Knowledge Fight Interactive Search Tool

All Episodes

Previous Next

July 29, 2023 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux

02:07:02

ALL TRUTHS LIVESTREAM!

Large

Audio Only |

Scroll

Time	Text
	So you know how the Peaceful Parenting book is coming along.
	I have 102 pages, 42,000 words.
	Obviously, it's a raw and incredibly angry first draft.
	Oh my gosh, I am kicking over some bedrock of anger right about now.
	And that's fine.
	And that's okay.
	But I'm telling you, it's pretty good.
	It's pretty good. Alright, let me just get to your questions and comments.
	Alright, we'll start right away.
	Good evening. Hope it is okay that I post this now since I won't make it to the actual live stream.
	You recently talked about self-destructive thoughts.
	Mine would be that nobody would ever care what I have to say anyway, so I never do anything.
	I know this comes from neglect.
	But what would be your suggestion to deal with it?
	I can't talk to my parents since they disowned and slandered me after I confronted them.
	If this topic is finished for you, so to say, just ignore the question.
	Oh, sorry, I don't mean to laugh at you.
	I don't mean to laugh at you.
	But it's just kind of funny when you say, well, nobody's ever going to care what I have to say.
	But if this topic's finished, just ignore me.
	Just ignore me. Don't worry.
	Ignore me. Okay. So look.
	Do you know that child abuse does not cause dysfunction?
	Alright, I'm just going to go straight up and talk to you guys directly.
	Do you know that child abuse does not cause dysfunction?
	Child abuse does not cause dysfunction.
	It's a common misperception that child abuse causes dysfunction.
	Hit me with a Y, hit me with a Y if you believe that child abuse causes dysfunction.
	But PTSD? I thought it did.
	You think child abuse, it's just boom.
	I have problems because I was abused as a child.
	Okay? That's not correct.
	That's not correct. What causes dysfunction is not child abuse.
	I mean, it's necessary but not sufficient.
	Now, what causes child abuse is not, sorry, what causes dysfunction is not child abuse, but your justifications for that child abuse.
	It's not denial of the child abuse, it's the justifications for the child abuse.
	So, if you fall on your bike and you get an injury, does that traumatize you?
	Does that produce dysfunction in your life?
	You've been injured, does that cause dysfunction?
	Nope. If you're hiking and a dog bites you, yeah, you'll be nervous about dogs and all of that, and maybe you'll hike with a stick or something, but it does not cause dysfunction in your life to be bitten by a dog, to fall off a bike, to break your arm, to whatever, right? That doesn't cause dysfunction.
	It does not cause dysfunction to be abused.
	Now, do you know why it's so important that I tell you this?
	Why is it so important that I tell you this?
	That it is not abuse that causes your dysfunction.
	Why is that so important?
	If abuse causes dysfunction, can you ever be unabused?
	Can you ever go back in time, erase, like Photoshop, troll, delete style, right?
	Can you ever, ever not be abused if you were abused as a child, right?
	No. So if abuse is just dominoes, right?
	They come down. If abuse causes dysfunction, you can't ever undysfunction because you can't ever be unabused, right?
	Right. Right.
	Now, abuse is difficult.
	Abuse is traumatic. But your dysfunction does not come from abuse.
	Let me go back to this guy's letter, right?
	Okay, clearly, so I'm going to read this again, just so you understand this, right?
	Good evening. Hope it's okay that I post this now, since I won't be able to make it to the actual live stream.
	So he's already, and I say this with great sympathy and affection and concern and care, almost with love, but he is already manipulating me because he's already being tentative.
	I hope it's okay that I post this now.
	I won't be able to make the actual live stream, blah, blah, blah, right?
	I literally ask people for questions.
	I ask people, I hope you don't mind if I give you a question, right?
	It's like a waiter comes up to you at the restaurant and you say, I hope it's okay if I order some food.
	I hope it's okay if I... Right?
	Come on. Come on.
	Doesn't do it. So who is he treating me?
	Like I literally am the guy who's asking for questions.
	I'm doing an ask me anything.
	This is a live stream where you ask me questions.
	And he's like, I hope it's okay that I post this now.
	Like, why on earth wouldn't it be?
	So who's he treating me as?
	Who is he treating me as?
	Come on, you guys know this.
	Is it an advanced crew here?
	Yeah, he's treating me like I'm his parents, right?
	Which means that he interprets the world through the lens of his parents.
	What is causing his current dysfunction?
	The fact that his parents neglected him?
	Nope. No.
	His current dysfunction is not because his parents neglected him.
	Because it's dysfunctional because he's treating me like I was his parents.
	Do you feel me? You follow me?
	He's not dysfunctional because he got ignored or neglected.
	He's dysfunctional because he's normalized it and he's projected it onto other people.
	That's the dysfunction. And again, I say this, I'm really glad he posted this.
	I'm really glad he posted this, right?
	So what he says here.
	Makes sense? We all do it.
	It's natural, right? It's inevitable.
	It's natural. I understand that.
	Well, we'll get into sort of why this.
	Okay. But you are not a shadow cast by shitty things shitty people did to you.
	You are not a statue immobile.
	You're not poured soft, hardened into concrete.
	You're not the shape you are because of the abuse.
	No! A thousand times no.
	Which chat do I pay attention to?
	My God! I pay attention!
	I pay attention to all the chats, even those I'm not currently involved with.
	Oh wait, somebody posted something.
	I'm just kidding. I pay attention to all the chats.
	Yeah, I currently have three chats open.
	Okay, so this all makes sense.
	So let's get back to this guy's letter, right?
	You recently talked about self-destructive thoughts.
	Mine would be that nobody would ever care what I have to say.
	Anyway, so I never do anything.
	I know this comes from neglect, but how or what would be your suggestion to deal with it?
	I can't talk to my parents since they disowned and slandered me after I confronted them.
	If this topic is, quote, finished for you, so to say, just ignore the question, thank you.
	If this topic is finished for you, Yeah, I'm thread-ripping here.
	I'm multi-threaded, right? Just ignore the question!
	Right. He's not defensive.
	Now, he's not defensive, because defensive is when people react in a hostile manner to
	being attacked.
	My mother did not love me.
	That's not to trauma.
	The trauma is when I say, I'm unlovable.
	Right? Hit me with a Y if you've ever heard anything negative about me on the intratubes.
	Hit me with a Y if you've ever read anything negative about me on the intratubes, right?
	So, there are people who absolutely hate and loathe me, right?
	Fair to say? People who absolutely hate and loathe me, right?
	Apparently I have an evil twin that Wikipedia writes about.
	Right? So, now, that's not traumatic.
	That's not dysfunctional for me.
	What would be traumatic and dysfunctional for me is if I believed them, right?
	Right.
	Is being a racist, misogynistic cult leader negative?
	But see, that's all projection, right?
	That's all projection.
	I mean, you know, Alfred Kinsey, who wrote The Sexual Life of the American Male, published
	in 1948, and then The Sexual Life of the American Female, published in 1953, literally was pro-pedophilia.
	And you know, he's academic, he's right.
	Lots of French intellectuals and other intellectuals wanted to lower the age of consent to the
	age of 12, and they all have positive articles throughout the internet, right?
	And Kinsey lied about his sources and interviewed sex offenders and criminals and all this kind
	of stuff right?
	Thank you.
	So, it's not traumatic for me that my mother, who was an evildoer, doesn't or didn't love me, right?
	In fact, it would be really bad if she did, quote, love me or claim to love me or claim to have...
	Yeah, Che Guevara is viewed in a positive light, right?
	Che Guevara literally murdered children and gays...
	and you can wear a t-shirt with him and everyone thinks you're a hero, right?
	So he says I know this comes from neglect
	So, nobody would ever care what I have to say anyway, so I never do anything, right?
	And he says, my feeling that nobody will ever care what I have to say comes from neglect.
	No! It does not come from neglect.
	That's causal. That's dominoes.
	That's a lack of free will.
	That's non-evaluate if it means you don't evaluate.
	Right? If people judge you as evil, either you're evil or they're evil.
	You understand how this works?
	Right? If people judge you as evil, either they're evil or you're evil.
	Right? And you have to make that choice.
	If you are ignored by your parents, then either they're selfish withholding monsters or you're not worthy of interesting people.
	You're not worthy of being interesting.
	And he says here, nobody would ever care, right?
	And how do I get over it?
	that nobody would ever care what I have to say.
	So what's...
	How do you overcome...
	If your parents neglect you and they didn't care what you had to say, how do you overcome that so that it doesn't haunt you for the rest of your life?
	This is hitting you hard?
	Alright, sorry, do you want me to fastly nap the old tongue there?
	Get pissed off at them.
	find virtuous people.
	So, if your parents say, you're nothing, you're nothing,
	If your parents say you're nothing, And other people find you interesting, who's revealed as the asshole?
	If your parents say, we talked about this with Sinai O'Connor just the other day, right?
	Your parents say, you're nothing!
	And then it turns out that you're interesting, then who's the asshole?
	Your parents. Yeah, of course, the parents, right?
	So your parents need you to believe that they're accurate and not abusive.
	Do you follow me? If your parents are abusive, they say, you're nothing.
	Then you have to internalize and believe that In order to protect them.
	Because if your parents are terrible or negative or whatever, if they're negative towards you, if your parents are negative towards you, then either they're right or they're assholes.
	Right? I mean, if my mother would have said to me, Steph, I don't think you can be a professional singer.
	I don't think you've got the voice for it.
	Would she be being a jerk or would she be accurate?
	She would be accurate. She would be accurate.
	If she were to say, I don't think you can really be a hair model because you seem to be lacking.
	I mean, unless there's a big market for ear hair models, right?
	So my mother would not be wrong or abusive by telling me rational limitations that I actually have, right?
	Are we all together here?
	I'm looking at you, Rumble.
	I'm looking at you, D-Live.
	I'm looking at you, all of these places.
	Yeah, listen, my karaoke is not so bad, but it ain't professional singer stuff, right?
	I mean, it's fun.
	I like throwing a tune in there every now and then.
	I'm not saying I'm terrible. I'm just saying it's not professional.
	It's just not like, you know, you listen to really great singers.
	Like, that's not me, right?
	So if my mother says, I hate you, as my mother did, she says, I hate you, then either I'm
	just hateful in general and she's just telling me the facts, right?
