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July 1, 2023 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux

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	Alan Parsons has...
	The song you probably know of theirs is Eye in the Sky.
	I am the eye in the sky looking at you.
	And the beginning of that series...
	Fantastic instrumental piece.
	Just really, really good.
	You jumped into using AI too quickly without thinking through the consequences.
	Oh no! Me not thinking through consequences.
	Whatever next? See, look, just as far as communication goes, starting with fear-mongering, just, I don't care.
	I don't care. I don't listen.
	You've no interest to me. I'm sorry about that.
	Like, if you want to build a case, fantastic.
	You know, write me an email, build a case.
	But just like, Steph, you're being an idiot!
	It's like, I tune you out after that.
	Like anybody with any brains would, right?
	To ask AI what you think about a topic one time doesn't hurt you too much, but over time you will be influenced by AI and it will be directing your thinking without you knowing.
	If you use the technology as an assistant, you will get some great benefits, but you will be building a relationship that doesn't really exist.
	All right.
	So you have a theory, right?
	You have a theory that I have a relationship with my own AI. I think you want AI staff to continue your work after you die.
	Please don't program it to sing like you.
	Your AI gave me a great explanation on how the end of slavery led to the Industrial Revolution.
	I'm digging it. I like your singing.
	Well, anytime you sing in public, I mean, unless you're like a super great professional singer, which I'm certainly not, right?
	But anytime you sing in public, it's kind of like an empathy test because anytime you sing in public, like I had some friends over a couple of days ago when we hooked up the old karaoke machine and And I did, what did I do?
	New Orleans is sinking, man, and I don't want to swim.
	I did that.
	I did, I can't even remember, Life is a Highway, a couple other songs.
	And anytime you sing in public, there will be people who will be like, don't give a day job, man, and cringe, and you're not good.
	And it's like... You know, there's a reason I'm not a singer.
	I'm, in fact, a philosopher.
	I'm a philosopher who occasionally likes to sing.
	And it's just kind of funny.
	And the thing is, too, like, it doesn't prevent me from singing.
	When you criticize other people's sort of spontaneous fun pleasure, then what happens is you end up fencing yourself in.
	Like, you can't be spontaneous.
	You can't be playful. People think they're setting up fences for other people, and maybe they are sometimes.
	But... Most times what you're doing is, you're not interfering, like I'll keep singing, right?
	And because I enjoy it and it's kind of fun for people and I like knowing what people's musical tastes are and I love music.
	Again, I'm no great singer, but you know, I enjoy it.
	And so, but it won't stop me from singing, but what will happen is you will prevent yourself, like by kind of critiquing other people's creativity or fun or spontaneity, whatever, right?
	Just kind of will end up, it hurts you, right?
	Not others, right?
	Alright. Yeah, Alan Parsons, I really can't recommend them too highly.
	Alright. Yeah, AI will be directing your thinking without you knowing.
	I mean, the reason why we spent a lot of time and money and effort and energy building the AI is because if people want to ask something about the work that I've done, it's a lot easier for them to ask the AI. And the AI is not perfect, obviously, but it's not a bad place to start.
	And so if people want to know, you know, how does Steph solve the is-ought problem, it'll give you a nice summary.
	If they want to know what's Steph's definition of love, it'll give you a nice summary.
	And again, it's not perfect and all of that, but it's not bad.
	It's not bad. And I don't think people are going to delude themselves into thinking that they're having a relationship or anything like that.
	It's just a way of summarizing other people's arguments or interests.
	All right. Now this person, let's see here.
	A question for the Stephanator.
	My hat will be black.
	I'm a shrink and a hundred times better for listening to you.
	Longtime listener and donator.
	One, how can one dare to love and be loved after a terrible childhood and a severely abusive relationship?
	A patient of mine is struggling with this.
	Receiving any kindness or love triggers anxiety.
	Would love to hear your thoughts. I actually did just answer this and I'm sorry that it took a while to get to it.
	So just look at my recent listener response, locals listener response, because I did answer this and I hope that it will help.
	Alright, and how did you find philosophy at the tender age of 15?
	I was first presented to philosophy at university.
	It seemed pointless and boring.
	Later, I studied the history of philosophy and loved it.
	There, I found Freedom Aid Radio in 2015.
	My childhood was effed up.
	Can't begin to explain how much you've helped.
	From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
	Thank you. Well, I was really into Pink Floyd, and one of my best friends was really into the band Rush.
	Now, I kind of like high-voiced singers, but I've never been able to get into the Geddy Lee's mosquito wine, except for Red Burchetta, which I think he does a good job on.
	And so my friend said, I'll play you a side of Rush and you play me a side of Pink Floyd.
	So we did and I went to see Rush.
	I've seen Rush a couple of times live in concert.
	It's a good band, obviously a very tight band.
	But I can't get into 20-minute drum solos.
	Like, really, I'd rather have elephants dancing on my nads.
	It kind of feels like that after about 10 minutes.
	It's one of the things I always liked about Queen and the Beatles, right?
	Other than Abbey Road. What is that?
	Never really had a drum solo. So he got into Rush and the drummer for Rush, who died a couple of years ago, Neil Peart, was a big fan of Ayn Rand and a big fan of Lord of the Rings.
	And so Rush and Led Zeppelin, I think, are tied for the most Lord of the Rings songs.
	And so he got into Ayn Rand and he passed me a copy of The Fountainhead and I just sort of felt this wild shock of recognition from The Fountainhead.
	I started getting into because I read Atlas Shrugged.
	From Atlas Shrugged, Ayn Rand is a big, big praiser of Aristotle.
	So I started reading Aristotle and through...
	With Ayn Rand and libertarianism, I got into Austrian economics, and so that was really the beginning of the journey.
	So I hope that helps.
	Hey, Steph, I'm curious to know how much pollution insurance you have.
	I do not understand that question.
	Do you know how many chemical companies are within 25 miles of you?
	Oh, you're talking about the sort of Canadian pollution?
	I mean, to my view, it's all sabotage, but all right.
	Alright, let me get to this Pericoma.
	I want some red roses for a blue lady.
	Let's see here.
	Listening to the history of philosophers on my road trip, just got through Socrates.
	I agree that relentless nitpicking destroys a system before it can be implemented.
	So frustrating, it paralyzes people into inaction.
	Yes, well, you know, if you are a donor, if you're listening to this later, freedomain.locals.com, you can sign up to try it for free, and you get the...
	You get the whole History of Philosopher's series, which I will get back to, I promise.
	Right now I'm working on the Wild West, how it really wasn't wild.
	Somebody says, I'm repelled by anyone who calls anything cringe for the most part.
	Yeah, cringe is like a demonic implantation.
	The word cringe is designed...
	To have you view yourself in the most cynical, negative and destructive manner possible.
	It's an attempt to rip your consciousness out of your mind, turn into a cold-eyed, cold-ass, demonic parent presence and then look at you as if you're an insect or a rodent or a bug.
	It is designed to absolutely shatter spontaneous self-esteem and expression and it is a really, really abusive and toxic term as a whole.
	Where does extreme jealousy come from?
	That's another song.
	Oh, how wrong can you be in matters of the heart?
	Life is much too short to while away with tears.
	That's a great song by, beautifully sung.
	Man, the jazz album, not a great album.
	But Freddie Mercury's vocals were kind of in their prime, and just listening to him sing Jealousy, which was a song by Brian May, fantastic.
	Anyway, so extreme jealousy comes from lying.
	So if you lie your way into a relationship, If you get a woman, let's say, above your station, you get a woman who's too beautiful and you have falsified your existence to get there.
	You've falsified who you are.
	It could be you faked money.
	It could be you faked maturity.
	It could be you faked any number of things.
	It could be that you faked your ambitions, like maybe she's with you because you're really, really ambitious.
	Turns out you're not really that ambitious or something like that.
	And so jealousy comes from when you have something you can't sustain
	and you can't be honest about why you can't sustain it, then you become possessive as a whole.
	Let's see here.
	.
	Thank you for the donations.
	Yeah, by the way, by the by, since we're all here.
	It is the end of the month. I do my donation numbers at the end of the month and make my plans accordingly.
	And I'm trying to figure out what I can afford this summer.
	And of course, as you know, I've taken on the inestimable Jared as my AI guy.
	And he did the research for The Last Truthabouts.
	And he's working on The Truth About Pirates.
	I'm working on The Truth About the Wild West.
	So if you could help out the show.
	It will give me some more options and more choices about what it is that I can do over the summer, whether it's a documentary or something else.
	So if you could help me out, freedomain.com slash donate.
	Or of course, if you're watching now, a donation or two would be most gratefully appreciated.
	It's actually quite important that I get donations for reasons I would get to at some point.
	All right. Somebody says, I really loved your rant last live stream.
	Truly opened me up to a new perspective.
	Yes, and I did realize, of course, that my questions and answers around propaganda and free will are kind of scattered, so I did a show last night.
	I was thinking about the show. Do you ever go...
	You have to go to bed and it should be the right time.
	You should be able to go to bed. You should be able to go to sleep.
	But what happens is you just, you know, you know, it's just not going to happen, man.
	It's just not going to happen. So I was like, okay, I'll get up.
	And I'm on a, I was off sugar for a couple of months.
	I'm on an even more sort of strict diet at the moment.
	And I'm down to 191 and change, 191.
	And So normally I'd get up and have a snack or whatever it is, but I got up and I just spent 35 minutes talking everything I had to say about propaganda and free will and moral responsibility, and I just published that.
	Yes, I did just publish that.
	And so I hope that you will check that out.
	The podcast number, just in case you're wondering about this later, the podcast number.
	Is 5209. 5209.
	I remember when I was passing by 187 podcasts and I thought, well, that's rather a lot now, isn't it?
	So, yeah. I appreciate the questions and the pushback and I hope that the humility is important.
	Ah, Manuel says, thank you for your last piece on propaganda versus free will.
	I've been wondering for a while how to talk to a pal of mine who insists on dating women after women, a woman after woman based solely on looks.
