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9 Immutable Laws Of Game (Kingmaker Podcast)

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	Welcome to Kingmaker.
	I'm your host, Rouge V, and today's episode is on the nine immutable laws of game.
	Now, eight years ago, I wrote an article on my blog, which you can click on the show notes, the nine immutable laws of pickup.
	So I wanted to see, has these nine so-called immutable laws, have they held up?
	Were they really immutable?
	So let's start with the first one.
	Number one, if you find yourself having to ask for advice on how to get a particular girl, you won't get her.
	And I have a quote from there.
	I was trying to bang this girl and she was being very flaky and taking forever to get back to me.
	I asked my friend what I should do about it and we proceeded to go over my options after I told him everything that had transpired so far.
	At the end, I thought, is she doing this with her friends right now?
	Is she asking her friend how to get with me?
	Is she asking her friend how to get me to stop flaking?
	End quote.
	So you can see that in any relationship or in any seduction, it's going to be clear that one of the participants has higher value than the other.
	So the one who has the lower value is going to be in a state of anxiety about how not to screw up, about how to get the other person.
	So the one with the lower value is going to be seeking advice and knowledge on how to continue it.
	But the one with the higher value, the one who subconsciously knows that their value is higher, whether it's the man or the woman, is not going to be seeking advice from anybody.
	The person with higher value doesn't care because unconsciously, he or she knows that his value is or her value is higher.
	So when you ask for advice, you're basically saying in so many words, her value is higher than mine, and I'm scared of screwing this up.
	I've gotten some emails from guys asking for advice that are really huge books of just detailing this huge, elaborate scenario, and he hasn't even kissed the girl yet.
	And I don't even have to read the email.
	All I have to do is see the length to know that he's not going to get her.
	Because look how much time and effort and how much fear he has of losing her.
	Look how much all that entails for a girl that he has done nothing with.
	So therefore, you have to understand whenever you are thinking, okay, how do I do this?
	Or how do I do that?
	Stop yourself and ask, is the girl doing that too?
	Do you really think that as you write your big emails and consult with all your friends that the girl is doing it too?
	Because if she's not, then guess what?
	She is realizing that her value is higher than yours and you won't get her no matter what advice you get that you implement, even if the advice is good.
	So the solution here is actually don't ask for advice on any girl because then this prevents you from accepting subconsciously that the girl's value is higher than hers.
	And then the next step is that it will prevent you from releasing bad game, from leaking bad, needy game out there.
	Because when you ask for advice on a girl, you're basically confirming to your mind that your value is indeed lower.
	So you're going to then behave in a way which confirms that.
	So the best thing is step one, don't ask for advice.
	Don't ask for advice on any girl, especially in the middle of a seduction.
	Don't ask and just do it.
	And then, because now you're going to be more outcome independent.
	You're not going to care.
	And it's that carefree attitude that is going to allow behavior which she gets turned on by, which now she can maybe think, huh, maybe his value is higher than mine.
	Let me go ask my girlfriend what I should do about this guy because he doesn't seem to care that much.
	Why isn't he emotionally involving himself?
	Like would be the case if you're the guy that's writing me big emails on how to get a girl that maybe hasn't even noticed you.
	And one more thing to add is the best approach is really to ask for advice after the fact, after it's all done, after the relationship, the pickup is done, and you have the story of what transpired, then you can ask the opinion, okay, what do you think I did here?
	This was the result.
	So now you have the benefit of hindsight and then you learn from that to apply on your next pickup.
	So don't try to get advice in the middle of it because that just confirms to you and to her that your value is probably lower than hers.
	So has this first law held up?
	I believe yes.
	The verdict on this, this is still true.
	Do not ask for advice on how to get a girl before the interaction is done.
	Law number two is if a girl hasn't had sex in a month, she will be 10 times easier than if she had sex in the past week.
	So this is saying that a girl, the more horny a girl is, the more likely you are going to get her into bed.
	And the reason, the way I came up with this law is I was asking girls, like when I met them, when the last time they had had sex, just kind of for informational purposes, just to see if I can put together some kind of trend or pattern.