	She's just telling me the facts, right?
	Or she's abusive.
	Now, Your parent needs you to internalize and universalize what they're saying about you.
	They need you to internalize and universalize.
	So tell me some of the negative things that your parents have said about you.
	I remember a family member saying to me, oh, you're just lost in abstractions, you're addicted to philosophy, and you can't connect with people, and you're just drifting away from everyone.
	You're just drifting off into the ether, like you don't even exist, right?
	You'll be alone forever, that you're lazy or a psychopath, right?
	You're stupid and useless for manual labor.
	I'm lazy, too extreme, antichrist, sarcastic, etc.
	I would never recommend you to anyone in a work context.
	You're so aloof. You're lazy.
	You're stupid. Yeah, yeah, for sure.
	For sure. You get all these things, right?
	All these things. And I think I'm really sorry that you heard all of these things, right?
	I'm a loser. You don't think.
	Somebody says you're lazy.
	You're stubborn. Something is wrong with you.
	You're weird. You're going to grow up a loser like your father, says somebody.
	I'm sorry to hear about that, my friend.
	I'm sorry to hear about all of this, right?
	You're just a weirdo.
	You're a loser. You're just like your father.
	You cannot get along with anyone.
	You're a C-word. Conscious?
	My dad said, you'll never be as good or successful as me.
	He was drunk and we were out in the forest on a hike when I was 13.
	You're autistic. Right, right.
	They created a DSM-5 because my mom ran out of DSM-4 diagnosis.
	You're incompetent. Can't you just be normal?
	Right. Right.
	I actually once managed to get called a son of a bitch by my own mother.
	Well, you know, it's not abuse if it's true.
	And clearly you were the son of a bitch.
	So, yeah, stop thinking.
	Oh, yes, don't think. Don't think.
	But I thought that don't think.
	Right? Right.
	And, of course, abusers, they don't want you to think, right?
	You get called an asshole.
	You don't understand shit.
	Right. Somebody said, I remember in another show, Steph talked about shyness is unjustly treating strangers like they're going to be abusive to you.
	It helped me in social situations when I feel shyness.
	What else have we got here?
	Stop thinking. You think too much.
	Can't you ever just relax and enjoy things?
	Oh man, you can't be much fun to go to see movies with you, analyzing everything.
	You can't relax and enjoy things.
	Just live in the moment, man. Like an animal.
	Like a trilobite. Yeah, there's all the sighing and annoyance when you need something.
	Fine, I'll get up and blah, blah, blah, right?
	You don't know how the real world works, man.
	You live in a dream world.
	Yeah, we get all of that, right?
	More! More!
	Mort. They said F you, yeah.
	Well, that's not particularly abusive because verbal abuse in particular is when your parents take a negative action and attempt to massage it directly into your personality as a whole.
	Like not you did something clumsy or you told a lie, but you're clumsy and a liar.
	Like they take a negative characteristic of something you did and they just try to make it unified with your entire personality.
	It becomes your definition. Somebody says, when Steph speaks positively and confidently about his work and his writing, it becomes painful for me because I can't think positively about myself, let alone take credit for any accomplishment.
	And why is that, my friend?
	Siram, why is that? Don't let people treat you badly.
	Meanwhile, they put me down constantly.
	A lot of ridicule, a lot of thinking about uncomfortable, embarrassing situations.
	Anybody ever get called something sexualized by their parents?
	Put that out there. Expressed intense boredom when I show enthusiasm.
	Oh yeah, God forbid you're happy, enthusiastic, and excited about something.
	They're just trying to deaden you with overall negative black hole undertow.
	My mother told me that I'm an enigma, that she doesn't understand me.
	Sorry, that's an enigma.
	The extended version of Return to Innocence got really cool Middle Eastern music to start with.
	I just don't understand you.
	In other words, you're incomprehensible, not I'm too selfish to notice anybody else's personality, right?
	Can inner critics drill sergeants come from yourself based on your actions?
	I don't know what that means exactly.
	In the psychological world, they call this creating shame in someone.
	Your take on it. My mom used to call me a sexy beast and it would really make me angry.
	Yeah, that's wrong on every conceivable level.
	I didn't raise you this way.
	Maybe you did. Cindy says, my husband says I overanalyze in movies.
	LOL. Right.
	So, Serum over on Rumble says, when Steph speaks positively and confidently, as he said about his work and his writing, it becomes painful for me.
	But it's not, the pain, the pain in you does not come, does not come because I'm speaking positively.
	Right? When I, you know, okay, let me give you an example, right?
	So, how do you all feel when I say, I would like some support, I would like some donations, I would appreciate it?
	Your generosity, right?
	You can tip me on Rumble.
	You can tip me here on the app.
	You can tip me on DLive.
	When I say, I really appreciate your support, I'm bypassing doing a lot of work because I'm working on this peaceful parenting book, and I'm going to give it away for free.
	Give it away, give it away, give it away now, right?
	So when I say, and I am actually saying that, by the way, so when you ask for donations, so a lot of people get annoyed when I ask for donations.
	Well, I don't, I mean, but it's not because, I know that it's not because of me.
	Somebody says, I started tipping you recently and I feel really good about it.
	I'm glad you asked because it models value for value, right?
	Right. Yeah.
	I'm also modeling, ask for what you want.
	There's nothing wrong with asking for what you want.
	If you're confident in the value that you're providing, and look, we all and our pets and our armpit hair knows that you can't get this kind of analysis, information, depth, or value anywhere else.
	There's nowhere else, right?
	There's nowhere else. It's only here.
	It's only here our brains working together to produce these outcomes, right?
	Somebody says, compliments are painful.
	They induce the exact opposite reaction.
	I immediately begin pointing out false.
	I tried stopping recently, and it helps, but it's still there.
	So you think that your dysfunction is because you were abused, and I'm telling you, that's not why it is.
	You see, abuse is either repetitive or it's protective.
	There's nothing else. Somebody says, you once made the point that if we don't donate, then we won't implement philosophy in real life.
	And that made me subscribe on Locals.
	And I have to say you were right. Yeah, so if you support philosophy, if you support me, and not just me, but whoever you find the best at philosophy, I think it's me, but it could be somebody else for you.
	If you don't support, like if you're not going to do five bucks a month or ten bucks a month or whatever, then your unconscious is like, oh, so this is just a show.
	Like we don't, it's not really a serious thing, right?
	It's like if you read a diet book but you don't change your diet, it doesn't help you at all, right?
	Your belly is like, well, I don't care what we read, right?
	Yeah, when you donate, you have skin in the game.
	And when you apply resources to something, your unconscious makes it, takes it more seriously, right?
	That's right. So...
	I was raised by somebody...
	Vehemently and violently opposed to rationality, right?
	I was raised by somebody vehemently and violently opposed to rationality and in a culture that was anti-rational as well, right?
	Now, when you are raised with a disease, it kills you, or what?
	Right? If you get a disease, it makes you sick, or what?
	I'm getting there. I'm expanding on abuse being repetitive or protective.
	If you catch a disease, it either makes you weaker or it makes you stronger, right?
	Yeah, you get antibodies, right?
	You get antibodies.
	Yeah, it protects you from later disease, right?
	Okay. So we're there, right?
	We're there. If you were raised by people who ignored you, right?
	Let's go back to this wonderful, and I'm really so glad that you posted this.
	If you get back to this, right?
	I don't believe anybody will ever care what I have to say, right?
	There is no, absolutely no direct physical domino causality that says because your parents treated you as worthless that you then feel worthless.
	There is no causality for that.
	They don't get into your brain.
	They don't rewire your brain.
	They don't send ghosts to remap your neurons.
	They don't haunt you in your dreams.
	Well, maybe they do, but they still can't rewire your brain.
	Who's in charge of your brain when you're an adult?
	Who's in charge of your brain? Answer me.
	Who's in charge? I'm trying to get you back on the horse, people.
	Who's in charge of your brain when you're an adult?
	Who? You.
	That's right, me. I'm in charge of your brain.
	Bill Gates, right?
	Only if you take his 5G mosquito larvae up the nose, right?
	Yeah, you're in charge of your brain, right?
	So I was raised with a violent, anti-rational person in charge of my life.
	Now, does that mean I'm going to be afraid of rationality?
	It's that causal. It's that absolute, no exception, everybody.
	You drop every coconut off a building, the coconut falls to the ground.
	There's none that go up, none that go sideways.
	If a man is raised by a drunk, does this mean he becomes a drunk?
	No! Absolutely not!
	Now, he's either going to be a drunk or a teetotaler.
	I was either going to be Super insane or super rational?
	Somebody says, I like the idea of tipping, but I'll say that it feels a lot like back when I was young, pre-philosophy, and I was tipping cam girls, but this doesn't feel nearly as dirty and Steph is way sexier.
	Reason is sexy. You know what's funny?
	I don't mean to complain. She sent me five bucks.
	I bet you said the cam girls a lot more than that.
	That's just the burden that philosophers have to live with that.
	Amaranth gets, I don't know, $50,000 a month or whatever, and people can sell their bathwater for tens of thousands of dollars, but reason often goes begging.
	That's just the way that it is, right?
	It's a cross we have to bear.
	So this guy says, I feel like nothing because my parents treated me like nothing.
	Nope! Okay, what do you need to do To change from repetition to resistance.
	What are the antibodies?
	What are the antibodies that you have to manifest?
	How do you manifest the antibodies to protect you from the injuries you received?
	Get angry? Take responsibility!
	Anger. You have to reflect. Self-esteem.
	Whatever you don't criticize, you normalize.
	Alright, we're anonymous here.
	What's? What did your parents tell you that you're secretly afraid could be right?
	What's your greatest fear of what you were told as a kid?
	What's your greatest fear of what you were told as a kid?
	What is your greatest fear?
	This guy's greatest fear is that he's worthless, can't be interesting to anyone.
	Right, so what have we got here?
	They didn't tell me much?
	Okay, so then your greatest fear is that you're not worthy of anyone investing time, money or energy into you.
	Greatest fear to go against them?
	No, but that's not something that you're afraid is part of your personality.
	That I cannot be liked by anyone, that I'm bad, just like my father, unlovable.
	Right, right. I'm lazy.
	I won't achieve anything. You're a clone of your father, less valuable than my siblings.
	Right.
	Right.
	Abandoned because you're going to be abandoned because you're worthless.
