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July 24, 2021 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
28:43
I Will Only Date David Beckham!
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Why are some people so open-minded and non-judgmental towards anything but rationality and shame others saying close-minded?
Well, people with a bad conscience are afraid of being judged.
And really, they're afraid of being judged by themselves.
I will tell you something. It's a very, very powerful thing that you need to understand.
I assume that most of you who are listening to this, most of you who are watching this, thank you.
I appreciate that. You have a pretty good conscience.
You have a pretty good conscience.
I've done thousands of call-in shows over the past 15 or 16 years.
I've only had a handful of people who have a genuinely bad conscience.
So the vast majority of people who listen to this show have a pretty good conscience.
And you know what that means? You don't have a bomb in the brain that other people can detonate with a word.
Let me say this again.
You've got to understand this about the world.
Most people around the world have done really terrible things.
Most people have done really...
They've hit their kids. They've cheated.
They've stolen. They've betrayed people.
They've busted up marriages.
They're homewreckers. They've had affairs.
They've just done really terrible things.
They've ignored their kids.
They've dove into video games or ignored the people in their lives.
They've betrayed their own potential.
They've just done bad things.
And they have two sides to their brain.
The side that knows and the side that doesn't know.
Now, the side that doesn't know grows out of the side that knows.
The big scar tissue that grows over the side that knows the bad that they've done, the wrong that they've done.
The possibly and probably irredeemable harm that they've done to others.
You know, you've hurt your kid, you've ignored your kid, you've beaten your kid, you've molested your kid, whatever.
You can't fix that. I mean, the kid can fix it, right?
I did, right? But you, as the abuser, you can't fix it.
Because if you beat your kid for 10 years, there's nothing you can do or say that's going to make that okay.
Nothing you can do or say that's going to make that okay.
So, you and I, everyone else listening to this, we have no bomb in the brain.
No bomb in the brain. So you've got two sides to your brain.
One knows that you're a shitty person who did evil things.
And the other is the part that covers over that, absorbs it, is a scar tissue so you can never get through.
Keep these right. And then they separate, right?
So, what happens is, you know, you and I become along, we've got a good conscience, we've got a good conscience, right?
You know, I've never hurt children, I've been a good father, I worked in a daycare, the kids really liked me, I like the kids, we got along well, and I've treated everyone well, I've told the truth, I've done good things, all that.
So you just dum-de-dum. And we're like, hey, you know, hey, I'm talking about the non-aggression principle.
Spanking. What if you've circumcised your kid?
You've circumcised your son.
You had a hack medieval bullshit doctor saw off a third of your son's penis skin, mutilating him for life.
Oh, that's bad.
That's bad. So we're just going through life, chatting about philosophy, curious about things, and we don't know.
The landmines we're stepping on, we don't know.
Hey, what happens if I put this wire together in your brain?
You'll be illuminated. They're not illuminated.
They're destroyed! They're destroyed.
They have to keep the parts of themselves separate.
The part that did evil things and the part that pretends not to know.
When they fuse together, it's matter and antimatter.
It simply takes out themselves and their entire society of relationships, right?
Not physically. They don't die.
In a sense, it's worse.
They can no longer deny the evil that they've done.
And the nihilism, the death impulse, all begins to flood into them like black ink into their veins.
The pretense of life falls away, and the rotting zombie face is revealed in the internal mirror.
So you need to understand, if you have a good conscience, you're just playing with unconnected wires, seeing how they fit together, seeing what works.
But for other people, it's a thousand-fault live wire that can wipe them out.
So, if people have split themselves, because they both have done evil and wish to keep doing evil, they've split themselves, and you come along and try and join these things back together, which is what philosophy does, joins everything back together, makes everything unified, you're like, hey, I got this ball, catch, right?
And you just see a little tennis ball or whatever, hey, catch, throw it back, let's have a game, right?
What they see is big, giant, radioactive coronavirus or something.
It's a bomb. It's a grenade.
And so much of people, this is what triggered and all, like so much of people's lives are managing, unconsciously often, is managing the information that will unite their brain and have them look at themselves honestly in the mirror for the first time probably in their adult life.
These are the kids, the elder siblings who abused the younger siblings, the bullies who abused the children, the guys who cornered the girls and groped them when they were kids, like all of the shitty things that people do.
And I guarantee you virtually with the certainty that you're not one of those people.
And so you can wander around and be curious.
Hey, UPP, that's very interesting.
Hey, no spanking, no circumcision.