	Yeah. Yeah.
	Did you get the inspiration for the A.I. from the girl to train A.I. to be a girlfriend for the other guys?
	I don't understand that question either.
	No, I mean, I just tried A.I. and I realized, of course, I have a lot of material floating around.
	I've got hundreds of articles.
	I've got 10 books.
	I actually did create an A.I. just trained on my fiction as well.
	And I've been sort of asking it questions about that.
	So I find that quite helpful.
	All right. I was also introduced to philosophy in high school.
	I also found it boring and irrelevant.
	That's because it was presented that way.
	Steph showed me how it can be relevant to my life and therefore interesting.
	Okay. Are you ready for the first, what, 50 minutes in?
	Ready for the first truth bomb?
	I need to know. I need to know.
	It's an afternoon. It's not a night.
	I need to know. Are you ready?
	Are you ready for a truth bomb?
	And hit me with an S if you are a holder of a sausage.
	How much of a sausage fest do we have on today?
	Shirts off. Yes.
	Okay. We've got a little bit of a snake-tongued sausage fest.
	All right. Okay.
	So, as a man, I'll tell you, how do you make philosophy incredibly boring?
	You make it low stakes.
	Well, it's just an abstract discipline, really.
	It's designed to help you fathom things that other people have thought, and it's a really dilatable conversation, and there's no particular excitement or relevant or dangerousness or challenge.
	You never get attacked for it.
	Talking, really, if you can know a little Latin, sprinkle that in like paprika on a dragon fruit.
	It's even so much better. You just make it completely boring, irrelevant, uninteresting.
	Now, let me ask you this.
	Man to man. We are standing right next together in the urinal.
	It's not even crowded. That's how close we are.
	And isn't it a shame that men can't express affection without the gay thing happening all the time?
	Men can't express affection for each other these days, and women can't express any disagreements at all.
	But here's the thing. All right, are you ready?
	From 1 to 10, how interested or how fascinated by you as a man in something that can really fuck you up?
	One to ten. One, like, oh no, things that could fuck me up have no interest in, right?
	Ten, right? This is a dude thing, right?
	We're a high-stakes sex.
	We are a high-stakes sex.
	Now, women are all like, oh, that's dangerous.
	And men are all like, oh yeah, that's dangerous.
	You know, we get a thrill, we get excited.
	Yeah, so everybody's above five and most of you are at ten.
	Right. Now, do you know why you like philosophy in the way that I present it?
	Do you know why it grabs you by the corners and refuses to let you go?
	You know why, right? You know why.
	Why? Why do you come back?
	It's dangerous. Right.
	Right. Somebody says, I'm fascinated with wingsuits.
	So many deaths, but it looks like a blast.
	Yeah. So you care about philosophy because philosophy is dangerous.
	And what, as men, are we drawn to other than danger?
	You also present it in an entertaining way.
	Sure. But I'm only interested in it, fundamentally, because I want the truth and it's all these abstract things.
	Build a better world for my kid. I get all of that.
	Not... But, but, you understand, this is a combat syllabus, right?
	This is a combat syllabus.
	Most times...
	When you learn philosophy, you don't learn anything that anyone is going to get upset about.
	But... I'm a filmmaker.
	Is there any way I could help you in the production of your next documentary?
	Perhaps. Perhaps.
	perhaps perhaps perhaps yeah just email me operations at freedom and I come
	and I think you have before but well that remind me yeah so this is a combat syllabus
	Combat the devils within your own heart.
	Combat the anti-rationality in your environment.
	See, this is just for the ladies out there as a whole.
	If it can't get you hated, men don't really care about it that much.
	Like, if it can't get you hated, it's not that particularly interesting.
	You know, why is it that men like to study guitar, right?
	Why is it that men like to study guitar?
	Because if you become as successful as a guitarist, you're standing in Playing your guitar to a bunch of other men and they kind of hate you.
	Right? They kind of hate you because you're the guitarist.
	You're getting the girl.
	You're getting the babes, right? Why is it that men want to make a lot of money?
	Right? So that they can drive around in expensive cars so that other men can kind of hate them.
	I just realized that's why I learned guitar.
	Yeah, it's to get the girls, and one of the ways you know you're getting the girls is the other men hate you.
	I mean, they might take your leftover scraps as your wingman or whatever, but they kind of hate you, right?
	So, male success is predicated on being hated, whereas women's success is predicated on being accepted, right?
	It's one of the reasons why men tend to be more into free speech.
	It's what Jordan Peterson said to Kathy Whatserhead, right?
	Because you can't get to the truth without being offensive.
	When you tell the truth, everyone who's profiting for lies hates your guts, man.
	They hate your guts. Why do you think us females are interested?
	Well, I mean, that is as individual, probably.
	I mean, the men can be a little bit more collective with regards to danger.
	But I think that women are interested in the philosophy in the way that I talk about it, in particular because I talk about...
	I don't want to be overly stereotypical, but I think there's truth in this.
	this I talk about relationships and love and parenting and you know stuff that
	probably interests women a little bit more I think and all of that and I think
	also for women if you don't mind me patting myself on the back a little but
	I think you like to see don't you like to see a benevolent alpha I mean that's
	how I view myself whether you agree or disagree I don't care because I'm an alpha, right?
	But don't you want to see a benevolent alpha?
	You want to see someone who is strong and confident and also kind and empathetic and is standing up for the best.
	So I think there's something interesting in that.
	I don't know if you know this, but there is such a large contingent of women who have a fetish for violent criminals
	that they will literally twerk outside a prison where the prisoners can see them.
	It's pretty wild.
	A friend of mine said, says someone, not someone, dim, they call him.
	Oh, they call me...
	Tim. That's a holy grail.
	All right. Every man has a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue.
	Having a battle to fight is part of being a man.
	Yeah. Yeah.
	Philosophy is the ultimate real danger.
	Everything else is a paper cut.
	You don't make it dangerous.
	Just refuse to make it something it isn't.
	Yeah, I didn't make it dangerous.
	Yeah, that's right. There's a reason we all call you our internet dad.
	That's very kind. I appreciate that.
	I'm like the... The teacher in Goodbye Mr.
	Chips, who never had kids, is like, but I had thousands of children.
	Yeah, I think you want to see strength that's not abusive.
	I think you want to see assertiveness that's not aggressive.
	I think you want to see sternness that's not destructive.
	I think. I mean, that's kind of what I was missing when I was a kid because the tough guys were all abusive and the nice guys were all pathetic.
	And I think, don't you want to see something outside that rather boring one-dimensional flatland spectrum?
	So I think that's interesting.
	I think that's interesting. Oh, question, question.
	All right. Why are there bullies?
	Why are there bullies?
	Let's talk about teenage bullies, right?
	Why are there teenage bullies?
	Why? Oh, why?
	Oh, why? Oh, they're teenage bullies.
	Somebody said, I'm on a social media dating site.
	A man asked, are there any low-count women who are not single moms?
	He got obliterated in response to his post, essentially telling him he'll remain forever single, but those requirements were a partner.
	I DM'd him and told him I support his parameters, and he was a Stefan Molyneux follower.
	Oh, good. Good.
	Somebody says, I've noticed that female thug criminals twerk on the counter of restaurants they are robbing and looting.
	Must be trying to attract a male thug.
	Yeah, maybe. So the answer, because they're bullied at home, they are bullied by parents because there are adult bullies.
	Well, that is interesting.
	And there's some proof of that.
	There's mixed data on whether bullies come from being bullied at home.
	So, evolutionarily. So, when you say, why is there behavior?
	This is a trick. A tip.
	A trick. Learn how to philosophize with this one weird trick.
	And cure tinnitus. So, when...
	If you're bullied at home, that doesn't, evolutionarily speaking, dictate that you will become a bully.
	Like, there's nothing in physics, right?
	You push a rock off a cliff, it's going to fall and bounce down, right?
	But there's nothing in physics, there's nothing in biology that commands a response, right?
	That commands a response.
	If you were bullied at home, there's nothing in biology or evolution that would say, well, therefore you have to become a bully.
	Better to be a wolf than a sheep.
	Ah, the clue is in the evolution, right?
	As teenagers, who gets laid more?
	Bullies or non-bullies?
	As teenagers, who gets laid more?
	Bullies or non-bullies?
	That's right. Bullies get laid more, right?
	So bullies have more sex.
	They get more women.
	And by the time you're 30, bullies have more children than non-bullies.
	So why are there bullies?
	Because women are attracted to them.
	This is your basic trick, right?
	Oh, well, it's because of the parents.
	No, no, no, no. That's stimulus.
	That doesn't demand the response.
	That doesn't demand the response.
	You know, if you say, why did this kid punch this guy?
	You know, why did Bob punch Doug in high school?
	Well, Doug was bullying Bob, but that's not the reason why.
	Because if Bob was bullying Doug, Doug could have easily decided not to hit him back or gone to the teacher or made the case for homeschooling.
	So, the stimulus does not command the response.
	The stimulus does not command the response.
	Why is there bullying?
	Because it's evolutionarily advantageous because women are turned on by bullies.
	A lot of women are turned on by bullies.
	In fact, bullies have more sex and bullies have more children, at least in the modern world, by the time they are 30.
	Once again, ladies, setting fire to the logs, rolling down the dusky throat of the modern world.
	So yeah, it is...
	And didn't you...
	Did you ever experience this as a teenager?
	Did you ever experience this? I think most men have.
	Where there's some very attractive girl, and I don't just mean physically attractive, but there's a very attractive
	girl and she ends up Going out with some guy that it's just it's incomprehensible
	I mean, I still feel this vague echo of a burn like 40 years after the fact right do you ever have this?
	There's some girl She could get, like, any good guy, any decent guy, any nice guy, any successful guy, any intelligent guy, any entrepreneurial guy, any guy with a future.
	But no. I'm sorry.
	This guy's really aggressive and very immature.
	The bad boy's got all the girls.
	Yeah. Yeah.
