DIY Fails That Went Shockingly Wrong and How to Avoid Them | Dr. Oz | S9 | Ep 60 | Full Episode
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DIY fails.
So that's basically caught on camera.
And how to avoid them.
Plus.
It's roasted garlic fall apart cheesy bread.
Read Drummond's Festive Twist, Uncomfort Foods.
This is one of my favorite things to make.
And the two words that are hurting women everywhere.
I'm kind.
You all use that word.
That's an intervention you do not want to miss.
coming up next.
Are you ready to say some lives today?
Yeah!
I love you, Dr. Oz.
There's DIY fails caught on camera that you cannot stop buzzing about.
So get comfortable.
You're going to laugh your way through this.
Now, all the health hacks that you tried that ended in disaster, and you see many of them like this all-natural lip gloss gone badly wrong.
It looks like you have like a weird skin disease and something's like growing out of your mouth.
Or how about these horrendous recipes that, well, they turn in the kitchen nightmares.
Not so good.
And then the beauty tricks that went down in flames.
What would she say?
All these DIY videos put a new meaning to do not try this at home.
So take a look at some of the worst DIY fails.
I decided to put it here and my nose again.
And hey, I was having like little white hair.
So let's see if that pulls it out.
Hold on, hold on, let me move this in here off.
I thought we were just doing like one toe or one finger.
I was going to do my whole left hand.
Wow, it is.
You guys can't really uh, woo!
We're going to pass out of here.
You're drinking clock.
Oh, my God.
Oh my f**k!
What was that?!
Too much!
No, there's some of the DIY fails you don't ever want to happen to you.
But this next one simply made me shudder in sympathy pain.
It's a eyebrow waxing gone wrong.
So Olivia, do you remember much from Friday night?
I do.
Can you imagine the pain that girl was in?
Well, I can't.
So we actually wanted to track down Olivia.
That's the woman in the video, and find out ourselves.
The good news, by the way, is her eyebrows have grown back.
You'll see that yourself because she joined us now via Skype.
Olivia, how are you?
I'm good, thank you.
How are you?
How long did it take for your eyebrows to grow back?
Well, I didn't think they ever would.
It took about two years altogether.
Two years?
Yeah, I nearly thought I took a gun tattooed on them.
Oh, my goodness.
Well, I'm proud of you, and thank you for sharing your story, Olivia.
Lots of love.
So Pop Sugar, Senior Editorial Director, Rebecca, is with us.
How are you, Rebecca?
Good, nice to see you.
So Rebecca was all about these things.
Rebecca Gruber got the next group of DIY fails.
But first, if you don't mind, this poor woman, Olivia, who stripped off all her eyebrows.
It's two years to grow back.
So what do you recommend?
What does work?
You know, I really like these cold wax strips.
They're much easier to use.
You don't have to stick them in the microwave so that you don't have to worry about the heat.
They're not gloopy like a lot of those ones that you stick in the microwave.
And they're small, so you can do a small portion of your eyebrow at a time.
All right.
Now Rebecca's also been tracking the next big category of epic fails.
These are DIY kitchen disasters.
Take a look at this one.
They really shrunk down.
Major, major DIY dinner fail.
I'm going to show this everyone in slow-mo because you're all clear what happened here.
And you tell us what went wrong.
There he's watching, watching this.
Oh, oh.
That could hurt somebody.
Yes.
So what went wrong?
How do you prevent it?
So all glass bakeware is not made the same.
You have to be very careful with what you buy and how you use it.
When you take a piece of glass bakeware out of the oven, there's something that happens called thermal contraction.
It's when you take something out of something hot, when you take the glass out of something hot and move it to cold.
The glass expands and contracts, but in different amounts throughout the piece of glassware.
So you really have to be careful how you're handling it and where you're putting it.
When you take it out, you don't want to pick it up and put it on a metal pivot or put it directly on the countertop or even put it in the sink.
What you really want to do.
How about on the stove top?
No, not on the stovetop.
You're kidding me.
No, I know I do it too.
It's really bad.
It's not safe.
Y'all hear that?
Because of course your nuts changing.
It's going to contract and asymmetric.
Exactly.
You need to put it on something that will actually absorb some of the heat.
And that is a dry cloth, whether it's a pot holder or a kitchen towel, something like that.
It has to be dry.
