Pearl Daily’s call-in show dismantles the "modern women can do it all" myth, citing Congresswoman Brittany Peterson (who flew to D.C. with a four-week-old baby despite remote voting options) and workplace examples like flight attendants neglecting teenage twins or female cops seen as "virtually useless." Callers—including Chad Chattington (who dated 180+ single mothers, finding only 60-70% prioritized parenting)—argue women delegate childcare to others while claiming independence, contrasting it with men’s mandatory work-family balance. Evolutionary theories and declining marriage rates (25% of U.S. 40-year-olds unmarried by 2023) fuel claims that societal structures now let women avoid direct reliance on men, hinting at broader cultural instability. [Automatically generated summary]
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So, ever since the 90s, it's been pushed that being a mom is the hardest job on the planet.
You hear it all the time over daytime television and on these female-centered podcasts.
I mean, mothers have it so hard and they do so much that, hey, might as well, they might as well be modern-day superheroes.
This praise and social infrastructure has convinced too many women that they can have it all.
They can have the career and the kids and the lifestyle that they want.
This is one of the biggest lies ever told.
No woman has it all.
Like the late, great Kevin Samuels said, Life is about choices and trade-offs.
The mothers being able to have it all rhetoric prevents women from being prepared to handle the sacrifices that they're going to have to make when they make certain decisions, like having a child with a loser or paying a ton of money to have a baby when they wait too long to have one.
That's what we're going to talk about it today.
The myth that mothers can do it all.
You've seen more and more stories of women bringing their babies to places where babies really shouldn't be.
School and work.
These women proved time and time again that they didn't plan to have their child or they weren't really ready for the reality of parenting.
The biggest problem with these women is that they depend on everyone else while claiming that they are strong and independent.
They depend on friends, family, and the kindness of strangers to make it through life.
Many of their friends and family are emotionally blackmailed into helping these women, and society is told that helping these women is the right thing to do.
So I was inspired by this topic after just watching all these broads, watching all these broads in Congress bringing their kid to work.
All right, so Congresswoman flew to D.C. with her four-week-old baby to vote on a budget bill.
All right, Representative Brittany Peterson was elected to serve the people of Colorado's 7th congressional district, and she has gone the extra mile to do so, literally.
She flew from Colorado to Washington, D.C. with her four-week-old infant baby in order to vote on a crisis bill on February 25th.
Congress makes no accommodations for new parents, she wrote on a website on January 27th.
So while I'm recovering and taking care of my newborn at this critical time, it's incredibly unfair that my constituents will not have a voice in Congress until I am physically able to return to Washington.
Between January 13th, the last day her doctor cleared her to fly home, and February 25th, Peterson was unable to cast a vote.
She has been pushing for Congress to reinstate proxy voting for new parents.
So this is her.
There she goes.
Look at this.
Oh my gosh.
Unfortunately, I was.
Oh, my God.
Okay, wait, let me.
Let me refresh this.
It's being weird today.
Here we go.
Today, with my newborn Sam, who's just four weeks old, unfortunately, I wasn't given the opportunity to vote remotely after giving birth, but I wasn't going to let that stop me from being here to represent my constituents and vote no on this disastrous Republican budget proposal.
Republicans and Trump promised to lower costs on day one, and instead, their priorities have been focused on ripping health care away from kids, seniors, moms, and others who need it most.
And this is not going to save money.
It includes people like my mom who work for hourly wages but are still unable to afford health care.
When you don't have access to health care, you show up in the ER.
This is going to have a huge burden on our hospitals and unfortunately will have skyrocketing costs.
I agree, Sam.
Hospitals will bear this burden.
It also slashes snap, taking food off the plates for seniors, veterans, and kids, all to fund tax breaks for billionaires like Elon Musk while increasing our national deficit by trillions of dollars.
How can anyone show their face in their district after voting yes for this?
Thank you.
I yield back.
So not only do women use their babies for clout, they also use it for sympathy, right?
Okay, because now she's trying to say, poor me, woe is me.
I am a mother.
Okay, Congress introduced proxy voting as a way to keep its work moving forward during the pandemic, but discontinued the option in 2022.
Proxy voting was helpful not only for new parents, but also for congressional leaders who were caring for aging parents recovering from cancer or simply experiencing a flight delay.
Peterson and Anna Paulina Luna, a congressional representative from Florida, are working together to shore up bipartisan support to allow new mothers to remote to vote remotely for six weeks while they recover from birth.
Yeah, so this is again, this is like exactly the type of husband I would expect this woman to have.
But again, this is like the here's the thing.
I don't really care what women do, but please don't make it my problem.
When you're bringing your kid to the middle of Congress, now this is, well, I don't follow politics.
But if I did, it would be my problem, right?
In the meantime, Peterson was required to present to vote.
So though she is still physically healing from childbirth, Peterson flew in and stepped up to the podium to address Congress while holding a swaddled Sam.
She said, thank you, Mr. Speaker.
I rise today with my newborn Sam, who's just four weeks old.
Unfortunately, I wasn't given the opportunity to vote remotely after giving birth.
So again, this is a woman saying, I want special treatment because I'm choosing to have a child.
Men don't expect special treatment if they choose to have a kid, right?
They don't say, give me more special treatment at work because I'm a father.
No, they say, okay, I'm going to have to sacrifice.
Okay.
But I wasn't going to let that stop me from being here to represent my constituents.
At one point, Sam outlet a tiny, tiny yelp, and Peterson, who sounded slightly out of breath, calmly said, I agree, Sam.
All right, now she said, nobody fights harder than a mom, really?
Nobody.
Nobody fights harder than a mother.
Let me get this straight.
Soldiers at war don't fight harder than a mother.
Elon Musk, the presidents.
Okay.
Whatever.
Whatever.
Okay.
Caroline Leavette takes a picture with her baby at work.
Now, this woman is supposed to be conservative.
So why isn't she at home taking care of her kid?
This is a feminist thing to do.
All right.
So now this has erupted Twitter.
erupted.
She's bringing her baby to work.
And all the conservative simps in the comments, the best press secretary ever.
No, I don't really think so.
Like, I don't think the best press secretary ever is bringing her kid to work.
Now this guy, wait, so it's okay for her to bring her kid to work, but the lady in Congress can't.
So she's doing what average day-to-day stay-at-home mom or work-from-home moms do.
So you want a cookie.
The poor kiddo will never receive his mom's full attention.
There are downstream consequences to this.
Notice all the Christian nationalists are suddenly silent about this woman working and raising a family.
And, you know, then we got Michaela Peterson.
Now remember, Michaela Peterson was looking for someone to raise her kid on Instagram.
So we got this young woman criticizing this.
Obviously, here we go.
Caroline Lovett, it's undeniable that you're doing a fantastic job as White House press secretary, but I think you should quit.
There's nothing conservative about leaving your baby at home while you work a highly intensive, important, time-consuming role.
Going back to work when your baby is four days old is a form of neglect.
Babies, especially newborns, need their mothers.
And the conservative movement is stopped pushing this rebranded version of feminist ideology that says that women can do both because they can't.
Being a mother, especially a mother to newborns, is a full-time job.
Everything in life comes with sacrifices and trade-offs, especially being a parent.
What America needs right now is more present mothers.
We have enough girl bosses already.
Okay, so now Michaela Peterson says her kid is going to think, my mom is off.
