Pearl Daily’s call-in episode dives into personality stability, with Brian Johnson noting 30-year high school reunions reveal few behavioral changes—just 250 of 400 classmates survived to 80, many from suicide. Chad Chaddington lists seven catalysts for change (e.g., near-death experiences, parenthood), but admits only 20% shift meaningfully. Callers like Sean and James debate ideological shifts versus core traits, with Sean crediting military service for his transformation from extrovert to introvert, while James dismisses modern men’s adaptability as passive acceptance of flawed dynamics. Ultimately, the show argues most people stay consistent, but external pressures—like trauma or new roles—can force rare adaptations, leaving superficial shifts as the norm. [Automatically generated summary]
It is not my fault that your Christian brothers and sisters keep using corn stars in church that make great thumbnails.
I'm not going to use the old trad women.
Do you know what I mean?
Like if there is a hot woman, you guys are going to come at me for using her in marketing.
Are you kidding me?
BS.
So today we're going to talk about personality traits and if they change over time.
Now this show was actually inspired by a tweet that I saw, but if you guys want, you know, you don't have to.
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Okay, so this tweet that I saw was from that guy that's trying to live forever.
Let me pull it up.
Brian Johnson, I think his name is.
And Brian Johnson is this guy basically who he made like a billion dollars on, I think, PayPal or some app.
Who cares, right?
And then he decided that he was going to, you know, it's funny, I watch his show and I always think that this is something autistic that I, that looks like something I would do.
The Brian Johnson guy, if you see his page, this guy, he has this like don't die thing where he's like trying to live forever and he just autistically like measures every level of health.
And I was laughing when I saw it because, you know, I would explain this to normal people, like maybe more well-adjusted, less online.
And they would say that's a crazy thing to do, but I thought it was kind of cool.
Anyways, that's neither here nor there.
He had a post about his high school reunion.
And he said, I had my 30-year high school reunion last night.
These sorts of events had a way of inviting a unique sobriety of observation.
First, the vast majority of everyone that had left the Mormon church.
This is very surprising given the deeply religious adherents of our small 30,000 person town during our childhood.
If my class is representative of Mormon membership, generally the religion is evaporating, at least in this geography and demographic.
I wonder if that holds true for other religions.
So I would agree with this sentiment in general.
I would say people are less religious.
The religious crowd, if you find, they tend to get studies from like very right-leaning institutions.
But generally, if you look at the general trends of church attendance, it's mostly down.
Second, everyone was basically the same as when we graduated.
After 30 years of life, the similarities of behavior were fun to see.
This isn't surprising as evidence shows the stability of personality excluding substantial life-changing events.
Third, given the stability of personality over a lifetime, if you're not happy with your behavioral patterns, best to be sober about the challenges of changing oneself because you will inevitably become your patterns.
30 years is 10,950 days.
And I left concluding, one needs to live each day as if that day will one day determine where they will be 30 years from now.
Fourth, statistically by our 30th reunion, we'd expect to have lost less than 20 of our classmates, but I think we've lost more, many to suicide.
In the next 10 years, age 50 to 60, it's expected we'll lose 20 more and 40 more from age 60 to 70.
Only 250 out of the 400 will still be alive when we are 80.
Fifth, our childhood experiences deeply affect our life outcomes.
Middle school, junior high, and high school can be especially brutal, and some people never recover or overcome.
This led many to not attend.
For those that did, we found a vibe together last night that allowed for some long-needed healing.
It's insane how fast life happens.
I'm still struggling to comprehend how 30 years has passed, and many of my classmates are now grandparents, and I'm not too far off either.
I loved my childhood.
I loved my friends.
Of course, I'm exhibiting a bias of favoring the positive.
However, in contrast to the world my children grew up in, I'm grateful that we had so much freedom to explore, play, be independent, and not be imprisoned to our devices.
I wonder if social media and device addiction is really the next great plague that we can't or refuse to see.
Well, I think we all know that social media is messing up our brains, but you can't really.
I mean, I was thinking about this the other day.
I think most relationships start either through social media or dating apps.
So if you don't do it that way, you're kind of left behind.
I mean, you might die alone.
Not always, but I'm just, I'm saying that's a huge pond there.
And if you don't do it that way, you're kind of cooked to some extent.
So this show, you know, what I thought was the most interesting about this topic is what he said about personality traits and how people consistently, even if it had been 30 years, had the same core personality traits.
And this really got me in like deep thought for like two days.
I don't think that this is what social media is rotting our brain.
I don't think it should have had me thinking for two full days.
But I thought so much, I just thought I must, I have to do a show on this topic.
Now, my dad, he's the wisest guy I've ever met in my life.
I am so delusional that I literally think my father is smarter than Donald Trump.
I do.
And my dad, I say this to him sometimes, and my dad is just like, what is wrong?
You know?
But I do.
I'm like, I don't think, I'm like, if I wish I could have a camera following my father for a day, because that is the most productive, most intelligent, and just good-natured man I've ever met.
Really?
I mean, it's kind of what made me in a way less religious because my dad, he's not really the most religious guy, and he's the most moral person I've ever met in my life.
And the religious people I would meet would be batshit crazy.
Not all, but just enough, especially the women.
If I'm being, if I'm going to be like for real here, women are the worst marketing for any religion ever.
Ever.
If you want people to come to your church, there's this idea.
And maybe the boobs will get the men in for a little bit, but then once the women crash out, anyways, neither here nor there.
So a couple years ago, this story doesn't make me look the best, but I'm going to tell it anyway.
I was dating this guy.
My dad just was not the biggest fan.
This was like in my early 20s.
And, you know, I was talking to my dad about him.
And I was like, Dad, do people change?
You know, like the bright-eyed, bushy-tailed, young little pearl, right?
And he looks at me and he said, yeah, people do change.
They get worse over time.
I gotta stop banging the dusk, don't I?
He said they get worse over time.
So, any trait you see now that you don't like, just know it'll be worse in 10 years, it will not get better.
And this really had me thinking at the time, I did end up breaking up with this guy.
I did end up dumping him, but it got me thinking about what I'd seen in terms of people's personality traits.
But when you're young, you know, I think there's just a level, and this is why men love the young women.
We're just so full of hope back then.
You know, we're so naive, we're so like bright-eyed and bushy-tailed.
But I personally know what it's like to be bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and have people, and I should say, movements take advantage of that in a way.
You know, they sell you a future, they sell you hope, when really no one can really say for sure what's going to happen.
But if we follow where the trends are going, it's all pretty much not great, if I'm being honest here.
Neither here nor there.
I gotta, I gotta stop going down this.
So, anyways, at the time, I was in my young 20s, and when my dad said this to me, I didn't really have the life experience or the perspective to know if that was true or untrue.
But I have to say, whenever somebody has done me wrong in life, whenever there's been somebody, and I keep saying this on the show, whenever there's been somebody that has done something negative towards me, I keep saying my enemies have a tendency to take themselves out.
There was a woman, not even going to say her name, but she's been crashing out on me for years.
And I would say mercilessly has bullied me.
And, you know, I choose to be here.
So, I'm not playing victim.
I'm not, I'm just saying objectively.
I think she made videos pinpointing every little detail of what is wrong with my face.
You know, I, you know, it's like I'm just trying to talk, and she has a video nitpicking every little part of my face.
I'm like, can a bitch exist?
You know, that's how women are.
And it turns out, you know, I'm not even going to the rumors about her, but I'll just say they're, they're 10 times worse.
And the things I found out about this woman, I'm like, you have to deal with yourself.
I don't even have to get revenge.
And I think that's really been true for the most part in life.
Is people that have a super negative trait about them, it tends to not change.
And I would say it tends to just get worse over time.
Now, I do think people have ideological shifts.
So I do think I have seen men and women go from conservative to liberal and liberal to conservative.
And I do at times, not in allah, but I do at times think there's genuine change in those shifts.
But, you know, for example, I have a close friend who he's a, I love him, but he's a libtard.
You know what I mean?
He is who he is.
And, but he used to be very far right.
And I would say the people that tend to go one way and go another, it's more of a personality trait where they're just very open-minded.
You know, they're very, and while they might believe one thing or another, maybe they're really naive and they're just that kind of person that is a naive person and that can be easily swayed one way or another.
Where, you know, I've always Envied in a way people that could just have an opinion and not have to talk about it or think about and think about every angle for three hours.
Because I guess I make money doing this now, but in an average world, you know, when I was younger, I used to not go out to bars.
Like I would be invited to events and I wouldn't go because I wanted to binge YouTube.
Like I think something is off with me.
Do you know what I mean?
I'm like, that's not normal for a 23-year-old woman to do.
Like, you know, and I remember my friends, they would, they would ask me to go to stuff and I would just be really bored by the idea of like going to this event where I'm going to do what?
I'm a bad dancer.
Now I have to get all these calories.
I'm going to have to work off later.
I should just hang out and do YouTube.
I've heard the Zoomers are worse than the millennials.
I'm almost a Zoomer, but not quite.
So, but it still gets me thinking.
I think people's core traits are the same, but at times there is a skill deficit.
Give you another example.
I was never the type to really shake it and move on the dance floor.
I never, I was always kind of grossed out.
But, you know, when I was younger, it was really grinding or nothing.
And I'm like, why does it, why do these have to be my choices?
It's like grinding or like white people jumping.
I'm like, well, these are my choice.
So I never liked dancing.
But then I learned the skill of salsa dancing.
And I actually thought it was really fun because, you know, it was more of like a framework and I'm kind of athletic.
So I may act different in that environment and in an environment I normally would just be off to myself because I had a new skill.
And I think that's true sometimes with men and women.
We're men, I mean, women are kind of scary.
And I think men know that from a young age.
You know, the woman says you hit her, even though she hit you five times first in the playground.
And now you're, you're grounded, right?
So men learn from a young age, it's like women of all this power.
She'll insult you.
And then the second you insult her back, your mom's like, what are you doing?
You meany?
And you're like, are you kidding me?
So I think men kind of start, you know, kind of afraid of women.
And there are men that that's kind of something they have to overcome to approach women in public or like say hi to them, whatever.
That's a skill.