	And now, of course, girls lie and no girl is going to be like, yeah, I just got banged last night.
	Actually, I just got banged before I came out three minutes ago.
	I haven't even showered.
	No girl is going to say that, but you can kind of tell an overall pattern.
	And the overall pattern I found was that there was a clear correlation between how easy a girl is and how long ago she had sex.
	So the longer she hasn't had sex, the easier she will be up to a point.
	So up to about six months After if a girl hasn't had sex in six months and she looks good, there is something inner psychological going on where she consciously is choosing not to do that or she has some issues.
	I mean, if we're in a sex culture where everyone is banging everyone and a girl voluntarily, a cute one voluntarily hasn't had sex in six months, then that actually means she's going to be harder than anyone else if she's able to go that long.
	And one of the reasons why game is getting harder, which I refer to in my decline of night game podcast, which has been the most popular podcast I've done so far, is that girls now have a more stable, solid stable of sexual partners that like a Rolodex, a sex Rolodex, a sex dex that she can call upon when she needs someone's phallus.
	So nowadays, girls don't go on cold streaks as much.
	So if you take a snapshot of all girls within a certain club or certain coffee shop, there's going to be less horniness overall because they just have that sex stable of men who are willing to booty call them up on any night of the week.
	So the verdict of this, this law is also still true.
	You definitely want a girl.
	The sweet spot, I would say, is a girl who hasn't been laid between two weeks to two months.
	That's a good spot.
	Now, do I advise you to go up to every girl and ask her when the last time she has had sex?
	I mean, you know, it doesn't hurt, especially if it's a pickup at night where you kind of don't mind it if the conversation gets into a sexual way.
	All right, law number three is you're not going to be good unless you reach a point where you feel that pickup is a job.
	Now, to find out if this still holds true, we have to know good at what.
	You're not going to be good.
	So in this case, it's really good at cold approaching.
	So you're not going to be good at cold approaching, walking up to girls that you don't know or getting laid with promiscuous girls, sexually active girls who demand a higher level of game and attraction from the man unless you feel like this is a job, unless you feel that game itself is a job.
	Now, good also implies that you want a higher notch count.
	It doesn't suggest that you want long-term relationships with girls who have lower notch counts.
	So you have to keep that in mind, what that statement is saying.
	If you want to be good at banging a lot of girls, if you want to be good at banging random girls, then there is going to be a point where you have to see the game as a job, as this skill that you have to become a master at.
	One example where this kind of holds true for me is in Denmark.
	And in Denmark, this was in 2011.
	I decided I wanted to write sex guides for every country that I went to.
	So in Denmark, what I did was basically go out at night and not go home until I was either exhausted or I hit or I got a solid prospect.
	And this is something that is not easy because every night now was like a shift at work was maybe, you know, between three to six hours of time.
	And when you're staying out late, that kind of ate into your day the next day.
	But I was a researcher, a sex researcher.
	And so that's what I did.
	It was a job.
	And looking back, I was like, God, I was really committed to this, but that's what it took to really have all that, not to gain all that knowledge and ability and skill that I can now pass on to you.
	Now, to meet more traditional girls, it's a different story.
	You don't really need to be an expert clown, expert, cold approach master.
	You basically just, you have to have positive, attractive traits.
	Yes, you have to be masculine and confident, but you don't need that cold approach skill.
	You don't need to capture a woman's attention with just a minute of time when you go from she didn't even notice you to now a man that she's actively considering for sex.
	So if you want to meet more traditional girls, that level of game is lower because you're probably going to meet her in the social circle or community functions or things such as that.
	So you don't need to hold true to this law, though, of course, you still need to understand game.
	So the verdict of this, of this law, is it's true if you want to sleep with a lot of westernized girls who are plugged into the sex culture of wanting to, of who think that they find themselves through cock, by sleeping, by sucking and banging a lot of cock.
	They think that that is their path to enlightenment, spiritual enlightenment through the phallus.
