Pearl Daily’s call-in show dissects the 40-year decline in men’s dating engagement, citing 74% of divorces initiated by women and $200K legal costs leaving men like Pearl homeless. Guests—including a sexologist (Kage), banking counselor Alex, and callers like Mike Trimmer (31)—blame "outlandish leftist views," financial expectations, and pandemic shifts for men’s retreat into passive app behavior or avoidance entirely. Galvis (50) notes divorced men still seek hookups via social media, while Eniola (20s) admits shyness and generational gender imbalances hinder connections. The episode concludes that modern dating’s transactional nature and women’s evolving demands have reshaped male participation, leaving fewer "good men" unless they prioritize career growth or suppress personal boundaries. [Automatically generated summary]
I mean, this headline from The Hill, it caught my eye.
Most young men are single.
Most young women are not.
Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America over the last 40 years.
It's a different world now.
Like, we don't need men the way that they used to.
We need men!
The future is female.
Men and women are drifting further apart, and society is crumbling because of it.
A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.
You've kind of got the Trad COD versus Red Pill thing.
This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.
Oh, you need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.
Marriage is a bond, and it's a sacred bond.
It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.
Now many of the red-pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married.
Hannah Pearl Davis, or just pearly things.
One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.
She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.
Because if me and you were in a business contract, you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.
Gee, what could go wrong there?
74% or something of divorces are initiated by women.
Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children.
Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws.
I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.
Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.
You need no evidence.
When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for, and you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.
I interview them on the other side.
I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.
How much did you spend trying to get him back?
The legal fees alone was about $200,000.
Before you know it, you're homeless.
You're literally just thrown out onto the street.
We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women.
Wives are taught to leave their husbands, and then daughters grow up without their fathers.
Family is the foundation of the society.
Every problem in society comes from single mother homes.
A lot of women will just chase this negative rapid hole of happiness, endless happiness.
Feminism's biggest failures is it lies to women.
We tell women to date as many guys as possible.
We tell them to put off family into marriage.
You are allowed to leave your perfect husband.
You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend.
Oh, freeze rich, have an abortion.
What?
You're evil.
I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.
Like if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic, naturally the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway.
It's self-sabotage.
That's the thing.
Like women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy.
This is not about happiness.
The most important thing is the children.
And the problem is we have a modern society where it's me, me, me, my feelings, leave when I feel like it, instead of doing what's best for the kids.
This myth that we live in an age of male privilege.
Where's my male privilege?
They think, well, men have all the rights.
They have all the power.
Privilege, patriarchal system that we have.
Why doesn't our society care about men's rights?
I have no friends, no wife, and no social life.
Men are alone in this situation.
Men are homeless.
Men are thinking about eating guns.
I've seen so many men on the brink of suicide and they didn't do anything wrong.
How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?
The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.
Women are helplessly dependent upon men.
The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose, or alcohol, three times higher among men than among women.
Culture is telling men, you are no good.
You gotta get your act together.
I think men have failed themselves.
What kind of a man are you?
What kind of a woman are you going to attract?
If men are in trouble, so are women.
Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.
Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man for a moment.
500K, 500, 300K, 300K, 200K.
Am I crazy?
Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man.
If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them.
So, you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?
Women.
I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.
I don't want to be a strong, independent woman.
I'm over it.
When is it going to be my turn?
Where are we meeting the men that don't?
I can't keep having these same conversations.
The only sip here is you, Pearl.
You sent for women.
No, I think you sent for women.
She's a provocateur.
She says stupid stuff, but Pearl is right about this.
It's already happening.
It's just not out in the open yet.
Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale ending because men don't want a wife and women can't find a husband.
The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future.
We're going to population decline and our economy goes into decline.
Civilization will crumble.
The American story does not end well.
This is an existential crisis failing young men.
What is up, guys?
Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily here at the Audacity Network.
I'm your host, Pearl.
And if you want to donate, we're almost to $30,000 for the divorce documentary.
As you guys know, we were on the fast track to getting this divorce documentary done until the women decided to demonetize me, throttle my channel, and really defame me while they did it.
But we're back in the monetization program and we're doing good here.
And we're $250 away from 30K.
If we get to around 100K for the documentary, we can get it done.
And if you guys donate a big amount, if you donate 20 grand, you could do a video message to your ex-wife.
It could be like, or I could read it either or.
It could be like, Diane, you are the worst woman I've ever met in my life.
You're mid, you're overweight.
And you're an average at-best mother.
Stop screwing the whole town or whatever.
You know, we'll pull whatever.
Within reason, I don't want to get sued.
Okay, guys.
So today we are talking about women are now noticing that the men are gone.
So basically, women have told men for 40 years that they don't want to be approached.
They have told men that they can do everything by themselves.
And it turns out when women keep saying that, men, men, they go where they want it.
They'll listen and they'll leave them alone.
Mainstream media has been in denial for some time about the fact that men are disengaging from women.
It used to be expected that men would court women and romance them.
Men would move heaven and earth to attract a woman to be his girlfriend or his wife.
Women called that misogyny and patriarchy and rewrote the social contract.
Now we have the circus that is the dating market in the modern day.
It's gotten so bad that outlets like the New York Times have finally caught on, caught wind of men responding to women's disgust and mistreatment.
A writer for the New York Times is begging men to come back to women and romance and court them again.
Let's take a look at what they want to say.
Now, by the way, guys, as I'm reading this, this is going to be a call-in show.
So I want you guys to think of the question.
If you are asked, where have the men gone?
What's your answer?
So I was excited.
This article took place in Chicago.
That's where I'm from.
Also, if you want unlimited super chats, it's on the website.
Okay.
A warm Saturday night in Wicker Park, a vibrant stretch of Chicago where seven restaurants crowd a single block.
Troy and I were having dinner at Mama Delia, one of the quieter spots.
The sidewalk patio held five tables, three two tops, including ours, and a pair pulled together for a group of eight young women.
At those tables, Troy was the only man.
The scene was beautiful.
Low lights, shared plates, shoulders angled in.
This kind of evening people wait for all winter.
But still, I found myself watching the crowd as it moved past us.
Women walking in pairs or alone, dressed without a care.
Dressed with care.
At a table, at table after table at the nearby restaurants, there was a noticeable absence of men.
at least of men seated in what looked like dates.
Troy and I have known for almost Troy and I have known each other for almost 20 years.
We met at Playboy of all places, back when we were both learning how desire gets packaged, sold, and sometimes misunderstood.
We stayed close friends, bonded, not just by our opinions, but by the effort it takes to stay into someone's life.
That night we made the effort, but still, what I saw unfolding around us felt like something else entirely.
A collective shift I couldn't unsee.
It started to become clear the previous April where a man who had been pursuing me canceled dinner at the last minute.
There was a scheduling mix up with his son's game, and I understood.
I'm a hockey mom, I get it.
Still, I went.
I wore what I would have worn anyway.
I looked at the table, I ordered well, and I watched the room.
Only two tables nearby seemed to hold actual dates.
The rest were groups of women or women alone, each one occupying her space with quiet confidence.
No shrinking, no waiting, no apologizing.
The night marked something, not a heartbreak, but an unveiling.
A sense that what I'd been experiencing wasn't just personal misalignment, but something broader, cultural.
A slow vanishing of presence.
I spent over a decade behind the curtain of digital desire.
As the custodian of records for Playboy and its affiliated hardcore properties, including sites like Spice TV, I was responsible for some of the most infringed upon adult content in the world.
I worked closely with copyright attorneys and marketing teams to understand exactly what it took to get a man to pay for content he could easily find for free.
We knew it worked.
We knew how to frame a face, a gesture, a moment of implication, just enough to ignite a fantasy and open a wallet.
I came to understand in exact terms what cues tempt the average 18 to 36 year old heterosexual man.
What drew him in?
What kept him coming back?
It wasn't intimacy.
It wasn't mutuality.
It was access to stimulation.
Clean, fast, and frictionless.
In the world, there's no need for conversation.
No effort, no curiosity, no reciprocal represent no curiosity, no one's feelings to consider, no vulnerability to navigate, just a closed loop of consumption.
What struck me wasn't the extremity of the content.
It wasn't the emotional vacancy behind it, the drift.
The way many men had quietly withdrawn from intimacy and vulnerability, not with violence or resistance, but with indifference.
They weren't sitting across from someone on a Saturday night trying to connect.
They were scrolling, dabbling, disappearing behind firewalls, filters, and curated personas.
And while they disappeared, women continued to gather, to tend, to notice who wasn't arriving and to show up anyway.
I'm 54.
I've been dating since the mid-80s.
I've been married.
I've been a mother.
I've gotten divorced and had many relationships, both long and short.
I remember when part of heterosexual male culture involves showing up with a woman to signal something.
Status, success, desirability.
Women were often, women were once signifiers of value, even to other men.
Now it doesn't mean anything to buy your dinner because some other dude is smashing her after dinner.
Oh, thank you for the $100, the $200 super chat.
Holy crap.
Thank you, William.
Thank you so much.
Wow.
Holy crap.
We haven't had one like that in forever.
Thank you.
I don't know what to say.
Thank you so much.
Where was I reading?
Okay, women were once signifiers of value, even to other men.
It wasn't always healthy, but it was meant that men had to show up and put in some effort.
The dynamic has quietly collapsed.
I know, I can't read.
Okay.
We have moved into an era where many men no longer seek to impress women, no longer seek women to impress other men or to connect across difference.
They perform elsewhere alone.
They filtered us out.
I recently experienced a flicker of possibility with James.
We met on Raya, the dating app.
There was something mutual from the start, a wordplay, an emotional precision, a tone that felt attuned.
It was brief, but it was caught light.
I remember saying to him, even fleeting connections matter when they're mutual and lit from inside.
And I meant it.
There was just enough spark to wonder what might unfold, enough curiosity to imagine a doorway, but he didn't step through it, not with a plan, not with a presence.
He hovered, flirted, retreated, offering warmth, but no direction.
Sexual tension and spark aren't reason enough to sit still and hope there's substance behind the shimmer.
So I named what I felt.
I texted him clearly with care, not simply to declare attraction, but to extend a real invitation to explore what was possible.
I didn't chase.
I invited, leaving the door open.
If he ever wanted to cross the threshold, not just to take, but to meet, I was willing, I wanted to, and I still do.
He never replied.
He still follows my Instagram stories.
One of those small gestures of passive engagement that so many of us now mistake for closeness.
It looks like interest, but it feels like silence.
Who thinks that viewing an Instagram story is closeness?
All right, there are thousands of James's.
I have known dozens.
The arc varies, but the undertow is familiar.
What I won't entertain is directionless orbiting.
The things so many men now seem to mistake for connection, the perpetual maybe, the emoji check-ins, the casual seeing where this goes without it ever going anywhere.
We call it a situationship, but mostly it's an avoidance.
An avoidance of ownership, a feeling of behavior, of sex that isn't a means to an end, but it is communication.
So women often complain about situationships the same way that men complain about not getting laid on a date.
Women's burden of performance is getting men to commit after sex.
Men's burden of performance is to get women to make women want to have sex with them.
That's the burden of performance we both have.
There was a time not so long ago where even a one-night stand with tangled limbs and shared and a shared breakfast when the act of staying the night didn't announce a relationship, just a willingness to be human for a few more hours.
Now, even that kind of unscripted contact feels rare.
We've built so many boundaries that we've walked off the very moments that make connection memorable.
And frankly, morning sex is often the best sex.
Sometimes you get a side of eggs before you disappear from their bed and their life forever.
The idea that vulnerability is a threat instead of an invitation has created a culture of hesitation, of men circulating intimacy but never entertaining it.
And the result is thousands of tiny silos.
Everyone performing closeness, but no one making a move that binds.
Isolation, loneliness, a hunger for contact that has nowhere to land.
Maybe you were between paradigms, mourning what's fallen, not yet fluent in what comes next.
