Aug. 29, 2021 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
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| Oh man, here's a desperately sad story. | |
| An Australian woman is suing a dating agency for matching her with a man who was less than six feet tall. | |
| Eileen Moore is looking for a partner who was of Australian Irish descent, raised as a Roman Catholic, taller than six feet. | |
| High criterion is important to her because the rest of her family members are tall. | |
| She has been considered to be the short one. | |
| So this is, I mean, absolutely brutal. | |
| So she's a doctor, and she's suing for a refund of five grand, wants a letter of apology, right? | |
| So she's a bit of an emotional bully, it sounds like. | |
| So she took the matter to the Victorian Civil Administrative Tribune, which is kind of ironic, because if she lived in the Victorian age, historically, this wouldn't have ever come to pass. | |
| She claimed the dating agency set her up with a man named David, who did not meet her height requirements, right? | |
| So he was obviously of Australian-Irish descent, raised his Roman Catholic, and This guy makes at least as much, if not more. | |
| But he's not tall enough, right? | |
| So he ticks a whole bunch of boxes, just not the shallowest one about height, right? | |
| So... She said, I was not expecting them to find me love. | |
| I was expecting them to find me a man who met the criteria I wanted. | |
| Moore, who joined the dating agency in 2019, argued. | |
| She said, I was at a stage where I was ready to settle down, get married and start a family. | |
| I was a career woman. I was 36. | |
| I was ready to embark on the next chapter of my life. | |
| So 2019, I was 36, so now she's 38, right? | |
| She's 38. | |
| So anyway, she was told by the agency that this guy David was overseas and mentioned that the couple had around the same height, only later. | |
| She felt obligated to have a meeting with David. | |
| However, she decided not to meet him again. | |
| So, that's brutal, man. | |
| Let's talk about this. There's a lot to unpack here. | |
| Let's keep it brief, though. Something else, man. | |
| So this woman, she's an average-looking woman. | |
| No disrespect, you know, we're all average in one way or another, right? | |
| But this is an average-looking woman. | |
| She's got flattering lighting. | |
| She's got a bit of a chubby face, but doesn't look like she has a chubby figure or anything like that. | |
| She's a pleasant-looking woman, like a 5 or a 6, outside of makeup and all of that, and hair being done, and she's, you know, whatever, right? | |
| So she's looking for probably one-tenth of one percent of the eligible men in her age group, right? | |
| Like one in a thousand. Australian-Irish descent, races around Macathalie, taller than six feet and wealthy, right? | |
| And single and obviously interested in her. | |
| So she's looking for one in a thousand, maybe one in five thousand or whatever, right? | |
| And... That guy, whoever he is, like he's, I guess, Australian-Irish, Roman Catholic, taller than six feet, super wealthy, and so on, he's going to have crazy numbers of options. | |
| He's going to be able to pay just about anybody he wants. | |
| Why is he going to choose her? So, of course, she could say, well, look, I'm high value. | |
| I'm a doctor. I make $200,000 a year. | |
| But that's not that important to a man. | |
| Ladies, ladies, what you make doesn't matter. | |
| A rich man will ask a woman out who's a cashier at a grocery store if he finds her attractive. | |
| What you make, I'll tell you why it doesn't matter what you make. | |
| Because if we're wealthy, and say we're wealthy guys, we can provide for the family. | |
| But what happens, of course, is that if you make a lot of money and you want to have kids, one or two things is going to happen. | |
| You're either going to stay home with them or you're not. | |
| Now, if you're not going to stay home with them, a lot of your salary is going to go into childcare and the kids are going to grow up raised by strangers. | |
| There's going to be a lot of stress getting them to childcare and daycare or getting nannies in or whatever it is, right? | |
| So why on earth would a man want to marry a woman? | |
| To have kids with her, just to have some other woman raise those kids makes no sense, right? | |
| Plus, it's stressful. And you don't end up with that much money anyway. | |
