefits of good and evil, they'd just choose to be good rather than evil.
	So evil is really just the absence of the knowledge of good, that if you Just gave people enough information you would be able to woo them away from the dark black heart of misdeeds and have them just pursue the shiny trebuchet to heaven that a deep knowledge of virtue inevitably produces, right?
	So evil is just a lack of knowledge, right?
	Now we've really put that one to the test and put it to rest.
	We put that entire theory to bed because if you said to Socrates, Oh, so evil is really just a lack of knowledge.
	So if we put the sum total of human's knowledge in people's asses and they could reach it at any time and look up anything, anytime, no matter where they are, that would be about As much knowledge as you could possibly give access to human beings, right?
	You couldn't give more access to knowledge than having the sum total of human knowledge available.
	You can even talk to the little magic box and have it read back to you all of the knowledge you had, right?
	Like I had one little query here which gave the answer as to what to do with your kids in a coffee shop.
	So the idea that evil is just a lack of knowledge has been perfectly put to rest by smartphones and the internet because now everybody has access to infinite knowledge and yet so many of them remain evil.
	So this idea that evil is just a lack of knowledge?
	Nope!
	Nope, nope, nope.
	All right.
	I know some camps in the White... White Cell?
	Or is that White Shell?
	I know some camps in the White Shell and as a kid we flew through Toronto on the way to Orlando.
	Oh, and Dryden.
	My sum total first-hand knowledge of Ontario.
	What the hell does that continue with?
	I don't know.
	That's called Hanlon's Razor is a Cyap.
	Don't know what the hell that means either.
	I guess I... Did everybody have a stroke or did I?
	Did I have a stroke?
	In Costco waiting for my food stood next to a mom who was just scolding and attacking her children for being curious and exploring.
	Yeah.
	Evil hates virtue because it awakens their own guilt.
	All right.
	Have you?
	Tell me the number of professional martyrs you've had in your life.
	Oh, the minister of doom and gloom from the kingdom of woe is me has arrived.
	And all is sorrow.
	Mrs. Bartlett.
	Right?
	All is sorrow and tragedy.
	And they're just hard bound by.
	And the doctors never listen.
	And the teachers don't listen.
	And the children don't listen.
	And oh, the violin of Cat-gut self-pity is just constantly playing like an orchestra of the generally damned.
	Have you ever had such a person?
	Such a soul-sucking vampire of joy and hope in your life?
	Hanlon's razor equals assuming evil comes from ignorance as opposed to malicious intent.
	Oh, okay, thank you.
	I was not aware, but now I am.
	Oh no, half of all the people I grew up with.
	I'm so sad.
	Oh, isn't it awful?
	Woo!
	I had eight aunts who sang that in chorus.
	Four come to mind.
	And then I went to the doctor, and I said to the doctor, Doctor, this is an issue.
	And he just said, no, no, no, no, it's all in your head.
	And he just wanted to stuff me full of pills.
	And I said, no, doctor, I'm just, you know, there's these stories where, and I, you know, my friend who's a lawyer said that I was completely in the right, but nobody listens to me.
	Who listens to me?
	Nobody.
	I'm always right and nobody ever listens to me.
	Oh, God!
	Self-pity!
	Oh my gosh!
	I'd like to dig an infinitely deep hole and throw all of the Charon-based hope into it until it rests to a tiny gentle center right in the middle.
	You know, you dig a hole all the way through the earth, throw something in, it doesn't go back and forth, up and down, it just goes right and slows down and stops in the middle because gravity shifts.
	Oh, it used to be a peculiarly, peculiarly, and pecuniary female trait, but boy is it ever spreading to men these days.
	Ooh, like a little estrogen ball-eating, nutsack-destroying, spinal-shredding tsunami of girliness.
	Oh, I'm such a victim.
	Oh, this is so hard done by.
	Oh, these terrible things happened hundreds of years ago, and thus I have no free will and cannot compete.
	Oh, give me your money!
	Crazy stuff, man.
	You were trying to remember where your mother took you.
	Sorry, can't help.
	But I grew up in England.
	Why are you talking about Toronto and Orlando?
	I actually looked up the other day.
	I went to Camp Bolton many years ago.
	I actually spent quite a few summers in Camp Bolton because my mom was in hot pursuit of mail cash.
	And uh...
	It's shut down, it was mismanaged, and it's gone.
	Along with the Science Center.
	Entropy and falling IQ has doomed all of the edifices of my childhood.
	Yeah, this self-pity shit, oh my god, it is just rampant.
	Well, of course, you know, the government gets paid.
	The government will pay you for... Hey, when's the debate, by the way?
	Isn't there a presidential debate coming up?
	I'm sorry, I'm so off politics, I can't remember.
	When is this debate?
	It's not tonight, is it?
	I might watch that.
	Isn't CNN threatening anyone who tries to comment on it?
	Excellent!
	Yeah, that sounds like a democratic fair use.
	Yes, you own the debate and nobody can talk about it and show any clips from it.
	Ah, CNN.
	Ah, and at least Julian Assange is out.
	I was not expecting that.
	Is it tomorrow?
	Really?
	Tomorrow.
	I love you.
	Tomorrow.
	All right.
	Good to know.
	Good to know.
	All right.
	Maybe I have to shuffle a couple of things around.
	But I'd watch that.
	Are you going to watch it?
	Just out of curiosity.
	I don't know.
	I mean, just because I'm off politics obviously doesn't mean anything to anyone else, but are you going to watch it?
	Can you imagine what kind of cocktails they're putting Joe Biden on?
	June 27th.
	Oh, that is tomorrow.
	Like 7, 8 p.m.
	kind of thing. All right.
	I have three calls tomorrow.
	I might have to shift one.
	All right.
	Yeah, Wikileaks had to delete the DNC files from their website.
	Well, it's still in the Pirate Bay, right?
	Yep.
	I mean, I don't blame the guy.
	The stadium in Winnipeg was built less than 20 years ago.
	Concrete crumbling.
	Roman concrete still holds together after 2,000 years.
	years yeah yeah I mean poor guy what's he How long has he been in prison now?
	Five years?
	More?
	I remember doing shows on him.
	I did a show with Cassandra Fairbanks, now Cassandra, husband name.
	I did shows on, uh, poor guy.
	Poor guy.
	Alright, so let me get to your questions.
	Feel free to type them in.
	You know, we're 45 minutes into the show.
	Not one tip.
	Oh, don't make me pull out my Aunt Edna and crucify myself on the back wall of Woe Is Me.
	Oh, the sadness.
	Freedomain.com slash donate, people.
	Doing quality work here.
	Quality cafe stories.
	All right, so let me get to your questions, comments.
	What do we got here?
	What are some tips to determine if a company is a good place to work for?
	Did you ever have crappy jobs?
	I really did have crappy jobs.
	All I had was crappy jobs when I was younger, right?
	I mean, I, gosh, what did I do?
	Let me see if I can go in chronological order.
	I painted plaques when I was 10 for the 1977 Silver Jubilee.
	Got a little bit of cash for that.
	That was my last job in England.
	When I came to Canada, I got a job that I had to take like, oh my gosh, it was like, I took a bus, a subway and a streetcar to get to this job, putting together the New York Times on weekends at a bookstore, but I loved the job.
	I didn't love putting the New York Times together and finding all the places to put the newspapers, but I did get to basically take home whatever books I wanted because they just rip off the covers and they're called remainders.
	You get your money back.
	So I basically had an infinite library in that place.
	And I worked there.
	I got a paper route.