But if you ask any of the people that know them who they are at their core, you know, they're either friendly, the friendly guy in the group, the, you know, there's always the leader in the guy group because men naturally can have a hierarchy.
Women's leader in the friend group is usually the bitch, where men's leader in the friend group is usually the most competent one or charismatic, I'd say, in general, because men naturally can organize themselves a little better.
Where women, it's like, who can get away with the worst behavior?
We're going to put her on top.
But neither here nor there.
I think people's core is pretty much the same from the time that you're a young age.
And the amount of time it would take, like, I'll give you, I'll use me as an example because it's just easier.
And I'll use someone else in a second.
I've always been a friendly, talkative person.
I've always, you know, I could always talk someone's ear off.
I've always, I've always been the smile.
You know, when I was in college, I don't think most people knew I was conservative, but I was always the type, like, I don't think it would surprise people that I'm a YouTuber now.
Like, I used to rollerblade on campus with my dog and like a tie-dye shirt.
I'd have cat shirts.
So I think people might have thought I was a hippie.
Do you know what I mean?
Because of the way I used to be big into the cat shirts, actually.
But if you talk to me, my core, you know, was an outgoing person.
And the amount of time it would take me to be introverted, I'd rather just kill myself.
Like it would just, like, the amount that I would have to fight to be something I'm not.
And, you know, and I think that's like a lesson you have to go through in life.
If you're a polite person, being a bitch is just not going to come to you.
You probably can't do it.
You can learn skills to maybe that people don't take advantage of you as much.
But if you're a bitch, you might as well be a bitch for a good cause.
I saw this crazy woman on Twitter.
And this was a woman, obviously addicted to social media, obviously a trad con eth.
And to the point where there was the, she put like a selfie next to the parks shooting, right?
And that's a disgusting thing to do.
I'm a lighthearted person, so I'm saying this probably in the wrong tone.
But, you know, when she's doing this, I'm thinking this woman's crazy.
But this same crazy woman got like 400 liberals fired.
And I'm thinking that's a woman using her crazy for good at least.
But the amount of time it would take her to undo the crazy impossible, I mean, some guy would have to wrestle it out of her.
Good luck.
She'll do that to you.
To be fair, she will do that to you when you guys break up, whoever's dating her.
So, you know, I'd, you know, be, I'd be warned.
But, and so that's really what I was really thinking of.
And I was wondering if you guys have had the same experience, if you've seen people change or if they generally say the same.
I've seen people maybe have slight ideological changes.
I've seen at times maybe certain environments change people.
But, and I've heard people say the military changes people.
Now, I don't know.
I need you guys to call in.
I know there's a lot of military people that watch this show.
And I cannot, I've never been in the military, so I cannot speak to that.
And I know this comparison I'm about to make is a terrible comparison to the military.
This is not the same.
This is not the same.
I'm going to, but this is the only comparison I have based on what I've seen.
Okay.
So please don't roast me, but this is.
So when I did volleyball, this is not the same.
But we did have volleyball, like, we did have very extreme workouts in volleyball.
Now, four women, I will say, but we had like three minute.
I actually picked my school because I've just naturally, I'm a very passionate person.
And I've realized in life, this at times can be my greatest strength and my greatest weakness.
But I really wanted a volleyball school that was going to push me.
And I actually picked the school I did because they didn't follow NCAA guidelines.
I think they got in trouble later.
But I wanted to be in the gym more because I was like, this isn't enough.
I get like two hours a day.
This bullshit.
Women whine and then they limit your gym time.
They say you can't be in the gym longer.
And these coaches, they did not care.
They did not.
So if you wanted to be anyways.
So, hang on, I just spilled.
It's all right.
So we would have like 50 burpees, I think we had to do in like a certain amount of time.
I think it was like two minutes or something.
You had to do 50 burpees.
You had to do the beep test over a certain number.
You had to do an 800.
And there were women that worked harder than I would say they normally did.
But I would still say if you looked at the group of women, you could pick out the three women that usually worked the hardest and the three women that usually, like there was this one girl, and I knew she was going to be a balloon.
I knew she was going to be fat because we would have to do these group workouts and oh my gosh, oh my gosh.
She would always like, we would have to do, I think it was 50 burpees in four minutes.
I would have to look at the book.
I don't remember.
But there was one way you did the burpees where it was like 100 and it was like a group of six or three or I don't know.
But all I remember is we kept having to restart this challenge because of this young woman who was just very lazy.
I think that's actually the worst trait you can have in the wife is a lazy woman.
I know hard working is more of something women select for, but when I look at my brother's girlfriends, I just can't stand lazy, like women, to be honest.
So they've all done pretty well with that though, and the girls they've chosen.
Anyways, so this girl, for a few years, I would say she did complete the workout.
She maybe got a little bit better.
But after college, she blew up like a balloon.
Like it was like, and I knew she would because her personality at its core was lazy.
When someone was screaming at her, maybe she could be a little bit less lazy, but you know, that's just who she was.
And I've never seen people's core change over time.
Sorry.
Not really.
And there are some traits that are so apprehensible that you have to work on them, you know, and I would argue lazy is one of them.
But what I was thinking about in this in-depth thing is how in general, it's kind of a waste of time to try to be something you're not.
Because in general, you kind of are who you are.
And I think from a young age.
Like my mom told me, she said, when you were four years old, you were singing.
So from the time I was four years old, I was always singing a song.
I was always taught.
And in contrast, one of my other siblings, and I'm one of 10.
So I think I've had the privilege of seeing how personality traits are very much, I think, genetic, a lot of it.
Because I actually have a unique story about this.
So when I was younger, I grew up, I was one of six kids.
So my original family, I was the second of six.
I was the oldest girl between two boys.
So if you guys are wondering why I can think like this, thank my brothers.
But we ended up adopting three siblings.
So we had three siblings that we like adopted.
They were like teenagers.
So they weren't like originally in our family.
Like one kid was homeless on my brother's football team.
Another kid was like, they were just kids in bad situations.
My parents weren't like looking to adopt.
I mean, we're glad we did, but they were like 15 when we got them.
But anyways, when I'm 22, my parents sat us down.
And I found out I had a brother that grew up actually with a different family because my parents got pregnant like pretty young and they didn't really know if they were going to be together.
And so they ended up giving this kid up for adoption.
I had a grown brother and I think I was 22 when I found out he was like 30 something.
So he was an adult, right?
And we end up meeting him and this guy or my brother at the time he was just like a stranger to me, right?
I couldn't believe how similar he was to my family.
Before that, I thought that it was nurture over nature because I would look at these single mother stats, right?
And I would look at them and I would just say, oh my gosh, you know, kids in these environments are cuckoo.
But I met my brother, and my brother walked like my dad.
He, you know, he studied economics in school, which is what I studied.
He grew up in the middle of nowhere.
I don't want to say too many details, but he grew up in the middle of nowhere.
His parents never left his hometown, and he traveled the world on a boat, which is my family.
I grew up traveling the world.
Like, I was sent off to Japan when I was 12 by myself.
When I was 10, my mom sent me off to Germany.
I met somebody they knew there, but you know, some would look at that as a lot for a 10-year-old, but it wasn't, it's not really a big deal.
My family, I don't know, they just, he was like, You want to go to Germany?
I'm like, Hell yeah, I do.
And I'm like 10, and they're like, All right, we'll see you.
And then I saw one of my old nannies at the time.
But this got me thinking that really trying to be something you're not is a waste of time.
Learning skills is not.
Approaching women, that's a skill.
I have seen men go from being shyer to like being able to, I would say it's the skill of displaying your personality.
Maybe learning social skills because we're all autistic.
I mean, let's be honest: if you're under 30, you got some level of not real autism, but like technology-induced autism.
And if you, if you, if you're going to pretend you don't have it, I don't need you to gaslight me today.
You know, you know, to some extent, because to exist, we really have needed technology.
I don't know.
I always wonder how if my brain would start changing to understand directions if I didn't have GPS.
But my whole life, I mean, what am I going to learn directions when I could just plug it into my GPS?
Why would I do that?
It's a waste of time.
And this also matches up with what my dad has said to me.
And I'm going to tell you about what I think is my worst traits, one of my worst ones.
You know, I've always, I've just never been an organized person.
And I think you guys feel it through the camera.
I start the show late.
I think I've changed the time like three times this year.
And I really wish I wasn't like that.
And I think, you know, somebody that's really organized, what they tend to do is they tend to judge the disorganized for being how we are.
And I think I, you know, I just did it in this stream, right?
I judge lazy women for being lazy, right?
But the thing is, most people probably hate their negative traits more than you do.
Like most, most people know what their negative traits are to some extent, at least by the time they're 30.
Maybe not young, maybe not young women, actually.
They're pretty delusional.
But no, do you know what?
I have a theory on that different show.
But if I'm hearing from Brian Johnson, this guy is saying at his 30-year reunion, people still have the same personality traits.
It seems like a waste of time to some extent.
Bad habits, you know, you can work to fix.
Oh, but back to what my dad was saying, I'm a woman.
It's like, I keep thinking of all this.
My dad was telling me, he said, and I remember telling him how frustrated I was.
I was like, dad, I am just so disorganized.
I hate that I forget things everywhere.
I hate that I do.
I forget things.
I lose.
Do you know how many credit cards I've been through?
And do you know what?
The worst part is they don't get stolen.
I lose them somewhere in my house and I find them later.
I'm not saying, look, I'm not saying that couldn't happen to me.
I don't want to jinx it in case that does.
But so far in my life, getting it stolen hasn't been a problem.
Me losing it somewhere in my house, that's been a problem.
And he just said, Look, you got to focus on what you're good at.
You're hardworking, you're passionate about things.
And he listed, you know, some of my more positive traits.
And he said, Look, at the amount of time it's going to take you to fix your net, it's going to take you too long.
You might as well focus on what you're good at.
And I thought about it, and I'm like, what if Trump tried to be like a peacemaker?
I know people kind of argue that he somewhat is in the position he is, but when you talk to him, I mean, he's loud, he's boisterous, he's this, he's that.
Imagine if he tried to be something he wasn't, it would just never work.
He would just be a bad version of that.
And again, I've learned a lot of lessons from my dad, and I think he's right.