But you put the glass on it, let it absorb that heat, and redistribute it as easily as possible and as much as possible.
You have changed my life.
Seriously.
My one role in the home is usually to take the pots out of the oven because I don't know how to put them in.
I'm not any good at that.
But they're often heavy.
I always put them on top of the stove thinking, hey, it's made for heat.
Right, and that the air will go around it and help, but no, not safe.
How many of you do that, what I do?
Everybody.
Think of the number of lives we have saved today.
Oh my goodness, Rebecca.
All right, next up, the hall of shame of recipe hacks gone wrong.
Rebecca's going to take us through some of the worst fails.
The Pinterest makes it all look easy.
Sure does, right?
But you've got to look at the expectation versus the reality.
For example, spaghetti squash.
We think it should look like this, right?
On the left there, but in reality, it can look like on the right, right?
That's a spaghetti squash microwave hack that was, well, it was a whack.
It didn't work.
So what happened there?
How do you prevent it?
Well, unfortunately, a lot of people look at a spaghetti squash and they just think they're going to treat it like they do a baked potato.
Take a fork, make some holes in it, yep, poke some holes in it, stick it in the microwave for 15 minutes, and you get a nice baked potato.
But squash doesn't work that way.
You have to treat it a little differently because otherwise, what you're doing is you're poking holes sticking in the microwave and it becomes like a steam bomb.
All the steam's building up inside of it and it explodes.
Yeah, what we just saw in that picture.
Exactly.
So how do we do it the right way?
All right, so here's what you need to do.
We luckily have one that's already done a little bit, but you need to score the sides.
You take a knife, you score the sides, that's from the stem all the way to the bottom, two sides.
Take a fork, poke some holes in it, and then stick it in the microwave for five minutes.
All right.
So now it's ready to cut.
We cut it in half.
We should cut it in half.
Cut yourself.
I know.
We'll get it on slow-mo anyway.
We'll show it later on.
Okay.
We cut it in half.
The laceration segment.
Getting your doctor.
We scoop out the seeds, just like you do with the pumpkins.
Scoop out the seeds.
Okay, we will pretend we've scooped out all the seeds.
Then you put a little bit of water in the base of this.
Exactly.
So in the magic of TV, about an inch of water.
Okay.
It's about an inch.
Perfect.
And you put it face down in.
We'll just put one in for now.
And then you stick it back in the microwave for five minutes.
Guys.
So after five minutes, you pull it out.
It should be soft at this point, five to ten minutes, depending on how big your spaghetti squash is.
Let it cool a little bit, turn it over, and it's soft, right?
Feels nice and soft.
And then this is where the magic comes in.
You take the meat, what's considered the meat of the spaghetti squash, and you pull it from the sides, and that's when you get that spaghetti-looking cartoon squash.
And it's soft once you do it.
It is.
All right, we saved the best for last.
Yes.
Instead of sending pictures, we actually brought Farah, who brought the real thing.
Yeah.
She actually made banana bread.
Well, well, actually, actually, it's your attempt at banana day.
Is this it?
This is it.
And based on a Pinterest post, right?
Pincing on Pinterest that you saw.
Yes.
This pop sugar was also talking about it.
So watch this.
Listen carefully, guys.
It's like a basketball, right?
This is like a brick.
You could hurt someone with this.
It makes a little knocking sound like that when you turn.
So what went down here?
Oh, man.
Okay, so I love banana bread.
So I want to get a little bit healthier.
So I was like, okay, cool.
Let me replace buttermilk and the shortening for fat-free milk, right?
Made sense.
And I know you can't even cut it.
I know, I know.
I'm so sorry.
And then I replaced, I took away some sugar and some salt, and then that's what happened.
Yeah, that's the real world.
So I asked Rebecca or team at Pop Shirt to take a look at what went down here.
Come on over.
This is fashion.
I'm just trying to make it right.
Don't join.
Okay, good.
So this is how you make banana bread healthier and avoid the brick loaf over there.
That's not going to make anyone happy.
So unfortunately, Farah, it was a great attempt.
It really was a great attempt.
But when you take out all of the fat, you take out the moisture.
So going forward, if you want to take the fat out, replace the milk, replace the fat with applesauce.
I know, Dr. Oz, you use this all the time as a substitute, right?
But just be clear, you're completely replacing all the dairy.
Yes, we're replacing that with applesauce.
It adds moisture to the recipe.