	Now, do you know why the bad guys get all the girls in the modern world?
	Do you know why the bad guys get all the girls?
	You still remember her name from the seventh grade?
	Yeah, I remember the names.
	Because we live in a dangerous environment?
	Not particularly. Because the bad guy can usually provide?
	Oh no, absolutely not. No, absolutely not.
	Because they seek protection?
	Welfare. Well, yeah, so the reason that women choose worse guys when they're younger, often, is because they don't have to stay married to them, right?
	So if a woman had to choose a man based upon staying married to him for the next 60 years, from like 20 to 80 or whatever, right?
	If the woman had to choose a man and she had to stay married to him, she wouldn't choose the bad boy.
	She chooses the bad boy because he's exciting, he's dangerous, and maybe he's really good-looking.
	She gets the envy of the other girls, but she doesn't have to stay with him.
	He can take her virginity, and she doesn't have to stay married to him.
	So, yeah, if you're not going to stick around, then what's the problem with dipping your toe into the...
	Bad boy pond, right?
	And this is why guys are still choosing girls based on just looks, right?
	Because they don't have to stay married, right?
	Hi, Steph. On a previous show, you mentioned that divorce is a major cause of suicide for men because of the huge loss in general.
	Being a stay-at-home dad, do you feel that circumstance has given you much more attachment and fulfillment with your daughter?
	Divorce is not an option, but if for some reason out of your control your wife decides to leave you, I believe that being a stay-at-home dad would mitigate your losses and would help stave off potential depression.
	Yes, I think so.
	Again, we're not getting divorced no matter what, but...
	I mean, we had that conversation.
	I said I come from a broken home, and if I'm getting married...
	I mean, you can try and leave me, but it's going to be kind of tough to date with me hanging onto your legs sobbing like a banshee.
	Do you think that men, fathers in general, should consider a different path with regards to the traditional provider role?
	Well, I mean, personally, I think it's get out of the cities and get self-sufficient time.
	So, yeah, I would say so.
	All right, let's get to your comments.
	Well, thank you for that tip.
	I really, really appreciate that.
	And I will, because you gave me a great tip, I'm going to read your question in TGV. Hi, Steph.
	How do I date during a career switch?
	It might take years before success, so how do I reconcile my uncertain future with starting a family?
	I may be uncertain in my ability to provide value, but the girls I date might not fully get the potential.
	I could spend money to show my confidence, but then, again, it might take years before I can really provide financially.
	Is it better to just go hardcore and not start a family for a few years more?
	I am 27. Oh, that couldn't do that for a whole night.
	TGV is tough guy voice.
	Don't you notice that? I don't know what happened to people's voice, but it's completely gone.
	Nobody has any voice anymore.
	Maybe tough guy voice is just because you screamed the whole time.
	I don't know. Alright, hi Steph, how do I date during a career switch?
	How do I date during a career switch?
	So you are looking for a tip to get someone to like you or you're looking for a tip to
	get someone to be attracted to you or to commit to you.
	If you are fully, deeply and genuinely yourself, all who accept you will never leave.
	Bye.
	Bye.
	If you are genuinely, deeply, and authentically yourself, all who accept you will never leave.
	There is no certainty but authenticity.
	There is no security but honesty and directness.
	So, you're saying, well, what if a woman, she's not going to get my financial markers, this, that, and the other?
	Okay, assuming that you have the capacity, you have sort of some proven capacity to earn money, then...
	You're fine with that, right?
	Just be very honest.
	Be very direct. Talk about what you want.
	Talk about what you're uncertain about.
	And say, if you meet a woman you're really attracted to, you'd say something like, you know, I'm really, really attracted to you.
	I feel this kind of urge to show you that I can make money and provide a good living for you if you stay home with the kids.
	I feel this urge to do that.
	I know I'm switching careers right now.
	I think it's going to pay off really well, both in terms of money and happiness down the long run.
	But right now, you know, I can't pick you up in a flying Lexus.
	You know, I can't show up riding a giant Komodo dragon with wings, right?
	So I want to impress you.
	I really want to impress you, but I'm changing careers, so I don't have as much cash in the bank, but I'm going to.
	So just be really, really honest.
	Don't play games, man.
	Games are for vampires.
	Games are for the immortal. Those of us who are immortal, you've got to be just honest.
	Just super, super honest.
	If you do provide a tip, you are welcome to tell me which voice I should use.
	Such a major self-improvement, major general blah blah blah from earlier, smug guy, whatever, Mickey Mouse, you can do anything that you want.
	If you give me a tip, that's over like a dollar or two, right?
	If you give me a tip... Then you can tell me which voice you want to read the question in and I will do my best to accommodate you because I've just turned into a dancing money-hungry philosophy monkey.
	That's just the way it is. The business demands it and therefore I will do what is necessary to keep the show functioned.
	Major Mickey Mouse, donate Steph a hundred bucks.
	Put a quarter in him. That's right.
	I'm like that. What's the name of that guy?
	He's kind of creepy, right?
	He's in this box at arcades and it's like, I'll tell your fortune.
	It was at the beginning of the Tom Hanks movie Big by Penny Marshall.
	And it's like this guy, he's trapped in this box and he's just heads up and it's like, whoa, that's wild.
	Zaltar. That's the one.
	I used to think that was a video game, but no.
	It's Zaltan or something like that.
	But yeah, Zaltar. Zaltan.
	Zaltar. Something like that. Yeah.
	Zaxxon. I saw that machine, but it was Donald Trump.
	Cold but harsh. Cold but harsh.
	Glad I could get a good belly laugh out of you.
	That's good. Well done. All right.
	Well, while I wait for my AI voice programming donations bots, I will answer a question that's obviously quite serious.
	Do you have any advice for someone who's working on integrating his shadow self?
	I realize now... That I had to take on different personas to survive as a child in a narcissistic family structure.
	Negative emotions were met with some kind of punishment.
	Outside home, people would have conflicting images of me.
	I was something for everyone. A lot of acting out or fawning.
	Yeah. Yeah, that's a very, very sad situation where you're faced with the ultimate contradiction.
	You know what the ultimate contradiction is of the abuse victim as a child?
	You know what the ultimate contradiction is?
	This is common to all of us.
	This is common to all of us.
	What is the most fundamental contradiction of abuse?
	Really it's the point of abuse and how does it shred integrity and philosophy in people?
	The purpose of abuse is to destroy the capacity for integrity.
	That the abuse didn't happen or it wasn't abuse.
	It's a methodology but not the final aim, not the bottom aim.
	What is the most long-lasting and deep effect of the use?
	What's the biggest contradiction of abuse?
	Is it that you got abused because it's your fault?
	That's another methodology but that's not the final aim.
	Hitting is wrong, so I'm going to hit you?
	No, because, of course, abuse can take multiple forms of verbal, physical, sexual, and emotional.
	Parents who say they love you but really don't or don't know how to love?
	Damn, the moment you read my comment, my eyes started to well up.
	Well, my friend, they're going to well up even more.
	To cut loose, internalization of abuse?
	Yeah, of course, internalization of abuse, but...
	What is the purpose? How does it fundamentally work?
	What's right at the root of abuse?
	Pass it on to the next generation.
	That's an effect, but that's not the fundamental purpose.
	Okay, the most... And you guys, listen.
	I'm so sorry to be annoying. You guys are having fantastic input here.
	I'm going to answer this like I'm right, but you all could be right.
	I'll just tell you what I think. And you can tell me if it fits with your experience or your thoughts.
	All right. The most foundational purpose of abuse is to manifest this...
	Staggering, mind-bending contradiction.
	And the contradiction is this.
	In order to exist, you must not exist.
	In order to live, you must murder yourself.
	In order to survive, you must kill yourself.
	In order to exist, you cannot exist.
	Am I there? Am I at the root?
	Am I at the bottom here?
	Is there, I don't think there's a layer below this.
	My mother always said, don't think.
	I would say, no, no, not permission to exist.
	Not permission to exist.
	In order to exist, you have to self-erase.
	In order to have a connection with me, you can't exist.
	In order to get my approval, you must self-erase, self-attack.
	That's the foundational purpose of all abuse, is to root that basic contradiction, hardwire it deep down in the bottom of your soul, that basic contradiction.
	In order to exist, I cannot exist.
	In order to survive, I cannot survive.
	I must not survive. In order to have a connection with someone, I must erase every part of me that could possibly connect with anyone.
	In order to gain love, I must slaughter myself.
	In order to gain security, I must self-erase.
	This is deeper than the Titan sub.
	Too soon. Is this why people dissociate via video games, drugs, and cell phones?
	Well, see, this is the danger show.
	This is the danger show. And I'll tell you about that in a sec.
	Somebody says, and when I say somebody says, I'm not, I'm just, I don't know if you want your names out, right?
	Fits perfectly with my experience.
	It leads, it led to a childhood and adolescence of self-censorship and an adulthood of picking up the pieces.
	In my family, it's more like the only way to solve problems is to pretend that they don't exist.
	If you speak of wrongs or evil, you manifest it.
	That manifest, that mindset resulted in a fair amount of self-erasure too.
	Is the purpose of abuse to isolate the person through breaking their capacity for free will?
	Well, no.
	If the purpose of abuse was to isolate the person, your abusive parents wouldn't want you around when you were an adult.
	But what they want to do is they want to fundamentally crack, fracture, wreck and destroy your capacity for an integrated existence.
	In order to survive, you must kill yourself.
	The price of breathing is to strangle yourself.
	If somebody says, I self-attack often.
	I still struggle with it. It came from my dad.
	His mother was incredibly verbally abusive and condescending.
	Self-erasure. I try to conquer it, even if it rattles the birdcages of people around me.
	And you understand, in society, these days, in order to survive, you have to shut the fuck up, right?
	You understand this comes directly out of the family structure.
	I mean, the whole purpose of culture these days is to present you tortured monstrosity after tortured monstrosity and get you to bow down before it and praise it.
	That you must...
	Praise the opposite of reason.