	Nothing about you has value.
	Other people are dangerous. I wasn't told any negatives, just neglected.
	Yes, you were told negatives.
	Neglect is you're not interesting.
	You're uninteresting. You won't ever arouse anybody's interest.
	Nobody's going to bond with you or connect with you or care for you.
	You're just going to pass by like water running down the side of a window.
	My greatest fear is becoming my father.
	Like that Prince song.
	Sexy MF? I don't know which Prince song you're talking about.
	I'm useless. I'm not interesting.
	I'm worthless. I'm selfish.
	Mine is that my mother is right, evil people run the world, and reason will lead to self-destruction.
	Oh, Dove's Cry?
	Maybe you're just like my mother, she's never satisfied.
	Right. We never talked in the family, we did yell a lot.
	Right. Right.
	Now, When you're a kid, and your parents are in total charge of your life, and they say, you're unlovable, what does your survival response tell you to do?
	When your parents say, you're unlovable, let's say you're six years old, seven years old, ten years old, you're unlovable, you have to believe them, right?
	You have to believe them. Because if you say you're wrong and abusive, what happens?
	When parents attack you and you say you're wrong and abusive and destructive and bad parents and you're 10 years old or 8 years old, what happens?
	Yeah, you die.
	Yeah, my dad, he says, straight beat me up for challenging him.
	It's a death threat. Yeah. Death treat.
	Death threat. I get it. Yeah.
	Yeah, that's right. That's right.
	That's what happens. That's what happens, my friends.
	Now, maybe they wouldn't kill you, but do you really want to take that chance?
	You know, when I did my speech in Australia, a couple of speeches in Australia and tried to give one in New Zealand, this was back in 2018, it's like a half a decade ago, right?
	I talked about the Aborigines and how if you defied any of the elders, they just killed you.
	In fact, they killed about 40% of their babies anyway.
	So, throughout our evolution, to defy the parents was to die or to risk death, right?
	Like if you're in the ocean and you see a shark, you get out of the water.
	Does that mean if you don't, you'll get eaten and die?
	No. Well, hopefully die and then get eaten, but no, because there's no guarantee that the shark is going to bite you.
	It might not even be hungry. It might not like the taste of human beings.
	It might be scared of you, right?
	Killer whales don't ever eat people because apparently their mothers teach them what's safe to eat and they've never been taught that it's safe to eat people, so they just swim past people, right?
	But you don't take the chance, right?
	You don't take the chance.
	You get out of the water, right?
	So you can't take the chance of seeing how far your parents will escalate
	if you call them abusive when they're being abusive.
	Are we losing our...
	I jumped to recent messages.
	So you have to nod and agree with them.
	And also, parents who are abusive tend to be really, really good at figuring out when you're faking.
	So you have to internalize it to survive.
	So if they say, you're nothing, you can't say, oh yeah, I totally agree with you, I'm nothing, blah, blah, blah.
	Then they'll just escalate.
	You have to internalize it and you have to believe it.
	Otherwise, it's survival.
	To put it another way, Kids who fought back didn't make it.
	Those genes of fighting back didn't make it.
	Somebody says, my mother-in-law was threatened by her mother with abandonment.
	She told her she'll give her over to gypsies.
	Needless to say, she immediately complied.
	Your parents might escalate like O'Connor's mother drove the car into oncoming traffic.
	Yeah, that's right. Isn't that wild?
	I was thinking about that after the show.
	So for those of you who don't know the story, Sinead O'Connor had an insanely evil and violent mother who beat her around her genitals and in a fetal position and threatened her and so on.
	And then when her brother escaped, Sinead O'Connor's mother demanded that the brother come back.
	The brother refused and she said, if you don't come back, I'm taking Sinead, putting him in the passenger seat and driving into oncoming traffic.
	The brother did not return and the mother did that.
	And then, do you remember? Where did Sinead O'Connor's mother end up after attempting to murder her own child?
	And whoever else was in the oncoming car.
	And whoever else might have been part of it.
	She could have murdered half a dozen or a dozen people by driving into oncoming traffic, big crashes.
	Where did Sinead O'Connor's mother end up?
	Remember? Remember the story?
	If you were here. Elevated position of power.
	No! They put her in asylum.
	They put her in an asylum. No.
	See, if you're a man and you attempt to kill your kid, you go to jail.
	But if you're a woman, you're having a mental health crisis and they have to put you in an asylum.
	Because, you know, you're sad.
	Dysfunctional. Right.
	I mean, for those of you who don't know, my mother, when I attempted to run away at the age of four or so, my mother beat my head against a metal door and I just, I had to go limp because I was going to like, I was risking severe brain damage.
	So no, you can't disagree with them because they're big and violent and they'll kill you.
	And remember, throughout most of human history, there were no laws against killing children, right?
	And, you know, you wouldn't have to do it really explicitly.
	You could just, like, not give them quite enough food or be a little late to protect them when the predators came or, whoops, left them behind or he ran off, he ran off, I don't know where he's gone, blah, blah, blah.
	We've got to move on, right? Speaking of mothers killing children, is sudden infant death syndrome real, or is it just to cover up women doing something by accident?
	I think SIDS is real, and there's been some very interesting speculation recently post-COVID about what has been occurring to it.
	You can check Macy's comment for more on that.
	I can't speak to the science, but there's some very interesting theories about that.
	So you have to believe them.
	You have to believe your parents if they insult you to survive, right?
	Not sure what Julie's saying there.
	So that's causal.
	I get that's causal. That's survivable.
	But as an adult, right, as an adult, you have to go back and take a flamethrower to everything you were told.
	I'm telling you, this is philosophy.
	I said this right in my very first book.
	book you can get that for free at freedomain.com books I mean tell me if you if you think this
	or you experience this Thank you.
	you Tell me when you've lived through the last couple of years.
	I mean, really, since about 2015, eight years, let's say 2015 to 2023.
	And you see the amount of lies that go on in the world and the complete lack of correction from the professional class of historians.
	I mean, how many historians have accurately written a history of all the lies of the past eight years since Trump first came down that elevator?
	Not just about Trump, but escalator, but as a whole.
	Now, you've seen...
	Actual facts. Living, present, current history, you've seen it absolutely falsified.
	Absolutely falsified.
	Right in front of you.
	Right in front of you.
	And what do you think of history now?
	I mean, they literally lie the living shit out of everything right in front of you, right as it's happening.
	They lie about videos that anyone can see like that.
	Right? Like the fine people hoax, right?
	They literally will lie repeatedly, preemptively about people, things and events when the video
	evidence is right there.
	So now, when you look back at history, do you believe any of it?
	What's it that great Norm Macdonald quote?
	It's amazing! It's an incredible coincidence that every single war has always been won by the good guys.
	It's incredible. Well, what are the odds?
	Oh, I see, Julie. Your mom always said that that's what I was, cold and mean, because I made statements where she assumed I meant more.
	Okay, so here's the thing, right?
	Hit me with a Y if you still believe history.
	Hit me with a Y. Hit me with an N if you don't believe it.
	Hit me with a Y if you still believe history.
	Any of it? Right.
	Okay, we have one yes.
	Alright. Yeah, okay. I mean, I'm...
	Right, Julius? Okay.
	Okay. You know, I... I don't know if you guys are ready to get your minds blown.
	blown? I don't know. I don't know man.
	It might be too much.
	.
	Are you... Because this is going to blow your mind, what I'm about to say.
	You're always ready to get blown.
	Because also, you know, I just I don't want you to compulsively donate everything, but this will make you donate.
	Are you sure? This is thermonuclear, man.
	This is like, I'm like, I am become death, the destroyer of illusions.
	I'm Oppenheim-ing your fantasies here.
	Are you sure? Hit me with a why if you're ready to have your mind blown.
	Calling my bank to raise my credit.
	Okay? You're not ready.
	You think you're ready. You're not ready.
	You just think you are. All right.
	How much more teasing and nipple showing should I do?
	All right. Here we go. So, you don't believe history because people lie to you in the present, right?
	You no longer believe history because you can see the lies in the present, right?
	I know the quote was not originally said by Oppenheimer.
	It's from the Bhagavad Gita. I get it.
	I get it. So you don't believe history because the media lies to you up, down, back, front, top, bottom, right?
	All history, you say, is a lie.
	Oh, but what my parents told about me, that's the truth.
	History is a lie made up by evildoers to serve their own interests, but I bet what my parents told about me was accurate and true.
	The Gulf of Tonkin was a total psyop, man.
	The nukes are going off, I'm telling you.
	Do you see? I'm putting this all together for you.
	This is how much work I do for everyone.
	And me too, because I like it when the world gets saner, right?
	Why would you believe what evildoers say about you any more than the media says about people in public life?
	Oh, well, you see, I really don't think that the assassination of JFK was accurate.
	I think there's a lot of lying about that.
	But man, what my nasty, vindictive parents told about me, that's totally true.
	Who has more of an incentive to lie to you about the past?
	the media or mean parents who don't want to get caught for the wrongs they did.
	Are you with me? BOOM!
	Did I oversell?
	Or was that mind-blowing?
	Parents lie more than the media!
	Mean parents lie more than the media!
	I mean, you were actually there.
	I wasn't at Charlottesville.
	I saw the videos afterwards.
	Instant relief. That clicks!
	Right? Right?
	Right? You were there!
	Why would you disbelieve historians and believe the propagandists of your childhood about who you are?
	The people who write your history Are the victors of the past and the victors misrepresent
	the past to serve themselves You
	You ...
	You think propaganda is out there in the mainstream media, the television, the movies, the video games, the schools, universities?
	You think that the propaganda that most affects you is out there?
	Where is the most powerful propaganda in your life?
	Where does the most powerful propaganda in your life show up?
	Tell me. You know it.
	You know it.
	Home. Family.
	Again, with bad parents, right?
	Not all parents are bad, right? I get all of that.
	for the people who gave me their tragic stories, which I massively sympathize with.
	The most powerful propaganda is not about your culture.
	It's not about history, it's about your childhood.
	Thank you for your tip.
	Somebody says, to make up, I know it isn't much, but this is my first stream.
	I value you a lot, Steph, more than you know.
	You got me through my divorce a few months ago and all the evils of the last ten years
	or so.
	The most powerful propaganda is the worldview that our parents and peers have taught us.
	Yes.
	now.