And then the other thing is when you're baking it, pay really close attention to how long it's in there.
As soon as you put the tester in, it seems really, really obvious, but as soon as you put the tester in, if those moist crumbs come out on the tester, it's ready to be removed from the oven.
Well, maybe you're welcome.
It's a cycle and it'll work.
Okay, we're going to post the recipe online for Pop Sugar's fail-proof banana bread.
It's worth making the investment.
Up next, why do all the most viral fails have to do with hair?
Have you all noticed that?
It's always the hair paying the price.
The most hair-raising fails you have to see to believe.
Corey Feldman detective tapes reporting his alleged abusers.
He spoke to Santa Barbara police.
I told them I was molested.
They're saying today that they don't have them on record.
Now we have the tapes.
Can Corey be vindicated an all-new Oz exclusive?
That's coming up on Monday.
Feeling and cringing at the most epic DIY fails.
And now, the biggest DIY hair disasters, you got to see to believe.
Now, my team investigated all the hair fails online and found that most of them have to do with this.
Recognize this, guys?
And this.
Yeah, you've all been there.
I know that.
You got these, the hair iron and the scissors do a lot of damage.
And to prevent another hair tragedy, I've created a hair lab to learn the real fail-proof DIY hair tricks we can all master with celebrity stylist Sally Hirschberger.
There she is, Allie.
We got busy and busy bee.
I'm here at our hair lab.
We just saw two DIY hair fails of epic proportions.
So I brought the big guns to help out.
Sally, you're here.
So what do we need to know about styling, curling irons, and how do we do it without burning our hands, our fingers, and in that case, the leg because it fell into the leg?
No, actually, these are very scary.
You have to be very careful.
The first thing you always want to do is use a heat protector.
That's key.
So that being said, you are going to do this.
Are you ready?
And I take this lever down and I don't open this up because this is a more modern way of doing it.
You want to just take the hair and wrap it around.
So you ready to do this?
I left one piece straight because I just, we just talked about this backstage.
Okay, here you go.
Let's see what she can do.
See how she's holding it back away from the face?
Now let it out.
Take it, yeah.
And bam, look at.
You got that beautiful.
Very cool looking.
Beautiful.
Yeah.
I mean, that's the kind of wave that you want.
And now, if you don't want to use a hot iron, which this is much easier, you take these little clips.
You can get them at any drugstore.
I do two on top, two on the sides, and two down here.
Anybody can use this.
And watch when you see the wave.
You put it in when your hair is like 98% dry and you get this like beautiful hair.
No curling iron on this at all?
No.
That's much easier.
Right?
It's much easier.
And the longer you leave it in, the curlier your hair gets.
Keep playing over there.
Okay.
We got one more tip here, which has to do with the fail-proof way of taking care of your bangs.
Now, I saw that little, I don't know what you call it, the oval cut.
Yeah, that was unbelievable.
You do not want to go just straight across cutting bangs.
So in my opinion, of all the ways to cut bangs, this is how I cut my own.
This is how I have all my clients.
Do you want bangs?
I do, yes.
She's very excited.
I know.
No!
I'm going to give you the scissors.
Are you right-handed?
Okay, very good.
Now, I think the best way to do it is you twist it just a little bit.
That way you won't get the blunt and start longer.
Okay, so you're just going to nip it above your finger.
And she's doing this.
Why are you making it?
Above your fingers.
Don't cut your fingers, please.
Yeah, please.
She's cutting all the ones or just a little bit of it.
Or you can either go up like this.
It's okay to do it either way.
I like to cut into it afterwards, like go straight up.
Whoa, let's see.
Oh, it works.
Whoa.
And you see how it kind of cascades down, you know, and you get like a little bit of a softer line through here.
You know what?
There's enough tips to show here.
We're going to put a whole tutorial online so you can take advantage of it as well, but I hope you're happy with that.
And we're going to go.
And now I'll like, you know, I'll go a little shorter.
We'll be right back while she keeps working.
I know it's good.
All right.
Up next, Bioner Woman.
ReDumming is here.
Are you ready for the holidays?
Oh, yes, I am.
Evan is right here.
She's sharing her supermarket shopping list for you all to survive the holidays.
Stick around.
Honestly, that means a whole lot of cooking.
All your get-togethers, spontaneous drop-bys, the holiday brunches.
