Pearl Davis critiques modern marriage narratives, exposing how divorce laws—with 74% of cases initiated by women—often devastate men financially and emotionally, leaving them homeless or without custody, while systemic misandry and female-led instability (e.g., "boomerang girls," abortion advocacy) go unchallenged. She contrasts this with influencer Drew Afawalo’s 8M-follower platform, which profits from anti-male rhetoric, arguing women’s superficial confidence or hateful content is rewarded while men’s contributions remain undervalued. Her own YouTube demonetization and 18-month unemployment after a single complaint underscore perceived bias against male perspectives, yet she insists self-improvement—fixing small mistakes, reducing insecurities—builds real confidence, not external validation. The episode reveals how cultural shifts prioritize women’s autonomy over men’s role in societal stability, leaving lasting economic and relational consequences for men. [Automatically generated summary]
Most answered very quickly, no, because men are useless.
This headline from The Hill, it caught my eye.
Most young men are single.
Most young women are not.
Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America over the last 40 years.
It's a different world now.
Like, we don't need men the way that they used to.
I need men!
The future is female.
Men and women are drifting further apart, and society is crumbling because of it.
A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.
You've kind of got the TradCon versus Red Pill thing.
This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.
Oh, you need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.
Marriage is a bond, and it's a sacred bond.
It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.
Now, many of the red-pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married.
Hannah Pearl Davis, or just pearly things.
One of the most controversial faces in all of the internet.
She goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men.
Because if me and you were in a business contract, you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave.
Gee, what could go wrong there?
74% or something of divorces are initiated by women.
Men have everything to lose, primarily their own children.
Men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws.
I had no idea that courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.
Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.
You need no evidence.
When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for, and you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.
I interview them on the other side.
I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.
How much did you spend trying to get him back?
The legal fees alone was about 200,000.
Before you know it, you're homeless.
You're literally just thrown out into the street.
We absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women.
Wives are taught to leave their husbands, and then daughters grow up without their fathers.
Family is the foundation of a society.
Every problem in society comes from single mother homes.
A lot of women will just chase this negative rapid hole of happiness, endless happiness.
Feminism's biggest failures is it lies to women.
We tell women to date as many guys as possible.
We tell them to put off family into marriage.
You are allowed to leave your perfect husband.
You are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend.
Oh, freeze rich, have an abortion.
What?
You're evil.
I don't think there's anything else in life that we actually ever go into preparing to fail.
Like if you have the mentality of this is going to go wrong and be pessimistic, naturally the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail anyway.
It's self-sabotage.
And that's the thing.
Like women are so willing to leave marriages because they're not happy.
This is not about happiness.
The most important thing is the children.
And the problem is we have a modern society where it's me, me, me, my feelings, leave when I feel like it instead of doing what's best for the kids.
This myth that we live in an age of male privilege.
Where's my male privilege?
They think, well, men have all the rights.
They have all the power.
Privilege, patriarchal system that we have.
Why doesn't our society care about men's rights?
I have no friends, no wife, and no social life.
Men are alone in this situation.
Men are homeless.
Men are thinking about eating guns.
I've seen so many men on the brink of suicide and they didn't do anything wrong.
How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and die to defend the country?
The men are the ones that build and maintain all the infrastructure.
Women are helplessly dependent upon men.
The so-called deaths of despair from suicide, overdose, or alcohol, three times higher among men than among women.
Culture is telling men, you are no good.
You gotta get your act together.
I think men have failed themselves.
What kind of a man are you?
What kind of a woman are you going to attract?
If men are in trouble, so are women.
Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.
Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man.
500K, 500, 300K, 300K, 200K.
Am I crazy?
Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man.
If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them.
So, you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?
Women.
I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.
I don't want to be a strong, independent woman.
I'm over it.
When is it going to be my turn?
Where are we meeting the men that don't?
I can't keep having these same conversations.
The only simp here is you, Pearl.
You sent for women.
I think you sent for women.
She's a provocateur.
She says stupid stuff, but Pearl is right about this.
It's already happening.
It's just not out in the open yet.
Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale ending because men don't want a wife and women can't find a husband.
The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future.
We're going to population decline and our economy goes into decline.
Civilization will crumble.
The American story does not end well.
This is an existential crisis failing young men.
What's going on, people?
Welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily here on the Audacity Network.
I am your host, Pearl.
And the conclusions I have come to on this channel are from my experience of interviewing a thousand women.
I went from very blue-pilled, pretty idealist, almost trad con, to pretty much black-pilled after interviewing a thousand women.
And what actually amazed me was how many women, the level of just subtle misandry women are allowed to say.
And the men around them don't check them at all.
And if anything, we're rewarded for bad behavior.
So I wanted to put this documentary together talking about my findings when it comes to the family court system.
But YouTube throttled my channel and demonetized me the past year and a half.
I was literally doing this show for free, unemployed for a year and a half, unfortunately.
Because of one angry woman, she decided to flag all of the videos on my channel.
She got me demonetized.
And I spent a year and a half trying to build this thing back up.
So if you can, there's two ways you can support me in case I get kicked off of YouTube again.
First, obviously, you can super chat while we are on YouTube.
The second is we have a GoFundMe for this documentary.
The link to that is the second one in the description.
And the first one is a members-only community where I bring on the smart, intelligent, famous, and non-famous men that I know.
And it's a one-time lifetime subscription.
At some point, we are going to raise it, but this is what it is right now.
And it's basically you buying into the fact that this is going to be a career for me and that you will get, I will bring people into the school community, the paywall, to give presentations on different topics.
I do have a very vast network and I am open to suggestions.
So if you know the people in the community have somebody that we want that they want to sign up, the cool thing is, if you did support me in the past year and a half, I did include your subscription.
If you joined before, I think it was like the 15th of last month.
I did include your subscription.
So you should look for an email from us because then you're automatically added into the school community.
But yeah, I think that's it.
So, so today we're going to talk about this Drew Afawalo lady.
And this is a crazy woman.
And unfortunately, crazy women are allowed to have platforms.
Now I know what you're thinking, Pearl, but you shut up.
Okay.
Start.
So I do try to start my show by saying no, simping in the chat.
I am taken.
So please, you know, if you're here to, if you're here for anything but information, I'm here to deliver the news.
Other thing, we are 40 subscribers away from 2 million.
So it'd be kind of cool to hit it this stream.
There's 300 of you in here.
So, okay, so Drew Afualo is basically a woman that is making money off of her look.
Now, it used to be the case that only hot women could make money off of their looks, and life was really better that way.
The media used to cater to men, and that's why you, when you would see women on TV, you would see Megan Fox, Margot Robbie, and because movies used to be made to appeal to men.
But the problem is when movies are made to appeal to women, the women get uglier.
So, when you ever see a movie and the bombshell is like 32 with small boobs, and you just think, why?
Why is this a thing?
Like, why is she not hot or she's supposed to be the love interest?
It's probably for women.
And so, what we've seen is the rise of influencers that are but ugly, right?
And so, the way they do this is you have mid-women or below-mid women that either do misandrous content, girly content, sex content.
An example is Call Her Daddy, right?
She's a six getting better outcomes than she should.
And essentially, what society is trying to do is to convince men to lower their standards.
And it's totally working because every single one of you are accepting things today that 100 years ago, your grandfathers would not accept.
So, this is working.
Like, we can't, I can't even act like this is a bad strategy because it's working.
And this is a 300-pound woman who has started a podcast, and it's all about hating men.
Yeah, 32 in an A cup is hot.
I know.
Okay, so we're going to watch this.
This is Drew Afualo on, can you believe this?
She got 30 under 30.
And the thing is, men care about accomplishments, inventions, and respect, where women care about basically getting a participation trophy.
And so, what's happened is companies have realized they make more money off of women than men because women make 80% of consumer buying decisions.
So, they start just giving away awards to women.
And then, women pay to like be applied to these awards.
At times, women can pay to get these awards, where men care about hierarchy and like being important.
So, it's just two different things.
Let's see how many.
Oh, oh, we're at 45 more subscribers till 2 million.