	I took over some guy's paper route for quite some time, which was not fun for me because I'm not exactly a morning kid and never was and never will be.
	And then I got a job in a hardware store where I worked for a couple of years.
	Then I got a job at the same time I was cleaning offices at night.
	I also would go, I remember there was a woman, my friend of mine and I would go and we would clean the dog hair off her carpets.
	We would get these J-cloths and just scrape all the dog hair off her carpets.
	And I did that work for a while.
	I worked as a dishwasher.
	But I couldn't do that.
	I literally would rather starve than be a dishwasher.
	And then I started getting jobs in restaurants as a waiter.
	I worked at Pizza Hut.
	I worked at Swiss Chalet.
	I worked at a downtown seafood restaurant when I was downtown.
	Yes, I had lots of Crappy jobs.
	Then I started doing temp work because I was good with computers and I started working in temp work and that was pretty good.
	But I was so efficient at temp work that I would be booked for a week and get it done in a day.
	Like whatever I needed to get done.
	Because I'd program stuff and create keystroke combos and stuff.
	I had a little macro program I took with me.
	So I was very much in demand but it was kind of tough to keep me employed because I was so efficient.
	Yeah, so yes, I've had tons and tons and tons of crappy jobs.
	And even when I got into the professional software field, there was some serious crap involved in the jobs.
	It was a serious shit sandwich cavalcade often, right?
	Because the tension between Lying pathological sociopathic sales and hard-done-by-aunt-edna-woe-is-me crucified tech teams.
	The tension is real.
	The tension is real.
	Ah, Pizza Hut was great back in the day, man.
	Ooh, that oily crunch.
	Heard about Calgary police arrested Tommy Robertson on supposed outstanding immigration warrant.
	Had to surrender his passport.
	Can't leave the city.
	They're going to court about it.
	Yeah, I saw a little bit of that.
	Ezra Levant was interviewing him.
	And, uh, yeah.
	For what?
	Does it matter?
	It does not.
	2018 was the arrest, but living in the consulate in England was basically house arrest, right?
	He's been 12 years he's been in, right?
	But I mean the, it's been four, five, five or six years since the actual arrest.
	But yeah, he was living in the, oh gosh, Venezuelan consulate, wasn't he?
	For a long time.
	For a long time.
	Just monstrous.
	Just monstrous.
	Alright.
	So yes, I have had crappy jobs.
	All right.
	Thanks.
	I see a question.
	Thank you for the tip.
	Let me just go and check freedomain.com slash donate.
	Ooh, a little chilly.
	A little chilly.
	All right.
	If a company is a good place to work for?
	So, I have some red flags.
	I I have some red flags.
	In particular, bosses who are both female in their 30s or 40s and single, that's not good because a lot of women when they age will throw themselves even more into their career to avoid the fact that they are not married.
	And so you will get some, I had a friend of mine many years ago, and whenever his boss had a boyfriend, this was a woman in her late 30s, whenever, or mid to late 30s I guess, whenever her boss, whenever his boss had a boyfriend, work was like fantastic.
	And then every time they would break up, it would just be savage, you know, like negative.
	So, and it could be the case with unmarried men as well, but people are not good bosses if their lives are going badly because they tend to throw themselves into work, bury themselves in workaholism and expect you to go down with them.
	So, another thing, if the business Talks about being a family?
	Get the fuck out.
	It's a cult.
	It's a cult.
	If, yeah, if a business talks about, you know, well, we consider our employees family, and it's like, no, you don't.
	You just use that word.
	So you're underpaid.
	So, yes, when they have a cult of super importance, you know, we're changing the world.
	It's like, you're not changing the world.
	Almost nobody is changing the world.
	Okay, we're changing the world.
	But almost nobody's changing the world.
	But if they're changing the world, if they use too many buzzwords and so on, you want a place where people love getting better at stuff.
	I love getting better at stuff.
	Ooh, it just gives me that Six Sigma Pareto principle dopamine. Just, oh man, when I could get
	10% faster processing off the same processing processor by improving the code base, it gave me
	a deep, delicious, satanic, orgasm of productivity thrills. So people who just love getting
	better at things.
	I'm always trying to get better at what I do here, be more animated, yet still not quite insane.
	Go to insanity, back it up a tiny bit.
	That's my sweet spot.
	Just, you know, and that's, that's a surf edge.
	That's brain parkour with the other dimensions of schizophrenia.
	So always trying to be free and entertaining and engaging in my language, but not to the point where I lose my mind and get arrested.
	So there's that.
	So, yeah, that's not a good sign.
	If you have undefined benefits, intangible benefits, that, you know, the company culture is part of the benefit, that's not great.
	If they charge you for coffee, get out.
	If you have two people in HR, During the interview, get out because that just means you're going to be fired from HR.
	Womb-drying Karens anyway.
	And so yeah, there's a lot of red flags around that kind of stuff.
	But you want to work for a place, you know, they have a realistic view of themselves because a lot of people will pump up and go, we're changing the world, which means we'll pay you less, right?
	And companies that don't share the risks and rewards, where you get a salary but no options, again, I'm talking about more sort of professional stuff, but where there's no risks or rewards that are shared with the employees, that's not good, because it means you have a greedy set of managers who want to hold on to all the benefits themselves, and that's not good.
	So, let's see, what else have I noticed?
	What do you guys have?
	Let me see what you guys have.
	Somebody says, I finished your French Revolution series last week.
	I knew it was bad, violent, bloody, massive mob rule, and senseless bloodshed, but no movie or documentary I've ever seen ever did the French Revolution the injustice it deserved.
	Well, it's back, right?
	It's back.
	I mean, the Bolsheviks and the French Revolution guys, they're back.
	They're back!
	Let's see here.
	I washed dishes for nine years at an Irish pub.
	At the same time, I was a school teacher during the day.
	dishwashing paid better. At my worst job my manager would cry when his favorite
	sports team would lose a game.
	Thank you.
	You just covered 15 hours of business material off the cuff.
	Bravo.
	Managers that don't pay commissions for sales you make.
	Oh yeah, absolutely.
	Absolutely.
	People who use the phrase best in class.
	Best in class.
	All of these kinds of buzzwords are just wretched.
	We produce best in class, blah, blah, blah.
	It's like, there's no such thing as best in class.
	There's no such thing as best in class.
	Best-in-class AI.
	Oh, so you stole more?
	Did you steal more?
	AI is just this big stinking pile of stolen stuff.
	It's a testament to violations of pretty much eight of the Ten Commandments.
	So it's a big pile of steam and theft masquerading as pretend intelligence.
	Yeah, best in class is terrible because there's no such thing, right?
	Because whatever you focus on one thing, you're not focusing on something else.
	So it's best in class in terms of its reporting capacities.
	It's like, well, that's just saying that, well, you know, renting is worse than than owning a house, because you're just throwing your money away.
	So you're comparing all the strengths of owning a house with all the weaknesses of renting and think you're doing something intelligent.
	So wherever you, you know, SWOT, right?
	SWOT.
	Strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats.
	Right?
	So this SWOT analysis, it's like, just stop spitting out corporate acronyms like a machine gun of NPC stupidity and just talk to me like a normal person.
	Yes, we're aiming to be best in class.
	And it's like, I don't know.
	So then you're more expensive.
	And then you're right.
	So it's like, you know, the Lamborghini saying, well, we're best in class.
	And it's like, not if you're not a multimillionaire, then you're just a massive waste of libido enhancement for insecure middle aged men.
	So, yeah, this best in class stuff is, you know, I think I wrote some great software and we had best in class stuff in some areas, but our integrations were not good.
