Pearl Daily’s episode dives into modern dating’s paradoxes, where Troy Francis—a global dating coach—labels 159,000 texts as a top "male ick" and warns grooms against crying at weddings due to toxic femininity critiques. He argues men face unfair scrutiny while women dismiss minor flaws like wrong cutlery use or overly logical behavior, prioritizing emotional engagement over logic. Fashion trends (shoulder pads, baggy jeans) may alienate male attraction, but Zerka’s boldness and Grant Cardone’s upcoming insights suggest universal dating principles still demand adaptability to spark genuine connection. [Automatically generated summary]
and my job status, you know, a lot of accusations.
And recently, you know, I was let go.
You know, I was let go.
I was, you know, by a certain company.
I won't say who, but, you know, that doesn't matter.
I'm on the market for a new job, everybody.
I'm looking to be a diversity and inclusion specialist.
So please, if you guys are hiring at your company, I can cry about being a woman all day.
Watch, watch, watch.
Ah, my impression.
Ah, the patriarchy.
I would be amazing at it.
So don't worry, guys.
You know, let me know where I can apply.
Yes, I'm owed 32 million.
I know I couldn't believe it.
I couldn't believe it.
But anyways, you know, today we have quite the story, but I wanted to give you guys an announcement first.
We just had Grant Cardone on today.
His team messaged me very last minute, said, can we come on in like two hours?
Well, I DM'd him first.
They responded, right?
Blessing, put together the set, right, Blessing?
Of course.
You're going to show the kitchen cam?
Nah, nah, not me.
Why not?
I mean, they're going to send a kitchen.
You're all rizzed out today.
They got to send a kitchen for us.
Anyways, so that'll probably be released next week.
Well, Pearl, Pearl.
Are we meant to put this up?
Yeah.
No, I don't know what that is.
Oh, no, I don't know what that is.
No, no.
Ah, where?
How did that get there?
What the hell?
No, no, no, no.
It's, it's, um, anyways, I'm unemployed.
I'm unemployed.
I don't know where that came from.
That's super crazy.
Super crazy.
Anyways, so today, so next week.
Oh, wait, no.
So this week, I'm sorry, I can talk, guys.
Tomorrow, I'm going to have a show.
I am gone from Wednesday until Sunday.
I may have some collaborations the week after.
I don't completely know my schedule, but we're going to be doing call-in shows on the road.
Wait for me to post when I'm going to do it, but it'll be at the same time.
So stay tuned for that.
I'm excited to talk to you all, meet you all, et cetera.
So before we get to the treachery, debauchery, and craziness today, we have a special guest.
Welcome, Troy Francis.
Thank you very much for having me, Pearl.
As always, great to be here.
Great to have you.
Troy Francis is a world-renowned dating coach in over 10 years in the game.
Absolutely, man.
In the trenches, at the cutting edge, the rock face of the modern international dating scene.
And you've seen it all around the world.
You've been to Eastern Europe.
You've been to New York.
Yes.
You do one-on-one coaching.
I do one-on-one coaching.
I've taught guys all over the planet from, you know, Colombia to Russia to, well, Ukraine prior to the current situation to, you know, all over Europe.
I mean, London, all over the place.
And let me tell you, it's a shit show everywhere.
Quite frankly.
People think he's better.
People think he's going to be better in one place.
And it kind of, yeah, there's certain good things.
But yeah, it's all a shit.
Okay.
Where are the women the worst?
Like, if you had to pick one country to never date from, where would you pick?
London or the USA.
Dang it, ladies.
We got to step up our game.
We're driving.
Didn't you get pushback for having an American accent recently?
Oh, yeah.
Yeah.
Well, you have to rub it in, Troy.
A couple of months ago, yeah.
I think, I think, like, to be fair, I think the Anglosphere is pretty brutal when it comes to dating.
I think, you know, the countries that are a little bit more traditional still, like the Latin American countries, some of the Eastern European countries, you know, guys tend to have a bit of a better time of it in those places.
But as you know, even those places, it's becoming much more westernized now.
Well, I'm so glad you're here because as a dating coach, we need your expert opinion on a couple stories we have today.
I want you to be completely uncensored.
Don't hold back.
Just let me know if this woman went wrong or not.
Okay.
Okay.
So let me put this girl on the screen.
All right.
A woman accused of sending a man more than 159,000 text messages and breaking into his Paradise Valley home wants her case to go to trial, believing a jury will find her innocent while also ordering her and the man she's accused of stalking to wed.
Oh, well, she thinks that the jury's gonna.
I'll read it again.
Don't worry.
I gotta say a woman accused of sending a man more than 159,000 text messages and breaking into his Paradise Valley home wants her case to go to trial, believing a jury will find her innocent while also ordering her and the man she's accused of stalking to wed.
Unbelievable.
Sorry, but look at her eyes.
I mean, would you?
No, it's a no, it's a categorical no.
I mean, not even like a, I mean, she's not bad looking.
Oh, man.
I mean, I can see they could get her number for you.
No, I would not after that, especially.
No, her eyes look, her eyes look crazy.
I mean, immediately.
Can't you just look at her?
There's something very crazy about her eyes in that shot.
And look.
She seems like a nice girl.
Well, you know, she made an effort.
159,000 texts.
I mean, you can't say she wasn't.
Yeah, some of you guys can't even get a call back.
Yeah, so actually, yeah, I suppose on that, on that score.
But I mean, to me, this is an example of extremely bad girl game.
Okay.
Because I think we've, I think we've talked about this before, but women need to understand that if they're too needy, particularly if the guy's some has some value, right, and some options in the dating market, he's just not going to fly with that shit, right?
It's too much.
Okay.
It's the same thing that we would tell guys as far as women are concerned.
If you're just blowing up their phone continually, then he's just going to think he's going to lose attraction for you.
That's the reality.
What's too needy?
100,000 texts together?
Only 95,000, I reckon you can.
But I was in a situation a while back with somebody and they were really blowing up my phone.
And it just becomes stressful in the end.
You open your phone, there's like paragraphs and paragraphs.
You're like, oh, Jesus Christ.
And it just really raises it to red alert level of like, shit, is this person actually sane?
What were the paragraphs about?
It just stuff, just stuff about what was happening in her life and, you know, and some stuff about me and the relationship, where she wanted it to go, but a lot of just random shit, you know.
And it's sort of like if you're in a relationship with somebody, then, and it's a proper established relationship that, okay, yeah, it might be like during the day, you send a message and say, hey, this happened at work or that happened.
And, you know, what do you think I should do?
Or how do I feel about it?
That's okay.
But if you're sending somebody and you're not even, you're still in those early stages and you're sending them a shitload of just like nonsense and expecting them to respond.
That's just too much.
I could see that.
Maybe, maybe 50,000.
Yeah.
It's okay.
I mean, I think, look, the better.
The reality is, like, and I've seen like Instagram accounts training women, you know, coaching women how to be like femme fateles and all that kind of stuff.
And basically, what they say is like, you've got to be more mysterious.
It's the old sort of like pulley.
It's the really pulling back the other way.
So he chases you.
And I think there is something to be said for that because, you know, guys, we are, particularly guys who've got sub options, we are very similar to women in the sense that what you can't quite get, you want more.
You know what I mean?
So 159.
So, what about the 90-day rule?
What's that?