	If you're talking to girls who believe in that, yeah, you kind of have to, we'll get to a frustrating point where you ask, where you tell yourself, this feels like a job.
	But if you want more long-term relationships with traditionally minded girls, if you can find them, I mean, if you know where they are, please tell me, drop me an email telling me.
	If you want that, then this law doesn't really apply to you.
	On to law number four, and that one states, the opener is the least impactful part of the pickup.
	Now, one thing I've learned from teaching game all these years is that men are really hung up on the opener.
	I mean, this is, because it's the most fearful part.
	It's the most anxiety-inducing part of game to go from a nobody in a girl's eyes to now a somebody.
	And this causes a lot of stress.
	And so to relieve that stress, a man thinks that his opener has to be good.
	His opener has to be perfect to really minimize that rejection rate to minimize him maybe being embarrassed.
	So this is what I've noticed over the years.
	But the fact is the opener just has to allow a conversation.
	That's all it does.
	It's a bonus if you can really ramp attraction up through it.
	Like maybe you have a opener that's based on the environment about her that really hits her G spot.
	That would be a bonus.
	But you don't need that.
	I don't even try that because I mean, that's like a one out of a hundred.
	You get this flash of lightning in your mind, the perfect opener, but that almost never, never happens.
	You know, so I don't even try.
	I don't have a goal of having a perfect opener.
	I have a goal of opening.
	Can I start a conversation?
	And the best way I found at doing this, the most consistent way, no matter where, whether you're day, night, you know, whether you're at a wedding, anywhere, is to ask for help.
	Ask a girl for help, often on something that you already know, but it's better if you don't know it because you come across as more genuine and it's more natural.
	But ask a girl for help.
	Actually spent a couple months upgrading my email newsletter system thing.
	So I actually have now and I'll leave a link in the show notes where I wrote about 10 emails.
	It's like a mini course on approaching girls during the day by asking for help.
	So click in the show notes if you want to get on that.
	But it's really.
	It shouldn't be hard like you should.
	It's already stressful to talk to someone you don't know.
	So why are we going to make it even harder by saying you have to have the perfect opener?
	You have to really make her laugh.
	I don't make girls laugh when I come up to them.
	I mean, I don't think it's happened in the past three years where I walked up to a girl and she started laughing and saw me as this funny, great guy.
	Almost always the opener is very simple.
	I just need to get my foot in the door and get the process started.
	What's more important than the opener is what you say after that to continue the conversation, to get it past that hump where, okay, she gives you the answer to your help, but you don't stop the conversation.
	You keep it going.
	And this is how you ramble.
	You got to ramble.
	You know, so if you ask for help on, okay, what kind of cheese is this?
	I'm in the supermarket and I'm asking a girl, what kind of cheese this is?
	And she says, oh, that is mozzarella cheese.
	And you, normal people would say, oh, great.
	Thanks.
	Bye.
	But, you know, you're not a normal person because you like her.
	You want to make love to her.
	So you have to say, hmm, well, this mozzarella cheese, it looks a little weird.
	Are you sure it's mozzarella?
	And she's going to say, yeah, I'm sure.
	Because when I was in Italy last month, the mozzarella cheese looked very different.
	Italy.
	You know, so anyway, you're, you're dropping now, you're continuing it.
	And basically, the way I do this is to tell myself, I'm not going to stop until she walks away.
	Why would I stop?
	She's here.
	I have her attention right now.
	So I'm going to say anything.
	And believe me, I've said a lot of stupid stuff.
	I've said many stupid things to girls for the sake of continuing the conversation, but that's okay because a lot of people, a lot of men in game really are hard on themselves because they want to be a perfectionist.
	They want everything coming out of their mouth to be perfect.
	But really, if you know game, you're spitting words that is already at a higher standard than more than 70% of men she has previously met.
	So just by being aware of game, being aware that there are things you can and can't do, which can increase or decrease attraction, you're doing fine.
	So don't worry if you say a bad thing.