You know, you cannot hide your fat body behind all that makeup that you're putting on.
Instead, go to the gym.
Nah.
It turns out lots of people can relate to wanting to just be really mean to misogynistic men, and that's essentially what it is I do.
I seek them out.
I platform them just to solely humiliate them.
And then I go about my Silly Goose tasks for the rest of the day.
Yes, queen, slay, slay, slay your enemies.
Raise up your army!
Take your rightful place upon the throne!
Do y'all want to hear some things?
Like, if you're there making this amazing thing, so she got 8 million followers off of doing nothing.
It's amazing.
And also hilarious.
It would turn your stomach to see what some of them joke about, laugh about, find camaraderie in.
And a lot of times it's violence towards women and others.
So I feel like it's important that we platform men who feel so boldly that they can say things like that on the internet with their face and clear view, their government names attached to it.
If you're going to post it, so am I.
So I like to think of myself as a tangible consequence.
I feel like my content has empowered a lot of people and it's, it's given.
And this is the thing.
She's a fraud because she hates men and we're going to talk about this.
But she's in a loving relationship where she's engaged, well, hating men.
So this shows two things.
One, that men are complete simps and will put up with anything.
And two, two, that she's a fraud, right?
She makes money off of hating men, but she says herself that she's engaged to be married.
What is that life going to look like when she has kids?
The strength and courage to stand up to these men on their own.
And they have many, many times before me, but especially after me, I feel like I get tagged in thousands of videos a day of people being like, I'm channeling Drew in this scenario.
And they're like responding to a mean comment.
That always warms my heart because I want them to know that they can do this without me.
they don't they don't need me to constantly do this in order for it to keep working most people um you know however they identify uh can relate to having a very horrible experience with men um You know, as dark and awful as that sounds, it ranges from.
Now, apparently she came at me like last year because I was, I think I, I think she did, but I would debate her, to be honest.
I don't think she could really hang, but she won't do it, right?
But so, okay, but so you get, what you get with these women, a lot of these influencer women, and I got to say, and I know this is hypocritical, but I can be a hypocrite, right?
I can.
I can and I will.
Influencer women are the worst category of women because one, they're very fueled by reputation and they're willing to use their audience to damage yours and go to no ends to do it, to spread lies, to whatever.
So these women, they get really big egos where they think they did something important, right?
When really all we did was talk on a pod.
Like, do you know what I mean?
Like, I feel like I'm humble enough to know that I'm very lucky to do what I do.
And I do really enjoy.
I love doing this.
But I have to be honest with myself and say, the world would move on.
You know, I didn't cure cancer.
I didn't invent some invention, you know, where she, she doesn't know that, right?
And that's the problem.
You get a lot of these.
I even saw like Candace Owens giving business advice once.
And I'm like, we got to stop convincing influencers that we're like business owners.
Because my father, my father, I've talked about this.
He's a real business owner.
Like he had a big company.
He doesn't.
And the thing is the most intelligent, the most intelligent man I've ever, I wish I could, one day I'll convince him to come on, but he's just so awesome.
He's just like the best person ever.
Someone said, oh, it's really immature how much you worship, but you don't understand.
I'm like, if you're just around him, he's just, he just knows he's just good at everything.
Anyways, but what's funny is like, because I saw that, right?
I just know that I'm not shit compared to the men that do things like that.
It's so much harder.
I mean, what me and Myron do completely different.
Even take Myron.
I mean, Myron invested in property.
Myron has all, he found a way to stay, employ people through demonetization.
I didn't even figure out how to do that, you know?
And men are just so awesome.
Like they just, especially when you get like problem-solving, solution-oriented men, they're just, they operate on like a different playing field, different level, right?
They're just very pragmatic.
Um, okay, so let me go.
I hate people.
I love makeup.
I love being a girl girl, that kind of stuff.
But I never thought to myself, I'm gonna do this because men like it.
I would always do it because I liked it, but I never took superficial podcasts.
Oh my gosh, sorry, I forgot.
I have an internet brain, I can listen to everything in 2x.
Sorry, it's like you're so beautiful or you're so hot.