Like, I'm going to say 80% of the time, 85, 90%, I'll say 90.
But I don't think people change as much as you think.
I think at times they learn skills that help them or move, they learn to better hide their negative traits, or they move into environments that help them thrive.
Like, I'll give you an example.
Imagine if I tried to be an accountant.
Do you know what I mean?
That would be terrible for everybody involved.
That would be terrible for everybody.
I remember when I found this job, I just thought, finally, I can talk into a microphone.
I can talk for two hours straight, and people have to listen.
They don't have to.
You guys opt in.
That's why I like this because you opt in.
And I always, I just felt like, okay, this was finally an environment I could be good at something.
And I felt the same way in sports when I played volleyball because I felt like in school, I just couldn't always see the pragmatism in what I was learning.
But if some, if they taught me like a blocking technique and I started blocking better, you know, it would just the turnover, like I would, I would understand it better.
So, anyways, my point is this: I don't think people change as much as you think.
I think most people hate their negative personality traits as much as you do.
And I think women miss this a lot in marriage and relationships.
I think women, we have a tendency to spend a lot of time nagging and bitching about a man's negative personality traits when generally he knows and he doesn't like it just as much.
Women are really hateful, so I don't know.
Maybe she hates it more, but you get the idea.
And women do it to each other too.
I mean, women, I could talk about the relentless, you know, it's like the woman that made the two-hour video and how I could be more attractive.
I'm like, don't, I wish I was.
Do you know what I mean?
And I'm not, you know, I'm not saying I'm ugly either.
I'm not trying to, but you guys see what I mean.
I'm like, you don't think I, you know, wish that I, you know, that I was like a Megan Fox level.
I mean, that would be not, you know what I mean?
Anyways, so, but I think in general, people's core stays the same.
They might change environments, they might change ideological positions.
But, you know, the people that are debating about conservative and liberal, they might change teams, but they're the same type of person in the room.
They're the type of person to debate.
Now, I'm trying to think of where else I saw this.
Oh, Nala.
I will have to add Nala into this monologue.
That's why these ex-corn stars are so dangerous, is because they're really predatory and vicious.
They've just changed teams.
Instead of getting the OF simps, they've moved to the church simps.
A lot of you guys step right up.
I mean, I get more black pilled every year.
So this is a call-in show.
And remember, this is an actual safe space.
So this today, there are different shows where we'll have different ways of doing things.
But today, it's really not meant, I'm not going to judge you either way.
I just want to see what you've seen.
Have you seen people have radical personality changes?
At this point in my life, I just don't think I have.
Not from the people that really know the person.
I will say maybe some life events instill humility in somebody that never had humility.
You know, you ever see like a woman after she gets like pumped and dumped or something, but then she gets more, you know, then she gets more bitchy after because she gets bitter and then it gets worse.
So never mind.
Never mind.
So we're going to put the link.
Can you put the link in the chat?
Then we'll do the Zoom.
Let me.
So I'm just curious what you guys have seen in terms of personality traits.
We're going to...
Well, I think I emailed it to myself.
Yeah, this is from 41 minutes ago because I don't have signal on this computer.
all right we got doug mpa well welcome Sorry, I unmuted myself forgetting.
Welcome to the show, Doug MPA.
Hey, how's it going?
So what are your thoughts on the topic?
What do you think?
Do you think people change over time or do you think they mostly stay the same?
They mostly stay the same.
If you guys really think about it, the douchebags that you went to high school with are still douchebags.
I knew this kid one time and he was an asshole in high school.
And then I was out and about in community college.
And then I saw him and he was in sweatpants and like a sweatshirt and he was walking all funny.
And he had like a medical aide with him.
We were at the movie.
He was at the movie theater because I was about to go see a movie.
And I'm like, hey, man, like, are you okay?
He's like, yeah, you know, I ended up having cancer.
And then I was allergic to some of the cancer treatments.
So I had like a minor stroke and I had to learn to walk again and I almost died.
And I'm like, oh my God, wow.
Like, you know, this must have been a life-changing experience.
I mean, are you okay?
He's like, yeah, I'm okay, whatever.
I was like, all right.
So a new retail store opened up in my hometown.
And I applied there.
This is when I was like in my early 20s.
I applied there and I started working there.
And this kid started working there.
So we started working together.
And he was still the same asshole that he was in high school.
And at this place that we worked at, and he went through like a life-changing, he had a stroke.
He had to learn how to walk again.
He almost died.
It's like, so those stories where someone has a life, a life-changing experience and change their behavior, that doesn't happen, guys.
No, no way.
New, I've never seen that happen where someone goes through something.
Well, I'm asking.
So I'm trying to think of if anybody, I mean, I've seen maybe, I think people could change maybe like 10%, 15%.
But I did have another story.
Go ahead.
An undergrad, I worked at a home improvement store, and this guy, he was retired.
He was a Vietnam vet.
And I used to always be out in the garden.
I used to like it out there because people would just leave you alone.
And this guy always needed stuff that had to be brought down with a forklift.
And so he'd be sitting there.
I got to know him because in the evening time, the garden is the last place anyone wants to be.
So he'd always be waiting for someone to come for a forklift.
And I kept apologizing.
Like, sir, I'm so sorry you have to wait.
So one day he's like, son, why do you always apologize?
I have nothing else to do except be out here and wait for my bricks to be brought down.
He said, son, when I was young, I was a hothead.
I used to get in fights all the time, this and that, whatever.
Then I did two tours in Vietnam.
And that really chilled me out.
He's like, you know, after that, he's like, I haven't thought of a time I haven't got upset because I survived two tours in Vietnam.
So he's one of the few people where he told me his story where he did have a life change event.
But in general, people don't change.
In fact, guys, if you, most of the time, if a man leaves a woman, it's because you see where the ship is floating with that woman.
You know where she's going to end up.
And you got to jump off the ship before she takes you with her.
Like, most of the women that you know that are going to be baby mamas are going to be baby mamas.
Most of the women that you think are going to be whores are going to be whores.
You just have to choose early on if you want to deal with that or not.
What do you think about that, Pearlie?
No, I totally agree with you.
I was just thinking back.
I cannot think of any, but I'm, I'm only, you know, I'm under 30.
I'm going to hold on to that as long as I can every day.
But so I don't know.
I could change my mind in 10 years.
As a woman, I do reserve the right to change my mind at any time.
Yeah.
But I cannot think of anybody that I like went to school with or I knew from childhood that is that different or had like most of the girls I knew that were pretty lazy got fat and I saw that coming.
There are there are ways to take your negative characteristics and they could turn it into a positive thing.
So my sister is everything that we talk about.
She's in her late 40s, never had a serious relationship.
She's never going to, right?
So when she, but she's one of the most selfish people I've ever met.
And so she'll date these pookies and nug nugs, but you don't ever have to worry about them getting money or anything out of her because her family can't get anything out of her.
No one can get anything.
You have to pry money from her cold, dead fingers before you get money from her.
Understand I'm saying, yeah.
So she's actually really good with money and she has a lot of things.
She's one of those women where she spends frivolously, but she's also like the most selfish person I've met.
But it's paid off because she has a lot of stuff.
You know, she plans financially well and she keeps all the money to herself.
You know, imagine a successful woman.
Guys, imagine you're a man who has a mastery in six figures, but you've never spent money on a woman ever in your life.
That's my sister.
What are traits that you would say you have not seen change and will not change?
So I'm gonna start.
I have never seen a lazy person stop being lazy.
I've never seen it.
I've never seen an outgoing person or shy person.
I've never seen somebody not instead of outgoing, I'll say not talkative because someone can be shy, but still talkative once you get to know them.
But I've never seen like a not talkative person like magically become talkative or outgoing person become shy.
Yeah.
What are other traits you've seen?
So probably selfish.
That doesn't change yet.
Selfish.
I've never seen a petty person not be petty.
You're petty, right?
I'm one of those.
I live that petty life.
Let's go.
Hey.
Bitchy.
Yeah.
People that complain.
Oh, people that are late.
Oh, yeah.
People that are late, they'll never not be late, ever.
Yeah.
Ever.
And it's, I think one of the problems with life is people always project how you want someone to be.
And I think the happiest people can just accept and adapt.
You know what I mean?
Like if women are late, then show up to the date 30 minutes late because you're going to go crazy.
You're going to go crazy expecting them to be on time.
You might as well be late.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Go ahead.
What are some other ones?
Oh, people that, oh, oh, people with integrity.
If you don't have integrity, by the time you're in your mid-20s, you're just not going to have it.
You know, as in like saying what you, doing what you say, having follow-through, a lot of people, they just won't have it.
Oh, and then people, so there's normally two kinds in the corporate world and in public service, there's two kinds of people.
There are people whose skills and abilities make them important by their work ethic and their work output.
And then there are people who try to schmooze and lie and latch onto other people's work to become important.
So men and women, huh?
Yeah, pretty much.
So if a person is the type of person that tries to lie, cheat, and steal their way to the top, they're never going to change that.
They're always going to be trying to find some kind of hustle.
They're always going to try to latch onto your dream and milk you for money.
They start doing that early on and they never stop doing it.
Those are good.
Do you have any more?
I'm going to milk you.
I'm going to milk you for these because these are good.
It's another one.
Oh.
Have you hired people at work?
Yeah, I have.
Okay.
I was like, this sounds like you've done hiring.
Go ahead.
Yeah.
And, you know, I've managed people too.
Oh, a codependent people.
Okay.
People.
So we all have those people that are always in a relationship, like always.
Oh.
Like, I know a guy literally, he's been in a relationship with one woman or another or his wife since we were 17 years old.
And he's my age and he's married now, but he was never not in a relationship.
Must be nice.
Sorry.
Are there any other ones?
Oh, people that can't drive.
People that drive for shit.
I'm a bad driver.
That's right.
No, you're not.
You're actually a really good driver.
We talking about really you given me around.
You didn't back into any mailboxes.
You didn't get any curbs.
So, what are you talking about?
Okay, I'm not terrible, but here's my problem.
I can zone out, and that's usually when shit hits the fan.
What else?
I already said integrity.
I always say people that, oh, yeah.
So there's this book that I always plug called Messy.
It's called, it's written by Tim Hartford.