Like, don't you mean not sleep with it?
Yeah, yeah, 90-day rule.
No.
That's holding back, though.
That's like, not that.
No, I'm not holding back on the site.
No, first day, man.
First day, she needs to give it up.
No, I mean, she can hold back.
I would say maybe second date, third date, maximum.
But I think that, look, he's also, and again, if we're talking a guy with sub options, he's also going to, there's going to be other possibilities out there, right?
In the end, he's just going to be like, well, what am I, you know, like, what am I even in this for?
You know, I mean, nobody's going to, nobody in their right mind is going to wait for fucking 90 days.
I just like, it blows my mind if any guy out there would do that.
But well, these were the comments she made by in a recent phone interview with the Arizona Republic County Jail, where she's been held since May 2018.
She's in the slama for this.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I mean, we're, we wanted equality.
Here it is.
Well, she said, I just think it's ridiculous.
I can't believe that it turned into this.
I can't believe I'm actually in jail over some text messages.
Should she be jailed?
Yeah.
Well, she should be institutionalized.
I mean, she's clearly insane.
You can't send someone that number of text messages and like walk the streets a free woman.
I mean, she's clearly not.
So, you know, yeah, I think it was right that the authorities intervened.
She maintained that her threats against the man's life were jokes.
And that she would never act on it.
She said the man responded to her text for three months, but stopped after she sent the threats.
At AIDS said she threatened the man after a fight with her mother and turned the anger out on him.
I mean, wow.
Yeah.
So that's probably actually why she's inside, right?
Because if she made like physical threats, I mean, I mean, yeah.
Should we let her wait, put her face back up?
What if, okay, wait, wait.
Wait, put it down, put it down.
Actually, I'm going to, I'm going to show you a different.
Hold on.
I'm going to pull something else up and I want to see if your answer changes.
Hold on.
Hold on, hold on, hold on.
You know, because, you know, a lot of times we'll talk about where is this?
We'll talk about these women and all this stuff.
Oh, wait, this is what I was looking for.
Ha ha ha.
Now, what if, but what if this girl just looked a little bit different?
Okay, what if should she be free?
Wait, if she, oh my gosh, where is it?
If she looked, I'm gonna use this one.
No, don't pull it up yet because you know, some people say there's a such thing as pretty privilege, whatever.
So if she was hotter, should she?
Yeah, let's see this one.
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
She should be, she should, yeah, definitely.
She should be out.
Okay, wait, wait.
Sorry, let me make this full screen.
So, right here.
Oh, shit.
I didn't mean to say it's very objective.
Okay, so what do you think?
If that was her, should she be released for the threat?
Yeah, she, because she'd kind of have that sexy femme fatale thing.
It's a bit like, you know, do you remember when there was that?
Do you remember when there's those Amanda Knox case?
You remember Amanda Knox and there was that whole case about she was and all of that.
And I remember at the time there was a lot of conversation between guys of like, would you?
Like even if there was the danger of being like, you know, potentially murdered, you know, would you?
And there's a lot of surprising number of guys were like, yeah.
Okay.
So if she had murdered a different guy.
Yeah.
Would you?
I mean, it would be a great way to go.
Do you know what I mean?
Like we're all gonna, like, we're all gonna have to go sometime.
You know, so if the option is, all right, she's gonna potentially just like, you know, ice pick me or something at the end, then yeah, I mean, why not?
No, I think, no, I see.
I get it.
I understand.
You can take it off.
You can take it off.
Free, free Jacqueline.
I think it, I do think in all seriousness, though, even if the woman is quite attractive, I think that she should still pull back on the fucking mental texting because it does, it does put you off.
I mean, like I also years ago, I had a girlfriend and she was attractive.
Like she was, she was good looking.
There was nothing, you know, on the surface, but because she was too keen, it sort of put me off a bit.
Yeah.
What is what is too keen?
Can you draw the line exactly?
How many texts can we send?
Like, what's the, what's the maximum until you're like, you are crazy?
Well, the big no-no is double texting and triple texting.
I think that's never triple text.
I think that is the big thing.
Like, I would say a few times a day.
I don't really like the whole, for either gender, the whole like good morning text, good night text in general.
I think it's a bit predictable, whatever.
But I think a few times a day, you know, you can like, and a little bit of banter, you know, maybe in the morning, then maybe something else a little bit later on in the day.
That, that's fine.
I think the big problem is, you know, you're sending something, you're like, oh, this happened with my dog.
And then this happened and blah, blah, blah.
And he doesn't respond.
And then you send another load of paragraphs later and then another load of paragraphs.
How long are these paragraphs?
Can you, can you?
Well, I mean, like, you know, on WhatsApp, like sometimes like that, like that long sometimes, or like, and then another one like that underneath.
You know, I mean.
But we need attention.
It's like, what?
Yeah, but it's like, it's like, don't, you don't want us to go to Instagram, do you?
I'm just kidding.
I mean, I don't know.
It's just for me, for me, I'm kind of a weird case because on this, on theoretically, you would say, okay, there's a really hot girl.
The more attention she gives the guy, the better.
And that's true.
But there is, I think there's just some kind of human instinct that kind of, if we think we can get it too easily, then we just lose that interest.
And remember as well, the old saying, you know, you see a beautiful woman, there's somewhere, somewhere out there, some guy's tired of her shit.
Do you know what I mean?
So even that girl that you, even that girl that we had, you had up before, you know, yeah, she's really harsh.
She's attractive, whatever.
There's going to be some guy out there who's just like, oh my God, you know what I mean?
Well, I need your expertise on another one.
Okay.
We have another case for you here.
Right.
I need your expertise.
Have you heard of the Omalay concert girl?
I don't think so.
Okay.
So there is, we went over this last show, but there's been an update.
Okay.
So there was a woman that went to a concert with her boyfriend.
I did hear something about this.
Yeah, carry on.
And then she was put on stage and she was, I'll show you.
Okay.
Pull it up, blessing.
So she was pulled on stage by this artist.
Her boyfriend was front row.
Oh, Jesus.
Was this a no-no?
Yes!
100%.
Are you sure this isn't?
This is not appropriate with your boyfriend right there.
This is not appropriate behavior, no?
The boyfriend basically should just leave it, should just leave now, right?
I just never, I just lock her.
What's she doing wrong?
Well, I think she's she's engaging in a sexually explicit manner with somebody right in front of him and everyone and thousands of other people.
So I would say, I mean, I've seen some red flags in my time, you know, and actually, I quite like the other red flag, you know.
Yeah, but I would, I mean, that is like beyond red.
That's like because it's just like it's like it's like it's like ritual humiliation for the boyfriend, isn't it?
Because the boyfriend's standing there basically getting cut.
Oh, yeah.
You know, he's front row.
Yeah.
Anyways, so she, I don't know if the boyfriend's in this clip, but she really wanted to come out and she like issued an apology.
And now she's on a podcast.
And I want to know what you think of this explanation.
She's going to give you an explanation.
Okay.
And I just want to see what are you, you know, would you, all right, so let's just say you're dating this girl.
This happens.
Would you be interested in hearing what she had to say?
No, I think that he should just like cut it.
I think he should like, I think basically as soon as that started to transpire, he should just like, right, I'm just, I'm going to, you know, just get out of the venue, block, delete, you know, whatever.
Cause I think it was disrespectful that, you know.