Argument here.
The kid who's four days old is going to think, wow, I'm so happy my mom's a press secretary.
Okay.
Or the kid that's, let's say, it makes it to five years and now the kid's going to say, my mom's awesome.
At five, they're going to understand what's going on.
Like, kids don't care.
Kids don't.
Okay.
Let me continue.
All right.
Now we got a woman bringing her baby to a college class.
Also, guys, hit the like button.
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So Lincoln University professor goes viral for holding a student's baby during class.
The story of how a Lincoln University college professor ended up holding a baby during class was life-changing for a 21-year-old student who is finally able to take notes.
I've always wanted to go to an HBCU, so I decided what's better than the first.
So I chose Lincoln, said Imani Lamar, who is now a senior at the Pennsylvania University.
Two years ago, she was taking class with Dr. Aquil Dix in the health sciences department.
She had just come back from school after taking a semester off for giving birth to her son prematurely.
Lamar's son had to spend months in the need going to the hospital, seeing him and not being able to help him was really, really hard.
Christopher Murray, who Lamar had named for the father, had become her world and her schedule revolved around his.
When she told Dix she had to miss class because she couldn't find a babysitter, her answer was no.
No, no, he told me.
And I was looking at him like, no, I can't miss class.
I don't have anyone to watch my baby.
I'm not going to have one of my students miss class because they have no one to watch their child.
That's just not an option for me, said Dix.
Instead, he told her to bring her son to school.
That's my character.
I don't mind helping students whenever they need me.
Lamar had reservations about bringing her baby to class.
How would he react?
Would he be a distraction to other students?
Would he be able to focus?
So when Dix was started lecturing, something changed for Lamar.
She realized she could do this.
I never thought it would come to that.
To have somebody who's there for me really cares, it meant a lot.
Lamar is now a few months away from graduating, and she has two of her favorite guys, her mentor and now healthy-year-old son, to thank.
You have no idea how much this meant to me.
Oh, here we go.
Let's watch the full video.
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Tonight, we want to introduce you to a local college professor who's doing more than teaching health sciences.
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The story of how this college professor ended up holding a baby was life-changing for the 21-year-old student who was finally able to take notes.
Always wanted to go to HBCU, so I decided was better than the first.
So I chose.
Who got her pregnant?
Sorry.
Sorry, guys.
Which one of you put wood or wooden in the chat?
Now, 23-year-old Amani Lamar had just come back to school after taking a semester off for her child who was born premature and spent months in the NICU.
It was really hard every day going to the hospital and seeing him not being able to help him.
And it was hard.
Little Christopher Murphy, Dave Vermani's late father, became her world.
Her schedule revolved around his.
So when she told Dr. Kill Dick she had to miss class because she couldn't find a babysitter.
No.
He told me no.
And I just was looking at him like, no, I can't miss class.
I don't have nobody to watch my baby.
I'm not going to have one of my students miss class because they have no one to watch their child.
That's just not an option for me.
Look at it.
Dr. Dick said, bring the little guy in.
That's my character.
You know, I don't mind helping my students wherever they need me.
Amani had reservations about bringing her baby to class.
How would he react?
Would he be a distraction to other students?
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She be able to focus.
But when Dr. Dick started lecturing, something changed for Amani.
She realized she could do this.
I never thought that it would ever come to that.
And to have somebody who's there for me, who really cares and gently wants me to finish and finish strong, it meant a lot.
Imani is now a few months from graduating.
Exactly.
And she has two of her favorite guys, her mentor and her now two-year-old healthy son to thank.
You really don't understand how much this meant to me.
At Lincoln University.
I think he's going to smash.
We have no idea how much special treatment we get.
Lyle and Eric.
Because dudes want to hit all the time.
The dad better be careful.
She's spending a lot of time.
She's going to be like, oh, he's so nice.
He's my mentor.
Cooked.
Done.
Done.
From the fact.
Oh, here we go.
Okay, let's see what's next.
And by the way, guys, we're going to do a call-in show.
And this weekend, I'm posting the divorce documentary.
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I'm very excited to show you guys.
I'm putting it out on Mother's Day.
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We can make it Netflix grade level.
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So, you know, right now we're distributing it directly on our website.
That could change, right?
But as of now, we are in talks with some people, but for now, we're doing it direct.
Some people have been asking.
But, okay, let's see.
So this one's bringing her daughter to work.
Oh, my gosh.
Go back.
And as a single mom, this is something I've always feared becoming my reality.
Mainly because I thought it was.
Or I had to bring her kid to work.
Have you ever had to bring your kid to work with you?
Because yesterday I had to.
And as a single mom, this is something I've always feared becoming my reality.
Mainly because I thought it was going to be embarrassing to have to tell a manager that, hey, I can't take care of my kid or I can't find someone to take care of my kid.
So can you please help me help myself?
And that is the exact feeling I felt when I had to do that today.
But I'm extremely grateful and lucky that I have a manager who's not only a parent, but also an amazing person.
So they were extremely understanding of the situation.
My daughter was having the time of her life.
But when I got to work, I decided to pray and just try to find some clarity in this whole situation because I was extremely embarrassed, but also overwhelmed.
My daughter just entertained herself for the most part.
There's so many toys in my work and so many things to do.
So it was fun for both of us, but also a learning experience for me.
Have a nice.
So now we got women bringing their kids to work.
And here we got a woman adding a play area to the office.
So since women are going to be old mothers, single mothers, or childless, it's going to be kind of interesting to see what's going to happen in the next like 20 years.
Because women are going to keep out earning men in these useless jobs, right?
That's going to keep happening at work, right?
I really think these daycares might be semi-common.
If any of you guys have ever worked at a place where people like brought their kids to work, call in.
Let me know.
We're going to do call in, okay?
Ever wonder what it's like to bring your kids to work?
My dream is to actually have a kids area in the head office because 90% of the staff at Lexisor are women and young women.
They're eventually going to be mothers, and I think it would be so nice.
That company is going to go into the ground.
90%, Lord help us.
So, like, let's say we're expanding the office, and this whole boardroom area was a kids' play place.
It had like little video games, books, coloring things.
Yeah, I think that's the goal.
Let's go see Daddy over there.
Daddy's helping renovate the new office.
Come on, it's down here.
What, baby?
What is?
Oh, yeah, that's for cleaning.
They're cleaning.
So it's currently under construction here.
And, okay, let's.
Oh, come on in.
You may come in.
I just want to show you guys that there's going to be an area that if we don't use it, the kids' play place.
So, really under tits out with your kids in the TikTok is diabolical.
They're strapping with your kids.
Diabolical, man.
Construction here.
They're building out more offices here.
Now, can women, are there jobs that I could foresee being good for mothers?
Yeah.
Daycare.
Teaching, right?
Your kids got to go to school anyway.
Do you know what?
There was one mom in our area.
I hate to say this.
Her husband was a chef and she was a nurse.
And so she would do night shifts and she would, at the end of her shift, take the kids to school.
She was kind of nutty, though.
But okay, here we go.
Yeah.
Yeah, I know.
She looks like she's going to the club.
Women, right?
So we're going to put the link in the chat, guys, and then I'm going to do announcements while I wait for you guys to call in.
But we have a couple questions.
Do you know any mothers that actually had it all and did it well?
And what job did they have?