The infrastructure of intimacy, slowness, curiosity, accountability have been eroded by haste, convenience, and a kind of sanctioned emotional retreat.
It's not about blaming men, it's about noticing the imbalance, about grieving what's not meeting us, and about refusing to dress it up as a personal failure when it's actually a collective reality.
Here's what I'll say: you're missed, not just by me, but by the world you once helped shape.
We remember you, the version of you that lingered at the table, that laughed from the chest, that asked questions and waited for answers, that touched without taking, that listened, really listened when a woman spoke.
They don't really listen.
They're looking at your tits, okay?
You are not gone, but your presence is thinning in restaurants and friendships and the slow rituals of romantic emergence.
You've retreated not into malice, but into something softer and harder at once: avoidance, exhaustion, disrepair.
Maybe no one taught you how to stay.
Maybe you tried it once and it hurt.
Maybe the world told you your role was to provide, to perform, and to protect, but never to feel.
But here's what's real: we never needed you to be perfect.
We just needed you to be with us.
Not above, not muted, not masked, just with.
And you can still come back, not by becoming someone else, but by remembering what connection feels like when it's honest and slow, when it's earned and messy and sacred.
Chicago says the article is an excellent example of the differences and thought processes between men and women.
Thank you.
We're still here.
Those of us willing to concentrate or co-create something true.
We're not impossible to please.
One in the chat if women can be pleased.
Two in the chat if we're impossible.
We're not asking for performances.
We are asking for presence, for courage, for breath and eye contact, and the ability to say, I'm here.
I don't know how to do this perfectly, but I'll try.
Come back, not with flowers or fireworks, but with willingness, with your whole beautiful and perfect heart.
We're still here and we haven't stopped hoping.
And for me, I'll keep showing up, not because I'm waiting, but because I know what it feels like when someone finally arrives.
So we're going to do a call-in show.
So we'll put the link in the chat.
We want to know where have the men gone and how would you answer this if a woman asked you?
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It's Doug MPA on the line.
I gotta.
Hey, can you hear me?
I can hear you.
How are you?
I am fantastic.
I love this topic.
Where have the men gone, Doug MPA?
Why aren't they taking us?
Why aren't they whining and dining us anymore?
Why aren't they in our?
Where are they?
Like the men that used to go to the bars, the men that used to, you know, that be out in these places.
Where are they at?
Uh, like you said in your opening preamble, there used to be a social contract, a social contract.
Okay, um, it used to be where men and women used to used to go to the bar and then the women were on one side and the men were on the other side.
And then a man would get some liquid courage, see a pretty woman, do the long walk to the other side of the bar, lay down a couple of lines, and it either worked or it didn't.
And if it didn't work, the guy would have to make the long walk back across the bar and everyone would kind of point at him and laugh, right?
Another social contract, we used to have to go to a woman's father's house, go to the father and say, hey, I'd like to take your daughter out on a date.
It was all nice and simple.
But women call that misogyny and patriarchy.
It messed it all up.
And it's funny.
You guys ever try to get advice on how to approach women from a woman?
It's insanity.
Oh, just be confident, bro.
When they're never going to, they don't approach women and they're never going to approach a man.
The biggest problem is women, they know not what they ask for.
They don't want men to approach, but they're never going to approach.
So now there's a staring contest.
You know, women want to be in the workplace, but they don't want to do any work.
You understand what I'm saying?
We're in this great experiment.
And one of the best lines I've ever heard, Pearl, is the 20th century was women rewriting the rules to society, the social rules.
And the 21st century is going to be men responding to it.
Women don't like how men are responding to the rules they said.
But you don't get the, you can't put it back in the bottle.
Right.
Understand I'm saying they just don't like how men are responding.
Remember, women want all the freedom in the world, but then still want men to be traditional and masculine.
I always say feminism has freed women up from being barefoot and pregnant in the house, but guys, it also freed you up from your traditional masculine responsibilities too.
Right.
You don't have to be a pack mule for a woman.
You don't have to pay a bunch of money to take a bunch of women out on days that aren't going to give you anything in return.
You can ask what is in it for me as a man.
So do you think men, do you think men that used to be in bars and stuff, do you think they're just like at home?
Like, where do you, like, how do you think it's migrated?
Like, would you say, like, even you, like 20 years ago, did you go out more than you go now?
Like, maybe 50 years ago.
100%.
Friends of yours is, would you say it's the same?
Go ahead.
Ask the last part again.
Like yourself and the men your age that you know.
Maybe 20 years ago, would you say, how often did you guys go out?
And now what do you guys do instead?
So, I mean, Friday, Saturday nights, you get ready for Friday, Saturday night, go out with the boys, you know.
But now, I mean, look, if you being able to get women in bars translated to getting women online, so the same guys that were good at picking women up at bars can pick women up online a lot easier.
So a lot of the guys that have the game to pick women up in bars, they're just getting a lot of women online.
Yeah, so it's kind of easy.
That's the one guy I know that's a big player in Miami.
He said he like never goes out anymore.
There's no point.
He just gets on Instagram and looks at his DMs there.
And here's the thing.
And gets it right to the house.
It's like Uber Eats, but for bitches.
Here's the thing: one thing, being free from these traditional masculine responsibilities, it's made men really think about their time.
Because, guys, if you have a highly valued skill, highly valued trade, highly value education, you're going to make more money.
And early on, you're going to see if you're on the path to success.
So now men are really focused on how we're spending our time because as men, we can make more money.
That's why you shouldn't really feel bad about these famous guys who get divorced and have to pay their wife half their stuff.
They're going to make their money back, but they're not going to get their time back.
So more men are being cognizant of their time more than anything.
And they're not wasting it with a bunch of women that aren't going to reciprocate anything.
Yeah.
Yeah, totally.
Is there anyone on the line?
Oh, yeah, we got a lot.
This is a hot topic here.
Yeah.
We're getting a lot of callers.
Thanks, guys.
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Oh, and then Williams this year with the big bomb, $200.
He's in the Audacity chat.
Thank you so much, William.
We really appreciate it.
I was about to say, we'll send him a membership for that one, right?
I know.
Wow.
Thank you so much.
All right.
And ladies, you can call in too.
You know, I see a couple of you in the chat.
Call in and let us know where you think all the good men have gone.
Do you see less men out and about?
When you go out, do you see nothing but girls sitting at tables and bars?
Let us know, okay?
Oh, I want to say, so what I've seen, I want to say what I've seen before we go into the callers.
So if I go to a nice restaurant in a big city, you'll see three types of tables.
So one is a really hot woman with an older guy.
Two is a bunch of mids with a club promoter, usually young mids under 30-ish.
And then three is a bunch of women paying for themselves that aren't overly attractive.
There might be like one cute one in the group, but that's what I see.
The other thing that I've noticed is that I think that going out places are more like divided than ever.
So for example, women might go.
Sort of segregated.
Yeah, like women might go to a brunch on a Saturday.
Or like if I go to like a salsa night or something, it's like more women than men because that's like things women like to do.
But if you go into like places men like, so like, for example, like dive bars, it's all men.
Like if I go to a karaoke, the karaoke bar we went to, I would say there was more men.
Would you agree?
Yeah, there was.
Yeah.
So like, but I don't think it was because of the karaoke.
I think it was because the vibe of the place.
Do you know what I mean?
Like that we were at when you were here.
The like it's just more of like a dive bar feel.
Like, cause I was thinking about the places men like to go to, and they like to go to places where it's like cheap beer if they're going to go drink.
Like they don't really care about the essence or the way it looks.
They want to know like, what is the happy hour price?
Where the women want to know, is it a cool place?
Is it like, does that make sense?
So that's what I'm seeing.
It's like how you're starting to see nail salons and places that are catering to women.
They're starting to have like ballets and all sorts of stuff that women, they want to create an experience for women because they know women expect a certain kind of experience for their money.
Whereas a lot of male, you're never going to see, you know, places that men congregate with ballet that isn't a country club or something like that.
You know, the other place that I noticed, I think that gyms that are either cheap or more male-dominated or more powerlifting heavy.
I think that's a place men go.
And then also, there's a third place I just had in my head and I forgot.
Yeah, I can say that because I went through a short period where I went to one of those lifetime fitnesses, you know, the places that the big huge gyms.
Oh, I have a membership there.
Yeah.
It's like $130, $140.
Yeah, those are the few times where I've seen it like 50-50 men and women because women love those places, man.
And they go there and do everything but work out.
You know what?
I got it.
I kept getting day passes because there's a machine I like to use there.
And then they sold me on a membership one time I went.
Oh, man.
Because I would go get so many day passes.
I see a bunch of people I've never seen in here before, so they're going to be priority.
Wait, wait, I want to go over the rules before they come up.
Go ahead.
So, okay, guys, I want to go through a couple rules if you're going to be on the show.
Make sure the YouTube is not playing in the background.
So if you're in the waiting room, make sure that your YouTube is not playing in the background.
Maybe put it in some headphones so we don't doodle whatever, but we don't want that on when you get up.
We are going to allow you guys to have your camera off, but I do think as these shows get bigger, we're going to have to do cameras on.
If this gets abused and we get people in here trolling or doing whatever, this will change.
But because you guys, because you guys have been good, we're going to keep it like that.
On or off is fine.
The next thing is, please don't overtalk me.
I understand it's frustrating.
You might have a lot to say, but it's my show, so you just can't over talk the host.
Sometimes I'm going to interrupt you if you're going on a tangent and you just got to not over talk me back.
It just is what it is.
Four is the last one.
The missing one.
Is that it, Doug MPA?
There's one more I'm missing.
I'm going to say, you know, for now, ladies are going to get priority.
So if I see a lady in the chat, make sure that you're ready.
And, you know, it's a constructive conversation, even if you have an opposing view.
It would just be good to hear more ladies come on the show.
So if I see a woman, you get first priority.
So call in.
We'd love to hear from you.
Yeah.
And I love when talking about society on this show, I am going to ask you specific questions.
It's not to be rude or to be prying, but what I like from this show is to get what you guys have seen out in the real world.
I think that's how you get better information.
So, yeah, I think that's really all I got.
So let's do it.
First up, we have Kage, the certified sexologist.
This should be interesting.
Hey, guys, make sure to hit that like button.
There are 885 people in here.
Let's keep 100% engagement.
885 likes.
Kage, you are on mute.
Kage, the certified sexologist, you are on mute.
Yes, sir.
Kage, is that how I say it?
Yes, ma'am.
What is a sexologist?
You just do you like coach people through it or what?
No, no, no, you don't coach people through it.
People who have intimacy issues, you explore different palliative methods on how to curate a better experience sexually, even with themselves.
Like there are people who have issues masturbating.
There are people who have issues, you know.
What a job.
With partners.
That's an interesting.
Okay.
It's actually a side job.
My main job, I work for the government.
I was just curious.
I was like, I've never heard of a sexologist.
So what's your answer to the question?
Where have the men gone?
You know, I actually wanted to use an anecdote today.
I was watching, while I was at work, I kind of watched the new episode of the Pop the Balloon.
I don't know if you're familiar with it, right?
Yeah.
It's a funny show.
Today, there was an anesthesiologist.
He just finished his residency.
And one girl popped on him because she's like, yeah, you just finished your residency.
You're about to start working, but so you're not financially stable.
And I was like, you do understand.
Day one, he's making 250.
Day one.
Day one, he's making 250.
Easy.
And yeah, she was like, yeah, you're not financially stable.
So I just, and you're just getting into your career.
I want someone more established in his career.
It's like, you know, he just did fucking 10 years at school.
Like, what?
Insanity.
Men are, if I'm going to be honest, men are tired.
Men are tired of hearing that rhetoric.
Men are tired of the constant berating when we state our preferences, when we open our mouths and we're asked, you know, to express ourselves or to tell women what we want.