	Thank you.
	which comes first?
	Which comes first?
	The lies about history, the lies about your country, your culture or history or the lies about you as a child?
	Who primes people for accepting propaganda from the media?
	Who primes people to accept propaganda from the media?
	Yes you are correct.
	Santa baby, just slip a sable under the tree for me.
	Yeah, parents. Parents.
	Parents, bad parents, mean parents, vicious parents, abusive parents, lie to you about who you are.
	that wound, that fissure, is already present by the time the media comes along, often by the time
	that school comes along.
	People are susceptible to propaganda in the world because propaganda is first inflicted upon them at home.
	You won't swallow the lies about your culture unless you're first force-fed the lies about yourself.
	Why is there sophistry?
	Why do people believe lies?
	Well, you were right about being compelled to tip on that revelation.
	Very powerful. Well, that's how we do, man.
	That's how we do it. You see, do you think that sophists create a giant market for the need to swallow lies?
	No. They're merely capitalizing on the market created by bad parents who lie to their children and create a bond between the child and the liar.
	You follow? When you bond with a liar, When you're forced to bond with a liar by nature, circumstances, history, evolution, whatever you want to say, the fourth trimester, the quarter century it takes for the brain to mature.
	When you bond with a liar, you are primed to bond with a sophist, because you already have bonded with a sophist.
	A sophist is someone who claims to tell you the truth but is manipulating you to his or her own advantage, right?
	Are we there? You bond with a liar in the home.
	You cannot resist the liars in the world.
	You bond with the lie.
	You bond with the liar.
	You cannot resist the softest if you accept the definitions from the false parents.
	The parents lie to you first.
	The media simply profits after the fact.
	Now, again, good parents out there.
	I'm one. Now, What's the second greatest place as a child outside the home, what's the second greatest place that you get lied to?
	You know it! You know it!
	You know it! I can see you in the morning on the way to school.
	Right. Yeah, school.
	Right. What are the lies they tell about you in school?
	I mean, I get they lie about a bunch of stuff in school, but what are the lies they'd say about you in school?
	If you are bored and having trouble paying attention and a yawning, what lie do they tell you about yourself?
	You don't apply yourself.
	You're ADD. All boys have ADHD and need meth.
	Right. You're a disruptive influence.
	You're disrespectful. You're lazy.
	You're mentally ill. You're dumb.
	If effort matched stability, you'd be an A+. That's what I was always told.
	Nobody ever asked why I was bored, right?
	Does the teacher ever say, How can I do better to engage you?
	How can I make this more interesting to you?
	ever. No, you never heard those words. Somebody says I went from being recommended for special
	ed to scrantron test suggesting I be put in AP classes.
	One person... He retired that year.
	Well, that makes sense, right? Did any teacher ever say to you, the problem is that we have a dumbed-down curriculum for the masses and you're an exception, so this is going to be interesting to you?
	Somebody says, a teacher in my former elementary school drove a child to suicide.
	That's a bit causal. Why couldn't Robin Williams be my English teacher?
	Well, everyone thinks that...
	Everyone thinks that the Dead Poets Society is some sort of inspiring movie about how great teachers can be.
	Hit me with a Y if you've seen Dead Poets Society.
	Hit me with a Y if you've seen Dead Poets Society.
	Did you find it inspiring?
	It's awful.
	What happens to the teacher in Dead Poets Society when he inspires his students?
	Yeah, it's a movie.
	What happens to the inspiring teacher in Dead Poets Society?
	Well, he gets fired, attacked, sued.
	His life is going to be destroyed.
	Yeah, he gets blamed for a student's suicide.
	Sorry, the movie's 30 years old.
	I think we can give a spoiler or two.
	So, he inspires a kid to follow his dreams.
	The kid wants to be an actor.
	His father wants to put him in military school.
	He defies his father's wishes and goes and stars in Midsummer Night's Dream as Puck.
	His father then says, you're going to military school.
	His son kills himself. The father complains of the school.
	There are going to be lawsuits, wrongful death.
	He's going to spend the next five or ten years in law courts, bled dry, unable to work.
	His life is destroyed. I mean, the Robin Williams character in the movie is an idiot.
	Sorry, it's just a fact.
	I'm not bringing this to the movie.
	This is the movie. Well, boys, you've got to seize the day.
	You've got to live your dreams. You've got to be a poet.
	You've got to be passionate. You've got to follow your bliss.
	You've got to blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
	Like, why don't people follow their bliss?
	It's like, because they get sued.
	And they get whatever.
	Their careers get destroyed.
	their incomes get destroyed, their livelihood, their savings, everything gets destroyed.
	Did the, you know, this is supposed to be the wise teacher who knows all about the world.
	Yeah.
	Now, hit me with a why if you clearly see the propaganda in the media but not In your parents' view of you.
	Hit me with a Y. If you see the propaganda in the media, but you don't see the propaganda in your parents' view of you.
	Which one affects you more?
	Which one affects you more?
	P for parents, M for media.
	Which one affects you more?
	Your parents' view of you, or the media?
	Right.
	Do you see why I stopped doing politics and analysis of falsehoods in the media and focus
	on call-in shows and this stuff?
	The media is an after party.
	The media is feasting on the bodies already killed.
	They want you to look at the media so you overlook your family.
	Thank you.
	They want you to look at the shadow, not the statue.
	They want you to look at the effect, not the cause.
	they want you to look at the last domino not the first flick
	or punch it's like playing a video game with a killer in the house
	So, let's get back to this guy's great comment.
	Look at this. We've spent an hour on the first comment.
	I'm sure we'll get to all of the rest of them.
	Never. We will never get to them.
	Yeah, this is why you're addicted to conspiracy theories for years.
	Conspiracy theories, which are, I mean, even the phrase is just annoying, right?
	Like, people say, well, conspiracy theories, like, they're not real.
	It's like, you know that conspiracy is an actual thing.
	It's an actual offense in the criminal code of every Western country known to man, right?
	Conspiracy to commit.
	Conspiracy to collude, right?
	Conspiracy is literally a real thing in law, and people say, well, this doesn't really work, right?
	So you're addicted to conspiracy theories, right?
	I do always get to the comments.
	No conspiracy against JFK. Yeah, you know, it's tough.
	You know when you're holding that sneeze?
	Conspiracy theories are spoiler alerts, yeah.
	Conspiracy theories are a desperate attempt to get out of a matrix you can't get out of
	while ignoring the matrix you can get out of.
	Thank you.
	You cannot remove Your country, your media, your world from your life.
	You can't do that, right?
	I mean, I guess you can go live in the woods or whatever, right?
	But you cannot remove society from your life.
	We're social animals, right?
	So, they get you to focus on things you can't remove from your life and to ignore the very toxic and destructive things Lies.
	Propaganda about you that you can remove from your life.
	It's your parents driving you to conspiracy theories, right?
	Go over there.
	Go look at the Gulf of Tonkin.
	Go look at Project Mockingbird.
	Go look at Ruby Ridge. Go look at all that stuff.
	Go look at the origins of COVID. Just don't come here.
	Also, also, Conspiracy theories as a whole, right?
	You know how many times I was nagged about not doing 9-11, right?
	So conspiracy theories as a whole have you tried to convince other people that there are lies, and those people generally don't believe you and scorn you and mock you, which is you attempting to say, if you were abused as a child, I was abused as a child, and everyone ignoring you.
	It's a repetition compulsion.
	It's a Simon the Boxer. If I'm wrong, tell me I'm wrong.
	If it does not accord with your experience, I'm happy to reformulate the theory.
	I never ever want my theories to dominate your lived experience, your practical actual experience.
	But aren't you constantly reaching out for other people that believe you about things?
	These bad things are happening.
	Bad things are happening. And they just kind of ignore you.
	But this is you when you were a kid.
	you wanted to reach out to people and say I'm being abused and they ignored you.
	Somebody says what you describe is exactly what happened to me for over a
	I was always trying to convince people about the theories.
	Right. Right.
	It's a lot less ghastly to be rejected for your beliefs about MKUltra than it is if you say to someone, I was abused as a child, and they don't want to hear it.
	Right? Right. If you want your child abuse to save you rather than damn you, if you were abused as a child and you wanted to save you rather than damn you, you have to reject the propaganda about who you are.
	You have to reject the sophistry in abusive parents and you have to reject the propaganda about who you are.
	I mean, could I even do this show if I believe the propaganda about me?
	No.
	Now, I don't particularly care about the propaganda about me, because I've overcome the propaganda
	my immediate family had about me for decades.
	If you reject the lies told about you by abusive parents, you are closer to the truth than
	any other single action can get you.
	.
	You step right through.
	There was an old game I used to play as a kid called Star Castle, which was a vector-traced game.
	And it blew my mind when I first saw it, because the vectors had, the ray-tracing vectors, they had different, like, asteroids.
	Like, they had different colors.
	It turned out they just put colored sticky tape on the screen.
	And in it, so you were a...
	The spaceship flying around and you had to shoot through these rotating shield rings to destroy the thing in the center of the spaceship in the cell, the space station in the center or something like that, right?
	So you're flying around to shoot through these defenses, right?
	The lies that harm you most are the lies that define you that you believe that you can't see
	Thank you.
	The lies that define you, that you believe, that you can't see.
	Thank you, Jeremy. I appreciate the tip.
	The lies that define you, that you believe, two sides of the same coin, and that you can't see.
	So if you see the falsehood in the media, that doesn't define you.
	But you can't see it.
	Like this guy says...
	Nobody will ever care what I have to say.
	I believe that nobody will ever care what I have to say because I was neglected.
	No! So I can't talk to my parents since they disowned and slandered me after I confronted them.
	It's quite a revelation to actually experience how much I'm addicted to what society has to offer.
	Oh, because you came back from wildland firefighting?
	Now, let me ask you this.
	If you try to tell the truth to someone...
	Thank you, Dan.
	I appreciate that. It will help with the book.
	If you try to talk to someone about someone who's really harmed you and that person disowns and slanders you
	Would you want to talk to them again?
	Would you?
	Do you know what?
	Sinet O'Connor viciously and violently abused child by her mother and her father, of course, by proxy.
	Do you know, somebody told me this, I assume it's true.
	Do you know what she said on the Dr.
	Phil show about her mother? Oh, this is why she couldn't get better!
	This is why she could not get better.