I never took those to heart as much as I took things like, You're so smart, you're so funny.
You're so funny.
Yeah, the things about me that I've always loved the most have never had anything to do with my looks, which is why I think when I was in the throes of my pick-ney phase, if men would irritate me, that shit would wiggle inside me.
I'd be like, Hold on.
Like, it was almost like it would be like the mask.
Like, he'd be like, ah, ah, and then he had evil.
And he'd be like, ah, ah, and then he'd be normal.
That's how it felt for me because I feel like the pick me would flare up sometimes.
And then if a man got a little too comfy, it would go away immediately.
And I'd be like, you can go fuck yourself.
Yeah.
So I've always been really mean to men just because they fucking irritate me.
Which I tell people, I'm like, I mean, obviously, if you ever hung out with one, they're fucking awful.
Well, so let's talk about you being engaged to a man.
And I'm just curious about your dating life before that.
How long have you been with your now fiancé?
Okay, I'm gonna predict her dating life before that.
She took an L with a guy.
This year will be eight years.
Oh, a long time.
Okay.
So early.
She's again, this is fraud.
This is fraud.
She pretends to hate men while she's engaged.
She keeps women single while she does what's best for her, right?
20s.
Yeah, early mid-20s.
So how did he get in there?
I met him in high school.
Okay.
Yeah.
My prime pick-me phase.
Yeah.
Okay.
That's how that's how we met.
But you've like evolved together.
I just want to like.
Yeah, yeah, totally.
When we were in high school, we were friends in high school.
It's a real enemies to lovers arc.
I like to jokingly describe.
No, but we were really cool.
We were close friends in high school.
Went to different colleges, dated other people.
Did you date in high school?
In high school, no.
Oh, you just were friends, okay?
Yeah, no, he asked me to prom his senior year and I said no.
So he's 6'4 and you said no.
Oh, he wasn't 6'4 at the time.
And also, I'm just kidding.
He was 6'2 at the time.
Oh, my God.
Yeah, I said no.
I feel like I didn't care that much about height in high school.
I feel like I didn't become like a heightist.
You're five feet tall.
What is your GA?
I care a lot.
I was.
I was well aware of height because I've been tall my whole life.
So insecure about it.
Right.
I didn't realize men being tall and that being hot to me.
All right.
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Well, in high school, my fiancé is a very good-looking man, and he was that good-looking in high school.
So he got tall and handsome and popular in high school.
But yeah, no, yeah, but that's different colleges.
Yeah, that just had no effect on me and high school.
And honestly, I think that's why he liked me because my sister's a lesbian and I hate men.
So in high school, we were the only two people that weren't swayed by him at all.
Like, he didn't move me at all.
Yeah.
And I think he liked that about me.
I think he liked his looks, didn't affect me in any way, didn't make me treat him any differently.
And he was annoying in high school.
So there's that, which he would agree with.
And then we went to different colleges, dated other people, and then we took an L reconnected when I graduated and moved back home.
And he was like asking me to hang out.
And I was like, for what?
Because I was, I tell this.
Women love this.
They love to phrase it.
And it's never how it actually happened.
They always love to phrase it like the guy was chasing them and they had no interest.
That's like every feminist fairy tale, right?
The woman just had, it never usually goes like that.
Story a few times, but I.
But the guy, if even if he experienced it differently, he'll be afraid of her, right?
She's got a huge audience that, you know, jokingly.
Well, I tell the story jokingly, but it was, it is not a joke.
I was really mad at him for something I can't remember.
But so I wasn't talking to him for like two years.
And then he kept hitting me up constantly, constantly, constantly.
And then I finally caved.
And I was like, sure, we can go to lunch.
And then jokes on me.
I'm in love now.
So there you go.
I mean, it's not the best dating advice.
You could throw all dating advice out the window and just do nothing.
Just avoid them for two years.
Nonchalant.
Make them let you down.
I mean, I could literally live all other dating advice on the floor.
Oh, yeah.
I'm a real boomerang kind of girl.
My fiance was in the DMs for two years.
Yeah, literally.