And then we're told what we want by women.
So like, that's a frustrating thing for men.
So like in that regards, when it just comes to something as simple as communication, just even communicating with women is difficult.
So a lot of men are just like, yeah, you know, if a good woman comes, you know, we're open.
But right now, it's, it's crazy.
We're dodging every everything coming at us.
And what was your social, how, how old are you first?
I'm 31.
I'll be 32 in September.
Okay.
Is your social life now different than it was 10 years ago?
Like in terms of going out, going on dates?
I'll say 10 years ago, I was in my early 20s.
So it's 2021, right?
So things were kind of different, I guess.
I was cougar diving then.
So all the chicks at the finish, well, at the wall, I should say, at the wall or past the wall, I was clapping major cheeks.
I'm at like, were you more willing to take women on dates then?
Did you go out more?
Yes.
Like, yeah, that's more of a question.
So could you contrast a week you could do five years ago, 10, like just what maybe when did it switch for you and how did it switch?
20.
I would say about 2018.
2018 was when it switched.
Like the the economy downshift kind of changed everything.
Uh, the prices of goods and services kind of switched.
2018 was kind of like upwards of 2018 to like pre-pandemic that's.
That's kind of like the changing point.
Um, but like before, then it was, it was easy to take a chick out one, it was more equitable um, and then it was, it was just easier to.
It wasn't as much pushback.
I was saying in 2015, it wasn't as much pushback as it is now, like from women.
What do you mean by pushback?
Like it was easier to get sex or it's easier to get a date.
Communication, like my my, my basis is communication.
The reason why men are, I guess, hard on like not not dating women or not taking women on dates, is because the communication factor like a lot of women don't even get to the date.
Like if i'm, if i'm communicating with them or if I get their number and you know i'm working six or seven days a week i'm, i'm conversing with her and maybe on the weekend I i'm planning on taking her on a date, but like if conversing with her during the week that I have her number is very difficult.
We we're not making it to the date difficult.
How difficult.
It as in like just uh, just scenario, either scenarios or, like you know, just talking about life or their, their viewpoints, and pro I told you.
I told you because Pearl and I go back and forth.
She's like Doug NP, why don't you just like keep your mouth shut and don't like challenge them on anything and just like keep your mouth shut and get laid.
But I'm like pro.
You have no idea how how, how rough conversation is with these women that they want you to agree with everything.
They have these outlandish leftist, liberal views and it's just like it's too much.
It's too much.
Is that?
What's you're talking about?
They have liberal views.
Like they text you about it.
Yeah that, or like, because i'm i'm not really a big texter, i'm more like a conversationalist.
Uh I, I like talking to people, I like hearing the inflection in their voice to kind of like that kind of pinpoints their character, like a Litmans test on their character um, based on how they converse yep, um.
So could I have an example of maybe a date that happened recently um, that went south, that you had to cancel or like, or it didn't happen, and why?
Oh, my god, the most recent one actually um, so I, I took this chick out to a nice restaurant.
Uh, as guys we're, we're very i'll say, we're very frugal on like how our spending is.
Like we'll, we'll calculate things and say okay, i'll take her out.
Um, I know that this restaurant is a nice restaurant, but I know the spending is going to be this amount.
So, in case we go somewhere else, I know i'm going to spend this amount because I I like to budget my funds, I don't like to overspend, I don't like to waste money.
So um, so that night I kind of I budgeted and come to find out she had been to this restaurant before and she personally knew uh no the, the chef and the owner.
So he ordered off of a secret menu that I didn't know about right, and uh she, i'll tell you specifically it was, uh oh, my gosh.
She ordered like, literally like a what was it?
Three quarters of a, a swordfish.
Oh, my goodness, what was the bill on that?
Just the swordfish by itself, 465, $465 for the swordfish.
Did you pay it?
Yeah, yeah, I paid it.
Wait, wait, wait.
Did you say $465?
$4.65.
Did you at least hit?
No.
Oh, and the crazy part was, she looks really good, right?
But she's 40.
Oh, no.
She's 40.
At the time, she was 39, but like, she's 40 now.
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Okay.
Damn.
So you didn't even.
Did you want to hit after?
Like, were you still, or were you so turned off that you were just like, I mean, I was, I was, she was very attractive, but like I was irritated.
I was so irritated because it was just like, I'll give it to you like this.
I'll give you my whole budget that night.
So like, the drinks were like, I think like $40 a piece.
The meal that I got had got salmon and asparagus with some bok choy and some basmati rice, right?
All of that together.
My drink and my whole thing, I think was like $75.
Right.
I was thinking, okay, even if she up orders up and gets three or four drinks, that's probably $200.
So I'm probably leaving $300.
Dude, man.
That fucking bill was like $600 and for some 40-year-old coups.
Oh, no.
If you saw, if you saw her, you'd be like, damn.
But yeah, it's crazy.
So.
Hey, you know, go ahead.
I'm sorry.
So, what?
Was she a single mom, too?
Oh, God.
why are you spelling everything out what's up what race was she You already know.
She's a beat up, man.
Come on, bro.
You already know.
She was a beat up.
And the crazy part was her.
What city?
At 39, her son was probably like one or two, two.
Oh, man.
Wait, what city is this in?
You really want me to say it?
Yeah, this is.
Atlanta, right?
Atlanta?
Fuck no.
Okay.
Detroit.
Damn, she wrote a $600 bill in Detroit.
Yeah, man.
The food spots here in Detroit.
If you ever come here, Pearl, you know, from Illinois, you know.
They have swordfish in Detroit.
Hell yeah.
We got sharks.
We got all kinds of crazy stuff, man.
At least I know there's a good swordfish spot.
Oh my god, here we go.
So, you know, this is a safe place to tell these stories, Tage, because you know, never trust a man that says he's never sent.
Maybe there's, you know, a small one percent, but in the West, dude, come on, man.
So, you know, hell yeah.
So, yeah, you know, it's not about if you simp, it's for how bad and how long you've done it.
And it sounds to me like you got it all out of your system.
Did you try to hit at the end?
Like, when you did you drive her hot, I did, I did, I did.
Um, and that I'm telling more than I need to, but um, so after that date, I think like a week later, I was pissed.
I wasn't really talking to her.
She hit me up, and I also do like massages on the side.
And she wanted me to do a massage.
And uh, after the massage, she wanted to stay over.
And I was like, why do you want to?
She's like, it's late.
I don't want to.
So I'm like, okay, this must be a sign to like do something.
And I'm not a guy.
I think most guys are not a guy to like pressure a woman into it, right?
We've been conditioned, right?
So, yeah, it never happened.
Like, it like kind of hinted, I hinted at it, and she's like, nah.
And I was like, oh, okay.
But my cousin was like, you should have kicked her out.
I was like, I'm not that guy.
Did you think about splitting the bill at the end?
Did you like?
I did.
It came up.
It came up in my brain.
Yeah.
You didn't say it though.
I didn't.
So, can you walk me through?
So, like, so let's pretend I'm her, right?
And I say, oh, can I get the swordfish?
Did you, what, what was your reaction?
Was it silence?
Was it a look of disgust?
What, like, what was it?
It was, it was silence and bewilderment.
Like, it was like, I didn't know because this is not on the menu.
What the fuck?
How did you, what are you asking for?
Wait, wait, wait, wait.
I've got.
Did the chef or the owner come out and say hi to her?
Did he?
He might have.
Oh, bro.
I'm so glad I asked that question.
This is a funny story.
No, she might have spoken to him when I was in the bathroom or something.
I don't know.
I have no idea.
Wait, do you have any other dates, like L's that you've taken?
This is funny.
Oh, man.
Three, about three years ago, it was a chick, a friend had suggested.
Beautiful woman.
She looked like Sanal Lathan, but like younger.
And she had like a she had beautiful curly hair, very fit body.
She taught salsa.
Okay.
And she was a salsa dance teacher.
And pretty much we went out salsa dancing because I love to salsa and pachato.
And so we went out.
And later on that night, a friend of hers came in.
We leave that place.
We go to like two other places to dance because we were dancing pretty much all night.
That's what they do in the salsa, you know, salsa community.
They dance all night.
Anyway, so at the last spot, I find out that the guy she introduced me to that had rode with all of us, the whole group of dancers and stuff.
She was another dude that was interested in her.
And she invited us both out that night.
What?
Yeah, yeah.
Crazy.
Wait, so how did you find out?
Did he tell you?
No, she kind of told me.
Was like, yeah, he's a guy that kind of like liked me, but like, I, you know, I just, you know, before or after the interaction, she said it after.
Well, we were dancing, and then like after we danced, like the third place that we were at, we were, she told me.
And then the craziest part was, so it was, it was a bunch of women there, it was a bunch of guys.
Um, we ended up at this dude's mansion at the end of the night.
And she brought me in the bathroom.
I was like, she brought me, she took me by the hand and took me to the bathroom.
I'm like, oh, I'm about to get topped off.
I was like, oh, she's about to swallow me.
But she brought me in the bathroom to be like, you know, his name was Jose.
He was Hispanic.
He's like, yeah, you know, Jose is in there talking to blah, And he's just supposed to be interested in me and blah.
You know, I was so taken.
I was so out of it.
It was such a hard body experience for somebody who I told I was interested in, was aware of it, to bring me in the bathroom to talk about another guy that she had bought that was into another that would found another girl that night and they doing their own thing.
And why are you telling me about it like you can't win them all?
My brother told me, my older brother told me.
said you should have whipped it out and told her it was like hey it's party time ain't it i was like no so you know i i'm just gonna Was this another b dub or was she Latina?
No, she was a b dub so she could have passed for, she could bad pass for, like Dominican, but no, she was a b dub.
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This is Pre-leaf Dug NPA.
I've been black for over 40 years.
Man, you gotta avoid the b dubs.
Man, I know you're in Detroit, but move.
You said move.
That's crazy get, get away from these b-dubs, man.
There's no reason why any successful ambitious, young black male should even especially be dubs in Detroit.
I've heard the legends of the Detroit b dub dude.
You gotta come on man, come on.
And the crazy part is my, my mother was like, I guess, what you would call mixed race, and then my grandmother was white, my grandmother was a German woman.
So uh, I just wanted to, I guess, stay true to the, the original uh, sperm DNA.
You know well.
Well, we appreciate all the stories.
Once again, this is a safe place.
I, I think you got all the simp out of your system and just, you know just uh just, we really appreciate the stories over here man, thanks a lot.
No problem man, you guys have a good one, love your love, your love your platform.
And if you're ever in Detroit man, we gotta, we gotta hang.
Um, I know, you know Anton Anton, Daniel.
So oh yeah, you know Anton yeah yeah definitely, we'll all get.
Well, I'll get swordfish on you.
Oh, my God.
All right, buddy.
It was good talking to you.
Thanks for calling in.
Call in anytime man, that was a great call, wasn't it?
Guys, i'm telling you, we've all simped, all of us have simped.
So so you know, try not to judge this guy too harshly man, he's 31.
I mean, come on now.
I wasn't judging.
I mean, it's just you can't date without taking some L's.
You don't think the women you took in on dates simped for some guy?
Yeah.
Like, come on.
You know, that you know, the girl he took on a date was letting Chad, Tyrone, Glock, Tavy.
You know, it just happens.
You know what I mean?
Like, she was doing the same shit.
Not maybe not with money, but you know.
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How about all these new people letting in Alex, the banking counselor?
What's a banking counselor?
Alex, are you there?
Hey, can you hear me?
Yep.
Hey, Alex, how are you?
Hey, Pearl, how are you?
I've been following you and your content now for about man, I want to say probably I think I found your content right before the pandemic hit.
So it's been a little while.
Well, I'm glad we can finally talk over the phone.
So pretty often they get a call in here.
So how's it going?
What's your answer to the question?
Where have all the men gone?
Oh, man, that's a pretty complex question because I feel like there's two aspects.