	And yes, with some girls whose standards are crazy high, if you say the wrong joke, then she's going to laugh at your face and leave.
	Yes.
	But at the same time, we cannot have a goal of saying perfect things.
	That's a silly thing.
	That's just going to turn us into really neurotic men who are speaking through this extreme filter.
	So it's better to let go these girls with high standards that demand you say perfect things than for you to have a goal of saying perfect things.
	So when it comes to opening, your best strategy is to have a few default openers in the most common situations you find girls.
	So the most common ways that I see girls in my life right now is on the street, in the shopping mall, and in a bar.
	So if I am, after I'm done recording this podcast, if I go out right now and encounter a girl that looks cute, I don't have to think.
	I already have the line.
	And it's going to be something about asking for a store.
	So I already have it.
	I don't have to go through that painful process of what am I going to ask her?
	What should I do?
	What does this situation call for?
	No, I don't have that time.
	So, and I don't want to put my mind through that stress of having to come up with something.
	So, I already have default openers.
	And now, you just have to think about in the past month, where have you encountered girls that you want to talk to and have default openers to go with that?
	So, the verdict on this law is still true.
	The opener is the least impactful part of the pickup.
	Law number five: the men you surround yourself with do more to predict your future results than your knowledge of the game.
	Now, men, even your best friends, have egos that are very fragile.
	Now, women have egos that are very, very fragile, but men still-I mean, everyone who has an ego, there is going to be some fragility there.
	So, your friends, while they will say that they hope the best for you, deep down inside, they don't want you to do better than them.
	They want you to get laid, but not with the type of girl that they themselves can't lay.
	So, because it makes them feel inferior, it makes them feel like, why is my friend who I've known for a long time and who has similar talents and intelligence as me, why is he getting better girls than me?
	It really hurts.
	It hurts him more than a random man he doesn't know.
	This is why so many men are like a wet blanket when it comes to going out to meet to meet girls.
	You know, that's why they kind of rather just get drunk and inadvertently cock block you, or they say, Don't worry about getting laid, man.
	That's for losers or something.
	So, they're kind of already putting a stop to it because it's hard.
	It's hard to approach girls.
	He doesn't want to do it.
	But if he doesn't want to go out to watch you do it and get girls that are better, so do you see how that works?
	It's going to be like a subconscious sabotage to protect his ego.
	So, they drag you down, they don't really help, they don't even wing you for 10 minutes on the grenade.
	And you find that you're spending a lot of time with this guy and you want to meet girls, but it's just not happening.
	So, in this case, it's better to go solo.
	I mean, this is if you don't have friends or the friends are not useful to you in that way.
	I mean, go out with your friend if you want to watch the ball game or you want to do something else, go to the gym.
	But if they're not helping you in this way, this area of life that is important to you, I think you know what you have to do.
	I'm not saying cut your friends off, but if it's for if you want to get girls and your friends aren't helping you, then those friends you should not invite them out, just go solo.
	And now, with day game being one of the better ways to meet girls, anyway, day game is a solo activity anyway.
	But that said, if you have a wingman who is good, who has the same goals as you, who doesn't have an ego that is fragile, and who doesn't like the exact same type of girl as you, so that means you're not cock blocking each other, then man, you are going to have a lot of fun and you are going to have a great vibe with him so that your results are way, way higher than what you could get if you roll solo.
	When I was in Washington, D.C., I had a wingman who, because of him, I got maybe 20 more bangs or something than I would have normally gotten because it was a synergistic effect with two men who have the same goal, it's aligned and they're not attacking or conflicting with each other.
	And it was a great thing.
	That was really the best time in terms of game at night that I ever had when I had a wingman that was that good, that was on the same wavelength as me.
	And when you have someone that you like to go out with, you go out more.
	You just, instead of staying home, instead of surfing YouTube like I do now, let's say, or making YouTube videos or podcasts, you are like, why am I going to sit in front of a computer screen when I have this amazing friend to go out with?
	So you will just go out.
	And the more you go out, the more you step outside of your door, the more potential interactions you have.
