Dennis Prager Show - Male / Female Hour: Asking Someone Out
Aired: 2021-06-03
Duration: 07:31


=== Pro-Marriage Paradox (02:57) ===

[00:00:00]  It's ironic, every one of you knows how pro-marriage I am.
[00:00:05]  I'm sort of obsessed with it, actually.
[00:00:09]  I ask young women wherever I meet them, airplanes, a waitress at a restaurant, wherever.
[00:00:16]  They ask you a question, and they always say yes.
[00:00:19]  So if you could have one of two guarantees, guaranteed, and it doesn't mean you can't have the other, it just means one is guaranteed, guaranteed a great marriage or great career, which guarantee would you take?
[00:00:31]  So, it often engenders a discussion which is healthy.
[00:00:38]  So I'm very pro-marriage.
[00:00:41]  But it's precisely because I am so pro-marriage that I also believe that sometimes divorce is necessary.
[00:00:51]  How could it not be?
[00:00:54]  Why should good people, why should a good person have a life imprisonment?
[00:01:01]  Life imprisonment should be reserved for bad people, not good people.
[00:01:08]  Sometimes it's too good people who just can't make a go of it.
[00:01:13]  This notion that people divorce too easily?
[00:01:19]  Everyone I know who's divorced went through hell getting divorced.
[00:01:23]  I don't know anybody who got divorced because the...
[00:01:29]  They just woke up one day and said, okay.
[00:01:32]  Now, it happens, but it's pretty rare.
[00:01:35]  All right, anyway, I just wanted to, I needed to be intellectually honest with you that in my deep affirmation of marriage, I do not exclude the possibility of divorce.
[00:01:52]  Anyway, when you know there is no divorce, I don't think you treat your marriage with the same respect as if you could lose it.
[00:02:04]  If you knew you could never be fired at your job, do you think you would work as hard at your job?
[00:02:13]  I don't think you would.
[00:02:16]  One of the reasons people work hard at their job is that they don't want to be fired.
[00:02:27]  There's a possibility you'll be fired.
[00:02:31]  It sounds unromantic, what I said, but it's actually, it increases a romantic relationship by knowing that you can't take your spouse for granted any more than you can take your job for granted.

=== Men Don't Ask Out Women Anymore? (04:48) ===

[00:02:46]  Did not mean to go off on that tangent, but it is a very important one.
[00:02:53]  My subject has nothing to do with that.
[00:02:56]  It was important to say.
[00:02:59]  My subject on today's Male Female Hour is the result of speaking to a young woman who you've heard on my show and you will hear her regularly this summer.
[00:03:13]  And that is her lament.
[00:03:18]  Is that fair to say, lament?
[00:03:21]  That men don't ask women out anymore.
[00:03:26]  I'd like you to call in if you perceive that, or you perceive that in your daughter's life, or for that matter, your son's life.
[00:03:39]  It's, to me, a foreign concept.
[00:03:45]  I grew up, you asked a woman out.
[00:03:50]  That's it.
[00:03:52]  That's how you went out.
[00:03:56]  At college, you saw a girl you found attractive, you went over to her, and you make some, I don't know, comment on the class or something.
[00:04:07]  Hey, you want to go for a coffee?
[00:04:12]  And she may say no.
[00:04:15]  So that's part of males getting stronger.
[00:04:21]  That which doesn't kill me makes me stronger.
[00:04:25]  There's almost no male of my generation or the next generation, and certainly past generations, that was not turned down by a female.
[00:04:37]  And who knows the reason why.
[00:04:41]  But in any event, it makes you stronger.
[00:04:47]  And women love strong men.
[00:04:50]  Before anything else, that's what they love.
[00:04:53]  Whether they admit it or not, Whether it is politically correct to admit it is a separate story.
[00:05:02]  But anyway, that was the way it worked all through history in the Western world at any rate.
[00:05:07]  A man asked a woman out.
[00:05:12]  It's not easy, by the way, because a man knows at any time.
[00:05:17]  You know, she might say no.
[00:05:20]  But life is not easy.
[00:05:22]  And it's died, and the question is, if it has died, maybe this just might be the experience of one woman, I think.
[00:05:40]  I doubt it is.
[00:05:41]  I've heard it a great many times.
[00:05:44]  But if it is true, you could comment on your daughter's life, obviously, ideally on your own.
[00:05:56]  What has happened?
[00:06:01]  And it's an interesting question.
[00:06:04]  Would a liberated young woman want to be asked out?
[00:06:10]  How would she even react?
[00:06:12]  where males are regarded with such ambivalence.
[00:06:19]  It's a different world now to You know, I often think when I say it's a different world, I think of every generation.
[00:06:36]  Does it say, oh, well, you know, in my generation, in my day, and I don't want to fall into that trap, but this might not be a subjective, oh, in my day.
[00:06:48]  It might be an objectively true, oh, in my day, maybe it was worse.
[00:06:54]  Maybe it's better today where men are not asking women out.
[00:07:01]  But that's also difficult to imagine.
[00:07:05]  How do they ever get married?
[00:07:09]  Maybe they all meet on internet sites.
[00:07:14]  The amazing thing is there is the hookup culture.
[00:07:19]  So that's kosher.
[00:07:21]  But asking a woman out on a date...
[00:07:24]  That doesn't appear to be.
[00:07:26]  What is your experience and your children's if they're dating?