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Dec. 20, 2023 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux

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	Hello, good evening to your Wednesday Night Live.
	It is the 6th of...
	December 2024. Hope you're going to have a 2023.
	There we go. I just almost lost a year there.
	That was close. And I actually saw something funny on Twitter today.
	It was, uh, the perfect Christmas tree top decoration doesn't exist.
	And it was actually like a pulsating eye of Sauron that could go on top of your Christmas tree.
	Goals and temptations.
	Alright, thank you, Matt, for your lovely support.
	I appreciate that tip.
	Thank you for chapters 8 and 9 of your Peaceful Parenting book.
	Oh, but Matt, there's so much more today.
	I did over an hour, which is part 10, which is starting at the second part of the book, which goes from theory to practice.
	I love the idea that peaceful parenting, says Matt, is about what not to do.
	The last two minutes of chapter 8 were epic.
	It's so true that if you tell someone not to hit their child, they will ask you what to do instead.
	It's so absurd when you think about it.
	Hitting your wife is morally wrong.
	But, but, but, dear sir, how will I manage?
	Um, we shouldn't have slavery.
	Well, how can any food and shelter be produced without slaves?
	Oh, I'll figure it out.
	So yeah, thank you very much for your support.
	I appreciate that. And I am here for you.
	Greetings from Finland.
	Finland, greetings back to y'all.
	To y'all. All right, let's get to your comments, questions, problems.
	Sweater? This ain't no sweater, baby.
	It's funny, I complained about the house.
	My wife and daughter went out shopping today, and I complained when they got home about the house being cold.
	So my wife said, well, this is supposed to be for you for Christmas, and she handed me this.
	I don't know, it's not really a sweater, it's just, I don't know, some kind of mystery top, but it's not knit or anything, it's just cotton, I think, so.
	Bitcoin to the moon? Obviously, correlation is not causation, but every time I do a Bitcoin show, dot, dot, dot...
	Top of the evening to you, sir!
	That's right. Listening from Bondi Beach.
	Great podcast about pets listening to this morning, 6 a.m.
	Walking. Wood salad.
	Started the French Revolution and loving it.
	Hey, thanks, Robespierre. Oh!
	Yeah, I'm afraid that one hit me in the solar plexus just as much as it hit you in the Uranus.
	Started the French Revolution and loving it.
	That's not Robespierre back from the dead with half a jaw.
	That is in fact my guardian angel.
	Well, I'm really glad you like it. And for those of you who want to check it out, I will just give you the link.
	You can... Check it out for free.
	Give it a try. Here is your link.
	And you can cancel any time.
	It's about as nice and kind.
	And I don't know if I've mentioned this for a while, but there is a promo, cooking at freedemand.locals.com, where you sign up for 10 months and you get two months for free.
	Free, free, free, free, free.
	All right. I see you.
	Well, I hope you're not listening to this in the intensive care unit and you're just pointing out the fact that I have video on.
	All right. Ah, Bondi Beach.
	Where is Bondi Beach? I always remember the singer for Duran Duran.
	They did a view to a kill or something.
	They did some pretty whiny song for a Bond movie.
	And I remember Simon LeBond was the name of the singer.
	The name's Bond. Simon LeBond.
	That's kind of funny. Grilling six ducks tonight.
	Well, I hope they cough up the information you need.
	Good morning from down under.
	Did Bitcoin hit 100,000?
	It's up 20% from two weeks ago.
	Yes, it is. Episode 5326 is how to free people.
	The commentary on pets and people was profound.
	Recommend it. And now Duran Duran is playing in my head.
	All right. Of course, he had an odd kind of half-whiny He just didn't hit the note.
	Okay, what Duran Duran?
	What D-Squared songs? I mean, Duran Duran was so big when I was younger that when they came to a concert in Toronto, it was called D-Squared Day.
	Like D-Day, but D-Squared Day.
	So what Duran Duran songs do you like?
	I have a fave and a couple that I think are okay, but what Duran Duran songs do you like?
	Wild Boys. So, Wild Boys is great, but Wild Boys, boy, it does really feel like he's straining his voice at the very top there pretty hard, right?
	Yeah, it's a great song, very passionate, but...
	Like what Robert Palmer was saying to The Edge, can you just get your singer to stop giving all other singers a headache?
	So what else? Hungry Like the Wolf, great song.
	Great, great song.
	The Chauffeur, you should look that up.
	Particularly the live versions of The Chauffeur were great.
	We'll try to stay a while to the hopes and fear outside.
	That is a good song, too.
	Good song, too. All right.
	A View to a Kill? That's the view.
	That was the one from the Bond movie, right?
	Save a Prayer? Yeah.
	Yeah. All right.
	Anyone having connection issues?
	Well, I think with that philosophy, don't we all?
	All right. The one with the Jane Fonda cameo.
	I think that was North Korea, wasn't it?
	Oh no, North Vietnam. All right, um, let's see here.
	Who's down? Alan says, Hi Steph, I'm feeling bad today.
	I lost my job. I quit.
	Because I was being treated unfairly, humiliated, and it's not the first time.
	I'm in a different country, so I decided to quit.
	Even though I'm now in despair, I've managed to find a job one day after as a painter.
	But I already was working with that for three months.
	There's a fun song by Christa Berg called The Painter.
	You should check it out. But, uh...
	Dennis is a menace with his...
	Anyone for tennis? And beseech me to come and keep the score.
	And Maud says, Oh, Lord, I'm so terribly bored.
	I really can't stand it anymore.
	Patricia the Stripper. The Patricia the Stripper is...
	I think I've seen Christa Berg like three times in my life.
	It's great. Okay, sorry, let's get back to you.
	So, I worked as a painter for half a summer.
	All right job, not too bad.
	You can listen to some music, do some painting, although the fumes were not that much fun.
	So, you were being treated unfairly and humiliated.
	He says, my good job only lasted two months.
	I feel like I'm going backwards in life again.
	I'm an immigrant. And I feel like I made the right choice by not compromising.
	But I still think I should have done something better, hold better, because I have a wife that is pregnant, and I have to pay insane amounts of money just to be here in Australia.
	What can I do to stop suffering about this decision?
	Was it the right decision?
	I can't decide this right now, and I'm anxious and insecure about my future again.
	Well, I mean, if you want to do a call-in show, we can do...
	Durand Duran was a character in Barbarella, right?
	Well, I'm a little confused my friend, Al.
	So, you didn't lose your job if you quit.
	I mean, the language is important, right?
	You quit. And whether you should or shouldn't have quit, I don't know.
	Working as a painter is fine.
	It's fine. By not compromising.
	So, it's interesting. Not compromising.
	Alright, let me start with this.
	Hit me with a why if you've ever had to kind of suck it up and do a job which you are treated badly in.
	Yes. Sometimes this job, I will tell you.
	Hit me with a why if you've ever had to do a job or keep doing a job because And you're just being treated badly and things aren't going well and you just kind of have to grit your teeth and get through it.
	Right. I said this to a caller the other day.
	He was stuck in his life, and be prepared for some generalized statements about males and females, which may or may not be applicable to your particular situation, but I was talking to a caller.
	He's twenty-five years old, never really had a job, or he works occasionally, still living at home with his mom, had a really, really terrible childhood with his mother.
	I was being mistreated because I'm an immigrant, Stefan.
	and //
	you No, I don't believe it.
	Because not all immigrants are mistreated, I assume.
	Not all immigrants are being mistreated.
	And of course if you say I'm being it I'm gonna be mistreated because I'm an immigrant then you have no choice to not
	be mistreated So
	I mean their jobs I've quit I mean, because they were just completely appalling.
	Like, just terrible. Like, just, I couldn't do it.
	I couldn't do it. Anyway, so this guy I was talking to yesterday, he was like, oh, I'm waiting for some inspiration to happen.
	I'm waiting for me to figure out what I want to do with my life, this, that, and the other.
	and I'm like...
	but that's leading with your feelings, waiting for your feelings to determine
	where you go in life and what you do.
	Yes, my office job has caused my diabetes diagnosis due to the sedentary nature of
	office work.
	Oh, Sam. Oh, are we, uh, are we, is it Wednesday night excuses day?
	Hey, Nick, how you doing? Is it really?
	I mean, don't you have to, I mean, I'm sure women do sometimes as well, but don't you as a man just have to grit your teeth and grind through shit in order to get anywhere?
	Maybe I just had bad luck, but most of being a man in particular is just grinding through shit until you get somewhere.
	Hopefully you get somewhere.
	No guarantee you will. I was the only one on a team of three being mistreated for no reason.
	I've recorded the audio and provided it to the owner.
	It was cherry picking. You were being mistreated for no reason.
	I mean, okay, Alan, let me ask you this, just as a whole.
	Let me ask you this. Do you think that I have been mistreated by the world unjustly?
	Just out of curiosity. Maybe you think it's true.
	Maybe you think it's not true. I actually saw a...
	It was a graph the other day of the most contentious topics in academia, the ones that are the most attacked and suppressed.
	I'm like, hey, that was my business plan!
	So, do you think that I have been unfairly maligned, lied about, and mistreated by the world as a whole over the course of being a public Moral philosopher.
	Hit me with a Y if I think I have.
	Hit me with a Y if you think I have.
	Steph was treated great on YouTube.
	Yes, yes.
	Okay, so...
	Have you ever heard me say, I was mistreated for no reason?
	It's a mystery! How could this have happened?
	There was no way to tell.
	I enormously dislike it, which doesn't mean I'm right or wrong.
	I'm just telling you my...
	I was treated to the door.
	The door would have been better.
	They catapulted me nuts first.
	I really really dislike it when people say I was just mistreated for no reason.
	I really really dislike it when people say I was just mistreated for no reason.
	I was mistreated for no reason.
	Kids can say it.
	Kids can say it for sure.
	But adults?
	Adults?
	No reason.
	No reason.
	you Well, Al, I don't know how blunt you want me to be in this situation.
	Are you a signal lost your back?
	Do you have, or is there a habit, or do you have the experience of being mistreated on a regular basis, of being treated unjustly on a regular basis?
	Just yes or no? I'm hoping as they upgrade locals that I won't have to sit there and wait 45 seconds for a response to a question.
	I don't know, it's just like it's really tough.
	Full blunt? You want me to go full blunt?
	Okay. I just need a yes.
	Or no. Yes, but I don't care.