It's called Messy, How to Be Creative and Resilient in a Tidy-Minded World.
So, guys, okay, you don't want to be a dirty person where your house, it smells really bad, whatever.
But they're just messy people.
Like, I'm one of those, they're people where you have clean clothes, but they just never make it on the hanger.
Understand what I'm saying?
Or you clean your dishes, but you pull them out of the dishwasher to use them.
And if you're not a super clean and tidy person, it's not a bad thing because you that energy that super tidy, clean people use for that, you use towards other things as in like creative endeavors or stuff like that.
So don't feel bad if you're a messy person.
You're using that energy for other aspects of your life besides cleanliness.
Yeah, and I think that's from a young age.
Yeah, I do think part of it's a skill issue.
Like, um, because like a lot of people didn't grow up with moms teaching them how to do that stuff, but I do think messy and like clean is from a young age.
Yeah, so I think, um, once again, I think everyone should be cleanliness.
But, you know, if you have stuff going on, I've worked two jobs most of my life, even when I was an undergrad in grad school, and I was pursuing so many things that I just didn't have time to be quote unquote clean and tidy.
And so, yeah, most of the time, if you're a messy person, just you know, just accept it and try to figure out a way around it.
Yeah, like it's easier to hire a maid than it like or get like a cleaning service than try to change your whole personality.
100%.
Yeah.
100%.
Oh, what about this?
People that read books.
Okay, do you know what?
I used to be a person that read like a ton.
Like when I was a kid, I was like the top AR person.
And do you know what stopped it?
You know, when I stopped reading so much, I got a freaking smartphone.
And then I could listen to the podcast.
I'm like, this is way better.
Why did I read ever?
I swear I gotta do it.
I used to be like the top AR point or whatever in my class.
And then, yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Although the books I do read, I still get physical books because I like the smell of the pages.
And I like holding the book in my hand when I read.
I sit in front of a computer all day, you know, working for this channel and working my day job.
I don't want to read a book on an iPad too.
No way.
Someone put in the chat, what do you think about being a morning person or a night owl?
Do you think that you can change that?
Okay, I have done both.
I have.
Okay, I'll just speak from my experience.
I don't think I've observed enough people.
I have always been a night owl, obviously.
And I can get to the point where I can get up at like eight o'clock or maybe 7.30.
But if I have to get up before that, I can't do it.
I did 5 a.m. for like six months and I wanted to die the whole time.
I wanted to, it was like, I felt awful.
So I don't know.
I don't know.
If I can get to like 7.30 or 8 easily, like getting up is that's that's not a morning person though, right?
That's like normal.
Yeah, that's normal.
Morning people are those you ever have a job where you have to be there at six and like, oh, hell no, I'd rather kill myself.
No.
I remember, you know, I worked at a home improvement store and the old guy, the older guys were like, oh, yeah, it's six o'clock.
You know, by six o'clock, half the day is gone already.
I'm like, you better get out of my face.
No, okay.
I disagree because their day just ends sooner.
You still know, okay, like, because I did.
I used to wake up at 5 a.m. for this like CrossFit class and I was in my, I was in my I used to do a 5 a.m. CrossFit class when I worked a sales job.
So I would go before work and I would think, oh, well, now I have all this, now I'll have all this time after work.
But you start going to events and you're yawning.
Do you know what I'm like?
Because if you want to sleep seven hours, if you get up at five, that means you're in bed by 10.
So if you go to an event and that means sleeping by 10, okay?
So that means in bed by like 9 or 8.30.
So if you go to an event like, which I would say normal events, volleyball leagues would be like 7 to 9.
I mean, you're yawning at night, or like even in your 20s, you might go out from like 10, 10 p.m. to like one or two in the morning.
I remember I just, I would try to go be social or go to something and I would just be yawning, you know, and I just, I couldn't.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I knew a girl and she bought a house that was way too big and she was, she had roommates, but then they all moved out.
So she's struggling to make her rent.
So she had her day job, but she was able to swing working a retail.
This is during the cough cough.
She's able to swing because she was remote.
So she's able to swing working two retail jobs during the time that she was supposed to be working her day job.
So she, she would get up at six in the morning and work at an Amazon warehouse from six to 11 and then get what was done, supposed to be done on her day job from like 11 to 3 and then go to another repo, another retail place from 3 to 7 to make her bills, right?
So one time her friends are like, hey, girl, you should come out with us.
You haven't been out in a while.
It's been a while.
She's like, well, I can't because, you know, I have to work to pay my bills.
Come on, girl.
So they went to this comedy club.
So she left the retail place and went to this comedy club.
And then they said, okay, we're going to go somewhere.
She had a couple of drinks there.
And they were going to go to this bar or whatever afterwards.
And she was driving her Jeep and she was waiting in the left turn lane at a red light and she fell asleep behind the wheel.
And so people called the police, woo, right?
And she was at the comedy club and she had a couple of drinks.
So guess what happened?
She blew a DUI.
Oh, no.
Yeah, all because she decided to go out.
So she got up at five o'clock in the morning to go to the Amazon warehouse at six, work till seven, and then tried to go out, ended up getting a DUI because she fell asleep behind the wheel because she was up too late.
Yeah, I'm as a night owl, I can get up to like, I think 7 a.m.
If I can really stay off by phone, I think 7 is the earliest I could get to.
But 5, oh, hell no, I'd rather die.
Are you a nap person, Pearlie?
Nope.
I can't now.
You don't take naps?
Nope.
Oh, man.
I got to have a nap during the day, like for 30 to 45 minutes, or I get upset.
Only if I got drunk the night before, then I might, then I might need a nap, but just normally no.
All right, let's see what the people think.
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Yeah, and guys, by the way, I really love giving people good faith interviews.
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Okay, so if you come on, we're asking, have you seen people change over time?
If so, what traits did you see change?
We're going to start with Strat Stratt, how's it going?
Hello.
All right.
Yeah, I can hear you.
So what are your thoughts on the topic?
Do you think people change?
There's a Tony Robbins quote.
It goes, people only change when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.
And that's what I've noticed.
You have to hit rock bottom before you're willing to change.
And if someone isn't willing, then you should just let them suffer.
Like, it's not my job to fix you.
You know, I'm not the keeper of the peace, and I'm certainly not going to be captain of USS Sabaho.
Yeah.
So let's go.
So are there any instances that you've seen somebody change?
If so, what traits changed about them?
Myself, I changed.
Two years ago, I was a hermit, terrified of women, never left the house.
And I didn't do salsa dancing, but I learned waltz and swing and stuff.
And that really did the exposure therapy necessary to stop being afraid of girls.
And, you know, did improv comedy and all that kind of stuff.
So.
Do you think like people that knew you would say your whole personality changed or you just went really?
Okay, because from what I've nothing like I used to be.
Really?
Because when I talk to shire guys or guys that I think have done that, like similar to you, it's not really usually their personal, like their core personality is the same.
They just learn the skills to show it.
But you would say that's not the case.
Like, I'm thinking of somebody I knew from high school who was really quiet then.
But this guy, when he was with his friends, he was funny.
He was, you know, when he was in more of a relaxed environment, but he just didn't know how to showcase that, you know, to women in an appropriate way.
Would you say that was your case or that you really just changed your whole personality?
I think there was like elements to that where like when I was playing video games, maybe World of Warcraft, I would get and be more animated.
But I actually did have to learn like social skills.
I read What Everybody is Saying by John Navarro, the FBI dude, to learn body language.
I read What Women Want by Tucker Max and all the red-pilled books.
And they like tell you step-by-step autistic style how to be fun, how to like do a personality that women like.
Be a little James Bond, a little mystery, a little pirate to get your little winch going.
So you can do things to be fun.
And I just didn't know that.
I just wasn't aware.
And like, no one ever told me.
My dad never sat down and told me, hey, is he fun?
You know, you tell her this, you poke it.
So it's that amused mastery that like, I'm having fun.
And this girl, she's just a little girl who cares, whatever.
Like, I'm here to have fun.
And that element was like a cheat code when you start acting like that.
And the dancing, of course, you know, that's also cheat code.
One of the biggest cheat codes you can have to become more social.
Wait tables.
Yeah.
Honestly, because that's what cracked the code for me.
My first job waiting tables opened up a whole new world, man.
So I was so Kevin Samuels, he used to tell the guys that were engineers and stuff like that, get a part-time job waiting tables or become a bartender.
I don't crack the whole world, though.
Yep.
Uh-huh, that's happened for me.
Yep.
So you went from World of Warcraft to the suave gentleman we see in front of us right now.
Good job.
I was in a musical earlier this year.
Thank you very much.
Like right after dancing, it was improv.
Did improv comedy was in on stage doing improv.
Then learned to sing.
Then did a musical right after that.
What?
Okay, so what traits do you think cannot be changed?
And what traits do you think can?
This could be either observations from yourself or people that you know.
Narcissist personality disorder.
Like if someone's diagnosed mentally ill, NPD, or borderline, it's no go.
I mean, even therapists will not take borderline patients.
So yeah, if she has like, you can, you can tell there's like tests you can do to see if someone has borderline.
If she has borderline guys, run.
There's no, she's just a huge liability.
Look at Johnny Depp and Amber Heard.
You don't want any fucking part of that shit.
Like run for the hills.
It's not fixable.
You're not, it's not your job to fix anyone.
You're not a doctor, okay?
Don't be USS save-a-hoe.
Get out.
Find a better girl.
Don't settle for that.
So if she's mentally ill, that's for any other traits.
Like, what about outside of mental illness?
If she likes you enough and she's not mentally ill, most girls will get on your program, but you have to be like celebrity larger than lifestyle or so much what she wants that you're like a celebrity.
Don't you?
Sorry, go ahead.
That's what I was just saying.
Like if you're a celebrity like Drake, sure, girl will do whatever you want, but sometimes you can be like a small town hero and still get that celebrity status and she'll adore you.
It's just, you got to be the exact right type that she wants.
Don't you think that's just for a time period?
Because I guess I come at it from like the female like side.
So we'll see like the friend date the guy and you know her traits maybe change for like a year, but everybody knows that like like come on at some point she's gonna stop the act and be who she is.