	So having such, having either one man or a crew of men gives you so much motivation, so much energy that they propel your results to a higher level than knowledge alone.
	So the verdict on this is that assuming you like more of a night game, assuming that you don't really do day game, this is definitely, definitely true.
	The more skilled men you have in terms of game, the better that your results will be over the long term.
	Law number six is you will get flaked on until you die.
	Now, the more options a girl has, the more likely she will flake.
	So really, it's the options alone that cause flaking outside of other cultural influences that there could be.
	So if you think about it, you flake too if you are faced with too many options.
	Let's say that Saturday night is coming and you have two friends throwing a party and you're not sure which party to go to yet.
	So you're kind of waiting to see what the buzz is.
	So, but both of your friends think that you're coming, but you're really going to flake on one of them, right?
	Or you're going to go to the first party and stay for only half an hour, see it's lame, and then go to the second one.
	So, but if there were no options, if you only had one party and that was your only option the entire night, then there wouldn't be any flaking there.
	So understand it's the options alone.
	And we live in an age where girls have the most options ever.
	I mean, this, we have a culture that encourages the maximum amount of sexual options for girls while simultaneously trying to constrict options for men.
	So this is why flaking is so bad.
	And this is why it happens where you meet a girl and you think she loves you, but she doesn't even write back to your to your text.
	And you're like, but she loved me when I met her.
	And then, and then this is when you're like, is my phone broken?
	Is something wrong?
	And then you send a text to yourself to just make sure that your phone works.
	And it does work.
	She just has a lot of options.
	And yeah, you seem good at the moment.
	At the moment, you seem good, but understand that sexual attraction is very fleeting.
	I mean, it is, you like it one minute and you don't like it the next.
	So only thing that is really lasting is more of an emotional pair bond where it's she sees in you someone she wants to be with in the in the future, someone that she wants to grow old with.
	But that doesn't happen often.
	So that's why I recommend in my game books, especially bang, if a girl is sexually attracted to you, the iron is hot.
	You have to move to move fast.
	Because if you try to bang her tonight, she will bang you.
	But if two days later, even a day later, when she's hung, you know, hung over, you text, she won't even text you back.
	That just shows how you have, that's why sales is often used to compare with game because you have to strike when the iron is hot.
	The exception is if there's that emotional pair bond.
	But how often does that happen?
	I would say for me, at the maximum, once every six months, maybe, where you meet a girl that you can feel it, something is there beyond the sexual, some.
	Otherworldly bond, that I can text her back in two weeks and she's going to be so happy and so excited because she was thinking of me hugging her pillow every night waiting for that text until I finally hit her back after two weeks.
	But that just is not common with the basic sexual, sexual attraction that you are getting.
	When you meet a girl and she gives you her number assuming she's not giving you a number just so you become another validator, another giver of attention for her.
	She's singing yeah, he's cool, but that's gonna fade.
	That's gonna fade with every hour that you are separated, so under.
	So don't be upset.
	Don't be upset that oh, i'm getting flaked on.
	Girls are canceling on dates.
	It's because all she had for you was sexual, sexual attraction.
	But we have to understand how many people can we have a deep emotional bond with?
	You know that in your lifetime it's going to be like three or four girls.
	So those bonds, I mean, I think those are the valuable components, those are the really enriching things that you will experience with women.
	But the shallow sex, the casual sex, I mean that's fun, we have a physical need, but that's just the material satisfaction, that's just the orgasm, but the emotional bond it is out there and when it is there, guess what, she won't flake on you.
	I used to take the angle of, I need a specific type of game to reduce flaking.
	I need to do some strategy, some technique, but that doesn't strike at the root cause, which is the girl having options.
	So you don't need that.
	You don't need now.
	I can tell you.
	You don't need to have a specific trick when you get the number to reduce the flake.
	I mean you do need to know if she's serious or not, if she is genuinely interested or trying to blow you off by just giving the number.
	But you can't reduce the the flake unless you reduce a girl's, a girl's options.