	Oh my god. I don't care about being mistreated, Steph, but I'm going to give you a wall of text on how terrible it is that I'm mistreated.
	Of course you care. I don't know what to do with this level of deception.
	Honestly, Al, I have no idea what to do with this level of deception.
	You're saying you feel terrible because you've quit work because you were mistreated, and now you say, I don't care that I'm mistreated.
	What am I supposed to do with that?
	How am I supposed to have any kind of conversation with someone who contradicts themselves that quickly and that deeply?
	I have no idea what to say.
	I don't care. I don't care.
	No, it's not a draw.
	you you
	I mean, I would imagine that one of the reasons you're mistreated is you can't even stand by your own prior statement of 45 seconds ago.
	What am I supposed to do?
	I don't care. I can get by.
	Of course I care. Sorry, English is not my first language.
	Nope. No, no, no.
	I'm not taking that.
	See, there's more deception.
	You had a perfectly coherent couple of paragraphs above, and now I suddenly...
	I'm sorry, don't be laughing.
	Come on, man. Come on, man.
	You were a cop in the past.
	Well, maybe you're used to getting your way because you were a cop, and it's a little tough for you to negotiate from more of a subservient or egalitarian standpoint.
	I don't care. I can get by.
	Oh, I don't care equals I can get by.
	See, you ever have these conversations?
	And I'm happy to keep going on this one.
	I'm happy to keep going on this one.
	But do you ever have these conversations where you don't know which way is up anymore?
	People just contradict themselves.
	So he's saying I'm super sad.
	I'm really down because I quit my job because I was mistreated.
	I get mistreated because I'm an immigrant.
	It was totally unfair. I don't care.
	Well, no, I mean, I'll be fine.
	And what are you supposed to say?
	Like, Al, you have an inconstancy in your communication.
	You make up perspectives and disintegrate prior perspectives with no seemingly sense of continuity.
	Right? Saying, I'm super sad about it.
	I don't care. I'm really depressed that I have to go back to painting.
	I've got a pregnant wife. Well, no, I'll get by.
	I don't know. Trades are brutal.
	Uses are crass and really nasty sometimes.
	Yes, that is true. All physical labor comes with verbal abuse.
	Am I wrong? Hit me if I'm wrong.
	It doesn't all physical labor and I include the trades in that not that I wanted to say it's skilled labor for sure
	But isn't it the case that all physical labor comes with verbal abuse?
	Is this the fact of life You
	you That's right, isn't it? Yeah. I mean, every physical labor job that I've ever had, every work with your hands, move stuff around job, comes with some pretty brutal verbal abuse, right?
	And I mean, I'm saying verbal abuse, it's not like you would experience as a kid and all of that.
	So the question is, why?
	Yes, all the time, nobody wants to work with a pussy, right?
	So why is it that manual laborers, the proletariat, including the skilled trades,
	why are they so verbally harsh?
	Why are they so verbally harsh?
	It balances the risk of loss of limbs.
	Yeah, it's a very macho environment, right?
	Yes, the exception being when I did garden maintenance on my own.
	In high school?
	Oh no, you didn't.
	You didn't consciously type that and think that was adding something to the conversation.
	So, are you saying that you weren't verbally abused by the fucking garden gnome?
	Or the rake? Or your hand?
	Or did you pull your dick out of your fly?
	Pull out your pockets and say, oh no, I'm being yelled at by the elephant.
	So I say, you know, all jobs, all physical labor jobs involve verbal abuse.
	This, of course, means you're not working alone.
	And you're like, well no, there is an exception when I worked on my own.
	All tennis games involve hitting back balls.
	Well, no, but when I'm practicing my serve and there's no one on the other side...
	I'm sorry.
	That's very funny. Oh my gosh.
	I love that you said that.
	It's the greatest non-sequitur.
	Claiming an exception to a rule.
	That's the greatest reply guy statement in the history of the internet.
	Like, no... I'm sorry, I don't mean to sound mean or anything.
	I've dealt with this stuff for like 40 years.
	Yes, you know, when you work with other people in manual labor jobs, there tends to be verbal abuse.
	Well, but the exception is when I don't work with other people.
	LAUGHTER I'm sorry.
	That's great. That's great.
	Oh, well done. The exception being, you know, give me your address.
	I will send you 400 fedoras.
	That is very funny.
	It is funny, right?
	Again, I'm not trying to be mean.
	Ha ha.
	Steph, I would love to call in. I can't express myself because I'm working.
	I freaked out by losing my signal here and I'm working right now.
	I had to type faster summarizing, but I'm taking ownership.
	I'm trying to be better.
	I also had my tutu studio. I also had my tattoo studio.
	I wasn't a bad cop. I was working as a prison guard in Brazil.
	It's called cop there.
	Oh, so you were a prison guard...
	you.
	You tattooed people with child abuse brandings, right?
	You ran a tattoo studio.
	Why would you run a tattoo studio?
	That's a pretty ignoble way to make a buck, isn't it?
	All right, well, because you're busy and you're at work, so, yeah, excuses, excuses, excuses, right?
	So, he expresses himself very clearly in a couple of paragraphs.
	I call him out in contradictions and he says, but I can't express myself because I'm working.
	You make up excuses.
	When something is contradictory in your behavior and someone calls you out on it, you make up excuses.
	And excuses lead to escalation.
	Well, they lead to avoidance or escalation.
	And do you know why, in general?
	I mean, everybody has worked with people who make up constant excuses.
	And do you know why constant excuses lead either to avoidance or escalation?
	Because when somebody communicates very well and then when called out says,
	well I can't communicate because I'm at work.
	You either stop the conversation because you can't get anywhere or you tell the person to stop manipulating you.
	Stop making excuses. Don't invite me into a conversation and then when you don't hear what you want, claim a complete inability to communicate.
	So people will either avoid you or they'll get angry at you.
	That's the only the only thing that ever comes out of constant excuses is people avoid you or they get angry at
	So Excuses cost you quality people
	See, what happens is excuses are a form of manipulation and it's a form of self-pity.
	It's a form of playing the victim.
	And what excuses do, since they are manipulative, is you constantly have to change Your story.
	So what happens is you say, well, I'm a victim.
	People just treat me badly. It's never my fault.
	They treat immigrants badly and it's really expensive here.
	And I can't type now because I'm at work and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
	Okay. And English is not my first language and all that kind of stuff.
	Okay. So you just keep making excuses.
	So you invite people in to the self-pity party.
	And then what happens is people say, well, I could just give you the self-pity party, but that would be having nothing but contempt for your potential.
	If I just agree, oh yes, the life is terrible and you're just this victim and poor you and it's so sad and terrible things and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
	Well, then I'm just saying I have no respect for you whatsoever as a human being.
	And it also goes against my own experiences, which life will treat you like shit on a regular basis.
	Isn't that the case? Like, people will treat you like shit on a regular basis.
	Tell me if I'm wrong.
	I mean, I'm not trying to certainly say anything to do with self-pity.
	I'm just saying, is it not a fact in life?
	And maybe I just have a special gift of bringing out the best in people, but is it not the case?
	That people will treat you like shit on a regular basis.
	Now, not the people in your life that you love and care about and so on, but the world as a whole, right?
	The world as a whole, people will treat you like shit on a regular basis.
	It's true, right? I mean, it's just a fact, right?
	So, when someone comes to me with a victim narrative, as Al did come, when someone comes to me with a victim narrative, I know they're begging me to call them out on their shit.
	Right. When someone comes to me, to me of all people, Comes to me and says, I'm just being treated badly for no reason.
	I never do anything. It's just because I'm an innocent immigrant and I guess there's some sort of prejudice or something like that.
	Because I'm an immigrant and then they just come up with excuses after excuses after excuse when I point out any potential culpability, i.e.
	control, i.e. capacity to handle negative stimuli.
	Because you wouldn't come to me.
	You understand, you would never come to me To get someone to reinforce your victim narrative, right?
	Like of all the people, right?
	Of all the people to come to, there's lots of people you could go to who are totally going to reinforce your victim narrative.
	Oh, it's so bad. Oh, you're being treated so wrong.
	It's so unfair. It's so unjust.
	You're such a poor little victim and all that kind of stuff, right?
	I mean, you can go to tons of people to get that, right?
	But if you come to me, it's because you want to free yourself from your victim narrative.
	Because if you are addicted to a victim narrative, you will make bullies out of every variable personality around you.
	People respond to your self-perception.
	Most people, they don't have any objective integrity.
	They don't have UPP. They don't have values.
	They don't have virtues. They don't have standards.
	They just conform to the expectations of those around them.
	And so if you come in with a victim narrative, people are going to treat me badly, I'm a victim, right?
	Then people will be like, okay, I'll push you around.
	If you expect to be bullied, if you're kind of belligerent, if you're difficult, if you make excuses, right?
	I can tell you what happened.
	You want to know what happened at your work?
	I can tell you what happened at your work.
	You did something wrong, people tried to call you out on it, you made a lot of fucking excuses and people got mad.
	They treated you badly and then you quit.
	Steph, I remember you did the video with the man who was about to die.
	I'm grateful you allowed him on the show.
	I think it helped him and us a lot.
	Yeah, I did another show that was never released with a woman who was facing...
	She had two little children and she was terminal.
	Cancer diagnosis.
	Terrible. In my personal experience, people treat strangers quite well here in Finland.
	Then again, Finland is something of an exception as a nation of people, I suppose.
	I could go to Finland and be lynched within five minutes.
	It's just a talent.
	Everybody brings something to the table.
	Being able to arouse human hatred is just one of my special talents.
	It's a gift, really.
	It's something that my family, I think, has worked on for quite some time, but I really feel it's matched its peak in me.
	The capacity to turn nuns into vampires and have them thirsty for my jugular It's, um...
	I mean, if I were religious, I would say it's God-given.
	It's a God-given gift to just provoke the living shit out of people who think that they're reasonable.
	It just is the way that it is.
	If it's any consolation, I do it to myself, too.
	So... Hello!
	Back for three more months of the truth, be it easy or hard.
	Thank you, freedom man. Well, thank you.
	Thank you, I appreciate that.
	I appreciate that.
	Men in Australia, actual men, they'll give you shit for either not performing or being too sensitive.
	The focus of the ridicule is irrelevant, even when it's racist.
	Well, Finland is kind of racist, so yeah.
	I still don't know what the word racist means.
	Um, so...
	I'd watch a movie about Steph versus vampire nuns.