So today, the life raft you need, because my friends, we are giving you the list.
I feel elevated already.
It is the ultimate supermarket shopping list you need to survive the holidays.
And it's being created by the one and only pioneer of home cooking, Re Drummond.
The Pioneer Woman is here.
Come on out.
Oh!
Yes!
A gift!
So!
This is from your new cookbook.
Come and get it.
This is what a book looks like, everyone.
It is fantastic.
But what is this?
I didn't expect this.
This is something I knew you would not let me make on your show.
It's roasted garlic pull-apart cheesy bread.
And so I'm bringing it as a gift to you so you can't reject it.
Oh, guys.
Oh, it's just.
Look at this.
Oh, my goodness.
Yes, there's cheese down in every crevice.
Roasted garlic.
It is amazing.
See that?
Can I just give a little bit to the audience?
Oh, I think you should.
Here.
You got to break it apart.
I've got, I got bandage on there.
Yeah, work on that thing.
How many of you have to do it?
Work it, work it, work it.
This thing, I bet it's unbelievable.
I got to start fighting over back there.
No fighting.
This is great for a football.
If you're watching a football game with teenage boys, I mean, it's just stuffed with four different cheeses, roasted garlic.
Put it in the oven wrapped in foil.
And when you pull it out, all these hands go in, and you can just see the cheese coming.
This can't be legal.
Do I have to leave?
But part of the reason I love you is you have the ability to go in every direction and you understand the pressures that women face when you got all those hungry mouths coming at you.
Holiday time, your family, like everyone else, is out there wanting lots from you.
So how do you keep it all together?
You know, my secret to holiday sanity really is just enjoying it.
And I never get so mired in making sure everything is perfect that I don't enjoy the holidays.
Oh, I like that.
Thank you.
All right, so we're going to do all this as an early present for the audience who's watching right now.
Grea has brought us a little gift.
She calls it the list.
There it is.
And we're going to start with the ultimate supermarket shopping survival list that will get you all through the entertaining needs.
And these are essential staples.
They can be used in many, many different ways.
The top item on your supermarket survival list is frozen puff pastries, which I didn't get it when you first recommended it, but you said it can be made into 50 different dishes.
No wonder.
50 is a conservative estimate.
It can make desserts, appetizers, pizzas, as you have here.
This is one of my favorite things to make.
You just open up a sheet of puff pastry, cut it in half, and then put toppings on and bake them.
And look how fancy it looks.
And you didn't have to put any effort.
You like that first thing, Danny?
Yeah.
So this is a mushroom.
I cooked it in a little bit of wine and garlic, cooked the mushrooms, and then this is nothing more than just tomatoes and goat cheese, a little bit of basil.
You can make desserts, really simple.
So it's a nice little trick to have it up your sleeve.
You're probably bringing extra people to your house because of this.
It tastes so good.
Well, I have to be careful not to eat them all myself because they're so good.
So you actually have cows on your ranch.
Yes.
So you actually know a little bit about the business.
Yes.
So I made you a little picture of a cat.
So share with us.
If you're going to go on a supermarket shopping spree, where's the best value?
As a rancher, tell me this.
If you look at the entire cow.
Well, of course, you've got the expensive steaks, the ribeyes, the fillets, the tea bones, but there are also wonderful cuts in the sirloin area, which is sort of the backside, back end of a cow.
These areas.
Yes, exactly.
Is that what sirloin means?
It's like the back part?
I'm not sure what the etymology is of the word.
I'm going to find that out.
But yeah, that's right.
The great thing about sirloin is it is very, very lean, which I know you like, but it's also very flavorful.
So that's a perfect combination because you can get really great tasting beef for not a lot of money.
You can find big family packs of sirloin steaks.
You can find sirloin steak that's already been cut into chunks, so you can make kebabs.
This is a picture of kebabs from your book, but look at this.
Oh, those are so good.
Put those in your mouth.
Cooked over an open grill, and you can, you know, you can cut the meat as large or small as you like just to suit what you want to do.
And sirloin is also great, sliced really thin for stir-fries, like beef and snow peas, beef and broccoli.
That's kind of my weakness right there.
So you get a little hack for storing the meat that I want everyone to understand because we don't want to go in bad either.
And you've got to store lots of meat as a recipe for me.
Oh, yes.
I've got a freezer full at all times, but the best thing you can do when you store beef in the freezer is get the air out.