	I'm going to just double check this.
	I'm going to double check this.
	I want this to be correct.
	at least what the person said.
	Ah!
	Virginia says in an interview with Dr.
	Phil, Sinead O'Connor said that she longs to hug her mother and be with her mother in the afterlife.
	No wonder she never conquered her demons.
	She longs to hug her mother and be with her mother in the afterlife.
	And that's what they call a Stockholm Syndrome bonding with a purely demonic force.
	Not in denial.
	Denial is, I'm not an alcoholic.
	Loving the woman who beat your private parts with implements, that's not denial.
	That's not denial.
	And that's why I say she was a terrible human being.
	She was absolutely victimized as a child.
	A terrible human being.
	Because she is publicly saying that I love the person who abused me.
	which has other people swallow wholesale the propaganda about their own lives the lies told to them about their nature as a parent by parents why is Stockholm Syndrome a thing?
	to survive childhood?
	you have to agree with the people I mean come on man if you're locked in a hole and you're dying of thirst And somebody says, say that two and two make five and I'll give you a bottle of water, what do you do? What do you do?
	Well, two and two isn't five, so I'm just going to die of thirst.
	Yeah, you say two and two is five.
	Absolutely, two and two is five. Sure.
	Absolutely, two and two is five.
	I mean, this is the end of 1984, right?
	It's survival. When demons run your life, you have to swallow your own halo, right?
	grow some horns. You have to blend, you have to merge, you have to agree.
	Somebody says, my father used to tell me I was mentally retarded as a child because I never got
	upset or erratic like he would when in conflict or debating with my father.
	I believed him for years. I've only now begun to start untangling that excruciating mess in my childhood.
	You did not believe him.
	You did not believe him.
	I'm sorry. I really don't...
	I hate to tell people their own experience.
	You didn't believe him. You had to.
	You had to. What was the price of not believing him?
	What would be the price of not believing him?
	What would be the price of saying, no that's absolutely wrong and it's completely abusive to say that to me.
	What would be the price?
	We all know. We all know.
	That's game over. Those who fought back did not survive.
	You know, this is the essence of life in combat with immorality.
	Know when you can win.
	And know when you can't.
	You've got to know when to hold them.
	Know when to fold them.
	Know when you can win and know when you can't.
	Did you ever see my Hong Kong documentary?
	I'll take tear gas, I'll take aggression, I'll take exploding concrete all over the place, but when the tanks come, I'm out.
	I'm out. Don't talk shit to abusive parents, Sun Tzu.
	Yeah. Until, I mean, when you get into a teens, you can fight back.
	You've got some independence and all.
	I'm writing about all of this stuff at the moment, which is why this conversation is
	going so deep, right?
	So this fellow who wrote this, he says, I can't talk to my parents since they disowned
	and slandered me after I confronted them.
	...
	So this is still a bond.
	Again, I get the appearance.
	But they told you that you were worthless.
	And then when you confronted them with how much they hurt you, they disowned and attacked you.
	And he still wants to talk to them.
	He still wants to talk to them.
	That's A bad bond.
	Now, if your parents are right, you should thank them, right?
	If you can't be a singer, and people say you can't be a singer, you should thank them for not encouraging you to waste your time.
	If your parents are right, you should thank them, right?
	But if your parents say that you're...
	Of course, now, when parents say, you're nothing, you're garbage, you're stupid, right?
	Now, if you're not smart, and your parents say, you know, you're not particularly smart, we'll get you tested, you know, your IQ is 93, or whatever it is, right?
	If you're not particularly...
	Can you pause for a minute? I need a piss.
	You stand there, and you get that warm, leggy philosophy feeling, like Rupric.
	So, what's that old joke from that Michael Caine movie with...
	Oh gosh, what's his name?
	Steve Martin. I need to go to the bathroom.
	Okay. It's funny.
	Scoundrels and...
	Dirty Rotten Scoundrels. That's the one.
	Thank you. Golden shower of philosophy.
	You wear a diaper cross-country astronaut style.
	So, what is anger for?
	for.
	What is anger for?
	Remember, it's fight or it's flight.
	Compliance is flight, right?
	Compliance is flight.
	You fly from yourself, you comply with your parents.
	What is anger for?
	What does anger tell you about the situation?
	Flight is for compliance.
	Flight is when it's bigger than you.
	Right? You got a 1800 pound grizzly charging at you, you run!
	Right. Anger says, you can win!
	That's what anger says.
	You can win. You can win.
	No, no. Anger is not get away from the situation.
	That's flight.
	Anger says, you can win.
	The power has shifted. Can you feel angry and simultaneously feel helpless?
	Can you feel anger and despair, anger and depression?
	No! Anger is get your ass in gear.
	Run towards the fire.
	You can put out the fire.
	you can win against the fire, at least you can rescue people from the fire.
	Anger is your antibody to the illness.
	You follow? Remember we talked earlier?
	It either repeats or cures you.
	Child abuse either repeats or cures you.
	If you run from yourself, if you run from the abuse, it tends to repeat, or at the very best, it paralyzes you to the point where you don't get married, don't have kids, don't whatever, right?
	But if you turn and fight, anger says, I can win.
	Flight, fear, paralysis, depression, it says you can't win.
	Can't win. Anger says the future can be different from the past.
	Right? Anger says the future can be different from the past.
	Anger says I'm no longer a child.
	I'm independent.
	I have my own standards.
	I have my own values. And I can call out the fucking liars.
	Because I'm no longer under the control of propagandists.
	What if I haven't felt anger, just ran away?
	Then that's empirical evidence to me, at least, I can't tell you what your experience is, but to me that's empirical evidence that you don't feel you can win.
	Now, if you're facing a propagandist, if you're facing a propagandist, why would you feel you can't win?
	Why would you feel you can't win if you're facing a pathological liar and a propagandist?
	Someone who abuses their power.
	Why would you feel you can't win?
	You can also donate on Rumble if you are finding this helpful.
	Thanks for watching!
	Because they have power over you?
	No, because if you're an adult, they don't actually have power over you.
	You believe the propagandist?
	Sure. They convince you ahead of time that you're powerless?
	Why do I always get angry when my hopes are let down every time I go out, trying to meet at least one nice girl that's at least somewhat attractive and not crazy?
	I'm getting used to this feeling of loneliness?
	No, it means that there are other people in your life profiting from your isolation?
	No! The reason you feel helpless when confronting a propagandist is you believe that you have to get them to tell the truth.
	Don't you? You have to get them to admit the truth.
	You have to get them to tell the truth.
	You have to get them to accept the truth.
	Right? Do you have that power?
	Do you have that power to get people to accept the truth?
	You don't follow?
	All right.
	Thank you.
	.
	If I believe that I can only win against a liar if the liar tells the truth, I've just surrendered power to the liar to determine the victory.
	You never let other people determine the victory standards.
	Never let other people determine the victory standards.
	Do you follow me?
	If you say it is dependent on the liar accepting the truth for me to win, you have surrendered
	all of your power and you are back under the control of the liar, the propagandist.
	Thank you very much.
	Tell me if I'm wrong.
	With my mother, could I only win if she admitted that she abused me?
	Could I win if the standard of victory was her honor and integrity and honesty?
	No. It would be impossible to win.
	I would be giving all of my power back to her.
	Right? So, You get angry because you want to change something, because the future can be different from the past, because you're free, you're independent, you're no longer dependent upon liars for your survival.
	What is your standard of victory?
	It has to be, you can't have a standard of victory that you can't control.
	Is my standard of victory, people always telling the truth about me, on the internet?
	It's my standard of truth.
	It's my standard of victory. I'll win when nobody lies about me on the internet or misrepresents my arguments or takes us out of context, right?
	I showed up recently on Twitter, I guess, on X, on the Internet Hall of Fame.
	Because back in the day when women were telling me, but you can't have an opinion about women's issues because you don't have a uterus.
	And so I wrote back as a reply to that, a satirical argument saying, ladies, you can't be drafted.
	You've got to sit down when war is being discussed.
	It was a satirical argument saying, look, even though you can't be drafted, you have valid opinions about war.
	And even though I don't have a uterus, I have valid opinions about female issues.
	It was a satirical argument.
	And of course, some woman said, basically, well, some men tell me to sit down, but I'm a colonel, so they have to address me as...
	Colonel or something like that, right?
	It's like, still doesn't address the issue that she wasn't drafted, but anyway.
	What is your standard of victory when you're dealing with manipulators?
	What is your standard of victory when you're dealing with propagandists, liars, and manipulators?
	What is your standard of victory?
	What is your standard of victory?
	It has to be something that you can control.
	All right, let's see what some of your answers are.
	Peace of mind. Peace of mind is a bit ephemeral, and peace of mind is also not directly under your control, right?
	Because you could get, I don't know, some bad medical news or something, or, you know, your dog gets sick or something, or you lose your job suddenly because you work for Bud Light.
	So peace of mind is a little bit ephemeral.
	It can't really be a standard of victory.
	The standard is simply the truth that you can verify.
	Yeah, but that's the standard of truth.
	That's not the standard of dealing with manipulators.
	Getting away from them? Not necessarily.
	Not necessarily. Keeping your values intact?
	That's a bit abstract. Getting everyone else to see he is a liar?
	Nope. Because that relies on other people's integrity, which you can't count on.
	Your inner peace?
	Meh. The case you make, finding out the truth about them, freedom from the effects of the liar.
	No, because you can't necessarily get freedom from the effects of the liar.
	I'm not free, in a sense, of the lies that people tell about me on the internet.
	It has an effect on, you know, am I doing any public speaking tours at the moment?
	Not really, right? So, it has an effect.
	Clear conscience? Yeah, that's close.
	Not becoming a liar myself?
	That's close. So when you're dealing with a liar and a manipulator, your standard of victory is the truth you tell.
	Because that's the only thing you have control over.
	It's the truth you tell. When I sat down with my mother, as I did on many occasions to talk about my childhood, the only thing I had control over was the truth I told.
	I didn't have any control over her reactions, her response, what she was going to say, what she was going to do.
	I had no control over that.
	The only thing I can control is my own integrity, my own conscience, my own commitment to honesty.
	Right? And the only thing you can control Somebody, Dan says, so you want to be alone in a cave with the truth?
	The truth is your only possibility of connecting with anyone.
	We can only meet in reality.