	LOL. Well, it would involve a huge amount of incense and a fair amount of baby oil, I'd assume.
	So... You did that to Vancouver when you tried to come here.
	Our sweet, polite society turned into a witch-hunt mob.
	Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.
	Moderate society is people being nice because they've hypnotized themselves with the false drug of false virtue.
	And then when you point out that it's a false drug of false virtue, they turn on you in a feral manner.
	You know, drug addicts are fine if you give them their drug.
	It's just if you don't give them their drug or you threaten to withhold that drug, they'll fucking turn on you like a bunch of coked-up emotional terrorists.
	They absolutely will. Aussie accent?
	I backed off from the Aussie accent.
	I would love a call in, but I have to go back to work.
	you Do you think I just do live streams and then immediately interrupt them to do a call-in in the moment?
	Sorry! I know you all booked off a couple of hours for a live stream, but I'm going to do a call-in right now, so bye!
	I'm sorry. Oh my gosh.
	Oh my gosh.
	He didn't say, I'd love a call-in, so how do I arrange one?
	Nope, I gotta go back to work!
	Oh well. You know what?
	Some people prefer excuses, and who am I to...
	Oh, did I miss something?
	Did I miss something? What did I miss?
	Let me just see here.
	Come on, you can load more messages.
	I really feel that you can.
	Oh, I thought you had to go back to work.
	No, you're still typing. Even better.
	I can't talk. I gotta work.
	Wait, let me come back to correct you one point.
	Okay, no, telegram calls.
	No, telegram calls are chatty chats, right?
	The verbal abuse is an initiation, sort of.
	If you can't take the insults, well you won't take the work well.
	My experience of verbal abuse was worst when I work alone.
	.
	How do you know you were alone?
	I worked as a commercial painter and worked on a crew that painted a Hilton hotel.
	It was very hostile because the stakes were high and a lot of the workers were too.
	It's a lot to manage for the supervisors, yeah yeah.
	Oh, uh, wait, I'm- I'm a ways back here.
	I'm a ways back. He works forever until he's not working.
	Yeah, yeah. Far, far apart are the concepts of being a good person and a polite person who smiles and chats with you before plunging the knife in.
	Do you believe the universe is designed?
	I do not.
	What is the psychology behind people who constantly talk and have to make jokes
	not leaving any room for pause?
	What is the psychology behind people who constantly talk and have to make jokes
	not leaving any room for pause?
	Well, I've known a few people like that in my life, and they do tend to be a little tiring.
	A little to do, hit me with a why, if you know somebody like that, the hyped up Robin
	Williams perpetual jokester.
	No, it's not bipolar, because bipolar is up and down, right?
	They're hiding something.
	You do, right?
	Your dad?
	and I'll see you next time.
	That's tough. Oh, he was a drunk?
	Yeah, drunks do it for sure.
	Wanting mother's approval as a child?
	Well, not every one of them is Robert Williams, but I'm sure quite a few of them are.
	All right. Psychology of someone who constantly needs to make jokes.
	Almost always, in my experience, almost always it's a male attribute, and almost always it's because of a suicidal mother.
	And I don't mean a woman who's a mom who's like got a gun in her mouth, Mel Gibson style, or is standing on the edge of a bridge.
	But a mother who has a severe undertow of thanatos, a death impulse.
	A death impulse.
	Compulsive joking is a form of perpetual CPR on a decaying and self-destructive soul.
	Does that make sense?
	I'm not saying do you agree with it, but does it sort of make sense?
	you I don't know if Robin Williams was bipolar.
	But Robin Williams had a desperate desire to be liked which came out of his depressed
	mother, as is often the case with comedians.
	Comedians are constantly trying to save one or both parents from self-destruction.
	And so you learn to become entertaining, you learn to become a fun person, because otherwise your mom's going to kill herself, or die, or whatever, right?
	Douglas Adams had a theory about that.
	If their mouths stop working, their brains will start working.
	That's a pithy bunch of nonsense.
	Something I've realized I do a lot.
	I make jokes often, and when things should be more serious, it annoys me and I'm trying to work on it.
	I am this person.
	I am trying to stop, but this is me.
	My single mother had depression and I was an only child, right?
	All it has done was undermine my ability to get respect, and I deserve it.
	And I know exactly, sorry, this is the only person, I know exactly the event that caused the joking side within me.
	Mom threatened to leave the family forever after Dad criticized her cooking.
	Right. So, there's an easy way to figure out what compulsive behavior is covering up.
	We all know this one, right?
	Oh, your mother also had depression?
	Yeah. Sam says, in my dad's case, his mother was psychologically abusive and manipulative, which manifested in my father as constant joking.
	Hard to make a serious conversation with him, right?
	So if you have repetitive compulsive behavior, it's honestly, it takes about 20 seconds to figure out what it's covering up.
	It's amazing to me that people go through life acting these bizarre ways when 20 seconds of a particular choice would reveal exactly what's going on and begin the process of solving the whole problem.
	And you know what you do if you have a compulsive habit to joke, to make jokes?
	So what you do if you want to figure out what is behind compulsive repetitive behavior like compulsive joking
	Is to shut up.
	I have a friend who's like this who was adopted.
	Yes, very common among adopted people.
	You shut up. No.
	Whatever your compulsive behavior is, you just stop doing it.
	Because the compulsive behavior is there to cover up an emotion.
	And as long as you're doing that compulsive behavior, you're drowning the emotion completely.
	By shouting it out with your behavior, right?
	So you just...
	I mean, do you find this tough? Just shut up.
	I mean, I know me with my three-hour life.
	Well, just shut up. But I spent most of the day completely quiet.
	I read from the Peaceful Parenting book this morning, and then a guy was over to help fix something at the house.
	I chatted with him for a while.
	And then I listened to an audiobook while relaxing on the couch, and then I finished the Bill O'Reilly book, Killing Jesus, and then my family came home, I had a dinner, and I spent most of the day not talking to anyone.
	No problem with that. My in-laws talk all the time, never silence, constant pretend laughing.
	I can't stand it. Yeah, you just do the opposite, right?
	If you always need to be the center of attention, let someone else do it.
	Let someone else be the center of attention.
	If you feel the need to constantly make jokes, just shut up.
	Or conversely, if you feel like you can't ever say boo to a mouse, make yourself talk about something.
	You just do the opposite. And the emotion will emerge.
	It's always there. It's always there.
	It's always there. Just don't do anything.
	Whatever your anxiety avoidance is compelling you to do.
	Just don't do it. Don't let the anxiety win.
	Don't let the anxiety dictate your behavior.
	And, you know, one of the reasons why this is so important is you are silent all the time around them.
	Oh, you're in-laws who talk all the time?
	Yeah. Yeah.
	So you won't want to change that, right?
	I mean, if you want to. My mother was psychologically abusive, verbally abusive.
	Dad, verbal, physical. Yes, thanks to you, I know why.
	Also, my brother and I were adopted.
	Really, my question is, why bother adopting us if they had no interest in us as people?
	What do you mean, why? Don't they get paid by the government?
	I mean, most people who adopt, as far as I understand it, well, a lot of people who adopt, don't they get subsidies or paid by the government?
	Not everyone, of course, but most of the people I know who got adopted.
	Most people I know who got adopted were adopted into families which get paid.
	Being comfortable with silence and connecting with your own emotions helps with many problems.
	It just brings clarity, in my experience.
	Yeah. Yeah.
	I mean, being able to sit with your thoughts without your mind totally wandering to the point where you don't even know what you're thinking about after a while.
	Being able to sit with your thoughts without distraction and without spacing out and just going all over the universe is tough, right?
	It's tough. Only if they're faster.
	Is that right? I don't know if that's right.
	I've been married for 30 years.
	I've tried to help my spouse be quiet nicely, but then they yell at me.
	So yell back. I don't know what to yell back.
	I don't understand. You know, when you think about it, it's really interesting to mull over how much actual freedom do you have in your life?
	If someone yells at me, I'll just yell back at them.
	Right? My chiropractor told me he's opting to put his kids on ADHD meds because the government will give him extra support payments.
	Well, yeah. I mean, if your kid has a disability, you can get, what, $600, it used to be the case, $600 a month in extra Social Security payments.
	So, yeah, it's all just money, money, money.
	Silent prayer is a great way to learn that skill.
	I think you're right about that. Yeah, constant wondering thoughts can cause a negative spiral.
	Well, they don't go anywhere, right? So constant wondering thoughts, well, what about this and what about that?
	They never go anywhere, they never solve any problems, and you just end up kind of exhausted.
	Could be, says the adoptee.
	I never looked into it. It was a closed adoption.
	Our biological mother had two kids before us, two more after us.
	She was 16 when she had us, late 1970s, right?
	Right? And of course, your mother might have been statutorily raped, right?
	If she was 16 and it was an older kid, depending on what the age of consent is where you are.
	Depends how you define freedom.
	Pretty free. Especially when you don't self-censor.
	Right. So, as far as compulsion, this is like the compulsion show, right?
	right? In a way. So the guy earlier, the guy who was complaining about being
	mistreated at work and having to quit, he was a compulsive apology guy, excuses and
	a compulsive excuse guy.
	A compulsive excuses guy.
	He couldn't not make an excuse.
	And the people who compulsively joke, they can't not make jokes.
	So they really don't have any free will.
	They really just have to do it.
	Because the anxiety that is chasing them is so massive and terrifying.
	That they have no free will, sort of in the same way, do you have the free will to continue swimming in the ocean if you see a great white shark go sailing by, right?
	Well, no. You really don't have the free will unless you want to die, or could die, right?
	So, you don't really have the free will to stay swimming in the ocean if you see a giant shark go by.
	And if your anxiety is like that shark, you don't have any free will.
	Because your whole life is managing that anxiety, managing that fear, managing that tension.
	Right? I really like your earlier videos.
	Your early videos on an anarcho-capitalist society.
	Well, what you should do then, Doormaster, is you should.
	I'm going to get you the link right now.
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	want to be Jokes are a sort of safe way to speak the truth as long as it's actually funny and people can take it to be more than one thing.
	The compulsive jokers, though, erase others.
	To me, jokes are at their best when you go back and forth, if that makes sense.
	Everybody goes back and forth and joins in, then it's a uniting experience.
	But if it's just one person making jokes and other people just kind of laughing a little or a lot or whatever
	then It's it's kind of an erasure of the others
	Somebody says I used to be overly joking and I both entertained and annoyed many people
	I have this habit mostly under control.
