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Pro-Marriage Paradox
00:02:57
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| It's ironic, every one of you knows how pro-marriage I am. | |
| I'm sort of obsessed with it, actually. | |
| I ask young women wherever I meet them, airplanes, a waitress at a restaurant, wherever. | |
| They ask you a question, and they always say yes. | |
| So if you could have one of two guarantees, guaranteed, and it doesn't mean you can't have the other, it just means one is guaranteed, guaranteed a great marriage or great career, which guarantee would you take? | |
| So, it often engenders a discussion which is healthy. | |
| So I'm very pro-marriage. | |
| But it's precisely because I am so pro-marriage that I also believe that sometimes divorce is necessary. | |
| How could it not be? | |
| Why should good people, why should a good person have a life imprisonment? | |
| Life imprisonment should be reserved for bad people, not good people. | |
| Sometimes it's too good people who just can't make a go of it. | |
| This notion that people divorce too easily? | |
| Everyone I know who's divorced went through hell getting divorced. | |
| I don't know anybody who got divorced because the... | |
| They just woke up one day and said, okay. | |
| Now, it happens, but it's pretty rare. | |
| All right, anyway, I just wanted to, I needed to be intellectually honest with you that in my deep affirmation of marriage, I do not exclude the possibility of divorce. | |
| Anyway, when you know there is no divorce, I don't think you treat your marriage with the same respect as if you could lose it. | |
| If you knew you could never be fired at your job, do you think you would work as hard at your job? | |
| I don't think you would. | |
| One of the reasons people work hard at their job is that they don't want to be fired. | |
| There's a possibility you'll be fired. | |
| It sounds unromantic, what I said, but it's actually, it increases a romantic relationship by knowing that you can't take your spouse for granted any more than you can take your job for granted. | |
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Men Don't Ask Out Women Anymore?
00:04:48
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| Did not mean to go off on that tangent, but it is a very important one. | |
| My subject has nothing to do with that. | |
| It was important to say. | |
| My subject on today's Male Female Hour is the result of speaking to a young woman who you've heard on my show and you will hear her regularly this summer. | |
| And that is her lament. | |
| Is that fair to say, lament? | |
| That men don't ask women out anymore. | |
| I'd like you to call in if you perceive that, or you perceive that in your daughter's life, or for that matter, your son's life. | |
| It's, to me, a foreign concept. | |
| I grew up, you asked a woman out. | |
| That's it. | |
| That's how you went out. | |
| At college, you saw a girl you found attractive, you went over to her, and you make some, I don't know, comment on the class or something. | |
| Hey, you want to go for a coffee? | |
| And she may say no. | |
| So that's part of males getting stronger. | |
| That which doesn't kill me makes me stronger. | |
| There's almost no male of my generation or the next generation, and certainly past generations, that was not turned down by a female. | |
| And who knows the reason why. | |
| But in any event, it makes you stronger. | |
| And women love strong men. | |
| Before anything else, that's what they love. | |
| Whether they admit it or not, Whether it is politically correct to admit it is a separate story. | |
| But anyway, that was the way it worked all through history in the Western world at any rate. | |
| A man asked a woman out. | |
| It's not easy, by the way, because a man knows at any time. | |
| You know, she might say no. | |
| But life is not easy. | |
| And it's died, and the question is, if it has died, maybe this just might be the experience of one woman, I think. | |
| I doubt it is. | |
| I've heard it a great many times. | |
| But if it is true, you could comment on your daughter's life, obviously, ideally on your own. | |
| What has happened? | |
| And it's an interesting question. | |
| Would a liberated young woman want to be asked out? | |
| How would she even react? | |
| where males are regarded with such ambivalence. | |
| It's a different world now to You know, I often think when I say it's a different world, I think of every generation. | |
| Does it say, oh, well, you know, in my generation, in my day, and I don't want to fall into that trap, but this might not be a subjective, oh, in my day. | |
| It might be an objectively true, oh, in my day, maybe it was worse. | |
| Maybe it's better today where men are not asking women out. | |
| But that's also difficult to imagine. | |
| How do they ever get married? | |
| Maybe they all meet on internet sites. | |
| The amazing thing is there is the hookup culture. | |
| So that's kosher. | |
| But asking a woman out on a date... | |
| That doesn't appear to be. | |
| What is your experience and your children's if they're dating? | |