That's very interesting. Let's talk about it.
And then what happens is you keep clicking on these landmines and people keep trying to blow your leg off, right?
Because they need to keep you away.
Imagine you live in a town, you grow up in a town, and everyone but you is a vampire.
Everyone's up at you and you're like, you know, I mean, I like nighttime.
I think it's kind of cool. It's dark.
It's mysterious. It's exciting. But I wouldn't mind being out during the day, right?
And everyone's hiding the fact that they're vampires.
You're not a vampire. So you're just like, hey, guys, let's...
Let's get up at noon and let's go outside, for God's sakes.
And you wake people up at noon and you, come on, man, let's go out.
And you playfully start dragging them towards the door.
Now you can go out and you have a great time.
You get a little tan, you get some fresh air, sunshine, your eyes burn a little, but you're fine.
But they will melt into a thousand tiny atomic bats, fly to Wuhan, and fade into nothing, right?
So you're trying to drag these vampires into the light saying, hey, it's great out here.
You're not vampires. Come on out, right?
And then you wonder why they get so tense, so angry, so weirdly frustrated and hostile, but they can't ever be direct about it.
They can't say, I'm a vampire.
I can't, you know, I can't.
Sorry. Sun and me, no thanks.
We don't have any chemistry.
No chemistry between Sun and me.
So... If you throw a ball to someone and they think...
For them it's a grenade. For you it's just a tennis ball.
For them it's a grenade. But they can't ever tell you that.
They'll just get really incomprehensibly angry at you.
It's so rude to just throw things at people.
It's so vile.
What's the matter with you? Have some politeness.
Have some civility. For God's sakes.
Racist. So those are the people who have a bad conscience.
And your curiosity...
You're putting together the wires in their head is going to have them explode.
It's going to be the end of them as they know it, because all they know is this separation, this split, this dichotomy, this oppositional fogginess.
So that's one half of the population.
The other half of the population is people who've had great evil done unto them who are still bonded with their abusers and can't and haven't, or at least haven't yet, processed the pain and the horror and the anger of the evil that was done to them.
And this is a little more in line with the people who I've called with.
I've got 16 years worth of samples, thousands of people and so on.
It's, you know...
Many thousands of hours of conversation, right?
So it's a pretty good data set.
It's not totally objective because it's somewhat self-selecting, but it's a pretty good data set.
And so if you've done great wrong to someone, the only way they'll be able to get free of you is if they emotionally process the harm that you did to them.
But if they emotionally process the harm that you did to them, They'll get angry at you.
They might confront you.
They might get you involved in the criminal justice system if it's relatively recent and illegal.
Or they might leave you.
They might flee. And so when we've had harm done to us, the people who've harmed us program us to suppress those feelings so they can continue to exploit us.
So half the population have done shitty things.
The other half of the population has had shitty things inflicted on them, and neither of them really wants to know the truth.
So why are some people open-minded and not judgmental?
And the only thing they get angry is judgment is because they're terrified of judging themselves for being evil and they're terrified of the people they're exploiting judging them as evil too.
So they've just got to attack anyone and everyone who comes up with any rational standards and objective moral standards.
You are the great enemy. It took me a long time to sort this one out.
So I hope this is pretty bloody hard-won wisdom, and I hope that you will look at it and really, really, really understand it.
Very, very important. If the vaccinated can still catch and spread COVID, then what's the rationale for blaming the unvaccinated?
Oh, there was an argument for this.
I can't remember what it was.
So, you know, there may be a good argument for it, right?
But I think that people think that the unvaccinated are catching and spreading the virus.
And also, of course, oh, I know what the argument is.
So the argument is that if you're vaccinated and you get the virus, then your symptoms aren't so bad.
You don't have to go to hospital.
You don't consume precious and scarce healthcare resources and this, that, and the other, right?
Yeah. So you're okay, right?
You're immune from the effects to some degree, and therefore you're not consuming all the resources that everybody else needs and so on, right?
So I think that's probably got something to do with it, right?
What's the deal with women in sickness?
I'm dealing with my mom having worsening Munchausen syndrome.
Wait, Munchausen or Munchausen by proxy?
The two are not the same.
So the deal with women in sickness is women run the household.
The household is where germs spread historically, which is why women generally tend to be obsessed with cleanliness and safety and security, and they get this particular horror when people are ill for a couple of reasons.
They will then blame themselves if they didn't keep the house clean enough and people got ill because of that.
And also...