You have pre-pandemic, right?
Talking about the last decade, you know, the introduction to the online dating app scene and its evolved, you know, evolving revolution type of deal.
And then you have the post-pandemic dating market where I feel like a lot of people's social skills and expectations really have just been skewed.
And I feel like there's going to be a long-term reverberation effect of that going towards long-term relationships for the next 20, 30 years.
Not just in long-term commitments, but also in just, you know, engagements and, of course, the rise of the rise of divorces.
Could I talk more about you?
So, like, how is your dating life different now versus post like pre-pandemic?
So, uh, I put the banking counselor as a hashtag there, I guess, uh, because I work in finance, but I also, uh, before I got in finance, uh, was going originally going to go to medical school to be in psychiatry.
So, I do have a couple degrees in psychology and neuroscience.
And as far as dating goes, I'm 32 years old.
I've been single now for, I want to say, uh, five years.
I was in a long-term relationship with someone prior to that, right before everything happened with the pandemic.
And I think that especially guys in my age category, guys that are in between the ages of 30 to 40, I luckily haven't been divorced or knocked up the wrong woman.
So, knock on wood, been okay there.
I met like, how is your social, like, okay, in a given week pre-pandemic, were you taking women on dates?
Um, were you going out?
Oh, yeah, I would say probably going to be the same or different now.
Go ahead.
Um, I would say pre-pandemic, um, it was more feasible, I would say, to get like the initial meetup date introductory date, I guess, or like wanting to see do the few dates experimentally.
Um, and now it feels like post-pandemic, it feels like it's like trying to pull teeth when communicating with like a lot of the women in my area.
Cause I'm in, I'm in Florida and I'm in North Florida, to be more exact.
And it feels like I've learned at this age in my life, I can't, I can't, I don't go by what women say, I go by what they do.
And in this dating market, um, I've, I feel like because of what I do and like the crowds and associates that I have, there's a certain level of expectation that comes with being in an upper echelon of things that if you're not already rolling out, I feel like with guys my age, like if I'm not rolling out with my wallet first,
it feels like there's no initial like they won't get on the date with you, yeah.
And um, I mean, I've I've been in training, I've lost, you know, 60 pounds, I've been in jiu-jitsu, I've been like, you know, quote unquote, getting my shit together in my 30s physically.
And like, you know, I have a good career and, you know, I have great friends in a great community, but trying to find a decent partner stateside has been really calendar.
Can we go into like, so five years ago, pre-pandemic, I think it's five years ago now?
You got to stop saying that P word.
You got to say cough, cough, or anything, because if you say that the P word too many times, it'll flag the stream.
My apologies.
In a given week, were you taking more women on dates, less women on dates?
Would you have a similar close rate from today to then?
How is it different?
I would say pre-pandemic, and I'm just being straight up here.
I was more tolerant of being stupid as far as like managing my time and my money to convenience women for the hope of like closing the deal.
So like, you know, it was easier.
Like I would probably go on like, I would say one to three dates.
If it wasn't a week, it would be like maybe every couple weeks just to, you know, explore, try to not because I was trying to bag every single one, but try to, you know, siphon through trying to find a more compatible partner since I had moved on from my ex at that point.
And the more I attempted to do that, the more I found myself becoming nauseated with just how transactional it seemed things had become.
Like it was more convenient, but it felt like super transactional.
And now from that point to here, it feels like I have to like Pre-plan and fit things into a schedule in such a way that even if like something doesn't work out or it blows up in my face, like I'll still go out on my own and still have a good time.
And sometimes, like, that just I'd rather not even have to like worry about that and not have to like, you know, waste my time and waste my money to not be able to build something organically.
And I feel like that's that's what's missing nowadays in a lot of the market today is I feel like having organic conversations, like real conversations with people, even in a dating scene, because I'm no longer on dating apps.
I haven't used a dating app since 2017, maybe.
And I'm amazed at how, like, if you're not partaking in that machine, how much more difficult it can be to actually go out to like a cafe or, you know, one of those like, you know, more neutral spots, restaurants or something like that, to be able to cohesively interact and have a conversation with someone to meet someone organically and build something there.
Got it.
Got it.
Well, thanks for calling in.
Doug MPA, you got any other questions for him?
No, I just want to see, you got to put yourself, well, you're doing it right now.
Put yourself in a position where you can't be disappointed by dating.
So a lot, you seem to be like you have a lot of honesty and integrity up front, but a lot of women don't.
So ghost these hoes.
Yeah, invite women to do something that you're going to do whether they show up or not.
Good plan.
Thanks for calling in.
Appreciate it, guys.
Okay.
Who else is a new person?
Let's let in.
Okay.
Hey, Galvis.
Hey, Galvis, you're on mute.
Hey, Galvis.
Hey, Galvis, going once.
Hey, Galvis, going twice.
Hey, Galvis, going three times.
I'm going to put you back.
Hello.
Oh.
There she is.
Hold on.
Oh, we can hear you now.
Go ahead.
Yeah.
Hi, guys.
Hi, how's it going?
It's going great.
You're one of the two women watching, huh?
I bet there's more.
You're just shy.
Sorry.
Thanks for that.
Thanks for calling in.
So, what's your answer to the question?
Where do you think the men have gone?
I really don't know.
My guess is a lack of fathers in the household.
And did you just dig in worried about where are they, where the real men are?
Where the real men are.
Yeah.
Like providers, you know, not just financially, but, you know, protectors, you know, men, men.
Well, women ran them off.
How did women treat those men?
Badly, I guess.
Yeah, so that's the best bet.
The question is more to do with where do you think the men have gone that used to go out and take women on dates and stuff?
Do you think they're just not dating?
What have you seen in your?
It's not worth it for them to go out.
Yeah.
What have you seen with men you know?
Have you seen them stop dating or stop going out?
Yes, I encourage them, but they don't want to because I'm a mom.
Okay.
I have two girls.
I have a 15 and a 13.
So I could be your mom pearl.
Oh, where are you at?
In Houston.
Okay, you're in Texas.
Um, what's it are they dating?
Like, the because your youngest daughter's 15, do they even date in high school?
They're not dating anymore, like it doesn't even have to be your daughter.
I'm just kind of curious about Gen Z, like if the girls are like dating guys in high school or if they're just kind of anti-social, they're just friends, you know, they have boyfriends in school.
Um, what I hear from my daughter, they do have their dating happening at school.
As far as we know, she's not dating.
Um, so I mean, we think she should date when she's older, God willing.
But I encourage a young man that I am around, I encourage them to go out and ask women out and make eye contact and talk to people.
But that's very hard for them now.
Yeah, yeah, they've all they're the generation that's grown up on phones.
Yep, have you seen?
Um, do you mind me asking your age?
50.
Have you seen like the women you know that are like divorced and stuff?
Um, do you know any?
Do you have any friends that got divorced and they're in their 50s?
No, you don't know any.
There's no divorces in Houston.
No, there are, but I don't know for I don't have friends like that for some reason.
Okay, I was kind of curious if their experience was that men are walking away as well.
It's like the woman in the article.
I was just kind of curious because they would have seen the change over time.
The people that I know, Bernardo, my husband, he's also 50, and he's been his friends are divorced because the women have left them.
And are they actively dating or no?
The men, yeah, yes, okay, of course, quickly, sure.
And okay, so they're still dating at least.
They haven't necessarily are they doing like hookups?
Are they like courting women?
Like, what are what's what's the 50-year-old dating scene like for the divorced men?
I think they're doing both.
Okay, the social media platforms of connecting and going to bars.
I think both.
Okay.
Okay.
So it sounds like the guys you know haven't completely walked away from it.
The guys that I know, the people that have been divorced have been because the wife's left them.
Yeah.
Doug MPA, you got any other questions for her?
Oh, do these guys ever tell you why their wives left?
Were they legitimate reasons?
Or was it just a thing like they because most women leave for irreconcilable differences, and that's so gray because they think that the grass is green on the other side or life is too boring.
Was that the experience that these guys are telling you that maybe just one day she just decided to leave?
They've never shared why they left.
I didn't see reasons for them to leave personally because I know these guys.
I don't think it's right.
I know, I mean, knowing someone and marrying them is living with them is something different.
I know.
But, you know, marriage isn't marriages work.
You guys have to be in it to, especially when you have children.
You got to work things out.
But some people just don't want to, I guess.
Okay.
And then, so you encourage all the men you know, of young men you know, to approach women.
Correct.
How do you how if they ask you how to do it?
What do you tell them?
Just go up to them.
Just, you know, they're gonna say no next.
That's what I tell them.
Okay, cool.
Well, thanks for calling in.
Um, feel free to call in anytime, okay?
Absolutely, thank you so much, guys.
Great job.
Thank you.
Bye-bye.
Okay.
I think that's one of the few non-combative women we've had calling.
I know, you know, she's in Houston, Texas.
She sounds maybe like Hispanic.
Yeah, something like that.
So, Texas is great, man.
Houston, Dallas, San Antonio, Austin, great places, man.
Great people down there.
Okay, I'm going to try in Eneola one more time Eneola.
Thank you so much, guys.
Great job.
Thank you.
Eniola, we can hear you, but your YouTube's on.
One of the few non-combat Eneola, we can hear you.
Can you hear me?
Yeah.
Hey, how's it going?
It's going good.
Where are you calling out of?
What part of the country?
You can say the state.
Oh, the state?
Okay.
Texas.
Oh, I got a lot of Texans here.
So, what's your answer to the question?
Where do you think the men are going?
The more specific you can be, the better.
if it's men that you've seen either dating yourself maybe brothers friends of yours whatever um well to answer the questions i don't know It's kind of, I have like a couple of answers.
Like, sometimes I'll be go ahead.
I just said okay.
Yeah, I'm just thinking about it.
So, while you're thinking, what has been your experience out and about?
Like, when you and your girlfriends go out, do you get approached by men?
Do you usually go out by yourselves and sit at tables by yourselves?
Like, how is it out there for you while you're thinking about where all the like do you see a lack of men out there right now?
Um, no, not really.
Um, I mean, when I go out with my friends, uh, yeah, sometimes like me and my friends would get looks, but no, I don't know.
It's it's not really too often that I get approached.
Are you single, married, or dating?
I'm single.
Okay, and are you actively dating now?
Um, no, not really, but I'm just putting myself out there.
You're like, when's the last date you went on?
I can't even think of it.
Like a year, six months, three months.
If it's been that long, we can move on.
Uh, because it's kind of a lot of dead air here.
Um, are you still there?
Yeah, I'm still here.
Um, so so you see men out and about, so but when you see stories like the one that's in the New York Times, where these women are asking where all the men have gone, why do you think that these women are asking that question?
Like, well, do you think that their points are valid?
Um, yeah, I think their points are valid.
I mean, from their experience, but I mean, I'm sure they probably like passed up, you know, someone that could have been, you know, some like they probably, I guess what I'm thinking is that they probably passed up a really good relationship or someone that could have been that for them.
Okay.
Um, so do you want a relationship or do you see marriage in your future at all?
Yeah, I want a relationship and I see marriage in my future.
You want to have kids one day?
Yeah, one day.
How many?
Um, I would say three or four.
Okay.
And do you want to primarily focus on the children?
So, do you want a man to like be a provider of a protector type, or are you the 50-50 type?
Um, I would like a man to be a provider and protector.
Okay, so you said that you don't have a problem being approached.
So, where do you think would you go to be approached by the type of man that you want?
Probably at a coffee shop or the library, um, or I could be at like a lounge.
I don't really go out as often, so I kind of just go to the same places.
Are you on like the dating apps?
No, well, I download them because men aren't really approaching these days.
Yeah, I know, I'm just kind of shy.
Well, you got to get over it.
Yeah, your age group: are you like mid-20s, late 20s, early 20s, 30s?
Early 20s, yeah, yeah.