Or do you know mothers that thought they could have it all and then found out they couldn't?
A lot of women say they can have it all, but they really just hire someone to do it for them.
Do you know what I mean?
It's like, yeah, I can do it all, but then I throw my kids in daycare.
Well, I mean, they're kind of doing it for you.
Has a woman, has women leaving children?
All right.
Has women having children affected your workplace?
If so, how?
Did you ever have a coworker bring your child to work?
And did you ever bring your kid to work?
So feel free to call in.
I'm sure Doug MPA is going to come up first.
Let me know when he's on.
But I do have a quick announcement before while we're waiting.
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So Doug MPA, how are you?
I'm good.
How are you, Pearl?
I'm good.
So what is your experience?
Do you know any mothers that had it all?
No.
Not even one?
Nope.
All I know, I've met mothers who want to try to live the delusion of having it all off the backs of everyone around them.
Okay.
So the women that would say that they have it all, they won't talk about the sacrifices everyone has to make for them to live in that delusion.
So if they're able to work and have their high-flying career, odds are family members are having to help them with their kids, or they have a nanny, or the government is paying for something.
Someone has to pay for their shortcomings for not being there for their children, especially single mothers.
Single mothers, one of the biggest problems with single mothers is that single mothers make a unilateral decision that will affect all of the people around them.
And so, or if a woman is married, right?
Have you ever met a couple, Pearl, where the man is successful, right?
The woman's like a part-time worker or a stay-at-home mom, but she has some kind of side business or some kind of multi-level to marketing, and the guy has to feed her this delusion that she somehow contributes financially to the household.
And she's like, oh, yeah, my wife's business, and she's, and he has to delude her into thinking that somehow she's on par with him when she barely earns any money.
It's just people around them are contributing their time and effort for her to live in this delusion.
Yeah, and usually a lot of times, if she has a rich husband that's well connected, she'll give speeches.
Yeah.
100% true.
And everybody knows.
They're like, yeah, this woman isn't making any money.
The sad part about it is women will always use that mother trump card that being a mom is the hardest job.
So anything the husband does, he can be curing cancer.
He could be on an oil rig making $300,000 a year, risking his life every day.
And she'll say, I'm still a mom.
And that's more important than anything that you do as a man.
It's one of the biggest problems with these women.
They honestly believe that being a mom trumps anything a man does.
Yeah, and it's almost insulting because I'll look at like guys' life on like an oil rig.
Like there are jobs.
I think I listened to what is it, Mike Rowe.
Yeah.
He talked about the hardest jobs or like the most dangerous jobs.
And they're like, he talked about like fishing boats in Alaska where there's one did like two people that die every single time to get us crabs.
Nope.
But somehow being a mother is harder.
Go ahead.
The stats on the oil field in North Dakota?
No, I haven't.
What is that?
Yeah, I think it's like one or two guys die a week in the oil fields in one of the Dakotas.
It's insane.
Yeah, it's just women.
I'm telling you, they've been allowed to give themselves way too much credit.
And once again, women want what they want, and they're going to do anything to get it, especially these mothers and these that want to have a career and a lifestyle and they'll step on anybody.
They'll use emotional manipulation, anything to get what they want.
And then what's about it is that delusion becomes everyone's normal.
So the normal of the husband, the normal of the parents, the normal of everybody around this woman is making her seem like she can have it all.
Right.
Was there any callers or no?
Yeah.
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Hopefully you see this and I can bring you back up.
Put him back in the waiting room.
We have Esteban.
He's doing one second.
Esteban, are you there?
Hey, how's it going?
You're on mute, buddy.
Yeah, you got to unmute.
You got to unmute.
You're still on mute.
Esteban, you are.
There you go.
Hey, what's going on?
How are you?
How are you doing, Miss Pearl-Time listener?
How's it going?
It's a pleasure to speak to you as well.
What industry are you in?
And what part of the country?
I'm in the southeast.
I'm in Tennessee, and I'm a supply chain logistics manager.
Okay.
There's a decent amount of women in logistics, aren't there?
When I was in school, a lot of like, I met a lot of business majors that did supply chain that were women.
I don't actually know.
They're on the broker side, if you will.
And so, yeah, they're on the broker side.
They're not actually in like the distribution or the quality.
They're mainly the brokerage side.
So did you ever have any of them bring their kids to work?
Absolutely not.
No.
No.
Okay.
And did you know any women that really did have it all?
Have it all in regards to.
You know, they had a high-flying career.
And did you know anybody that did successfully do that?
Not both, no.
They were either one or the other.
They were either good wives and good mothers, and I know some, but they certainly had to make that a priority.
I don't believe women can do both.
I just certainly not of her own merit, certainly not without a ton of favors, either from her husband or society or what have you.
I'm not necessarily saying women shouldn't work or have jobs, but so, yeah.
So, did you know any mothers like personally that thought they could have it all and it didn't work out for them?
Yeah, all the time, all the time.
My mom was a stay-at-home mom, and uh, my dad was in the military.
And now, there were times where she had like a little part-time gig at like a bank or a grocery store, but for the most part, uh, she was a stay-at-home mom and raised her children.
So, Doug MPA, you got any questions for him?
Um, so you don't have a lot of women in your actual workplace, right?
Not in the actual workplace.
And the, like I said, I'm on the distribution side, the, you know, like I said, the supply, the warehousing, the distribution, the actual nuts and bolts of the logistics.
So, no, there's not a lot of women.
There's some, but like I said, they're usually upstairs in the office.
Like I said, more on the brokerage side or more on the HR side or that sort of thing.
Yeah.
When you were younger, did you ever work in a workplace where there were a lot of women?
And what's the difference between?
Yes, I did.
Yes, I did.
I actually worked for child support enforcement.
And how many times have you been cussed out?
Well, let me just say, I'll answer that, Pearl.
I will answer that.
But before I do, if you'll allow me just a minute, I worked for child support enforcement briefly.
And I got to tell you, that was the one job that I was actually good at that I regret.
And what I mean by that is, well, let me just, before I get to that, I was one of two men in the office.
The other man that was in there, he was the attorney for the office.
He was the attorney.
And he was an older, late, middle-aged, older man, very non-confrontational, just kind of like a pushover.
And he's the attorney.
The two ladies, my two bosses were women.
And they, surprisingly or shockingly, they weren't actually that bad.
But I had a couple of black women up in there that just, they're just hard.
They were just horrible people and just had attitudes.
And the ironic part of it was, go ahead.
You're right in my wheelhouse, buddy.
I'm black.
Be dumb.
There was a couple of black women.
There was a couple of black women in there.
One of them was a fat, uglier version of Angie Stone.
And I don't know how you can get much uglier than her, but she just had a bad attitude.
She just had a bad attitude.
And I really think she was mad that nobody wanted to touch her or actually have sex with her to give her a child to put them on child support.
That first woman, can I just keep it a buck here?
These bastard son, these pookies, these pookies of these singlehood rap mothers, they just got low-ass standards.
When I see these women, when I, and again, I'm just keeping it.
How can I always say somebody's going to do it?
Always.
These black women, I mean, black women are the fattest, are the fattest, most obese.
84%, 84% of black women between the ages of 18 and 34 are morbidly obese.
Just obese, but morbidly obese, and there's Negroes out there still having sex with them.
And I'm like, what this is why I don't mess with them.
I don't date them.
I never have.