	Is this the precipice between determinism and free will?
	No! It's the precipice between power and paralysis.
	If you think that your power is dependent upon other people's reactions, you have no power.
	You're paralyzed. You're paralyzed.
	You tell the truth, and people do whatever the fuck they want to.
	You tell the truth, people do See, when you were a kid, you were dependent upon how your parents reacted, which is why you complied with their lies, if they were abusive.
	This is in general, I'm not talking about all parents, it's the abusive ones.
	When you were a kid, you were dependent upon the reactions of your parents.
	Anger is when you accept that that's changed.
	But that's changed. You are no longer dependent upon their reactions.
	And therefore, you're not managing, controlling, and manipulating other people like this guy with his comment.
	I hope it's okay that I post this now.
	It's like, don't put me in the category of being an abusive parent.
	Right? Because this is his parents saying, oh, you've got to write it this way.
	I hope it's okay. I don't want to be intrusive, right?
	Because that's going to annoy people because you're putting them in the category of abusive parents and then they're going to ignore what you say.
	Well, hi, Doug. Nice to see you.
	Who's typing this? When you get messages, when you hear people, who's typing this?
	Who's typing this? I hope it's okay that I post this now.
	I won't be able to make it, blah, blah, blah. You know, if this is finished for you, so to say, just ignore the question, right?
	So he's being so manipulative.
	It's his parents not wanting him to get help by pushing me away because they say, well, you treat everyone like they're abusive towards you and then look at that.
	You don't have any companions. You don't have any friends.
	Nobody sympathizes with you.
	nobody cares about you, nobody gives you compassion or...
	right?
	See he's concerned that his parents slander him.
	In a sense, he's slandering me, and I know it's not conscious.
	I don't take it personally. But he's dealing with me as if I'm some hair-trigger guy who's going to yell at him for posting something at 6.45 when the show only starts at 7, when I've explicitly asked for questions
	so he's not talking to me His parents are talking to me saying, don't give this kid any sympathy, man.
	We're just going to annoy you up front so you keep your distance and reject him.
	They're putting the shield up around him.
	The virtue repellent spray, right?
	Do you follow what I'm saying, right?
	Does this make sense? I want to make sure I'm clear-ish.
	I mean, how do you even know you're talking to people and people aren't talking through you?
	Are people pushing others away?
	A bad parent pushing others away to keep you for themselves.
	When you go to ask a girl out, when you ask a girl out, what can you control?
	Thank you.
	You wanna ask a girl out, what can you control?
	Yeah, you can control yourself.
	Now, if you had bad parents, do they want you To meet a righteous, honorable, courageous, strong woman.
	Or vice versa, girl to boy.
	Do your destructive, negative, if they are abusive parents, do they want you to meet a strong, virtuous woman?
	Nope! So if you get overly nervous when asking a girl out, is that you or your parents?
	You follow me? Who's asking the girl out?
	You? Or are your parents making you super nervous and self-effacing and overly aggressive or awkward or like...
	Mine have shown no interest in my love life.
	Right. Which means they're sabotaging you.
	They're sabotaging you.
	I mean, you've heard this a million times in call-in shows.
	I'm 28. I've been an adult for 10 years.
	My parents have never shown any interest in mine.
	Dating life. That's sabotage, right?
	It's like saying, well, my parents have never shown any interest in, you know, I'm 10 years old.
	I'm homeschooled. My parents have never shown any interest in teaching me how to read.
	That's pure sabotage, right?
	See, you want a good woman if you have abusive parents.
	They want no woman or they want a bad woman.
	Anger is when you say the future can be different from the past.
	Anger is when you say the future can be different from the past.
	And anger is when it turns from curse to cure.
	Anger is when your abuse turns from curse to cure.
	Because you get the antibodies.
	And he tries to manage me, right?
	Thank you.
	If this topic is finished for you, so to say, just ignore the question.
	Thank you. It's like don't tell me what to do.
	Tell me if you do this.
	Do you try to manage both sides of the interaction?
	Do you try to manage the other person?
	Do you try to, oh, it's okay.
	You don't have to do this or it's fine.
	I'm just asking, but don't feel obligated.
	Do you try to manage the other person too?
	Do you know how insulting that is to the other person?
	You think you're being nice?
	You're not being nice? You're insulting the other person.
	Well, I have to tell you how to think, and you know, it's fine if you say no.
	It's like, don't manage the other person.
	Don't do it. That's you having to manage your parents because they're abusive.
	You have to manage the other person's reactions because they're abusive, right?
	Hey, quick question.
	When you followed me in my heydays of social media, did I spend a lot of time trying to
	manage other people's reactions to what I was saying?
	No, of course not.
	I tell the truth, right?
	I don't.
	Don't try to manage other people.
	Right? This guy should just ask me the question.
	You know, if it's finished for you, you can just ignore it.
	It's like, no, don't tell me what I can and can't do, what I should or shouldn't do.
	Don't try and boss me around by pretending to be polite.
	Steph, you always go hard as hell.
	That's why I love you. Well, thank you.
	I appreciate that. But when you get the urge to manage someone else, you are casting them in the role of threat.
	Right? You are casting them in the role of threat.
	Don't do it. Because if they're not a threat to you, but you treat them as if they're a threat to you, they will not like you.
	Because they know that they're not talking to you.
	Like, this guy is putting me in the role of his parents.
	He's not talking to me.
	No, it's not micromanaging.
	Micromanaging is when you manage the details.
	It's an attempt to control somebody else through manipulation.
	That's not micromanaging.
	It's saying, everybody's like my abusive parent.
	I had to manage them, so I have to manage everyone.
	And it's turning the whole world into your abusive parents.
	And guess what? You never get free.
	You never get to grow up.
	You never get to escape. I didn't manage my mother's reactions after I became an adult.
	I didn't manage the reactions of people on Twitter.
	Because whose job is it to manage emotions?
	Whose job is it to manage emotions?
	Everybody's. Absolutely. And there's lots of people, right?
	The tone police, right? Well, what you're saying is very upsetting to me.
	I'm literally shaking right now.
	I'm very upset. I'm hurt.
	I'm upset. I'm like, yeah, I'm sorry.
	That's tough. You just donated another $25.
	Thank you very much. I really, really appreciate that.
	I mean, I know this stuff is gold, baby.
	Gold, I'm telling you. Why is it so essential to not manage other people?
	Steph, when you sometimes say, and I don't mean this in a bad way, but isn't that also managing people?
	No, if I feel that I could be misinterpreted, I want to be clear.
	I'm also not talking to an individual here.
	Why is it so essential that you don't try to manage other people?
	It's easy to manage someone else's emotions than to control your own.
	Factually, no. Because it's impossible to manage someone else's emotions.
	It's possible to control your own.
	It's impossible to manage someone else's.
	Because you don't manage them.
	If you don't manage them, then you will find out the truth about the relationship right away.
	It's giving people the space to manage themselves, to be more productive, so you can see if they're lovable, because you will lose track of yourself, because emotional blackmail, boom!
	Doug arrived late, but he's coming in hard.
	He's coming in strong. He's coming in hot.
	You're giving them power over you.
	Right. So, this guy, this guy, and again, appreciate his message.
	It's a fantastic message. I'm going to copy and paste it here so everyone sees it for all eternity.
	I'm sorry I only got to one message, but it's so fruitful.
	I will get to the other messages.
	I'll do a show this weekend, whether it's solo or live stream.
	But, right.
	This guy... He's giving me power over him by trying to assert power over me.
	He's trying to assert power over me.
	Oh, you can do this, but you can't do that.
	It's fine if you want to ignore it, but...
	Why is he giving me power over him?
	How is he giving me power over him?
	How is he telling me exactly how to control him?
	I don't know.
	Bye.
	He's dependent on you for a reaction?
	I mean, he is dependent upon my reaction.
	So, let's look at this.
	He says, good evening. Hope it's okay that I post this now since I won't make it to the actual live stream.
	I hope it's okay that I post this now.
	What is he telling me about what he's sensitive to?
	What is he sensitive to?
	I hope it's okay. I hope it's okay.
	What is he sensitive to?
	What is he telling me where he hurts the most?
	Yeah, criticism, rejection, attack.
	I hope it's okay. Right?
	If this topic is finished for you, so to say, just ignore the question.
	Yeah, he doesn't want to be a nuisance.
	He's afraid of being rejected.
	He's afraid of being ignored. He's telling me exactly where his pain points are.
	Now, quick question.
	In the world as a whole, maybe I'm a little cynical about this based upon, I don't know, the last 56 and a half fucking years of my life, but let me ask you this.
	How successful is it in general if you show unprocessed severe vulnerability on the internet?
	How well does that go as a whole?
	This is what I'm most afraid of.
	This is where it hurts me the most.
	This is what I'm the most sensitive to.
	What happens when you show the world the softest most vulnerable underbelly you have?
	It is a hilarious question, but it's very real as well.
	Yeah. Bring on the piranhas.
	You are inviting people. You think you're going to control other people?
	Oh no, baby! There are people out there way better at controlling others than you are or than I am.
	So you think you're managing other people?
	Nope. You are showing other people your soft underbelly and if they want to put their fucking hooks into you, they know exactly where to strike.
	Oh, I'm going into combat.
	I just wanted to let you know ahead of time, this part of my armor is totally weak.
	I haven't really taken care of it.
	So if you could just not hit me on this little spot of my armor, that would be really great because it's just falling apart.
	And also, like, I've got this where my jugular is.
	I also have an old injury there.
	Sometimes it aches when there's going to be a storm.
	So right here, if you could just, like, we're going into combat and we're playing for the future of the world, but if you could just not hit me here.
	Now, of course, So, you get it, right?
	You show your vulnerability. You show your vulnerability.
	You think you're controlling other people, you're surrendering to them.
	You're not controlling the best out there, you're surrendering to the worst out there.
	Keep a few secrets, my friends.
	Play a little hard to get.
	Be a little cryptic.
	Be a little unreadable, right?
	I mean, imagine, right?
	Imagine you go on a date, right?
	You go on a date and a woman's like, if we become, it's like, don't ever leave me.
	Don't ever leave me. I can't stand it.
	I couldn't stand it if you left me, right?
	Yeah, in professional boxing, if one injure knows the other has an injury, they'll always exploit it.
	Of course they will. Okay, let me ask you this.