	You must praise the opposite of beauty.
	You must be drawn to and attracted to the opposite of attractive.
	Everything is inverted.
	Everything that offends your sensibilities must be praised or you will be destroyed.
	.
	In order to survive in society, you have to shut the ever-living fuck up, clam up, and bow before what you despise.
	That's straight out of the family.
	Yes, we have to shut the fuck up, says someone in the room, go silent when I bring up uncomfortable truths at work or with friends.
	And that's censorship, right?
	Censorship, right? Let's have an honest conversation about X, Y, or Z topic.
	Let's just have an honest conversation about it.
	Okay, here are the facts, science, evidence, data, and expertise.
	Ooh, you're now destroyed, right?
	I mean, we all know this, right?
	Isn't this pretty clear?
	This is pretty clear. So the reason why philosophy is so dangerous...
	So the reason why philosophy is so dangerous is because when you manifest authenticity in talking to the world and you say one moral law, you are triggering the murderous violence of the abusers and the fearful compliance of the victims on both sides.
	You get it from both sides, from top to bottom, right?
	You get it from top to bottom. Because...
	The purpose of abuse is to get you to contradict yourself.
	Your very existence must be a self-contradiction.
	So when you try to live with integrity, you're overthrowing the most foundational shackles that are placed upon our souls.
	The shackles that turn us into a contradiction.
	Shackles that make us survive only through self-erasure.
	So, when you start talking about integrity and virtue and consistency and UPB, people
	get seriously fucked up.
	Because the whole purpose of abuse is to get you to live in opposition.
	Because if you're in opposition to yourself, you're powerless to affect social change.
	So the purpose of abuse is to set you against yourself.
	And so when you live with positive integrity, you trigger the abusers, but also you trigger
	the victims.
	Thank you for your attention.
	Thank you.
	You trigger the victims, your fellow victims, who are like, shut the fuck up!
	Shut up! You're gonna get us all killed!
	Shut up! Shut up!
	Drop it! Shut up!
	Terror. Rank.
	We've all seen it, right?
	Rank foundational terror.
	Then the abusers come hard at us, and when we come back with integrity, it escalates, right?
	I mean, it's slave on, slave violence that keeps the world the way it is.
	Yes, someone I see in that rage in their eyes, yeah Yeah
	That's why it's so dangerous That's why philosophy, if it's to be allowed, must be a quicksand in which those with a desire for integrity are taken off to abstract platonic lands where they can wire up machines that never move or do anything.
	They can work on...
	The catalytic converter of an engine that will never receive any power or gas.
	You can take all those with a desire for integrity and virtue and just ship them off to some other realm
	where their consistent bullshit will never affect anything
	And that's why philosophy is presented as boring But when I say philosophy is there for your life, Philosophy and integrity is there for your life.
	But fuck being dead while we're still above ground.
	Seriously, fuck being dead while we're still above ground.
	Fuck bowing to the false gods of rank hypocrisy and self-destruction.
	The destruction of the other.
	I got plenty of time to be inert when I'm dead.
	But fuck continuing a death I did not inflict upon myself but had to mask in order to survive.
	Like, you know, in zombie movies, right?
	So, you know, in zombie movies, there's this kind of cliche that, you know, you cover yourself in the zombie goo, and they think you're a zombie, and so you can walk through the zombie horde or the zombie crowd, but because you're covered in zombie goo, they think you're a zombie, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right?
	Okay, so you have to cover yourself in zombie in order to survive the mob, right?
	So you have to pretend to be dead in order to move through the world.
	You understand this, right?
	You know why this is such a metaphor.
	You have to pretend to be dead.
	Because an NPC is mentally and spiritually not vibrant, let's put it bluntly.
	So you have to pretend to be dead to move through the world.
	You have to pretend to not think.
	You have to pretend to not notice.
	I give you France, right?
	You have to pretend to not notice the blindingly obvious.
	obvious, you have to pretend that what's happening is not happening or is the opposite of what's
	happening.
	Fuck being dead before my time.
	I'm not dead.
	I'm alive.
	I'm alive.
	.
	I had to ape death for my first 15 years.
	It's that great line from Young Americans, the song by David Bowie.
	I mean, he was a horror show of a human being.
	But let me get the actual...
	All the way from Washington, a breadwinner begs off the bathroom floor.
	We live for just these 20 years.
	Do we have to die for the 50 more?
	Well, we live for just these 20 years.
	Home. Daycare, kindergarten, primary school, junior high, high school, college.
	You live by dying.
	You live by not thinking.
	You live, you survive by covering yourself in the dead innards of the mobile dead.
	Dead thoughts. All conclusions. No reason. No facts. No science.
	Do we have to die for the 50 more years to come?
	I mean, imagine you were able to escape the zombie apocalypse and then every day you go
	and find a zombie and you scoop up his innards and you rub them on yourself.
	What was wrong with David Bowie?
	Thank you.
	Thank you.
	What was wrong with David Bowie?
	All right. Let's find out what was wrong with David Bowie, shall we?
	So, um...
	David Bowie regularly statutorily raped young teenage girls.
	The underage baby groupies who were an open secret in the rock scene.
	13 year old girls, 14 year old girls, girls younger than my daughter.
	So, yeah, I mean, it was just a real...
	The late music legend famously deflowered a 14-year-old groupie before she was stolen away by Jimmy Page.
	He was a complete monster.
	I mean, he's the R. Kelly of his day, right?
	In many ways. Yeah, it's just horrendous.
	The Rolling Stones sang about underage girls in Stray Cat Blues.
	Chuck Berry glorified the teenage groupie in Sweet Little Sixteen.
	You look at Jail Bait, a song.
	Yeah, it's just crazy, right?
	I mean, if you look at what Steve Tyler, didn't he adopt a woman?
	He adopted a girl so he could take her with her on tour.
	A girl. He adopted her for his sexual.
	Yeah, no, he's a complete monster.
	A complete monster. All right, let's get to your comments.
	Somebody says, I still deal with self-hatred for being single sometimes.
	It comes from parental abandonment and trauma.
	Right, so if you're still single, the most fundamental question if you're still single is to say, who does this serve?
	Who benefits from me being single?
	If you feel like a failure or if you're a failure in what it is that you want to achieve, the most fundamental question to ask is, who benefits from me failing?
	Who's invested in my failure?
	Who benefits from me failing?
	Alright, you answer that, you open the gates of success.
	You're just complying with somebody whose success would have made them murderous towards you, right?
	Like all my friends and family when I was younger, they're like, philosophy is terrible.
	Philosophy is bad.
	Your objectivism is wrong and it's just terrible what you're doing and it's going to lead to a bad blah, blah, blah, right?
	So they desperately need me to fail until, you know, when I started to really succeed, I kind of had to make that choice because if you have people around you who want you to fail while you're trying to succeed, you will self-distract in one way or another.
	As somebody says, somebody says, in a recent live stream you mentioned that your parents divorced when you were six months old.
	I knew it already, but now that I have my baby daughter, it affects me differently.
	She's barely two months old, but the idea I could abandon her or break up my family after four months seems beyond vile.
	I'm very sorry for what your parents did to you.
	Thank you, DJ. I really appreciate that.
	That's very kind. All right.
	Steph, you have said that having a lot of sexual partners destroys a woman's ability to bond.
	This makes sense. When she forms a bond and then gets it broken frequently, especially if the guy lies about loving her.
	But do you think casual sex is bad for women even when it's perfectly clear to her that it won't lead to a relationship?
	For example, when she goes out to have a one-night stand with someone, but she does not intend to stay in contact with the guy.
	Yeah, I won't. I never dated somebody who did that.
	Like, I never dated somebody. I never dated anybody who did that.
	Now, again, I know it was an earlier time and women are different now.
	But, I mean, there were women around who did that kind of stuff.
	I just wouldn't date them. Oh, like, absolutely not.
	So, I'll tell you why.
	Why it's bad as a whole.
	So, let me just go through your comment here and unpack it a little bit.
	This is an important topic, so I appreciate you bringing it up.
	So, she forms a bond and then it gets broken, especially if the guy lies about loving her.
	Oh my God, this devilish temptation.
	And I get it.
	Women play into this a lot too, right?
	This devilish, deeply destructive temptation.
	It's almost satanic in my view.
	This devilish temptation to treat women like retarded children.
	Well, you know, he said he loved her, and she had no real choice to believe him, and then she wanted a future with him, and then it turned out he just abandoned her.
	He just slept with her and left, Will you still love me tomorrow?
	Okay, do you think that we could have at all survived as a species if women had no idea who was a good provider or not?
	Just hit me with a why if you think it's even remotely possible that human babies that take 25 years to grow into adults...
	If women had zero capacity to figure out who was a good provider and who was a cat who would pump and dump, could we possibly have survived as a species, particularly in the colder climates?
	Could we have survived?
	I'm just curious if people think that we could have survived.
	No, of course not.
	Of course not.
	Of course not. The first thing that women have evolved to do is to figure out who's pretending to be case-selected in order to pursue an R-selected dating strategy.
	Which guy is going to dump her after he has sex?
	That's the first thing that women have evolved to do.
	So when you say, Well, she forms a bomb.
	Then it just gets broken.
	Especially if the guy lies about loving her.
	Yes, men can lie.
	Yes, men can lie.
	And women can lie too.
	Absolutely. Detecting lies is foundational to a dating life.
	So a woman will always say, I had no idea.
	Like, what was their Kim Kardashian was sobbing about?
	Oh, I'm all broken up about my divorce from Kanye.
	I just want Kanye back the way that he was when we first got married.
	I just want him back that way because he was wonderful then.
	Come on!
	Kanye was mental for decades.
	I just want Kanye back the way he was when he screamed that George Bush doesn't care about black people and he ripped that mic out of Taylor Swift's hands.
	I just want him back when he was normal and healthy and nice and wonderful and not at all unstable.
	That's ridiculously common.
	And I have had conversations with thousands of people over the course of my life.