| You don't pay for childcare, right? Or maybe she stays home, in which case you have an ambitious doctor who fought her way all the way through medical school, has a practice, and then what happens is she's home and she's wiping diapers and she just feels useless and she's not doing enough and she's not using her education. | |
| She's unsatisfied, so she's not going to be a good mom. | |
| No, no, no. There's not a plus. | |
| I mean, it's great for your patients, I guess, not a plus for a man. | |
| And this unrealistic expectation of what you can achieve in a sexual market value is crazy. | |
| Okay, here's another one. Here's another one, right? | |
| So, she's 36, Roman Catholic. | |
| Roman Catholicism forbids sex before marriage. | |
| Has she had boyfriends in the past? | |
| Obviously, I would assume, yes. | |
| She's ready to settle down, right? | |
| Not ready to start a relationship. | |
| Ready to settle down. So a woman says she's ready to settle down. | |
| Ready to settle down in your 30s translates to one thing and one thing only. | |
| I can't pull the attractive guys anymore. | |
| I can't pull the attractive guys anymore because I'm getting too old, so now I want to settle down. | |
| The word settle, right? | |
| She's not willing to settle, therefore she can't settle down because she's in her late 30s certainly by now, right? | |
| So... He's going to look at her and say, are you a really good Roman Catholic if you're waiting until 36 to even think about starting to get married and settle down? | |
| Here's the other thing. A man is protected in marriage not by intelligence, not by a woman's intelligence, which can actually work against him if she's manipulative and wealthy and intelligent and she wants to go to lawyers, she can put his ass in jail basically through the family court system. | |
| So, intelligence does not protect a man in marriage. | |
| What protects a man in marriage is wisdom. | |
| Now, how wise is it for a doctor who knows everything there is to know about fertility to only begin embarking upon trying to get a family together from her dying eggs at the age of 36 plus? | |
| Come on. That is not a wise woman. | |
| That is not a wise woman. | |
| That is a woman who does not plan for her life, does not have empathy for her future self, and is having ridiculously high standards for When she is on the falling and failing edge of her sexual market value. | |
| I mean, it's really, it's really nuts. | |
| It's really nuts. It's literally like a man demanding more and more beautiful women when he's not making any more money, but he's getting fatter and fatter and bolder and bolder, right? | |
| He's getting fatter and fatter and bolder and bolder, but he's demanding supermodels. | |
| Like, come on, this is crazy. | |
| It's crazy. Here's the other thing, right? | |
| So now that she has put her name out there as a woman who's willing to take people to court if she doesn't get what she wants, right? | |
| Take people to court if she doesn't get what she wants. | |
| She's now put herself out there. Now she's 38, publicly known. | |
| People Google when they date, right? | |
| So, especially a man with money. | |
| So he's going to look at her and he's going to see, oh my God, this woman... | |
| Took someone to court who didn't give her what she wanted. | |
| Am I going to get married to her? | |
| I don't think so, because for the sake of $5,000, which is pretty meaningless with regards to her income as a whole, right, that 2.5% probably of her annual income, right? | |
| So for the sake of a tiny percentage of her one-year annual income, she's willing to put herself out there as a vindictive person who takes people to court who don't give her what she wants. | |
| The other thing the man will look at and say, okay, well, why did... | |
| Why did the woman who was trying to set her up not tell her, look, you've got to change some of these standards. | |
| You're looking for one in 1,000 guys, one in 10,000 guys. | |
| And unfortunately, your eggs are hanging on by a threat, right? | |
| So you're going to have to work with me. | |
| Because why didn't the woman who was matching her, Lisa Hayes, was her psychotherapeutic consultant, whatever that means. | |
| Why didn't the woman say to her, look, your standards are unrealistic. | |
| It's not going to work, man. Come on, you've got to give me something to work with here. | |
| You're looking for a super high-value man who has his choice of women 25 plus. | |