I never will.
And anybody that don't like that, anybody don't like that.
It is what it is.
It is what it is.
I was SYS.
I was SYSBM and Team Snow Bunny from when my dad was stationed in Germany and I was a little eight-year-old boy.
So I just knew then.
But to get back on track, that's my little rant.
Yeah, like I said, I worked in child support enforcement.
And I'll never forget this.
This is a true story.
We would we would have to go to court to try and get the parties to try and work out an arrangement.
Okay.
And then it would go before the judge and you agree to this?
Yes.
You agree to that?
Yes.
And if somebody said no, then they would say, okay, you know, go back to mediation and y'all figure something out.
I'll never forget this.
In fact, I was written up and nearly fired for it because I saw a case where, because again, I don't know about other states, but in the state of Tennessee, if you owe so much in arrears, that can be an arrestable offense.
And you can have a warrant put out for your arrest and you can be thrown in jail.
Now, the person, the non-custodial parent, does have a right to have a hearing.
But when that happens, there's really no advocate on his behalf.
There's an advocate on behalf of the custodial parent, which a lot of times is the mother, but there's never a custodial, there's never any advocate.
In other words, the man that's in the that's been locked up for failure to pay child support, he doesn't have an attorney on his side.
And one day we were in court where there, true story, Pearl, there was baby baby mama number one, two, three, and four.
And I made a comment to baby mama number four.
I said, why would you get pregnant by this dude?
You saw, you see what he's done to three other women.
And Miss Timu Andrew Stone that I worked with overheard it and she didn't like it.
And she told the bosses, and again, like I said, surprisingly, my two bosses, they were two white ladies.
Surprisingly, they were very nice and very friendly to me.
It was mostly the black women in there that were mean and nasty to me.
And so, yeah, I said, this is something that I just can't do because, you know, just wrecking and destroying men's lives, Pearl.
So what you're doing, Pearl, is literally the second best thing next to sharing the gospel of Jesus itself.
So keep doing what you want.
I'm going to ask you.
So, what are the biggest differences between your work environment of all besides the no B dubs?
What are the biggest differences between working and standard?
What is the biggest difference between working in that environment with all the women and then working around mostly men?
Well, there's a lot less drama.
Now, again, you got a lot of Negroes that are raised by these single hoodrack mothers and they would have drama, but there was just no issue.
We could be men.
I was a supervisor at a union carrier.
And there literally, literally was, I think, maybe one or two women and they worked on another shift, but it was just all dudes.
And I'm no fan of Union shops, but I mean, at least we got things done.
And if we had any arguments or disagreements, we settled it and handled it like men and we spoke.
And there was just never any issues.
And again, I'm not saying necessarily that women should not be allowed to work or have jobs.
I'm not saying that.
But I will say this: they've certainly ruined the American workplace.
And specifically, ugly women have ruined the American workplace.
Because let me tell you something.
Feminism is nothing more than ugly women with no discernible skills trying to make themselves more important than what they really are.
There you go.
There you go.
And so, what they did was they invented something called HR, human resources.
And I call human resources the principal's office for adults because that's essentially what it is.
People don't understand that.
That's essentially what HR is.
The next evolution to HR was the DEI department.
That was the next evolution to it.
And one of the best things that our great orange leader is doing is getting rid of this DEI garbage, man.
It's great.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And thank God for Trump with that.
Estevon, let me ask you because I have a working theory about women in the workplace.
Women have brought these mindsets that aren't conducive to the bottom line of a company as making money.
So, example, one of the biggest differences between men and women is that women think that they deserve to be happy at work and have a job that matters, even if they have like a social work degree or no degree at all.
They think they have to be important.
Whereas men, we don't enter into the workforce at 16 years old, expecting to save the world, save the universe, be a star.
We don't care if we're happy at work as long as we get a job that we get respect at work and we have the finances to be able to support a family.
But women want everything else.
They want status in a job that has none.
They want to be placated to.
They want to be made to feel like they're important.
They want to be happy.
And it's just not conducive to the bottom line of a company.
What do you think?
Well, there used to be a conservative commentator, radio host.
I think he used to fill in for Rush Limbaugh from time to time.
And he was based out of Atlanta, and his name was Neil Borts.
Now, I haven't heard anything from Neil Bortz in a long time.
I don't even know if he's still alive.
But Pearl, he said something very, very profound.
He said, if I had a company, if I had a company, he said I would not hire anyone, anyone from any demographic that could potentially bring a lawsuit against me.
And he said, companies should actually have the right to be able to do that.
He said, companies should not be forced to hire people that are at a greater risk of bringing lawsuits against them.
And again, take that for whatever you want, however you think he, whatever you think he meant.
But I understand where he was coming from on that.
And we're going to get like 20 more seconds because we have a whole.
I'm sorry.
No, I didn't mean to ramble on.
No, no, go ahead.
Like I said, Pearl, keep doing your thing.
Forget all the haters.
And believe me, I know you know you have them.
Just know this, Pearl.
All the chicks that are coming at you just know the reason why they're coming at you is because they know you could take them in.
And that's not me simping.
That's not me simping, but it's a fact.
Some of the hate that I've seen thrown at your way, and I'm like, you're literally the only person really speaking about some of the things that you do, or one of the few, I should say.
So I know there's going to be some idiots out there saying I'm simping, blah, blah, blah.
But yeah, keep doing what you're doing.
Well, thanks so much for calling in.
Call in anytime, okay?
You got that.
And next up, we have, we're going to do we're going to do Iman.
How's it going, Amon?
Iman, you're on mute.
Got to unmute, guys.
Iman, you're on mute.
Iman, I'm three, two, one.
I'm going to put you back in the waiting room.
Whatever you're up again, you better be off mute.
So we're going to go to nevermarrieddating.com again.
NevermarryDating.com.
Are you there?
Very good.
There you are.
How are you?
Doing all right.
I'm hopefully this is the first time I'm called into your show.
I've been, I fucking, I was in the news for $5,000.
Well, I'm more wondering about your personal experience.
Have you worked in a workplace with women?
Did they ever bring their kids to work?
No.
Did you ever work in a place where did you ever work in a place where there are a bunch of women that went out on maternity leave and you had to pick up the slack or anything like that?
No, I don't have any experience with that.
Did you have a general question for Pearl at all?
Yes, I wanted to congratulate her.
I really enjoy her work.
She is such an expert in the dating world.
I really look to her a lot.
And I wondered about her thoughts.
Trying to figure out, I read the poll, 25%, that's 25% of 40-year-olds in the United States have never been married.
And it's actually increased from 20% in 2010.
That's from Pew Research Center.
What's the problem?
Why aren't Americans getting married?
They're trying to do everything like Trump is going to get $5,000 and JD Advance told people we need to have more babies in America.
So why are people not having babies?
Just the people just decide not to have children?
Is it because they're not dating anymore?
No, I would say women don't want children as much as we previously thought.
So women are 100% in control of reproduction now and that we chose not to have kids.
So, okay.
Yeah, that's the first problem.
The second thing is the cost of marriage.
Men aren't really doing it anymore.
And they're much more hesitant.
They require a lot longer waiting period.
A lot of women aren't going to put up with that.
Yeah, and it's really, I only see marriage becoming for the upper class, if I'm being honest.
I see it disappearing completely from the middle class.