	With other software, because I found that stuff boring, so I didn't really work on it.
	I was really good at creating dynamic web interfaces off a database that contained the interface of all of our GUI to the database.
	Because that was fun, you know, like you get to write some code and recreate a Windows interface on the web back in the day when this was tough.
	But I hated back-bolting to Oracle and SQL databases.
	Ugh, forget that.
	That sucks.
	So I didn't do that.
	We're best in class with our web interface and reporting structure.
	Yes.
	Our integrations, well, we're about as integrated as main.
	Put it that way.
	At my current job, there's a lot of workplace politics, gossip, blame games.
	It's going to be a struggle not to get caught up in the bullshit.
	As a kid, I loved Lambos.
	Yeah, yeah.
	Somebody's asking me for massive life advice and sending me $5.
	Always interesting.
	Always an interesting audience.
	Oh, this is so important it might actually kill your mother.
	Well, if it's that important, sorry, if it's important enough to give me $5, I probably would question how much you value your mother's life.
	If you're relying upon me to save your mother's life and you're giving me $5, I'm not sure you want her to live.
	Best in class at paying employees and giving them benefits and protections.
	Yeah.
	Yeah.
	What was the company?
	I don't want to guess the company.
	I have a name in my head, but I don't want to be unfair.
	But there was a company that recently said, well, you can continue to work at home, but if you do, you'll get absolutely no career advancement.
	And like a massive, surprisingly large percentage of the employees said, yeah, I'm good with that.
	I'm fine having absolutely no career advancement.
	Just don't make me come into the office.
	You want to also look... Maybe five dollars is all he has.
	Oh yes, it was Dell, I thought it was Dell, yeah.
	Oh yes, maybe five dollars is all he has.
	Well, he's got internet, he's got a computer, and he can also say, listen, I know that this is a very low tip for such a large ask, that's totally fine.
	That's totally fine.
	You know, like if I'm going past some guy who's homeless on the street who's begging for money,
	and I give him 15 cents, at least I'm gonna say, I'm so sorry man, this is all the money I have.
	That's pretty funny.
	Um Um...
	Bye.
	So, when I would go to get a job, and I would...
	I would want to walk around.
	I said, you know, can we just have a quick stroll around the floor?
	And then I would get to see the employees and get a sense of the energy.
	And if everything was gray and cubicles, that was a big problem for me.
	If it looked like a man cave of a cocaine addicted 12 year old, in other words, here's our foosball table!
	Come on, man.
	This is not Palladium, this is a place of business.
	So if it looked like Tom Hanks' apartment from the movie Big, I'd be like, my interest is now very small.
	If it was all completely grey, there was absolutely no splash of colour or soul to the place at all, that's an indication of a bad environment as a whole.
	So, yes.
	Yes.
	So he says, sorry, I can send more, just trying to figure out how this app works.
	Yeah, that's not true though.
	Sorry.
	It's just, I mean, I hate to call you out.
	It's just not true.
	You saw you sent five bucks, in which case you'd say, oh, sorry, I meant to send more or whatever, right?
	So now that's, that's what people say, right?
	Like I, they send me five bucks and I don't care the five bucks, right?
	Just, you know, if you're asking a huge question that's going to save your mother's life and you send me five bucks, you can at least say, I'm so sorry, it's only five bucks.
	My mom's worth a lot more than this.
	And I'm really leaning on your 40 years worth of expertise.
	Here's five bucks.
	But then people, when I call them out, people say, oh, I don't know how the app works.
	Of course you do.
	Come on.
	Come on.
	But this is part of my advice, right?
	This is part of my advice.
	And if I ever took a job as a manager, I would never, ever, ever, ever, ever take the job without meeting with my employees, my potential employees.
	I just wouldn't do it.
	Like if people would say, oh, you're going to manage, you know, some jobs I was managing like 30 or 35 people, so I need to meet them.
	Or at least the team leads or something like that because I need to get a sense of, are they traumatized?
	Because, you know, when you're being brought in, it's because you're usually replacing someone.
	Did the last manager break the employees?
	That's kind of important because I don't know that I want to rebuild people.
	Like all that kind of stuff, right?
	So, yeah, these are all – you get Six Sigma stuff and if the manager has a whole bunch of – see, I remember I didn't take a job once because the manager had a whole bunch of business books on his shelf with no bends, right?
	I remember I went on a date with a woman once and we went back to her place and she had Stephen Hawking's A Brief History of Time on the coffee book, right?
	On the coffee table.
	And anyway, I lifted it up and I said, Oh, A Brief History of Time.
	How interesting.
	And she's like, Yeah, it's a challenge.
	And I'm like, You mean it's a challenge to open?
	Because I opened it, you know, dust and moth coming out, blow the dust off and all of that.
	It's a challenge to open, but let's not pretend you've read it, okay?
	This is a set piece.
	This is like me wearing a wig made of a guy's wheelchair.
	So yeah, it is...
	I remember because this guy had all these business books and you could tell they'd never been opened and I'm like, okay, I'm not doing that.
	I'm not doing that.
	Yeah, freedomain.com slash donate.
	That's just the easiest way to sort it out.
	I remember I didn't take a job because a guy started telling me about the difficulties he was having with his adopted kid.
	You know, I adopted two kids.
	One of the kids is doing great.
	The other one's hanging out with a bunch of skateboarding weirdos and I can't... What?
	Okay, I might do this in 20 years, but not now.
	Not yet.
	Not today.
	So.
	No, like if you can't, like if, sorry, like if you can't figure out the app, right?
	the app, right?
	So, if you're working as a waiter, right?
	And somebody tips you, like they have a $200 meal and they tip you $5.
	Like, I think we've all done this.
	Haven't we all done this?
	Where we try and leave a decent tip, but for some reason we enter it wrong, right?
	In which case you say, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, I tipped you five bucks on 200.
	I need to be able to tip again.
	And if you can't tip again, I literally have gone to the bank, gotten cash, gone back, found the waiter and paid the waiter, right?
	Because I'm not leaving a $5 tip on a $200 meal.
	Not that I have a lot of $200 meals, but you know what I'm saying, right?
	So if you make a mistake, Right?
	You don't wait to be called out.
	Right?
	I mean, isn't this a basic decency thing?
	Right?
	Which is, if you meant to tip more and you tip me $5, I'll answer the question.
	I'm just, you know, telling you how to go through life so that you don't annoy people too much.
	You know, if you want to roll with the, you know, I don't want to say like I'm a big deal.
	Right?
	I mean, but you know, I've been pretty successful in the art world and pretty successful in the business world.
	And I was the biggest podcaster on the planet for a good chunk of time.
	Uh, no, you can, whatever works for you for tips.
	I'm totally easy with, but, um, I'm telling you a little bit how to roll with big docs.
	Just a little bit.
	You know, like you want to elevate your game and you want to roll with some bigger docs, don't you?
	I mean, in your life, you don't want to kind of stay down with the five dollars and like you want to roll a little bit, right?
	The coins, yeah, the coins aren't great.
	As I said before, the coins on the locals platform, I mean, it's not their fault, but Google takes a third of the coins because they just take a third of everything that's spent, right?
	Beware automatic tip amounts.
	The dollar amount does not match the percent on the button.
	I don't quite know what that means.
	But they're starting at 18% these days, right?
	It's tough, man.
	It's tough.
	All right.
	Yeah, so keep the coins.
	I appreciate those.
	But yeah, freedomain.com slash donate is the best place.
	Somebody says, at the company I started at six months ago, my boss is retiring in about four years and everyone is 50 plus.