Air is the enemy of beef when it's in the freezer.
Oh, I thought that was an accident.
No, no.
So I usually flatten it.
Sometimes I'll sort of roll it and push it out as much as I can.
And then you have these neat little rolls of ready-to-go beef cubes.
And so depending on the size of your family, if it's just two of you, you can have a smaller bag like this.
If it's a house full of teenagers like I've got, I may have a slightly larger bag of beef.
But freezing is a good trick.
This mix is a tip I was a little surprised by.
But it makes sense in retrospect.
It's the idea of having a chunk of parmesan cheese in your home, which is on your supermarket survival list for a very good reason, because you can upgrade.
Absolutely.
Parmesan cheese is so wonderful because it's so long-lasting.
You can, of course, do traditional things with it, grate it over pasta and things like that.
But I like to make appetizers with raw parmesan.
Just cut little spears of parmesan, put it next to a piece of blanched asparagus, and wrap a little piece of prosciutto around it.
How good is that?
So simple, so elegant.
I love to eat like this.
Good stuff.
You are a cheese expert.
I like that.
That is a very good.
It's so delightable when you do that.
Now, last little tip, I wasn't going to let you do, but I was prevailed upon because I know you all have to have dessert.
So she says on your supermarket list, you have to have angel food cake loaf.
Now, I wasn't sure what this is about, so I'm turning it over to you.
I know nothing, I see nothing, I'm not even going to watch.
You can see the picture.
So it's really fun to transform slices of store-bought angel food cake into little bitty layered cakes.
So what I do is I cut slices.
I use a square cutter, or you can just freehand it.
Just to be clear, so you're going, Mike, if you don't mind, you're cutting like this.
Yep.
Now that little piece comes over here, yes.
So they'll stay together a little bit better.
But then you can cut meat squares or use a square cutter.
And then you layer lemon curd or raspberry jam in between the layers.
Now, confession time.
Oh, now.
After the cheese thing, the travaganzo over there.
That's right.
Sometimes I pull out the freezer whipped topping and I'll just ice it.
I made a special one for you.
This is nothing more than Greek yogurt with a little bit of powdered sugar and a vanilla bean.
And I just whipped it.
So you just ice it.
I made these for one of my little, well, when my girls were little, I made one and stuck little individual candles in the little cakes.
And they're delightful.
And it's a nice little way to entertain if you don't have time.
I love show-offs.
And this is a very show-offy thing.
This is fantastic.
So easy, so elegant, and so delectable.
Audience, you want some of this?
Yeah.
All right.
So we're going to put the list online.
And I'm serving my audience.
Remember that up next, Rhea's taking over my entire studio.
And did you go how to cook her favorite sheet pan supper that should impress this holiday with a special free class day?
Come on over.
Let's feed the audience.
Stay with us!
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He spoke to Santa Barbara police.
I told them I was molested.
They're saying today that they don't have them on record.
Now we have the tapes.
Can Corey be vindicated?
An all-new Oz exclusive.
That's coming up on Monday.
The Pioneer Woman, Reed Drummond, for a very special holiday edition of Free Class Day.
Now, her gift to you, it's a big one, is a one-pan winter wonder meal.
Right?
One pan.
Easy with barely any cleanup and prep.
And Re's going to share her secret sheet pan meal.
So special, it's going to wow your holiday guests and warm them all up.
So please say hi to your class.
Hi guys, are you ready to cook?
That's true.
Great to see you.
Should they call you Mrs. Drummond Ree?
How should they call you?
You can call me basically anything and I'll answer.
Call me mom if you like.
I answer to mom.
So you have mastered moments.
You've mastered the sheet pan, which is a big deal because sheet pan cooking saves us so much time.
Why is this the right time to use it for the holidays?
Oh gosh, you know, I love making sheet pan suppers because everything cooks the same amount of time.
You don't have to do much prep.
This is one of my favorites because it's simple.
There are ingredients I usually have in my fridge and it's colorful and delicious.
Well, before you get to the special sheet pan recipe, I have a question from one of your students.
Wanita's been studying all day long, getting ready for a sheet pan cooking class.
So take it away.
Anitza?
Okay, so yeah, my main concern when using the sheet pan is knowing if everything is cooked evenly.
Well, that's a great question, and that is a concern.