The only men that are going to do it are the ones that can afford a divorce.
Pretty amazing.
Yeah, we launched our website for Never Marry People, and it's the world's only dating app website for Nariko.
It's called nevermarrieddating.com.
Hopefully, I can get that plug out there for everybody.
Either you don't want to get married or if you want to get married, either way, but anybody can join the website.
But it's simply designed for never married people.
Cool.
Well, thanks for calling in.
First time caller.
Yeah, call in anytime.
All right.
Thank you.
Okay, we're going to try Iman again.
Let me see.
Iman, are you there?
Iman, you're on mute.
Iman, I am A-A-N.
Are you there?
Huh.
He's on mute, so let me put him back in the waiting room.
The women that you work with, Doug MPA, are they mostly like, how do they watch their children?
Are their husbands doing it?
Are the kids in school?
Like, you work with a decent amount of women, don't you?
Yeah, but, you know, I work in a place that's rather conservative.
So most of them, most of the people there are married.
I got to give my workplace credit.
Thank God I'm in a conservative area where there's a lot of conservatives.
All of my supervisors, all my higher-ups are married.
They all have kids.
Most of the women are married.
So they do the, you know, the husband and the wife work, but they have a network of people.
They have family that help them watch the kids, friends and stuff.
Yeah, so my area is really, really good about that.
So would you say the women that you work with can do it all then?
Well, they're under no illusion that they don't.
I haven't heard any of these women say that they have it all.
They recognize that, well, because, okay.
At my job, I've seen there are women who have had to go to therapy because they had to work and miss their younger, their children's younger years.
That's a rising part of therapy when a woman gets out of maternity leave after six or eight weeks and then their whole attitude changes because all of a sudden their job's not what's most important, but they put themselves in a position where they have to work.
So I don't work with a lot of women who are under this illusion that they're these high-flying women and they're making an impact and stuff like that.
I think it's because they're rather conservative, but they realize that they made their choice and now they have to lay in the consequences.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, so they don't really deny reality.
They like know they did have to sacrifice and that they.
Yeah.
So I'm curious, do they do daycare or do their husbands have different the one woman that I know from growing up that balanced it decently well without any outside help, she was a nurse and she did the night shift.
And so her husband worked during the day.
So I'm sure her marriage probably, they ended up getting divorced actually.
So nurses, right?
But where I live, daycare is $18.50 a child.
Jeez.
So if you have two kids, most of the time in daycare, you're paying more for daycare than you do for your mortgage.
I'm going to let Jordan in here.
Jordan, are you there?
Yeah.
Hey, Jordan, how's it going?
You're able to hear me okay?
Yeah, I can hear you fine.
How are you?
I'm good.
What industry are you in?
And what part of the country?
I'm in the West Coast and I work in the law enforcement.
Okay.
So have you had female cops at work?
How's that been going?
So the particular part of the country I work in, they're pushing for 30% of our department to have female staff.
Are you in East Coast, West Coast?
Oh, I'm in West Coast.
Oh, yeah, I thought so.
Yeah.
Yeah, I actually lived in the East Coast and did corrections out there, and it's not much better.
So I moved back.
But yeah, but over here on the West Coast and even on the East Coast, they want to raise the population of female officers to 30% is the majority of some of these departments, which is going to be a detriment to safety overall because they're virtually useless.
Yeah, I've seen how the are they like sleeping with everyone at work?
Like I saw the lawsuit with that one cop.
Is that like a problem for you guys?
Yeah, I mean, I've had women who have fallen in love with inmates, which to me is like the most bewildering thing I've ever encountered.
We love criminals.
Yeah.
I've just never understood women's dynamic to be attracted to losers, but you know, I guess whatever your prerogative is.
So have how have they do the women you work with, do they have kids?
Or yeah, some of them have kids.
I mean, it's all kind of mothers, the ones with the kids, or are they married?
With the criminal dad.
It's hard for male cops to stay married, but female cops, I would imagine none of them are married, right?
Well, I mean, we have you have both sides of everything.
So, I mean, you have the single mothers, you have the married mothers who are sleeping with other officers that aren't their husbands.
Their husbands may even know that they're sleeping with other officers and they're turning them out and they remain married.
And then you have the ones who have been cheating on their husbands the whole time and their husbands who work with them in the same prison have no idea.
You don't want to tell them?
You don't want to break the news?
No, because when you were, you have a double-edged sword.
So when you go and do stuff like that, and we all understand the pecking order amongst men, prison isn't a place where you go and you snitch and you tell everybody else's business.
So that's not, I don't give a fuck.
It has nothing to do with my life.
So I don't care.
Yeah.
You do you.
I don't care.
So have do you know any women like personally that thought they could have it all and couldn't?
Or how have the women you worked with like balanced kids?
You know, this is kind of equal for men and women in regards to like parenting and being in law enforcement.
It's very hard to raise children in general and do a shift work type of job.
And then you and then you add the danger, the mental health, and all that stuff that goes along with our side of work.
It doesn't really matter if you're male or female.
And with parenting, you're going to bring some of that home.
Your parenting is going to be affected.
You're not going to be around your children like you should.
A daycare or a babysitter is going to end up raising your kids if you're in that line of work, especially if you're a single parent.
Doesn't really matter if you're a male or a female.
But the females don't handle the issues of work as well.
And it's, you know, men are, we're very good at compartmentalizing our problems and compartmentalizing things that happen to us.
Women, on the other hand, have a little bit harder time regulating their emotions and checking their emotions when they go through those particular same situations as men do in that same field.
Well, and I have kind of a thing.
So what do you think about this, Jordan?
Because my father told me when I was young, he said, when you turn 16, you're going to, sorry, the journey of a man.
You have one way in life.
You're going to get a job when you're 16 and you're going to work until you're dead, right?
Hopefully along the way, you get a highly valued skill, highly valued trade, highly value education to be able to put yourself in the best position to live life on your own terms or have a family.
That's it.
That's your only option.
So when the going gets tough, you know you don't have a choice, especially at a job.
Women deep down know that this is optional for them.
They have other ways to navigate life besides a job and a career.
So if the going gets tough, they'll want to try something else, like get married and settle down.
That's why 50% of female physicians will stop practicing medicine before they're 45.
50% of women in STEM, science, technology, engineering, and math, will leave the industry if they have a kid or by the time they're 43.
And then female CEOs, their career life is two to three years.
A male CEO is seven to eight years because women know that success is optional for them, but men, it's mandatory.
What do you think?
Oh, it's 100% mandatory for men to seek and be driven towards success of any kind, whether it's in the workplace, whether it's within their own family or whatever.
And that burden's always going to be on them, hence why we're so good at handling it.
With women, I just wish in a general statement with women that they would realize that the most important thing they could ever be is excellent wives and excellent mothers.
They're wasting their time going to school and chasing these careers because ultimately good men don't give a fuck.
We don't care.
We don't care what your successes are on the outside world.
We want to know if you're going to be a good wife and if you're going to be a good mother.
We don't care about the other stuff.
All that other shit will work itself out.
And if we had more women who were on the same page, then it would allow us to have an opportunity to allow more activism against the government to change that to maybe add some propaganda throughout our country to encourage women to stay home and raise their children.
And especially the intelligent women.
The intelligent women should be the ones staying home even more.
They want to do it less.
Smart kids.
No, they want to do it less.
