Jan. 3, 2020 - Freedomain Radio - Stefan Molyneux
08:27
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| You could say something like, if you marry him for his money, that will make you a whore. | |
| It will. | |
| Yeah. | |
| If you hold your nose over his vile personality and marry him for his dollars, you are prostituting yourself on God's altar of marriage. | |
| You are taking God's union of man and woman and turning it into a cheap, bought-and-paid-for transaction, like you're some trinket on eBay. | |
| And that's not what marriage is for. | |
| Marriage is not to fill your wallet. | |
| Marriage is not for you to buy things. | |
| Marriage is not for you to look wealthy. | |
| Marriage is love. | |
| Marriage is love and our response. | |
| Love is our response to virtue. | |
| He is not a virtuous man. | |
| He is an immoral man. | |
| He is a liar. | |
| He is a cheat. | |
| He is an abuser. | |
| You don't love him. | |
| He sucked you into this universe where he is some sort of deity and you become someone who worships him. | |
| That is going to destroy you. | |
| It's not like, oh, you're going to have a bad marriage. | |
| You will be destroyed as a human being in this not even relationship, in this empty-headed and empty-hearted control situation. | |
| The only thing | |
| that you really care about is his money and the Bible and God and Jesus are all very clear about the love of money and what it does to people and if I were considering marrying a man like this who had insulted you who had threatened to take away my dogs or that which I love the most who had hid in a room insulted the family and driven me to drink | |
| I hope that you would leave no stone unturned to try and save me. | |
| If this was a friend of yours, I hope that you would leave no stone unturned trying to save your friend. | |
| But you stand, my sister, on the edge of a chasm. | |
| And it's not that you're dumb and it's not that you're bad. | |
| We have also failed you as a family by letting you get dragged inch by inch to the edge of this abyss. | |
| We should have intervened right away, very strongly, before the rot had got too deep. | |
| But as the saying goes, better late than never. | |
| We're doing it now. | |
| You cannot marry him. | |
| If you have a thirst for the status and the money that he brings, that is a sin. | |
| You know it's a sin. | |
| We know it's a sin. | |
| It is a sin. | |
| And the wages of sin is death. | |
| That doesn't mean that you're going to fall off a cliff and die physically, but it's spiritual death. | |
| if you take the holy union of marriage and you turn it into a cheap prostitutes transaction for money you will kill your own capacity for love and you will wake up with self contempt a little more each day but the reason you cannot marry him is that you already talked about children and marriage is not about you and it's not about this man it's about children | |
| You do not have the right to bring children into this destructive, abusive environment. | |
| You don't have the right to bring children into a relationship where the man has progressively and in a hostile and demeaning and degrading manner alienated you from your own family. | |
| Because your children will grow up not only with a spiritually empty mother and a vainglorious and narcissistic father but they will grow up far from your family who love you. | |
| It's not you and certainly not your vanity and certainly not your material greed that chooses your husband. | |
| You choose not your husband. | |
| You choose the father of your children to be. | |
| Marriage is the expression of the will of your unborn children as to the nature of their father. | |
| There is not a child that I can conceive of Who would choose this man as the ideal father to raise them? | |
| It's not about which purse you want to buy. | |
| It's not how big a mansion you want to live in. | |
| It's not about how big his muscles are. | |
| It's not about how tall he is. | |
| It's about how good a father he's going to be to your children. | |
| And what I find the most incomprehensible is having been raised by the father you were raised by that you would not notice the difference between this man you are seriously considering being the father of your children and the father who actually raised you. | |
| And the only thing I can imagine is that your lust for status, your lust for material goods, maybe he's great in bed, I don't know, but you cannot make your vagina the foundation of your marriage. | |
| It's not about sex. | |
| It's about raising children. | |
| You don't get the final say on who you marry, neither do I. It's our future children who get the final say because they're the people we are bringing in to the situation who have no choice in the matter. | |
| Because they have no choice in the matter they have the greatest choice in the environment we're bringing them into and the greatest and most important choice they have is who we marry. | |
| Your children in the future will not care how wealthy you are They will not care how tall their father is. | |
| They won't care if he can lift half a truck in his spare time. | |
| They will care as you cared, as I cared growing up. | |
| They will care how loving he is, how morally courageous he is, how strong he is, how playful he is, how willing to sacrifice his pleasures for their happiness. | |
| In other words, absorbing their happiness into his own pleasures. | |
| He is. | |
| You know and I know that your future children would not choose this man to be their father and therefore while you can make the choice we can make any choices we want that's God's gift is free will you can make the choice if you want to go out tomorrow and to kick a dog to death it's a bad choice it's a wrong choice it's an immoral choice but you can make that choice | |
| In the same way you can make the choice to marry this man but I want you in fact I need you to make that choice with not one single illusion about the choice that you're making. | |
| It's a wrong choice. | |
| It's an immoral choice and it's a choice where you will not bear the worst brunt of that disaster. | |
| It is your children who will suffer | |
| Either abuse or neglect or narcissism or divorce or court battles or being dragged out or if you sign a prenup and you get dumped out of the marriage with nothing they will then go from extreme wealth to extreme poverty while you will be extraordinarily stressed and then you will have to try in the future to find some father substitute for them which they will not want and would never choose and you do not have the right |
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