	And at least half of those have been, and you've heard a lot of these too, at least half of those have been people whining and complaining that their relationship didn't work out.
	Now what do I always say at the beginning of these conversations?
	What do I always say? What do I always say?
	What do I always say?
	200% responsibility?
	Really? What do you want?
	No, I say, what were the signs?
	What were the red flags? What were the red flags ahead of time?
	What were the red head? What were the red flags?
	Yeah, were there any red flags at the beginning?
	And what percentage of time were there obvious red flags at the beginning?
	What percentage of the time?
	I've done this a thousand or more times.
	What percentage of the time were there red flags?
	Always. 100%.
	Always.
	Alright?
	Would you like a very dangerous argument?
	This might get you chased through the streets by women without bras.
	I don't know if that's your thing.
	Maybe that's your thing. Maybe you're a chubby fleer.
	You want a dangerous argument?
	Really? This will not leave you the same person.
	You will not be the same person.
	If you want to change your brain, man, I am rewiring here with flamethrowers and asteroid strikes.
	Are you sure? You might need to cover your ears for the next few minutes.
	All right. Danger.
	This is going to be dangerous, man.
	You won't be the same. I'll just give you the short version.
	You will be forged through fire.
	So if a woman says to you, right, let's say the woman says, well, I dated this guy.
	It turned out he just changed. I had no idea.
	I mean, he just turned into this bad guy and I guess he lied to me and blah, blah, blah, right?
	And you said, oh, so women have no capacity to tell when a man is lying to them.
	They have no capacity to tell a good man from a bad man, right?
	Then you don't get the vote.
	You don't get the vote. I mean, by your logic, you don't get the vote.
	Because voting is all about figuring out which politician's going to tell the truth and who's a liar.
	And so even when your own vagina, reproduction, heart and bond is in place, you simply can't figure out a good guy from a bad guy.
	So how the hell are you supposed to figure out who's better, Joe Biden or Donald Trump?
	You have no clue. The stakes are far lower when it comes to a politician than it comes to a guy who might leave you impregnated, who might leave you with an STD, who might be a stalker, who might be a psycho, who might kill you.
	Women, we can't possibly figure out who's a good guy or a bad guy.
	Okay, you don't get the vote.
	Because you've just said you don't know who's good or bad.
	You have no standard of discovering who's good or bad, who's right or wrong.
	You have no way of figuring out who's lying to you or who's telling the truth, so you can't get the vote.
	Because you've just said you can't do it responsibly.
	Right? Women, if they want to play, I'm an idiot.
	If they want to play that card, okay, well, what are the consequences as a whole of being an idiot?
	Well, I can't tell what's right or what's wrong.
	I have no sense of personal security or danger.
	I can't tell good guys from bad guys.
	It's like, okay, well, we can't let you have credit cards then because you can't tell a good plan from a bad plan.
	We can't let you go to university because you can't figure out a good course from a bad course.
	Right? I don't know about this driving thing, because you can't tell a good driving instructor from a bad driving instructor.
	You have no clue about what's good or bad, right or wrong.
	You want to play that card?
	Fine, put the cards on the table.
	Let's play the cards.
	You don't just get one card. I'm a complete idiot.
	I can't tell anything when it comes to men in my life, men I actually have sex with, men I expose my body to and I'm willing to be pinned beneath their 200-pound frame.
	So if women want to play that card, I can't tell right from wrong, good from bad, lies from truth tellers.
	Okay. What else changes because of that, honey?
	Oh, no, no, you see, I can do it totally well with politicians.
	I just can't do it with the men I get pinned underneath in a dark room on a Friday night.
	That I can't do. I can't do it when it's my actual life, security, safety, physical health, and future reproductive and bonding capacity.
	I can't do it when the stakes are super high.
	But I obviously can totally do it when the stakes are far lower.
	I told you it wasn't going to be the same.
	Am I right? Are you the same after this argument?
	The only reason that anybody would have the right to vote is they can determine truth-tellers from liars, good guys from bad guys, right?
	That's the only reason anybody would ever get the vote.
	I will give that argument at work.
	Well, only if you want to not.
	We're working for very long. So, yeah.
	A woman who says, I got into a relationship with a guy, it turned out, and I had months to vet him, you know, or weeks to date him, and I got into a relationship with a guy, he turned out to be a really bad guy.
	And so, okay, so, what you're saying is this.
	You're saying, I had 20 cars to choose from, I test drove cars for weeks or months, years maybe, then I finally got a car, turns out I hated the car.
	Okay, then you shouldn't buy cars.
	Because you don't know what's a good or bad car even when you test drive it.
	Right? So this...
	Right?
	This thing where you just selectively scoop out your brain when it comes to men and then jam it all back in when it comes to politics?
	No, come on. I'm an idiot!
	I can't choose anyone, right?
	I don't know what's right or wrong and when I'm fed lies I just swallow them up like Pac-Man with a glowing dot.
	Or a million. I have no capacity to judge good from bad, right from wrong, truth from falsehood.
	Okay. What are the consequences of that, right?
	Now, again, I don't think women should be denied the vote.
	I think that's far too discriminatory.
	I'd rather have a system where votes didn't matter at all because we had a free society.
	But that's the logic, right?
	If people are, women are openly, and look, men do it too, right?
	Men do it too. Let's be fair.
	Let's be fair. I had no idea that a really hot woman who'd been severely abused as a child that had never gone through therapy could at all be unstable.
	No idea. No idea.
	So you have no judge of character.
	You've said you have no capacity to judge good or bad, truth or falsehood, liar from honest.
	You have no capacity to judge character, virtue, morality, ethics, integrity.
	Okay, so then how can you justify being voting or getting the right to vote if you can't judge anybody's character when the stakes are super high, right?
	So, not just women, right?
	So, yeah.
	I'm...
	I don't believe for a second that women can't judge men accurately.
	And I don't believe for a second that men can't judge women accurately.
	Now, you may choose to ignore your instincts.
	You may choose...
	And, of course, the other thing, too, is because women...
	Get supported, right?
	So, you know, if a woman goes crying to another woman and says, well, I just didn't know, he just turned out to be terrible, right?
	What do the other women say? Do they say, oh, come on, don't try that with me, right?
	Don't, come on, don't try that with me.
	He was hot, he was sexy, you were excited, it was probably great sex, and you threw caution to the wind, but they were all, I mean, come on, all these red flags.
	All these red flags. Don't...
	Like, don't try. I mean, maybe this works with men, but don't try it with us girls.
	Like, come on. Yeah, instincts have never been wrong.
	Problem is ignoring it. Yeah, the gut, the second sense, right?
	And one of the things that we talked about earlier that the purpose of abuse is to get you to survive by not surviving, to live by not living, is it cuts you off from your gut.
	Your gut is your protection against evil.
	It is your self-defense against evil, your gut.
	You cut people off from their gut you can exploit them from here to eternity
	So Thank you for your tip my friend
	I appreciate that. What did the leper say to the prostitute?
	What was that? I read this the other day.
	What did the leper say to the prostitute?
	Left a tip. Hit me with a J if you'd like to hear a joke.
	Yeah, you can reconnect your connection with your guy.
	Yeah, for sure. You just have to start trusting him.
	You want to hear a joke? Want to hear a joke?
	So, I have friends.
	I have friends, believe it or not.
	They've been married for 30 years.
	They've never fought once.
	Never, ever fought once.
	It's incredible. Now, of course, when I got married, and they're older than me considerably, when I first got married...
	I like to ask advice from people because, you know, I was new to marriage and I didn't have a good marriage model for me.
	So I sat down with them and I said, okay, guys, you've never had a fight.
	This is what you claim, right? You've never had a fight.
	And they're like, no, we've never fought.
	Never raised their voices at each other.
	We never even really disagree.
	And the husband was saying this more a little bit more, but...
	And I'm like, okay, how did this come out?
	How? How? Like, what's your magic?
	What's your secret sauce? And the husband said, well, it's kind of funny.
	Like, it started on our honeymoon.
	We went to this dude ranch, right?
	My wife got this horse, like one of these sort of U-shaped, dum-dee-dum, doddy-dobby horses, like one step away from the glue factory.
	So my wife got this horse.
	She's sitting on the back. The horse can move a little bit.
	My wife's not much of a rider.
	And so we were riding up this trail.
	It's kind of steep, a lot of rocky.
	And the horse stumbles. And my wife falls off the horse.
	And she jumps up. And she says, that's the first time!
	And she gets back up on the horse.
	So then we get up to the top.
	And then the horse is trying to shake off a fly or something flies at its face.
	And it shivers and shakes. And my wife falls off again.
	And she says, that's the second time!
	And we're going back down. You know, it's kind of steep when you're going down on the horse.
	You feel like you're tumbling over. Anyway, the horse got spooked by something, stopped.
	My wife tumbles over the front of the horse, lands on her butt, gets up, pulls out a gun, and shoots the horse dead.
	I completely freaked out.
	I think I absolutely freaked out.
	And I said to my wife, are you insane?
	You just gunned down a horse?
	You shot a horse? Are you insane?
	What's the matter with you? And she turned to me.
	I remember this very vividly. She turned to me and she said, that's the first time.
	Never fought. How would you rate that?
	that 1 to 10 what you got what's our what's our rating here 8.5 solid 8
	It's a solid 8, right? It's a little bit unpredictable.
	If you know the structure of these kinds of jokes, it's not too bad.
	Took me a second. I'll give it a 7.
	Alright. 7.
	Yeah. It was not bad. It was not bad.
	Not a bad joke. Or the two blondes who went hunting.
	They find these tracks in the woods, right?
	And they're arguing about what kind of animal makes these tracks, which way it was heading, what size it is, how heavy it is, whether it's worth hunting.
	And they're sitting, like, trying to follow these tracks, trying to argue what's about to do with these tracks.
	And then they both get killed by the train.
	Or the blonde who walks into the library and she says...
	I want a hamburger, some fries, and a Coke.
	And the woman behind the counter says, Ma'am, this is a library.
	And she says, Oh, sorry.