I've made sheet pan suppers where I have small vegetables all over the pan and then great big pieces of chicken.
And then I wonder why my vegetables are burned and shriveled by the time the chicken is done.
So the secret is really to make sure everything is, if not the same exact size, the same general thickness.
So if you're using chicken, for instance, if it's a really thick piece, you can put it on a cutting board and real carefully slice it into two thinner cutlets.
You know, it takes sometimes you have to, there's a little bit of learning curve, but overall, it just couldn't be simpler.
And if something isn't exactly done, just pop it in for five more minutes.
All right, Tuscan chicken sheet pan meal.
You're about to see here for the first time.
Why is this the perfect holiday meal?
And take us through it.
Well, you know what?
Color-wise, it's red and green and gorgeous.
So it almost, it really is a great weeknight meal year-round.
So I have cherry tomatoes and green beans, and Dr. Oz has chicken.
And the first thing we need to do is make the marinade.
And so that starts with olive oil.
Class, you guys keep up if you don't mind.
Be harsh on them.
Oh, no, no.
Cooking should be fun.
There should be no pressure when it comes to cooking.
And then balsamic vinegar goes in with the olive oil.
And then minced garlic, which I think always makes marinade extra delicious.
Salt.
No salt.
Not too much extra.
See, easy so far.
I mean, it couldn't get any easier.
Keep up over there, marinator.
And then I have some pepper and some dried parsley and dried basil.
So just whisk it together.
And then this is kind of a neat trick.
If I'm doing a meat and a veggie, I do two separate bags or bowls.
So I have some green beans.
Dr. Oz has four chicken breasts.
They're not too thick.
So the green beans and the tomatoes can go into a separate bag.
They don't have to cut them that much at all.
You just get the ends off?
Oh, gosh, no, yeah.
And I'm not even picky about getting the ends off.
You can just kind of shove them together, give them a quick little chop on one side, do the same on the other.
And again, they're all going to go in the oven, so they don't have to be absolutely perfect.
And then these are great big cherry tomatoes.
These are bigger than I have in Oklahoma.
Really big.
And so, you know, you could marinate it all together, but I kind of like just keeping them separate.
That way you can marinate the chicken a little longer if you like.
So pour half the marinade into your bag, Dr. Oz.
How long do we have to marinate it for?
There are no rules.
Again, you can tell I'm a really low stress cook.
I don't put pressure on myself.
So I got mine in here.
Let's advance my marination process.
That looks perfect, and then...
The vegetables, you don't need much marination at all.
Not much, but I'm going to go in with the other half.
And then just let it sit.
You can kind of go set the table or switch out laundry loads or watch reality TV for 20 minutes, whatever you want to do.
She's on us.
Exactly.
And then we just arrange everything.
This is great at 425 for about 20 to 25 minutes.
Now, in that 20 to 25 minutes, you have to do something really important, which is to make a holiday toast.
You need something to toast with.
So what would you make?
To thank our free class, a gift to the resident students.
What would you get for them?
I think champagne is in order.
Oh.
With a little bit of pomegranate and some mint.
May I have one of those?
You may.
So this is Rhys's special drink.
This is a specialty of your house.
I don't serve this on a regular Tuesday night, so I'm happy to be here.
A toast to all you for the holidays.
Keep making it.
We're gonna put Reeves pre-class day online plus an extra exclusive sheet pan recipe she made just for us.
It is salmon and kale.
I'd hate to show off here, but I love salmon and kale.
Put them together.
Now she's got this book, which is quite popular.
It's called The Pioneer Women Cooks Come and Get It.
And I'm thinking, I think we could tear the pages out one by one and hand them out to the audience.
What do you think?
Oh no, that's not good enough for me.
Because you're from Oklahoma, right?
That's right.
We are the state of generosity and hospitality.
So you're all going home with a copy of the book.
Enjoy it.
We'll be right back.
Up next, the two words that are hurting women everywhere.
Devon Franklin is here with an intervention that everyone needs to watch.
Today, an intervention for the two words my next guest says are hurting women everywhere.
I'm fine.
You all use that word, I'm fine.
How many of you say those words because you don't want to be a burden on other people?
You don't want to burden them with your problems.
Does this sound like you?
I'm fine.
I say I'm fine because I don't want to bring my drama to someone else's doorstep.
I say I'm fine because I'm a mom.
And moms need to be strong for the family.