Yes, if it's if the man doesn't understand his role.
So a good leader will keep her in line such that when her behavior starts acting up, he's like, look, as a policy, I do not tolerate disrespect.
And if it's a problem for you, you need to leave.
And then a lot of girls will be like, ooh, like straighten up, you know, because they're testing him for his strength.
And if he shows strong leadership, then all that shit testing will go away and she'll just fall in line and be submissive.
And that can last a while.
The problem is her friends.
Those goddamn friends, man.
They're always, you know, he's bare minimum.
He can do better.
Meanwhile, she's like a three or a four and I'm over here doing musicals and I'm not good enough for her.
And so a lot of times, even if you do everything right as a guy, her fucking friends will still get in her ear and ruin it.
I can add to that by saying, if you're a seven day to four, where you know she's a four, because you literally treat her like she's disposable.
Like you know you're you're above her league.
And if you treat her like she's disposable, she'll stay around.
Do you know?
No, I tested this.
I tested this.
There's a website.
I'm sorry, go ahead.
There's a website called Photo Feeler, and you have random people rate you one to 10, right?
I came back in eight on a good day.
My ex was a four, dude.
Eight and a four, and she still thought I wasn't good enough for her.
I'm just like, I don't know.
These women are just delusional and entitled.
There's no hope.
Now, were you treating her like a four, though?
Like treating her great, dude.
I'm a freaking person.
See, that's a discipline.
You got to treat her like a four.
As in, as in she needs to not know what each day is going to be like.
Like you, if she asks you what's on your mind, just say, I got nothing.
And if she asks you too many times to tell her to leave, you know what I'm saying?
I wasn't being a simp.
Okay.
I was being a great leader.
I was like having fun dates.
I wasn't texting her all day, by the way.
I was just two to three dates a week, light and fun.
Then I don't talk to her.
And she's wondering all the time.
And we're going dancing in the stars and we're on the beach and we're going to the arcade.
Before you date, treat her like she's a four, like you don't need her around because that whole mystery thing, like what's going to happen each day.
Now, the problem is having to having to keep and maintain that for a long period of time, especially if you're like an empathetic person and like a nice person, you're going to have to act contrary to your nature.
So some guys have it natural where they can just cheat a woman, you know, like she's disposable all the time.
But, you know, if you're actually a good person, whatever that means, you have to learn how to act contrary to your nature, man.
I don't know if it's like treating her like a lot of guys get tongue up on this point of like, you have to treat her badly.
You have to make her insecure.
You have to make her think that you're out of her league all the time.
So you can still be a great guy and just make it feel like you don't have her on this pedestal.
Like you're, you like her and you enjoy spending time with her, but you're kind of like still figuring out if she qualifies for you.
And you don't have to be an asshole to do that.
And it's a very, it's so hard to be a man.
Oh my God.
Yeah, but I'm sorry.
Go ahead.
Well, go ahead.
Yeah, well, but the, I was just thinking how like Doug have, it doesn't, even if you do treat her like that, it's like at some point, you know, women just leave.
It's just kind of what we do.
Yeah.
I guess I can, that's part to it.
If you can't be an asshole, just say nothing.
Honestly, because I hate cheating people badly.
So if I'm with a woman, I just say if they say, oh, what's on your mind?
What are you up to?
Nothing.
I got nothing.
Nothing.
Nothing.
You always say nothing because I'm not doing just instead of treating her like garbage, don't tell her any stories.
Just say, I got nothing.
I really like being an amazing boyfriend.
And then when she steps out of line, just strongly asserting a boundary.
Like, as a policy, I don't tolerate disrespect, crying, arguing.
And if that's a problem for you, you need to leave.
And not say, no one, you don't even ask her, you know, you can leave.
No, you need to leave because my peace is more important than you ruining my life.
Like, you need to leave so I can be alone because I'd rather be alone than you disturbing my peace.
And having a strong boundary like that is like, it's almost feminist friendly because you're asserting a boundary, but you're still being like red pill strong alpha male.
So she still gets the like instinctual desire to fulfill a masculine purpose.
So what were you like before?
You were, you said you were just doing World of Warcraft and you were like quiet.
I was a software engineer.
So I worked for 10 years, recruiting software, retired, bought a home, bought two of my dream cars.
And now I just sing and dance all day.
Oh.
So, so your friend, have you noticed any of your friends?
Did they do anything similar or was it just you?
No, I tried.
They're all simps.
All my friends are simps.
Walked on and I'm like, dude, you need to assert your boundaries.
You can't let her talk to you like that.
Thank God.
One of my best friends finally did dump this girl in like a two.
She's like obese, walking over this guy.
He's a great singer and shape and everything.
And he finally, because she like insulted her, his mom, you know, like, brother, you can't let your girlfriend, your ugly girlfriend insult your mom.
What are you doing?
You have to respect for yourself.
So it's, it's coming around.
But yeah, most dudes are just completely blue, pill, just simping out.
It's a tragedy.
Cool.
What's your age group?
I'm 35.
Oh, man.
And they haven't learned by now.
Uh-oh.
One last question.
What kind of cars?
I have a Hondas 2000.
Okay, that's a good one.
What about the other one?
I have a Suzuki Jigster 600 and a Jaguar.
Good man.
Cool.
Yep.
A lot of fun.
Thanks for calling in, calling anytime.
All right.
Sure.
Thanks.
You can put a show panelist on your list of things.
Yeah.
I don't know if I want that title.
I'll see if they care.
All right.
We're literally on a streak, Pearlie, of good callers.
What a good call.
Wow.
Yeah.
All right.
Let's see.
I think this guy called in yesterday.
James, thanks for calling in.
So we're asking the question, do people change over time?
What has been your experience?
This can either be yourself or people that you've observed.
Go ahead, James.
James is on mute.
You have to unmute, buddy.
Am I on?
Am I good?
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I just wanted to make sure it wasn't playing through the computer twice, like, you know, running back.
Yeah.
You know, I thought for a long minute on this one.
I was like, damn, I know a lot of people overlap just like work and stuff.
There's probably one person and that's it.
Probably one person I could think of.
And I was in college and I met this kid and this kid would get drunk, like blackout drunk, like all the time, like obliterated, right?
And I remember just saying one day, like, dude, you know, if you didn't get drunk, you'd try to actually do something with your life.
And like, he continued to get drunk for like a year to two years.
But then out of nowhere, one day he stops drinking.
And then I'm like, okay.
So like six years go by.
He's got like 30, 40 Airbnbs living in Miami.
Dude's rich now.
And I'm like, I think he stopped drinking and he told me he was sober.
I contacted him like maybe four months ago because I saw him on TikTok and I was like, he's like, yeah, I stopped drinking like three years ago completely.
And I was like, damn, bro.
But that's the only time I've ever seen someone change.
Never other than that.
I think that's not.
Do you think that's almost like, how do I put it?
He probably still has the addictive personality type, but he just stopped like doing something.
Would you agree with that?
Or do you think his personality changed?
I think what it is is that, because I see this a lot with people, because it's like, I'll coach some people just on like business and consulting.
And some people, it's like you could be addicted to something.
Like me personally, I used to be addicted to working out.
Like I had to work out like three, four, five hours a day.
Right.
But then when it never became a part of me playing like pro hockey anymore, I was like, well, I don't have to do this.
So now I smoke like six hours a day instead of going to the gym.
So people usually just replace it with something else if they're addicted to something.
I think he just replaced it with making money.
Like, and then he was like, I'm just not going to go back to drinking.
So I don't think people, especially if they have addictive tendencies, they're going to keep those throughout life.
So like, and the thing you said about adaptability earlier, those are the happiest people, but by far.
Could you tell me more about what you mean by that?
Which the adaptability.
Yeah, adaptive.
Sorry, I'm trying to remember what I said.
I'll talk for an hour and forget what I said.
So, God.
Oh, yeah.
No, it's not a problem.
So my father is very adaptable.
Like, I see it all the time because he preaches it.
Like, he owns like three, four businesses.
He's had them for 20 years.
Never had to worry about money, right?
Or anything, even with his new wife, right?
So he's just always been able to shift and pivot, even when things are bad.
Like, I remember one time he's like, yeah, I lost one of the restaurants to corporate.
They want to take it away.
So we're sitting there for like a month figuring this out.
And he's not freaking out.
He's like, I already got something else figured out.
I'm like, what are you going to do?
I'm like, he's like, oh, I'm going to sell two of the cards I have and just be okay with that for the rest of the year.
And I was like, all right.
And come back to him like two months later and they tell him, oh, we're not going to take the store.
And I'm like, and I think it's just the mindset of being always ready for anything and then just, you know, going with it sometimes.
I think that's what he gives it people that cheat.
Is he not emotional?
Because I see that with my dad, where my dad, every time I'm more of an emotional person, so if something's going bad, I get very frustrated.
And, but my dad, he's very calm.
And so whenever, you know, like we almost lost our house at one point because he made like a bad real estate investment.
And through it all, he was very, it was kind of the same thing where we were going to lose like a lot, but he was so calm because he's always, he always would tell me to just focus on the solution.
Like you cannot think about the problem.
It doesn't get you anywhere.
Just think of a solution.
Think of a solution.
And I'd say he's just a calm, what did he bounce?
Oh, he left.
He dropped.
I think he dropped.
But I was going to ask him.
I was going to ask him.
I think that's like people that aren't as emotional do better with that.
Oh, go ahead, James.
Oh, no, he's still there now.
I see he's back.
Oh, yeah.
I think it cut me out for a minute.
My computer like shut down real quick and came back on.
Yeah, that's okay.
Did you hear what I said or no?
Oh, yeah.
I heard the emotional part versus non-emotional.
I agree with that too, because I can be very emotional in things, but I've learned how to like completely channel that at this point.
But yeah, he's like not emotional at all.
Like it almost creeps me out, like how non-emotional.
Like I looked at him as a father figure when I was a kid being like, this dude is like not emotional at all.
Like it's kind of funny, right?
And I'd be like, it's probably a good thing, right?
But for certain things, it's kind of like they don't have any empathy towards certain things.
And then it's like, yo, you see how that adaptability works like that?
Because you kind of have to be, you can't be too attached to anything or a certain outcome.