If that's what you want, you can eat it.
Are you in this?
Are you in school?
Yeah, I'm in community college.
I've seen that.
Is that common with your you, like your friends, where they don't really go on dates?
They're not the only one in Gen Z I've heard that from.
Yeah, I think it's becoming actually a common thing.
I mean, well, actually, now I'm thinking about it because even when I would see girls my age getting approached, it's either that they're just not socially awkward, but a little shy, or what are you going to school for?
Um, so I was going to school for pre-pharmacy, but I am going to change that up.
I'm not sure what to yet.
Okay, so um, I'm curious with your friends.
Do they um trying to think this how many close friends do you have close friends?
I would say around like four.
And of the four, how many are in relationships and how many are actively dating?
Um, so I have out of the four, I would say I have two that are in relationships or just dating.
I have one friend that um she's dating right now.
Um, that I don't know, I think she's not dating the person anymore.
I'm not even completely sure.
I was just curious where they're, I was just curious where they're meeting them.
Like if your generation, I haven't heard about a lot of people meeting the men you're talking about in the places you're listing.
They might be, but I don't, you're a little younger than me, so I don't know.
But from what I've seen, Gen Z meets all online.
And I was just curious if that's was your friends and your experience too.
Well, so that was one of my friends' experience.
And then the other one that was dating the other person before, she just met him on campus.
Oh, okay.
You're in school.
Okay.
Yeah.
You really need to take advantage of your time on college campus.
And if you want to, your best bet would be, especially when you transfer to university, because a lot of people don't know this.
If you start in community college and you transfer to a university, your GPA resets.
I went to community college.
Anyway, yeah, so when you transfer to university, you might want to find you one on campus because you will never have.
You should go pre-bed, go pre-bed or something really hard and just drop and change it after the first semester.
Sit next to the hottest guy in class.
And men with more potential than in college.
And so many women, especially your ethnicity.
But if you're the race, I think you are.
A lot of women, they fumble good men in college, and then they go back out here.
And you're around 50% less men at least the day you graduate college.
No, it's not true anymore.
It's like mostly women in schools now.
That's the one challenge they're going to have on university is you're probably going to be sharing a guy.
It's not really like it used to be.
Like when you were in school, it was more like they met people, but now it's mostly, I think it's like, when I was in school, it was like 60% women, and I think it's more now.
Yeah, I would imagine.
Well, and then you're, and then you're asking those guys to not bang the hot Punani on campus and settle down with you.
Good luck.
I'd get a dating app and go 10 years older.
That's what I would do.
But take that or leave it.
But there's still the engineering department, Pearl.
Come on now.
Engineers are still going to be engineers.
You know.
Yeah, but you can't make women are still going to be women.
You're not going to logic them into banging the engineers.
It's just not going to happen.
No, but what I'm saying is, is she can avoid all the Chad and Tyrone's on campus and hang by the engineering department.
That's what I'm saying.
She can.
She won't.
Like, you're trying to logic women.
Like, come on.
You're right.
You're right.
It's like the state takes care of the money.
They don't care about money anymore.
They don't.
They don't even.
Women don't even understand money.
Like, anyways.
What do you think about what we're saying, Ediola?
I mean, I think.
Yeah.
Hang out by the engineering department.
It doesn't matter what she says.
The school, the guitar player is going to sweep her off for me.
Gabby, you started to be there.
Sorry, go ahead.
Yeah.
So, I mean, where do you think?
Like, I guess where do you think I can meet a lot of good men?
Or are they just everywhere?
If I were you, this is what I would do.
I would get in the best shape.
I would treat getting in shape like a job.
My biggest regret in my early 20s was being chubby.
There's no reason to be chubby.
Look up the BMI for your height.
It's accurate.
Don't believe anyone that says it's not accurate.
If you're overweight, don't know if you are or you're not.
I would literally, I would take it so seriously, I would take a semester off to get it done and work at a gym.
That's how serious I personally would take it.
And what I would do is I would, once I'm in the right weight, I would put a dating app 10 years older in a place that has a high net worth.
And I would filter it so it's really low distance.
The dating coaches I've talked to say it takes about 15 dates to find someone you like.
And that's what I would do.
I would set a schedule where there's a certain amount of dates you're going on a week until you find someone you like.
Doug MPA, you can do a different strategy.
I'm just saying that's what I would do.
You got to think about this whole school thing.
With 70% of the student loan debt is women, don't put yourself in a whole bunch of debt.
Yeah.
That will disqualify you from consideration of a change relationship or marriage.
Then, you know, I asked you if you wanted children, you want to be married because if you have four kids, I mean, what good is your degree going to be anyway?
So you should be using school to literally to get an MRS degree.
Or find yourself a guy in school.
Or I don't know if the I think, Doug, it's not really the same now in school as it was.
But if you, if you do go, if you do go the school route when you transfer, I would do a really smart major that you know you're going to change and just get in the classes and sit next to the hottest guy.
There you go.
And then change it.
Make it like gen eds or something and then just change it.
And then it'd be great.
You could ask him to tutor you or something.
And just men love it when you're smarter than them.
So even if you understand it, just pretend like you don't and have him explain it to you.
There you go.
You can take that or leave it.
I'm not saying that'll work.
I'm saying that's what I would do.
All right.
Well, thanks for calling in.
Yeah, thanks for calling in.
Yeah, of course.
Have a nice day.
Let us know how it goes out there.
I will.
Yeah.
Do you know what?
I actually want to go on a tangent before you do the next caller.
Go for it.
My biggest regret, do you know what it's like to look at pictures from your early 20s?
I recently got in shape, like in better shape than I was in.
I never was all out obese, but I would like, I just was chubby.
And I'll tell you what, guys, the biggest mistake, the biggest regret I ever had, like what I would do if I was 18 again, I knew I had eating and like issues.
I would have taken a year off of school and lived at home and literally dedicated all my time, energy, and understanding to understanding nutrition and how to cook, how to meal prep.
I would have did that for a year.
I would have worked at a gym part-time so I could do it both.
It doesn't need to be a long-term thing, but it's like, once you get to a point where you can count calories in your head and you know exactly what you're eating, it's so much, oh my God, it's so much easier.
But you have to go through this terrible process of counting calories.
And it's such a boring, tedious, annoying process.
And I'm the type of person where I have to focus all my energy on one thing to get it done or two things.
But anyways, because let's say, look, I'm not here to tell you what to do.
If you want to go be a mother, that's how you're going to get kind of get the hottest, richest, whatever you're into guy to settle down with you.
There's nothing men don't like more than fat women.
Okay, that's number one.
Number two, let's say you say, Pearl, you're full of shit.
I want to go be a party girl.
Well, if you're going to go be a party girl, get on the best yachts.
If you're going to do it, do it.
Get the best yacht you can get on.
You know what I mean?
Don't party in Columbus, Ohio.
Go get a very good butt, get some abs, and get on a yacht in Miami or something.
Now, I'm not saying you should do that, right?
But all I'm saying is, as a woman, there's nothing that'll get you further than being hot.
There's really not.
And women, we keep seeing these BBLs and stuff, but it's because women just can't figure out the nutrition stuff.
That's the hard part.
Let's say you want to go, you know, work in, I don't know, sales or make a lot of money.
Well, if you're really hot, you can go be a pharmaceutical sales rep. Or you could go be a bottle girl.
Do you know what I mean?
You know, it's there's nothing worse than wasting 18 to 25 chubby.
It's nothing worse.
It's like paying in hard mode.
Well, what's worse?
Spending 18 to 25 chubby or spending 18 to 25 getting some lesbian dance theater degree and putting yourself $75,000 debt.
What's worse?
Okay.
Look, I know there's worse things, okay?
I know there's, I'm not saying it's like the end of the world, but all I'm saying, all I'm saying is what I would, I would just, I wish someone sat me down because when I was 18, I was like, no, I want to play, I want to get this volleyball thing.
And I was, you know, you know, you're thinking about all these things because you're young.
There's all this stuff you want to do.
You want to experience like all this.
You know how it is when you're young.
You think you can do anything.
But whatever you're going to do, like I would take it so seriously that if I was 18 again, I would literally, and when I got demonetized, I kind of did this.
But I would literally spend all of my energy and my mental like problem-solving ability.
Usually if you're fat, it's because you can't count calories or you can't cook.
If you can afford to eat out and just eat like Chipotle every day, but you probably can't.
So I would just learn to cook.
Yeah, so that's what that's it.
I would tell you.
Oh, okay.
Well, Ronald has been waiting a long time, so we'll let him in.
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We really appreciate it.
They said you need a man to train you.
Sorry, sorry.
They said you need a man to train you.
Well, that's totally fine.
So go to the gym and find one.
I recommend a bodybuilding or jiu-jitsu gym.
The only thing is bodybuilding.
I should probably jiu-jitsu.
I've never done jiu-jitsu, but I've heard.
Anyways, go ahead.
Ronald, are you there?
Ronald.
Ronald going once.
Ronald going twice.
Ronald going three times.
I'm taking you out.
Okay.
Wow, we've so we have okay.
And then I'm gonna let is this the Gabe?
I'm gonna let him in for a couple minutes.
Gabe is coming in.
It says joining.
And then next person up is gonna be Katie.
I think we have we're gonna break the record for women calling in tonight.
I know.
Wow.
Can't believe it.
Gabe is still joining.
Gabe, are you there?
This is the nicest women have been to me in five years.
Gabe, you're on mute.
Hey.
Hi, Doug.
What up, Gabe?
What up?
So tell me, where have the men gone?
Because you got four minutes.
We got a full call line.
Go for it.
Pearl, what did you ask?
Where have the men gone?
There's four different answers.
First off, either they're being rejected countless, constantly friend zoned or sacrificed by me too and cancel culture.
And that's the only explanation I can think of.
I'm sure there's more, but okay.
Yeah.
Cool.
Anything else?
Oh, no.
All right.
Thanks for calling, Gabe.
Pleasure as always.
Always good to hear from you.
Wow, that was short.
Okay, we're going to let in Katie is coming up.
Katie is joining.
Katie, you're on mute.
Katie, are you there?
Katie, K-A-T-Y, you're on mute.
Katie, going.
Do you think I should find God this year?
I'm 28.
That's the time to do it, isn't it?
Or maybe at 32, I should find.
Yeah, it's coming.
Maybe I'll come out in a nun outfit one day.
No, no.
The first is having a big cross hanging between your cleavage.
Oh, my gosh.
I do have a cross on today.
Yeah, you got to do that.
Katie going once.
Katie going twice.
I'm going to put you back in the waiting room.
Okay, we have.
I'm going to tweet that.
Should I find God today?
We have I Pet Big Women.
I pet big women.
Are you there?
There we go.
Yeah, what's up?
What's up, Doug?
MPA.
Wait, what's going on?
Wait, why is your username I pet big women?
Are you a chubby chaser?
It's my COD tag.
And I was like, you know what?
Let's do it.
Let's go.
They love it down on Xbox.
Wait, so but you didn't answer the question.
Are you a chubby chaser or what?
What's up?
Oh, no, no, no.
Sure.
The gamer tag is a fun little backstory.
So basically, I tell people it's a side hustle.
And I say it starts at 200 pounds.
And for every pound she is, that's a dollar a minute.
So she wants to get pet.
You know, she's a good 250, then she's paying 250 an hour.
And if we get group, we get a, you know, three, 350 ladies, three, we got Tree Fitty right here times three.
We give them a little group discount, you know?
We bring it down to a thousand.
Do you know what?
How much would you, how much would it cost for you to bang a 350 pound broad?
Like, not pet, like, banger.
How much does psychotherapy cost these days?
All right, man.
I pet big women.
Where have all the men gone?
What's that?
Where have all the men gone?
All these women are wondering why I answered that question.
Before I answer that question, am I allowed to cuss it all if it's in good taste?