	And let me ask you, with the way the culture is going, do you think that girls in the future will have more options for men or less?
	And that should tell you.
	I think it's going to be more and that.
	But that should tell you that you're never going to eliminate flaking.
	It's baked into the apple pie and you're just going to have to accept it.
	Don't get frustrated.
	It just means that she had fleeting sexual attraction for you.
	So the verdict on this law is that it is still still true that you will get flaked On until you die.
	And unfortunately, I believe flaking will only get worse.
	Law number seven is pickup difficulty is relative and depends on venue selection.
	So I think you already know by now that if you go into a venue which has a lot of girls, it's going to be a lot easier to pick up there than a girl than a venue that has a lot of guys.
	You know, and we also have to account for the more logistical parameters of a venue.
	How is the volume?
	Is there an isolated kind of dark room to dance or is everything brightly lit?
	Is there a choke point where that makes it easy to approach or is there not?
	So there's a lot of different things to give each venue a consciousness of its own in terms of how good it can be.
	And that will then interface with your personality and that will interface with your game style.
	So a venue that's really good for me may be really bad for you due to all these variables and factors that is going on.
	In the USA, I actually do best at pseudo hipster bars in gentrifying areas.
	So if you put me in a bar like that and I kind of look, you know, I look vaguely something.
	I could be foreign or local and I got that beard.
	I could be confused for a local, a hipster, a lot of things, a terrorist.
	So this actually helps me in Washington, D.C. in these pseudo-hipster bars.
	But in Eastern Europe, I actually do better in these mainstream clubs that play top 40 house because I'm so already exotic that if you put me in the mainstream club, I'm going to have more access to girls who want a man that looks really different.
	Where in Washington, D.C., it's a little bit more like fitting in, kind of.
	So that just says that depending on where you go, you can have a totally different success rate, even within parts of your own city.
	Now, in an article I did called Your Duty as a Man, I stated how there is an optimal country in the world where you will do the best with girls out of anywhere else.
	And then within that country, there's an optimal city where you'll do best.
	And within that city is an optimal neighborhood and optimal bar.
	And then in that optimal bar, which is the best bar you'll do out of everywhere in the world, there is an optimal three by three foot patch where you stand to hunt.
	So I'll share a quote from that.
	Within a country, there is a city that has a bar that contains a spot where you will be in disbelief at how easy it is to consistently get quality women, regardless of how many flaws you think you have.
	On this three foot by three foot patch of space, you're an unstoppable rebel force.
	Though for the guy standing next to you, the patch does absolutely nothing because it's not his patch.
	It is your duty as a man to find out where that little patch of earth is and reap the rewards that it contains.
	End quote.
	Now you can spend your entire life looking for this magical patch.
	And I don't really advise you to do that because the world is a big place.
	But I still recommend you do some exploration because you can have a drastically different response in one venue from the next, even in your city.
	So the verdict on this: does pick up difficulty, is it relative on venue?
	That is definitely true and that still holds true.
	Law number eight, you will go home empty-handed if you pass on the sure thing.
	I learned this the hard way.
	I learned that getting laid with a new girl is already hard enough.
	So, if you already have that girl, if you already have a girl that wants to sleep with you, then you should sleep with her, especially on a certain night if you're running some night game.
	And then just get the phone number of this other girl who is giving you favorable attention, but is not a sure thing.
	I wrote about this in a story.
	I was actually in Denmark, and the article is called One Bitch on Your Nuts is Worth More Than Two Trying to Peep.
	And here, I stuck with the girl who wanted to bang me and was rewarded with a bang.
	Quote, technically, you can always upgrade.
	There's always going to be a girl cuter than the one you are with, but you have to remind yourself that you are attracted to her, which is the reason why you approached her in the first place.
	Therefore, it would be pure beta weakness to get tempted by sweeter fruit before first sealing the deal with what you got.
	Commit to the bang until you succeed or get thwarted.
	Never aborting midway through, no matter how much love another slut is giving you.
	End quote.
	The main problem with passing on the sure thing is that now you're overvaluing the new girl.