And then one day I was like, I guess.
I'm horny.
That's how you get married.
No, we really need to kind of wear you down a little bit.
Yeah, after a while, yeah.
Yeah, okay.
So that's how you can tell they're with a simp, right?
Because women, when they see a guy as a huge, when they really want to be with a guy, they see it like if I don't do this, someone else will.
It's an opportunity, right?
That they'll jump on.
And I was completely ignoring him.
And so, and we've talked about it now.
And obviously we laugh about it now, but I've asked him like, what made you keep coming back?
Because like, cause he did was not starving for puss.
Like he could, he could get anybody.
He's very good looking, very charming, very smart, very capable.
We're 30 subscribers away from 2 million.
I saw somebody unsubscribe.
I was like, you guys are an asshole.
I love you guys.
I'm sorry.
I'm kidding.
But yeah, we're 30 away.
If you guys feel like it, feel free.
Like, and he's a very good person.
Like, he's always been a really, really good person, very sweet person.
He's just annoyingly handsome.
Like, who fucking.
Well, you both are.
You're a very hot couple.
Period.
Thank you.
But she knows it's one-sided.
I think even at the time, like, I asked him that, like, what made you keep coming back?
And he was like, I honestly don't know.
Like, and he told me too, like, something told me that I would regret it for the rest of my life if I didn't like patch things up with you.
He's spitting game.
Yeah.
Telling her what she wants to hear.
And like see you.
And he's like, and now I know I was right.
And I was like, all right, not too much.
Relax.
Okay, I was right.
One time in eight years.
Okay, sure.
Whatever.
We got a lot of questions about him, though.
Oh, yeah.
When we said, like, what do you guys want to know about them?
People want to know, like, how do you live at this intersection of I hate men.
I see all this terrible behavior online, but I'm with a man.
I'm marrying a man.
And by the way, Ashley and I make fun of men too, but we have like great fathers and brothers and friends.
Most do.
Most women who do.
And so this is, it's what happens is these women, they never get to experience the consequences of the real world until they're older and uglier, right?
Because it's actually the women that hate men tend to have really great men around them, bailing them out of their bad decisions.
That's usually how it goes.
Who hate men have great fathers, brothers, and men.
The bar is high for who around us.
Yeah, so we do think there's like great men.
Obviously, you found one.
So actually, but like, how do you live at that sort of like intersection of the two?
I mean, I think it's a lot simpler than people think.
I think people overcomplicate it.
It's just, you know, I'm not talking about you.
But it doesn't, it doesn't change the inherent fact that men are evil.
That is true.
Like man, man as a whole is evil.
Like just as women have aborted an eighth of the world population, and she's saying that men are evil.
One out of eight people dead because of women.
You're like lucky to be born nowadays because the most unsafe place you can be in your entire life is your mother's womb.
That's the most unsafe place.
Women, man.
As an entity, a general idea.
Men have inflicted violence and oppression on the world in ways that are irreparable.
Female queens were more likely to wage war.
The only difference is when women had power, women were very evil with it.
But the difference is that women weren't smart enough to get power.
That was the challenge.
Like, it's okay if we say that out loud.
It's okay if we say that men are inherently evil.
It's like, it's not all men, but for some reason, always a man.
Every time something terrible happens, always a man.
Like 99% of the time.
So I feel like it's a lot simpler.
We just don't count female evil.
That's how this narrative gets around is we don't, something's in my eye.
We like don't count it when it's a woman doing something bad.
It like almost, it doesn't count.
Than people may think.
It's, I don't hate my man.
I hate most men.
And for me, I think given what men have done to me personally, to people I love, and what have they done?
Tell me, what have they done?
The world as a whole.
If they all start guilty and have to work their way to innocent, it's not really a big deal to me.
I feel very like convicted in that.
It's very like, if you're not awful, prove it.
Quit talking about it and fucking do it.
Because the men who complain that they really hate hearing, like, oh, what about all men?
Oh, all men, all men.
A lot of this, not a lot of action.
Well, I feel the same way.
I think when people talk about, I mean, why do they have to prove themselves to a fat chick?