Well, let's hear what she has to say anyway.
We're going to watch anyway.
So there was an update.
I saw this.
I couldn't believe it.
All right.
Pull it up.
So this was the concert girl.
Nice sweater.
Nice, you know, good looking girl.
Let's go.
But you were with somebody.
Now, this is the question on everybody's minds.
Girl, who is this man?
Were you in a committed and defined relationship with him?
Yes, he was in a committed relationship.
How long were you together for?
Just under a year.
So going to a year.
And when you say you were in a defined relationship, just so that everybody's aware, he was your boyfriend and you were his girlfriend.
Yes.
Yes.
Okay, perfect.
So you mentioned in your apology video, which we're going to get back to, that you're a die-hard fan of Omale.
So I think my question here is, was this a date night?
Was this planned?
Was this who bought the tickets?
Why were you guys there together?
Can you kind of talk us through what happened, the journey of that?
So I'm a huge MLA fan.
I've been a fan since he even started like music.
So I really, really like his music.
So I've always wanted to go to this concert.
I was going to see him.
I think this was last year, but he cancelled that show.
So I was like, oh, I've got to go to the next show.
Like, 100%.
So when he said that he was coming to London, I just bought the ticket.
And I thought I'd bring my boyfriend because he was going through a hard time himself.
So I thought, well, that improved you, didn't I?
So does this first thing since she bought the tickets?
Is this acceptable now?
No, I don't think that makes any sense.
So let's wait.
Let's see.
Let's see.
There's obviously going to be more trouble.
Yeah.
There's going to be, I just.
Okay.
Yeah, why did you, obviously the woman is talking, so.
End with it.
So I just thought, yeah, I'll just go with him.
Favorite artist, favorite person.
So I just thought, yeah.
Did you think I might get caught on stage?
Did that run through your mind?
I've always wanted to go on stage with Omelet.
I don't think there's any other artist that I'd even go on stage with.
So me and him, we've had this conversation days before the concert.
If I was to get caught on stage, would you be fine with that?
And he said, yeah, that's fine.
He's been okay with it.
Yeah.
Ah, okay.
Well, that kind of changes the narrative.
So we've seen from the video.
So does that actually change the narrative?
Well, maybe, but I don't think he should have said he was okay with it.
I think he should have said, look, we're in a relationship.
If you get called on stage, you should politely decline out of respect for me.
I think that it's kind of cucked energy on his part.
Well, Andy, I mean, you could go on stage and not hump him.
Well, that's true.
That's true.
I mean, maybe they could have discussed, I know you hate the word, they could have discussed the boundaries.
Yes, you could go on stage.
You could just stand there, but you're not allowed to start grinding up against him.
I mean, I'm assuming this guy, I'm assuming this artist, he probably does this quite a lot, right?
Probably, I guess he brings women up.
No.
Blessing?
I don't know.
He's like a blessing new one.
That's an Afrobisco.
Does he often bring women on and stuff like that?
Yeah, I've been really watching this for the girls.
Wow.
Does that have surfaced online that you were very excited to go on stage?
And now that you've revealed to us that he was okay with it, you going on stage, was it something that you just told him or did you guys discuss it prior?
We discussed it prior, obviously, but he didn't know that I'd get picked to go on stage.
So when Ome pointed at me, obviously in the video, you can see like I was really, really excited, which I was.
And he was encouraging me to go.
Like he even said, yeah, like go.
That's why I went in the first place.
There is a point in the video where it looks as though he's holding on to you and saying, well, obviously we don't know what he was saying, but it does look like he was a bit reluctant to let you go on stage.
Is that fair for us to say?
Not really, just because he was holding me the entire show.
I think she's lying.
You have to see that.
So that's why it looked like he didn't want me to go, but he was fine with it.
And there was a point where I was like stood next to him and everyone thought like I moved away from him, but I was stood there because I was waiting for the security to get me out of the crowd.
Okay.
Okay, well, that was the clip.
So did it change anything?
Well, I mean.
Oh, you think it does?
I think that the guy should have laid down the law.
I think the guy should be like, look, you know, I'm happy you're a fan.
We're going to see the concert.
If he calls you on stage, I'm not comfortable with that because like we're in a relationship and that would be kind of disrespectful to the relationship.
I think you should have made that clear.
Having said that, I suppose he didn't say that.
He did say she could go on stage.
So, you know.
He should stay with her.
I think that given the nature of, you know, how it was on the stage when she did go on the stage, I think it was kind of like this ritual humiliation.
I think he should, I think he should, like, just, you know, pack his bags and take the L.
Well, just, you know, there's this, you know, movie.
It's really a W because it's a red flag.
So that would have been a good idea.
It seems like a massive red flag.
And she seems like she's trying, she's being all like trying to be all innocent now, wearing that nice jumper and being all like sort of contrite and everything.
She was being very like, her movements obviously very sexualized and everything like that.
I mean, you know, it's um, it's the, it's the age-old question, isn't it?
It's like, if couples will often talk or this often comes up like it's like, uh oh, if ex-celebrity, you know, came into play, should I get a free pass?
You know yeah, what do you think?
No no because like, it's like, just because somebody's famous, I don't think that should change the, the dynamic.
I think that the guy should you know, she does, she exercises that, she does that then the guy should be out.
It's like, all right, what about?
What about a girl with a guy?
Um well, if it's like like, if he screws Rihanna uh no, that's fine no no, but it's yeah, but it's slightly.
Well, it's slightly different, I don't, I mean, I get the points to ask, but it's slightly different because obviously men are less attracted by yeah, fame and status.
So for me personally I, if it was Rihanna specifically, i'm not, I don't particularly find Rihanna that attractive, so I probably wouldn't, it wouldn't be.
Just her celebrity status would sort of draw me in, whereas I think with women it's much more.
That's a big part of it.
If that makes sense.
What of the bride one.
Do you want to do the men crying as a red flag or the bride ick first?
Um well, maybe the um, maybe the uh men crying is a red flag one okay, guys.
So apparently well, i'm really glad we got the answer today Troy, i'm really glad you know, we figured this out together.
So don't send 159 000 text.
Yeah, don't send 159 000 text, for god's sake okay well, and don't threaten to kill the person, even if your mum's ill or whatever, and okay.
So next, you know, what do you tell me?
I actually didn't even watch it.
So what do you tell me about the next segment?
So I, this has been being talked about a little in a few videos online recently.
Basically, there's this issue about if a guy gets married right, should he cry at the at the wedding, or is it?
Or rather, is it a good thing or a bad thing if he cries at the wedding and women are saying, some women are saying yes, he should, because he's kind of cute, and others are saying no, he shouldn't, because it's weak and it should, it gives me the ick.
So it's like which is right, which is which is wrong?
And then um, you know, it's like there's this contradiction of females who are like sort of like oh yeah he's, you know.
On the one hand, I want him to be like strong and like stoic, and so he'd never do that, but on the other hand, why is he?
I'm insulted at the same time.
Yeah well, let's play the video blessing this one, right?
Yeah, this is kind of a reaction to a reaction, but anyway, that's not talked about enough.
Is men who boohoo cry at their weddings?
Just when I thought the internet couldn't get any more toxic.
There's more.
Why are you crying that hard like?
All that tells me is that you did some shy stuff during the whole relationship and you literally cannot believe that this girl is still choosing to marry you.