And I've kind of had to learn that.
And I've learned it a lot.
It helps so much because then you're like, oh, no matter what happens, you'll be successful at something.
Like, I remember I lost my job.
I was making really good money like four years ago and I lost it going into COVID.
And I was, I was like freaking out.
I was like, oh my God, I don't, you know, and I had a good amount of money in the bank and I was like, you know, I was freaking out.
Now I don't even have half of that money now.
And I'm starting a new business.
I don't even have a quarter of that money now.
And I'm starting a new business venture and I'm not even worried in the slightest.
So I think the adaptability thing, it helps, but you lose a lot of like emotional context for things sometimes because you're not paying attention to them.
Yeah.
Yeah, I agree.
Do you have any other thoughts on the topic that you wanted to say before we go to the next caller?
Well, the first guy was saying something about simps.
And like, yeah, I see it so much with this generation of men.
And I think it's because like they've been force-fed these narratives that, you know, the feminist movement has like portrayed onto men over the last, I'd say hardcore lasts like 10 years.
And I think that's the problem because they're like, oh, you have to be accepting of this.
You have to be accepting of that.
Well, what if we don't want to be accepting of it because we don't like it?
Because we don't need it in our lives.
And I think that's a perspective that people haven't really taken.
I'm not saying be militant about it, but I'm saying if you don't like it and you don't accept it, don't put yourself around it.
Just like, I see some of these guys dating some of these girls now and they're just problematic.
They're so problematic.
And I'm like, dude, why are you wasting your time?
You could literally be out here at the club with me hitting up eights, nines, and tens if you wanted, but you're sitting there dealing with your like four of a girlfriend.
It's like an ogre that just pains all day.
Like it makes no sense.
I'm going to say this.
Guys are starting to do that.
But unlike women, when they make an action, they don't make a big scene out of it or anything.
Guys will just disengage.
You're seeing more and more guys that disengage.
That's why this stupid male loneliness epidemic when a woman chooses to be single is celebrated, but a man chooses to be single and he's single and lonely.
See, men, we vote with our feet and our dollars.
So more and more men are just disengaging.
You won't even see him do it.
You won't even see him do it.
All of a sudden, they're just gone.
But I think what men need to do is, I think they need to lean the opposite direction.
Like, I lean the opposite direction.
Like, yeah, I understand where a lot of women are sitting nowadays, but I'll say this: there's a lot of women out there that are good women, that are great women that like men aren't even talking to.
Like the spaces that I go into into public, like I have no trouble talking to these women and connecting with them, finding great women just in the public.
I remember I got on the subway in Seattle, which is a very Democratic liberalist shithole of a town.
But I met a writer for, I forgot, I got her business card back here somewhere, but she's a writer for some big newspaper.
And I was talking to her for like the whole train ride, come to find out she's single and she's like a really sweet girl and she came up in a really good family.
And we're just talking and she's like, yeah, I just choose not to date, not because men are, she's like, I'm not even focused on my career like that.
It's just, I haven't found somebody that really makes me feel the way I should feel.
And I can understand that because a lot of men don't know how to make women feel the way they should to open up and be submissive.
Because a lot of the ideology today is, you know, be a boss, but be closed off.
A lot of these women do want to be submissive, even if they do make more money.
A man supposed to make a woman feel a certain way, dude.
Are you serious?
I'm a bit well.
I'm not saying you have to sit there and make her feel a certain way, but I think about it as it's the way you frame yourself and the way you come off.
The way that I come off, I don't try.
Like, I could, I could walk in most places and women notice me because of the way I carry myself.
I don't go out of my way to do it.
It's just they see it and they're like, okay, he's interesting.
I want to talk to this guy.
But I don't position myself to where it's hood rat girls coming up to me or stupid girls or girls that I don't want attracted to me.
It's usually women like, okay, this woman's intelligent.
Like, I can tell that she knows how to carry herself.
Yeah, Doug, I think it's just the only solution you really have.
I mean, it's not that you should have to do it, but like, what do it?
It what?
Making women feel a certain way.
Like, women are only loyal to our feelings.
They're not, women aren't going to have integrity, right?
Like, that's all you got.
I think what it is now is, is, is, because women try to say that men are intimidated by them, right?
Men are not intimidated by anything that can't eat us alive or kick our ass, right?
But we are concerned about the circumstances that come along with the woman.
What is she going to bring into your life?
What kind of chaos?
Because we have this thing where women are like, oh, women give up so much to be in a relationship.
And that's not true.
A man has to sacrifice his mating strategy, his time, resources, everything.
And a lot of guys, they just don't want to do it.
Men used to get something for doing that, but they don't get all they get now is entitlement, bad attitude, unrealistic expectations.
That's what comes along with being with a woman now.
No.
No.
I don't blame guys for being single.
Yeah.
I agree.
It's just at times.
I mean, I mean, you know, there's whole like PUA communities to teaching this stuff.
You know, it's because to some extent it works.
Yeah.
I'll say it works.
It depends what you're learning.
If you're learning psychology, like actual human psychology and putting that into practice, yes, that works.
We're learning like pickup lines and bullshit.
That's false.
So, yeah, no, it's like, I just meant there's whole like literature on making women feel a certain way in order to get cooperation.
Unfortunately, we're in 2025.
That's all you got.
Have fun with that.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I don't go out of my way.
I don't chase them.
I just attract who I attract and I don't settle for less.
If I see a red flag, if I see one red flag within five seconds of seeing you, it's gone.
It's done up.
I'm not even talking.
I'm keeping it pushing.
Don't get it wrong.
Like, I'm not out here being game to 80 million chicks.
It's like, nah, I've seen the way you move before based on the psychological things I've learned, what I know.
So now you're playing.
Cool.
So, yeah, I'm not going to sit here and preach all of them need all of me, but the ones that, the ones that are worth their time, they will find you.
If you're working hard, isn't it?
They will find you.
You just got to put yourself in the right environments.
That's all I preach.
Cool.
Cool.
Thanks for calling in, James.
I appreciate it.
You're calling your time, man.
Yeah, great, great caller.
You've had such a run.
This is a generational.
This is a generational run of callers figuring out their Zoom and not wasting my time ranting about a random thing.
No offense, guys.
I do love you, but some of you come on here and just say something that we were not talking about.
Or at times, we've had people say, oh, I love you, Pearl.
I'm such a fan.
What's the topic?
It's like, it just derails the show.
But this has been great.
This has been, this is what we're looking for.
Okay, so next we're going to bring on here's Johnny.
And this is what we're looking for.
All right, turn off Zoom.
Here's Johnny.
Yeah, I mean, shoot.
Hold on.
This is what we're looking for.
Hey, okay, hold on, hold on.
All right, that's all right.
Can you hear me?
You got to figure out YouTube's still on, buddy.
Got to turn the YouTube off.
You're going to get five seconds.
Hold on.
Hold on.
Okay, I think I turned YouTube off.
All right, there you go.
All right, Johnny.
So the question of the day is: do you think people change over time?
Have you observed this in either your life or friends, or do you think people are mostly the same?
Absolutely.
Women change.
They have a similar pattern.
A few baby mamas and women, girlfriends, etc.
But men, like men will change when they get into a military or religion.
But usually men, they don't change as much as women change, I guess, for their feelings.
Okay, so I want to say my interpretation, and then I want to see if this matches with what you've seen.
I think that from a young age, women kind of are who we are at like 15, 16-ish in terms of core personality traits.
So I've known women that were really lazy or maybe they were really sweet, really easy to get along, whatever it is.
But there are times where women put on a mask for like one.
I really think women can hold out for like two years, a few years, but they will always revert back to who they were when they were younger.
Like a lot of women that I know that did crazy things, like in a divorce or in something, it wouldn't shock me because I knew who she was when she was younger.
And they were sure.
So I'm curious, is that what you've seen or have you seen something different when it comes to changing female behavior?
Go ahead.
No, no, that's correct also, but also the tear of the man.
So I've been able to hold that attention span for like 10 years.
Okay.
You know, a few times.
So, you know, but yeah, and then in between girlfriends here and there breaking into your house and getting naked and stuff like that.
And just, you know, throwing theirselves into your lives.
So.
Okay.
What traits do you think cannot change when it comes to men and women?
Things that you can't change.
Women, I just, I just, there's just that, like, say, you know, a lot of people like to bring history and biology and our past ancestors and stuff.
I think naturally, you know, the women died or men died early.
So they had to find a new mate.
So a lot, a lot of it's like cultural sins, lust, you know, society.
You know, we're in a cesspool right now.
So, okay.
Yeah.
And what was the question about men?
I just asked, what traits do you think cannot change over time or don't generally change?
Oh, yeah.
And for men.
Yeah, on the men's side, I don't know.
I don't.
Okay.
I haven't many friends lately.
And I don't show my face yet because that's all right.
You don't have to write on.
That's all right.
Thanks for calling in.
Absolutely.
All right, we're gonna pro question, try and guess how many times a man will change his um, his sports team and his favorite sport in his life.
Try and guess how many times.
None kind of stick to it.
Once yeah, I was gonna guess none, but because I think my dad's always at the same sports team, I don't really watch sports.
If I had a gun to my head I think i'd pick the Milwaukee Bucks for my favorite sports team, but I couldn't.
I couldn't tell you anything about that team.
So obviously it doesn't mean much to me.
It's just because I got to go see the five.
You know, it's funny.
When I was in Milwaukee um, oh my gosh, I because it was through like an influencer thing I got to go to the game seven of the Milwaukee Bucks winning the series, and all year the guys at the work would be talking about sports and i'd be like this is so boring, can we talk about something else?
Like obviously, and or I would just like, I just wouldn't care.
And then I was the one that ended up with three tickets to game seven, because it was like through a brand or something.
And then I literally saw them like win, you know the whole thing and, like you, stormed the court and stuff and it was pretty good seats, but oh, you know what it was.
I think I interviewed the president of the Milwaukee, Bucks.
So you know, a gun to my head, that's what I would pick, but I still know nothing about the team.
All right, so Chad oh, I think, Chad Chaddington, I think I remember him.
he's called him before.
Chad, how's it going?
Hey, what's up?
Can you all hear me?