	Are these red flags?
	Well, you know, we're all living on the fading... We're all still existing on the fading competence of the boomers, right?
	The boomers are all retiring and they're being replaced by idiots.
	So, this whole momentum, right?
	Right.
	This is all momentum, right?
	You know, you throw a ball up in the air, it goes up for a while, it's going to come back down.
	So we're just, you know, we just, I wrote a whole novel about this called The Present.
	You should get it at freedomain.com books.
	And he just, you know, we're still going up a little bit, but the IQ updraft is gone, right?
	Every time you critique a massively important question attached to a small tip,
	I love to picture beautiful and tragic straw, beautiful and tragic straw man.
	I imagine it's some poor dude sitting on public Wi-Fi typing away on an overheating laptop with a cracked screen that's held together with duct tape and twine.
	He's saved five dollars over the last six months from his dirt farming job.
	Let's throw that in to the thumbnail generator and see what we get.
	Oh, that's funny.
	You know, and there's the funny thing too, right?
	And the funny thing is, if somebody says, I have a massive question that my mother's life depends on, here's five dollars, and I say, you know, it doesn't seem overly generous considering it's your mother's life that's on the line.
	People don't say, Oh, yeah.
	You know, that is probably... Like, they don't just say, I'm sorry.
	It's always some excuse.
	Well, I don't know how the app works.
	And I, you know, type the thing.
	It's like, you just literally saw your tip go through.
	Yeah, I mean, just please don't lie like this.
	Then it's like an undertip followed by a justification, followed by a defense, followed by somebody else jumping in.
	Maybe that's all he's got, man.
	And then followed by, well, I don't know how this app works.
	And I don't know the difference between five and 50.
	And it's like, it's all just nonsense.
	Steph, did you see the CEO of Boeing is an accountant and Elon Musk called him out and said the CEO should know how to build airplanes, not spreadsheets.
	Steph, how do you think an accountant ends up as CEO?
	I don't know.
	What the hell do I know?
	What do I know?
	I mean, I assume accountant needs to tally up their diversity numbers, right?
	Like a lot of, uh, a lot of corporate decisions are run by this DEI diversity stuff, which is, you know, just a money grab.
	And anyway, so.
	Boomers retire.
	Nepotism kicks in.
	Business goes bankrupt in two years.
	Yeah.
	Yeah.
	Very happy in my current job.
	Feel like I've stumbled upon a company with a bunch of normal people, which was a pleasant surprise.
	Manages, employs all of good character and everyone gets on with it.
	That's nice.
	That's nice.
	All right, let's get on with some more questions.
	Yeah, I mean, people will send me 10 coins, which is $1, which ends up being 60 cents, something like that.
	I mean, honestly, please don't.
	I'm just saying, please don't.
	Like, honestly, if it's your last $5, don't spend it on me.
	Spend it on bus fare to get a job.
	Please don't spend your last $5 on me.
	My God, that's crazy.
	Get some food.
	You know, get to a homeless shelter.
	My God, this is terrible.
	Whatever you do, do not spend your last $5 on me.
	Awful.
	All right.
	Any advice for someone who's beginning to take philosophy seriously and you once described it as walking across the desert alone.
	any advice for such an individual who now finds himself losing relationships?
	Well, language is destiny, my friends.
	Language are the train tracks you lay ahead of yourself.
	Language is destiny.
	Where you end up is based upon the language you use.
	Free will lies in how you define terms.
	You think I'm kidding?
	I will just demonstrate to you right now exactly what I'm talking about.
	I am losing relationships!
	Oh, philosophy doth cost my soul as the relationships leave my body like the hooks out of the gullet of a bass fish.
	Losing relationships.
	Nope.
	You are not losing any relationships.
	You are shedding bullshit.
	You are shedding liars and manipulators who do not care to follow you on the journey towards truth, reason, reality, and morality.
	I mean, when you take your ship to Sting's Harbor and they scrape all the barnacles off the hull, do you say, oh, my ship is being sunk and riddled with scrapes?
	Nope.
	You're just getting rid of the crud that screws up your ship.
	You're not losing relationships because if you had relationships, they would be enhanced by philosophy.
	Because a relationship is where you meet in reality.
	That cozy little place we call facts, truth, reason and evidence.
	That's a relationship.
	You can't have a relationship with manipulation.
	You can't have a relationship with delusion.
	You can't have a relationship with an NPC any more than you can date a fucking toaster.
	You're not losing relationships, you're shedding bullshit.
	You are paving the way for real relationships.
	You are paving the way for real relationships.
	So I want you to think of it like this.
	You inherit from a distant unknown relative a lovely little tract of land wherein or where on or whereupon there is a ramshackle, fucked up, leaning over, twelve different colors, windows sagging, half rotten roof piece of crap that they pretend is a house.
	Right?
	The house is, even with Jared's help, absolutely unsalvageable.
	You bring in a builder.
	The builder can barely contain his laughter.
	It's like, I don't know what the fact that that sagging ass piece of house of cards is, but I wouldn't even go in to inspect that thing, because that thing is about to fall down, man.
	It's going to make me sneeze, but by the time I inhale the sneeze, I'm going to be stubbing so much air, the fucking ceiling is going to come down on my, like a ton of bricks and a Wikipedia editor combined with a science center architect.
	A little spittle there, but it's well deserved.
	So, you got this piece of land.
	In order to live on that piece of land, you're going to need a house.
	However, you have an entirely half-melted shitbox of a Skate 3 glitching bullshit non-house, built 150,000 years ago and maintained about as well as, I don't know, the economy for the next generation in all Western countries.
	If you email me and you say, because you know, the builder says, I'm not coming on this property until you knock that piece of shit down.
	I'd say burn it, but you'd probably get asbestos poisoning three states over.
	So you've got this absolute Pisa, my GPU just melted while playing Minecraft.
	Slidy bullshit house.
	That's not a house, you can't live in it.
	Floors are rotten, stairs go nowhere.
	It's... Hogwarts without Maggie Smith's strangely elevated bust.
	Yeah, well, what can I tell you?
	She's confusing.
	So... You say...
	The builder says to you, yeah, you know, you knock this down, you scrape it out, and you've got some, maybe the foundation could be saved, I don't know, but at least we'll have some foundations to start from, right?
	And you write to me and you say, Steph, oh Steph, A, here's four dollars, and B, How could I possibly survive the loss of this house?
	This abode of ancient shelter for ancestors of which I know little.
	Steph, this magnificent mansion of protection from the elements.
	How?
	Steph, how will I survive the loss of this house?
	and you send me a picture what
	What?
	Are you crazy?
	That's not a house.
	That's a deathtrap liability of asbestos monsters.
	That's a place where you couldn't even film a fucking horror movie because it would kill half the cameramen.
	That's a breathing deathtrap of moldy hell.
	So no, you don't have a house.
	You've got a liability.
	You don't even have the illusion of a house!
	Now scrape that thing out and consign it to the star winds of the universe and maybe you've got a place you can build an actual house but right now you don't have a house!
	My advice for someone who's beginning to take house building seriously and who has to Rip up a decaying mansion that is the dental equivalent of a completely tooth-rotted hellscape of an ex-tooth.
	How... How can you help me, Steph, get over the loss of this house?
	It's like it's not a house.
	It's in the way of a house.
	You can get a house there, but you've got to get rid of this shit first.
	Right.
	So you get rid of this monstrosity of a broken X house, and then you can build a house.
	But if you think you're losing a house, you need to look at the picture again.
	So here's the thing.