If I break down, everyone breaks down.
I say I'm fine because if I say it enough, maybe it'll be true.
How true.
Here's an intervention for everyone who's ever uttered those two words.
I've got a preacher in New York Times best-selling author, Devon Franklin, to help us out.
And you say this is the phrase you hear most.
I'm fine.
Why are women using that phrase all the time?
You know, because I think that society creates an unfair expectation that women try to live up to.
And I think it's wrong.
You know, I grew up in a family where my mother raised us, single mother, my grandmother, my seven aunts, and I heard this word.
Seven aunts?
My seven great aunts, yes.
And I heard this word a lot.
And so much of it comes because society says that women have to be superheroes.
And as a result, if they admit that they're not fine, others may deem that they're weak.
And I believe that that is not right.
That's not right.
And we need to bring that to an end.
So why do you think this is hurting the health of women everywhere?
Because anything that goes unspoken becomes a silent stress.
And unless that stress is alleviated, that stress has the potential to kill us.
You know, there's medical data around what you're saying.
That people who don't allow themselves to get it up once in a while to allow the pimple to be popped, the abscess of anger to be released, will suffer long-term health.
So when a preacher and a doctor agree, there's truth out there, folks.
Absolutely.
So we think this is what's happening to Antoinette.
Her partner asked us to help her learn to let go of those words.
I'm fine.
Take a look.
Hi, I'm Antoinette.
And I'm Sergio.
We've been together for 10 years.
And we also have an eight-year-old daughter.
Lately, I've been worried about Antoninette.
She's always saying that she's fine, but I really see that she's not.
I wish that she would communicate better.
We've had our ups and downs.
I say I'm fine a lot, even when I'm not.
She wants to put a brave appearance on.
I'm a working mom, and finding a balance between trying to be a good mom and keeping my career in order is sometimes difficult and stressful.
She has 90% of the burden with our daughter.
She doesn't want the little girl to see that she's hurt or not feeling good.
So she'll say she's fine when she's really not to like keep everybody's feelings okay.
Recently, Sergio decided to quit his job.
He just kind of did it on the fly, and I feel like it should have been a joint decision.
She feels that I should have consulted her with this life-changing decision work-wise.
I often say that I'm okay even when I'm not because I don't want him to feel as though I'm hostile if he was to come to me with something like that.
A lot of burden will fall on her if I can't make what I have to do for the week.
Hi, somebody bills.
I don't know how we're doing this.
I actually do feel like a lot of the financial responsibility does fall on my shoulders.
At times I can't sleep because I feel like I have a lot on my plate.
Okay, I can figure this out.
All right, I'm gonna do that.
Sorry now.
These definitely have to get peeped.
I wish that she would explain herself regarding why she said she's fine when she's not, because then I could pinpoint the problem and I could try and adjust.
It ends up feeling like sitting next to a stranger on the subway when you can't communicate with someone.
Antoinette and Sergio are here when we come back.
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Lately, I've been worried about Antoinette.
She's always saying that she's fine, but I really see that she's not.
I wish that she would communicate better.
We've had our ups and downs.
I say I'm fine a lot, even when I'm not.
She wants to put a brave appearance on.
We are back talking about the two words that are hurting women's health.
I'm fine.
Preacher Devon Franklin is back along with Antoinette and Sergio, whose stories we just heard.
And Antoinette says she is fine.
Even though, Antoinette, you have a serious financial burden, right?
I saw you paying the bills.
I made a little list here.
You're paying the bills, and you got the mortgage to worry about.
Everything for your daughter, both paying for and taking care of her.
You got a partner.
Sergio just quit his job without telling you.
And you really okay with all that responsibility?
I feel like I have to be okay with that responsibility.
I've taken on, you know, being a mom and being a career woman wholeheartedly.
What do the words, I'm fine, mean to you?
It's a positive motivation for me.
I say I'm fine to myself because I have to get through a long day.
My day starts very early with bringing my daughter to school and going on to work and then having to come home and wanting to prepare a healthy meal for my family and making sure that my daughter has everything that she needs on top of everything that I have to do in my career.
When you use I'm fine in that way, I see you suppressing your emotions, covering up what you probably really are feeling, which is a little fear, a little frustration, a lot of different things.
And as a doctor, I'll tell you this because it's been looked at.
When people suppress their emotions, they have big-time health problems, including more heart attacks.