I can hear you.
You're the guy that I make.
Oh yeah yeah, hold on there, you go.
Okay, I muted it.
You're good, you're the.
You're the guy you had all the.
You can't.
You came in and gave me your stats one day, didn't you?
Yeah, I remember okay, I remember you.
Chad's a Chad okay, so what are your thoughts on the topic?
Do you think people change over time or do they mostly stay the same?
I would say, on the whole, mostly stay the same.
I have uh, I actually put together a list for you, since I know you want to get to the point and blah blah blah, but I got like seven, you're off.
I got seven different psychological reasons that people legitimately change in their life.
Okay uh, and this is from psychology studies okay, uh.
So number one uh, and I actually have a couple with experiences.
Um, the number one had a traumatic brain injury, oh yeah, okay.
And one of my buddies for 23 years now uh, super partier, lots of drugs, lots of alcohol, real like textbook alcoholic, had to drink every day.
Um, when he got into the accident, which I Therefore, 21 days in the hospital in a coma.
He had to go through detox while in the coma.
And when he came out of it about three to four months later, when he finally started getting back to normal, he's probably about 90% back to, and this is six, seven years ago.
So he's about 90 to 90, not quite 95, 90% back to normal to where he was pre-traumatic brain injury.
Except he has no, like he lightly drinks now.
He's not an alcoholic.
He doesn't need to drink every day.
His temperament totally changed.
Was a very alpha male, fight everyone, blah, blah, blah.
I had to calm him down from so many fights constantly.
Very laid back now, doesn't even want to step on an ant, rather go around an ant pile.
But the biggest thing was the drugs.
He was probably a couple few years away from dying from, you know, not just pot.
We're talking like Coke and every once in a while crack and stuff like that.
And 25 years seeing this, I never thought something would change him.
But yeah, traumatic brain injury, number one thing that would actually physically, legitimately change someone.
Number two, I've studied over 250 near-death experiences.
And I will tell you that no one comes back from a near-death experience not changed.
Every single person has come back changed from a near-death experience that I've researched.
So how did they change?
Like in what way?
Is it life decisions?
Is it their core?
You know, like if I went through a near-death experience, would I be quiet?
Would I be a quiet person tomorrow?
Do you know what I mean?
Like in what way do they tend to change?
So I'm glad you asked that.
The number one thing I tell people about near-death experiences, again, I've read over 250 cases and I've listened to over 500 in the past 20 years.
And the remarkable thing about near-death experiences is the funniest thing I find about it that I research is that 90% of atheists that have near-death experiences will come back somehow spiritual or religious.
Okay.
And 90% of super religious people will come back and leave their religion and seek a more spiritual path.
What?
Yes.
It is crazy.
It is so weird how many atheist stories I've read that have come back and became spiritual and how many physical nuns, priests, deacons, men and women of church, they actually come back and they're like, man, I was so wrong.
Jesus is there, but he doesn't want me to be this devout Bible thump and get everyone on board, blah, blah, blah.
He wants me to live a peaceful life and show people that you can live a peaceful life and love everyone and blah, blah, blah without having to go to church every week, without having to do this.
It's crazy how, again, I put it as number two because no one comes back from a near-death experience and doesn't have a life-altering change.
So, okay, because what you're saying, I wouldn't say is a personality change, right?
Like, I don't think I would not be a different person if I just, you know, either started going to church on Sunday or stopped.
So I'm just, I'm just wondering, was there anything deeper that you saw, like in terms of their like core traits of who they are?
Yes, getting kind of going back to the traumatic brain injury with my buddy and everything, the majority of people that come back from near-death experiences do experience a physical, emotional, mental change in their lives as different people.
Like literally coming back, if you're an asshole and you die and you see all this stuff and you come back, you're a little bit lighter.
No one comes back, no one comes back more of an asshole.
It's usually they come back, oh, I was a 10 asshole.
Now I'm like a two to three.
Okay.
Okay.
And that's men and women.
Oh, that's the funny thing.
The last two are more men and women directly too.
So just letting you know.
Okay, cool.
What's next?
So number three, a horrific death of a loved one.
I've seen several people in my life change from the hard partier, or not just the hard partier.
I've seen the super work is everything.
I work 80 hours a week and that's all I do.
I don't care about my family.
I provide for them.
They're good enough, blah, blah, blah.
Well, once a horrific, like let's say, and when I say a death of a loved one, I'm talking about someone they consider they love the most, a mother, a father, a child, the best friend they've known for 40 years, stuff like that.
A real, real close, someone they truly love.
And then they go through that horrific death and it kind of wakes them up to change themselves type of thing.
And I've seen several people do that throughout my life.
Nothing notable I can give you like off the top of my head, except one of my friends back about 15 years ago lost their child and they were a 60 hour a week dad, you know, missed a lot of stuff in school for their kids and everything.
Well, when they lost their oldest child, all of a sudden, now they're super dad.
You know, they're like, nope, 40 hours a week or less and everything's about their children.
And you can literally physically see the change from a more, a less compassionate person to a more compassionate person.
And these are legitimate changes, not just temporary.
Okay.
What's next?
These are great ones.
Number four, age.
Age, I've seen from, I mean, I'm 50 years old, so I have, you know, and I've had a lot of older friends.
I've lost a lot of people because I've actually had a lot of older friends.
My buddy with the traumatic brain experiences is 12 years older than me.
I've lost several people in their 70s back 10, 20 years ago.
And what I've found is, is that age, if I know someone in their 20s and 30s, they are different people in their 50s and 60s.
Now, percentage-wise, for me, I've only experienced maybe about 25, a quarter of the people I've known to watch over 30 years change to become better or worse.
Unfortunately, I have seen a couple of worse and a couple of the worst have been in my family.
They were better people earlier and they just became camudgens as they grew older.
But age would be number four where significant life-changing you can actually physically see.
What traits change?
Because I have a hard time, and maybe I'll change this opinion as I get older, but I just have a hard time believing that people's like core personality traits change.
Like if somebody, if there's something significant that sort of makes someone who they are, I haven't really seen much change.
Like if someone's bitchy, maybe they're less bitchy, but they're still kind of bitchy.
You know what I mean?
You got to observe.
Okay, go ahead.
I'm sorry.
Go ahead.
No, I was just curious what traits changed with the people over time.
Go ahead.
Well, number one, again, I have 20 years, 24 years on you.
So I have experienced people over a 20 to 30 year period of their life, seeing how they were when they were a little bit younger and then growing up a little bit more.
But also what we're talking about is significant change, real change, real trait change in their life.
We're only talking like maybe, maybe at best, 20% of the people I've known.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah.
So 80% of the people will be the same person they are from teen, just like you said, from teenager, and this is men and women, from teenager till death, till the grave.
The ones I'm talking, the seven I'm talking about right now are the 20% from the psychological studies I've seen and some personal experiences from these psychological studies.
Sure.
So when it comes to age, you know, I'm deferring to you.
You know more than me.
So I'm just wondering what traits in the people that changed because of age.
Is it similar to the other ones you've listed?
Age usually the traits I typically see with the age change over 20 to 30 years with people are they become, except for the majority of them become more legitimately compassionate, understanding, caring, and tolerant.
Okay.
But they can go the other way too.
I've seen the other way where 30 years ago they were a good person and they've just become a total bitch or an asshole just because.
Okay.
Yeah.
I mean, it now, the good thing is I've only experienced the negative side, you know, 20%.
And I experienced the good change in people over 30, 20, 30 years, 80% of the time.
So I would say that when most people, the older most people get, typically the change that I would say the most of is becoming tolerant, compassionate, caring, a little more than they were in their 20s and 30s type of thing.
Cool.
What's next?
Number five.
Number five, now this, this is a personal one to me.
Number five is exposure to many different cultures.
Okay.
And what I mean is, is being in Central Florida around Disney and Universal, you have the world population coming into you.
And you want to talk about a melting pot.
Central Florida is actually a melting pot and has been for the past 30 to 40 years because so many people move to that area for the hospitality industry from all over the world.
I've met people.
I have friends from about, let's say, 80% of the countries that are friendly with the United States.
I have friends from those countries and I've learned from them directly their cultures from them and not just reading it in a textbook.
So I had, whereas most Americans who haven't been exposed to a large cultural diversity, worldwide cultural diversity, tend to stay in a very narrow tunnel their entire lives.
Whereas someone who has many friends and I know you, you lived abroad, right?
You lived in Britain, England.
Oh, I got tons of friends from England.
And oh, some of my best friends are from England.
And Europe, but I know people from Africa and Asia and everything.
The one thing about cultural differences is, especially for an open-minded person like myself, also a social butterfly.
I love, I'll talk to a rock if you give me a chance.
Learning cultures directly from the people from around the world, especially when it negates the negative thoughts you had about different cultures when growing up in whatever town you grew up in or whatever little town you grew up in and you only knew people from that town or that state.
It really does open your eyes to a world having those friends tell you legitimate things that they do in their country.
You see, oh my God, this guy's from this country that's supposed to be unfriendly.
And he's one of the nicest people you ever want to meet.
So it really does open your mind and change you to, in fact, I would say it, I was an open-minded person before I was in Central Florida 30, 35 years ago.
But being in Central Florida, exposed to all those people around Disney Universal and the hospitality industry and everyone moving in there and all the friends I've made from around the world, it opened my mind even more, I would say.
So that was my change.
Number six.
Personal.
Number six.
Okay, now this one is mostly female, but it does affect many men as well.
Number six, your first child.
Your first child will change you.
And especially, I've seen this.
I've dated too many women.
So I've seen this.
I remember that.
I've dated women before their children, and I know them to this day.
And let me tell you, they are not the same people.
And they're not pretending that I literally watched them change overnight after they had their first child for the better.
And personality traits, mental, emotional.
Can you give me an example of one?
Just one.
Okay.
So woman I dated, actually dated her for three years.
She didn't want children.
Oh my God.
She wanted to be with me because I was sniffed at 30.
So there was no chance of a child.
And we got together when this is years ago.
She was mid-20s.
I was upper 30s.
And we dated for three years.
Did not want a child.
Loved that I got snipped.
Blah, blah, blah.
Was a good person, but a habitual liar.