Yes.
Okay, cool.
So I'll tell you in a little bit of a fun little vivid storytelling way where all the men went.
So when they look at, it's more of in response to this is what happened where it started with the women.
We have, they walk in the door, half cooked, evidence lacking, conclusions, all that one, like the 50-year-old perfectly comes to mind.
All she was missing was some baritone in her voice.
But as Kevin Samuels would have put it, I know you're both fans of them.
Put your dick up.
Like that, that woman definitely was rearing for a fight.
And it's really weird because that's how women are, a lot of women, not all, not all, emotionally stimulated these days.
They like to get into, you know, little fights.
And, you know, it's fun for them.
But I don't know about you, but my favorite thing about women is, you know, that they're not men.
So, anyways, I kind of want to attack this from a little bit of a like, you know, like healthcare pathological angle.
It's very, I'd like to think it's an interesting perspective, but you guys can be the judge.
So, in response to women like her, there was a complete divide and it was an extreme.
There were the men on one hand who became more socially aware, and then the rest became like absolute simps.
They just dug in and like each side took their side.
And the ones who became self-aware, you know, developed themselves, compassion, nurturing, empathy, you know, typically stuff that you'd think women would be good at, myself included.
We piss a lot of women off because we got Mr. 50-year-old fight me energy, like who don't know how to do these things.
And I've seen it kind of not just once, but two big hand cases, a lot of small, fun little anecdotal cases.
But the perfect imagery I could paint with this is anecdotally, like I was engaged twice and both had borderline personality disorder.
Yikes.
And I couldn't pin it with the first one, even with my psych background, until the second one.
They didn't want me.
They wanted to be me.
Like they wanted what I had in fortitude and skills that they should have had, that they were failed in life for their gender.
Like me being with them was validation for their hot dog water personalities.
And simply because I was patient enough to try and help them and be there for them and, you know, do the whole let's grow together and, you know, like until I find it got to the point where I just want to peel my skin off.
And I think that's where the intelligent men went.
That's where the self-aware men went.
What do you mean where they wanted to be you?
Can you give me an example?
Like a specific she did this show.
Sure.
Sure.
So one that really, really stuck in my memory real good was I was mad at her for something.
Go figure.
And instead of taking accountability or, you know, acknowledging it, I had to like fight her for like four hours for her to like get it.
So I basically ended up having to console myself in the matter.
And it was a pretty serious subject.
But yeah, so she later came to me and said, I don't know how you do it.
Like I've watched the world knock you around and you still get back up.
And not only that, you know how to like heal the wounds.
And she's just like, I wish I could be like that.
And it was, it was, I'm very big on energy.
And I don't know.
It was like, I almost got this invoked feeling of pity.
Like I saw probably the most vulnerable form of her and either of them that I had seen in that way.
And like she, she went on to tell me that she was like jealous of the fact, even envious that I could handle these issues and like, you know, soothe myself.
And she couldn't do that for me.
She was like, I don't know how to do that for you.
Like, I don't, blah, Like, man, I don't know how many times I've said, instead of arguing with me or, you know, telling me I'm wrong, she asked more questions and, you know, take a good, take a good step in the radical acceptance direction and we'd probably get a lot farther.
But it got to the point where, you know, even her own family was like, yeah, I get it.
You got it.
Like, I understand that you want.
Like, I just know that exact situation where you're dating a relative and you're like, poor guy.
Pearl, the same aunt who said, I see the way she and her daughter like look at you.
Just hearing your name, it brings like the whole stars are in their eyes.
The same woman was like, yeah, I get it.
I don't blame you.
She even disclosed to me that there's a whole bunch of mental illness on that side of the family.
I'm like, you know what?
If even she's telling me I should probably go, like agreeing with me here.
Like she's had front row tickets for how long?
What am I going to not listen to her?
Like, no, that's, that's bananas.
But I think, I think that's where the extremes kind of sat.
There's the guys who are just like, you know what?
For what?
Like myself.
And then there's the other guys at the bottom of the barrel who are figuratively and literally getting their sacks kicked, you know, by these emotionally aggressive women and even physically domineering women.
And, you know, then you've gone two big deal breakers when a woman that I'm dating is when she outright disagrees with me in public, as in the women that want to get you told in front of everybody.
Oh, yeah.
They want to shame you.
And then the women that talk to you like they can beat you in a fight.
Those are the two worst kind of women.
Two worst.
Oh, my God.
Yep.
Too many women will talk to you like they can physically beat you in a fight.
And it's like, no, you need to stop that quickly.
Yeah.
No, I'm, I'm six foot and I'm, I'm so close to my goal weight of hitting 280.
I was the little tiniest kid in high school.
I worked for like over 15 years to be the size I wanted to be.
Finally got there, almost there, like near in there.
And I, the tone, like the amount of like baritone they will put in their voice.
Like, I know exactly what you're saying, dude.
Like, you look like you're about 160 and you want to square up.
Like, come on now.
Don't forget I can identify as a woman real quick.
Like, we, we can have these hands.
These hands are made of Eve or everyone.
Thanks for calling, okay?
Calling anytime.
Loved it.
Loved it.
Have a good night, you too.
All right.
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Katie, are you there?
I'm here.
What's up, Katie?
Hey, I'm so happy to talk with you.
I'm happy to talk with you too.
Hey, I am a Gen X.
Okay.
And my daughter has just turned 30.
And she's like 5'10, has beautiful long auburn hair.
I mean, she's just this great girl.
And I mourn for her in the current dating age.
I mean, she is just at her wit's end.
And she's asking the same question: where are all the good men?
Where are men, period?
Because she's tried all the apps.
She seemed to have done everything right.
I mean, she went to college and got like a vet tech degree, like a two-year degree.
Wasn't making a ton of money, but was doing what she loved.
She tries to go kayaking and go to the gym and do all these different things to meet people.
But she has very Midwestern values, kind of old-fashioned.
And the guys just aren't asking her out.
Well, does she have the dating apps?
Yeah.
Yeah.
She's done all that and she'll go on a date here, a date there.
Is she in shape?
She is pretty much.
I mean, I'd say she's a little overweight, but not terrible.
She's one of those that wears it well because she's 5'10, but not bad looking at all.
She's very pretty.
And I'd say she's like a size 14, 16.
You know, she's not like a size two or anything, but she's also real big and super obese either.
So she's, but she's chubby.
Okay.
A little.
Try to tell her to get on the treadmill.
I'm telling you.
Yeah, she's on it.
That's that's been her goal right now is like she's going to get to this hot summer girl, you know?
But it's, it's so has she ever had relationship in the past?
She did have a five-year relationship, but it was with this ultra-liberal, blue-haired guy who, if you even started talking about, you know, we're very old-fashioned.
We're very much Gen X. We're about, you know, gender being proper.
I grew up in a whole different time, it seems like now.
Yeah.
And I just, I mourn for these kids nowadays that are trying to date in their 20s.
There's no rules.
She's gonna, she's gonna have to start just giving it up.
Start sleeping with some guys.
I'm dead serious.
It's not gonna happen.
No gather guys.
Guys aren't gonna wait for a 30-year-old.
They're not gonna do it.
She's just gonna have to start.
She's gonna have to start sleeping around.
That's it.
Go ahead.
I'm dead serious.
My question to you in the chat was: if you could define the perfect woman, say in her late 20s, if you could describe that for her, what would you describe that perfect woman to be?
What is the woman that men are going to choose?
A thin one.
She's got to get on the treadmill.
I'm dead serious.
I'm telling you, I was chubby.
I did start.
I mean, the attractiveness part I get, but like, what should her goals be for like work?
I mean, if a woman's single, she's got to work.
Got to feed yourself and keep an apartment and that kind of thing.
But other than just how she looks, who is she supposed to be?
Okay, okay.
I have a couple questions.
Does she want a husband or a partner?
Does she ever use the word partner at all when she talks about she wants a husband of kids?
I mean, her, just now that she's just turned 30, her clock is ticking.
Like, she really wants a family.
She wants a home.
She wants the white picket fence, the whole nine-year-olds.
And the guy doesn't have to be rich.
I mean, just a decent blue-collar guy would be great.
Why did she spend five years with some blue-haired liberal guy?
Has she figured that out yet?
Because I think she's finally figured that out that that's really not the way to go.
I mean, she had this idealistic, hippie, super liberal experience in college, and she thought that was the way she wanted to go.
And honestly, I think she wanted a guy that she could kind of control.
And he was that kind of guy.
There it is.
I knew because she probably still has that controlling aspect of her personality.
And it comes out when she starts talking to guys and getting to know him.
Because, look, guys, we could tell the type of women who want to control us.
We can just tell by the way the terms they use, the way they navigate conversations, and she probably comes off as controlling.
Well, and what I hear from the dating coaches is it takes an average of 15 dates for women to find someone they like.
So, like, you know, is she doing 15 dates a month every two months?
You know, it's kind of a number.
She's only doing one or two a month.
Yeah.
And, and the thing is, with the apps, there's no way she's not getting asked out.
If, like, there's no way.
Even like, I've seen overweight women get like tons of matches, you know.
Yeah.
Like, a lot of young conservative women, they get in this trap where they, their father is conservative and they want a conservative man, but they still want this 50-50 equality garbage.
So they want to be with a man in uniform or like a man that'll protect the vibe, but they still want this equal thing.
Is that your daughter?
Yeah, she's a lot like that.
And I've been pushing her in the other direction.
Now, because I myself went through this, I am 52 years old now.
My husband's 58.
But when I was in my early 20s, I grew up in Eastern Iowa, very conservative, married very young, actually, probably too young, had two children.
And unfortunately, my husband had mental health issues, some pretty serious mental health issues that didn't crop up until his 20s.
So that was a roller coaster ride we had to get off of.
I mean, for our own safety.
But then here I was, a single woman in her mid-20s with two kids.
And I was also overweight.
So it was like, I knew I was done.
I knew I wasn't dating.
I knew I wasn't going to find love and marriage in the white picket fence that I wanted.
That just wasn't the reality of the situation.
So I raised my kids by myself.
And I was very extremely lucky and counted my lucky stars that I found an older man who was a widower.
And I thank his late wife every day because she broke him in, so to speak, to be a wonderful husband.
And we got married about five years ago.
And I've never been happier in my entire life than to be a married woman.
I live out on a small farm.
I have horses and dogs.
And I had cancer a few years back.
And he married me even after his wife passed away from cancer.
He dated and married me.
And I beat stage four squamous cell cancer of my throat five, six years ago.
And now, you know, he married the girl with cancer.
It's amazing.
But I have this fairy tale story.
And I've been trying to.
Why would you say that she broke him in to be a good husband?
Why would you say that?
She really did.
I mean, they go to talk about that.
Most men are good men and husbands before they meet a woman.
He did have conservative values from the very beginning.
But just the small things, you know, that people go through when they're first married.
If your daughter hurts what happens when you're first married, he had already gone through all that.
And I'd already gone through all that.
So it makes sense.
Odds are, you saying stuff like that is probably what contributed to your daughter having the viewpoint on men that she has.
You don't want to say that type of thing about a good man.
Don't even joke about that kind of stuff.
You're very probably right.
You're probably right.
That is an old saying that probably should just die, I suppose.
Don't say that, please, because he sounds like a good guy and he did you very, very well.
He is a very good man.
And I say that all the time.
And I acknowledge that constantly and in front of my daughter because I think those are things that she needs to hear.
I mean, yeah, go ahead.
I mean, it's gonna partially be a numbers game for her.
Like, on average, it's 15 dates off of Hinge.
People are doing the dating apps.
I wouldn't really, like, doing all these activities and stuff is nice, but if it's not working, like, every dating coach I've talked to has said all roads lead to the dating apps.
Like, all of them.
And also, she's going to have to figure out this whole want a conservative man, but like wanting 50-50 thing.
She has to put that away.