	Out there in the world, I'm not talking about at home or in this wonderful community.
	Out there in the world, what percentage of your life is combat?
	Out there in the world, what percentage of life is combat?
	Not among your friends, your family, your lover, your pets.
	out there in the world, this is for men and women, what percentage of life is combat?
	10,000 What percentage? Sorry, let me get to your comments here.
	Let me get to your comments. 99.5%.
	All of it. 95%.
	All the time. All. 100%.
	80%. Minus high.
	10,000. 90.
	100. All. Over 9,000.
	Right. Well...
	I love the fact that you guys are here.
	Thank you very much for your support.
	Tips, always welcome.
	You know how much value I'm providing and not...
	Okay, let's see.
	I know how many people are watching.
	I know how many people are watching. How many people have tipped, just out of curiosity?
	About 5% of you.
	Yeah, about 5% of you.
	Come on. Come on!
	Thank you for those of you who have tipped.
	But really, 5%?
	Free riders. Come on!
	You'll feel better, I promise you.
	You just helped me strum my deepest chord.
	Thank you, Steph. I was going to wait till the end.
	I appreciate that, Chris, but don't wait till the end.
	Don't wait till the end. All right.
	You pay monthly, and I appreciate that too.
	That's fantastic. That's fantastic.
	Now, what percentage?
	Okay, so let's just look at me right now, right?
	Am I combating you?
	Am I in combat with you?
	Yes! Yes, I am!
	What am I fighting in you?
	What am I fighting in you?
	And in myself every day, just so we're all in this together, right?
	What am I fighting in you?
	Illusion, ignorance, entrapment, enslavement, lies, propaganda, falsehoods, Right?
	I'm fighting the abusers.
	I'm fighting to free you. I'm fighting for you to stop thinking that you are dysfunctional because of abuse because as I said at the beginning you can't ever not be abused if you were abused so you can't ever not be dysfunctional.
	Right? I'm fighting paralysis.
	Right? When somebody calls up me calls me up for a call-in show am I in combat with them?
	Yeah. Yes, I am.
	It's ninja moves. It's a warrior combat.
	It's fighting. It's kickboxing.
	I'm fighting. I'm fighting.
	And you can help people when you're fighting.
	If your friend is being beaten up and you go and fight, you're fighting.
	If your friend gets trapped and like a log falls and you lift up the log, you're fighting.
	Yeah. Let me ask you this.
	Am I in combat with everyone else who's doing a show right now?
	Am I in combat with movies, with television, with podcasters, with live streamers, with Twitch, with the women who do ice cream so good?
	Am I in combat with sex cam workers?
	I am! I am at absolute combat with everyone else who would distract you from the good
	and essential work of truth and virtue. Right?
	When you are approaching a man or a woman with romantic interest, are you in combat?
	combat.
	Thank you.
	Thank you.
	You're in combat with her skepticism.
	You're in combat with everyone else who might want to ask you out.
	You're in combat. I mean, you're in a lineup.
	People cut in line. You're in combat.
	I'm not saying all of life is fighting because we have the home, we have the loved ones, we have our family, we have our friends, right?
	But in the world, as a whole, yeah, you're in combat every time you drive.
	I can't believe I'm choosing to watch Steph over a hot 20-year-old girl.
	Well, this is how you get the hot 20-year-old girl, because you come across strong, you don't show her your weak spot, and you don't try and manipulate or control her.
	Finish him. Without struggle, there is no life.
	Let me ask you this. What do you fight about with yourself during the day?
	I mean, we've got somebody here who wanted to pee.
	He's fighting for that. He's fighting for that.
	What do you fight about with yourself during the day?
	sloth. Yeah. I mean, my daughter was...
	Thank you very much.
	I appreciate that. Sayeth the Lloyd.
	That's very funny. I appreciate.
	I appreciate that support.
	I really do. That's very kind.
	I mean, I don't know if you care.
	Do you want to know what I was fighting about with myself today?
	Do you care? I mean, we're all the same, right?
	Yeah, you want to know? I fight to get out of bed in the morning because I really enjoy sitting there thinking about my day.
	And then I'm like, oh, it's taken me too long to put on deodorant and moisturize my face and brush my teeth and, you know, I should get downstairs and get my day started.
	And then I sort of get my day started.
	This morning my daughter wanted to go out to brunch and she told me a long, complicated story.
	A little bit at times I had to fight to pay attention.
	And I wanted to get yogurt and fruit with a little bit of honey and I had to fight myself because the big was too many calories.
	So I got the smaller one and then I came home and my daughter and I were playing a video game.
	I wanted to do some side quests.
	She wanted to do the main quest.
	So we had not a conflict, but, you know, we had a disagreement about that.
	And then I got up and I was a little bit sleepy.
	So I was like, oh, I should get to work on my book.
	But then I also feel a little bit tired.
	So I did rest for, I don't know, 20 minutes or whatever it is and got some refreshing.
	And then I was like... I should have another coffee, but, you know, I try to have only two cups of caffeinated coffee a day, and I had a coffee this morning, so maybe I should just have a half-caffe, and that way I can have another one later.
	And then I went to, I'm doing weights, I'm doing a weight machine while writing the book, because I voice dictate, and I was like, should I keep writing?
	How many words did I do?
	Oh, I did 5,000 words, but I'm really in a role, I should keep going.
	And then I came back, and I was like, oh, I don't really want to have too much to eat, because I was still kind of full from last night, and I'm Losing weight, I'm down to like 190 or whatever it is from a high of like, I don't know, 230 or something at some point.
	Or 228 or something.
	And so then I was playing a video game right before the show and I'm like, oh, but I want to simultaneously stream to a bunch of other places so I've got to stop the game and go do something else.
	So I'm fighting.
	This is not a complaint.
	This is not a bad thing. I'm not complaining about it.
	I mean, does it sound exhausting?
	It's not. That's just life.
	Great impression of how a wife explains their day.
	Somebody says, I fought today with if I should be productive or not at work.
	I'm the lead IT engineer for a number of big companies.
	The need for problem solving is the only thing that drives me some days.
	The only thing that makes me want to get up in the morning sometimes.
	I'm also checking the other places, if you want to tell me.
	I'm checking over here on Rumble.
	What do you fight about?
	Do you fight stress sometimes?
	Do you fight worry sometimes? Do you fight inertia sometimes?
	Do you fight procrastination sometimes?
	Do you fight greed sometimes? Of course you do!
	Of course you do!
	Do you fight temptation sometimes?
	Absolutely! Are you quitting drugs, smoking, drinking, porn?
	Are you fighting something?
	You fight urges? Yes!
	That's life! That's life!
	Am I wrong? Look, we're up to 6 or 7% of people.
	I'm fighting your stinginess right now, right now.
	You know this is the best conversation in the world.
	You know that this is the best conversation in the world.
	You fight the urge to hate women.
	Absolutely. We fight disappointment.
	We fight entitlement. You fight your own will.
	You sometimes fight your own capacity for greatness and that's the biggest fight of all.
	Am I wrong? What if I could be great?
	What if I could be magnificent? I chose this conversation over some shitty movie.
	You fight the urge to control people.
	Yes, this guy fought and failed.
	Somebody says, Vince says, I just signed up today.
	I signed up and sent 50 bucks.
	Thank you very much. I appreciate that.
	Super kind. Really, really appreciate that.
	Fight for the future I want.
	Yes. Ah, here's a big one.
	Here's a big one. Come on.
	Come on. Give me a 1 to 10, how much do you fight self-criticism, self-attack, self-denigration?
	How much do you fight 1 to 10?
	Self-criticism, self-denigration, self-attack.
	Yeah, everybody's high.
	Everybody's high. Everybody's high on this.
	I, uh... I started off with a half-calf which I never have at 7 o'clock because I felt a little too tired to do a show tonight because I had just been writing the peaceful parenting stuff which is really draining.
	I wrote 5,000 words today and it was a lot of work.
	Do you fight disappointment to try and regain your enthusiasm?
	Do you fight your enthusiasm so you don't get hurt?
	Do you fight with your friends about what the truth of the world is?
	Do you fight with people on the internet?
	How much of life is combat?
	I want you to see what I wrote.
	It was the first five comments or so on Rumble.
	Let me go and see.
	Rumble you say?
	Yeah, I don't know which one it is on Rumble.
	Hearing about all this combat is exhausting.
	See, now you're fighting.
	You're fighting how much fighting there is in the world.
	You even fight your internalized staff.
	Absolutely. We've got an animal nature that's our selected, which fights with our case-selected intellect and vice versa, right?
	When you're attracted to a girl just for her looks or a guy just for his looks, we fight that urge as well.
	This really is the best conversation.
	Your words have helped me guide so many people.
	100 to 120. Thank you.
	I appreciate that. I appreciate that.
	The internal, internal Steph.
	We all have him. Don't lie.
	As do I. As do I. When I'm attracted to a girl, but I get evil vibes.
	I fight it. Right.
	You know the meme on the internet?
	Oh, look at that. It's 2% of people on Rumble who've dipped.
	Well, I guess we know who's the more generous and kind people here.
	So, you know the pretty girl who's in a mugshot, who's done something terrible?
	Do you know what people say about her?
	I can save her.
	I can save her.
	You fight that! Invite the urge to, white knight, to protect, to turn on your brother because a woman is manipulating you, right?
	Look, maybe this is just me.
	Maybe I'm a little bit more conflict-y and I enjoy it.
	I think it's life. I embrace it.
	I'm not going to try and, oh, I'm going to be a oneness like ether, like the fart breath of a smoke from a genie.
	I'm just going to be at one in peace.
	No, there's times where that happens for sure.
	I once asked a girl out because she complained about loneliness.
	Thank you.
	I'm not proud. But, you know, I was young.
	I can save her.
	Don't be alone! Right.
	So, is it just me?
	Is there a lot of fighting in life?
	And there's, you know, relaxation.
	Fine, yeah, absolutely. I'm definitely a fighter.
	I love being into philosophy because my aggression is channeled into something good.
	We're going to fight. Let me ask you this, because there's women here too, right?
	So ladies, do you think that there's less fight in the life of a woman than there is in the life of a man?
	Do you think that there's less fight?
	Hit me with a W if you think women fight less than men.
	Hit me with an M if you think it's the same.
	W for women, M for male.
	Women if you think women have less fight in them or fight less than men.