You see, the more like more educated women are, the less likely they want to stay home.
You couldn't pay women to stay home and watch their kids.
They don't.
You can't pay them.
This five grand is going to do nothing.
If they want to be moms, they would be.
Women are so susceptible, though, Pearl, to propaganda in general that this would be a generational fix.
It wouldn't be something that would happen overnight.
But if you were pushing the propaganda.
No, you can't market.
You can't look at it.
No, you can't market things to people that don't want them.
Right.
So if I run an ad on you for makeup, you're not going to buy it because you don't want it.
The reason it works is because that's what women want.
Right.
But you can make that same argument when it came to gay marriage or something like that.
You had a bunch of people who didn't want it, but the more and more society kept pushing that lifestyle onto people who didn't agree with it, the more and more people became women wanted it.
And women why they should stay home and not vote.
But I know, but that's my point: women wanted that.
And it wasn't propaganda.
That's what women wanted.
Not ultimately, because even in the women's suffrage movement, the mass majority of women didn't want the responsibility of having a vote because they knew what was going to come behind that.
But it was the propaganda over the next several generations that then told women to be boss babies.
Well, yeah, but if we flip it, but it's stated preferences versus revealed preferences.
Women say things, right?
You can say that you want one thing, but what did they do?
Once they got the choice to leave, they did.
It's like the fat person that says they want to lose weight, but they never die it.
And then he's like, oh, the propaganda made me fat.
No, you want to be fat.
It's the same way if women wanted to be mothers, we would be.
Well, then, what do you think?
I mean, do you think at the end of the day that maybe instead of pushing the propaganda to encourage women to want to be mothers more so than the boss babe, then to maybe have them want to care more about like people just push parents to want to raise their children to care about more about raising a good family instead of you can't make someone care about that?
Yeah, but I think you, but I think women are, if we address the idea of that's how they get you, that's how they get you guys, you know?
Like, it's like kind of like the women that say I was like propaganded to banging Chad and Tyrone, and I was just like coerced and that's how they get you guys to convince you it was propaganda, not what they wanted to do.
But you can keep like giving them a get out of jail.
You can keep giving them, but you can keep, don't over talk me on my show.
You can keep giving women a get out of jail free card if you want, but if women wanted to be mothers, like women, if I download a dating app, I have a thousand matches, a thousand.
Like we have the choice to do whatever we want, and the more freedom we got, unfortunately, it just showed we didn't like men as much as we previously thought that women did.
Well, right.
And I think I don't disagree with you on that.
I think that we've given women a lot more freedom to do whatever they want, but it's to the detriment of our society ultimately.
We have a crashing birth rate.
And I think we should be having some sort of movement towards changing that.
So at least we have some semblance of a country here in the future.
I'm not saying that I'm letting women off the hook.
Contrary to that, I think that men have done a horrible job at holding women accountable for their actions out of fear of retribution from them and criticism from maybe our peers or whatever it may be.
Well, women have a lot of legal power.
So it's probably a pretty warranted fear.
How could a man hold a woman accountable?
Like, how can a guy do that if you have a wife and you said, have kids?
No, I don't want to.
What is he going to do?
Or you're dating a woman, whatever.
How do you hold her accountable?
Well, I wouldn't.
I mean, that wouldn't be a woman that I would even address in a nice way, anyways.
I deal with those kinds of women all the time, and I always thank them for remaining a genetic dead end.
I tell them, thank you for not procreating, and please don't ever.
Right, but were they, I'm sorry, guys.
But right, was it like propaganda that made them want to do that, or did they just not want to?
No, it's the it's the at least like if we were to go back into my like line of work and dealing with the women in there, a lot of the women, especially in the younger age groups, you know, 30 or younger that come into that field, they get all this attention from all these men because when you go into the prison system as a woman, as an officer, or any other position in there, you can be a four, a five, maybe.
And as soon as you walk into that prison, you become a seven or an eight.
And then these women get these big heads, and then before and then by the time they're ready to settle down, they've been turnt out and none of the men around them want them, which is their own doing.
Yeah, but they could just go somewhere else and then no one would know.
Like, again, if they wanted to, they could.
Like, they could just go to a new facility, go to a new city, no one will know.
Well, I mean, not really, not in our field, because that all follows you, believe it or not, because it all interworks within the whole state.
Everybody will know you.
That's how that works.
A couple more callers coming in.
Hey, thanks for having me, guys.
It was really nice talking to you, Pearl, big fan.
Yeah, thanks for calling.
Call in anytime, okay?
Appreciate it.
Thank you.
Yeah.
Okay.
Let's see if Amon is here.
Okay.
Amon, we're going to try one more time.
Aman, are you there?
You're on mute.
And if you don't.
Amon on three.
Aman on two.
Amon on one.
So now I'm going to boot you out.
Is anyone else in the waiting room?
No.
Yeah What I think on that subject is Coach Craig Adams Said the best Women are going to have to crash and burn and realize that this whole career thing is not fun.
Because feminists have rewritten history.
They try to say in the 40s and the 50s and the 60s, men got to work and women didn't.
And they just romanticized working.
Work sucks, you guys.
So women have this romanticized view of, I'm going to work some job and contribute and save the universe with my social work degree that cost me $140,000 to get.
Enough women are going to have to, there's going to have to be a couple generation of women that are going to have to dispel this romanticized view of working and career.
See, men, we know that work sucks, but we have to do it because we have to eat.
But women have this romanticized view of work because of how feminists rewrote history.
We have a generation of women, so my mom's generation, married to men of status or made to good men, and told their daughters not to do what they did.
Go out here.
Be single.
Live your best life.
And we're going to have a couple of generations of women that do that and see how much, how terrible it is.
And then they're going to have to, then they're going to reverse course after that.
Yeah, I totally agree with CGA.
Like, we have to crash and burn.
Otherwise, like, that's the thing.
There's no, we're not going to watch a video and decide to be a trad wife.
You know, like, there's no propagating women back.
Well, you're starting to see what I'm talking about already, but the biggest problem is these women are like 37 to 45 with this realization.
We need women who are willing to make this, to say, I don't want to get involved in that in the first place in their early 20s.
Look, I want to be a woman.
Okay.
Yeah, that's not going to happen.
Dude, you know what?
Gen Z, yeah, Gen Z women rank men seventh in their priority list.
Yeah.
They're like, Pearl, you're so blackpilled.
I'm like, every stat and caller under my show blackpills me a little more.
Yeah.
They say that under 30, 52% of men say that relationships and marriage are a priority in their life, but only like 21% of women say that.
And that's just what women say.
We know we don't mean anything we say.
Lauren Southern said not to be a single mother and she's a single mother now.
You know?
Yeah.
Or Ashley's St. Clair has her rocket baby and she had one before that and she's Miss Trad.
She was on that.
What was that one show with the two British guys that you were on?
I don't remember what it was.
Oh, and they were meaner to me than this baby mother.
I hate simps.
She was six months pregnant in that interview.
Six months pregnant.
Conservative media will literally fight and die for whores.
They will literally like they will literally like and half of the people when she announced it from conservative media were celebrating.
Like Candace Owens celebrated.
Really?
We're going to bring on one more.
Well, we have two more callers.
i'm gonna bring on james w he's joining up to say Everyone, make sure to like the video and go to Pearl's website, theaudacitynetwork.com and sign up for a membership.