I mean, if you're going to say that, at least be hot.
You know what I mean?
It's like you have one job as a podcaster, one job.
Not be fat.
By the way, guys, we're 25 subscribers away from 2 million.
If you want to subscribe, feel free.
You know, you don't have to, but that button's right there.
Hit the like.
If you can't do that, feel free.
About white women who voted a certain way or have certain beliefs.
And it's like, I want to be the best white woman I could be.
But when you talk about it, you talk about those white women.
Yeah.
That's not, it is not me.
It's me.
Yeah, me.
Yep.
It's me.
Okay.
Those beliefs, so I'm not offended by it.
Exactly.
Like this good man is offended by the I hate men rhetoric.
That doesn't apply to me.
It's a very hit dog's holler kind of thing for me.
If it doesn't apply, let it fly.
That's how I feel.
When people talk about like, and what's something I sit at?
I'm a straight men invent 80% of the world's stuff.
They run like 90% of the economy.
Women have no idea how much easier men make their lives.
But the thing is, the problem is there's so much incentive because women make 80% of consumer buying decisions.
For men to sell to women, they're going to keep solving our problems for us.
I don't really see a revenge fantasy coming.
I mean, eventually we get too old and ugly, but they're going to keep inventing technology to put that off as long as possible.
They're going to keep inventing technology for women to have kids in their 40s.
And a lot won't, but enough will.
It'll sell hope.
That's what I see as the future.
Sorry.
Straight woman, right?
I'm a straight cis woman.
When they talk about straight cis women, when trans people talk about them, how they can be very harmful towards trans women, it doesn't hit me because I know I'm not one of those.
So when you're talking really loud and you're getting very upset at what I said, what did I?
Yeah, so basically you can let yourself go and get a cute guy.
Yeah, she did.
And that's why I get more black pilled every year.
Seriously, every year I get more and more black pilled.
I say that upset you.
And why?
That's a question you should be unpacking in therapy.
That's not a question.
Oh my gosh, we're 21 away.
Guys, we're so close.
I've been stuck at 1.9 million for a year and a half because they really tried to ruin my life.
You know, one of these days, I might just do a show on all of the ways women have tried to ruin my life and how they actually made me more sexist.
Not all, at all, but they actually over time made me more sexist.
A question you should be writing hate in my comments.
Like, and also the men who argue with me about that, or even women, it's very rare that it's women, but anyone who argues me about that, that's so harmful to say I hate all men.
That's how harmful to say.
Every time they say that to me, if I really were to dig in, that person sucks ass every single time, 100% of the time, all the time.
That person's awful.
That person is awful 100% of the time, all the time.
So, like, does she think she's great?
Like, this is the audacity of women.
What do you call, what do you call it at that point?
A pattern?
I'm thinking some of it is internalized.
Oh, my gosh, we're almost 15 away.
I'll do a happy dance if we hit 2 million.
Women, listen, I think that there's a great internalized racism, all the things.
Yeah, all those things.
And you are definitely one of the more outspoken people that I've like come across in terms of your book.
You call people out by name, you do it on Instagram and TikTok.
And I mean, you really stand up for like women's bodies and LGBTQ rights.
And I think a lot of people want to feel more empowered to do that.
I mean, people say, I remember this girl came up to me one night.
I was at Ash's comedy show and she was like, I could never do what you girls do, but like, thank you for doing it.
Like, I, somebody got a podcast, and she was like, How do you feel brave enough to talk about politics and things like that?
And I'm like, but that's what we've dedicated our lives through.
So I guess I'm curious for you.
Like, how do you feel that bravery?
Seems like you've always been this.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I mean, yes, that's kind of how I feel.
I'm just, I've just been like this.
Yeah.
But like for people that aren't, like, I think there's people that are like, I want to feel like I can say something and be outspoken.
So like, you were born a certain way.
Like, how can other people feel like that?
I get that.
Oh my gosh.
10.
Well, 11 more.
I'm rounding.
11 more subscribers.
Question a lot too.
Like, how do I make it even better?
Because this crazy bitch had helped me get there.
Thanks, Drew.