	I will solve this for you, and then the tips will flow in.
	Oh, okay, okay, let me ask you this.
	Is it worth it for me to solve this problem for you, in about five minutes so that you don't ever think that philosophy is costing you one single relationship.
	Is that worth anything to you?
	I want to make sure what I'm doing is worthwhile.
	So if I can solve for you in five minutes the illusion that you're losing any friendships or relationships or family relations when you pursue philosophy, reason, truth, evidence and morality If I can solve that problem for you in a few minutes.
	Is that worth something to you?
	Tell me yes, tell me no.
	I will rely upon you.
	Oh, so sorry.
	I seem to have missed some comments over on Rumble.
	All right.
	Does the truth need to be compromised with a lie to be truth?
	Does freedom need to be compromised with tyranny to be freedom?
	No.
	Okay.
	Oh, that's funny.
	Somebody talking about my brother.
	How interesting.
	Interesting.
	Interesting.
	Ah, I've been waking up at sunrise.
	I've been following the light across my room.
	Oh, looks like, are we getting?
	Why have people stopped typing?
	Why have people stopped typing?
	Have you all passed out?
	Are you gone?
	Am I gonna have to do Duke Nukem voice for the rest of the evening?
	On the topic of humility, I was working at a company and the owners absolutely adored this one employee.
	The guy was divorced three times, either divorced or his death by overdose.
	And when I got into a disagreement with the guy, they told me I needed to look at his positive qualities like loyalty.
	Okay, so do you know what the answer to that is?
	You know what the answer to that is, right?
	That's not even that complicated.
	I mean, I can tell you the answer to that mystery.
	The answer to that mystery is that the managers, in my opinion, obviously I don't have any proof, but my assumption would be that the managers did something illegal and the employee has dirt on them, right?
	And so they have to go with this weird guy because he's got dirt on them.
	A lot of business runs on A lot of business runs on, in a sense, blackmail.
	If you know that your boss has done something wrong, then, you know, maybe he had an affair
	while on a business trip, maybe he's been taking money from the company till,
	maybe he's been putting in illegitimate expenses, and all of that, right?
	So you think I have the easy job, right?
	Fun philosophy blogging job.
	Oh yes, this job has been nothing but fun.
	Let me tell you, bomb threats, death threats, slander, libel, you name it, defamation.
	Yeah, it's been nothing but fun.
	Those alien bastards blew up my ride.
	Alright, we'll see you next time.
	Well, I don't think anybody's responding to me, so I won't inflict the solution.
	I'll maybe do it another time.
	Let me make a note here.
	Uh, you.
	You are losing relationships.
	Now what exactly does the boss keep locked up in the bottom drawer?
	Yeah, you know, maybe the IT guy found the boss's browsing history.
	And maybe, maybe he's getting a big raise to keep it quiet.
	All right, sorry let me just check here.
	Why here?
	Why here?
	All right.
	So I think there are some people who want the answer.
	Okay.
	So I will give you the answer.
	I'd like to know about losing relationships with philosophy.
	I believe it applies to me.
	All right.
	So.
	I'll give myself five minutes.
	Five minutes.
	Five minutes, a mere 300 seconds, starting now.
	All right.
	If you have a relationship, You can be honest.
	If you're lying to someone, it's not a relationship, it's a manipulation.
	Fair?
	If they're lying to you, it's not a relationship, it's a manipulation.
	So, it's a mutual proximity to other flesh bags because you don't want the actuality of being alone, so you pretend that you have, quote, relationships with people when all you are engaged in is mutual lying, bullying, and self-erasure.
	So, if you have a relationship, You can tell the truth to that person.
	So if you get into philosophy and you start working with reason and evidence, then you start to get the truth.
	The truth about yourself, the truth about the world, the truth about others, the truth about history, your own and societal, because history is basically a manipulation to control the future.
	Everyone thinks history is about the past.
	No, history is about controlling the future by exploiting the present based on mostly lies.
	So if you have a relationship, it has to be based on honesty, because if you're lying to someone, It's an exploitation.
	So if you think you're losing a relationship because of philosophy, no problem.
	What you do is you go to the person and you say, hey, I think I'm losing a relationship because of philosophy.
	I think this relationship is kind of getting strained because I'm really into philosophy, truth, reason, evidence, and knowledge.
	Because, you know, it's a relationship, which means you can tell the truth, right?
	You can tell the truth.
	Now, if you find yourself frightened to have an honest conversation with someone, it's not a relationship.
	There's nothing I won't talk to my wife about.
	There's nothing she won't talk to me about.
	My friends and people I work with, they can all say, is there anything that we can't talk about?
	No, I think we talk about just about anything.
	So if you have a relationship, it's got to be based on truth and honesty.
	So if you think you're losing a relationship and you think it's a real relationship, you're losing the relationship because you're not being honest.
	So go and be honest in that relationship and find out.
	Is it real?
	Well, if it's real, you can tell the truth.
	If you're lying, you're killing the relationship, not philosophy, and you're killing the relationship against the primary dictate and founding principle of philosophy, the prime directive of philosophy, is tell the truth!
	Tell.
	The.
	Truth.
	Oh, I fear I'm losing a relationship because of philosophy.
	Okay.
	So either you're not telling the truth, or the other person's not telling the truth, or neither of you is telling the truth.
	Now, if you're not telling the truth but the other person is receptive to the truth, philosophy is not costing you the relationship.
	You doing the opposite of philosophy is costing you the relationship because philosophy says tell the truth and you're lying!
	If the other person hates you for telling the truth, it's not a relationship!
	Because if you get attacked and rejected and scorned for telling the truth, it's not a relationship.
	So if you think you're losing relationships, go and save them.
	I know this sounds cynical.
	I don't mean that at all.
	Honestly, go tell the truth.
	Go and save those relationships by telling the truth.
	Now, if the person is open and warm and receptive to the truth, even if they're shocked and appalled a little bit, they still care about you enough to want to ask more and be curious, great!
	You've just saved the relationship.
	But we all know that's not what's going on.
	What's going on is that you have found out by telling the truth that people hate the truth.
	Okay?
	So the truth has revealed that there was no relationship.
	It was just mutual masturbatory self-avoidance and lies.
	There's no way back because you can't undo the truth.
	There's no Ctrl-Z, no Edit-Undo for learning the truth.
	The mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its former shape.
	So if you think you're losing relationships to philosophy, do the philosophical thing and go and tell the truth.
	Now, if the relationship is revealed to be a total lie, because you were attacked, scorned, hated, rejected, and ostracized for telling the truth, then you have just rid yourself of a brain-sapping, soul-destroying, progress-calcifying delusion.
	It wasn't a real relationship.
	It was a place you were forced to lie.
	Now, once you know that it's a place you were forced to lie, you'll never refer to it as a relationship again.
	Do you think I ever had a relationship with my mother or, let's say, other family members?
	Nope.
	Because every time I told the truth, I got attacked, scorned, and rejected and ostracized.
	Never had a relationship.
	Because you can only have a relationship in reality, in honesty, in truth, and virtue.
	It's the only relationship that's possible.
	So you're not losing a relationship.
	And if you refer to it as losing a relationship, then what you're saying is, I'm lying.
	Right?
	Oh, I'm losing this relationship.
	Well, then it's got to be because you're lying.
	Because if it's the other person who's lying, you're not losing the relationship, you're shedding an exploitation.
	So go tell the truth and find out.
	Five minutes ish, right?
	Okay.
	I'd like to hear your answer to that question.
	Unfortunately, I cannot donate until next week.