We really appreciate that.
James W. Are you there?
Yeah, I'm here, man.
How's it going, James?
It's going pretty okay.
It's going pretty okay, Pearl.
How are you?
I'm good.
What part of the country are you in?
And what industry?
I'm on the East Coast.
I'm in Virginia.
And what industry?
Oh, I'm in Virginia, but I work in the warehouse industry.
Okay.
And do you have a lot of women at work?
Quite a few.
Quite a few.
Honestly, I wouldn't say it'll be normal as far as ratio as normal workplaces, but there's still women in the warehouse industry.
And so what's been your experience working with them?
Honestly, it's unfortunately an overwhelming amount of masculinity that you get from these kind of females for whatever reason.
And it's kind of tiptoeing the line of independence and arrogance and things like that.
The one thing, the one strength that I do have with these type of women is it seems that they often let some sort of past experience or some sort of bad relationship or what have you kind of formulate their way of thinking moving forward for the rest of their lives.
And it's pretty evident in the way they carry themselves and the expectations they have for just men versus the way that they view themselves for whatever reason.
And what's your experience with the mothers that you work with?
How do they balance working at a warehouse and their families?
Do they have any families?
I don't, it's kind of hard to tell because a lot of them, it seems like even the ones that are well beyond their youth, because I'm 27, but even the ones that are well beyond their youth, they're somehow still trying to live as if they have it.
Like I said, my industry is an industry mainly dominated by men in the first place.
But often women in these environments want to be treated like men for whatever reason, or they have the mindset of a man for whatever reason.
So there's not really much femininity there.
And there's not really much of the, I guess, the modern family portrait.
You know, it's just more so of independence, chasing that independence and that youth that they know is well beyond them.
So do all the women you work with that have kids, are they all single moms?
I would say maybe 90% of them.
There you go.
Go ahead, Perl.
I'm sorry.
Who's watching their kids when they're at work for most of them?
See, and this is the thing, right?
Because not many of them are in my age group.
So their kids are like 30, 31.
But the recurring thing that I seem to come across is they either have a bad relationship with their kids or they don't have one at all.
Wow.
So do you think it's because of their job or just who they are as people?
I truly think it's because of their relationship with that child.
And I say that because most of these women are working industry jobs and they say, well, they have the mindset of a man should be doing this for me.
I shouldn't be here.
Right.
And then you see the divorce or these split marriages and whatever, but the kids are grown.
And even in my personal experience, like I had to fall in out with my mother for a brief moment because our opinions on my father often doesn't seem the same.
Right.
So it's like, you would see my father as he needs to do more.
And I see my father as he's basically babying you because he's adhering to your expectations beyond what's even required of him, if that makes sense.
So it's like, oh, my child loves their father and me and the child aren't on good terms because of that.
You see what I'm saying?
It's like, oh, I think their father is a deadbeat, but they think the world of their father.
So my kid isn't really worth a damn to me.
You know, that sort of thing.
Doug MPA, you got any other questions for them?
Tell you that strong black mother thing, man, it's the worst thing that happened to black American.
It really is.
But for whatever reason, the social consensus and the media loves to empower these women instead of holding them accountable.
It seems like only the males are held accountable.
You know, at one point, men weren't masculine enough.
And now you look at media today and it's like they don't even want men to be masculine anymore.
How's your relationship with your mom right now?
My relationship with my mom is good.
And I would reluctantly say that a lot of it is because I've had to kind of create the space to not kind of, I guess, understand her behavior and not judge it, even though she judges mine.
So I use my father's example because, again, this is where the despair between the mother and their child comes in is often the child will look at the father for how they maneuver situations, the mood swings, the unaccountability from the female or their mother in the household.
And that will even force them to mold their outlook on the modern woman.
Well, a piece of advice because, you know, I'm black too.
I had a horrible relationship with my mom for for most of my life.
Bro, you don't owe your mom anything, especially when you become an adult.
If you're paying your own bills, you don't have to take your mom's garbage to you.
You really don't.
And a lot of us black men, I used to mentor young African-American and young African immigrant men for years.
And there's a brotherhood where all of us have had horrible relationships with our moms because our moms were all scumbags.
So just protect yourself emotionally from your mom, dude.
There's too many black mothers agents of chaos, and you can't tell them nothing.
So just be careful, man.
Keep yourself protected, okay?
Emotionally.
Okay.
That's all I got.
Thanks for calling in, James.
Absolutely.
You guys have a good afternoon.
You too.
Okay.
And we have one more caller.
Okay.
He called in yesterday, but we're going to bring him in today's Chad Chattington.
He's back.
How's it going, buddy?
Chad, how's it going?
Hey, what's up?
How are you?
Blessed this evening.
How are you and Doug?
Good.
Tell me your experience with either working with women or knowing women that tried to do both.
Do you know any that were able to?
Raised by a single mother.
And she did more than most single mothers I've dated or worked with.
And it still fell by the wayside, putting her career to make sure we had food on the table and getting me everything I needed for school, food, everything.
But it made me more self-sufficient because being Gen X, I was a latchkey kid.
I had to take care of myself.
Made me a more mature adult quicker.
And working with so many single mothers in probably 30, 35 years of working.
Number one, 10 to 20% of the women I've worked with in all different types of industries I've worked with were worth their salt compared to the men I've worked with.
And I'm not insulting women.
I'm just giving you, you know, hands-down facts.
Like if just take for instance, you know, a bartender for a few years when I was younger.
I only worked with like one or two female bartenders that could keep up with the male bartenders.
And when you talk about single mother-wise, you got to decide: okay, you're going to put all this time into the career?
Are you going to put all this time into your children?
Even as a single father raising my son, now, granted, you know, me and his mother were, I had him half the time.
She had him half the time.
Anytime you, you know, have to go out to work and we did the best we could by being there for him as much as we could as a father or a mother.
You put time into work, you lose time with the child.
You put time into the child, you lose time with your career.
The balance is very difficult to do for a lot of people.
I think my mother came close to doing it.
I commend her for it.
Very strong, you know, being a single mother in the late 70s, 80s, and 90s.
You know, I feel for it.
What did she do?
What did she do?
She was in the hotel industry for a long time.
It paid well.
It was a more nine to five, nine to six, so at least she could be home.
But that meant me getting home, you know, two, three o'clock, letting myself in, snacks, take the dog out, get my homework started.
I learned to cook quick.
But, you know, years later, she actually told me in my late 20s, early 30s, when I had a child and started raising my child after me and my wife divorced by myself.
She said, Yeah, I went into work and got this career and everything to take care of you.
But to tell you the truth, I wish I could have just been a stay-at-home mom and had a couple kids.
And that kind of like hit me.
That kind of like hit me.
I was like, wow, even at a young age in my mid-20s, hearing that from my mother, I kind of felt for her.
Like, you know, she wanted to be there more for me.
I felt she was there for me more than most single mothers I've dated.
So I commend her for that.
What did you see in the women that you dated?
Like that they were there less for their kids?
Like, what did you notice?
So, as you know, I've dated quite a few women.
Yeah, your name is Chad.
And, you know, I'd say in the, you said, let's round up to 200.
It's like 180 to 190 somewhere around there.
But in the 60 to 70 percent of the single mothers I dated over the years, only 10 to 20 percent of those were good mothers.
You know, like they weren't horrible mothers.