So men can only cry tears of guilt at their wedding now instead of tears of joy.
Is that for real?
And if a man is actually crying at her wedding, That means that he's done something sketchy or inappropriate, or he's probably cheating on her, or whatever she considers shysty shit.
Like, I'm just thinking about it.
Imagine being her man at the altar, and you're standing there, like, please don't cry too much.
Please don't cry too much.
She's going to get the ick if I cry too much.
Like, I don't want to boohoo cry.
I just, I just need to cry a little bit because if I over cry, she's going to think it's a red flag.
Like, what?
Men literally can't win.
They're told all the time to show emotion.
And then if they show emotion, women come on the internet and say ridiculous things.
What can we do?
It's a red flag.
And he feels guilty and not joy at his own wedding.
And just imagine for a moment that men made videos saying that women can't cry at their proposals or at their weddings because they're cheating or they're doing something inappropriate.
This whole video is giving, I don't know how to choose men properly.
And men have never cried over me.
So I'm jealous about the men that cry over their women because I've never experienced them myself.
This video is giving unhealed trauma and projection and somebody that doesn't know how to have any type of emotional intelligence and doesn't even want partners that have emotional intelligence.
But not only that, it also makes me feel like I need the dude that writes down the icks when he sees videos like this.
And this needs to be added.
But also, additionally, it's making me feel like I need to stay off the internet from now on because this is just outlandish.
What this lady has done is she has taken the way that she perceives her emotions and the reasons why she cries, like her response to crying.
There's a cause and effect.
The cause may be she's guilty.
The effect is she's crying, right?
Let's just say that, so to speak.
So she's projecting that on him.
When in reality, the man is just crying because he's so happy that he found a woman out here.
That's not a thought.
That's why he's happy.
There's so many 304s in the open.
We don't know where the good women are, bro.
So when you finally find one, you cry.
It's been so long.
I cannot believe I found one.
All these hoes out here, all these 304s.
I see found a good one.
A diamond in the rough.
That's what it is.
It's tears of joy, bro.
It's tears that if you didn't find her, you probably never got married because all the ones that advertise themselves is 304s.
Yeah, there's a lot of good women out here, but they're hidden.
They're not in the open.
You don't know where they are.
That's tears of joy, man.
So what's your take?
Well, firstly, I think the original video, I think that's a great example of what you might call toxic femininity, right?
Because basically, like, she's like, even something that is on the surface of it, kind of quite, you could consider quite nice in a way.
You know, he's so emotional because he's, he's, oh, this is a special day, blah, blah, blah.
I'm not saying I think this necessarily, but you might interpret it that way.
She's just immediately finding an ulterior motive.
Oh, he must have cheated.
And again, it's just blaming men for everything, isn't it?
Yeah.
It's like, oh, he must have cheated.
He must have done something bad.
He's done some shy stuff, whatever she said, you know?
And it's like sort of, and it like one of those Peter Commentators said, it's almost like projection.
Like she's seeing like guilt when it shouldn't exist.
So that's the first thing.
Secondly, should men actually cry at their wedding?
I don't, man, I personally think men shouldn't cry in certainly in public.
I think you should like have that, you know, you should have that stoic kind of like you should, you should hold it back a little bit.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah, I wouldn't recommend it.
I just even, even if you're nice about it, like as a girl, you still feel a certain way about it.
Do you think so?
I mean, do you think?
So, there's another video where this woman talks about getting the ick from it or not getting the ick.
But like, but it so on the surface of it, though, right?
You can see the argument.
It should be like from the guy's point of view, it's like, oh, but I love you so much.
You're familiar with my life, blah, blah, blah.
I'm feeling this emotion, so I'm crying a little bit.
So, but a woman theoretically should interpret that as being, oh, this is great because he really loves you so much.
But do you think genuinely a lot of women are going to be like, Well, I would never, I don't, unless you're in toxic relationships constantly, I don't think people would interpret it as you did something wrong.
But I just, I think generally, when we see men cry, we're not attracted to it.
Yeah.
Not saying one cry will make us, but you know, when you make it a pattern, I guess.
Well, it's interesting because I messaged somebody about this earlier and I said, What sort of you think?
You think men should cry or not?
She said, First, she said, Oh, no, I think it's cute.
He's good to nicely show a bit of emotion and stuff.
And then I went back and I said, Yeah, well, I'd be crying as well.
I mean, imagine all the money you've spent, you know, like basically just throwing your life away.
Of course, you're going to be crying.
And she came back and she sort of said, Lol something.
And then she said, Actually, what I would like would be to see not in fully crying, but his eyes glossed over a little bit, like he might be crying, but he that's very cute.
And then, yeah, but the idea is that he's, I mean, when the guys are weeping, you're kind of like, I don't, I don't even, I mean, like a little teeth, but when they're full-on, it seems a little bit informative almost, yeah.
I don't know, man.
It seems a, I mean, I think, you know, there are certain things, death of a parent, whatever, there are certain things.
Obviously, a man's gonna have those moments in private, but I mean, getting married, I don't know.
It's not because you wouldn't have feelings about it, but is it something to cry about?
I'm not sure.
I saw someone cry at their third wedding, and I'm like, why are you crying?
This is the third time around.
I'm like, I mean, by now, it's just like a formality, isn't it?
All right, where do I sign up for the OK?
Let's go and have the party, you know.
There's another bride that weighed in too.
So, this one?
Yeah, the Homath one, I think, is yeah, this one is.
I'm about to walk down the aisle.
If he's crying, there's a chance I get the ick.
But if he's not crying, I'm gonna be like, Why aren't you crying?
It's the happiest day of your life.
It's not uncommon for a woman to experience competing icks in economics.
We call this a conflict.
A conflict occurs when you demonstrate that you are affected by a situation, but also you are icky if you do not do something to demonstrate that you are affected by the same situation.
In this case, a man and a woman are to be wed, and if he does not cry, then that is not strong enough of a display of emotion.
And if he does cry, then that is too sensitive to the very same emotion.
This man has worked his entire life to have something to offer this woman for her hand in marriage, and there are only two choices, and both of them are icks.
There you go.
In the case of such a conflict, the woman should be considered unsalvageable as long as both of the icks are degree four or worse.
You cannot build your tent, but you also do not want to sleep outside because of icky bugs.
It's okay for her to not like that.
But in this case, I would place crying and not crying as being here and here.
Unsalvageable.
Do not marry.
Well, so first off, I'd say like that guy, Homath, I think he's a genius.
He's got some really funny, really, really funny videos.
That's a great break.
But it's like the way she shot that video at the beginning, I think she was obviously, it seemed like she was joking a little bit, but it is a true thing, isn't it?
It kind of is, it is highlighting a real thing about female nature, which is that on the one hand, you know, and I can think of other examples of this as well.
On the one hand, if he does do something, that's that's bad because oh, that's not masculine.
But then if he doesn't do it, why aren't you doing it?
Yeah, you know, yeah, and it's kind of weird.
And it does feel a lot of the time men can't win.
And this bigger issue of icks in general, you know, these big long lists of icks that we get online and everything.
You know, I think it's just part of the whole dating culture that we have where people, women in particular, have so much choice that it's like he does one little thing wrong.