	Hey, I appreciate that.
	It's a reminder.
	Thank you.
	Once again, that was an informative and impactful answer.
	I call the avoidance things like landmines, things I can't talk about with others because they blow up over shit.
	So yes, it is lying in false relationship.
	This hits home.
	It's like Rachel and her living mannequin of a boyfriend only have a, quote, relationship so long as they lie to themselves and each other, as in the present.
	What relationship was there?
	Right.
	Damn, this is another takeaway.
	I've got to save this segment with notes.
	Thank you!
	You are welcome.
	Alright.
	Thank you.
	Thank you.
	Shedding and exploitation.
	Kaboom.
	This is fire.
	Thank you, Steph.
	And you send a dollar.
	Okay, I assume everybody's just trolling me at this point.
	Hey, it's your conscience, not mine.
	It's your conscience, not mine.
	Send a dollar.
	Thank you for revealing the truth about how to escape lies.
	It's a dollar.
	I'm sure that's a mistake.
	I'm sure you're just... Please, for the love of all that's holy, is it tough to check the numbers you're typing?
	Is this impossible?
	God forbid you bet or pay your taxes.
	You're gonna fat finger your way into oblivion.
	All right.
	So let me Give you one other thing.
	I meant to send ten dollars.
	Thank you.
	Well, just check!
	I mean, I don't know why... You understand that you're only as good as the work you produce, and if you can't double-check your work, I'm not saying this is, you know... But you just need to get in the habit of double-checking your work.
	I've had this conversation with literally zillions of people. I'm not perfect too, whatever, but I double-check
	my work.
	Ah. Oh, that's interesting.
	Yeah, I'll pass it along to James.
	But yeah, you have to double and triple check your work.
	You're only as valuable as the work you provide and in an economic sense, right?
	And if somebody else has to check your work, you automatically, your economic value goes down by like at least 50%.
	If anybody else has to check your work.
	Do you know how valuable, how insanely valuable it is to have someone whose work you don't need to check?
	And again, this is just like, if you can't, if you're just going to type like, and you know, this is a sensitive issue and area.
	I just talked about it for like 10 minutes or whatever.
	Right.
	So that's something you'd want to double check right before you send it.
	Right.
	I mean, that just is, and this is not about this $1 or $10 or whatever.
	This is something.
	That is about, can your work be trusted, right?
	In other words, it used to be, well there's a buck, I'll send it, oh shit, oh god, I got it wrong, oh no, oh, right?
	I'm telling you, this is not just in this, right?
	It's not just in this situation that that's happening.
	I'm planning a big donation myself, lump sum donation in a few months on route.
	Thank you.
	Now, From being in the trades, not having to check someone's work is hugely beneficial.
	Yeah.
	You will be forever economically crippled if people have to check your work.
	You will forever be economically crippled.
	You cannot make good money if people have to check your work.
	And not everyone, of course, but a lot of people that I've ended up working with, I've had to have this conversation.
	Not everyone.
	And again, I make mistakes too, but in general, very few.
	But I've had to have this kind of conversation with a lot of people I've worked with over the years.
	Like, no, just double check your work.
	If you have time to do it over, you have time to get it right.
	Just double or triple check your work because if you have to have someone double check your work, that's deducted from your salary, right?
	You understand that in the business world.
	If somebody's got to double check you, well, I want to send this email to the board.
	Ah, yeah, better have someone look it over, right?
	So whatever other people have to double check is deducted from your paycheck, which is you can't make money if people have to check your work.
	If you mean to send ten dollars but you send a dollar when it's really important you get that right, that's a big issue.
	Double, triple, check your work!
	Be someone who's bulletproof.
	Be someone that other people can just Send your shit out and they don't need to worry about it and then you get paid more because you don't need a backup.
	You don't need a backup.
	Just be that person.
	Bye.
	Because you know, be that person whose word is bond.
	Be that person whose word is bond.
	If you say you're going to do it, it's going to get done.
	If you say it's going to be right, it's going to be right.
	If you make a commitment to deliver, it gets delivered.
	Be that person When you say it's done, it's done.
	And nobody needs to check on you.
	Nobody needs to review.
	Nobody needs to look for typos or things that are wrong or slipped digits.
	Just don't be that.
	Started a new job today.
	I hated the fact someone noticed a tiny mistake I did.
	One mistake all day.
	I'm not going to bully myself over it, but I do hate it.
	Yes, you should hate it.
	Thank you. I appreciate the tip.
	No, you should hate!
	Hate errors!
	Hate errors!
	You know, I do my job like I'm checking the engines on a spaceship.
	I do my job like I'm handing a scalpel to a surgeon working on Freddie Mercury's throat.
	I do my job with such detail and precision and the goal of accuracy.
	And look, I mean, how many things have I had to correct in terms of errors and details over the years?
	Maybe half a dozen over close to 20 years.
	Now that's a pretty good accuracy, and some of those weren't even mine because I used to have a guy who gave me presentations.
	Now, it's still my responsibility, but it wasn't my error.
	I just didn't catch the error.
	Yeah, because I used to, I had a guy who gave me some presentations and they'd just be like typos and errors and it's like, I don't want this shit.
	I feel, honestly, I don't know if I'm a perfectionist, I feel offended.
	I feel like, why would you?
	It would be like, you know, if I'm super hungry and my wife says, I'll get you a meal.
	And she just gives me a, like a still frozen pizza.
	I'm like, what?
	What am I supposed to do with this?
	It's worse than that.
	It feels like there's shit on something.
	It feels like somebody's giving me a sandwich that is mold and shit.
	And I hate it.
	And I know I hate it in myself too.
	And again, make mistakes from time to time.
	I recognize that there is a certain amount of inevitability to this kind of stuff.
	I get all of that.
	And there's, you know, a certain amount of errors that are always going to exist.
	But I think, you know, as a whole, I've been pretty good on getting things right.
	In fact, I've been fantastic at getting things right.
	I know that.
	I mean, occasionally I go over it in my brain, like all the things I got right.
	Just this is one of the biggest pieces of advice I can ever give you.
	I'm telling you, get shit right.
	Accept nothing but the aim of perfection.
	Look, I've done an hour 40 minutes of free balling and I've been precise and accurate and detailed and creative and innovative and that's a commitment to quality and excellence.
	You know, I did some work this week that is so good, I literally got goosebumps while I was doing it, because I'm always aiming to get better.
	I'm not trying to beg some praise of myself or anything like that, because I can be kind of hard on myself, in a good way, like an encouraging way, like, you can do better!
	And I always feel that!
	I'm good, I can do better!
	Every show I'm like, I'm gonna do better!
	Do better!
	Don't rest on your laurels, don't be lazy, don't repeat!
	Don't use the same stories.
	Don't use the same analogies.
	Don't use the same jokes.
	Don't repeat.
	Be creative.
	Be innovative.
	Constantly trying to shake things up.
	Different backdrop.
	Walking around.
	I did a call-in today and I did an arduous hike because I knew it was going to be a really tough subject and I wanted my blood pumping.
	Just constantly trying to shake it up and do things different.
	I hate errors.
	Because, you know, here's the Here's the thing about errors, is you know how much you hate them.
	Right?
	If you're really hungry, you go to a restaurant, let's say you're allergic to mayonnaise and you order your favorite sandwich and you say, no mayonnaise!
	They read it back to you, no mayonnaise, and it comes with mayonnaise and you're hungry, you're annoyed!
	If your computer has an error and there's dead pixels on the screen and it keeps randomly rebooting, you hate that!
	You're offended, you're upset!
	What is it?