	You're overvaluing the interloper.
	You're basically, and if she knows you're passing on a sure thing too, that's even worse.
	She's because then she starts thinking, wait, is my value actually lower than his?
	Or maybe not.
	If he's so readily going to give up that girl for me, it's very possible my value is higher than his.
	And if she thinks that, then guess what she's going to do next?
	She's going to flake on you.
	So you're going to ditch your main girl, the sure thing, go for the side piece, and then the side piece is like, no, I think I'm going to change my mind here.
	So that is what's going to happen to you.
	And this is another, and another example is when you shouldn't cancel a date with a girl for another girl.
	It's the same thing.
	So you have a date with a girl and you like her.
	She's cute.
	But then this hotter girl, she finally writes back to your text or something and she agrees to a date on the same day.
	Now your instinct is going to be to cancel the date with the first girl, but that does the same thing.
	You start to overvalue the new girl.
	I have done this.
	And do you know what actually happened?
	The hotter girl flaked on me.
	So I canceled the sure date for another girl and the other girl canceled.
	And guess how many dates I had that night?
	Zero dates.
	So, and this, it really, I don't know how, but I think there is some interdimensional force where a girl feels in a way that we cannot perceive.
	She feels when you value her.
	She can, like, you, she can feel it through a text message, through digital data.
	I don't know how, I can't prove it.
	I cannot prove this, but I know something like this is going on.
	Like, if you reply in a certain way, use a certain punctuation mark.
	They can feel it.
	I don't know how they do.
	And even they can't explain it to you.
	But that's just a feeling.
	You know, I think they're just more intuitive than us.
	But the point is this.
	If you have a short thing, a date, a girl who is committed to you, who is putting work into you, do not throw her under the bus for this hotter girl that you like.
	You will be disappointed nine times out of 10.
	So the verdict on this of not passing on the short thing still holds true.
	Law number nine, the more you work, the more you'll get.
	Now, as I referenced earlier, getting laid is work.
	In the old times, you know, you'd be set up with a girl that your family picked.
	It almost would be like a business transaction where her family is good, their wealth is good, and they match up with us.
	Here's her daughter.
	I hope for your sake, she's not ugly, but you're going to marry her, and that's that.
	You're not going to be able to sow your royal oats.
	But now, in a sexual marketplace where women choose, where men also choose, you have to put in labor that is pretty hardcore, that's pretty serious.
	You have to learn how to be an advanced psychologist, an entertaining clown, a masculine Arnold Schwarzenegger, all while mastering your inner demons and insecurities and fears of rejection all in one.
	So something that your grandfather definitely did not have to do.
	He could focus on his career on providing.
	But for you to provide for yourself is kind of easy.
	Work is a little bit easier than it used to be.
	So all the time we're saving with work, we now have to put into labor, game, labor, and listening to podcasts like this and taking notes about how to reduce the labor, how to do better.
	And when it comes to work, I wrote about how one hour of work, whether on game or anything else, is the most basic unit of effort that a man can put.
	This was an article called The Unit of Man.
	And quote, one hour.
	That's one gym session.
	That's two Pimsler language lessons.
	That's 1,500 written words.
	That's 20 pages of hard reading.
	That's the rough draft of a blog post.
	That's four approaches in the mall.
	The hour is my God.
	No internet, no distractions, just a one hour prayer where I stretch myself in ways that most men refuse to do.
	End quote.
	The more hours you put in, the more you will get.
	It's a simple fact.
	I mean, don't quit your job to approach girls 24 hours a day, but you get the point I'm trying to make.
	If you're not doing so well in game, increase the time you're putting into it and you should find that the results you're putting in is correlated to the time that you are putting in.
	Now, of course, there is a point of diminishing return, like all things, where you're putting in extra time, but your quality or quantity doesn't go up.
	And that's when you want to check out different venues, check out different styles of game and so on.
	I mean, if I am going out four nights a week, in addition to an extra date or two every week, that's like 30 hours every week.