You know, like somebody was telling me about this girl who dated this guy a few times and then he couldn't use the correct cutlery or something at dinner and she got the ick and then got rid of him, you know, stuff like that.
Huh?
For not cutting something right now?
No, not using the correct knife and fork in the restaurant or something like that.
You know, I don't think I could do it right.
Well, you get there's multiple forks.
No, you know, this is when you do your etiquette course.
You know, when you've got the different, you know, no, I totally know, huh?
Yeah, but you know, so, but so something as simple as that, and then he, you know, he gets disqualified for that.
It's just like, there's too much choice out there.
So what are male icks?
Like, we don't have any.
Well, 159,000 text messages is a male.
The males have no X.
Yeah, it's the most annoying thing that women do.
Do men have X?
I don't think men have X in the same way that women do, to be honest.
Is there something she could do?
I think it, to be honest, you know, I think men are very simple creatures.
I think it comes down to, is she hot?
Is she attractive?
Is she into me?
You know, is she pleasant to be around?
I think that, I think those are the key things, really.
And I think men will overlook a lot that maybe women wouldn't.
I do have a story, though.
My friend James told me when he went on a date with this woman and they were playing the question game on the date.
Like, I ask one question and then you have to answer and she, you know, vice versa.
And her first question to him was, okay, what was your bottom line last year?
Like, what did you make last year?
And he basically just like, why would you ask?
That's so rude.
I know, yeah, yeah.
And so he basically just got up and like paid the bill and just walked out.
And he's like, all right, sod this.
So I guess you could sort of say that was an ick because it was so it was kind of masculine and so on the nose and so like in your face.
You know what I'm saying?
It's so so, but but I think it also depends on how many options the dude's got as well.
Because if the guy's not got many options, then he's going to put up with a lot of like female rudeness and impoliteness and her being cocky and whatever.
And he's just going to take it because, you know, if he's only getting one date every three months, then what are you going to do?
One day.
Wow.
Every three months.
Well, I mean, you know, I mean, I know guys, you know, it's kind of crazy.
I mean, some of the guys we've coached, I mean, I've coached guys, you know, decent looking.
They seem to have stuff together and they're going through these dry spells of like, you know, like six months and stuff.
You're not getting anything.
How do you, how do you get them out of it?
Well, I mean, a lot of the time, it's not what people necessarily think.
It's not because of their looks or their, you know, money and those external things so much.
A lot of the time, it's more to do with the fact that they're not good conversationally.
They're not able to like bring out emotion in her.
They're not able to create desire in her.
You know what I'm saying?
It's very flat.
It's very boring.
It's very logical.
And the girls just sit there like, yeah, whatever.
Okay.
Fine.
You know, they're not, you know.
So how would you create emotion?
So we're talking now.
Get my emotions.
No, they need to, they need to lean into that bad boy energy a little bit.
Do you know what I mean?
You know how women are always banging on about like, oh, I like the bad boy.
So I think a lot of guys will come across, particularly people who are like, say their work is a bit more logical or they work in coding or computing or data, those kinds of things.
And then it's very much like, okay, so how do I snap out of that?
How do I become this guy who's a little bit more edgy?
He's got a little bit more sort of just he's not this predictable, super boring kind of dude, you know what I'm saying?
And that's what we try to teach people, but it's not a like necessarily like an easy process, it's about sort of firstly, it's about understanding the dynamics.
That's the first thing because a lot of guys don't even understand the dynamic.
They think, oh, going on a date with a woman is just like a networking event or it's just like an interview for a job.
So the first thing to understand is it's fundamentally different because women operate on emotion, not on logic.
And then the next thing is like, right, okay, so how can I become a bit more of that kind of guy who's so how would you do that off the bat?
What do you mean?
Like, like, how would you, how would you get the emotions spiking in the beginning?
You've got what you gotta, you gotta be flirtatious.
You gotta bring some kind of like kind of um sexualized element.
I'm not in a crude way, but you've gotta, that there's got to be the undertone to it, you know.
So throwing in a bit of flirtiness, you know, bringing in the odd line here and there.
What I would often do is like derail the conversation.
So often women will talk about like boring shit for a you know a long period of time, you know, sort of talk about a job or something like that.
And you want to suddenly turn it around and go, oh, you look great in that dress or just something or make some slightly mildly like sexualized comment or something to remind her to bring it back to the fact that this is man to woman.
This isn't just, we're not just here to have a like a business meeting.
You know what I'm saying?
Yeah.
That makes sense.
And I think guys generally could be too boring.
They could be too predictable.
You know, she wants to feel emotions.
That's the thing.
The more I've studied this stuff, the more it seems to me that women are so driven by emotion.
And we've got all of these competing dopamine sources, you know, like Netflix and TikTok and everything else.
And it's like they need the guy to bring that energy.
Certainly the younger women, certainly the, certainly the women, I mean, certainly the women who are more sought after, you know, they've also got a lot of options.
It's like, well, why is she going to pick you over this other dude over here?
Yeah.
I want you to just, if you think about as well, if you think about some of the like famous characters in the in the space in the manosphere who've got that kind of, if you think about someone like the, you know, the Tates or if even maybe Myron or something like that, they've, they've got, okay, they've got some of the external trappings of, you know, some success.
They've got some wealth.
They've got, you know, whatever, decent looking in shape, et cetera.
So they're ticking those boxes, but there's clearly more to it than that, right?
It's that character thing, isn't it?
It's that, it's that dominance, it's that male sort of energy that they'll bring to bear on the, on the, on the, on the table.
And you can imagine with people like Andrew and Tristan, how even before they were as wealthy as they are now, who they are now, they would still be getting action because of the way they are, because of the way they come across, you know.
Well, and it's it's being a girl's type too, I would think.
I think, yeah, I also know I think that's true.
I think you're never going to get every girl.
That's the reality.
Like there are some women that they say they divide into yes girls, no girls, and maybe girls, you know, and most of me.
I agree with that.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, like, probably for most of us, probably most, most girls, they're probably no girls.
You know, you're just not her type.
She's not going to be into you for whatever reason.
Yeah.
You know, and there's not really anything you can do about that.
Then sometimes you get yes girls who they just like how you look, they like how you come across, they like your vibe.
They're into it.
You can still, you can still fuck up with those girls, though.
So you need to, but then the game becomes not messing up.
Have you ever had a really big fuck-up where you thought a girl was a sure thing?
And then I mean, in the past, yeah.
I mean, obviously, never now.
But I'll tell you this second.
But then, obviously, then you've just got that sexual in the middle of the maybe girls who are like, yeah, he's okay.
You know, he could be all right, but I'm not sure yet.
And those are the ones you need to kind of, you know, finesse a little bit.
But I mean, I remember one time, this is where the conversation skills come in.
And this is where the, you know, being able to lead the, you know, and bring that energy to the party really comes in.
I went to a party once and this girl, as soon as I walked in the room, I see this girl.
She kind of looks at me.
And you can, you know, sometimes you can just tell somebody looks at you, you look at them.
You could just tell there was, I could tell there was some kind of interest there, right?
And people will, you know, be cat, oh, he's capping or whatever.
But I could, you know, I could just tell there was like a, you know, so I go over and we start talking, blah, blah, blah.
We get seated next to each other at the table.
Now, for whatever reason, on that particular day, my energy was low.
I was tired.
My riz, you know, the riz wasn't there.