She has to put herself in a position where she can find a conservative guy and keep her mouth shut and become the type of man that he wants.
That's the only way she's going to win.
Because odds are she has a mouth on her a little bit.
She has to say her freaking opinion on stuff.
She needs to put that away if she wants to get a conservative guy.
Yeah, but she's going to have to, she's going to have to get experience to learn it.
Like, she's going to be in dating too these days.
How long do you wait to have sex?
She's got three dates tops and she's got to start just giving it out.
I swear to God.
I'll tell you why, Kate.
They're not.
Yeah.
Men get to know women in two ways.
One, have sex with them, and then two, to audit them to see if their relationship material.
You can't move from, you can't, a man will not audit a woman for a relationship until sex has happened.
And you have to tell your daughter this.
If a man is just going to sleep with you and leave, he's going to do it in one date, eight dates, ten dates.
So, you know, three dates tops.
And she shouldn't be going out with men that she wouldn't sleep with.
But if she wants to get the show on the road, she needs to sleep with the guy sooner rather than later.
And when you're older, you can't really sell purity.
Like a guy might wait 10 dates for a 20-year-old, but at 30, he got like one and a half.
Okay.
You got like one.
Yeah, because he's going to think, what am I getting out of this?
And if he's not getting sex, he's going to, he's going to go somewhere else and assume she's going somewhere else.
Does she have any exes she's hung up on?
Like, you know, she might not tell you, but is there any like situation?
Go ahead.
She had a bad experience recently where she went out with a guy that was really creepy.
And then she went on one of these sites where these women all connect with each other to find out whether or not the guy's dating a whole bunch of different people.
Well, she ended up finding out that this guy's now in jail for sexually assaulting women.
And so that really scared her.
And I think she just is like taking a break.
But I'm trying to encourage her to get back out there and think of the long-term goals.
I'd say get on the apps.
And I would actually expect her, like, because if she's masculine, she's going to get dumped a few times.
And she's just got to figure out why.
And then sleep on the first date with the next guy until one sticks around.
That's all you got.
And also, the past 40, 50 years, women have been.
This should be, tell your daughter this too.
The past 40, 50 years, women have been saying to men, they don't owe men their time, their bodies, any of that.
Well, it's the same for men.
Out on the dating market, men don't owe your daughter anything.
They don't.
You know, they don't owe you, they don't owe her closure.
She's probably going to get ghosted, all that stuff.
It's all spare and love and war.
Understand I'm saying, so she, she needs to, and so that should toughen her up because she's going to get ghosted.
She's going to take L's, but the worst thing she can do is have one little heartbreak and then run away for two years.
She doesn't have that time.
If she gets ghosted or takes an LC, like they've been telling us men, you know, dust yourself off and get back out there.
If she gets ghosted, just next Friday, it's a new date.
And women have it easier than ever.
You can filter for, like, you can download Hinge and filter for just conservative men if that's what you want.
Yep.
Like you can filter.
That's a good idea.
You didn't realize that you could do that.
You could filter by height.
I mean, just buy the premium subscriptions.
Any guy that she would hypothetically sleep, you know, if she doesn't want to, don't do it.
But you're not going to get to the relationship stage if you don't kind of speed that up.
What would you say?
I'd say you give him three months-ish to commit.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Like to a relationship.
Yeah.
Here's the thing.
She has to take ownership of dating because here's the thing.
Situationships are where a man and a woman are in a situation where there's no labels.
A situationship is a woman's fault.
Because it's a man's responsibility to know if he's putting effort into a woman and he's not going to get sex from her.
But it's a woman's responsibility to end any situation where she's with a man and they're in a relationship, but she doesn't get the label she wants.
She has to cut that off.
It's her responsibility.
It's not.
That's what happened in her last relationship.
It was a very long, drawn-out situationship.
And she just stayed in it.
She's a very giving person, like going on dates and stuff like that.
She has no problem splitting the check.
She will give gifts to people just for fun.
She's a very, very, very giving person.
So I don't think that's ever been a problem.
She's not a money grubber.
She's not looking for a guy who's rich.
Yeah, but she would be with the guy.
You have to understand a lot of time when girls are in a situationship.
It's either because they're annoying to the guy or they're not hot enough.
So if she really wanted the guy, she'd lose the weight.
Maybe he would have been into her, but like guys work their whole life to get to a certain level and they're, you know, they don't want to chubby.
Because I'm around the same height.
14, 16 is pretty big.
Like, she'll just have to get on it.
Yeah.
Like, I would treat that like a, I don't know if she makes a lot of money.
I would get a job at a gym or something.
So you can kind of be around.
She works as a lab tech at a hospital.
Okay.
Wait.
So she's.
Some exercise there running around the hospital, but probably not enough.
I mean, if she loses weight, she's around doctors and male nurses and stuff like that.
She could, you know, if she just ups the attraction level, she could probably back them in.
I don't know if they're going to touch girls at work now, you think?
In hospitals?
Oh, yeah.
I guess you're right.
You're right.
You're right.
They do.
You're right.
Start giving Gluck Luck in the rooms and maybe she'll find a husband.
I don't want her to get fired, though.
It's only 15 minutes from the house.
So you could get another job.
This is a small town in Indiana.
So like everybody would know.
You know, maybe it's moving to a city.
You know, it's like the women that want to get married care more about getting the guy than their reputation.
Yeah.
Yeah.
We're only half an hour from Fort Wayne, Indiana, which is a bigger city.
Yeah.
So she's been traveling back and forth a lot for the dating stuff.
So we pretty much have to because we're in a tiny, tiny town here.
So she could try being a travel lab tech for a while.
There's a what?
She could try being a travel lab tech.
Oh, yeah.
Yeah.
That's an option too.
If you plus and tell her to study her blowjob skills.
Oh, my goodness.
Oh, gosh.
You think her mother would let her give her a class on that?
I don't know.
If you ever see a guy that's dating a girl that's like three points less attractive and you're like, how did she pull that off?
That's always what it is.
Yeah.
Honestly, if she takes interest in the guy's interests, she doesn't try to challenge the guy, you know, and she's half decent in bed, she's there.
But just once again, the biggest problem I've seen, I've said, this is the third time I'm going to say it.
She seems to me like she was a conservative guy, but then she wants equal say and wants to be 50-50.
And he has to know my opinions on stuff, which is why she would date that guy that she's with for five years.
She needs to be the type of woman that a conservative guy wants, especially if she's attracted to conservative men.
And to answer the question of, you know, where are all the good men, they're still there.
I honestly think they're all still there.
It's the women that have screwed it up.
And that is why I am such a big fan of this show.
I think more women need to participate and need to, number one, listen, not try to interject or say you're wrong or anything like that, but actually sit down and listen to what men have to say and what they want.
Because what they want, I think, is valid.
And this whole Me Too crap has ruined it.
And they've ruined it for themselves.
So that's basically why I love the show and I pay attention.
Yeah.
Thanks so much for calling in.
You're a good sport, so I appreciate it.
Give us an update.
And I will show my daughter.
Yeah, show her some Lana Rhodes.
You know what I mean?
Yeah.
Thanks, Curly.
Y'all have been great.
Right.
Yeah, at 21, you could sell purity.
At 31, it's time to sell the Gluck Gluck.
Yeah, a 14, 16.
Yeah, that's a no-go.
Yeah.
It's a no-go.
No, and the thing is, at my heaviest, I think I was a 14.
I know what that looks like, and you're not getting called back.
I'll tell you that.
Yeah.
Unless you're going to date a fat guy, they might call you back.
Yeah.
Afron, five.
And that's the thing.
Thank you, Afrin.
I appreciate it.
That's what I mean.
Like, maybe your situationship was just waiting to see if she lost the weight.
Yeah.
Some guys do that.
They have like a trait.
They kind of wait to see if you'll like improve.
And they're not going to tell you what to do.
So it's like, you don't do it.
All men do is just walk away.
They break up with you a lot.
They always talk about, oh, yeah, women will break up with a guy long before she actually leaves.
Well, guys kind of do the same thing, but at the beginning phase, it's like he'll disqualify you from relationship consideration, but still keep you around.
And you wouldn't even know.
You still think that you and him are building towards something.
And in his head, he's like, no.
Yeah.
Okay, let's bring in Nathan has been waiting for a while.
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Yeah, she was a single mama, too, and she found a husband.
I know she can glut his first wife, trained him, broke him into.
What's that about, man?
I'm so tired.
You see that disrespectful rhetoric?
Yeah.
Come on now.
All right.
It says Nathan is joining.
It says Nathan's joining still.
But she was a good sport, though.
I hope that she does show this to her daughter, though, because her daughter's 30.
I mean, if she loses weight and, you know, I wouldn't even go on it.
I would spend three months.
I wouldn't go on a single date.
You're fat.
Get on fat.
You have three months.
And then I would literally, if I found dates, it would be in the gym.
That's your only job.
Some reason, it says Nathan is still joining.
So I'm going to bring Sean up.
I don't think it's the Sean that normally joins because I don't see his thing.
Sean, are you there?
Yeah, can you hear me?
Hey, Sean.
How are you?
I'm doing well.
So where do you think the men have gone?
Yeah, so I mean, I think the men are there.
I just think the women kind of choose to not see us.
We're like highly attracted to them.
Or we're highly attractive to them.
And I'll give you an example.
At my workplace, we just had like the new interns come in.
And there's like five guys, and one of them looks like Super Chad.
And the other four look like just regular guys.
And you got five girls.
And all the girls want to do is basically gather around the super chat guy.
And the other guys are just off to themselves eating lunch together.
And it's just very obvious that the girls are like, we'll double back for those other guys if we're like 30 later on.
But for now, we're going to go for what we want.
So I think that's just how things kind of play out.
Girls kind of want to go for their first choice.
And then only when they kind of have to give that up or they become more realistic, you know, getting kind of a nudge from their parents or people around them that they need to settle down sooner than later, then they'll kind of double back for a quote-unquote reliable guy, a nice guy, instead of the hot guy, right?
Yeah.
Yeah, I agree.
Doug MPA, you got anything?
What's your age group, Sean?
I'm 34 actually.
Oh, so yeah.
So, yeah.
All those young guys, all they have to do is hit 35 with no children and not being married, and it all changes for them.
So, if you see those young guys, they're like, oh, I wish that was me.
Tell them to keep their head down until they hit 35.
Yeah, I mean, I would add on to that.
Like, when you're 35, but you also have your stuff together and you're in shape, then I would say you'll do a lot better.
But, like, if you haven't done anything for yourself and you're 35, like, they're not going to look your way.
Yeah, yeah.
You're cooked.
How has dating changed for you in the past five years?
And, like, going out and stuff.
Go ahead.
Yeah, I would say dating has gotten better as kind of like my net worth has kind of gone up, my social status has gone up.
I would say it has gotten better, but I would say kind of post cough cough to, you know, Doug MPA's point, I would say there's a lot more of an anti-social vibe I see amongst a lot of the girls.
So it's easier for the ones that are more motivated to date them.
But for a lot of the girls, you know, especially in their 20s, they just don't seem to be as motivated to date that I would see, you know, before kind of the great scare kind of happened.
Like prior to that happening, like approaching girls was a lot easier.
People were a lot more open to conversations.
Now it's just like everyone either has their earbuds inside or they're scrolling through their phone.
They can't really be bothered.
So it's somewhat easier, but it's also somewhat harder, I would say.
Okay.
Yeah.
How many dates do you go on a week or like in a month?
And like how often do you go out now versus before?
Yeah, I would say I probably go on about four dates a month now.
So outside of kind of like work and going to the gym and things like that, I try to go out at least on weekends to try to meet folks at bars and things like that.
But I would say most of the dates I meet are either pretty much through dating apps or it's through Instagram from people I met in person, but then, you know, followed them on Instagram, kind of make my sort of Instagram profile kind of like a dating app showcasing my life and then messaging them that way.