	Now I notice how insecure other people are.
	They are intimidated and angered by my seriousness.
	I actually feel fear now. Fear of attack by not entertaining my parents?
	No, you're not feeling. You're not feeling your fear.
	Right? When you stop avoiding your own emotions, what's the next thing you crash into?
	When you stop avoiding your own emotions, what's the next thing you crash into?
	Guaranteed. A co-worker of mine is a constant joker and I feel the self-erasure around him and he does that.
	Yeah, because the constant joker is also, he's kind of, he's a demanding person.
	It's like, laugh, I'm funny, right?
	Laugh, I'm funny, right? It's like, maybe I'm not in the mood or maybe I don't find you that funny.
	And it's like, you've got to give that polite laugh and there's never any honesty, right?
	Others, says Sam.
	So when you stop avoiding your own emotions, the next thing you crash into is other people's avoided emotions.
	Do you see what I mean? A reason and an excuse differ by accepting personal responsibility.
	What does that mean? A reason and an excuse differ by accepting personal responsibility.
	Okay, I think I get that. As in, I fell asleep at work because I was tired.
	I was tired because a poor time management kept me up late.
	The first is an excuse.
	The second, a reason. Do I have that right?
	Taking personal responsibility for my choices?
	No, oh my god Please I'm begging you
	On my knees, I'm begging you.
	Accept no reasons for what you do.
	Not one. Not ever.
	Accept no reasons for what you do.
	I did this because.
	Nope. I fell at work because I was tired.
	I was tired because I stayed up too late.
	I stayed up too late because of poor time management skills.
	Every reason as to why you do anything is just another tsunami pounding into the sandcastle
	of your free will.
	My reason is always because I was weak.
	It's truth. Nope. Nope.
	Nope. Verbal abuse, calling yourself weak.
	Nope.
	If the cause is uncaused, it cannot be a cause.
	You can't say something is caused and then say that the cause of the effect is uncaused.
	The cause of the effect was itself uncaused.
	you Oh, okay, he says.
	I'm still weak. I'm not going to disagree with your self-assessment.
	I just think it's profoundly unhelpful.
	I'm still weak as an excuse.
	Well, I'm weak. Why can't I not lift 500 pounds above my head?
	because I'm weak!
	Okay, well I just won't try and lift 500 pounds, right?
	Reasons are always excuses.
	Always, always, always. Reasons are always excuses.
	Well, I drink because my parents were drunks.
	Nope. Well, I have anxiety because I had a bad childhood.
	Nope! Yeah, it's the wisdom to know the difference of the serenity prayer.
	That's what they never go into.
	Why do you make excuses all the time?
	Well, you know, I grew up with parents who blamed me too much and I had to make excuses just to survive.
	That's why I make excuses as an adult.
	Nope!
	That's not why you make excuses as an adult.
	Because you could easily, you could just as easily have the opposite, right?
	If a thing and its opposite can both lead to the same effect, you don't have a cause at all.
	Oh, the serenity of prayer?
	God grant me the strength to change the things I can change, the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, and the wisdom to know the difference.
	Or something like that.
	So if you say, well, I make excuses because my parents criticized me too much, And that's why I just make excuses because I just got into the habit of making excuses so they wouldn't abuse me.
	And then somebody else says, well, I make excuses all the time because my parents never gave me any feedback at all.
	And they never gave me any rational way of evaluating my own behavior.
	So I just make excuses because I don't know how to evaluate my own behavior, right?
	So if the thing and its opposite are the cause or can be the cause or can be explained as the cause, you don't have a cause.
	The cause of a sunburn is both excessive sunlight and the opposite of excessive sunlight.
	It's like, then you don't have a cause.
	Now the serenity prayer is just a way of thinking that people have something philosophical.
	you You know, it's like somebody saying, well, you know, the...
	The path to virtue is doing the right thing even when it's difficult.
	Even when you know you're going to be attacked.
	Just finding a way to fight your way through to the truth and virtue and be an example to inspire others no matter what.
	How does that help you make any decisions in life?
	It's just something that people say.
	It's a fucking bumper sticker.
	It's a slogan. The point of healthy living is to exercise at just the right amount, not too much, to accept yourself for the things you can't change about your body, and also to find the right level of nutrition and calories and balance of fruits and vegetables and meats.
	You know, what the fuck does that help you plan your meals?
	The courage to change the things I can change.
	The serenity to accept the things I can't change and the wisdom to know the difference.
	See, it's that last part that's kind of important because if you don't have that, you ain't got nothing.
	Nothing! I'm a drunk because my parents were drunk.
	I never drank because my parents were drunk.
	See? Parents being drunk.
	Both produces alcoholism and being a teetotaler, right?
	Being an alcoholic and not touching alcohol both come from the cause of my parents were drunks.
	So how can the parents be drunks be the cause of anything if it can produce an effect and its opposite?
	I would not be nearly as good a parent if I hadn't been abused as a child.
	So, child abuse led me to become a better parent.
	The Serenity Pair is an AA thing.
	Oh, let's not get started on the AA.
	Forgive people, man.
	Is anything that came out of the 20th century not totally fucking hyper-feminine?
	All who counsel infinite forgiveness are doing so from a place of weakness.
	Yeah, the slave has to forgive the master because he can't do anything about it.
	And so there's something hyper-feminized about eternal forgiveness.
	Polaris says, yes, I always say I'm an excellent parent because my parents showed me what to do by being awful.
	They did that right.
	Okay, are you an excellent parent if you constantly call yourself weak?
	Well, I'm crazy because my parents were crazy.
	Well, I'm super sane because my parents were crazy.
	Parents being crazy doesn't cause anything.
	So what is the cause?
	What is the cause?
	What is the cause of your behavior?
	Yeah, constant forgiveness for Forgiveness as an absolute is straight-up slave morality.
	If you're powerless, you might as well forgive and call your forgiveness a virtue because you can't inflict any punishments back.
	Right? What is the cause of your behavior?
	The question is a trap.
	Because once you identify a cause, you've just generated what?
	An excuse that fucks up your life.
	When people don't want to be good, They search for causes.
	Once they get their imaginary cause, they get a very real excuse which traps them in their badness.
	This is you, Polaris.
	If you don't mind me saying so, love that you're here.
	I'm thankful that you're here.
	Don't call yourself weak.
	That's an excuse. Well, I'm weak.
	I'm weak. I'm weak.
	That's an excuse It's a choice to be weak
	Well, why why did this guy become a boxer Well, because he was beaten up a lot as a kid and he learned how to do that.
	So there's no causes, but instead there are choices.
	There are as many causes as you believe there to be, but none of them exist outside your mind.
	There are as many causes as you believe there to be, but none of them exist outside your mind.
	Polaro says, yes, I am weak by choice.
	Oh, you defined yourself that way, so it's an excuse.
	I don't know what customer service has to do with this, Sam, but I'm happy to hear the case more.
	you you
	I mean, my brother and I had similar shared environments for a lot of our childhoods.
	We're totally opposite. Total opposites.
	What's the cause? What's the cause?
	My father and I couldn't be more opposite.
	What's the cause? If you're not the cause, you're a slave to imagined causes.
	Do you see what I mean?
	If you yourself are not the cause of your life, you're a slave to all the imagined causes
	and you're just the last fucking domino to fall into nothing.
	Why does this show exist?
	you you
	Why does this show exist?
	What's the cause of Freedom Aid?
	What's the cause of this show? What's the cause of this conversation?
	Well, uh, Steph had a very anti-rational mother and he experienced violence and so he's
	very interested in and his mother told him not to think and he's got an ODD personality
	with regards to his mother so instead of not thinking he does the exact opposite but just
	think a lot.
	Heh heh. Congratulations, you've just invented a Niagara of bullshit.
	That explains nothing.
	Heh heh heh heh. Bad parenting to provoke thought, your decisions, yeah.
	You chose to start a podcast.
	That's right. I chose to do it.
	What's the cause of my choice?
	Hello! Do you know what the word choice means?
	The lack of philosophy in pop culture.
	No! God!
	Be critical of your own answers.
	The lack of philosophy in pop culture.
	All right. So, when did pop culture ever have deep philosophy?
	The answer to that is never.
	There was pop culture in ancient Rome, ancient Greece, ancient Babylonia, ancient Sumeria, ancient Armenia.
	Pop culture all over the place.
	Trashy, local, bardic songs.
	So, for thousands and thousands and thousands of years, human beings have had pop culture.
	Right? The lack of philosophy in pop culture has been a permanent feature of humankind.
	Why is there only this show now?
	Ah, because of the Internet. Well, OK.
	Heh heh heh.
	This show exists because of the Internet.
	The Internet exists everywhere, so why aren't there more of these shows?
	It has philosophy, just really bad and myth-based.
	If it's bad and myth-based, it's not philosophy.
	Well, the witch doctor is just a kind of scientist.
	He just does it with more dancing and chicken heads.
	It's like, no, he's not a scientist.
	The world needed a philosophy show and you created the best one.
	I shared somebody says our shared childhood made me deeply empathetic
	Him, aggressive, manic, loud.
	We are twins, by the way. So, are you trying to troll me here?
	I mean, I know you're kind of agreeing with me, but what the hell are you talking about?
	Our shared childhood made me deeply empathetic, quiet, deep.
	Him, aggressive, manic, loud.
	Didn't make you anything. As an adult, who makes you?
	As an adult, who makes you?
	Who forges you in the furnace of what?
	Who makes you and your life?
	Yeah, you.
	We are self-forged swords.
	We are self-written novels.
	We are self-directed movies.
	We are our own makers.
	And I want you to think right back to the beginning.
	Right back to the beginning.
	Right back to the beginning of philosophy for you.
	Don't forget to tip. This is hard work.
	Hard work. I sweat buckets for the world, it feels like.
	I want you to think right back to the beginning.
	When did you first begin to think that philosophy might totally fuck you up?
	When did you first build Oh, philosophy is great. It's so exciting.
	Wow, I'm really gaining knowledge.
	When did you first get that uneasy feeling of like, ooh, especially the way the staff guy talks about it.
	Ah, it's pretty deep.
	It's pretty actionable. It's pretty personal.
	It's... Somebody says, this is insightful.
	I did not have an abusive childhood, but my wife did.