	I want a hamburger, some fries, and a Coke.
	I could honestly do these all day, so we should probably not go down this road.
	I did stand up twice in my life.
	I'd do it again maybe someday too.
	All right. Everyone's typing.
	I assume this is volumes of horror at the turn to which the show has gone.
	Let's find out, shall we?
	Volumes of horror. What are you typing?
	Why so much typing?
	Why so much typing?
	Okay, well, while I'm waiting for these comments to come back in, and you know what?
	If you donate, I'll stop. What have we got here?
	That's right. My wife got me some dad jokes.
	Bah! She knows I occasionally indulge, right?
	Ah, today my son asked...
	Can I have a bookmark? 11 years old.
	He still doesn't know my name is Brian.
	How do you row a canoe filled with puppies?
	Bring out the doggy paddle.
	Oof. What kind of music do chiropractors like?
	Hip-hop. Hip-hop.
	Hip-hop. Hip-hop.
	Oh, this is going to be volumes.
	This is like the guy whose girlfriend's mad at him, and he's just like, he sees that swirly text typing thing going on for like half an hour.
	Singing in the shower, it's fun until you get soap in your mouth, then it becomes a soap opera.
	Dogs can't operate.
	But our dogs can't operate MRI machines, but cats can.
	What do you call a pudgy psychic?
	Oh, a fortune teller.
	Uh...
	How do you get a country girl's attention?
	How do you get a country girl's attention?
	Attractor. Which bear is the most condescending?
	A panda! Why do teenage girls always travel in groups of odd numbers?
	Because they can't even!
	Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear.
	What do you get from a pampered calf?
	Spoiled milk. You know people say they pick their nose?
	I honestly feel like I was just born with mine.
	I decided to sell my vacuum cleaner.
	It was just gathering dust.
	I used to have facial hair.
	Sorry, I used to hate facial hair, but then it grew on me.
	Okay. I don't know why I'm not getting any.
	Should I refresh here?
	Why am I not getting any? I'm not getting any text.
	Oh, jump to recent messages. It just says, I'm getting nothing here.
	All right, hang tight. I'm going to just do a reload here.
	Goodbye my love Maybe for forever
	There we go. Are we back?
	Let's just see if we've got the actual audio as well.
	Yeah, we're good. Okay, sorry.
	We just weren't getting any updated ones, and I just wanted to get everyone's feedback.
	Um... I'm a blonde myself and this is accurate.
	I was blonde at one point.
	Oh dear. Uncharacteristically morbid for you, Steph, but it was funny.
	Oh man, I used to go literally pale over the Helen Keller jokes I heard as a kid.
	Not sure, but did you want to unpack more about my question?
	Yes, thank you. Let's see here.
	I am friends with 25 letters of the alphabet.
	I don't know why. Hey, Steph, I enjoyed your money episode from about a week ago.
	Took your advice and finally bought a motorcycle I've had my eye on for years.
	Stop being cheap. Excellent.
	Please check that you don't have a death wish.
	I took a deep contemplative breath when I saw the title of that You Are Not Alone video, only to get rickrolled with it being about dad jokes.
	What's that, um...
	It's a meme with Rick Astley and it's like when you're an American and a burglar breaks into your house and it's Rick Astley holding a gun.
	You know the rules and so do I! Alright.
	Yes, I will get back to your comment.
	Sorry, thank you for reminding me.
	Do you think casual sex is bad for women even when it's perfectly clear to her that it won't lead to a relationship?
	Yeah, I mean, okay, so for the women who are here, give me one to ten.
	Give me one to ten. How hard is it?
	Like, if you were to be paid a billion dollars to have sex with a stranger tonight, how hard is it for you to have sex with a stranger?
	Just one to ten. One, like, super difficult ten, there's money in the bank.
	Like, you have no doubt that you could get the billion dollars.
	Just for the women here. Just for the women.
	How tough is it for you to get sex?
	So, for two of you, it's one, which means it's very, very hard.
	Okay, I am... Again, I'm not saying whether it's moral.
	If you wanted to get laid tonight, if you wanted to go to some bar, like if you wanted to get laid tonight, railed is sort of a modern course term has it.
	How tough is it for you?
	So, I'm sorry, I probably made that completely.
	So, one is very hard, ten is super easy for you.
	No, I miscommunicated.
	That's totally on me. My apologies.
	So, yeah. I mean, women all know this.
	Like, for men, you can't go...
	I mean, unless you're some, I don't know, super uber stud or whatever, or you pay for it.
	You can't go get late tonight, right?
	If you just go and meet some girl, and you can't.
	And they've done these experiments, like, where they have a really attractive guy go up to women in a hotel bar and ask for their room number, room key or room number or card or whatever, and they won't give it.
	But... When an attractive woman goes up to men, the men will give, right?
	Yeah, absolutely, right? So, it's ridiculously easy for a woman to get a man to sleep with her.
	And why would she do that, right?
	It's very dangerous. Because for a woman to go to a remote location, a private location, right, to a man's...
	Or even if she brings Amanda to her place, she gets naked, she's pinned under him, she doesn't know his character, she doesn't know his sexual history, she doesn't know if he's a psycho, she doesn't know if he has an STD, she doesn't know if he's a sadist who's going to chew a little bit off the condom or something like that.
	She doesn't know if he's a stalker or potential stalker.
	She doesn't know anything about him.
	So she's putting herself in an incredibly dangerous and risky situation.
	Also, and again, women, tell me if I'm wrong.
	I'm happy to hear if you're a woman here and I'm wrong about this.
	For a man, a sex with a stranger is likely to be much more...
	Pleasurable than for a woman to have sex with a stranger because women's sexuality can be a little slower to warm up.
	It can be a little bit idiosyncratic.
	And if you've read the sort of studies, male orgasms and female orgasms tend to be similar.
	But for a woman to have a good time in bed, she usually has to feel a lot of trust, a lot of relaxation, a lot of affection, some love.
	For men, it's a little bit more mechanical.
	Again, a little bit.
	And so, for a woman, she's putting herself in significant danger.
	For something that isn't even that pleasurable for her, unless she's got a fetish for self-humiliation or a masochism or something like that.
	So for a woman, she's putting herself in a very risky and dangerous, potentially deadly situation for something that isn't even that pleasurable.
	Like, why on earth would she do it?
	Like, what sane person would do that?
	The odds of her having good sex are very low.
	The odds of her having an orgasm are virtually zero.
	So it's not going to be that much fun.
	So why would she do it? Well, she would do it because of a death wish.
	She would do it out of a self-destructive streak.
	It's called the walk of shame.
	It's called the walk of shame.
	And for men, it's the cock of striking pride or something like that.
	Somebody says, I believe women mostly have sex for emotional intimacy.
	Well, I think that's true, but of course women do enjoy sex and multiple orgasms is a thing.
	So, yeah.
	Why would a woman do something like that?
	She's not going to be enjoyable sex.
	It's very dangerous in many ways.
	I mean, there was a story.
	I remember reading this when I was...
	Gosh, when did... I got to check the dates on this because I'm now old enough that everything from my youth is vaguely fuzzy like my chin.
	Okay. Okay. Did you ever hear of a novel called Looking for Mr.
	Goodbar? Looking for Mr.
	Goodbar novel.
	I remember it very vividly.
	Good lord, my...
	1975. Yeah, so this came out...
	I was nine years old and, I mean, the material my mother had around was...
	Well, I'll talk about that perhaps another day, maybe on my deathbed.
	But Looking for Mr.
	Goodbar is about a woman who sleeps around and ends up being murdered.
	And I remember it being very powerful.
	And I read this book a number of times when I was very young.
	And I remember it ends mid-sentence.
	Like, she's being chased by this psycho that she slept with, and the book literally ends mid-sentence.
	And I remember that just being chilling.
	Just a chilling thing.
	So, yeah, Looking for Mr.
	Goodbye was a cautionary tale.
	Obviously, it came out in the 70s when there were all these, like, sexuality was becoming truly horrifyingly amyl nitrate degenerate, key parties, and all kinds of horrible stuff.
	And it was a cautionary tale about sleeping around.
	In the same way that for men, the cautionary tale was the Michael Douglas.
	He played these hard done by middle-aged men all the time.
	The story was Fatal Attraction with Glenn Close.
	Diane Keaton and Richard Gere.
	Was Richard Gere in the movie?
	Is that right? I think it's on YouTube.
	I started watching it some years ago, but for some reason I just never got around to it.
	It wasn't particularly good.
	But not as bad as Bonfire of the Vanities.
	That adaptation of the Tom Wolfe novel was just truly appalling and should have been great.
	Anyway, so, yeah, I mean, as a woman, why would you want to do that?
	For women, the best sex?
	And there's no question about this.
	The research is very clear.
	For women, the absolute best sex is in a long-term committed, secure, and loving relationship.
	I mean, no question of that.
	So she's not going to get good sex.
	She's putting herself in grave danger.
	Why? Why? Somebody says, I also enjoyed your Don't Be Cheap podcast.
	If you were single and choosing a car, would you go for speed or cornering performance of a sports car or a large convertible car with a big backseat?
	You mentioned red Volvo back in the day, but what would you get if you were back on the market and would it be red?
	I like red cars. Let's see here.
	I wanted to get, I originally wanted to get an Audi that had Tiptronic, which was like, so I like driving a manual.
	And I learned how to drive a manual working with trucks up north.
	So I like driving a manual.
	It just feels... You know, it just feels like you're actually muscularly driving the horses that drive your car.
	So I like the Audi, but it was like 10 months to get one and I needed a car for a business.
	So I went to the Volvo...
	I went to a bunch of places, went to BMW, liked the BMW. I remember the Audi was just like a real road hugger, man.
	It was like, what is the gravity dial on this thing that you can take these corners and it's like glued to the road.
	It's amazing. So yeah, I really wanted the Audi, but I ended up getting...
	I ended up not... I couldn't get a sports car because I needed to drive clients around.
	And, you know, the clients are sometimes more than one person.