They even die earlier, which would be tragic if you're not there for your family because I'm finding yourself to death.
So that's why I asked Devon to get involved.
I want him, and you thank you for volunteering to help.
I want him to just take it for now and just try to give you some thoughts to maybe turn around your belief about I'm fine.
Okay.
Well, Antoinette and Sergio, first of all, thank you so much for being here.
When I hear you say I'm fine, but then you list the various things that you feel accountable for, I have a question.
Why when you say I'm fine, if you were to say I'm not fine, what does that produce?
Because I feel that sometimes when we say we're fine, there's actually a fear underneath it.
So if you were to say you're not fine, does that produce a fear?
And if so, what are you afraid of?
I think as a career woman, I set the bar very high for myself that I have to take on the challenges of the day.
Whether I get sick, whether I'm personally not feeling well emotionally or spiritually, I'll put those things aside in order to make sure that everything else is taken care of.
Antoinette, can we just have an honest moment?
And Sergio, would you please not use this against her?
Could you just please tell us how you really feel?
Not how you feel you need to be, but how you really feel.
I sometimes wish that I could rely on my partner a little bit more, but I don't ask for help.
Because as a woman, I feel like my daughter is my responsibility, and I want to have a career.
Sergio, how does this make you feel when Antoinette says and she admits that she does need help?
Was this the first time that you have heard her actually say that?
This would be the first time.
It does make me feel terrible.
I wish she would let me know sooner instead of just saying fine, because I would start to like get my eggs together and try and like focus a little more.
Okay, but now, Sergio, you're my brother now.
You have an incredible woman here.
She is communicating to you in more ways than one that she's drowning.
What does that motivate you to do?
Because what I believe, Sergio, is that if Antoinette does not get help and if it doesn't go from 90-10 to 50-50, this dynamic may not work.
Do you want to make this work?
I would love for it to be the way it is and better.
I'm in fear that I'm going to lose her over the situation now.
And what are you going to do to help balance things out in the relationship?
Tell her.
I'm going to work as hard as I can to provide a good life for our family.
And what does that mean to you?
It means that I have to get out there long hours, long days.
I might be tired.
You might not see my face.
But you'll just know I'm trying to provide for us.
Thank you.
Antoinette, how does that make you feel?
It makes me feel good.
I know he has the capabilities.
You just heard Sergio.
Have you ever heard him offer this kind of help and assurance to you?
No.
And how does it make you feel?
It makes me feel...
Tell him.
It makes me feel very so much more comfortable that you are willing to do this all for us.
But now, Antoinette, now that you feel more comfortable hearing what he has said, will you feel more comfortable being honest about how you really feel?
I think so.
You think so?
That's a start.
I gotta say, I'm just witnessing this.
How do we avoid this trap that so many women are falling into of using the word, I'm fine all the time?
You know, I think we avoid it by a version of what Sergio and Antoinette just did.
You know, creating a safe space to truly admit how we feel.
It is time to start being honest.
It is time to know that strength actually comes when we are weak and to honestly be able to express that I'm not okay and ask for the help needed to become okay.
Are you good with this?
I'm very good with this.
Thank you.
I want some happy photos from you.
Right.
Thanks, Afterland and Sergio.
Up next.
Devon's sticking around, giving us something to feel good about.
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I told them I was molested.
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Now we have the tapes.
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That's coming up on Monday.
Devon Franklin is here with something to feel good about.
Now, if you're at home this minute and you're feeling a little down yourself, if you're feeling like you're not good enough or smart enough or even talented enough, well, Devon made a video just for you.
If the arm and the foot have a conversation and the arm says to the foot, why can't you walk?
Would you look at the arm and say, what is your problem?
Why?
Because the arm was created with a different function than the foot.
And in order for the body to be healthy, every part has to operate in the area in which they are gifted.
And if the arm is obsessing all day about being a foot, no matter how much it obsesses, it will never become a foot.
So why do you find yourselves in moments where you are scrolling and you are obsessing over being something that you were not created to be instead of owning the power of what already lies within you?
Hey, Power Cross.
The one thing, one thing, I want you to write down and stop the self-doubt and start using their talent.
Yes, every morning, here's the two things to say.
I am enough and I've got this.
I am enough reaffirms the talent that we all have within us.
And I've got this helps conquer the doubt that we think will stand in our way of doing it.