	Yeah, we both wanted to be peaceful parents years before we ever had kids.
	kits. We were our own makers.
	Last fall it hit you, back about six years ago.
	When I put it into practice instead of talking about it, yeah.
	Philosophy that can't be acted on is a great con.
	It's really the greatest con.
	I liked philosophy for ages but I got that feeling in 2018 and it just grew
	from that point.
	Philosophy starts out
	with relief and then the bill slowly comes.
	you Somebody says, I was always a philosopher.
	I had a brief period after my first long stay at a yoga monastery where I worried that I
	couldn't survive in society while being completely ethical.
	I couldn't survive in society without being completely ethical.
	you Boy, that's kind of an I-me-me-I statement, isn't it?
	Well, I, my ethics, I, me, purity, blah, blah, blah.
	I think you're supposed to help society, aren't you?
	You're the first person who I've seen talk about siding with ourselves when it came to
	my family of origin."
	So you had that choice, and when you began to first get a sense of what philosophy, I
	mean, could cost you.
	you A course is an excuse for a choice.
	What? No.
	No. Oh, an excuse for a choice, like you made a choice, but you're pretending you didn't?
	I don't know. Commitment to truth is often painful.
	Your insight helped me keep going.
	Yes, I'm there now. I knew it was dangerous immediately.
	If you're surrounded by real violence, these arguments will get you crucified.
	Yeah. Yeah, for sure.
	For sure. Everybody's addicted to false virtues, and when you talk about real virtues, you take away their drug and they hate you for it.
	Drug addicts are some of the most dangerous people around.
	Because they'd rather kill you than lose the drug.
	They'd rather kill themselves than lose the drug, sometimes.
	So, why did you decide to keep going?
	Why did you decide to keep going?
	Why did you decide to keep going when you began when the bill began to loom in your heart and mind?
	you Why didn't you turn back?
	A lot of people do. You probably know some of them.
	A lot of people have. A lot of people from early on in this show ejected.
	I'm out! Peace out!
	right?
	Why did you keep going?
	Are you crazy?
	Why did you keep going?
	Are you crazy?
	Why did you keep going?
	Are you crazy?
	Why did you keep going?
	Are you crazy?
	Why did you keep going?
	Are you crazy?
	Why did you keep going?
	Are you crazy?
	Why did you keep going?
	Are you crazy?
	Why did you keep going?
	Are you crazy?
	Truth is easy to remember and God appreciates truth-tellers.
	Philosophy is understanding truly what rational self-interest means.
	That's a deepity. I mean, what does rational self-interest mean?
	I don't know. It's just understanding the truth.
	Philosophy is the pursuit of truth.
	In particular, ethical truth.
	Jared says there was an explosion behind me called everyone I knew succumbing to addiction and violence.
	Well, that'll help you get out of the burning building, right?
	Going back felt worse than death.
	you Yeah, I mean the mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original shape, as the saying goes.
	To pursue happiness.
	But that doesn't answer much of anything, I'm afraid.
	Because you would then have to explain why you kept going and other people didn't.
	And I'm afraid you all fell into my trap.
	It's really tempting, isn't it?
	It's really tempting. What's the correct answer as to why you kept going?
	Because, because, because, because, because!
	It's the correct answer as to why you kept going.
	You see? I'm sorry.
	I know, I know. It was complete.
	I literally just told you guys.
	You gotta... See, we all...
	I get this. We all want to invent reasons why we're doing things.
	Because you chose to keep going.
	Isn't that funny? And again, I'm not trying to be a jerk.
	Honestly, I never really have to try.
	You know that, right? So I'm not trying to be a jerk, but you get what I'm saying, right?
	You don't have to agree with me, of course, right?
	But I literally made a very compelling argument not four minutes ago as to why there's no causality behind your choices.
	And then I literally, I was smiling in my head as I said this.
	I'm like, I bet you they're going to fall for it.
	I bet you they're going to fall for it.
	There's no causality behind what you do.
	Why did you do this?
	Come the reasons. This is really funny because now I feel like I don't know why I do things.
	Good! Good!
	Do you know how liberating it is to not have to give reasons for what you do?
	Every time you give a reason for what you do, you limit your choice in the future.
	You're making more sense than a lot of people I've talked to.
	Well, hopefully. But we still have reasons for decisions.
	Dave's hanging on there.
	Dave's hanging in there.
	So you asked, why did you choose to keep going?
	And the correct answer is, because I chose to keep going.
	Now, you can say things like, and you know, you can say things like, well, I focus on the long-term benefits rather than the short-term pains, right?
	You can say that. Why doesn't that answer anything?
	Why? If you say, well, I knew that there was good stuff on the far side of going through this pain, right?
	Why doesn't that explain anything?
	Post hoc reasoning is a clever bitch.
	She is. She is.
	Why does it explain nothing to say, well I focus on the long-term benefits rather than the short-term pain?
	Yeah, because most people choose the opposite .
	you You know, it's like the fat guy saying, the fat guy who loses weight, he goes from 300 pounds to 150 pounds or whatever, right?
	He goes 400 to 200 halves his weight.
	And people say, well, why did you lose all that weight?
	He's like, oh man, I just woke up one day and I looked in the mirror and I'm like, oh, this is disgusting.
	And then an uncle of mine had a heart attack and I was, you know, I was just grossed out.
	And then I saw a picture of myself in high school when I was an athlete and I was like, I can't do this anymore.
	That explains nothing!
	Why does that explain nothing?
	I weighed the probabilities and went with black instead of red.
	Everyone weighs the probabilities.
	Why did you choose to go left and other people choose to go right?
	Everybody weighs the probabilities.
	Making reasons for your own behavior is a bit of a trap.
	If you give reasons it makes people think you're being defensive.
	Do you know what I'm trying to deliver to you?
	you Do you know really what I'm trying to deliver to you?
	Other than a wider array of choice, because you're not confined by causality.
	You're not a fucking rock bouncing down a hill at the law of physics and mercy.
	Do you know what I'm trying to deliver to you?
	Free will, yes, but more importantly, more deeply and more emotionally.
	Yeah, when you start the chain of causality, it never ends.
	It dominoes all the way down, which is why it's paralyzing.
	James is losing weight and he says, I don't have a why, just a motivational poster that says,
	Keep calm and fuck being fat.
	Yeah, but why now, not 20 years ago?
	I want to hear the rest of this.
	I don't understand fully. Self-ownership.
	No, I'm confused. Bedrock truth.
	I choose my life. Oh, God.
	When I say it, please don't kick me.
	I'm glad we're not all in the same room.
	I'd get mobbed and not in the way that I like.
	I will give you the letters.
	P. Give me a P. Give me an R. Give me an I. Where are we going?
	What am I trying to deliver to you, my glorious friends?
	What am I trying to deliver?
	P-R-I. Oh, now he's becoming paranoid.
	I'm not falling for it again. P-R-I. Pride.
	That's right. Pride.
	Pride. Every single bit of causality strips and diminishes your self-esteem, your pride.
	Your pride.
	Your pride.
	If you don't touch alcohol because your parents are drunk, how much pride can you take in not touching alcohol?
	Well, you're just bouncing off. It's just a reaction.
	It's just dominoes, man.
	Reasons eliminate.
	They don't just minimize it, they eliminate pride.
	There's no causality for this show because this show is completely unique and will forever
	remain so.
	It's a show that will never be forgotten.
	Guy earlier, who's the painter?
	People are mean to me because I'm an immigrant.
	How does he know?
	Does that mean everyone treats every immigrant badly?
	You know who's an immigrant?
	Elon Musk! If everything you've achieved is just a domino, how can you take any pride in any of it?
	It's like considering yourself, like, why are you rich?
	Why are you running? Why are you rich?
	Well, you're rich because your father left you five million dollars.
	Can you take pride in that?
	Nope. Because the cause of you being rich is just your father's choice.
	It's not your choice. You didn't choose that father.
	You didn't choose to inherit that money.
	You can't take pride in stuff that happens to you.
	And causality is saying that what happens to you, what defines you, is all just accidental dominoes from the past.
	Are you a person or a pinball?
	Good way of putting it, Sam. Now, Now, are you ready for the big?
	The big reveal? Are you ready for the big reveal?
	I don't know. Can you help reconcile this with pride is the source of all sins?
	Is pride the source of all sins?
	Christmas Carol I wear the chain I forged in life Replied the ghost. I made it link by link and yard by yard.
	I girded it on of my own free will.
	Are you ready?
	I mean, why are we all addicted to reason?
	To the point where I make a compelling case as to no causality and then I ask you for causality and everybody jumps right back on the causality bus, right?
	This bus is going off a cliff.
	Hey, you want to get on the bus? I do!
	I do it too, right?
	Why are we so addicted to causality?
	Why would we want to give up pride for the sake of pretending
	I mean, do you think I was the only person in the world who grew up with anti-rational parents?
	Sorry, I'm certainly not the only person who's been abused in the world, and I'm certainly far from the worst abused person in the world, infinitely far sometimes it feels like, but these Colin shows.
	So if you say, well, this had to happen for me to do this show, well, I'm just, I can't take any pride in it, right?
	And it explains nothing.
	Well, why did it rain?
	Well, because a guy was dancing last night.
	Okay, well, what about all the times when the guy was dancing last night or some other guy was dancing last night and it didn't rain?
	No, no, no. This explains nothing.
	It's superstition. Causality is superstition.
	Because it explains nothing, but we think it explains everything.
	And it explains nothing. It explains nothing.
	Thank you for the tip. I'm working for it tonight. I'll tell you that
	Why are we so addicted to shit that strips us of free will self-esteem legitimate pride
	And explains nothing Why do we consider ourselves rational and yet say that free
	will is caused by dominoes?
	How would you explain why you do this show?
	Okay?
	What's the explanation as to why I do this show?
	Status.
	Oh yeah, it's all about the status, baby.
	you Okay, $15 a sub.
	Worth it. I'm very glad for that.
	Thank you. What's the explanation?
	Why do I do this show? What's the explanation?
	Because I choose to! Now I feel every time you ask why, it's a trap.
	More than a feeling!
	Yeah. Yes, it's true.
	The cover of that album is in fact a guitar, not a spaceship.
	Causality is superstition. Yep.
	You'll love a virtue and a 500-year plan.
	Lots of people love virtue.
	Lots of people have long-term plans.
	I mean, the Chinese communist dictators have a 500-year plan, but they ain't doing a show like this.
