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Nov. 10, 2020 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux

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THE GREATEST DATING ADVICE IN THE HISTORY OF THE WORLD!

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	Okay, are you ready for the greatest dating advice in the history of the universe?
	I am ready.
	Okay, so this is how to be both prepared and ready, because you're ready, right?
	Okay, here's how to not get into the friend zone.
	Are you ready? Are you steady?
	Are you sitting down? Okay, this is going to be a massive shot of testosterone straight to the nads, and this is going to solve, everybody who listens to this, this is going to solve all of your friend zone problems, ever, ever, ever.
	Okay, so you got to think about female evolution, if you want to know what makes women tick and what attracts women.
	So, a woman needs resources.
	Now, Throughout most of human history, my friend, throughout most of human evolution, did a man get resources by being nice?
	Uh, the opposite, actually.
	Yeah, the answer to that question is, fuck no.
	Fuck no. Every time a man got resources, he pissed someone else off, right?
	He pissed off the man he was competing for those resources.
	He pissed off the animal he killed to get those resources.
	He pissed off whoever else wanted to stake that land.
	So nice, you know, there was an old saying when I was a kid, probably still around, nice guys finish last.
	You ever hear of that one?
	Yep. Right.
	Well, it's true. So a woman needs to know, needs to know, deep down in her ovaries, She needs to know that you can handle the hell out of being disliked.
	Because if you can't be disliked, man, you can't provide.
	If you can't be disliked, you can't provide.
	So you have to be dangerous to someone out there And the more people you're dangerous to, within reason, the better.
	If you can't handle being disliked, and sometimes disliked enormously, you're always going to end up in the friend zone.
	Because a woman sees nice, and she sees a guy who has no killer instinct to compete, and therefore can't provide.
	Do you see what I'm saying? Yeah, absolutely.
	Now, you don't want her to dislike you, right?
	So, that's not...
	But you know this cliche of the girls who go after the bad boys?
	Well, what's the characteristic?
	What's one characteristic of a bad boy?
	He doesn't mind being disliked.
	I mean, if you go to the extreme end of the spectrum, you just look at criminals.
	Well, yeah, criminals, their whole job is to be disliked, right?
	I mean, you go mug someone, and certainly the guy who's giving you his wallet because you've got a gun to his ribs doesn't want to give you his damn wallet.
	So criminals are at the extreme end of being willing to be disliked.
	And if you look at a lot of romantic heroes, one thing that characterizes them considerably is that other people don't like them.
	I mean, look at Christian Grey. All of his ex-girlfriends are like crazy-ass stalkers, right?
	And he's willing to be disliked.
	Because every resource you get...
	Now, again, we're talking evolution, not the magic productivity of capitalism or anything.
	But every resource you get is taken from something else.
	I mean, imagine Jeff Bezos, right?
	Not that we have to imagine him.
	He's here. But Jeff Bezos, in order to make Amazon successful, how many other businesses...
	Did he put out a business? Thousands, I imagine.
	You've got to be willing to go out and grab the world and piss people off in order to be attractive to women because getting your share or creating your share or acquiring your share is annoying as hell to other people.
	Now, I mean, look at this show.
	I hear occasionally that it may have annoyed some people over the course of its decade and a half long tenure, right?
	Well, why? Well, because I harm the interests of a wide variety of people.
	I harm the interests of child abusers.
	And some of those child abusers could still go to prison for what they did, and they're not very happy at that particular prospect, obviously, right?
	The mainstream media. Why?
	Because I got more eyeballs than, you know, back in the heyday, right?
	I got more eyeballs than some mainstream media outlets.
	Communists, socialists, politicos, hypocrites, you know, people bad at arguing.
	Who wants stuff? Single moms.
	I mean, I really have perhaps cast too wide a net in everyone that I have annoyed over time, right?
	So, The willingness to be disliked.
	Now, I mean, for a good cause.
	I didn't just go out and slap people in the face and have them dislike you.
	But the willingness to be disliked is essential.
	And, of course, the woman wants you to be nice to her and nice to her children.
	But she doesn't want you to be nice to the world.
	My God, that's terrible.