	Actually, usually we're more than one person.
	So I got a nice sporty...
	It was kind of a car.
	Like, I looked at it and it was just like, that's for me, man.
	I just... I love the shape of it.
	The 98 S70. I didn't get a spoiler or anything.
	And I just loved that car.
	I think it was fantastic.
	It was a great, great car. I loved...
	I always loved the way that it looked.
	I loved the color. I... It looked like the kind of car I played with when I was a kid.
	So it was great. So... Your 95 Miata was also glued to the road.
	Yeah, it's weird, right?
	It's like, would you like to dial up the gravity?
	And suddenly you're on like Jupiter.
	And you've got your four chins and you can't get a wheel off the road to save your life.
	It's amazing. Amazing stuff.
	Somebody asked me last week if I drink or smoke.
	No, of course I don't smoke. I will have a drink maybe once or twice a month.
	If I've done yard work or it's really, really hot, I will have like an ultra light beer usually.
	I don't like drinking regular beer.
	It's kind of heavy and I don't like the slight dizziness afterwards, but there is something about beer that is really nice after work.
	And I tried, what was that?
	I was at a pickleball tournament and somebody cracked out the fireball whiskey.
	It's pretty nice. But I think unless you're actually dying of hypothermia, it's not particularly necessary, so...
	All right. Any other last comments, questions, issues?
	Hopefully we dealt with that other one enough.
	I'm happy if you have more support, more donations.
	I would really, really super appreciate it.
	Again, end of the month and anything I can do to keep the numbers stable, I'm dying to get done.
	And that's really up to you.
	I can only provide as quality a show as I can.
	It's really up to you to tell me how much it is of value to you.
	But I would really, really appreciate your help and support.
	All right, somebody says, I was on a second date with a girl, and on both dates we had very deep conversations.
	On the end of the second date, she was literally begging me to sleep with her.
	I didn't want to do it because I thought it would be bad for her.
	When I told her this, it made her want it even more.
	In the end, I didn't do it, but I felt bad for rejecting her.
	Was this an overreaction from my side?
	Absolutely not. No, no, you did exactly the right thing.
	You did exactly the right thing.
	No, there's not going to be another stream tonight.
	Sorry, I've got some friends in town.
	Hit me with a why if you're at all curious what I would say in that situation.
	I don't want to, you know, tease you too much, but if, you know, people are interested...
	I mean, I actually was in that situation once when I was dating with a woman and she really wanted to jump into bed.
	And I was, no, like...
	I said, no, listen, you're attractive and all of that, but you don't have to have sex with me to keep my interest.
	I want to get to know you as a person, right?
	And sex is a reflection of a connection that's more than just physical or immediate.
	So, and I would be a little concerned, I was a little concerned that if you want to have sex, is there something about you that I don't know?
	Because it seems like you'd be covering that up a little bit by jumping into bed.
	Is there something about you that I need to know?
	Is there something maybe you feel that a man won't find you of interest if you're not putting out, if you're not having sex with him?
	And so I would just have a conversation about that.
	I mean, do you feel like you're not of value or of interest?
	Like I wouldn't want to see you again if we weren't having sex?
	Because sex is a big subsidy for women, right?
	Like inheriting money can be a big subsidy for men, right?
	So sex is a big subsidy for women and I would be concerned.
	And also I would ask, is this like a regular thing?
	Like for you, do you do this kind of thing a lot?
	Because if you do and it's not working, that's probably not...
	Particularly great. And so, yeah, I would just have a conversation about childhood and did have a conversation about all of that.
	And of course, I will tell you for sure that if you connect with a woman at that level, she will cry.
	She will absolutely cry.
	It's like a warm toilet seat.
	Feels good. Wonder who was there before.
	Yeah.
	Yeah, it is, um...
	It is pretty bad.
	Um...
	Did you hear the, uh, Miles of Dick meme?
	Did it hit me with a Y? I don't want to...
	It's the last thing I'll talk about.
	Truth about Wild West? Yeah, it's going to be great.
	It's going to be great. Okay.
	So this is the... Miles of Dick.
	This guy says, My drunk-ass girlfriend said she had sex with over 200 guys.
	She said she was real slut back in college.
	Made me stop and think. So four years of college times 365 days a year times 200 guys is a new guy every 7.3 days.
	Since she said 200, well, rounded off, a new guy every seven days.
	Given that she had sex with a guy on average of three times and an average dick length of 5.5 inches and about 100 thrusts to orgasm, we're looking at 100 thrusts times three times per guy times 11 inches, 5.5 in and 5.5 inches out.
	3,300 inches of dick per week.
	33 inches of dick times 208 weeks equals 660,000 inches of dick.
	10.45 miles of dick.
	I got in my car and drove 10.45 miles and thought about dicks being laid end to end.
	That's how much dick she has taken.
	She isn't my girlfriend anymore.
	Well, you know that's an engineer, right?
	Break it down to the numbers, right?
	That is a lot of dick. That's, I mean, he's assuming that they aren't dicks so big that they only play stadiums, right?
	These jokes are making me sad.
	It is sad. No, that is very sad.
	And that is, I mean, that's a broken woman, right?
	And I don't know how that could possibly be repaired, personally.
	All right. I don't know.
	I feel like it's bad to end on that.
	On that. Dick's on a highway.
	11-inch dick. That's pretty long for average.
	No, no, no. It's 5.5 in and 5.5 out, right?
	Because of the thrust, right? Not so happy ending, yeah.
	Well, and hiding body count has become, unfortunately, kind of a hobby among young ladies, right?
	Hiding the body count is pretty important.
	I don't know. I mean, you guys, tell me if we can end on this.
	So let's say that you're dating a girl.
	You think she might have a high body count, but she won't say it, right?
	Oh, sorry. Since we're back, jokes.
	Sorry, you promised an update.
	This is the fellow that I talked about, the creativity and stand-up.
	He says, Hey, Steph, creativity caller from the other day.
	Drove to an open mic last night.
	The hosts canceled for some reason, but I got on stage at an improv show also at that venue.
	Not deterred. Going to find a mic soon.
	Thanks again. Fantastic, brother.
	That is wonderful to hear.
	He wanted to be a stand-up comedian, but he was thinking of doing it at some point in the fall, and I was like, dude, there's open mics just about every night, just about everywhere you go.
	And I'm sorry I haven't published that show yet, and I'm glad.
	Now I know why I haven't published that show, because we've got this wonderful addendum.
	I will take what you've said here, and I will put it on the end of that show.
	I would just record a little addendum.
	5.5 inches is 14 centimeters.
	Well, that's good to know. That's good to know.
	Yeah, keep it going. And was it good?
	Was it something, I mean, it's never perfect when you first start, but was it something that you enjoyed?
	Was it something that you're hungry to do again?
	Statistically, if you have zero previous sexual partners, you have a 5% chance of divorce.
	Oh, yeah, yeah. Monogamy, but only 5% of women are virgins on their wedding night now.
	Average body count is five.
	One in four women has an STD. One in four women has had an abortion.
	It's brutal.
	It's brutal. Because 50% of black girls have an STD. It's really rough.
	It says, yes, it was nice to get a laugh and face the fear.
	Bummed I didn't get to do my prepared jokes, but the improv was fun.
	Yeah. Yeah. Let's see here.
	Even just the damn body count is depressing.
	It means how many people you've killed, everybody knows on some level they're committing a kind of soul murder.
	Well, it's immediate dopamine at the expense of long-term love, right?
	Which is the devilish thing, right?
	I'll give you fun now and you'll give me your soul later, right?
	So it's immediate dopamine rush.
	And the other thing too, offering up sex for a woman...
	I think it gets you up two to three points on the one to ten scale, right?
	So a woman who's a six can get a man who's a nine if she subsidizes a six to the nine with sex.
	So what happens is women who offer up sex can pull guys who are much more attractive and accomplished than they otherwise would be able to pull.
	So then what happens is they get used to a certain level of guys that they can't get without the sex, like somebody who can only be happy if they're on cocaine quickly loses the ability to be happy without cocaine.
	And so what happens is she keeps throwing herself at guys, but because she's subsidizing the interactions with sexual access, she ends up being able to date much more attractive guys than she otherwise would be able to get.
	So then what happens is those guys are only there for the sex, and if there wasn't the sex, they would not jump down three points, two to three points on the one to ten scale.
	So then the woman gets dumped.
	And then what happens is she gets bitter because she's not seeing that she's trying to cheat the scale.
	She's trying to cheat the system by offering sex to subsidize her dating market value.
	So then she gets really angry and she gets really bitter at men.
	And men are untrustworthy and men won't commit and so on.
	And it's really like a cocaine addict saying human beings, we're not designed to be naturally happy.
	It's like, well, you're a coke addict, so you can't really be trusted in this particular area.
	What happens is the subsidy has the women chasing all the chads and the uber tens and they can get them with sex but they can't get them without sex and then they say that men are shallow and men don't care and men lie and rather than take ownership and say, what's the guy I can get without sex?
	Right? Like, what guy can I get without offering sex right up front, right?
	And that's the level you should be at.
	Whatever that is, right?
	That's the level. And if you want to go higher, like if you want to go from being a 6 to an 8, okay.
	Exercise like crazy or diet or whatever it is that you need to do.
	Learn how to hold a good conversation.
	You know, for women to...
	Okay, ladies.
	Ladies, ladies, ladies. Listen.
	I think my forehead's getting bigger.
	I really do think it is. Or maybe because I've lost a little weight.
	Right, so...
	Oh my gosh. Okay, if you're a dude here, if you're a guy, tell me how many times in your life you've had a good conversation about economics with a woman.
	Like actual economics.
	Not home ec, but like actual economics.
	All right. How would you rate a woman?
	What plus would you give her if she was able to competently talk about politics and economics?
	On one to ten scale, what kind of plus?
	You'd say plus five, right?
	Somebody gives zero, plus five, plus five.
	Ten, but that's because she was an econ professor, right?