It wasn't flowing.
And the, I was sort of trying to talk to her, and it was really fucking flat.
And I remember I just said something lame to her, like, oh, so, you know, what do you do?
you know, so what do you do for work?
Right.
And she just, she looks at me and she said, you want to talk to me about my job?
You know, she had this real look of disappointment in her eyes, you know?
And it was, and I could, I had this sinking feeling of like, oh, fuck, I've dropped the ball here.
You know what I mean?
And then sure enough, you know, the rest of the dinner passed on and we kind of just went and talked to other people and, you know, and it all kind of fizzled out.
And that's a great example for me of something where really at the beginning, it should have been on.
And because of the way that I came across, because I, the way I was in that interaction, I fucked it up and she lost interest.
And that does happen with guys a lot.
I think this is why you'll get guys who'll be like, yeah, I keep going on these dates.
And then these girls ghost me afterwards or they, you know, they flake, you know, or they send me that, like, the classic message.
Oh, I wasn't feeling the chemistry or whatever.
You know what I mean?
Is that a classic message?
Well, for a lot of guys, yeah.
So sometimes it can be yours to lose, if you know what I mean.
You know, you can, she can have that initial attraction, but then you can fuck it up because of the way you come across.
And this is where all the guys who think that it's just about looks, they're naive to this, really, because they think, oh, well, if the dude is good looking, and yeah, sure.
I mean, in some situations, she's feeling horny.
He's super hot, whatever.
She's just going to go there.
But there's also, you know.
It's definitely not all about looks.
It's got to be combined.
You can definitely lose a sure thing if you don't come across in the right way.
I think that's the important thing.
I wanted, I Googled a guy picking up girls and I want to see if you approve or not.
Okay.
I want to see.
I've never seen this video.
So I have no idea.
It says introvert picking up girls.
Nice.
Oh, yeah.
Late.
Hi.
Sorry, I'm late.
Hi.
What's your name?
Camilla.
Camilla.
You're gorgeous.
Thank you.
Yeah, for sure.
I think we'll make beautiful children.
How is that?
Well, actually, so what he did there is kind of it's quite an often used kind of gambit when you go over and say, hey, sorry, I'm late.
And you sit down.
That's something that people, you can kind of do that as a joke.
Oh, really?
Yeah.
I've never heard of it.
So that can, if you do it and you come off well, he carried it off quite well there.
And that was quite good.
But it can go wrong as well.
It can backfire.
One of the things I generally recommend, if she's sitting down and she's sitting down on her own, I generally don't recommend just sitting down with her immediately because sometimes girls can get free tail.
They think, oh, shit, you know, how do I get rid of this guy?
You know what I'm saying?
So often I would say it's better to go in and standing up, you know, start the conversation, hey, you look too interesting.
I had to come over and say hi, blah, blah, blah.
See how she reacts.
And then maybe say, listen, I got five minutes.
So do you mind if I take a seat?
And then carry on like that.
Oh, that's good to the five minutes because then I know you're not going to stay all day.
Yeah, that's it.
Yeah, it's the time.
It's the time constraint thing because in that instance, he pulled it off quite well.
And although she was kind of looking around, I feel like maybe she was thinking, oh, is this a setup?
Is this like a YouTube channel?
Which it was.
So yeah, you know, in that instance, that was quite a good example.
But in general, I'd be a little bit careful with that.
You've got to have a certain amount of swagger to sort of pull that off.
Hey, excuse me.
Excuse me.
So sorry to bother you.
Are you like familiar with this area?
Yeah, kind of.
Because I'm supposed to be meeting my girlfriend over here.
I'm a little bit lost.
Maybe you can help me find her.
Here she looks like this.
Sierra.
Sierra, I'm sorry.
I thought you were gorgeous.
Oh, thank you.
I appreciate it.
Yeah, for sure.
You just leave the gym?
I did.
Nice.
Do you know Annberg?
Oh, no, not too sure.
Are you doing a story?
Yeah, yeah.
Sophomore.
Okay, I'm a junior.
Oh, nice.
Okay.
Is it cool if I get your number?
Yeah, of course.
What's your name?
I'm Kiss.
Kiss?
Oh, I like that.
How'd it go?
Yeah, good.
I mean, like, he says, he doesn't seem that introverted, does he?
It might have just been the title.
No, yeah, of course.
Yeah, no.
No, I mean, it's good.
I mean, he's using these kind of like quite humorous, humorous tactics to sort of, you know, I'm looking for my girlfriend and he shows a picture of her.
Yeah, I wouldn't have saw that coming.
I would have.
No, because I didn't know how he was going to go with that.
And obviously, if like I thought he was going to try and, if he'd have seriously been saying he had a girlfriend, that would have been obviously been a stupid bad thing to do because a lot of women would, contrary to popular belief, just wouldn't go with that.
But no, it was cute.
It was kind of fun the way he did it.
The thing is, right, like he brought he brings, he's bringing humor into it.
He's making them laugh.
He's making them feel comfortable.
You know, he said, I thought you were gorgeous.
I think that's fine.
I think he's good to be direct and quite upfront.
You don't necessarily need to say gorgeous, but you say, I thought you look cute.
You look nice.
You look pretty or something like that.
Because again, I mean, okay, he's gone in with a bit of a gambit there, which is, which is fine.
But fundamentally, you need to go in and make her understand that you are hitting on her on some level.
Because otherwise, I've seen guys go in and the approach is very weak.
And she doesn't quite know why you're there.
Or she's just like, oh, is this guy just trying to be friends with me?
Or she gives you that.
You end up getting on quite well with her and she gives you their number, but she's not really interested in you in that way.
And then it's just, it's better to just go in there and be like, hey, listen, I had to come over.
I think you're cute.
I wanted to say hi.
And if she shoots you down, well, at least you're not wasting anybody's time, you know?
Right.
We'll do one more.
It's creative.
A little bit.
A little bit.
I'm Sierra with the C. With the C.
Okay, sweet, sweet.
See, now you won't forget.
No, I definitely won't.
That was a good one, though.
Yeah, you like that?
Yeah, for sure.
All right, I'll text you, okay?
You from Williamsport?
Scran area.
Scran?
Okay.
You have a good one, okay?
Hey, excuse me, ladies.
How's it going?
Are you good with directions around here?
Lauren again.
Oh, you're heart.
What's your name?
It's Lauren.
Lauren?
Sorry, I thought you were gorgeous.
What's your name?
Mark Nina's name.
Who does he pick?
Who should he when there's two women?
How do you hit on two?
Well, so it depends on the situation because basically, right, so often there's going to be one who's the obvious target, right?
The one you want, and then there's going to be the friend, right?
And then it's kind of obvious which one you're going for, right?
Sometimes you get a situation where both of them are equally, maybe equally cute, and you think, okay, I'll approach both of them at the same time.
And then when I do that, I mean, the way that he, the way that he did that, it seemed like he was more hitting on the one with the dark hair because he said to her, I'm trying to get your heart sort of thing.
Yeah.
Because what where you can mess up, and this has happened to me before, is I once went into an interaction, right, years ago in London, and there were two girls.
And initially, I was, there was one that I liked.
She was this brune.
She's like Latina girl.
And I went and started talking to her.
And I was speaking to both of them because the other thing that he's doing well here is obviously you need to speak to the friend as well.