	That's terrible for her.
	I mean, that dries up the vajayjay quicker than a sandstorm.
	Boy, there's a collision of images that should never occur.
	And so preparing to be attractive to women is going out there, carving your chunk of the world and saying to people who didn't get it, oh, too bad.
	And it's a bit of a male thing.
	So in order to attract...
	Oh, one last thing I would say.
	So there's a hole, right?
	There's a hole that's opened up since I get kicked off sort of the major social media platforms, right?
	There's a hole that's opened up.
	Philosophy, science, you know, whatever you want to call it, rigorous moral analysis of world events.
	There's a huge... Market that's opened up.
	But hey, nobody, as far as I know, is stepping up.
	Now, you can...
	Somebody is posting my videos.
	I don't know who. Somebody's posting my videos on YouTube.
	The channel's called Molyneux Resurrected.
	Good for them. Good for them.
	So you can follow that if you want.
	But nobody's stepping into that void because it's a tough...
	It's a tough thing to do. It's a tough thing to do.
	So if you think about all of the people whose interests, philosophy, not me individually, they don't care about me, they only care about how philosophy harms their interests, right?
	So, you know, the media, the academics, the Marxists, the socialists, the communists, the fascists, all the Nazis, all of the people are harmed by rational analysis of the world and moral philosophy and so on.
	And so, yeah, pissed people off.
	Pissed people off. Because I worked so incredibly hard for so many years to prevent the race war that the communists want.
	Well, you know, I got kicked off YouTube when I did a great show with a black and a white cop where we had a lot of fun and talked about more effective policing and I made a couple of jokes and really a great time, right?
	So I can't have that.
	I can't have those kind of blacks and whites getting along together and solving problems in a rational and positive way.
	I can't have any of that because, right, so even the fact that I worked so hard to reduce and diffuse racial conflicts in the world, which was my major aim there for a couple of years off and on, well, for the people who want the race war, well, I'm interfering with their interests, right?
	So I've got to Got to yeet me off, right?
	So they can have their path, right?
	And, you know, that's kind of how that plays out.
	So, if you want to be attractive to a woman, you have to have pissed people off in the world.
	Right? And it's something I didn't really realize when I was younger, nearly as much, right?
	So, when I was, I guess, a little younger than you, when I was in college, I was engaged in constant battle with the communists, right?
	And the socialists and the collectivists and all of that.
	And even the Platonists.
	A lot of battle. And I was on the debating team and I would trounce people, as you can imagine, fairly good at debating even back then.
	And the fact that I was willing to take on professors, to take on fellow students, to take on whoever, right?
	Even when guest speakers would come, I'd stand up and I'd ask them demanding questions and all of that.
	Just kind of an in-your-face, you know, with good cause.
	Good cause, important stuff to talk about.
	And I never wanted for any dates.
	Now, I mean, I was a good-looking kid and all that, so that's part of it, but it's not all of it.
	I never wanted for dates.
	Because women liked it deep down that I was willing to stand up, speak loudly, And be disliked.
	That's what they're looking for.
	And if you act in a way, forget the women, just stand up for the truth, stand up for what's right, you know, again, within reason, within a sort of safe-ish kind of context, right?
	The mean of courage is important.
	You don't want to go to excess and self-destruct.
	But that's how to stay out of the frenzy.
	See, your mom is telling you, oh, you've got to be nice.
	The single moms are out there, oh, you've got to be nice.
	It's like, well, did the single moms marry someone who was nice?
	No. They married someone who was willing to be disliked.
	Unfortunately, women have not been trained anymore.
	They used to be. They've not been trained anymore.
	On the basic fact that they want a man who's willing to be disliked by the world in the competition for resources, unfortunately women ended up choosing men who are willing to be disliked by their own children for abandoning them, or having an affair, or being a drunk, or whatever, right?
	But the willingness to be disliked is catnip to women.
	It's ambrosia to women.
	And it shows the kind of strength that they need, so that if it's between you and some other guy, for the last chicken in the village, you're coming home with that chicken, and he's not.

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