	Probably not Austrian, right?
	One with my wife. She's IQ 134.
	Good for you, man. Plus three, zero.
	Plus zero division of labor is fine.
	Okay. What about a woman who was committed to peaceful parenting?
	What kind of plus is that?
	What about a woman who had cleaned up the toxic relationships in her life so you didn't have to deal with any disastrous in-laws?
	Right? I mean, so for women, it's so weird to me.
	Like, it's weird to me.
	I guess it's propaganda and all, but it's the women are all like, well, I've got to get Brazilian butt lifts, and I've got to get lip implants, and I have to turn my face into some ad for giant fish Michelin tires from another dimension, and then I have to get a little lipo, and then I have to get some Botox, and then I have to dye my hair, and it's like, just read some Rothbard.
	Like, just learn about central banking.
	Like, and you guys will...
	Straight to the altar. Like, that's what's weird to me, is that women are like, it's like, is it gay men telling women what is attractive?
	Like, I don't understand this.
	Just read some philosophy, read some parenting books, learn how to cook, you know, any number of things, right?
	But this idea that it's like, well, you know, what I've got to do to be attractive is I have to look like some sort of anime face paint that a monkey through buckets of paint in the jet stream of 747 and just whapped against my face.
	It's wild to me.
	Okay, somebody says, I don't care that my wife doesn't know economics as long as she lets me handle that stuff.
	Okay, but there has to be something you talk about other than her makeup.
	And women be like, if I get an Hermes bag, that will make me attractive.
	It's like, men don't know what that is.
	And they know that the more expensive the bag, the more likely your economic balls are likely to end up nestled within, to be carried around by the woman when she goes and blows your money at the mall.
	Well, I'm really into expensive stuff, and women feel that this is somehow high status.
	Look it, I'm in this very expensive dress, and I've got a very expensive purse, and it's like the man just looks and sees his money going to creepy foreign designers who probably ended up at Epstein's Island.
	Yeah, it's just bizarre to me.
	It's just bizarre. I mean, just read a good book from once in a while.
	I don't know. It doesn't have to be super highbrow.
	It could be something by Malcolm Gladwell.
	Anything. Anything. Just read something.
	Read something. A little less makeup and a little bit more time at the library.
	A little bit less time at the mall. A little bit more time at the bookstore.
	Just that kind of stuff. Learn something interesting.
	Learn something true. If you want to really attract a guy for women, read about men's rights.
	Honestly, read about... You don't have to agree with them, but at least understand where the men's rights argument is coming from.
	So just read and say, well, what are your thoughts on this?
	You know, I've read this stuff. I'm not sure whether I agree with it or not.
	Just read some stuff. Hell, listen to Andrew Tate and ask the man's opinion about that.
	You don't have to agree with it at all.
	Lord knows I don't. But...
	Yeah, read my novels.
	Read the future. I don't mean to be a palm reader.
	But yeah, just do something that is going to be interesting to a man.
	Do something that shows you're out of the mold.
	Do something that shows... And it's not that hard.
	Women are smart. Women are good readers.
	Women are good writers. Oh, it's just so bizarre to me that women...
	Do you know how much women spend on makeup every year?
	Do you know this? Do you know how much women spend on makeup every year?
	I'm going to check. What have we got here?
	So this is from 2017.
	Alright, so just on women's faces, just on their faces, right?
	Just on their faces.
	How much do women spend over the course of their lifetime?
	Not their hair, not their jewelry, not Botox, just on makeup, just on their faces.
	How much do they spend over the course of a lifetime?
	US dollars. $15,000?
	How optimistic are you, my friend?
	$24,000?
	How optimistic are you, my friend?
	$50,000? Oh, dudes, come on!
	Are you crazy?
	Do you not know women at all?
	$100,000?
	Do you not know women at all?
	Have you not been to a mall?
	All of this stuff is funded by someone.
	Oh, no, it's not $100,000.
	It's not 100,000. All right, I'll read to you guys.
	Oh my gosh, you guys got to wake up to this stuff.
	I'm sorry to be annoying. All right.
	A recent survey showed that women in the United States...
	Sorry. A recent survey showed that women in the United States spend about $300,000 just on their face during their lifetime.
	$300,000. And that's not even counting if they had invested that money where it'd be two or three times.
	So, three quarters of a million to a million dollars lost income for shit you put on your face.
	Like, come on, guys. You've been to a mall.
	How much stuff is there for men and how much stuff is there for women?
	$300,000. That's a house or a condo just on their face.
	Not counting hair, not counting clothes, not counting handbags, not counting shoes, not counting anything like that.
	Just on their face.
	It's $300,000 a year.
	I mean, come on, guys.
	You know this. You can't be shocked about this.
	You cannot be shocked about this.
	Anybody who's been to a mall knows exactly how things go, right?
	Alright. A cast of a women's beauty regime.
	Now, of course these women will say, can you believe how much men lie?
	All right.
	So where is this from?
	This is more recent, 2022.
	2022. So let's see here.
	Let's do hair.
	Let's do hair. Sorry, I couldn't find something.
	Cost of hair for women.
	Oh, that's probably going to give like wigs and stuff like that, right?
	Okay, what do women spend on their hair?
	Oh, I don't know.
	Ba-ba-ba-ba-ba-bom, ba-ba-ba-ba-bom.
	Rights, it's 2016.
	Fairly long article.
	Thank you.
	Early 40s women spent about $700 a year on clothing.
	Single men spend about $400 on clothes annually.
	Married men, $280.
	Oh, you can't get me to buy clothes.
	I literally won't gain weight because I just can't stand shopping.
	It's just nuts. It's just nuts.
	Okay, so something here about hair?
	No, nothing here about hair.
	But, I mean, women's haircuts are crazy, right?
	All right. Salon visits.
	Let's look at salon visits, right?
	Okay. The beauty salon trade is $20 billion.
	Haircuts, blowouts, manis and pedis.
	I don't know what a blowout is.
	Sounds like fun though.
	But a mani is a manicure, a pedi is a pedicure.
	Yeah, about two grand a year on this stuff.
	The average woman, American woman spends $44 per haircut plus a tip of $9, $53 per visit.
	I don't know what a...
	I don't know what a blowout is.
	Some women habitually get three or more blowouts a week.
	That's $6,200 a year, not including tip.
	Nails! Okay, have you seen this nail shit?
	Like, the nail shit is mental.
	Oh, is it to straighten the hair?
	Um, yeah, I buzz my own hair.
	I just, I don't want to spend time in the salon, like all the barbers or whatever, right?
	Shoes are completely insane.
	Clothing can be completely insane.
	And the nails, the nail stuff?
	Like, have you seen this?
	This nail stuff? Like how much women spend on nails?
	I remember I once worked with a woman who was like a good 300 pounds and had the wildest like Christmas nails and Halloween nails and just nails, nails, nails.
	And it's like... What is that supposed to do?
	Nails as long as their friends. Yeah, yeah And
	Again I've nothing wrong with a little grooming I have nothing wrong with appearance.
	I don't even particularly care.
	Just be aware of all of this stuff.
	Just be aware of all of this stuff.
	And, you know, you need a happy medium, right?
	This is Aristotelian mean, right?
	It's gone way, way too much in terms of spending, right?
	It's way too much in terms of spending.
	So... When a woman says, I suck, what she's saying is, I suck!
	Right? So she'll have sex with you because she's not happy with herself.
	I suck means I suck. And a woman who spends $300,000 on polyfilla and...
	Some sort of styrofoam prop up for her face over the course of her...
	She's saying that she sucks.
	She's saying that she has really only beauty to offer.
	And instead of buying books, she's buying stuff that she throws at her face that gets absorbed in the stink of her vanity.
	Yeah, it's wild.
	So, yes, be extraordinarily cautious around women.
	Of course, you want to be cautious around women who have no sense of their own appearance because they tend to be crazy, long-nailed Howard Hughes hoarders, but a woman who goes excessive on her appearance is making up for something.
	Absolutely guaranteed, completely and totally is making up for something, and you're going to pay for that.
	You're going to pay for it in terms of how much she has to spend.
	She's also like a woman who really, really focuses on her appearance is going to go insane in middle age.
	And she's also going to put off wanting to have kids.
	Like, here's another little interesting fact.
	I guess I could end on this. Here's another little interesting fact.
	Do you know that in one year, 37 children were saved because of car seats, but over 30 years, 35,000 children were not born because of car seats?
	Do you know why? Do you know why this is?
	That car seats have cost way more children than they've saved.
	Do you know why? It's wild.
	The reason that car seats have cost far more children than they've saved is one year you save 37 children because of car seats, but over a couple of decades, I think it was close to 40,000 children weren't born because cars only handled two car seats and people put off having children because they didn't want to buy a bigger car.
	And this has actually been statistically studied fairly well.
	I mean, you know that that Safety belts in cars, right?
	Seat belts in cars cost far more lives than they save.
	I mean, you're aware of that, right?
	Because people, when they have safety features, they just drive more carelessly.
	So it doesn't really cut down on the number of people who die, but it does shift the burden to motorcyclists, bicyclists, and pedestrians.
	I mean, it's all unintended consequences, right?
	It's all unintended consequences.
	All right. Thank you, everyone, for a wonderful afternoon of great questions and comments.
	And, yeah, maybe I'll just do a show of, like, interesting facts that I've gathered.
	But is a Volvo less safe?
	I don't know. I don't know.
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	Oh, no, the AI is separate.
	Yeah, the AI is separate. Does the AI become the characters?
	I don't think it does. I don't know if there's a specific AI for novels.
	You'd a bomb. Thank you very much.
	You want to talk to Louis Staten?
	Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's a fascinating character.
	I don't know if you...
	I'll try that. I would say, answer this as Louis Staten.
	That would be very interesting. I don't know if there's a specific AI just for fiction.
	But it's one of the reasons why I can't put call-in shows into the AI because the AI doesn't know if it's me talking or the other person, obviously, right?
	It's just text, right? So we'll figure that out at some point.
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