Stand up for myself.
How do I handle hate or criticism or whatever?
I can't stand when influencers talk about handling hate and the criticism.
You know, to be fair, okay, it is tough.
Like, it's different the first time it happened.
I didn't really, and I think one of these days, because I'm a lot more grounded now.
My boyfriend grounds me.
I won't lie to you guys.
But at the time, I didn't really know how to handle, like, there's three-hour videos on me on the internet, guys.
And it's not like I committed a crime.
You know, I just said my opinion and they might not like it, but and but for me to act like any sort of victim when I get to talk for a living is just so insufferable as a human.
I mean, you guys do the real jobs out there.
You guys are the ones paving the build, paving the roads, building the building.
I mean, there's men that probably watch my channel that have 10, 12-hour like construction jobs outside.
And for me to say, oh, I can't handle comments.
That's why I think blue collar they tend to be the most grounded, but I'll continue.
The way that I do, I liked, oh my gosh, eight more, eight more.
To tell people all the time, I know that I am the exception to the rule.
Cause like for a while, I lived at a very no fear.
Like I had no fear as a child and a teen, and that's not a good thing.
It is okay to have a healthy dose of fear, especially to protect yourself.
So I know not everyone is like me.
What I encourage people who are not like me, if they're trying to learn how to become more confident in their decisions and how they speak up for themselves, whatever it may be, I always encourage them to start small.
A lot of times, when people are very passive, five more, five more, and they let things happen a lot.
Things like if they get your coffee order wrong, if they say your name wrong, you're just like, ah, it's all right.
That's where it starts.
It starts at little things like that.
If you start standing up for yourself and advocating for yourself in little ways like that, you start to build your own confidence because you're like, I matter.
Do you know what women?
And I'm going to, for the two women that watch me, I'm going to tell you the things that will actually build your confidence up.
And actually, not this bullshit that they tell you on the internet.
When you have a problem, something you're insecure about, and you can do two things.
One, accept that you're a flawed person and that this is just, you know, it's, for example, it used to really bother me.
I was, I, I was messy, right?
It's just something I struggle with.
But when I just started saying, you know what, I am messy and no one could really call me that.
And then I started learning skills to help me in life.
That even if somebody like nags at me or whatever, it's like the feeling you get when you're improving on something that you're insecure about.
Nobody can take that away from you.
And it gives you a different type of confidence.
It's the same thing with for me, eating habits, like going to the gym, losing weight.
You might not be as thin as you want to be, but when you know you're actually taking steps to fix something you're insecure about, for me personally, and then at some point overcome it, for me, that's how I have always felt.
That's how I've always improved my confidence.
Not just this like majestical BS that they want to sell.
What I want matters.
The things I like matter.
Like my feelings matter.
All of those things matter.
Yeah, men don't want confident women.
Well, that's true.
But I don't think men, you know, you might say that, right?
And I think it's because in our society, when we see confidence, we see these women that are like boisterous and very masculine.
They got to be the center of attention.
Like men don't like that type of confidence, but you don't want a woman that's so insecure that's always asking you if you're cheating, for example, right?
That's a turnoff.
You don't want a woman that's so insecure that you have to be your only source of like everything.
You know, in reality, I mean, I'm not going to tell you what you want.
I've just, what I've gotten feedback from men.
Do you know what I mean?
So it's not really about an external confidence, but internal, because we're just naturally insecure.
And the less insecure you are, you know, you don't want to be like your girlfriend's nagging you about how she looks and saying, I feel so fat.
Like, that's just annoying, right?
What are we at?
Are we at two yet?
No.
I thought I saw some.
Oh my gosh, we are at two.
Yay.
Okay, we're going to do a, we're going to do a happy dance.
Okay, hold on.
I got to pull up the song.
You guys already know what song.
Now you're a single mom song.
You already know what I'm bringing up.
You didn't have second thoughts.
Now you're a single mom.
Now you're a single mom.
You said I'm a little bit of skin.
Don't care if you scare or not.
Now you're a single mom.
Now you're a single mom.
Now you're a singing.
Should have baby up.