	I was reading the ROG Ally, Republic of Gamers Ally, little handheld thing.
	They put the SD card slot next to the fan exhaust and it keeps melting them and burning it out.
	Like, that's stupid!
	There was a chip, an Intel chip some years ago had calculation errors in the base tables.
	People hate that stuff.
	You hate these errors!
	If they deliver the wrong thing, you get mad.
	If you get a computer that doesn't work, you get mad.
	You rely on people getting shit right to live.
	To live!
	You can't live if people are shoddy!
	You know, I had to get a sister removed from my shoulder, right?
	They need the right amount of Painkiller.
	They need to cut deep enough to get it out, but not so deep they do too much damage.
	People have got to be perfect at this stuff.
	You know, when they were cutting the tumor out of my neck, they had to go deep enough to get the whole tumor, but not so deep that I'm half beheaded or get a jugular nick.
	Right?
	You ever have a computer?
	I had an HP computer once.
	I bought it secondhand.
	It locked up randomly.
	That's some annoying shit like total screen freeze couldn't move like couldn't save wasn't like it crashed or it didn't even reboot total lockup.
	That was 600 bucks.
	That was worse than I would have been better off setting fire to those $600 than buying that HP computer.
	It was a refurbished at a store.
	It still pisses me off.
	Because I, oh, I'll check the drivers.
	I'll update the drivers.
	Oh, I'll talk to HP.
	Oh, I'll update the operating system.
	Oh, I'll move it to a cooler place.
	Maybe it's too much in the sun.
	Like the amount of time I spent on that stupid computer, because it didn't work.
	So the electricity that comes to your house, you expect uptime of 100%, don't you?
	Every time the Internet's down, people lose their minds.
	You expect and live on accuracy.
	So do I. So be part of that circle of humanity that does their shit well.
	Double check your work.
	Triple check your work.
	Be the person who doesn't need someone over their shoulder like a kindergarten teacher saying, well, have you checked that?
	Is that right?
	Is that good?
	Is that accurate?
	Be excellent because you love excellence and you hate incompetence.
	And everyone does.
	Be excellent.
	Your value, your humanity, your reliability is so important.
	Be excellent at your work.
	Be excellent as a friend.
	Be excellent in your parenting.
	Be excellent in bed.
	Be excellent as a lover.
	Be excellent in affection.
	Be excellent in negotiation.
	Just be good.
	You guys have no excuse to not be in the top 1% of everything you do.
	No excuse.
	You're into philosophy.
	You follow everything that I'm talking about.
	You have no excuse for more than 1% error.
	You have no excuse To not be at least 99% accurate and aim for much higher than that.
	You have no excuse to not be in the top 1% of your profession.
	You're easily smart enough.
	Sorry, it's just a fact.
	I mean, we all have emotional stuff.
	I get all of that.
	You have absolutely no excuse to not be in the top 1% shoddy people are like rust
	Thank you.
	Can you imagine some guys working on your brakes in your car and he's shoddy?
	You'll die and maybe kill people.
	You'll be going down a hill and you'll hit the brakes and it'll be all patchy and shit and you'll just go over the cliff.
	Geez.
	Oh.
	I mean, you ever have a graphics card which stutters?
	Overheats?
	Drives you crazy?
	Locks up?
	It's a problem.
	You ever have phones that freeze?
	Or batteries that wear down too quickly?
	Shoddy, shoddy stuff!
	And you hate it!
	So don't add to it!
	Ever!
	Or at least have the goal of never adding to it!
	Relentless dedication and devotion to quality is as close to God as we can get.
	It's as close to the angels as we can get.
	Breaking orbit from the sea of incompetence and heading to the stars of excellence is the greatest journey there is.
	Apply yourself to as great a job as you can possibly do.
	I don't care how little or how small that job is.
	Be the best fucking dishwasher.
	Be the best painter.
	I was always aiming for that.
	Aim to be the best?
	Why not?
	Maybe you can be.
	Maybe you can't be, but you can sure as hell aim at it.
	And then if you aim at the best, you get used to being good at something or aiming at that,
	and you hit that thing where you can be fucking perfect and you will go like a shuttle.
	Don't apologize for your fumble.
	Don't apologize for your fumble.
	gave us a great speech.
	The Pentium 60, yeah, yeah, it had a complete malfunction, a computer malfunction if it ran across certain numbers.
	you Yes.
	Yes.
	Somebody says I worked with a guy who was a total work addict and perfectionist freak of the highest order.
	He talks over me during meetings, gives me his feedback and criticism during meetings while I'm trying to speak.
	No, he's not a perfectionist then, he's an asshole.
	Because a perfectionist would also be perfect at giving feedback!
	So he's just random and intrusive and, right, he's an over-talker and so he's not a perfectionist.
	Perfectionists will often say, well, I'm just a perfectionist and that's just giving them an excuse to be an asshole.
	No.
	Because if you're a perfectionist, be good at meetings, be good at giving feedback, be good at all of this.
	Yes, Steph, you're absolutely amazing to me.
	I aspire to be as accomplished as you and to help others.
	I'm really listening.
	Yes, I hate errors.
	We all do.
	Errors are death.
	You understand?
	Errors are death.
	Arrows get people killed.
	I mean, just think.
	You're hunting for your tribe, and you pick the wrong arrow, the bent one, and shoot it, and a deer runs away.
	You all can die.
	Like, arrows are death.
	Oh, I forgot to feed the chickens.
	Well, I forgot to close the chicken coop.
	Well, guess what?
	Your chickens all got killed, got coyotes, and you got nothing for winter.
	Oh, I forgot to feed the cows!
	Oh dear, well, the cows got sick and died.
	Oh, I forgot to put the scarecrow up and the birds ate all our seed crops.
	like errors or death.
	Was in training to work at a factory.
	At the end of training, I was doing the job of three people because my two training partners were going to leave and I had to pick up their slack.
	Employer refused to pay me three people's wages, wouldn't even pay two people, so I left them to hire three people for the job.
	Yeah, for sure.
	My current computer crashes once a night, consistently though.
	I crash and you're good for the next 10 hours.
	One crash and you're good for the next 10 hours.
	Pretty sure it's a graphics card issue.
	Yeah, I'll pull the card.
	Hold the card.
	Stefan prevents the great slowdown with a single amazing speech.
	I am excellent in bed.
	I love you, Stef.
	This is another segment I will save and listen to again and again.
	Sorry to fumble like that.
	My sincere apologies.
	No problem.
	No problem.
	Thank you for the tip.
	Bye.
	Be perfect as your Heavenly Father is perfect.
	Yes!
	Steph, how to deal with the problems that arise from going above and beyond in corporate America?
	Usually the only reward is a $25 gift card.
	Yep, well, corporate America is no longer a meritocracy.
	Corporate anywhere is no longer a meritocracy.
	It's all shitty social engineering.
	That's why spreadsheet guys end up in charge, right?
	So, there's no meritocracy.
	The only meritocracy is in small, agile, Employers.
	Maybe it's your own company, but there is no meritocracy.
	Meritocracy is dead in mainstream business.
	In the mainstream business world, meritocracy is dead.
	Right?
	You know that, right?
	We don't have to go into this.
	We've been talking about this, right?
	I mean, and for white males, we know this, right?
	The jobs are going to non-whites, non-males.
	I mean, this is a statistical fact.
	Meritocracy is dead.
	And for a lot of people, that's a disaster.
	For everyone here, this is an opportunity, a huge opportunity.
	You get a $25 gift card for doing a great job.