You need to keep, you know, keep both of them kind of entertained or whatever as you're talking.
But I went in to speak to the predominantly to the Latina girl.
And we were having a good vibe and everything like that.
But then she gives, she's like, yeah, yeah, I've got a no, no, no.
No, what happened?
It was the other way around.
Sorry, what happened, right?
So I went in and talked to both of them.
And the Latina girl is responding well.
But the other girl, who I initially thought I wasn't so interested in, she was like, she seemed to be giving me more of a vibe.
Do you know what I mean?
And I was a bit like, hang on a minute.
I need to change my strategy here because this one seems to be more like you know interesting.
So then I kind of so I went to the second one who was remaining as it turned out.
I went to the second one.
I was like, um, oh, you know, like you, you know, you seem cool.
We should exchange numbers.
He said, I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I've got a boyfriend.
And I'm like, oh shit.
And so I'm standing there.
I kind of look back to the last Latina one.
I'm like, you know, how about you?
sort of thing, you know.
And so you end up, and in the end, the second, the Latina one did actually give me her number in the end, but it didn't really.
It didn't.
So you can sort of shoot yourself in the foot if you don't make a firm decision before you go in, which one am I actually going for?
Because otherwise, you just look like this like horn dog of like, oh, you've said no, okay, what about you?
You know what I'm saying?
But usually, as I say, most cases, it's going to be pretty clear.
You know, there's going to be one that you want to get with and the other one you probably don't.
So it's, you know, straightforward.
Let's see.
See who he can.
Oh, for sure.
Oh, it's a cool if I get your number.
Anyone away?
Yeah.
Figured I'd shoot my shot.
What are you studying?
Microbiology.
Oh, yikes.
It's low over my head.
I think he's regretting his choice a little bit.
Well, I mean, from the back, it looks like the blonde one might be more.
What do you study?
Finance.
Finance.
Okay, sweet.
Oh, I'll text you.
Okay.
973, where's that?
I'm from North Jersey.
Oh, okay, cool.
All right, well, I'll text you.
All right.
Have a good one.
Yeah, see you.
Excuse me.
Where'd you get that?
You're about to say something.
No, where'd you get that?
Get what?
That smile.
Okay.
What's your name?
What's your name?
You smart.
I just like you.
I do.
Is it cool if I get your number?
I thought of that.
You thought of that.
You made that up.
Oh, how about Instagram?
Is that a good start?
What?
Do you think he should have just let it go?
I think, well, yeah, I think he should have let it go.
Because with the so with that, what I wouldn't normally recommend is that you kind of walk with her.
Like he's, he went in with the line.
She's kind of like, yeah, yeah, sure, sure.
And then he just carried on walking with her.
And I generally, I wouldn't recommend that.
I'd be like, shoot your shot.
If she's like, she's not into it, she walks off.
Just let her go.
Do you know what I mean?
And also, as well, then what he's doing is the sort of like, oh, can I get your number?
She says no.
And there's like Instagram and this is no.
And then you're almost like sort of negotiating then.
My space, you know, you've got, you got a few.
Yeah, if you got a fax, you know, it's, it gets a little bit.
And the other problem with that particular interaction was there was really nothing like, ideally, you want to go and say, hey, you look cute.
I had to come and meet you.
And if she responds well to that, you want to have a bit of a conversation.
You want to have a bit of vibe.
You know, so it looks like you see study here.
And she's like, yeah, you know, so what are you doing?
She's like, accounting.
You're like, Jesus Christ, that's fucking boring.
What are you doing accounting for?
You know, she's like, well, you know, and then you want to, you want to have a bit of back and forth together before asking for the number.
Because what he did there was just basically he comes in with quite a cute line, which he sort of brushed off.
And then he just goes straight for the number.
And it's like, unless she's into him immediately, then that's not really going to fly, you know?
Yeah.
But he's, I mean, look, he's a decent looking guy.
He's in shape.
He's, he looks quite, he's tall.
He's ticking a lot of the boxes and he's bought, he's got balls.
So, you know, so he's going to do pretty well.
Um, and he's got that sense of humor and that lightness about him.
So there's a lot of stuff I think he's doing very well.
I'm trying to find a video of women approaching men.
Oh, Jesus.
I approached men.
If anyone has one, I approached men.
Looks like women don't approach men.
I mean, have you ever, well, have I ever approached a guy?
Yeah.
Okay.
I've never approached a guy, but I've, I've sort of, I've sort of asked a guy on a date before, but it was more like, oh, I'm like in the area.
I wasn't in the area at all.
It was like one of those.
I kind of liked him and I didn't know if he knew.
So I was like, yeah, yeah, I'm in this area.
And it was like two hours away.
Yeah, but I don't think I've ever maybe.
I might have like, maybe not like a direct, but I might have like said something.
Yeah, I think it's cool for women.
I think you can start a conversation.
It doesn't need to be like, they don't need to approach you in the same way, you know, like, oh, I think you're cute.
Like, that's too much.
But if you're, if she stood at a bar and then the guy, she likes the guy next to her, she can kind of, you know, just make some kind of comment.
And, you know, I think that kind of thing can work quite well for women.
And they should probably be doing more of it, actually, because women always complain about not getting approached.
And I'm not saying they should go around and start doing game and hitting on guys, but at the same time, you can.
It'd probably work to be honest.
Probably, yes, to be honest.
Like, if a girl approached you and she was cute, it's like, yeah, yeah, no, of course.
I mean, I think that even very, very good-looking male friends of mine will say in their lifetimes, they've only probably been approached, you know, a couple a few times at most.
Like, it doesn't really happen very much.
But obviously, it's more with women, it's more about the signals.
But I think sometimes women think they overestimate how much they're like signaling their interest.
You know what I mean?
She thinks, oh, I was looking at him all night and blah, blah, blah.
And you're like, the guy didn't even fucking notice.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Blessing, has a girl ever approached you?
Oh, yeah.
Oh, yeah.
It's common.
Does this happen to you every day or what?
No, not every day.
You know what I mean?
Every second.
Where did a woman approach you?
Put on your camera.
It's like, join the convo.
Next time, guys.
Send a cash out.
Where did the woman approach you?
A Westfield, like a shopping center.
Seriously, did she?
What was her intro?
It was a bunch of girls.
And they just wanted to just, you know, get my details in there.
Oh, yeah.
Nice.
Stratford or West or the other one?
No, Shepherd's Bush one.
Oh, nice.
Troy's like, oh, I want to hang out there.
Is it still open?
I mean, it's happened to me, a couple of times, whatever.
I remember one girl came over and to me in a bar and this when I was a lot younger, you know, many years ago.
And she came over and she was trying to, the thing that put me off was firstly, I wasn't really into her anyway, but also then, interestingly, she was trying to lead with the boss babe type stuff.
She was like, oh, I'm a team leader.
You know, I work at the Spartan's company.
I'm a team leader and blah, blah, blah.
And I was like, well, I just, you know, I don't really care.
I'm just, I'm not feeling it.
You know.
Have you guys noticed women getting more aggressive in the last couple of years?
Well, you mentioned this the other day.
I think there's more.
Yeah, I think there's more competition amongst women, certainly for the first, because they're only looking for a smaller pool of guys.
So yeah, I think there is that.
Yeah.
Have you noticed women being more aggressive, Blessing?