I wouldn't date a horrible person or see a horrible person.
But as far as mother-wise goes, and that isn't even like they put more time into their career.
They just weren't good mothers.
So what do you mean by not being like what's can you just give me some specifics, maybe?
On what?
Not being a good mother?
Yeah, like what did they do that was so bad?
Chose to be with, and I'm not talking about me in particular, but over time, because I've known a lot of the women I've been with, even after we dated and everything, they chose either career or their their they were a little more selfish in wanting to date and not really paying attention to their children as the way they should.
My son is the most important thing to me.
And the mother of my child I was married to for six years, she was an incredible mother, yet she still had to work, you know, 40, 50 hours a week.
And again, we co-parented, so that helped.
But the ones I'm talking about that I dated, I seen after me that I knew after me, you know, wanted to party, wanted to go out at night, even though they had two, three kids.
Oh, I see.
Okay, so you saw them like at the club.
Yeah, exactly.
You know, and I was just like, oh, so who's got the kids tonight?
Oh, they're at home.
And I'm like, they're like eight and ten.
And I'm like, and they're like, yeah, but they're okay.
And I'm just like, okay.
When I had my son, I was at home.
I didn't leave my son at home to go out to have a couple drinks with a friend until he was like 12 or 13.
And then where I went was a mile down the road.
He would live next to a friend that was like an uncle to him that he could, you know, call or go to his house in case something majorly happened.
And I didn't stay out till one or two in the morning.
I went out and had a couple of drinks because I didn't see a friend here and there.
But I'm talking about these women would go out and just party all night, get home at 2-3 in the morning, get up at 6-7 to get their kids ready for school, then somehow go to work, get them home, and then they'd be out the next night.
And I'm just like, I'm glad I stopped dating you.
That's funny.
But I just saw you didn't have a lot of colors.
So I'm like, oh, let me chime in.
I had a single mother, and I can bring some light to the situation with, you know, 50 years of experience.
The mothers that you dated that were able to balance it better.
Would you say they were generally people that worked nine to five?
Yes, yes.
A lot of the moms that took care of their children well had more of the eight to four, nine to fives, you know, maybe nine to sixes.
And also typically, I did date a lot of older women too.
So their children were more capable of staying home if they needed to type of thing.
But, you know, then again, like I said, I dated some single mothers.
And I guess I identified quickly that, yeah, you might not be the type of responsible person I want in my life or around my child.
And then later on, I would see them, you know, partying in clubs, staying out all night.
And I'm just like, don't your kids have to get up for school in like five hours?
Yeah, they'll be okay.
I'm like, okay.
Damn.
All right.
Well, anybody had questions for me, Doug?
I don't.
I don't really.
No.
Thanks for calling, Chad.
No problem, guys.
Have a blessed evening.
I love your show, guys.
Take care.
Thanks.
Peace.
You know what?
I have one more story I can tell about this.
So I, the last single mother I dated, you dated a single mother.
So she, oh my gosh.
She was a Jack MPA.
I thought you'd never touch him.
Well, so this is like years ago.
So she was a flight attendant and she had twins when she was really young.
And so she was in her 30s with teenage twins.
And she became a flight attendant because she had a bachelor's degree in some kind of education system.
Crap.
And so flight attendants travel a lot.
So when you're new, you're on call pretty much every day of the week.
So her mother got in the habit of taking care of her children.
So when I met her, she'd be on call the first part of the week.
And then she would come to my house the latter half of the week and part of the weekend.
And the only time that she'd be home to see her kids was on Sundays.
And then she'd go out and do it again.
I'm like, wait a minute.
So you only see your children?
They would call her on the phone and stuff, and then she'd send them Uber Eats if they were hungry and stuff.
But they had grown up because the grandma was the one taking care of them most of the time.
And once again, most of her life, she was a flight attendant.
But she was brainwashed into that, Doug MPA.
Yeah.
Yes, Guy Fo, she was good in bed too.
So there's that.
I can't believe you dated one.
Crazy.
Yeah.
I mean, most of us guys, most of us have at least once, right, guys?
Come on now.
One to ten, how hot?
Well, I can never give a single mother more than an eight or seven.
No, just looks alone.
Okay.
She was an eight.
Okay.
That'll do it.
Yeah.
Guaranteed.
Men will take an eight over when do I think it switches?
When do you I think it switches at like five where they the kid, if she's an eight, she's a six or a five.
Yep.
Yeah.
Cool.
That's all I got.
Is there anyone else there or no?
Nope.
Okay.
Well, you know, I actually do think that women can do it all.
I really do.
I think women can have the career and the kids if they pay someone else to do it for them.
They have nannies and stuff.
Yeah, nannies or daycare or a grandma that does it for free.
So women can do it all when they take credit for someone else's work, which is what we do best, really.
Anyways, guys, thanks so much for watching.
Doug MPA, you got any other questions or any other statements you want to make?
Nope.
Yeah, so no single mothers.
And then also, these women can't do it by themselves.
Any woman that says, I have it all, it's like Megan Kelly the other day.
I have it all.
She married.
Her first husband was a surgeon.
Then her second husband was worth like $80 million.
And then now she's on her third husband.
And she has three kids, but she had them all through IVF.
So she probably spent $130,000 on her three kids.
And she says, but she has it all.
So she had to go through all that to quote unquote say that she have it all.
It's not worth it.
Well, she's going to, women are happy with that.
Right?
That's like she's living the female fantasy.
Have kids, get the clout, and not have to raise them yourself.
Yeah.
Or Buchanis Owens.
I know.
Her husband's worth $100 million.
Oh, my God.
She's behind the microphone instead of being there with her kids.
How sad is that?
Yeah.
Oh, my gosh.
Do you know what?
Guess who had a kid before 25?
Who's this?
Can't believe it.
I can't believe a female influencer had a kid before 25.
Brett Cooper's pregnant.
No, are you serious?
Yeah.
But she's married, right?
Yeah.
So there's that at least.
I know.
I was like, I didn't think it was possible.
She looks like Ben Shapiro.
She's just like him.
Yeah.
I can't unsee it.
I just can't.
Let's see.
You've never seen Brett Cooper and Ben Shapiro in the same place at the same time.
I wonder.
Her content actually is slowed.
Is it slowed down a little bit?
Let me see.
Not really.
Oh, he read the super chats, Pearl.
Oh, shoot.
Sorry.
Let me check him.
On the website or on the YouTube.
On YouTube.
There's like three of them, I think.
Oh, thanks, guys, for super chat, and you're the best.
Okay, we got Dustin.
Women who think they can have it all are the ones who think I will have it all with the next guy, but the next guy is never missed or write until the kid is 18.
Can men give survival value and women give replication value?
We are overcivilized and women no longer directly need us for survival.
This illusion given, but indirectly, it's the same game, collapse.
James has Tim Poole's podcast is going to save us.
Well, I hope it does.
Anyways, guys, thank you for calling in, Doug MPA.
It's a pleasure, as always.
This weekend, we'll see.
We have another interview person coming in, and I think you guys are going to be very excited for who it is.
And yeah, and then I'll see you guys next week otherwise.
But the interview is pre-recorded, so we have a bunch of stuff canned that's coming this month, so I'm excited to show you guys.
Course is out on the 15th, so make sure you guys sign up now.
You got like a week left to do it or a little less.