Women generally have to take care of sick people and therefore they had a very great interest in having people not get sick because somebody gets sick.
Let's say somebody gets Lyme disease and the husband gets Lyme disease.
The wife is going to have to deal with that for the next year or two and it's a big mess, right?
If the man gets sick and he can't work, right, historically that meant that the family would be pretty likely to starve to death.
So the fear of illness and the great desire to keep people healthy and keep people safe, it's a beautiful foundational aspect of femininity.
It needs to be tempered by not being united with government power through excessive voting.
So anyway. All right.
Boo-boo, boo-boo.
Clown mode, yeah, only if it's it.
The clown it. All right.
Well, and where are the homeless bodies, right?
I mean, if it's so contagious and deadly, then, you know, people in these homeless encampments, the ones I... Oh, did I put this up?
I think I just put this up today, freedomand.locals.com.
you can have a look at my documentary on California.
Yeah, I did a three and a half hour documentary examining everything to do with the fall of California.
Yeah.
It's really good. And I would recommend it enormously and massively.
And what have we got here?
Geez, I didn't even get to what's going on with Bitcoin yet, did I? Did it go?
Oh yeah, you should also check out my thing, man.
How much time do you spend in fictional universes?
Very, very important. That's also at freedomand.locals.com.
if it's not there now it will be very shortly which is um oh it's probably just uh processing at the moment also there's a bonus at the moment There's a bonus at the moment.
You get 12 months for the price of 10 if you sign up, which I would get very much.
Oh, did I get lost here?
Yeah, so I went to visit all these homeless encampments, talked to the mayor of Skid Row about what was going on there, and yeah, where are all the homeless people dropping dead of COVID? That's a good question.
All right. Steph, what are your thoughts on younger women only wanting high-value men making 100,000-plus?
How will this affect young men wanting families?
Oh, man.
Well, I mean, a study came out relatively recently.
About women and women who've had negative dating experiences, you would expect them as they move forward in time to stop having those negative dating experiences in the same way you would expect a kid who touches fire to stop touching fire because it hurts.
It doesn't happen.
Women just continue to date fools, losers, bad boys, violent guys, drug addicts, alcoholics, tattoo artists, like you name it, right?
So things have just become so distorted that negative experiences over the course of dating life do not seem to change women's behavior at all.
And this is really, it's terrible.
It's terrible stuff.
So things have just become so weird and distorted.
So, of course, the way it's supposed to work historically is pretty simple.
A woman in the full flush and power of her youth and beauty is supposed to choose a guy and then her youth and beauty get somewhat erased by having kids.
And then she's off the market and there's a reason why nature makes women less attractive after they have kids.
It helps make the family more stable because you've already pair-bonded with your wife and you love her for her fertility and being a great mom and not just her youth and hotness and so on.
And so... The youthful, full flood of beauty attractiveness thing that drives men crazy and has men throw resources at women, that's only supposed to last for a year or two, max.
Like 18 to 19, 18 to 20, 18 to 21 or whatever, right?
And then you settle down, get in the business of having babies and all that.
I mean, evolutionarily speaking, right?
And so what's happened now, of course...
And then you're supposed to find satisfaction in something other than male attention, right?
You're supposed to find satisfaction in your panda-bonded relationship and the growth of your children and the happiness of your household and taking care of elderly relatives and all that.
That's in charity in the community and having a community, for that matter.
You take women out of the workforce, you destroy communities in the environment.
That plus, of course, mass immigration.
So women are supposed to have this very short window of maximum attractiveness that's They're supposed to get snapped up and then get into the business of having babies and losing their looks.
Whereas now we've got women from the age of like 18 to 40.
They're just like milking this fallen over cow of ultimate attractiveness.
And because women get such a high from male attention, they won't settle on a guy, right?
So the way it used to work, of course, is that the best men would So the best men get married.
And so if the woman doesn't choose a good man, then the good men will all be gone by the time she wants to settle down in her late 20s or whatever, right?
So it's really supposed to be a short window, right?
But now what's happening is women are milking this for like 20 plus years.
Getting male attention from various social media apps, and they go and post stuff online.
There was this woman, I think she was Chinese or Japanese or Asian or something like that, and she had an Instagram channel.
They called them influencers because...
Semi-strippers apparently is not in vogue.
And she would take these pictures of herself dangling from cliffs and on tight ropes and stuff like that.
And she was trying to take a selfie of herself next to a waterfall.
She fell 16 feet and died.