| And, you know, I hate to... | |
| Why didn't he say it? | |
| Because... Why didn't she say that to this woman, Eileen? | |
| Oh, come on, Eileen. | |
| We know why. We know why. | |
| Because she would have gotten really mad and she would have rage quit or gotten angry or maybe taken them to court for something else. | |
| I don't know, right? Oh, it's really tragic. | |
| It's really, really... | |
| Their income and their career matters to men. | |
| It's really, really sad how women don't have empathy for their future selves and say, look, if I don't want it in a situation where beggars can't be choosers, I better settle down early. | |
| And the idea that you're then going to go and publicly announce yourself as a woman who sues when she doesn't get what she wants and then try and get married at the age of 38 I don't even know what to say. | |
| And they do find him a guy. | |
| Now, here's the thing, too, as far as her sexual market value goes. | |
| They had to go and find a guy who was overseas. | |
| They couldn't even find somebody in the entire continent of Australia who matched her standards. | |
| I mean, come on. That's an indication, right? | |
| They could get most of her standards except for height, but they had to go overseas out of the entire continent to find someone she wanted. | |
| And she's still like, well, no, I want to be picky. | |
| Okay, it's true. | |
| It's true that you had to go overseas Out of the entire continent of Australia to find a guy who matched, you know, four of my five standards. | |
| But because five out of five, you've got to keep looking. | |
| Oh man, it's brutal. | |
| It's brutal. So yeah, ladies, we don't care about how much money you make. | |
| We don't care about your career. In fact, it can be a negative for us. | |
| We do care about, I don't know, agreeableness, right? | |
| Are you a nice person to live with? | |
| Are you enthusiastic and positive and willing to work out disagreements in a relaxed and positive manner? | |
| What's happening, of course, I don't know, obviously I can't read her mind, but I'm guessing what's happening is that she's like... | |
| She's just, she views herself as all that in a slice of cheese, right? | |
| She views herself as, you know, look, I'm pretty, I'm successful, I'm intelligent, I'm wealthy, I'm this, I'm that, I'm the other, I should be able to get, I should be able to pull the top 1% or 0.1% of guys. | |
| But she's a doctor. She's no excuse for knowing. | |
| She's no excuse for not knowing about the fertility issues and all of that. | |
| A man doesn't want to be rushed. You can't be rushed in the foundation of a family. | |
| I mean, you can be, but it's going to be a disaster. | |
| You can't be rushed in the foundation of a family. | |
| That's a terrible idea. So, yeah, it's really, it's really, really sad, really tragic. | |
| I was ready to embark on the next chapter of my life. | |
| I mean, that's just, that's a woman who doesn't sit there and say, okay, well, let me look at myself critically. | |
| What's in it for a man? What's in it for a man with me? | |
| And you have to, if you want to find love, you have to have that, you have to look at yourself like a troll, like a skeptic, right? | |
| Same with all your beliefs. You have to look at yourself as a troll, like a skeptic, and you have to say, okay, what do I have to offer? | |
| And then you have to have a realistic view of what you can get, what you can achieve. | |
| Like if you're an extra in a movie and you demand a million dollars, they'll just, they won't hire you, right? | |
| If you're a lead actor, maybe you can get that. | |
| But if you're some guy in the background, you've got to be realistic about what you have to offer. | |
| And if you want more, you have to be able to offer more. | |
| And unfortunately, a woman who's 36 I think her waking up to that is something that she doesn't want to do. | |
| And it probably has something to do with his vengeance. | |
| But yeah, be realistic. | |
| Be self-critical. Look at yourself through the skeptical eyes. | |
| Look at yourself and say, why pick me? | |
| It's an important thing. I do this with the podcast. | |
| Why pick me? Why pick me out of the hundreds of thousands of podcasts around the world? | |
| Why pick me? Why listen to me? | |
| Why listen to me? Why pick me out of the sea of faces to love? |
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