	It fuels your soul.
	Nope. Why are we so addicted to causality?
	Oh, look at that. This topic is causing people to leave.
	Or maybe they're coming back. That's fine.
	I'm causing people to leave.
	No, they're coming back. All right. So, yeah.
	Why are we so addicted to causality?
	To causality, to excuses.
	Solipsist answer is because if he didn't we would not be here to ask and here it is.
	Why why why why do we all go Straight to causality
	Why is it so automatic Why, 30 seconds after you hear an argument, a proof that there's no causality, do you immediately rush to causality?
	And we're just talking about anxiety management, right?
	So we can be accepted among others so we don't look special, like things are inevitable.
	So we're part of the group's so-called rationality.
	So people get mad at the causality, not us.
	More comfortable being a slave.
	Prison, it feels easier because causality absolves us of our responsibilities.
	It's the language spoken. Excuses are perceived to save our status and avoid, quote, punishment.
	Chose to. Because we don't like consequences.
	You guys so nice.
	Open wide for the black pill.
	Open wide. I wish it was a pill.
	it could in fact just be a jagged little suppository.
	So we have an excuse.
	No. We chose not to take responsibility for our choices.
	Nope. To be humble.
	Nope. No one panics when everything goes according to plan.
	Yeah, I saw that movie, too. Are you ready for your black pill?
	Ooh, he's gonna hoid a little bit.
	He's gonna hoid a little bit.
	People give themselves permissions to make bare decisions, to excuse evil.
	All right.
	I'll give you the shortcut in the shorthand so you don't fall for this trap again or this
	trick again.
	When you see and experience a universal human compulsion to falsehood, it's because everyone
	who told the truth got fucking killed.
	Why are we addicted to causality?
	Because those who weren't addicted to causality and took responsibility for everything and gave responsibility to everyone for everything got themselves killed.
	We are the leftovers of all the people who got killed for accepting total responsibility
	and giving total responsibility.
	Great questions about child abuse in my call-in shows.
	Absolutely. I will get to those.
	Those are great questions. What did Jesus say?
	Jesus said, stop following rules and stop following virtue.
	And virtue is universal.
	And following rules is not the same as following virtue.
	And, of course, there was a lot of profit in the following of rules, right?
	There was the slaughtering of the lambs.
	There was the money changing of the temple.
	There was all of the, you've got to get rid of all of the leave and bread because the Jews had to flee because it was so quickly from Egypt that their bread couldn't even rise, right?
	There's a lot of money. But people being killed is also causality.
	Well, if you kill everyone with blue eyes, there aren't people left with blue eyes, unless
	there's a random mutation down the road.
	So the reason we're addicted to causality is because we're addicted to not being killed
	and or ostracized or exiled or not mated with or whatever, right?
	And we're not.
	you Who do you think is slightly better at taking more
	responsibility, men or women?
	Do you know what the ultimate mating cry from a man to a woman over the course of human
	evolution has been?
	Do you know what the fundamental mating cry is?
	From men to women over the course of human evolution has been.
	It's not, I love you. It's not, you're sexy.
	It's not, have my children.
	The fundamental mating cry from men to women over the course of human evolution is, it's
	not your fault.
	you Honey, it's not your fault.
	Yeah, he was a bad guy.
	Oh, it's not your fault.
	It's not your fault you have all these men, all these kids by all these different men.
	It's not your fault that you gained weight.
	It's the food pyramid. It's not your fault, honey.
	It's not you.
	It's not you. It's the system.
	It's the patriarchy. It's men.
	It's the people who forced you to take all of this student loan debt on.
	It's not your fault. It's not your fault you didn't say for your old age we should have government pensions.
	It's not your fault you had children outside of wedlock.
	We need a welfare state. It's not your fault!
	It's not your fault, it's not your fault!
	Am I wrong?
	Am I wrong? Studies show that all men will accept any fruit offered to them by a naked woman.
	We are responsible for what we value.
	How are you married?
	I chose to be. Yeah, Jared, how did that work?
	We won't get into names and places here, but how did that work with that woman when you gave her accountability?
	How did that work? Accountability, responsibility.
	Even Adam blamed God instead of Eve or himself.
	So, causality is...
	And listen, I'm not trying to blame all women here.
	Of course, right? There's lots of exceptions.
	I mean, I'm married to a wonderful woman who takes responsibility and my daughter takes responsibility
	So this is you know, just a little bit of a tendency, right?
	In my experience as someone giving women accountability causes explosive anger
	Right That was the end of the relationship, right?
	Yeah, you said you're responsible for the quality of the people in your life.
	And really, that's because the effects of a woman's choices are quite quickly stripped away.
	And I'm not blaming women. This is evolutionary as well, right?
	This is not women bad.
	This is not any kind of Eve thing, right?
	So a man who chooses to have sex can just run away.
	A woman who gets pregnant has 20 years of responsibilities, right?
	So you can get mad at women and so on, but women's life is more dominoes than men's life.
	So it's easier for a woman to feel like a victim.
	Does this make sense? It's easier for women.
	Women can be lied to.
	Women have to make reproductive decisions, evolutionarily speaking, in their teens.
	They can be lied to.
	They're at the whim of mercy, fate, chance, male dedication, male loyalty, male resource provision, and so on, right?
	I mean, why is it that women were so keen on prohibition?
	because the men that they married were taking their paycheck, going to the bar
	and coming home with nothing.
	So this is no negative or you know it's easy to get all women right.
	You know that meme, like, women ends up in hospital because she finds out what accountability is, or, you know, something like, oh, women like Neo in The Matrix, dodging Buddhists, dodging responsibility.
	No, no, no. Women's lives are more causal than men's as a whole.
	Well, men do victimize more.
	Men can walk down a street in the dark easier.
	Men victimize more?
	What? What do you mean men victimize more?
	Men victimize... Do you know the percentage of men who are raising children who aren't even theirs?
	Cheers.
	you What am I missing here?
	Do you know the number of false accusations that men labor under?
	Do you know the reputational destruction heaped upon men by women that those men displease?
	What do you mean men victimize more?
	I don't understand. I'm happy to hear the case.
	I just... I don't understand.
	Oh, well, men are more violent and more aggressive.
	Well, yeah, but men are more violent and more aggressive because women chose to mate with more violent and more
	aggressive guys.
	I'm not afraid of women in the dark.
	you I don't... so?
	I'm not afraid of men attacking my reputation.
	So what? You're just taking whatever, right?
	Rape? Rape goes both ways.
	Do you not know that men get raped as well?
	And not just by other men, but men get raped a lot as well.
	It's called forced to penetrate. Do you not know the number of women who trap a man with pregnancy throughout history?
	No, no. You've got to look up.
	Forced to penetrate. Men get raped a lot.
	Women also lie and say that they're on the pill when they're not.
	Women also lie and say they're infertile when they're not.
	So, men also, women hit children more than men do.
	So, in terms of violence against the helpless, women are far worse than men.
	Far worse than men. Women hit children substantially more than men do.
	Yeah, I don't know what you...
	Oh, you have this, like, women are wonderful thing?
	Okay, fine. All right. Yeah, so you've had to say that women are wonderful so that you can get vain women in your life and blah, blah, blah, blah, right?
	I follow the facts, right?
	I mean, I try, obviously.
	As best I can, I follow the facts.
	And I won't falsify things to crucify men because of the bullshit women are wonderful fantasy.
	I don't know how it's been in the past, but there is a disturbing number of women preying on very young men these days.
	Yes, for sure. And there are more male pedos.
	How do you know? Because of who gets caught?
	Because who gets caught?
	Well... They're poking holes in condoms, yeah?
	Almost 50% of pregnancies were, quote, accidents.
	I mean, it's like saying men murder more than women.
	How do you know? I mean, men will be violent and obvious in their murders a lot more than women do, but women murder men through poison, through frustration, through tension, through stress, through nagging, through like they just wear down men completely.
	Oh my god. Anyway, there's a whole other topic about male and female evil, which I've covered on the show a bunch of times.
	The origins of war and child abuse was quite enlightening on these issues.
	Thanks for the audiobook staff. I appreciate that, but of course the real work was done by Lloyd DeMoss, the late Lloyd DeMoss, so check out psychohistory.com.
	But yeah, the men are bad, and women are nice, and men are violent, and women are more nurturing and peaceful.
	Yeah, I mean, that's so normie, I don't even know what to say.
	That's flat earth territory.
	I mean, sorry, we're way beyond that kind of stuff, right?
	That sort of silliness. Very dangerous silliness.
	I'm not calling you silly, the person who's saying this.
	I'm just saying that more men kill people directly in war.
	Yeah, but who fights most wars?
	Yeah, that's right. And the reason that men kill people directly in war is because you need young people to fight wars.
	And what happens if women get drafted?
	Why are men not, why are women generally not drafted?
	Somebody says, I remember hearing that stat about women abusing children more than men.
	Do you think that's mostly due to women spending more time with young children?
	I don't care. It doesn't matter.
	Are you saying that...
	women who just spend more time with children end up abusing them?
	Ah...
	Why...
	Yeah, whoops, I just got pregnant.
	Oh, dear. I am now baked with child and I can't go and fight your war.
	Oh, I pulled a muscle lifting this 80-pound pack that I need to run for 20 miles.
	Oh, I can't lift this.
	Oh, I'm tense. Oh, I'm stressed.
	Oh, I have my period. Oh, I have cramps.
	And, you know, sympathy for all of this sort of stuff.
	And of course, statistically, right, you can repopulate with a lot of women and a few men,
	but you can't repopulate with a lot of men and a few women.
	Elizabeth Holmes pulled it off?
	I don't know what that means. Oh, she got pregnant?
	No, but she ended up going to jail anyway.
	No, can you say...
	Let me ask you this.
	In terms of, oh, well, women spend more time with kids and that's why they hit them more.
	Okay, is there an excuse?
	Would you give this as an excuse?
	That men beat up their wives more because they were home, working from home during the pandemic and they just spent more time with their wives and that's why they beat them up more.
	Would you accept that as an excuse or a reason as to why it was somehow okay?
	Would you have just, well, okay, men are beating up their wives more, but come on, man, they're home with them more.
	Of course they're going to beat them up more.
	Right? Come on. Please.
	I mean, I understand the drive to give women excuses, right?
	But you wouldn't give those excuses to men, and I'm for the equality of men and women.