	Yeah, it's the same. It's the same.
	Yeah, all the internal fights, fights with each other.
	Women fight through reputation attack, which is why you've got the modern cancel culture and all of that, right?
	Yeah, women do tall poppy syndrome.
	There's a lot of drama. Yeah, for sure.
	For sure. So Vince, you've got to tell me who you are on the other platform or I can't find your question.
	Or you can just repaste it. Just copy and paste it here and I'll find that.
	I'm not trying to ignore you.
	I just... Women fight more?
	Eh, you know. So here's the thing.
	What if life is constant fighting and you either fight for good, for ill, or for nothing?
	Just putting this out as a possibility.
	Maybe life is a constant combat.
	You either fight for good, you fight for ill, or you fight nothing.
	What's it going to be? Listen, have you ever had...
	Let me ask you this. Have you ever had a week in your life...
	No conflict, no combat, no fighting yourself, no competition with others.
	Have you ever had a week in your life, and this may sound like a...
	If you have, please let me know.
	I'm absolutely open to the data, right?
	Have you ever had a week in your life, no inner conflict, no combat, no conflict, no competition with others?
	Perfect serenity and peace of mind.
	Never have I been in a coma.
	Right. I wish...
	Do you? Do you?
	You think we got to the top of the food chain by...
	Not!
	Right? Oh, you've had that?
	Yes, but not so good the devil finds work for idle hands.
	Okay, so you're just deferring, right?
	Your honeymoon? Right.
	Okay, so for the most part, no, right?
	So you're going to fight. You're going to fight.
	Now, you can fight that, but then you're just fighting the fact that you're going to fight, just adding more inception layers of fighting.
	Just accept it. Yeah, there's always a challenge, there's always a struggle, there's always a combat, there's always a conflict, and it's fine.
	That's fine. Right?
	You can be sitting there watching TV. It's like, ah, maybe the show isn't that great.
	Maybe it's getting kind of repetitive.
	Do I want a snack? Maybe I should get a snack.
	Maybe I shouldn't get a snack. Or I should probably get to bed.
	Oh, I'm not that tired, but I know I'm going to be tired.
	Like, doesn't this always happen?
	Aren't you constantly weighing alternatives and possibilities?
	Maybe it's just me. The struggle ends when you're dead.
	Yeah. Because, you know, I'm a peaceful parent, right?
	Yeah, one more episode. I'm a peaceful parent, so I have the amazing, I have the amazing situation where I get to see a daughter who was raised with peace and reason and seeing that it's not just, it's a bit human nature, isn't it?
	How would you, Judah, move your inner parents into an asset?
	Well, your inner parents are an asset.
	Your inner parents are there.
	Your inner parents are there to protect you from your outer parents, but not just from your outer parents, right?
	Your inner parents are there to protect you from people like your parents, right?
	They were there to protect you from your parents, and if your parents don't reform, let's say you get them out of your life because they just remain relentlessly abusive, your inner parents are there to protect you from everyone like your parents.
	I see you, Doug. I see you.
	And if you are on Rumble, you just click the little dollar right below the message thing there and you can help me out.
	Like, if you get the smallpox vaccine, it didn't just protect me against whatever was in the smallpox vaccine.
	It protected me against smallpox as a whole.
	All smallpox, right?
	That was the general idea. Let's see here.
	Alright, somebody says, oh, this is Vince.
	In many of our problems and issues arise from a kind of nitpicking tendency towards coming up with explanations for why our problems are insurmountable.
	Having been a drug addict and therefore having known dozens of addicts, I can sniff out bullshit excuses before they're even spoken.
	A difficult part of me taking my life back was striking a delicate balance between being forgiving of myself while also demanding progress from myself.
	What are your thoughts on this?
	Ah, that's a good question.
	Alright, it's a lot in there. Nitpicking tendency.
	Okay, do you guys know where nitpicking comes from?
	Hit me with a Y. How relevant is this?
	Let me just copy this. Hit me with a Y if you're a nitpicker.
	Hit me with a Y if you're a nitpicker.
	No hate, no judgment, no right.
	There's pluses and minuses to it.
	A bit. Which bit exactly?
	No, I'm just kidding. Nitpicker.
	Do you know where nitpicking comes from?
	Nitpicking comes out of fear of verbal abuse.
	Whenever I've seen a nitpicker, they've been verbally abused in the past.
	And so you try to close off all loopholes, you try to get every exception, you try to cross the I's and dot the T's in the hopes that you won't be attacked.
	Yeah, hypocritical parents. That is right.
	That is right. Oh, swordsman?
	Yeah, it's a defense against verbal abuse.
	Yeah, Jared, come on. Of course we know that one, right?
	Yeah, yeah. Oh, holy shit, I'm definitely a major nitpicker then.
	That checks out, lines up with my experience.
	And again, I say this for sympathy, it's not right.
	Well, if I get everything right, I can't get attacked.
	Perfectionism is the same thing.
	Perfectionism is fear of attack for imperfection.
	And of course, whoever attacks you is being vastly more imperfect than you could ever be, right?
	It's a form of magical thinking that if you get everything right, you won't be attacked.
	Spoiler! Well, let me ask you this.
	Did nitpicking end up with you not getting attacked?
	It's preemptive self-defense against attack, right?
	Yeah, it doesn't work, right?
	I mean, it's magical thinking that you need because you've got to survive, right?
	Yeah, but nitpicking, it's a way of stalling the conversation too.
	So parents also, if you're in a very powerful conversation leading to the truth about your parents, your inner parents will go into nitpick to derail the conversation so you don't get to the truth that might harm their interests.
	If that makes sense. Me?
	No. I always got attacked. I'm struggling to repost my first comment right now.
	Yeah, it is magical thinking.
	If you had restless, abusive parents, did you have the feeling like, oh, well, you know, but if the house is tidy, then I won't get attacked.
	If I make my bed, I won't get attacked.
	If I've done my homework, then I won't get attacked.
	If I just do X, Y, or Z, then I won't get attacked.
	Like honestly, this was the difference between my brother and I.
	My brother was like, let's tidy up the place so mom won't get mad.
	I mean, like, it's not about whether the place is tidy or not.
	I'm not taking ownership for her bad temper.
	We would always have that conflict.
	You've got to tidy up. It's not going to make any difference.
	If she's in a good mood, it doesn't matter.
	If she's in a bad mood, it doesn't matter.
	Did your brother ever bully you?
	Yes. Yeah, got to check all the boxes to avoid attack, right?
	And this magical thinking, right?
	I mean, it's magical primitive thinking, like, well, if we sacrifice a goat, we'll get good reins.
	Well, you can't control the reins, but you can control your anxiety by magical thinking, right?
	Somebody says, I would snark at my dad to attack me for some reason.
	I think I'd rather be attacked than be in constant anticipation to be attacked.
	Oh yeah, for sure. You poke it to get it over with.
	Yeah, that's natural. Every time I did something at home, I was trying to cover any fault in my work my parents could criticize.
	Yes, that's right. The physical abuse was so in the forefront of my mind that I did not realize how much damage had been done from the verbal abuse.
	Well, physical abuse and verbal abuse are usually two sides of the same coin because the physical abuse is part of the threat of verbal abuse.
	It's always in the background, right?
	Very superstitious!
	Why are siblings cruel to each other?
	The parents set them against each other so that they don't ally against the parents.
	All right. Oh, two hours, ten minutes.
	Any last questions? Hit me with a 1 to 10.
	How would you rate the show? No, minus 10 if you thought it sucked.
	Minus 10 to plus 10. How do you rate the conversation tonight?
	I want to get your feedback. I should do this more often.
	What can I do better? How can I improve?
	Always, always, always keen to serve you as best I can.
	I always try to aim to do the very greatest possible show because I feel as high as you aim, you always get there, right?
	That was a great one. Plus 10, 100, 8, plus 8, 80%.
	I'll take that. Looking forward to the truth about the Wild West.
	The show went so quick this time.
	Well, we were taking down falsehoods like nobody's business, right?
	Really powerful show today.
	Ten out of ten. Thank you.
	The top G. Top thousand.
	My first show to actually watch?
	You know, it's really something to be here live, right?
	You can tell your grandkids, right?
	9, 10 for the first third of the show, 10 for the rest?
	You've been killing it! By it, you mean delusions, right?
	Plus 10? Thank you very much.
	I appreciate that. This is the first time I've been a part of it.
	I just wish I could retype what I wrote when I signed up at 10 a.m.
	If you find it, just send it to me.
	You can always email it to me.
	And if you really want a big, involved conversation, I just bought all your books off Amazon.
	Do you have a recommended reading order?
	No, I would go with topic.
	If you want philosophy, you might want to start with essential philosophy and then go to Untruth, The Tyranny, Evolution.
	And if you want, I've had some cancellations from people who just seem to be delaying endlessly.
	If you want to call in, I've got some spots open.
	Call in at freedomain.com.
	I'm not doing quite as many because I'm working on the book, but I still have a couple of slots opened up.
	Steph detonated so many nukes, I thought he was Kim Jong-un.
	So yes... Call in, C-A-L-L-I-N, call in at freedomain.com.
	I've got some room and would be very happy.
	I love the call-ins and it's one of the main reasons I do it.
	Call-ins and live streams. I love the tips on how to find people's weak spots in their armor.
	Actually, it was a little bit more about how to hide your own weak spots, but hey, however you do it.
	With all the work you do, it's like you've got 48 hours in a day.
	Well, rest when you can too and embrace the conflict and the challenges of life.
	Alright, thanks everyone so much.
	What a wonderful evening. If you're listening to this later and you find great value, I would hugely appreciate your support.
	FreeDomain.com slash donate.
	Free books, FreeDomain.locals.com.
	You can get my books for free there.
	Particularly check out The Present because The Present is actually playing out as we speak, especially the trucking stuff.
	I mean, I was very prescient there.
	Way. The present is a great book.
	The future is a great book. JustPoorNovel.com, AlmostNovel.com, FDRURL.com slash TGOA for the God of Atheists.
	Check those out as well.
	FreedomMain.com slash books for the books.
	And if you haven't seen my documentaries, FreedomMain.com slash documentaries for those two.
	Fantastic. Pirate's presentation was great too.
	That's thanks to Jared. Did a huge amount of work on that.
	Have yourself a wonderful evening. Lots of love from up here.

▲