Now, somebody wants to, all right.
So now everybody wants to ask me, and I will answer this question.
Because, you know, people will say, how do you have 2 million subscribers and only this many live viewers?
You have to understand live viewers, subscribers are like a different metric.
A lot of people, they always accuse me of buying them.
I've never bought a subscriber, even though Rolo slanders me with this.
I should sue for defamation.
I won't.
I won't.
Before he spurgs out on Twitter again or something.
But it's because you get subscribers from shorts and that'll up the shorts number, but it doesn't necessarily translate to live viewers.
And I do get a lot of subs from shorts.
If you guys clip me dancing and make fun of me, we're going to have beef.
Okay.
We're going to, there's going to be a beef.
But woohoo, 2 million subscribers, everybody.
YouTube unthrottled me.
All right, we're going to watch this for like five more minutes and then I do got to get going.
Matter when you start walking in the belief that they matter, even the most minuscule things like they said your name wrong.
They called you the wrong name.
They didn't say excuse me.
They got your order wrong.
Like when you start standing up for yourself that way, I think naturally over time it starts to snowball into bigger decisions, like bigger ways that you can send it for yourself.
If you can just rip the band.
You want more dancing?
I'll dance some more.
I'll dance some more.
Hell.
No, normally my lives are later.
I told a friend of mine, my guitar teacher, he puts on plays.
And I've been saying I'm going to put it.
I'm going to go to one.
Now, hold up.
Great song.
What an amazing song.
Oh, actually, I want to do another one.
Thought mommies in the club.
Savo.
Another one.
I think it was this one.
I was at the club the other night.
I was done a life chill at the club.
And I'm showing with this girl and she's dancing.
And it's about two in the morning talking to her.
And realize she's doing no shit like two kids at home.
I don't mind the two kids at home.
That's all.
I'm like, what are you doing in the club?
At two in the fucking morning on a Wednesday night.
Five mommies in the club.
She don't need a babysitter.
Color, babysitter.
She's gonna need a babysitter.
Five mommies in the club.
She don't need a babysitter.
Color, babysitter.
She gonna need a babysitter.
Five mommies in the club.
She don't need a babysitter.
Color, babysitter.
She gonna need a babysitter.
Five mommies in the club.
She don't need a babysitter.
She gonna need a babysitter.
I'm sorry.
All right, I'm done.
I'm done.
I'm done.
Thank you guys for 2 million subscribers.
Okay, tomorrow.
Have you guys heard enough of this fat chick?
I think we've heard enough.
Tomorrow I'm going to do another stream.
It's going to be a normal time, 7 to 9 central.
That's usually when I do it unless, I mean, guys, 7 to 9, sometimes I'll love family commitments or stuff, you know.
So on those days, I go a little earlier.
Clip me.
If you clip my dancing, we're going to have beef.
Okay.
We will beef, will beef so hard that you don't even know what to do with me.
Okay.
So I do have to go, but thank you so much for 2 million subscribers.
It's been really frustrating the last year and a half.
I basically worked for free for a year and a half.
And I don't, I don't know if you guys have ever been.
I'm sure some of you have.
You guys have way harder lives than me, but been unemployed.
And so it was just a very frustrating situation because I just felt like I was working so hard.
And I just was being like, I felt like I was being punished for it.
And it feels good to be back and actually have some progress because I've just been stuck for a while.
And, you know, I had to move.
I had to do all this stuff.
So thanks so much.
We also got our first school group member that joined after.
So thanks so much for joining.
By the way, people that joined the school group, I want to give you guys a time frame.
I filmed a bunch of modules.
There's like two more.
I'm waiting for the editor to get back to us.
And we're moving.
I don't want to say the city yet, but we are moving in the next probably month or two.
I don't have an exact date, but I have an idea.
So when we do that, once we're there, we'll have the new production team there and just a lot of things in place to really roll out content.
Probably July, August.
We can expect a bunch of stuff.
I'm hoping early next year I can do an event.
So anyways, thank you so much, guys.
Please like the video on your way out and subscribe to the channel.
Thank you for 2 million subscribers.
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