	When you have to send old men, boys, and women to fight, you have no country left.
	Ukraine is doing exactly that.
	Yeah, but didn't like half a million Ukrainian men flee the country.
	Why do some people refuse to ever acknowledge your accomplishments or
	congratulate you when you succeed?
	My husband's female cousin is like this and I'm so frustrated with it.
	Why do you have someone like that in your life?
	Yeah, well, female police officers are more likely to shoot.
	Yeah, because they can't intimidate physically as much.
	There are higher incidence of shooting among female officers, for sure.
	So people refuse to acknowledge your accomplishments or congratulate you when you succeed because they're bitter with envy, right?
	It was illegal for a man over 18 to leave Ukraine.
	For sure, yeah, but they did.
	Drugs are illegal. Anyway.
	Stats showing kids raised by single dads turn out better than kids raised by single moms.
	Yes, unfortunately, that does seem to be the case, and it's quite tragic.
	All right. Let's see here.
	Somebody said, with respect to how people respond to their child abuse, are you oversimplifying?
	I really dislike it when people ask me rhetorical questions before they make the case.
	As you know, there is a large body of evidence showing how childhood abuse changes the structure and development of the brain.
	One cannot escape biological changes that were imposed on them as children.
	the argument that they have free will is not necessarily applicable in many cases
	and the line is very hard to decipher in others.
	Well I will certainly admit, of course, that people whose brains are physically
	damaged have less free choice.
	Yeah, absolutely. Somebody who gets beaten so hard that they get physical brain damage and end up with an IQ of 50 doesn't have much free will left.
	So I'm not sure what we're talking about there.
	Yes, if there has been damage to the brain, then that would diminish free will.
	Thanks, Chris. This has been a particularly valuable stream for me.
	Thank you. I appreciate that. So, yes.
	Childhood abuse does change the structure and development of the brain, as you know from my Bomb and the Brain series.
	Absolutely. For sure.
	So? Does that mean that there's no free will for people?
	If... There is no free will for some people.
	That's a real tragedy. But then they're not in society.
	Like, I'm talking to people in society, right?
	I'm talking to people in society who have choice.
	So if somebody's been abused to the point where they have no functional choice, Then they're not recipients of a philosophy show, right?
	Any more than, you know, people with no legs are not the target audience for a dance studio, right?
	So if people have had their brains damaged to the point where they don't have any free will, then they're not part of this audience, right?
	right? Because this is about free will.
	Whereas, of course, knowing that, and let's say that
	knowing that you were abused as a child means that you're more susceptible to dysfunctional behaviors, that knowledge
	should have you focus in the other direction.
	you I mean, the analogy I've used before, which I'll keep brief, is if you find out that you have a family history of heart disease, then you will make sure you exercise appropriately, you don't gain weight, you get your heart monitored, and so that will maximize your chances of surviving, and also you'll probably end up even healthier,
	right? So, we know that child abuse can lead to dysfunctional outcomes and therefore we should work in the opposite direction based upon our own free will.
	You can choose to accept those things and say, well, I might have a bit more of a temper or a lot more of a temper or be a lot more impulsive because of my child abuse, therefore I need to really work on this stuff, right?
	I mean, you understand that maybe you've never been coached in sports.
	I've been coached a lot in sports.
	And what do coaches do?
	Do the coaches work on the stuff that just naturally you're great at?
	No. What do the coaches work on?
	They work on the stuff you're weakest in, right?
	So I've got a great backhand, pretty good forehand, but my serve wasn't great, so I had coaches help me a lot when I was playing tennis.
	Semi-competitively, I had coaches help me with my serve.
	I didn't kick my legs enough when I was a competitive swimmer, and so I had coaches help me with my kick, right?
	My upper arms were strong and my stroke was good, but my kick was weak.
	So what do they do? They focus on that which is the weakest, right?
	So knowing that there's susceptibilities you might have or weaknesses you might have to particular immoralities based upon child abuse, you would work to focus on dealing with those, right?
	Again, this is fairly obvious to me.
	I'm sorry if I'm sounding annoyed, but it just seems kind of obvious to me.
	All right. Somebody says, I'm a little lost.
	Because a lot of your call-in shows involve significant assessment of how people's childhoods, etc., contribute to how they behave now.
	And then understanding that helps people to change what they're doing.
	I'm probably missing something.
	But what would you say is going on in those sorts of shows?
	Are you talking about just the simple, I do X because of Y? How do we fit this in with trying to understand yourself, etc.?
	Okay, I understand that.
	That's a fine point, and I appreciate you bringing that up.
	So, when I ask people, why do you do what they do?
	Why do you do what you do, right?
	When I say, what's your theory about why you do what you do?
	What percentage of time do people have an answer that's bang on?
	Right? From the call-in shows you've listened to, when I say to someone, why do you think you do what you do?
	Or why do you think you are this way?
	And they give me an answer.
	How often is that answer?
	bang on You say 5% at best
	You you
	you I mean, functionally, it's zero.
	And how do I know that?
	Well, I mean, if you go to the doctor with some physical problem and the doctor says, have you fixed this already?
	You would say, no. Of course I haven't fixed it.
	If I had fixed it, I wouldn't be here.
	And so when people are calling me up, it's because their understanding of causality is incorrect.
	Does that make sense? Because if they had a proper understanding of the Cause and effect, and I know I'm going back to cause and effect stuff here, right?
	If they had an accurate understanding of the role of free will in their life, they wouldn't
	be calling me.
	Does that make sense?
	I am the sum of my life experiences leading to my choices.
	What else would I have done?
	sometimes people say that or stuff like that.
	So I'm asking people, why do you think you do what you do?
	you.
	you Because they have a story of causality that is false.
	God, I love this show.
	Gonna listen to this one a few times.
	Right. Oh, I'm really lifting the lid on the call-in.
	Do you care? Do you care about the background mechanics of the call-in shows?
	I'm really lifting the lid here.
	I don't want to mess up the magic, so to speak, right?
	but you know we're here at the end of a show so hit me with a why if you'd like
	to know these mechanics somebody says it's important to ask otherwise you need to
	know where they're coming from first
	Otherwise, anything you say or point out will sound arbitrary and unrelated to them.
	Right. You're curious to see this?
	All right. So, I ask people why they are the way they are, and they say, it's because of my child abuse, right?
	And what's the answer almost always at the end?
	What's the answer? If you listen to the one I just posted yesterday, you'll know that, right?
	What is the answer at the end as to why they are the way they are?
	Bethany says love it First show in a while. My brain has worked so hard.
	Their choices.
	That's a bit general.
	What choices?
	Okay, I'm going to encapsulate every single call and show you've ever heard.
	Why do you think you are the way you are?
	Because of X, Y, and Z? No.
	Well, why then? Because you're lying.
	Because you choose to lie.
	You choose to lie to yourself.
	You choose to lie to your parents.
	You choose to lie about your virtues.
	Because you're choosing to lie.
	Right, so you've taken the blame for what your parents do.
	That's a lie. You say you'd be angry if you saw a child treated the way you were treated, but you don't get angry at your parents because you're lying.
	You're falsifying your existence.
	You're choosing to lie about what's actually going on with you because you're still frightened of your parents because the fundamental lie is you're still acting as if your parents have full, complete power and control over you as an adult.
	You're lying even about being an adult and pretending you're still a child.
	Still scared. Still conforming.
	Still falsifying. Still self-erasing.
	as if you're still eight years old.
	The causality is the lying.
	And I'm not saying it's conscious.
	I'm not saying it right. Yeah, you've heard, don't you mean like you're abusive parents?
	Yeah, when people, right?
	It's lying! It's lying!
	It's always the same!
	I mean, I know it sounds different, but it's always the same.
	Oh, I shouldn't have revealed this magic secret.
	I'm like Penn and Teller showing you what goes on in the dove cage.
	But does this make sense?
	And all the causality is just an excuse to lie.
	Don't fall for the self-pity.
	Tempting. Don't do it!
	Don't do it! Don't do it!
	Am I wrong?
	Everyone's completely incorrect in their causality.
	And what's my ultimate causality?
	The truth. Once you have the truth, you escape causality.
	Because the truth is, there is no causality.
	Yeah, you gave up your proprietary formula.
	Hopefully more people can use it in their own recipes.
	I'm really unlocking the coca-cola safe here, right?
	Oh I might talk to couples
	I'm mad because my husband did this or my wife did that or this or that happened or we were stressed.
	No! Why are you unhappy?
	Because you're turning your vows into a lie.
	Because you're breaking your promise.
	Because you're acting without integrity.
	You promise to love, honor, obey, respect.
	Right? Him.
	Well, we're compelled to lie as children.
	I get that. We're compelled to lie as children.
	Can't tell the truth to your teachers, your parents, your relatives, whoever.
	You can't tell the truth to people.
	I get that. You're punished. And then it turns from a survival mechanism to a narcotic self-erasure.
	You get used to lying.
	You don't rail against it anymore.
	You inhabit it. You let it take you over.
	And then the lies become the causality, becomes the excuses, becomes the paralysis.
	Steph, how does your theory take into account unconscious biases?
	The reason that biases remain unconscious is because you're lying about them.
	If you have a bias, you need to be aware of it and you need to be honest about it.
	Doesn't mean you're right, but you need to be honest about it, right?
	Jared, bang on. Unconscious bias.
	You mean chosen avoidance of self-knowledge?
	Yeah. Yeah, for better or for worse.
	Not until boredom or annoyance do us part.
	Lying is a way to avoid negotiation.
	Very true. Very true.
	What about the bomb in the brain?
	Why do you think I produced the bomb in the brain if it wasn't to warn people about what they need to look out for?
	I mean, if you're hiking in a fucking mountain trail and it says bears and cougars are up here and you keep going and you get mauled by a bear and a cougar, well, how could you?
	The whole point is to give you a warning!
	So you either go armed or you don't go at all or you go on a fast horse or you take a car or...
	Oh, my God. Literally said most of this to me and my wife.
	Yeah, you've not had a blow-up since the call-in.
	Beautiful. You're keeping your word.
	You're not lying to each other anymore.
	Irritation with the spouse you promised to love is lying.
	Crazy and everyone's addicted to other things these days to replace the loss of integrity and pride
	You want to know the most powerful statement in the world worlds.
	you The most powerful statement in the world.
	No. The most powerful statement in the whole wide world is because me.
	Because me. Why does the world's greatest philosophy conversation exist?