	That's a wonderful incentive to start your own business or join some other startup or whatever, right?
	I mean the idea that you guys would be working for someone else is frankly offensive to me.
	I mean if I said, if I said, hey I'm really angling to get a job at CNN
	so that I can read off the cue cards and the teleprompter.
	How would you guys feel if I said I'm going to work at a corporate network?
	Right Thank you.
	How would you feel?
	Would you like, hey, Steph, that's a really good move, man.
	You'll make more money.
	Those guys get paid a lot.
	Millions and millions of dollars.
	Yeah, you should totally go for it.
	Or, I don't know, here at CBC, I'm going to work for a government network.
	Can you imagine?
	That's how I look at you guys talking about employment problems.
	Yes, yes.
	And let's say I got offered a job at one of these places.
	You know, you're actually quite charismatic and really good at spontaneous stuff, man.
	I'd be like, yeah, you know, Harvard offered me a job.
	I'm going to go teach philosophy at Harvard.
	It's not going to be filmed or released or anything like that.
	Oh, and I'm going to have to follow their curriculum.
	But I'll get tenure, and I'll get summers off, and I'll get a sabbatical every couple of years so I can go and write some bullshit, pomo, verb-syllable nonsense-vomit and call it philosophy.
	Here's philosophy, here's philosophy.
	So Jean-Paul Sartre, I don't know if you knew this, in 1923 he took a massive overdose of mescaline and he saw crabs, literal crabs, for decades.
	This went on forever and ever.
	He took so much mescaline he ended up with a permanent visual hallucination of crabs.
	And he was a massive drinker and drug taker and smoker.
	So if you think of me working at CNN or Harvard or CBC or even some right-wing place or whatever,
	you know, if you thought of me working there, you'd sit there and say, damn, why would you do that?
	You guys working for people?
	Are you fucking kidding me?
	Now, obviously, if you are working for an entrepreneur who's encouraging entrepreneurship, my friends, that's a good thing.
	There's nothing wrong with getting your apprenticeship in.
	Steph, you are the world's father figure during a time when they have none.
	I'm aware that some people look upon me as Big Daddy and not the kind that's in Bioshock.
	Maybe I'll be reincarnated as that.
	Who knows?
	Who knows?
	Steph working at O-A-N-N or Newsmax.
	Again, no hate to those places or anything like that, but... Guys, look into starting your own business.
	Oh, Simone de Beauvoir, yeah, brought him grad students for threesomes.
	It was absolutely repulsive.
	They're all just like foul, hideous people.
	Well, French intellectuals, why would I even need to say that?
	And they all, the whole bunch of French intellectuals tried to legalize pedophilia, right?
	You know that, right?
	So, okay, I'm going to end up with this.
	Now, it's been a crackerjack of a show.
	FreeDomain.com slash donate.
	Nothing came in.
	I mean, I know I'm getting a couple of tips on locals, which I appreciate.
	Nothing came in tonight.
	FreeDomain.com slash donate.
	Come on.
	You know this is kind of a crackerjack electric value.
	and I'm gonna I'm gonna finish up with the coup de grace
	the daily wire so here's the coup de grace
	Now, thank you for the tip.
	Appreciate that.
	Alright, the coup de grâce.
	Are you ready?
	It's gonna blow your mind.
	So if you have Bullshit proximity, which is you can only be around people
	if you lie That's bullshit proximity.
	It's not a relationship.
	It's bullshit proximity.
	If you have bullshit proximity, you are not losing relationships.
	What are you doing?
	What are you doing?
	What are you doing if you have bullshit proximity, which is you can only be around people if you lie?
	Are you losing relationships?
	No.
	What are you actually doing?
	What are you actually doing If you're hanging around with people that you can only be around them if you lie.
	Taking out the trash?
	Nope.
	Shedding?
	Nope.
	Losing dead weight?
	Nope.
	if you continue to hang with these people.
	All right, let's go back to the house.
	The drunken Salvador Dali watercolor in the rain lean to that's pretending to be a former abode, right?
	Now if you say to the builder, you have to build where this house is and you have to preserve this house, what's he gonna say?
	Build exactly where this house is, but preserve this house, what's he gonna say?
	That's the deal!
	Got to build where this house is and preserve this house.
	You are not losing a house because you don't have one.
	You are preventing a house from being built.
	When you hang around bullshit proximity non-relationships and you start to tell the truth,
	if you don't dump the trash, you are not losing relationships, you are preventing
	relationships.
	You're not losing relationships, you're preventing relationships
	by pretending you're losing relationships.
	you.
	You don't have a house, you won't knock down the house, which means you can't get a house.
	You are crippling yourself.
	You are preventing relationships by hanging around bullshit proximity.
	Gotta lie in order to be around people.
	I don't care if they're friends.
	I don't care if they're family.
	I don't care if they're the Archangel Gabriel and his pet dog Mango.
	You are just living in a decaying former abode that is only called a house for linguistic
	convenience.
	Thank you.
	You end up with nowhere to live if you can't knock... if you can't stand knocked down... You end up with nowhere to live if you can't...
	Stand knocking down that within which there is no shelter.
	You can't live in the house that's rotten.
	And if you can't stand knocking it down, you got no place to live.
	If you can't stand to destroy that which is trash, you cannot plant that which will grow.
	You can't do it.
	Just hanging around, crying about a house that was wrecked a hundred years ago, saying, I'm losing this house, I can't knock down this house because I'm losing... You're not!
	You're just preventing a proper house from being built.
	You all knotted up and this bullshit proximity stuff is keeping good people away from forming any kind of honest
	bond with you.
	I mean, imagine.
	You're driving, some guy's sobbing.
	Hey, you okay, man?
	Oh, this house, this house, I'm losing this house.
	It's like, this is a shit pit of decayed, rotten timbers and holes and asbestos and mold, and what are you talking about?
	This is not a house, this is a liability.
	This is not a house, this is the prevention of a house.
	This is the opposite of a house!
	This is an anti-house!
	This is a trap of anti-shelter!
	It's a trap!
	you It's a good thing.
	It's not a house, it's a cathedral of poison!
	It's not a place of shelter but of asbestos mold and black lung death!
	And I'm not telling you anything you don't already know.
	I'm not giving you one single shred of information you don't already know.
	Right?
	I built a trap house!
	It's mighty mighty!
	Gonna let it all hang out!
	Love you Big Daddy Steph!
	Thank you!
	you. I appreciate it. There's no more opposite of a house than
	a non house You can't give up because you call it a house.
	Does that make sense?
	No.
	Thank you.
	God bless.
	God bless.
	Does it make sense?
	Told you it was gonna be a good ending.
	A happy ending, I dare say.
	All right.
	I've got some great call-ins coming your way.
	If you'd like a private call, freedomain.com.
	To help out with the show, freedomain.com would really help out.
	We're doing some fantastic work.
	I have forgotten to do the demo of the new installable Freedomain apps, so I will do that tomorrow.
	But thank you guys so much for Great conversations.
	They are impactful to me.
	They are impactful to the world.
	And I thank you for the stimulation.
	I thank you for the fat fingered typists of tonight.
	I really do.
	I'm not kidding.
	I absolutely thank you for that.
	Have yourself a glorious and wonderful evening.
	We will do maybe Friday night we'll do a Skype thing.
	Those chats are nice, but they're tough on donations.
	But we'll figure that one out.
	We'll figure that one out as we go.
	All right.
	Lots of love, everyone.
	Thank you so much.
	for your time, effort, and attention and support tonight.
	Freedomain.com slash donate.
	I'll talk to you soon.

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