Just dead. Boom. Wiped out.
She was 31 years old.
Beautiful woman. Great figure.
Dead. Dead.
And of course, she was addicted, I assume, to, you know, sympathy to the family and so on, but y'all gotta talk some sense to these women, right?
So she's taking these selfies because she posts this selfie.
Oh, you're so beautiful. Oh, you're so hot.
And the thirst and the thirst. Women get high on that stuff.
Like, it's a real high, but it burns them out.
It's like heroin, you know?
It's a lot of dopamine, but you're not supposed to have that much, right?
As far as I understand. Oh, endorphins or whatever it is, right?
So... You're not supposed to have that much male attention.
Like, it's not good for you. It burns you out.
Because then what happens is, and I've talked to women about this, and there have been studies on this as well.
What happens is, of course, the women are just jumping from male attention to male attention.
Oh, I got another ping on...
Like, someone swiped left on whatever it was, right?
And so they keep...
Jumping from male attention to male attention and they just can't settle down because they become addicted to new male attention.
Men do this with pornography and new sexual fantasies or whatever it is, right?
So you can't settle down. You can't just pair a bond.
So the women are... Jumping from male attention to male attention, and they then become addicted to male attention, which means that they can't settle down.
They settle down with one guy, and they're so hyped up that it's like, you know, you and I get endorphins from looking at a calm sunset and geese flying across the sun and the moon way overhead and the rustle of the trees and the whatever, the flash and flicker of the fireflies.
Ah, beautiful endorphins, right?
But if you've been spending 10 years jumping from male attention to male attention to male attention, You just get bored and restless and you reach for your phone.
Oh, did anyone else like the picture of my ass I posted?
In the tight pants, right?
And so women burning out their pair bonding capacity by constantly chasing male attention, which they're not designed to do for very long at all.
For very long at all.
And they end up then in relatively chronic pain from a lack of male attention or from an attention from only one guy.
And it's really, really, really unhealthy.
But again, what does it mean to say it's unhealthy?
How many people will change? Probably not that many.
Yeah, so of course they want high-value men making 100,000 who are tall and this and that and the other.
Because there's almost no better way to kill a culture than to teach women to never settle.
Always look for more. Look for the very best guy that you can possibly get.
Look for the best guy, the Fifty Shades of Grey guy.
Let him beat you if he's got a helicopter.
The Mr. Darcy from...
Pride and prejudice. Like, you just look for that top guy, the guy who's got the best estate, who's the tallest, the most handsome, the everything, right?
The guy with the most choices. Never settle.
Never look for anything average.
Go for the best. You go for it, girl.
You're number one, and you appeal to this vanity, and you have women aim way too high.
Way too high. And then they will never be satisfied with the guy on their level.
Most people are average.
Average looks, average intelligence, average height, average figure, average body fat, average income.
Most people are average and they should be looking for averages.
Of course, the five should be looking for the five.
And I don't just mean looks like the whole package, right?
But if you say to the five, never settle!
And you constantly parade.
Okay, I just struck me this is probably a little personal.
And I don't mind opening the doors to my historical heart.
So, I'm imitating this woman.
What was she? Gosh.
Nine years older than me.
And very, very, very attractive woman.
And she was smart and good-natured and funny and all that.
Hadn't achieved as much as I thought she should have in life, given her attributes.
But anyway... And she did go out with me, but it was really hard to get her to commit, right?
To sort of really... I don't mean like we were going out and it was monarchy and all of that, but just, you know, when someone's in and someone's got those cocktail eyes, they're just sort of looking around and looking for someone else better to date or whatever.
So I was dating this woman and I remember saying to her, I said, you know, you seem kind of distracted a lot of times that we're like...
And this is long before cell phones and all of that.
And I said, like... You know, is there something that I'm not bringing to the table or something else that you want?
Because if it's not going to be me, you know, just let me know and, you know, we'll part as friends and all that.
It's not the end of the world. And she's like, yeah, you know, there's a lot that's great about you.
You know, I mean, you're smart, you're attractive, you're successful, tall.
And, you know, but I have a particular type of guy in mind and you're just not quite that template.
And I said, oh. I'm not going to take it personally that I'm not your template, but what are you talking about?
And she said, all right, hang on, hang on.
So she went, I think we were eating dinner.
She went next door to a convenience store and she came back and she put down this magazine and she opened it up and there was David Beckham.
Now, David Beckham is an uber-wealthy, uber-tall, uber-handsome soccer player, a football player from England, right?