	Now, if I put in five more hours on top of that 30 hours, do you really think it's going to make a big difference?
	But if I'm putting one hour a week and then I increase that to 10, oh, that's going to make a huge difference.
	So keep that in mind.
	I think a lot of men probably lean towards putting in less time than they should than more.
	One thing we can be sure of is that unless you already have the deep social circle or unless you already work in a high-profile type of job that puts you into interactions with hot girls like being a bartender, meeting a high-quality girl or a good-looking girl doesn't just happen.
	It's not, it isn't just, you know, go walk outside and magic happens.
	If you're a girl, yes, magic happens when guys come up to you.
	But if you're a guy, even a pretty good-looking guy, at most you'll get is some eye, some eye contact.
	But girls are not going to walk up to you.
	Men make things happen.
	That's the only way.
	That's how we get things.
	So as long as you understand that, then you can maximize your value and then go and make some interactions.
	Go approach, approach, approach and work.
	There's no other way around it unless you have an amazing job or become a Hollywood actor where girls are coming to you.
	So the verdict on this is still true.
	The more that you work, the more that you will get.
	So it looks like the nine laws have held up pretty dang well.
	So I'm a little bit proud of that.
	I would like to say that they are indeed immutable.
	Is there another law we can add to that?
	You know, the one thing that I don't want to change this list, but there's one thing I want to add is this.
	What you like today will change.
	The type of game you use is going to change the type of girl you like is going to change the favorite types of venues, all that stuff.
	Everything that you're doing today, if you take a snapshot of it, it will change.
	Your interests change because experience changes what you like.
	And that takes you down another path of where you're doing something else.
	So my advice there is don't get too attached to what you're doing today because tomorrow you may not want to do it.
	So if you are changing your life completely, you're reorganizing your life completely to get girls in this specific manner today.
	You may be setting yourself up for pain when you want to do something else.
	And in my case, it was I changed my life to travel a lot, to be in this city and that for three months and trying to rack up flags and notches.
	And then there was a point where I didn't get value from that, but I was so committed to doing it because also my work was committed to doing that, to sharing these stories of traveling, that I continued it for longer than I wanted to.
	You know, so I didn't, I thought I wanted to do this forever, but obviously not.
	So just understand, so if I were to add a 10th law is to understand that you will change up what you like doing, the type of game, and the type of girl that you like.
	So I have just spoken to you as a man who has been on both extremes of the sexual spectrum in the sense that for a long time of my life, I couldn't get laid.
	It's not by choice.
	I just couldn't.
	I didn't know how to.
	And then I went towards the other extreme where I could, and I dedicated a lot of time to doing it.
	So I explored both of those extremes and I got spit out to where I currently am, where I'm limiting the quantity I could get by kind of not putting women as important as it was because I sated myself.
	I mean, I spent so many time, so much time on girls that it's like, okay, I don't need to go hard, hardcore on this.
	Can.
	It's okay if I don't get laid for a week or two.
	It's not a big deal.
	I can do podcasts, you know I can share this perspective of how it's like, so I hope, through these laws, if you're in the game, I hope knowing awareness of these laws help, and if you need more help, I definitely would refer you to my two game books, Bang And Day Bang.
	I'm working on my third and last one.
	This is a big one.
	This, the the first draft of it, is twice as big as Bang and what this book will have is balance.
	It's going to have the balance because Bang And Day Bang was mostly written from a man who just wanted to maximize the bangs and the notches, so this book is going to be okay.
	If you want to maximize your bangs, you can do this, but if you don't, if you want to look for a relationship or a wife, or if you want to put this whole thing in perspective, you know that's what I wanted, I want to do for the third book, and that's probably going to come out in 2018.
	So if you need game help now, I definitely recommend my two other books, Bang And Day Bang.
	I left the links in the show notes.
	So that's all I have for this podcast, if you liked it and want to support it financially, check out my books or click on the donation link in the show notes.
	You can also leave a rating on iTunes, share it with a friend, or drop me an email at ruche at rushv.com to let me know what laws of game you find to be true.

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