I found that's a lot easier way to get them on a date than asking them out directly.
For whatever reason, you know, nowadays it's easier to ask them out that way than to just ask them for their number directly for whatever reason.
So yeah, I mean, that's kind of how things are playing out at the moment.
Cool.
Doug MPA, you got anything?
I do not, Sean.
It looks like you have all figured out just, you know, the young guys have learned that they got to start.
They're learning early that part of the meal experience is taking those L's.
So just let them take the L's at work, okay?
Absolutely.
All right, buddy.
Good talking to you.
Thanks.
Okay.
I'm going to bring up Polismo.
Paul Simo?
No, I don't know Brett.
Are you there?
I'm here.
I'm here.
Hey, where are you calling out of?
Where am I calling out?
Columbus, Ohio.
Oh, cool.
Midwest, too.
I did not miss that you chatted out Columbus a little bit ago.
Did I what?
You were talking.
You debased Columbus, Ohio a minute ago.
Well, not a minute, but like, I don't know, maybe 45 minutes ago.
You were on a tirade and you were like, Hey, you know, you know, Columbus, Ohio.
Oh, did I?
I might have.
Sorry about that.
You did, Earl.
Either way, I love you, girl.
You're wonderful, and I'm a big fan.
Well, thank you.
So, what's your answer to the question?
Where have all the men gone?
This is a two-tiered question.
There's old, older men, and then there's younger men.
Okay.
The younger men are completely fucked.
The older men have completely, the older men have completely given up.
I'm 49.
I've been divorced twice.
I'm fucking done with women.
But I have kids, and I kind of get all the benefits.
The younger men are they are well and truly fucked because they want kids, they want families, they want all these things.
But modern women, like they, I mean, I don't know.
They're basically diffusing bombs trying to get that for their for their lives.
They don't know what the hell is going to go off in their face, you know?
That's my observance.
I feel horrible.
I have a son.
I mean, he's seven years old.
I have a son, and I am horrified by what he the world that he's walking into.
I don't know what to, well, I don't, and I don't even know what to tell him.
I don't even know how to start training him.
The worst part about it is wait till he gets into school and you see how much more that they emphasize the girls over the boys.
Because I have friends who have sons and they keep having to go to the school.
Like, where are the resources for the boys?
It's a bunch of women that are literally trying to push the girls over the boys and are treating him like the boys are inherently bad, inherently evil.
It's crazy.
So, just watch out, man.
It makes you be an advocate for your son in public school, man, because you're going to be the only one that cares.
No, and I appreciate that, Doug.
And I've actually seen it already.
I get out there.
I go to all the parent-teacher meetings and everything, and I get up there and I yell at those people and stuff.
But they do.
Everything is geared towards the women or girls.
And like they have girls' night after school thing, women's appreciation and all this stuff.
And they don't have dog dick for the boys.
There's literally nothing.
They don't do this stuff for boys.
The boys are the evil ones.
So, you know, I don't know.
I take, you know, I take my boy out.
We go out on boy dates and we do our thing.
You know, I mean, on a personal basis, you know, I, you know, I talk to him about how valuable he is and how awesome he is and stuff.
But yeah, society is not going to give him that ever.
But as far as, yeah, as far as like the men going their own way, yeah, it's older versus younger.
The younger are, these younger boys are so screwed.
Unless something really major changes, you know, they're in a real bad spot.
The older ones, like myself, I'm 49 years old.
I mean, I have kids already.
I have no use for a goddamn woman, you know?
I'm so sick of these.
And no offense to you, Pearl, or any other woman out there, but like, I hate these hosts.
Yeah, I just have no, I have no use for it anymore.
Like, what the hell is like some like hysterectomy, like, whatever woman gonna like offer my life?
Um, I have a quiet house.
I have a quiet, peaceful place for my babies to come to when I get my days.
Uh, like, like, why the hell would I introduce like, I'm not an 18-year-old anymore.
I'm not, like, hyper hormonal trying to hump everything, you know.
Like, I don't know what like some woman would benefit me at this point.
Well, you can at least, you can at least smash like, I don't even really care about smashing anymore at this point.
Like, I mean, like I said, I'm like, I'm pushing 50, you know?
Yeah, I'm pushing 50 here.
Like, I, I, I, my, my, like, my imagination is the hottest, like, I can conjure up the hottest woman in my, in the world in my imagination.
Like, spank it.
Oh, you spank it in the shower if I needed to.
You know what?
That's the worst.
You're losing to imaginary women.
Well, no, but why wouldn't I do that and then just only have to deal with that imaginary woman for you know 30 seconds as opposed to dealing with an actual woman for however long?
If they ask you, what's where's the craziest place you've ever had sex?
I say my mind.
That's the craziest.
Yeah, because I can do anything in my mind.
But if like I, I, you know, I pull in some woman, uh, then, you know, I'm stuck with her.
And like, what the fuck does she even bring me?
Like, honestly, I like, like I said, I'm almost 50.
If it was some woman that, like, I don't know, she could bear another child or something.
She was of childbearing age still, then, you know, maybe, you know, I might, I might entertain that idea.
But outside of that, it's like, why the hell do I need a woman in my house?
I was talking about how men have woken up to because men, if you're, if men will make money, but now we get to consider our time.
And that's what you're doing.
You just, you're, you're taking your time back and you're just making sure time is the one thing that you can't get back and you're just making sure that it's going towards stuff that's benefiting you and your children instead of a woman.
Yeah, no, I absolutely agree with that.
I think that time is a thing, you know, but time, I don't, I don't really care a whole lot about time.
What I care about is peace, quiet, just harmony in my home.
And I don't, you know, in my experience, I just haven't had a lot of really good, I haven't had a, I haven't had a lot of good experiences with like a woman bringing peace to my home.
Generally, it's chaos and just garbage.
And, you know, I don't really need it.
I'd rather just have, I'd rather just have peace and quiet.
My babies running around doing their own thing and everything.
And yeah, I don't, I don't need a woman.
Yeah.
Okay.
Totally.
Okay.
Thanks so much for calling in.
Okay.
Call in any time.
All right.
Big fan, Pearl.
Thank you.
Much.
Um, there was a super chat.
I think I missed it.
What's up?
Yeah, what's up man, you know just, another day in the life, where have all the good men gone?
These women are asking, where have they gone, Shiv?
Um, you know uh, they've gone, uh to the strip clubs and to to uh only fans, and they've gone to prostitutes.
They've gone to list crawler um, they've gone to uh spinning plates, you know they've gone.
They've gone everywhere.
Chev, have you noticed a difference?
And it's interesting because you date more than you did five years ago.
But um maybe, maybe for your friends, would you say, they're dating more now than five years ago.
Um, have you noticed any that like exited the dating market?
Um yeah, so it's, it's interesting.
It just, I think it really depends on, I feel like everyone who is a late bloomer.
Like for me, I was just like such a workaholic, you know, all I cared about was work and um, and so for me back then, like I didn't get a lot of dates or girls uh, but now I do, because I now have like stuff and like a personality and i've like done the work.
I find, like all the guys back then, who all they cared about in college was just getting laid.
They got way more girls back then and now they're all struggling.
They haven't.
They haven't been laid in years, really.
So guys, that is it because they're losers, or well, it's because the same things that work when you're like 18 to 21 don't work when you're 30.
like uh when you're 21 you can get away with not having a job and not having stuff and living at your parents house it's really hard to get away with that at 35.
You know, at 21 you can get away with, like paying zero dollars.
I'm not saying you have to spend a lot of money, but like you can.
It's really if you don't have your own car, if you don't have anything, that that stuff just gets harder as you get older, in my opinion.
I I mean look, I don't know Doug, you tell me, I don't know, if you uh, you have the same experience, but I, I find that as you get older, girls will put up with less uh, less bullshit uh, on on the career front, what so?
I'm just trying to understand the question.
So, as you get older, women put up with less.
No like, like my friends who got, like all they cared about was like sports and like getting laid in college.
Like now that they, like are 35 and live at their parents house and don't have a car and like are unemployed, oh yeah 100 yeah, they're not getting laid at 35, but at 18, in college they were, because they were an athlete, you know, and all they cared about was getting laid.
And then for me, all I cared about was like building a business and like work and money.
So I got, didn't get laid that much in, you know, my early 20s and now I i'm spinning like multiple plates, in fact it's like.
Now the problem is I can't fit them all my week, So, I'm like, now having to like split them up over three weeks now.
It's total night, yeah, total nightmare.
I mean, I have to like create like an advent calendar for them or something.
You're always better because we all had those guys that flamed out in high school or college.
Yep.
And they don't understand that life is a marathon, not a sprint.
And yeah, you know, I've gone back to my hometown multiple times and I saw the guys that were popular in high school and stuff, you know, working at the tire place.
You know, yeah, so it's true.
And you guys, you're better off keeping your head down in high school, keeping your head down in college, playing the long game, getting a highly valued skill, highly valued trade, highly value education, because the qualities it takes for you to get those three things are what will make you attractive to women for the long term in the long run.
And even better is that when you get to 30, 35, 40, 45, and you've done the work and you've done the hard work.
I'm dating those college girls.
Yeah, they might hook up with the athlete, but they're also hooking up with me.
So, so like, so just remember that.
Remember that.
So, that's that's really the despair, right?
My college girls are screwing like three dudes at a time.
You might as well be one of them.
That's what I'm saying.
But like, it's better in my shoes where like I can still go get that 21-year-old hot girl.
Yeah.
You know, but like if you're 35 and you have no job, unemployed, you're out of shape, like everything's just going bad and you have no car, no, no, whatever.
It's like, you're screwed.
You're not, you're not gonna, you're not even gonna get a 30-year-old woman or a 35 or 40-year-old woman.
Like, you're maybe you can get a 50-year-old woman if she's down bad or something, but like, you're, you know, it doesn't work the other way around.
So, yeah, my advice to guys who are in their 20s, do the work.
Trust me, it's a headache anyway.
Don't waste your time.
Women are the biggest distraction.
They'll ruin, they'll ruin your life.
So, you might as well get your life ruined once you have some things in place.
Okay, thanks, Shib.
I was going to talk to you.
All right.
I think we're going to wrap it up.
We're almost at 10 o'clock.
Yeah, it's so we still have one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifteen people on the call lines.
Oh my goodness.
I'm gonna have to come up with a prioritization system here.
But this is a really good topic.
This is great.
Yeah, totally is.
Well, do you have any final thoughts you want to do on the topic, Doug MPA?
You know, I'm just going to say it again.
Women have told men for 50 years to leave them alone, but they knew not what they did and what they were asking for because now it's a staring contest.
I think the only way out is for women to start approaching men, but they're not going to do it.
The most powerful women I've ever dated, surgeons, you know, C-suite women, lawyers, they'll do everything except approach a man.
And then they also buy into this don't approach me, Rhett.
So they're unapproachable, but they won't approach.
Once again, feminism has freed women up from being barefoot in the kitchen, but feminism has also freed men up from their traditional massive responsibilities.
If you're in a major city and you make about $60,000 a year, you can live a good single life as a man.
You can have your apartment, you can have your video games, you know, you can, you know, have enough money to take a girl out every once in a while, get laid.
You can live a good life.
Yeah.
So men are just taking their time back and asking what is in it for me.
And it turns out a lot of times that there isn't a lot for a man in dating.
Got it.
Yeah, I agree.
Yeah, I think, you know, men do a natural cost-benefit analysis.
And now, I mean, they're just realizing that the juice isn't really worth the squeeze.
And I can't blame them.
I really can't.
Thanks so much for watching, everybody.
Thank you so much for all the callers.
It's really you guys that make the show having good callers.
So I really appreciate you calling me.
I'm just going to say, sorry if we didn't get to you this time.
I was trying to get, I think we've had four women on tonight.