And he's married to Victoria Beckham, Posh Spice.
He's got like five kids or whatever, right?
And he's a very good-looking guy, right?
He's got those steely eyes, got that swept hair, he's got a lot of tats and all that kind of stuff, right?
I don't like the tats.
But, you know, he's a slender, beautiful, super-wealthy guy.
And he's literally like one in a hundred million guys.
Like one in a hundred million guys is like David Beckham, right?
And, you know, more power to him, no problem, no ill effects or anything.
I wouldn't want to be the guy, but I prefer philosophy to kicking a ball and calling myself enlightened.
But anyway, so I was like, okay, so you're pushing 40.
You work at a fairly low-rentish kind of job.
And your type is David Beckham.
I said, not only do I not think I can compete, I don't really want to.
Because, you know, I hate to be the bubble bursting guy.
I hate to be that bubble bursting guy.
But you're never going to meet David Beckham.
Neither are you going to meet anyone like him.
Neither am I. I don't hang in the circles with Posh Spice and David Beckham and Elton John.
I don't move in these circles.
I don't have their phone number.
Let's meet for brunch.
I don't know these people. I mean, I live in the same city as Geddy Lee.
Am I ever going to meet him? Nope. I might hear him a little bit when I put on my mosquito blocker because it's got a high wind like his singing.
But I'm like, are you holding out for David Beckham or someone like him?
She's like, hey, you know, I just, I don't want to burst a bubble either.
I just, I don't want to settle.
I said, okay. If you've got David Beckham, like you're in your late 30s, you're almost out of fertility, if you've got David Beckham as your template, you'll never be happy with me.
Like, you'll never be happy with me.
As I said, it's like a guy saying, you know, Kate Upton is my ideal, right?
You know, with these impossibly slender waist, these huge boobs, you know, beautiful face and so on, right?
It's like, okay, you can have that, I suppose, as your ideal, but it just means that you're going to be single for the rest of your life.
You're never going to settle down. You're never going to have kids and you're never going to be happy in your relationship, right?
Am I the best looking guy on the planet?
No. Absolutely not.
I'm a pretty good looking?
Yeah, I think so. I think I'm one of the best conversationalists in the planet.
Probably while you're here, right?
But I just remember, like, I don't know what to say to people that outside of reality.
Like, that they think that they're going to meet someone like David Beckham, and they're holding up their nose, and they're willing to tread water with you until David Beckham comes along, you know?
Like, you're some half-submerged life raft that they're willing to climb into because it's better than the ocean, but they're still waiting for the QE2 to come by and hoist them up and put them in the plaza suite or something like that, and it's like...
You know, I was like, good luck, man.
I mean, good luck, honestly. I mean, if you end up as David Beckham's new wife, I'd be completely thrilled for you, and I'll, like, hosannas, right?
Good for you. It was worth holding out, but it's not going to happen.
You're not going to meet these guys.
And here's the thing, too. Like, if you met David Beckham or someone like him or someone, that guy could have anyone.
Is he going to choose you?
Right? A 39-year-old or whatever.
Like, I don't know...
Because, you know, there is all this, you know, you've got to have high standards, and I get all of that, but...
I don't know.
Like, what do you say? So, if you want to kill a culture, just tell women never to settle, never to be realistic about their options and possibilities.
And, of course, we've got this you-go-girl and empowerment, and women can't ever be criticized about anything for any reason at any time, under any circumstances.
Women can never be criticized.
And so, look, it's great to aim high.
You know, it's great to aim. You aim as high as you can and then you adjust your expectations based upon what you can achieve.
It's kind of like trying to get a job.
Do you want a job for a million dollars?
Sure. Yeah, okay.
Are you going to get a job for a million dollars?
Nope. Neither am I. So you adjust your expectations until you...
Get. No problem aiming high.
You know, when I was 13, I asked out the most popular girl in school, like the real top-of-the-top queen bee, right?
Did she go out with me? She did not.
When I was taking yoga, I would ask out the yoga hotties.
Okay, one of them went out with me, and two of them didn't.
Okay, so you just adjust your expectations.
You adjust what you can get so that you make sure you get it.
But keeping women aiming high and anyone but David Beckham or someone like him is too much of a compromise.
It's a way of depopulating the planet, frankly, because you're just never going to settle down.
And she never did. She's probably still like, what is she now?
God. She's in her mid-60s now almost, right?
She's in her mid-60s, probably still waiting for the ping from David Beckham.
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