	Because me. And because you.
	It's not because. Because me.
	Because I fucking willed it.
	And I wouldn't back the fuck down.
	And I went for it. Why?
	Because me. Where are you in your life?
	Because of this, that, the other, because...
	No, because you. Because you.
	Because me. Just say it every morning.
	Because me. Because me.
	Because I choose to. Now, your choices should be reasoned and conditioned by facts and evidence and...
	Subjective virtue and all those good, but because me.
	You see, that's the most powerful thing.
	As soon as you say something other than because me, you've just diminished yourself.
	You're like sharpening a pencil until it takes your fucking fingers off.
	Oh no, stubbies.
	Because me?
	Why does my novels exist?
	Because me. Why does this show exist?
	Because me. Why do my non-fiction books exist?
	Because me. Why do my interviews exist?
	Because me. Because me strips you of the diminishing self-horations of reasons, causes, and excuses.
	I don't know if I'm making any sense.
	I hope I'm making some sense. But because me, that's it.
	Now, you get all of the pride because me, right?
	You get all of the pride and if you fuck up, as we all do, right?
	You've heard me say this.
	This is nothing new. Why did I get deplatformed?
	Because me. Because me.
	I chose it. I regret nothing.
	Why did I stop doing politics?
	Because me. Because me.
	Because you. Just say it.
	Because me. Because me.
	Why? I am my own cause.
	The cause is me.
	What I choose. What I will.
	How do you get earlier than that?
	This makes perfect sense.
	Yeah. I mean, you always hear these things, you know, when some terrorist attract, doesn't follow the narrative.
	An SUV drove into the Christmas crowd.
	No, not the SUV. It's the individual.
	It's the person. Steph, maybe I'm making a category error here, but how do we relate to the subconscious, since by definition it is beyond conscious awareness?
	You say that we go mad in isolation, surely because we need outside observers to provide us with insights.
	Oh boy. I'm literally unfurling the entire fucking sky for you to fly around in, and you're stubbing your toes on grains of sand.
	Holy shit, man, spread your fucking wings.
	Sammy was low, just watching the show.
	Come on, man. I'm literally unfurling the sky for you to fly around in, wherever you want to go.
	But, but, what do you mean?
	Are you immune from inspiration?
	If so, that's fine.
	If you're immune to inspiration, that's fine.
	I just think it's kind of sad.
	Come on. This is great stuff.
	This is powerful stuff. This is deep stuff.
	Well, I could be making a category error here.
	Oh, come on. Isn't this tragic?
	This is some of the greatest stuff you're ever going to hear.
	I know it.
	I know it. It's some of the greatest stuff you're ever going to hear.
	But you're like, I gotta not listen.
	I gotta type out this nitpick.
	I could be listening, but this is just anxiety.
	This is not a real question. It's just anxiety.
	You don't like self-ownership, so you nitpick.
	And you don't even need to ask this question.
	you I resist answering it because it is such a distraction from the glories of the conversation and the liberation.
	How do we relate to the subconscious since by definition it is beyond conscious awareness?
	You don't fucking dream?
	You don't have impulses?
	You don't have thoughts that pop up in your head?
	You don't have hiccups and ripples that you need to examine?
	If something is genuinely beyond conscious awareness then it's not part of philosophy.
	How do you map?
	Dimensions you can never travel to.
	Well, you don't.
	Geography is for that which exists.
	I can choose to be popular by standing for nothing, or stand for a cause even if I stand
	I am only myself to thank or to blame.
	And the final thing I'll say here.
	you you
	You can't be loved at all, really, if you have causes, dominoes, and excuses.
	Do you follow?
	You are loved for what you choose.
	The degree to which you diminish what you can choose by giving yourself bullshit causality is the degree to which you can't be loved.
	Let's say you like blue eyes.
	Can I be loved for my blue eyes?
	I cannot. I admit they're sexy as hell and sometimes I drift off when I'm shaving.
	I can't be loved for my blue eyes because I didn't choose it.
	And if you're a good person but you didn't really choose it, you're just bouncing off your childhood, you can't be loved for that.
	You don't exist if you have excuses.
	Just the sum of random events of the past.
	You're an animal. Animals have excuses.
	That's why we don't put them in jail.
	Animals are nothing but excuses.
	Just hormones. Just impulse.
	Just reactions. Excuses put you in the realm of the animal.
	Dominoes. Causation puts you in the realm of the animal.
	Can't love an animal.
	Okay, my error in not being rested for work, I will try to do better next time.
	What else can I say?
	Ahhhh.
	Love is our involuntary response to virtue and excuses are not virtues.
	Yeah, virtue is what you choose.
	Virtue is what you choose. And not only can you not be loved, you can't love anybody else.
	because how do you know that your love is not just caused by lust or preference
	or habit or an eatable complex or something?
	Because... me.
	Because you. It's beautiful, man.
	I mean, I get it's alarming for a lot of people.
	Take away their excuses.
	is they want to take away your life.
	Take away people's causality and they want to throw you off a cliff or put you on a cross.
	Silence.
	I'm happy to miss the viewsies for the stream.
	This is some new ground. Thanks, Def.
	So this makes sense?
	Because you don't give yourself any causality or any excuses.
	That's navigating by staring out the back of the car.
	Excuses are things you didn't choose.
	I refuse to be defined by things I didn't choose.
	I didn't choose my fucking family.
	I didn't choose the world we live in.
	I didn't choose all the bullshit that's put into people's heads through propaganda.
	I'm not going to be defined by things I never chose.
	To be a victim is to be a child again.
	you you
	And who wants to remain a child forever?
	I mean, what sane person wants to remain a child forever, even if you had a happy childhood?
	It'd be sad. You know, when they say, oh, this person's 30, but they have the mental capacity of a 10-year-old, that's brain damage.
	Perpetual childhood is brain damage.
	Well, yes, you'll never go back there and reminding people of truth and virtue and honesty is horrible to them.
	Or, to put it another way, all the people who prey on the vulnerable never want the vulnerable to grow up, right?
	They never want vulnerable people to grow up.
	I liked 26.
	What the hell does that have to do with chances?
	Oh.
	Own everything.
	A life with no excuses.
	A life because you.
	No causality.
	No limitations from the past.
	Steph, did you not choose to be so wise?
	That sounds like an excuse for yourself to be less wise.
	I don't know what that means. I know it's not an insult or anything.
	I just don't really follow. Maybe it's a joke.
	I'm sure it's a joke. But...
	Because you. Why?
	Because you. Because I choose.
	Because I will. Because I want.
	Why? Everyone always tries to get you to say why.
	Why are you doing these things? Why do you want to talk about this?
	Why do you bring up that subject?
	Why? Why? Why? Because I want to.
	But why do you want to? They're just trying to diminish you.
	They're trying to kick you out of the seat of your own destiny.
	Take away the controls and give the blind robots of history causality and circumstance.
	Let that take over.
	All causality is erasure.
	All causality is erasure.
	And people don't like to know how much of themselves they've erased, which is why they oppose you taking and giving responsibility.
	All right. Makes sense?
	Any last tippy-tips here at the end?
	This is tough for me.
	I have a massive excuse generator in my head.
	I needed to hear this bad.
	Everybody does, man.
	Everybody does. Everybody does.
	Oh, yeah, I bring up controversial.
	Why do you want to talk about IQ? I don't have to explain why.
	Everyone else is talking about disparities.
	I don't have to explain myself.
	Don't explain yourself.
	It erases yourself. Just asking yourself why helps with self-knowledge.
	Sure! What's my theory as to why I am the way I am?
	That can help you, because causality limits your freedoms.
	Causality limits your freedoms.
	Once you find out the causality, you can let it go.
	You can let it go.
	Why am I so interested in rationality?
	Because my mother was anti-rational.
	Well, lots of people I knew grew up with anti-rational parents.
	They're not into rationality. In fact, it doesn't explain anything.
	Okay, so my explanation is bullshit.
	My explanation for myself is bullshit.
	And you just keep peeling back these layers until you come to because me.
	Because me! And that's it.
	Then you're at the bottom. Then you're at the core.
	And then you've got a 360 view.
	You can go anywhere and do anything.
	That's moral. Strip away all of the reasons, all of the causality.
	That's all childhoodship. Why did I live on the street I lived when I was a kid?
	Because my parents. My mother lived there and I had to live with her.
	Yes, that's causality.
	Causality is for childhood.
	Adulthood is because me.
	Sometimes I wish I smoked.
	.
	How does this fit with making it easier to make the right choices?
	Like if you always eat too much of a certain food if it's in the house, choosing to keep
	it in the house, or an alcoholic tuned turning down invitation to the bar as this taking
	of personal responsibility by choosing to change the environment.
	Stop at the static.
	to the absorption.
	you I've just given you guys a beautiful view, and a few of you are looking for dust motes on the glass.
	Just take in the view, man.
	Liberate yourself from inconsequential details.
	Sometimes, just take in the big, beautiful view.
	I'd hand you a cigar if I could.
	Beautiful. Oh, thank you, Chris.
	I appreciate that. God, I hate cigars.
	I've tried one or two in my life.
	It's like... So basically, I'm giving a blowjob to a BMW exhaust mechanism.
	I mean, we've all been there, haven't we?
	What is it, the, um...
	BMW? What is this strange blinking thing on my dash?
	It's called a turn signal.
	Never used it before. All right.
	Have a beautiful evening, everyone.
	Thank you so much for the honor and privilege of having these conversations.
	Freedomain.com slash donate.
	You all know. I'm earning it.
	Right? I mean, I'm really earning it.
	Sometimes more than others.
	So... And this is what we get when we don't do politics, right?
	Not bad. Not bad at all.
	Not bad at all. Man.
	I'm sweating. I'm sweating.
	I'll tell you that. Chocolate cigarettes.
	Oh yeah, there used to be these Popeye cigarettes.
	Now they can't even call them that anymore.
	I used to have those when I was a kid.
	From time to time. I am strong to the finish.
	Always a limit-breaking show.
	Well, this is why we do...
	I donated Kismi.
	Thanks, Polaris. I appreciate that.
	Yes, thank you very much.
	Have yourselves a glorious evening, everyone.
	I will talk to you guys Friday night.
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	You guys, you deserve this.
	You deserve this. This was a big, meaty-beaty, big and bouncy kind of show.
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	Yeah, it's fair, right?
	Let me get you...
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