Didn't have her shit together.
Didn't know what she wanted in her life.
Typical teenager, but in a 26, seven-year-old body.
I know her today.
I know her and her husband today.
They had a child about six or seven years ago.
So I guess the child's about six or seven.
And oh my God, she is a little, she is completely a different person, her personality.
And I've known her long enough and was intimate with her long enough to see that these are actual physical, emotional, and mental changes that she did for this child and her new husband.
She wanted to become this person.
I seen it before.
It was just she had problems, emotional and mental problems, which most young people do have, especially young women who have father issues.
And there's a lot of those out there.
But yeah, her mentality, emotional, mental state, her responsibilities, everything fell in line.
She got her shit together.
She grew up.
She became a really good mother, good wife, and a better woman.
I can't say that she doesn't lie as much, but I can definitely say that, you know, her husband wouldn't put up with that shit.
So she probably has realized, especially after she, we, we, after we broke up, I mean, it pretty much devastated her because we were, we were, we were.
We could have been together, but I knew she needed a child and that child changed her life.
I saw it change her life physically, emotionally, mentally.
She is a better person because of it.
I'm not saying she's not a little bit like her old ways, but I could definitely see the positive changes in her life.
What's number seven?
Number seven.
Now, this one, this one is typically, and this is from reading a lot of psychology books.
Mostly men fall under this, but I'm not going to negate women from doing it.
I'm just saying mostly men change from sheer willpower alone.
That's the last one.
Sheer willpower alone.
I've only met maybe one or two people in my life, and I don't know them, you know, now, but just I knew them when I was younger.
And one guy I could think of, he was alcoholic.
He lost his wife and kid because of it.
He lost his job.
He lost everything.
And, you know, he got into the AA program.
He wanted to change his life.
Within five years, he got good, stable work, apartment.
He got rights to his kids back.
And even though his ex-wife and him didn't get back together, the way he changed helped them at least have a good relationship for the co-parenting of their child.
And that sheer willpower, no one made him do it.
It was just he decided, no, this is enough.
I'm not going to ruin my life anymore.
I have a kid.
I lost everything because of it.
He went to AA by himself.
He did all this stuff.
I mean, we supported him.
Friend Network supported him and everything.
But he's one of the ones that sticks out in my mind.
And there's very few.
Sheer willpower alone is very few.
Normally, it's, you have to, to have a real life-changing experience, someone to really change their life, it has to be something traumatic in your life.
I think one of your callers said it earlier.
You just get so tired of the pain and suffering and something just snaps or happens to you.
And you're like, no, this is it.
I got to change this about myself.
But the sheer willpower alone, very few women I've read about doing it.
It's mostly men.
But again, all this list of real change in real people's lives is only talking about maybe 20%.
Cool.
Unfortunately, 80% will be the same all throughout their life.
Cool.
Well, thanks so much for calling in, Chad.
That was a great list.
Appreciate you.
No problem.
Great talking to y'all.
Y'all have a blessed night, Doug and Pearl.
All right.
See ya.
Have a good one.
All right.
we'll do one more color see the marvelous option marvelous option well Welcome to the show.
So what do you think?
Do you think people mostly change or mostly stay the same when it comes to their personality traits?
This can either be you or people that you've observed.
What do you think?
Are you there?
Marvelous opinion.
Are you there?
We can see you.
All right, you got you got five seconds to figure it out.
Five.
Oh, there.
Now I hear you.
We can hear you.
Now I hear you.
Can you hear me?
Marvelous opinion.
I'm sorry.
I just, I don't have time for this.
Okay, I guess Sean.
Hey.
Oh, that's Sean, Sean.
All right.
All right, Sean.
I can hear you.
All right, back.
Go.
Okay, so what do you think?
You think people mostly stay the same or do they change over time?
I'm making the case that most people's core personality pretty much stays the same, but I'm open to be improving otherwise.
So what's your life experience?
My life experience is most people stay the same.
I can give a story about how I change, but again, that's just personalized in me.
So I'll give that afterwards.
But most people don't change.
They remain the same.
Same neighborhood, same community, live and breathe, die there.
Most Americans don't have a passport, so they don't even get to explore.
Most people just stay where they're from, stay with their family and friends, and that's it.
Still there?
Oh, yeah.
Sorry.
I thought you were going to keep going.
You said you had a personal story.
So go ahead.
Yeah, you can tell them.
Go ahead.
I was waiting for you.
Yeah, yeah.
I'll give you this.
I used to be a Democrat, fish-fried nugget, pro-black, pan-Africanist, anti-capitalist, humanist individual in many different, I guess you could say, walks in my life, many different chapters.
Marine killer, all this stuff.
So I would say, like, over time, I've just changed, but I have made an aggressive effort to change, if that makes sense, constantly.
And so I think most people just don't do that.
And so just in my own situation, I have changed a lot.
So much so my friends and families would be like, you're not the same, though.
You different, man.
And when we was kids, you was like X, Y, and Z. Do you think your personality changed or it was just your beliefs?
Because I do want to separate those.
Because like, you know, if I was ever, I had a conservative dad, but if I didn't, I might have been a liberal.
But I probably, I've probably been, no, because my personality type, it actually says I was supposed to be a liberal.
But, you know, I probably still would have been the one with the side going back and forth with people, you know, in a good faith.
Yeah, now I get it.
But like, I would say the personality would have been the same, but it's just the belief was different.
Is it the same for you or would you say your personality?
My personality has changed because what they were saying, like, basically, I had people write buddy statements about me.
Like, they could see a change from me when I, you know, was a kid until when I joined the military.
They're like, oh, you used to be like this.
Basically, you know, extrovert.
Now I'm more of an introvert.
So my personality changed over the years due to my beliefs also.
So it was just like a two-way streak for me.
But yes, it's changed for me.
But I always say like mine's as a special case because I actually actively look to change myself and revamp and evolve myself.
So yes, my personality does change.
All right, cool.
Doug MPA, you got any questions for him?
That's where you went from being an extrovert to an introvert.
What was the biggest person?
Was it that being a, did you find that being an introvert was more beneficial to the life you wanted to live?
Like, what made the change from being an extrovert to an introvert?
Yeah, that's exactly.
You actually just said it in a question, Doug.
Like, it just changed the way people interact.
You know, I was an insecure individual, so I was a class clown.
So most of it, I was like, I show speed in a way.
And then net net, when I got older, I got more confident, more competent, and then I just became an introvert just because, you know, when you tend to expose yourself, then you have to expose yourself to people's attitudes and behaviors.
And so I just became a more calm person, a more stoic person, and then just changed how I did everything.
So that was the main reason.
But it was kind of in your question when you said it, Doug.
Cool.
Cool, man.
Awesome.
Just saw better benefits.
But I would say this: most women don't change.
They remain the same.
All right.
And then the guy was spitting game earlier.
So just stay stoic.
And I think most of the guys, they see it as like their goal is to maintain the girl for the long duration.
Even if you're alpha and you're in charge and you're leading, women are going to sometimes fall out of love with that.
Then they're going to want a guy who's sensitive.
You know, they were attracted by you dodging bullets and hopping on helicopters.
But then a later point in their life, they're like, I used to like it, but now it's disgusting.
It's scary.
It's annoying.
So people change, especially women, because they just change their love conditions.
Don't see it as a loss.
Just see it as our deal no longer works out.
I'm sorry you feel that way, but I'm moving on.
I wish you the best, if that makes sense.
Yeah, totally.
Totally.
I appreciate you guys.
Thanks, Sean.
I was going to talk to you and my brother.
Yes, sir.
It's funny.
He seems extroverted to me.
Yeah, yeah, I would have thought so too.
Yeah, that's what I was like.
He's really calm, though, so I'd agree with that.
Okay, let me see.
Is it on the new set?
I'm just okay.
Apologizing for the technical difficulties.
Thanks for the marvelous opportunity or for the opportunity, though.
Well, we do this call-in show every night.
I mean, you can figure it out tomorrow.
It's no big deal.
I don't hold it against anybody, but you know, I just don't, you know, I used to wait for you guys, and it would just drive me freaking nuts.
And it's for my sanity, really.
It's about me.
So I can't take Doug being like, turn the YouTube off.
I'm like, I'm going to kill myself.
I can't do it.
Or the countdown.
You know, we only do one or two countdowns a show and then it starts to kill the vibe of the show.
So, yeah, I mean, you got like five seconds.
Look, I figured out how Zoom works.
You guys, you guys got to do it too.
Respectfully, you know.
Sir, I understand the tech difficulties.
You know, we're used to women that won't wait for us.
Yeah, I'm glad you are.
Okay, well, I would still say I think most people's core personality traits are pretty much the same.
I think that's kind of the consensus with some people saying there are exceptions.
I don't know.
I think most people revert, but I haven't seen it.
It doesn't mean that I will or I won't in the future.
Who knows?
What are your final thoughts, Doug MPA?
Yeah, you know, if someone's a douchebag when they're young, they're going to be a douchebag later on in life.
That's why they glorify in movies when someone was a bully, but then they go back to the person they bully and apologize because that's worth writing a book about or making a movie about.
It happens so little.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, that's what I was thinking because I was telling someone about this show topic and they said they made a reference to either Joker or Batman and saying how like Joker became the Joker because he kept saying like ask me about my scars and then Batman or maybe it was Spider-Man.
I think it was Spider-Man.
Yeah, that day.
And I'm like, well, the reason there's a movie about it is because it doesn't really happen.
It's like the mid-chick that gets the hot guy and all the women.
Today I walked by.
There was this giant event of women like watching a movie in the park.
And I still couldn't help but think we're just like adult children.
You know what I mean?
Like that need to be at a date.
But I was like, what are all these women here for?
So I asked the girl and I'm like, what's the title?
And then so I googled the title of the show.
And of course, it's like this five with a nine.
I'm like, yep, that's the female dream.
Yeah.
Well, some of the best advice my father ever gave me was those who don't have to won't.
And a lot of people are, especially women, are put, are never put in the position where they have to change, so they won't.
Exactly.
Well, thanks for calling in today, Doug MPA.
I appreciate your contributions, as always.
Cool.
Yeah, thanks for having me as usual.
All right.
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