A little bit, yeah.
Yeah.
Were they aggressive when they were getting your number?
Yeah, I mean, when they're when they're like in a group, yeah, it's gonna be like, yeah, man, it's like they are, yeah, it's like a bunch of pack of hyenas.
Did you give, did you get, did you give the number?
Oh, yeah.
Oh, nice.
So what happened?
Yeah.
Well, I'm going.
End of story.
Okay.
Well, I was just going to do.
I think that's all the stories we're really going to cover today.
Guys, is there anything else you wanted to go over today?
Do you know what?
It's always disappointed me that I never ended up doing that.
I was meant to do something with, what's his name?
Who's the, who's the, oh, Jesus Christ.
You know, the crazy Riz guy that we were meant to meet in Vegas who was on your show.
I don't remember.
Was he on my show in Vegas?
No, in Miami.
Zerka?
Yeah, Zerka.
You love Zirka.
I mean, yeah, Let me, let me.
Have you met him before?
Yeah, I'm an Tiffany Fox was there.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
But yeah, yeah.
But I always regret it because I think he's a good example of somebody.
I mean, I don't know.
Like his content recently is with all due respect, Zerka.
His content recently, I think he's branched into these different areas and stuff like that.
But when he was very much, although I think he has got a dating course out, but when he was, he was talking very much about the dating and the Red Pool stuff.
I found him really fascinating.
And like, I think that's an example of somebody.
Yeah, he's decent looking, he's tall, whatever.
But like, it's clearly more than that.
Yeah.
You know what I'm saying?
That's drawing, that's drawing women in.
And I was really interested to see him in action and kind of, and I actually talked to him about it at the thing afterwards and said, you know, I'd really like to sort of like drill down into the, into what, into what it is, you know, what you're doing that's drawing people in because it's about, and again, you can see something like that.
It's about creating emotion.
So that could be on the sexual level.
Yeah, they might be sexually excited, but also it's about there's probably some drama there.
There's probably fear of loss.
There's probably, there's all of these different things that you can bring into the party.
And a lot of guys, they're just not doing that.
You know what I'm saying?
But then you've got someone like Fresh, who also, you know, I think does, you know, has his own thing going on, but he's very chill.
And so he brings a different kind of energy.
So there's different ways, you know, you've got to find the style, I think, that works for your personality and go with that, really.
Yeah.
Yeah, because different styles are just more natural to different people.
I think, yeah, I think that's, that's true.
So as much as, you know, like I say, someone like Zerka is a very interesting character, but is that going to work for everybody?
I mean, is it going to work for, you know, Steve, who works in the post office?
I mean, you know what I'm saying?
So you've got to, but I think there's definitely, there are definitely fundamental principles that can be learned.
And the key thing is, are you evoking emotion in her in some way when you're sitting down in front of her or not?
You know?
I mean, have you noticed that?
I mean, I don't know.
When you go on, when you've been on dates or whatever, I mean, do you, do you.
I can never explain why I like a guy or why I don't.
I'll just be like I do.
But could it be?
I mean, is what I'm saying.
Can I tell you why?
Is what I'm saying making some sense from a female?
No, it does.
It does.
Is it like there's some guys and you're sitting there and you think, yeah, he's a nice guy and he's good conversation, but I'm just not really feeling it.
Whereas other guys, just on some level, they do something that.
Yeah, no, there is.
Well, we like to earn it too.
Well, you don't like the guy to be too.
No, never.
Yeah.
I mean, other girls will cap and lie.
I won't lie.
Well, no, because if they're too at you, you're kind of like, what's the, what's the catch?
Yeah, no, that's the thing.
Yeah, they kind of like.
Like right away.
Like, it's different if you've been seeing him for a bit, but it's like right away.
It's like, what's the.
Yeah, yeah, for sure.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, definitely.
Well, again, you know, we want the things that we can't quite get.
And I think, you know, guys can be too thirsty and then that spoils it.
Why is it so hard for guys though?
Like all of this stuff, like we have to consider all of this stuff.
Yeah.
You know, and if you're like an attractive young woman and you're out and about and you're in Miami or whatever, you don't need to think about any of this shit.
You could just turn up and be ADHD, bipolar, and, you know, socially awkward and you're going to be fine anyway.
Oh my gosh.
Do you know what I was thinking?
I know we've had a bad run with our fashion, but I was thinking about how all women's fashion, like men don't even really like.
Because you can tell me if I'm wrong, but I was thinking about this because a lot of it has shoulder pads and stuff, which I don't think guys really like.
And I was just looking at the stuff.
Like here, this is something that came up when I said women's fashion.
Pull it up.
Pull it up.
Blessing.
Tell me if you like this.
If I'm wrong, you can tell me I'm wrong.
But I'm like, when I think of something, a guy is like, it's like not bad, but.
I think.
How do I?
Oh my God.
Yeah.
And I googled women's fashion.
I was just like, do any of these outfits scream something a man would like?
I think a lot of women's fashion at the moment is very geared towards that kind of.
This maybe?
Yeah, that looks quite cute.
I think it's geared towards women.
There's a lot, not so much the evening stuff, but there's a lot of like daytime stuff, quite baggy jeans, quite like, you know, baby sweatshirts, like things like that.
And I mean, it's, yeah, you're right.
It's not really geared towards like what men are into.
It's more, you know, it's more for other for other women, I think.
Yeah.
It doesn't look bad, but it does, it's also not screaming out, you know, oh, that's really sexy.
Yeah.
That's what I was thinking because I was looking at, and when I look at women's like high-end fashion, I'm like, I don't even think guys like this stuff.
And some of it's cute, but then again, you know, I'm not a fashionist.
Well, obviously, I'm obviously.
It's all right.
Well, my fashion expertise obviously is.
Okay.
Well, guys, let me know in the comments what you want me to react to next time.
I'm a little sick, so I'm calling it an early show tonight.
Tomorrow, guys, we're going to do another show.
I think we're going to do the history of gyno.
Oh, why chivalry?
It should never have been a thing.
Why chivalry is the OG feminism?
So I think we're going to do that tomorrow.
Let me know what you guys think in the comments.
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That should be, make sure you put it in the title, Blessing, so then they can just find it pretty easy.
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And then we're coming out with a new website soon.
So I'm going to keep you guys posted on that.
Grant Cardone video next week.
Then anything you want to say to the people?
I think, you know, if you're a girl, ignore current fashion, wear key stuff.
I mean, look, we're going to be coming to spring soon.
It's all a good about sundresses.
All of that's good.
You've got the whole summer for that.
And I think women can be, you know, you can be a bit flirty.
You can open conversations with guys.
It doesn't mean you have to do the heavy lifting, but I think you should do that.
And for guys, you've got to understand, firstly, you know, that main guy, the introvert guy that we saw, very ballsy, going in there, direct approaches.
Humor is really good, being playful, but also fundamentally making you feel something at the same time, creating an emotion.
And sometimes even a negative emotion is better than a positive emotion, which is a bit of nuance.
We'll get into that.
But you know what I mean?
Like, you can say something that's a bit controversial.
Maybe she doesn't agree with it.
Maybe that makes her a little bit angry.
But also at the same time, she's like, okay, he's quite ballsy because he actually had the balls to say that.
Hey, it's closer to love.
Well, exactly.
Exactly.
All right, guys.
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